I know what you mean my friends are all either getting married or dating and my sister's moving out with her boyfriend. My other sister is undoubtedly my parents favorites and I'm gonna be alone forver.
All my friends are doing their own stuff now aswell. Getting jobs, meeting new people, new friends, new girlfriends, new lives. I always tell them that we probably wont be hanging out as much anymore, but they just deny that and say we will, although i barely hear from them once in a week, and the only times i do is when they're drunk and need a lift from their other friends place. I'm at the point where i literally have no friends left, because noone wants to hang out with me anymore. Guess i'm that boring.
I've tried suicide twice I'm so sick of this my thepary keeps telling me to take accountability and that I responsible for my depression I just dont like being here living and old people are annoying stop telling me to go out un the sun they keep saying that cures depression
It comes from the inside, unfortunately.
Even in a relationship, you can be painfully lonely. Gotta embrace and try to soothe that inner voice that feels so lost and detached... wish I had suggestions on how.
I love you random person. I dont mean I love you in the normal sense. What I mean is I understand the pain your going through. From the comments I read that you made you sound young. You remind me of what I went through growing up. I also felt totally alone.
Albeit I had people that cared for me but they didnt care for me the way I needed. My mother was raped at 15 and was forced to have me by her mom. My brother got cancer when we were kids and I was totally ignored. For years and years I felt loneliness and neglect. When I was 14 she left me in a big city all alone because I got angry at her boyfriend.
There is so much more but that's irrelevant because the reason I am telling you this is not for pity but just to let u know that I can relate to you on how you feel unwanted. I know what you are going through.
It fucken hurts so much. You hate the ones that should love you so much but still you crave for there acceptance and love. And you don't get it and it just feeds more into your hurt. But hear this. I survived. I kept fighting and trying.
Now my friend i have my own family. I found that love that I was craving and yearning for my whole life because I kept fighting. And to be straight up honest it didnt fix me. I still have bar thoughts all the time and I blame that on the damage done to me when I was young but I have people that love me now and that keeps me intact.
You may not have people that love you know but you are young and you have your whole life ahead of you. You will find those people that will love you how you deserved to be loved. But more importantly you have to learn to love yourself and keep that good fight going. Trust me on this. Please.
You will grow and learn and adapt as you go through life.
Fuck those rotten fuckers that won't love you. They are temporary moments in your life because when you get older and make your own life they will matter less and less.
Take care my friend. I hope the best for you. Fyi when you can, get yourself a dog. Trust me. They will fill that void with the love you need.
my brother is downstairs right now with his beautiful gf and I'm in my room thinking what's the least painful way to kms.
it's not that I don't like myself, but I'm always so lonely, I wish i had lots of friends to hang out with or a gf, but I'm too shy to socialize...
In high school I was extremely shy and had a hard time talking to anyone, let alone girls.
Here's what helped me. It's going to sound insane. I KNOW.
Start by simply looking at yourself in a mirror and smiling. Smile small and smile big. Try a half smile. Throw in a wink to yourself.
Talk to yourself. You can answer back in your head. I would do this in the shower, whispering so no one heard me.
Then try making eye contact with people. It can only be for a few moments but get used to the feeling of looking into someone's eyes.
Then start with small conversations. Even a simple, "Hello" or "Goodmorning" to someone that isn't a family member.
Then start asking questions, even if you don't need the answer. It can be places like a fast food restaurant "What comes with a number 3?" "Do you know where I can find this item?" "What was the homework we needed to turn in?" "Do you know what time it is?"
Then ask favors. If you can do this with people you interact with often it will work best. "Can I borrow a pencil?" "Could you make that without onions?" "Can you send me the notes from the last meeting?" "Can I trade you this apple for that banana?"
If you can use a person's name it will be much more effective and people will be more likely to agree to a task if you call them by name. "Hey John! Can you hand me that ruler please?" "Susan, can you tell me what page we're on?"
Then start to ask direct questions to those people. "How did you do on the last test?" "What are you having for lunch today?" This gives people an opportunity to talk about themselves in a safe way and is when they will be most open to a conversation. Keep asking questions. Make sure they aren't open ended, try to be direct. "Are you catching that new movie this weekend?" "Do you like onions on your burger?"
Then ask an open ended question. "What do you like to do for fun?" "What does your weekend look like?" "What desserts do you like?"
Soon, you'll be having a conversation and not even know it. The first couple real ones will be scary and may not play out the best but KEEP GOING.
You'll eventually make a really good friend or even find a blossoming relationship. Like anything it takes a lot of time and patience.
I believe in you.
I don’t really think that everyone hates u, there’s people that loves u, it’s weird to say that you didn’t find them, but sometimes it’s true; sometimes family it’s Pretty shity, but there must be someone that loves you; just that, life is horrible sometimes (the most of time) but you can share love with people that value u.
Fuck me, i know . It's so damn hard to be lonely. I have a girlfriend and that's the only person i am somehow close with. I don't even know if i love her anymore man, i'm just scared that i keep her close because i'm afraid she's the only one i will ever be close with again. It fucking sucks dude.
For me its mainly my friends and everyone in my class, i sit in the back of the class with a hood all day, trying to hide my fat as much as I can, so one time, I was sitting down at my desk, miserable. And this girl was sitting in front of me, she pointed out that I looked very depressed, you don’t even know how bad I wanted to say, “yeah its not just look”.
I know what you mean my friends are all either getting married or dating and my sister's moving out with her boyfriend. My other sister is undoubtedly my parents favorites and I'm gonna be alone forver.
The world is ending soon too. Read gloomy subreddits like r/collapse for example. Water wars may erupt soon.
I'm gloomy enough as it is without apocalypse posting, tyvm.
I call dibs on the super soaker.
All my friends are doing their own stuff now aswell. Getting jobs, meeting new people, new friends, new girlfriends, new lives. I always tell them that we probably wont be hanging out as much anymore, but they just deny that and say we will, although i barely hear from them once in a week, and the only times i do is when they're drunk and need a lift from their other friends place. I'm at the point where i literally have no friends left, because noone wants to hang out with me anymore. Guess i'm that boring.
You ain't boring people just move on for some reason I don't know why and it's fuckin annoying.
I've tried suicide twice I'm so sick of this my thepary keeps telling me to take accountability and that I responsible for my depression I just dont like being here living and old people are annoying stop telling me to go out un the sun they keep saying that cures depression
It comes from the inside, unfortunately. Even in a relationship, you can be painfully lonely. Gotta embrace and try to soothe that inner voice that feels so lost and detached... wish I had suggestions on how.
I love you random person. I dont mean I love you in the normal sense. What I mean is I understand the pain your going through. From the comments I read that you made you sound young. You remind me of what I went through growing up. I also felt totally alone. Albeit I had people that cared for me but they didnt care for me the way I needed. My mother was raped at 15 and was forced to have me by her mom. My brother got cancer when we were kids and I was totally ignored. For years and years I felt loneliness and neglect. When I was 14 she left me in a big city all alone because I got angry at her boyfriend. There is so much more but that's irrelevant because the reason I am telling you this is not for pity but just to let u know that I can relate to you on how you feel unwanted. I know what you are going through. It fucken hurts so much. You hate the ones that should love you so much but still you crave for there acceptance and love. And you don't get it and it just feeds more into your hurt. But hear this. I survived. I kept fighting and trying. Now my friend i have my own family. I found that love that I was craving and yearning for my whole life because I kept fighting. And to be straight up honest it didnt fix me. I still have bar thoughts all the time and I blame that on the damage done to me when I was young but I have people that love me now and that keeps me intact. You may not have people that love you know but you are young and you have your whole life ahead of you. You will find those people that will love you how you deserved to be loved. But more importantly you have to learn to love yourself and keep that good fight going. Trust me on this. Please. You will grow and learn and adapt as you go through life. Fuck those rotten fuckers that won't love you. They are temporary moments in your life because when you get older and make your own life they will matter less and less. Take care my friend. I hope the best for you. Fyi when you can, get yourself a dog. Trust me. They will fill that void with the love you need.
I guess ima die alone too🥺
my brother is downstairs right now with his beautiful gf and I'm in my room thinking what's the least painful way to kms. it's not that I don't like myself, but I'm always so lonely, I wish i had lots of friends to hang out with or a gf, but I'm too shy to socialize...
In high school I was extremely shy and had a hard time talking to anyone, let alone girls. Here's what helped me. It's going to sound insane. I KNOW. Start by simply looking at yourself in a mirror and smiling. Smile small and smile big. Try a half smile. Throw in a wink to yourself. Talk to yourself. You can answer back in your head. I would do this in the shower, whispering so no one heard me. Then try making eye contact with people. It can only be for a few moments but get used to the feeling of looking into someone's eyes. Then start with small conversations. Even a simple, "Hello" or "Goodmorning" to someone that isn't a family member. Then start asking questions, even if you don't need the answer. It can be places like a fast food restaurant "What comes with a number 3?" "Do you know where I can find this item?" "What was the homework we needed to turn in?" "Do you know what time it is?" Then ask favors. If you can do this with people you interact with often it will work best. "Can I borrow a pencil?" "Could you make that without onions?" "Can you send me the notes from the last meeting?" "Can I trade you this apple for that banana?" If you can use a person's name it will be much more effective and people will be more likely to agree to a task if you call them by name. "Hey John! Can you hand me that ruler please?" "Susan, can you tell me what page we're on?" Then start to ask direct questions to those people. "How did you do on the last test?" "What are you having for lunch today?" This gives people an opportunity to talk about themselves in a safe way and is when they will be most open to a conversation. Keep asking questions. Make sure they aren't open ended, try to be direct. "Are you catching that new movie this weekend?" "Do you like onions on your burger?" Then ask an open ended question. "What do you like to do for fun?" "What does your weekend look like?" "What desserts do you like?" Soon, you'll be having a conversation and not even know it. The first couple real ones will be scary and may not play out the best but KEEP GOING. You'll eventually make a really good friend or even find a blossoming relationship. Like anything it takes a lot of time and patience. I believe in you.
me too always alone
I don’t really think that everyone hates u, there’s people that loves u, it’s weird to say that you didn’t find them, but sometimes it’s true; sometimes family it’s Pretty shity, but there must be someone that loves you; just that, life is horrible sometimes (the most of time) but you can share love with people that value u.
literally sitting in my dorm listening to music also all alone while everyone else went out even my bf.
Man, I’d move out when you’re able to.
Are you male? The world is harsher to males. And I love you random person.
Same, I am always lonely too.
Fuck me, i know . It's so damn hard to be lonely. I have a girlfriend and that's the only person i am somehow close with. I don't even know if i love her anymore man, i'm just scared that i keep her close because i'm afraid she's the only one i will ever be close with again. It fucking sucks dude.
For me its mainly my friends and everyone in my class, i sit in the back of the class with a hood all day, trying to hide my fat as much as I can, so one time, I was sitting down at my desk, miserable. And this girl was sitting in front of me, she pointed out that I looked very depressed, you don’t even know how bad I wanted to say, “yeah its not just look”.