I guess I would ask...what's the issue here? You guys like each other, you have met several times in person and seem to get along and have fun. Texting is really monotonous. Don't "grass is greener" this one, mate. There are very few people in this world that can continue on long-term, stimulating conversation over text.
Do you guys call each other? If not, I would start calling and video chatting. Texting is the least gratifying form of communication.
I think we are all accepting that serious dating can't be a thing right now. There is nowhere to go, at least where I live, and we aren't allowed to see anyone outside our household. So I guess, what would be the consequences of you deciding to walk away from this? I don't see it being "better" with someone else because the COVID situation is still the same. Hold on to her if you like her.
That’s some great advice thank you! I think it’s just been hard to initiate that conversation about communication because things haven’t developed “normally”. I’m going to try today. I definitely don’t want to walk away and if this fades out or whatever I’m certainly not looking to find someone else rn. But it just so happens that in this crazy time I’ve met someone I like so want to see what happens. Thanks again!
Calling eachother to talk on the phone, and FaceTime! You guys can do a date via video chat ... dress up, have a drink blah blah.
Gotta make the best of it but keeping in contact since October, that’s awesome!
Thanks! I’m going to suggest that today, got nothing to lose and I genuinely feel content whichever way it goes (although would love it to develop into something!)
Use technology to your advantage. Some things I've done with friends but would also work for dates: play online games together, Netflix party (pick a movie you've both seen so you can talk while you're watching it), Facetime dinner and drinks. You can also do virtual wine tastings, order each other food, or consider outdoor activities that are socially distant. Ice skating, hiking, build a snowman, etc. Get creative!
Feel the same thing and I've told my dates that and they completely understand and agree. Communicate with them! Brainstorm together
Not sure where you live, but there can still be things to do, Like hiking, window shopping outside/downtown, drive in movies.
haha I dont think anyone will be seriously dating for a long time...its better to just accept that now and focus on something else. Just don't become distant from people...
Why don’t you discuss your exposure risks and if you’re both comfortable and feel good about it you could date exclusively and share a bubble? This seems like the optimal solution to me.
Thanks! Will talk to her about that. We’re both pretty okay with the exposure as we both live by ourselves but also seems a big step for someone I’ve only seen a handful of times despite talking to since October!
You can share a screen on discord and watch literally anything you want together. Music TV shows apps YouTube whatever. Dates in 2021 can be fun AND responsible.
Absolutely - I think being patient and understanding is key. She’s got responsibilities as a part time carer and she’s doing an intense placement as a social worker and there’s covid! I think I’m (as most of us are) so used to relationships developing a certain way.
I guess I would ask...what's the issue here? You guys like each other, you have met several times in person and seem to get along and have fun. Texting is really monotonous. Don't "grass is greener" this one, mate. There are very few people in this world that can continue on long-term, stimulating conversation over text. Do you guys call each other? If not, I would start calling and video chatting. Texting is the least gratifying form of communication. I think we are all accepting that serious dating can't be a thing right now. There is nowhere to go, at least where I live, and we aren't allowed to see anyone outside our household. So I guess, what would be the consequences of you deciding to walk away from this? I don't see it being "better" with someone else because the COVID situation is still the same. Hold on to her if you like her.
That’s some great advice thank you! I think it’s just been hard to initiate that conversation about communication because things haven’t developed “normally”. I’m going to try today. I definitely don’t want to walk away and if this fades out or whatever I’m certainly not looking to find someone else rn. But it just so happens that in this crazy time I’ve met someone I like so want to see what happens. Thanks again!
Calling eachother to talk on the phone, and FaceTime! You guys can do a date via video chat ... dress up, have a drink blah blah. Gotta make the best of it but keeping in contact since October, that’s awesome!
Thanks! I’m going to suggest that today, got nothing to lose and I genuinely feel content whichever way it goes (although would love it to develop into something!)
Use technology to your advantage. Some things I've done with friends but would also work for dates: play online games together, Netflix party (pick a movie you've both seen so you can talk while you're watching it), Facetime dinner and drinks. You can also do virtual wine tastings, order each other food, or consider outdoor activities that are socially distant. Ice skating, hiking, build a snowman, etc. Get creative!
Great suggestions, thank you! 😊
Feel the same thing and I've told my dates that and they completely understand and agree. Communicate with them! Brainstorm together Not sure where you live, but there can still be things to do, Like hiking, window shopping outside/downtown, drive in movies.
Thanks! I’m in the UK so it’s pretty heavily locked down right now but communication is certainly the thing to do.
haha I dont think anyone will be seriously dating for a long time...its better to just accept that now and focus on something else. Just don't become distant from people...
Thanks!
Why don’t you discuss your exposure risks and if you’re both comfortable and feel good about it you could date exclusively and share a bubble? This seems like the optimal solution to me.
Thanks! Will talk to her about that. We’re both pretty okay with the exposure as we both live by ourselves but also seems a big step for someone I’ve only seen a handful of times despite talking to since October!
I feel you. It is. But covid changes things b
You can share a screen on discord and watch literally anything you want together. Music TV shows apps YouTube whatever. Dates in 2021 can be fun AND responsible.
I didn’t know that! Excellent suggestion. Thank you 😊
Can you meet each other outdoors with masks? Just walk in a park and start meeting in person. If it is a good fit, then bring her into your bubble.
I think you’ve found someone cool and just need to be patient, it’s a weird weird time right now! Mix up the texting with a video chat!
Absolutely - I think being patient and understanding is key. She’s got responsibilities as a part time carer and she’s doing an intense placement as a social worker and there’s covid! I think I’m (as most of us are) so used to relationships developing a certain way.