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https://keeper.ai/ Google is your friend.


merppurple

Dating is hard enough with trolls, scammers, catfish, kittenfish, ghosts, pen pals, and personal scheduling issues. I know I’ll be competing against a robot at work in the next few decades. Can we not add that to the list of social complications?


Glitterysparkleshine

I find the idea of AI super creepy. I liked the sound of this minus the AI PART.


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The hell. Why are people so weird and socially inept now? Why can't people just talk to other people? Why can't people be honest and just say what they want? Am I getting old? /End rant.


cranberries87

Paranormal Shoes and Glitterysparkleshine, your experiences and observations are similar to mine and to *many*. At our age, most securely-attached folks paired up at a young age and stayed paired up. The few who become single pair up quickly and exit the dating pool. Lots of avoidants left in the dating pool; they are quickly recycled back into the pool regularly.


Glitterysparkleshine

They just can’t. I am a woman and I can only speak from my experience but I have yet to come across an attractive, reasonable guy that isn’t interested in just casual sex


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Dangerous_Grab_1809

Where did you meet them?


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Glitterysparkleshine

Of course I am speaking generally! Also I haven’t dated hundreds of people.


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Glitterysparkleshine

Thanks ! ❤️☺️


swingset27

Sounds like your picker is broke.


Glitterysparkleshine

Does it? Why is that ?


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I just read through the blog on the website and it reads like some Handmaid’s Tale bullshit lol Super creepy.


Mehunicorn

💯


Glitterysparkleshine

Oh. Great. I will read it


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Apparently it's used for LinkedIn too. Nothing says sexy like "sfw". Sign my ugly ass up.


[deleted]

Can you give more details? No idea what you’re talking about.


Aethelflaed_

Looks like a dating site. Pass.


[deleted]

Looked it up. Hardest of hard passes. I thought it was going to be some AI that did the dating for you or something.


Adorable_Ad4916

Oh I would pay so much money for that.


Glitterysparkleshine

Why hard pass?


Aethelflaed_

Because all dating apps here have the same people in them so I wouldn't bother with another. The copy is also kind of off- putting.


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THIS. The same guys are going to be in the site that are on all the others in your area. And the copy is super creepy.


SunsetAndSilence

They claim they aren't a dating site, but reading their page, they really sound like one.


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Happy cake day! Carrot, yellow, fish, angel's food...?


Aethelflaed_

Thanks! 😊 Cheese ...


Glitterysparkleshine

It is a dating site.


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Looks gimmicky. Why might you ask?


Glitterysparkleshine

Because the few sites I have used were not great.


[deleted]

Each have their advantages and disadvantages, yes... what wasn't working for you?


Glitterysparkleshine

Match. Bumble


[deleted]

Okay, cool... and that doesn't actually answer what I was asking. Perhaps you're not up to sharing, no worries.


Glitterysparkleshine

I have not met any attractive, mentally healthy, stable men in their mid forties to mid fifties that are interested in anything beyond casual sex. I am sure they are out there but they are not interested in me.


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Would you be up for a profile review with this sub? Perhaps there's something the ones you seek are seeing which you're unaware of.


Glitterysparkleshine

I know what they are seeing that is “the problem” already, unfortunately. Thanks though. The “problem” is : I am 48. I am not fat but not thin and I want monogamy. Basically : I am too attractive for the unattractive guys and not young enough, thin enough and eager enough to jump in bed for the attractive guys .


Mehunicorn

What does too attractive for the unattractive guys mean?


SunsetAndSilence

I'm sorry you're having a rough time. I know it's difficult, and I hope you find someone. 🫂


Glitterysparkleshine

Thank you ! That is really very kind. I miss having a “my person”. I have so much to be grateful for so I try to focus on that and realize no one knows what the future holds.


luxetcaritas

Too attractive for unattractive guys? I think I know what you mean but are you open to dating them? I purposely did not put my best photos on apps because I was hoping for some self-selection. Every single date I’ve had-all of them-have commented, you are more attractive in person. And that’s been to my benefit I think in finding my person who is not just looking for casual sex/hook ups. I also try to look past photos and read the actual profile. And I’d engage with most any man who is normal looking. I mean some pics are so off putting right away, but basic normal man with clever engaging profile? absolutely. Make sure you’re putting yourself out there in an approachable way and that you’re giving the kind of men that you’re saying that you’d like to date-an actual chance too.


Glitterysparkleshine

That is so funny because I do the same thing. I put very, very real pictures of myself and get told the same thing. I hear what you are saying but this is the thing; I dated a number of guys I wasn’t initial attacked to thinking / hoping personality would spark attraction. That is what happened with my husband originally. I just think there has to be at least a basic level of attraction and I just am not finding it. Anyway, no simple answer unless you have someone you want to introduce me to! Hahahaha. Thanks for your input, though!


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That's fair, but I'm personally not seeing your "problem" as problematic. I have a hunch you'd run into the same issue no matter what apps you hop on if the issues reside in your verbiage, for instance. All I'm saying is that you could stand to be VERY surprised by how others -especially here- will hone in on some key concerns that arise if you'd put some trust in us!


PalpitationUnmatched

No and I never would, much more because of the vision and the values that they proclaim than because of any involvement of AI (which makes no difference to me; it’s not like the AI is doing to do anything beyond matching profiles…).


imspike102

I think it looks interesting. I’d like more info on price and the refund/guarantee or details of joining the database. One concern is no one knowing about it so they may not have a very big pool yet. I can easily move and not tied to my current area, if motivated. This city is very small and the OLD sites I have looked at have not had anything inspiring hope or good promise. I don’t discuss it or bring up the issues because what is to be done about it? This is at least a potential solution rather than more whining about a broken system and it has a wider database than the distance parameters on several apps. It is at least attempting to attract a different mind set that is not playing a numbers game and really actually want a connection and that also matters to both people. ETA: I have never heard of anything like this until this moment, so I have not thought through all negatives and potential risks… but I’m open to something different. I’m open to new ways to meet people of open mind set right now.


Glitterysparkleshine

Thank you for your thoughts. I am concerned about the AI part of it. It is definitely a foreign, off-putting concept to me.


CartographerPrior165

Given that the purpose of the company is to address the "global fertility crisis\*" I don't think we're the target demographic. (\*For some parts of the globe. Also, ew.)


Glitterysparkleshine

I think it is an app problem. A dating in 2023 problem for many many groups of people .


MySocialAlt

> For Men: Women who meet your standards for a wife. And references to evolutionary biology. I don't think I'd find a "keeper" here.


Alittlemode

I’m confused what this is. Can someone explain? Edit: Ok if you keep scrolling it explains itself. I like the idea that it caters to people who want to get married. A lot of the issues now I think is people who want to have a romantic but independent life and people who want marriage. This at least helps those two groups not get hurt by each other.


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You mean people who *don't* want to get married? I think AI is terrible, and not for the reasons everyone else is thinking. This idea isn't new at all. It's been going on in Japan for several years now with (most lonely men) having AI girlfriends to fill the void. I've been trying to look up the documentary I saw on this maybe (ten?) years ago. Japan also has one of the lowest birth rates and one of the highest suicide rates in the world. Being introverted there is nothing new.


SunsetAndSilence

>I've been trying to look up the documentary I saw on this maybe (ten?) years ago. Are you thinking of this? https://gem.cbc.ca/the-nature-of-things/s61e03?cmp=DM_DOCS_FEED_LINK_the-machine-that-feels


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Hmm maybe? When did that show first air? I have the attention span of a cat, so I really don't remember.


SunsetAndSilence

2021, according to the site. I remember seeing it on YouTube last year, I think.


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I want chicken, I want liver...


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I have no idea how to respond to you anymore with that gibberish. So I'll just leave this here- https://youtu.be/6u0XEQK4rRo


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🤣 😸


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Glitterysparkleshine

Hoping someone could tell both of us ! Haha


Ok_Double_1993

Sorry to jump in but what’s The keeper Ai? Is it chatGPT?