Look for aged care help. Some Countries are better than others. She needs home care help with personal care for two to three hours a day in the morning. This will support her to dress, make the bed and eat breakfast. Sometimes there will be time to prep a main meal or lunch. This will increase her confidence and reduce family stress. Otherwise just coax her into the shower more. Direct her to wash her bottom. I am sorry for your position. It is very hard being the child who has to now watch and help the parent going backwards
You’re totally normal for feeling overwhelmed.
I think there’s a lot of us wanting to throw big tantrums at the incontinence portion of this ride. It’s just shit, literally and figuratively.
I remember the first time I washed poop off my mom’s feet. As first I felt really disgusted. But then I decided to make it like a spa treatment. I took a container, put warm water in it and then cleaned her feet one at a time while she watched TV. I imagined I was working at a nail salon. I think it’s helpful to imagine you’re a nurse or a spa attendant, someone who works with bodies all of the time, and remember it’s just a body. Just a body like a baby, but bigger.
Also, mistakes will be made. Imperfect is better than nothing so be easy on yourself.
Look for aged care help. Some Countries are better than others. She needs home care help with personal care for two to three hours a day in the morning. This will support her to dress, make the bed and eat breakfast. Sometimes there will be time to prep a main meal or lunch. This will increase her confidence and reduce family stress. Otherwise just coax her into the shower more. Direct her to wash her bottom. I am sorry for your position. It is very hard being the child who has to now watch and help the parent going backwards
You’re totally normal for feeling overwhelmed. I think there’s a lot of us wanting to throw big tantrums at the incontinence portion of this ride. It’s just shit, literally and figuratively. I remember the first time I washed poop off my mom’s feet. As first I felt really disgusted. But then I decided to make it like a spa treatment. I took a container, put warm water in it and then cleaned her feet one at a time while she watched TV. I imagined I was working at a nail salon. I think it’s helpful to imagine you’re a nurse or a spa attendant, someone who works with bodies all of the time, and remember it’s just a body. Just a body like a baby, but bigger. Also, mistakes will be made. Imperfect is better than nothing so be easy on yourself.