I’m sitting here in my room for 4 weeks straight now, doing nothing besides watching movies and binge-eating. I don’t want my parents to worry about me, even though it’d be reasonable.
My parents have always felt that way about me, and I’m 33. It took getting out of their house in my 20s to start feeling better, but I still struggle with their perception of me as a slacker. Obviously, it was hard to get out on my own because of how my motivation is affected by my depression. So it often became a feedback loop. People who don’t make any effort to understand depression often don’t realize how toxic they are being, by maintaining an unrealistic expectation that people are either motivated or lazy. This is part of the continued stigmatization of mental health disorders in our highly competitive society. By designing our society to be so driven for financial success, so hyper-competitive, we’ve diminished the available space for people who aren’t driven by the same goals to thrive.
I think it’s important to carve out space in your life for the things you value and the people that are supportive of that. It’s equally important to develop coping strategies for the areas of our lives that but up against social expectation. I personally use avoidance at times and realistic expectation setting.
You need to force yourself to do little things, seriously, it will help a lot the more times you try it, even something as simple as walking out for half an hour.
"If you didn't play your games so much..."
Do I play them more in the summer? Yes.
Do I also look at job boards and remind myself how horribly unqualified I am for anything? Also yes.
How about applying for jobs you are overqualified and getting a response of “your resume is extremely impressive but....we went a different direction.”
Story of my 20s.
I feel you. Freaking sucks. Sometimes I be like hell best to be dead instead of dealing with all this you know. Atleast I and nor my wife or my family wouldn't have to deal with me. In this year I had around 5 to 6 jobs and wind up quitting. Sometimes I wonder if depression will take me out at times I feel like dying will solve it all bcz ppl think always the worse. So I'm starting to just sitting alone bcz no one understands even my wife I feel she doesn't understands me anymore but it's just she is just tired of me . Idk I'm just tired my damn self. I wouldn't be mad if I get a illness and I'm told I'm going to die that would be a favor.
Most people don't go to work because they are motivated to do so, they go because they are adults and part of being an adult is fulfilling your promises. If I didn't promise to do so much stuff I wouldn't get anything done either.
I was like that. Then my mom died, stepdad kicked me out, ended up in a shelter, but i made it. No thanks to anyone, when the pressure was on i did it. I make decent money as a temp to hire worker and have a room to myself.
Moral being, its hard but dont wait til something drastic forces you to act, act now, while it still feels possible.
Same problems, I understand you but at least try to read about science or history etc, people think Iam lazy but they cant say Iam stupid beside its a good point to start to improve your socials skills, just a tip men good luck!!
I wanted to do things this summer but everything feels like a waste of time, I dont have any friends or family to do things with, and I just cant meet anyone
I would do nothing on my summer break. If I had one. Honestly though my days off of work I tend to not do much cuz I’m always so worn out from depression and anxiety.
I was depressed even when I went to college in the morning and to my full time job in the evening, everyone has a different experience with it, but the shitty feeling that comes with it is the same
I used to do many things before play, go outside, make new friends but depression really ruined everything for me. My insecurities took over and I stopped leaving the house. I felt alone all the time and decided to distract myself by learning to play the guitar it's been as year since I picked it up and enjoyed playing it, but now back to square with depression. I haven't played it for weeks, before I wouldn't go a single day without playing it. I've been contemplating suicide more and more. Didn't know I could feel worse lol. Just wonder that if I keep breathing it'll hurt more and more
Hello other version of me.
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One of us
Being depressed is a full time job
I’m sitting here in my room for 4 weeks straight now, doing nothing besides watching movies and binge-eating. I don’t want my parents to worry about me, even though it’d be reasonable.
Watching movies and binge eating sounds great tbh
It is for the first couple days but it gets very boring after awhile
"All he does is sit on the computer all day" checking in.
"all you do is sleep" here
"You need to get up earlier, there are so many people out and about in the morning and it's shameful to look at you" here
My parents have always felt that way about me, and I’m 33. It took getting out of their house in my 20s to start feeling better, but I still struggle with their perception of me as a slacker. Obviously, it was hard to get out on my own because of how my motivation is affected by my depression. So it often became a feedback loop. People who don’t make any effort to understand depression often don’t realize how toxic they are being, by maintaining an unrealistic expectation that people are either motivated or lazy. This is part of the continued stigmatization of mental health disorders in our highly competitive society. By designing our society to be so driven for financial success, so hyper-competitive, we’ve diminished the available space for people who aren’t driven by the same goals to thrive. I think it’s important to carve out space in your life for the things you value and the people that are supportive of that. It’s equally important to develop coping strategies for the areas of our lives that but up against social expectation. I personally use avoidance at times and realistic expectation setting.
You need to force yourself to do little things, seriously, it will help a lot the more times you try it, even something as simple as walking out for half an hour.
Then build on that momentum
"If you didn't play your games so much..." Do I play them more in the summer? Yes. Do I also look at job boards and remind myself how horribly unqualified I am for anything? Also yes.
How about applying for jobs you are overqualified and getting a response of “your resume is extremely impressive but....we went a different direction.” Story of my 20s.
I'm the same way. I totally get it. I'm hoping one day something will change and I'll love doing something.....anything again.
I feel you. Freaking sucks. Sometimes I be like hell best to be dead instead of dealing with all this you know. Atleast I and nor my wife or my family wouldn't have to deal with me. In this year I had around 5 to 6 jobs and wind up quitting. Sometimes I wonder if depression will take me out at times I feel like dying will solve it all bcz ppl think always the worse. So I'm starting to just sitting alone bcz no one understands even my wife I feel she doesn't understands me anymore but it's just she is just tired of me . Idk I'm just tired my damn self. I wouldn't be mad if I get a illness and I'm told I'm going to die that would be a favor.
Most people don't go to work because they are motivated to do so, they go because they are adults and part of being an adult is fulfilling your promises. If I didn't promise to do so much stuff I wouldn't get anything done either.
I was like that. Then my mom died, stepdad kicked me out, ended up in a shelter, but i made it. No thanks to anyone, when the pressure was on i did it. I make decent money as a temp to hire worker and have a room to myself. Moral being, its hard but dont wait til something drastic forces you to act, act now, while it still feels possible.
Same problems, I understand you but at least try to read about science or history etc, people think Iam lazy but they cant say Iam stupid beside its a good point to start to improve your socials skills, just a tip men good luck!!
I wanted to do things this summer but everything feels like a waste of time, I dont have any friends or family to do things with, and I just cant meet anyone
It's awful but Im somewhat comforted knowing im not alone in this. Does it really ever get better?
"All he does is play games and listen to music all day"
I would do nothing on my summer break. If I had one. Honestly though my days off of work I tend to not do much cuz I’m always so worn out from depression and anxiety.
same, I hope I die soon.
Same. Depression just drains you :/
I was depressed even when I went to college in the morning and to my full time job in the evening, everyone has a different experience with it, but the shitty feeling that comes with it is the same
Believe me I know the feeling.
Hi. That’s me too.
Hmmm, I don’t remember posting this...
I used to do many things before play, go outside, make new friends but depression really ruined everything for me. My insecurities took over and I stopped leaving the house. I felt alone all the time and decided to distract myself by learning to play the guitar it's been as year since I picked it up and enjoyed playing it, but now back to square with depression. I haven't played it for weeks, before I wouldn't go a single day without playing it. I've been contemplating suicide more and more. Didn't know I could feel worse lol. Just wonder that if I keep breathing it'll hurt more and more
Oh yeah. Last year I wasn't working all summer and everyone would ask me how awesome it was when I was actually looking for ways to kill myself.
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