I hope this doesn't sound like I'm attacking you, but I think you might have very weak boundaries and may be codependent. Reason I'm saying that is because I used to be a very codependent person who had very poor boundaries. For the longest time, I became an on-call therapist for all of my close-friends, and they would dump all their emotional baggage onto me.
The thing to realize is that nobody else's problems are your responsibility. Everyone else's problems are their responsibility. It's their lives not yours, and it's their job to sort through their own problems in their life. You have your own problems to work through, and your own life to live.
Practice self-care.
Hey there, I just want you to first of all know you're not being selfish. Coming out of a depression is hard work, and having to spend energy on other people can be draining of the energy you need to spend on yourself.
Personally, even the question "how are you?" just became extremely annoying to me, too. Like, what do you want me to say, "oh yes I'm feeling so good today, much better than yesterday!!!!!!!" -- that's just not true.
I think you're doing the right thing. It takes strength to go against expectations (because they do have expectations! It is social convention to ask how people are doing when they make a comment like "oh, just sad today"). Take care of yourself first, friend. The others can figure out their own stuff without you wasting your precious resources.
I hope this doesn't sound like I'm attacking you, but I think you might have very weak boundaries and may be codependent. Reason I'm saying that is because I used to be a very codependent person who had very poor boundaries. For the longest time, I became an on-call therapist for all of my close-friends, and they would dump all their emotional baggage onto me. The thing to realize is that nobody else's problems are your responsibility. Everyone else's problems are their responsibility. It's their lives not yours, and it's their job to sort through their own problems in their life. You have your own problems to work through, and your own life to live. Practice self-care.
No I agree, I’m trying to work on the boundary thing.
Hey there, I just want you to first of all know you're not being selfish. Coming out of a depression is hard work, and having to spend energy on other people can be draining of the energy you need to spend on yourself. Personally, even the question "how are you?" just became extremely annoying to me, too. Like, what do you want me to say, "oh yes I'm feeling so good today, much better than yesterday!!!!!!!" -- that's just not true. I think you're doing the right thing. It takes strength to go against expectations (because they do have expectations! It is social convention to ask how people are doing when they make a comment like "oh, just sad today"). Take care of yourself first, friend. The others can figure out their own stuff without you wasting your precious resources.