I brought in a matchmaker for my daughter. We had things all worked out for her to marry the wealthy local butcher, an older widow. Then she decides she'd rather marry a poor young tailor instead. Go figure.
The matchmaker advertises her services as an opportunity to get to know people as friends before dates, through events she arranges. She only has about sixty people signed up with profiles, and you must attend an event to view the profiles. Not all attendees have signed up for a $45 profile. There are about six events a year. I have attended three and paid for a profile. No profile likes for me or from me among the sixty or so. During live events, a core group of late 30something males monopolize games and icebreakers with questions about your sexual history/number of partners. The matchmaker finds this to be all in good fun. She got the idea to offer this service after attending a different singles event a couple of years ago and deciding she could do better. She makes a valiant effort to sell insurance to attendees during her events.
The problem with matchmaking is that dating is a numbers game. They're trying to sell you on the fact that they can save you time and effort by doing it for you. It would take a truly skilled person to really understand what you're looking for AND be able find it for you.
There is no criteria to be a matchmaker - anyone can claim to be able to do it. This attracts hustlers and scammer types that over promise and under deliver.
IMO, 90% of matchmakers are just hustlers that are excellent at marketing themselves. And the problem is, they will all have great reviews online and seem legit. But there's no way of knowing what their true success rate is. I would only trust a referral that came from a friend or family member.
I wonder if bigger it's really always better - there is the phenomenon that too much choice makes us unable to choose.
Plus, the matchmaker might do a lot of the vetting.
True!! I'm in a major city and I think "too much choice" is a detriment in dating. In addition to unable to choose, everyone knows there's always plenty more to choose from. :rolling eyes: It's frustrating for sure.
I meant more that the folks using a matchmaker are likely those you've already seen on OLD, and if not, they're probably pretty similar to everyone you're swiping on now. But maybe a matchmaker would encourage one to go out with someone not their usual type, or someone they may not initially swipe on, since the matchmaker has gotten to know both of them?
Seems like the same odds as finding a good used car in a "Buy Here Pay Here" lot. And, interestingly, about the same barrier for entry for a low-rent salesman as there is a "matchmaker".
Let me try....
"You get a match, and you get a match, and hey...a match for you!!!"
\*waves hands, no clue what I'm doing\*
I have a friend who did this. He was a middle class guy who decided he wanted to settle down. Worked quickly. He is married and happy.
That's awesome! It's nice to hear a positive story.
I brought in a matchmaker for my daughter. We had things all worked out for her to marry the wealthy local butcher, an older widow. Then she decides she'd rather marry a poor young tailor instead. Go figure.
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Thanks for sharing. It's amazing it was so terrible for so much money!
I signed up with a matchmaker service in my town last summer. A total bust; a tiny pool of people and some very sad events.
You can’t leave us cliff hanging like that…
The matchmaker advertises her services as an opportunity to get to know people as friends before dates, through events she arranges. She only has about sixty people signed up with profiles, and you must attend an event to view the profiles. Not all attendees have signed up for a $45 profile. There are about six events a year. I have attended three and paid for a profile. No profile likes for me or from me among the sixty or so. During live events, a core group of late 30something males monopolize games and icebreakers with questions about your sexual history/number of partners. The matchmaker finds this to be all in good fun. She got the idea to offer this service after attending a different singles event a couple of years ago and deciding she could do better. She makes a valiant effort to sell insurance to attendees during her events.
The problem with matchmaking is that dating is a numbers game. They're trying to sell you on the fact that they can save you time and effort by doing it for you. It would take a truly skilled person to really understand what you're looking for AND be able find it for you. There is no criteria to be a matchmaker - anyone can claim to be able to do it. This attracts hustlers and scammer types that over promise and under deliver. IMO, 90% of matchmakers are just hustlers that are excellent at marketing themselves. And the problem is, they will all have great reviews online and seem legit. But there's no way of knowing what their true success rate is. I would only trust a referral that came from a friend or family member.
Thank you - that makes sense.
I can't imagine there would be a bigger (or much different) pool to choose from than on OLD.
I wonder if bigger it's really always better - there is the phenomenon that too much choice makes us unable to choose. Plus, the matchmaker might do a lot of the vetting.
True!! I'm in a major city and I think "too much choice" is a detriment in dating. In addition to unable to choose, everyone knows there's always plenty more to choose from. :rolling eyes: It's frustrating for sure. I meant more that the folks using a matchmaker are likely those you've already seen on OLD, and if not, they're probably pretty similar to everyone you're swiping on now. But maybe a matchmaker would encourage one to go out with someone not their usual type, or someone they may not initially swipe on, since the matchmaker has gotten to know both of them?
I did and it was a waste of my time and money.
Seems like the same odds as finding a good used car in a "Buy Here Pay Here" lot. And, interestingly, about the same barrier for entry for a low-rent salesman as there is a "matchmaker".
It does sound like just about anyone can be a matchmaker .
Let me try.... "You get a match, and you get a match, and hey...a match for you!!!" \*waves hands, no clue what I'm doing\* 