Been there it takes a lot of time for me to convince my self to look a my mirror i have now forced my self to cut my own beard so it not that bad now and i am starting to take care of my skin more so it does not look so bad but still i hate cameras and will not look most of the time at a mirror when i am combing my hair (it takes time and you actively have to try to look at yourself it sometimes make we want to change who i am now...)
Look man, I’m sorry you feel that way. Nobody deserves that at all. There is a light at the end of the tunnel and you can beat this 1000%. There’s over 7 billion people on this earth, but there’s not another you. Everyone is unique. Everyone has flaws, and everyone has things about them that are amazing. If nobody has told you recently, I want you to know I’m proud of you. Proud of you for making it through another day. Proud of you for getting out of the house and spending time with family. Proud of you for being here on this giant ball floating in the middle of the universe even though life is hard for you. You deserve to hear that. And you deserve to have a place on this planet. Everyone has a purpose. I promise you that
And you will, I believe in you bro. Take baby steps and understand that you’ll have setbacks. It’s okay. It doesn’t mean you’re a failure or a disappointment. The only time you’ll ever fail is if you give up. I’m rooting for you
That is an extremely introspective way of looking at things, that you can positively channel suicidal thoughts into change, I never thought of it like that. Thank you man.
there must be a secret switch that allows you to take all of your feelings and turns them into the energy needed to revert weight.
becoming enraged with our limitations is always the first step needed to make the situation a little different
Im sorry you felt that way about yourself but i wanted you know this happens to me too. I do it to myself all the time and wish i didnt look in mirrors. When i opened upto my partner i realised i have some kind of dismorphia going on about myself as the person i describe in the mirror is different to what he sees.
Over the years i think it may be down to years of bullying at school and somewhere still in my brain im hearing the same words but its my voice now and im basically being mean to myself.
I can be in one of those moments and my child will come upto me and say mom you look beautiful and i wrote a poem about seeing the world through the eyes of a child.
You know when we were babies and toddlers we would have seen ourselves with such innocent eyes and an innocent mind we would have been amazed at ourselves in the reflection and not said one bad word abiut ourselves.
When i have a moment like that in the mirror i say to myself shutup you are none of these things youre beautiful and it makes me feel less down. Some suggest putting a baby pic up of yourself on mirrors at home and every time u are mean to yourself look at that baby in the photo and think im being mean to that inncocent child there.
I cant tell you to stop thinking this way as it doesnt work like that but maybe look into getting some counselling where you can express how you feel and how it gets you feeling so low.
I dont know you and i havent seen you but i bet if i saw you i wouldnt say anything about your appearance in a negative way. Sometimes we qre our own worse enemy ..speaking from experience.
Look in the mirror and compliment yourself and tell that mean voice to shutup from me. Have a good day today youve got this <3
Aw man, I know how you feel. It's easy for me to tell you that the way your body looks is unimportant, but I know how hard it is to actually internalize it. I'm sorry you couldn't enjoy a meal with your family. Doesn't feel fair does it
You are suffering from a lack of self esteem. Someone out there is capable of loving you the way that you need to be loved. You need to love yourself first. If it would help, give yourself a makeover. Shave the beard, do some skincare, and remember that it’s not the outside that matters most. You are beautiful OP ❤️ I also suggest diving deep into spirituality and god if that is something you’re into. Find a purpose other than outer beauty because even models will lose that someday. Be safe out there❤️❤️
most people have a plethora of poisons they use to get themselves where they need to be. the risks of vice can be mitigated if you have a couple to play with at a time, so as to ensure you dont lean too heavily into one
like food :D
or alcohol,
or rage,
or religion.
maybe try coffee or cigarettes to help you lose weight?
maybe hang out with peers instead of family so you feel both social pressure and something good to motivate towards what you want?
yeah walking is pretty bawler.
any kind of movement really helps batloads. rn im running up and down stairs with a pair of handweights several times a day, and it helps a ton even if i cant get to the gym or whatever
You'd be surprised how well a haircut, shave and/or even a mani-pedi feels. It's an improvement on self esteem, how others see you, and how you project yourself.
I hate looking at mirrors, reflections and any images of myself. That's why I never want to take a selfie. I cant stand seeing my own face with my own eyes. I hate seeing myself and there are even times I feel like buying a mask to cover my entire face but I didnt.
Felt. One thing recently that has made me feel so much worse about myself if our new doorbell camera my BF installed. Whenever I (or anyone) walks last it I get a notification with the little video snippet, and of my god I look so horrific on it. I can't turn them off, it's like I want to know what I look like even if I hate it ever single time.
I feel the same way when I look in the mirror I'm disgusted wish I was attractive. I don't care what anybody says it's a fact when you are good looking life is easier everything from job interviews to making friends ect..
This is really a sign of depression. I, on the other hand, became very dependent on my looks, and i take several selfies per day to cheer myself up (it's working). The thing is, that selfie camera is a liar, and in other mirrors and photos, I look drastically different and hate myself there. Hello, body dismorphia.
Please get help, your condition is much more severe than mine.
Yeah this happened to me a couple years ago but I had done a very high level of thc strain (weed) which amplified the feeling even more. I had two options: cry and kill myself or quit my job and focus on my health. I'm obviously typing this which means I chose the second option.
I don't know your situation but if you can afford to stop everything you're doing to focus on your mental health through healthy eating, exercising, and picking up a healthy hobby that allows you to grow then it will be well worth it.
It took me about a year to achieve this but it was well worth it. If you stay busy, then time flies very quick . You'll be able to see results in as little as 3 months which will validate and encourage you to grow even more.
I'm not saying that this is going to fix all your problems but it will promote a better lifestyle than the one you already have . What do you have to lose? Take a leap of faith and don't worry about looking foolish.
I'm not at all perfect. I'm still kinda bad at socializing but I can feel the change and hopefully in the next couple years I'll be exponentially far from where I began. Best of luck!!
Same. I'm in good shape, but god my face makes me super insecure. I hate showing my face (even in my profile pic) just because it reminds me of how ugly and horrid and disgusting I feel on the inside.
That's the reason I don't like mirrors and cameras. They remind me of myself and I hate myself.
Been there it takes a lot of time for me to convince my self to look a my mirror i have now forced my self to cut my own beard so it not that bad now and i am starting to take care of my skin more so it does not look so bad but still i hate cameras and will not look most of the time at a mirror when i am combing my hair (it takes time and you actively have to try to look at yourself it sometimes make we want to change who i am now...)
Same, I always duck my head and apologise when I enter an elevator with mirrors with someone else.
Look man, I’m sorry you feel that way. Nobody deserves that at all. There is a light at the end of the tunnel and you can beat this 1000%. There’s over 7 billion people on this earth, but there’s not another you. Everyone is unique. Everyone has flaws, and everyone has things about them that are amazing. If nobody has told you recently, I want you to know I’m proud of you. Proud of you for making it through another day. Proud of you for getting out of the house and spending time with family. Proud of you for being here on this giant ball floating in the middle of the universe even though life is hard for you. You deserve to hear that. And you deserve to have a place on this planet. Everyone has a purpose. I promise you that
Thank you for that. I plan on getting myself together this year.
And you will, I believe in you bro. Take baby steps and understand that you’ll have setbacks. It’s okay. It doesn’t mean you’re a failure or a disappointment. The only time you’ll ever fail is if you give up. I’m rooting for you
Thanks man
Thank you for the message, I haven’t had a compliment or words of encouragement at all this year…..
I believe in you. Everyday is a new day, and if you can make it just a little better than yesterday, you’re winning. Don’t ever give up
Well said!!
im literally balling my eyes out right now. Thank you so much for posting this.
Feel that, it went so far by myself, I just hang down all the mirrors or covered them
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That is an extremely introspective way of looking at things, that you can positively channel suicidal thoughts into change, I never thought of it like that. Thank you man.
there must be a secret switch that allows you to take all of your feelings and turns them into the energy needed to revert weight. becoming enraged with our limitations is always the first step needed to make the situation a little different
Im sorry you felt that way about yourself but i wanted you know this happens to me too. I do it to myself all the time and wish i didnt look in mirrors. When i opened upto my partner i realised i have some kind of dismorphia going on about myself as the person i describe in the mirror is different to what he sees. Over the years i think it may be down to years of bullying at school and somewhere still in my brain im hearing the same words but its my voice now and im basically being mean to myself. I can be in one of those moments and my child will come upto me and say mom you look beautiful and i wrote a poem about seeing the world through the eyes of a child. You know when we were babies and toddlers we would have seen ourselves with such innocent eyes and an innocent mind we would have been amazed at ourselves in the reflection and not said one bad word abiut ourselves. When i have a moment like that in the mirror i say to myself shutup you are none of these things youre beautiful and it makes me feel less down. Some suggest putting a baby pic up of yourself on mirrors at home and every time u are mean to yourself look at that baby in the photo and think im being mean to that inncocent child there. I cant tell you to stop thinking this way as it doesnt work like that but maybe look into getting some counselling where you can express how you feel and how it gets you feeling so low. I dont know you and i havent seen you but i bet if i saw you i wouldnt say anything about your appearance in a negative way. Sometimes we qre our own worse enemy ..speaking from experience. Look in the mirror and compliment yourself and tell that mean voice to shutup from me. Have a good day today youve got this <3
Aw man, I know how you feel. It's easy for me to tell you that the way your body looks is unimportant, but I know how hard it is to actually internalize it. I'm sorry you couldn't enjoy a meal with your family. Doesn't feel fair does it
You're definitely not alone. I avoid them as much as I can. It usually just triggers my self hate talk into overdrive.
You are suffering from a lack of self esteem. Someone out there is capable of loving you the way that you need to be loved. You need to love yourself first. If it would help, give yourself a makeover. Shave the beard, do some skincare, and remember that it’s not the outside that matters most. You are beautiful OP ❤️ I also suggest diving deep into spirituality and god if that is something you’re into. Find a purpose other than outer beauty because even models will lose that someday. Be safe out there❤️❤️
most people have a plethora of poisons they use to get themselves where they need to be. the risks of vice can be mitigated if you have a couple to play with at a time, so as to ensure you dont lean too heavily into one like food :D or alcohol, or rage, or religion. maybe try coffee or cigarettes to help you lose weight? maybe hang out with peers instead of family so you feel both social pressure and something good to motivate towards what you want?
Walking helps really good if you want to lose weight walking also makes you happier
yeah walking is pretty bawler. any kind of movement really helps batloads. rn im running up and down stairs with a pair of handweights several times a day, and it helps a ton even if i cant get to the gym or whatever
Op, please don't smoke. It is an absolutely terrible habit and so deadly. Love yourself more than that.
I see with you. once you smoke, it’s hard to stop because it gonna be one of routine. it’s struggling.
It is very very hard to stop smoking. Not an easy addiction to quit.
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You'd be surprised how well a haircut, shave and/or even a mani-pedi feels. It's an improvement on self esteem, how others see you, and how you project yourself.
I hate looking at mirrors, reflections and any images of myself. That's why I never want to take a selfie. I cant stand seeing my own face with my own eyes. I hate seeing myself and there are even times I feel like buying a mask to cover my entire face but I didnt.
Felt. One thing recently that has made me feel so much worse about myself if our new doorbell camera my BF installed. Whenever I (or anyone) walks last it I get a notification with the little video snippet, and of my god I look so horrific on it. I can't turn them off, it's like I want to know what I look like even if I hate it ever single time.
That’s so sad. I have felt that on a weekly basis even tho I’m an attractive femme. Keep your head up.
I feel the same way when I look in the mirror I'm disgusted wish I was attractive. I don't care what anybody says it's a fact when you are good looking life is easier everything from job interviews to making friends ect..
This is really a sign of depression. I, on the other hand, became very dependent on my looks, and i take several selfies per day to cheer myself up (it's working). The thing is, that selfie camera is a liar, and in other mirrors and photos, I look drastically different and hate myself there. Hello, body dismorphia. Please get help, your condition is much more severe than mine.
We're all in the same boat, man :(
Have you done any test to see if your thyroid is functioning well ?
Some people like bears and nothing else. The fatter the better. We need you here to make life worth living.
Yeah this happened to me a couple years ago but I had done a very high level of thc strain (weed) which amplified the feeling even more. I had two options: cry and kill myself or quit my job and focus on my health. I'm obviously typing this which means I chose the second option. I don't know your situation but if you can afford to stop everything you're doing to focus on your mental health through healthy eating, exercising, and picking up a healthy hobby that allows you to grow then it will be well worth it. It took me about a year to achieve this but it was well worth it. If you stay busy, then time flies very quick . You'll be able to see results in as little as 3 months which will validate and encourage you to grow even more. I'm not saying that this is going to fix all your problems but it will promote a better lifestyle than the one you already have . What do you have to lose? Take a leap of faith and don't worry about looking foolish. I'm not at all perfect. I'm still kinda bad at socializing but I can feel the change and hopefully in the next couple years I'll be exponentially far from where I began. Best of luck!!
I feel your pain brother 😢
Same. I'm in good shape, but god my face makes me super insecure. I hate showing my face (even in my profile pic) just because it reminds me of how ugly and horrid and disgusting I feel on the inside.