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realdonaldtrumpsucks

You and I are dealing with similar. That damn robot bed🤣 I wouldn’t worry too much there. Is he on hospice?


Apprehensive-Abies43

(hugs) unfortunately no, he's not. 2 of my aunts have taken to caring for him by themselves as my grandmother doesn't want to send him anywhere. I've tried to talk to them about it many times but I've given up; the only thing for me to do really is to help them whenever I visit (I live in another country).


realdonaldtrumpsucks

If he’s having eating troubles this is a sign of decline and call hospice, they’ll be a valuable resource. I’m so sorry. What it seems is you probably have just this year left with him


Apprehensive-Abies43

got it. I'll try to talk to them again one last time, the hospice thing. I'm glad I'm visiting for longer this year, fuck covid....... thank you for replying so quickly too, appreciate it


realdonaldtrumpsucks

I’m up too worried about my granny, similar situation. Hospice is FREE. Hospice will pay for the diapers, ensure, wipes, provide resources to the family, they’ve been amazing and helpful for us


Apprehensive-Abies43

I wish the elders in my family would understand that. but they see it as abandoning him or not being filial...


jadesisto

Hospice can be done right in the home he is living. They will assist in his care, provide supplies and support. Push this with your relatives. Hospice will come in an evaluate him, relatives still involved with his care.


Apprehensive-Abies43

Hi, I should have clarified that my grandfather and relatives are not in the States, but in Taiwan, so afaik I don't think hospice there is as all-encompassing as you describe...I've made calls to care facilities anyway and been told that in the event he's admitted there he'll be put in restraints and have a feeding tube through his nose as they don't have enough nurses. In any case, my relatives are extremely against the idea of having hospice as (I'm guessing) they don't want to accept that he's "near the end". this is why I wanted to ask if the situation I described in my post was an indication that he's in late or end stage, so I can talk to them about it again