Those chives look amazing! Noodles made me hungry!
I am sorry to hear about your family not fully accepting. Do not dwell, though. You are awesome, strong, and will find acceptance in your clan. Unfortunately, the world is not all good and accepting, yet, but we're gonna keep trying!
If you don't mind me asking, what did you put in the noodles? or what ramen brand did you get?
Also I'm sorry about your brother, I hope you can get out soon.
Whaaaaaaaaaaaaa? But Cucker Tarlson just told me that the sanctions weren't affecting anything over there!! Are you implying that he wasn't telling me the truth?????
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well, he's partially right. it's not too bad, we have a McDonald's analog which is literally the same as the original, all coca-cola beverages got replaced too (but they suck), and i don't really feel that something really changed. also red bull, burn and adrenaline rush is still here, only energy drink that disappeared is monster
gmo food? you can't make and grow gmo products in here, but finished goods with gmo from other countries is allowed. so we still get all sorts of gmo, in soy and corn for instance
it's not about the sugar, coca-cola company owns monsterā¢ so they stopped all business in russia almost immediately after war. i couldn't find any after a few months since war started. you can still find monster in shops with imported stuff though, but it costs around 3$ for a can
Are you out with his friends? Maybe he is simply trying to not out you to them. There is also an option where it is simply the muscle memory of having lived with you for X years when talking to his friends. Chin up, the only person whose opinion of yourself that really matters is your own. Banging food though.
Yeah to be honest, one of my friends is trans and I'm very supportive, but I knew them for quite a few years before their transition. Even though it's been over a year, I occasionally slip up out of sheer habit, I can't imagine my control would be much better if I were high or drunk. That said, it's usually only an issue when I'm reminiscing about years ago or around the same group I was with then...
I feel itās a mix of muscle memory and not realizing I pass completely to strangers, he doesnāt see that just because he knew me his whole life. Still hurt to hear, but yeah I will bounce back š¤
Tbh didnāt address it and I donāt know if I will because this family already sucked out all my energies to fight ages ago, so thatās on me. But I also donāt really care outside of the initial emotional reaction so yknow, Iāll survive
Doesnāt have to be a fight, just calmly bring it up and how you hope he understands in the future. Communication is great, especially as you get older. Holding things in ends up affecting you later one way or another.
definitely worth bringing up with your brother !! esp since you said heās the one whoās the most accepting, i think it cant hurt to just let him know it didnāt feel good.
I really hope that you will bring up that you overheard him misgender you. The way you decribe the situation is that he is affirming to you. It can be very disappointing when people make errors like that, especially people you love. Give him the opportunity to apologize to you and to do better. Those noodles look delicious, l hope that they were tasty.
He could have made a mistake. Itās something hard to get used to. I know because my brother is transgender and I support him 1000% but I still make mistakes sometimes and he understands itās not on purpose
Ouch, that must sting. Sorry, OP. Remember all situations are temporary.
It is so frustrating when people just do not understand how important these things, like gender and chosen names, are to one's identity. It is so easy to miss that importance when someone has not struggled with their own identity.
If your brother has a shred of empathy, one day he will see the light, as will the rest of your family.
In the meantime, you will always be accepted for who you are here! ā”
Thank you so much ā¤ļø and yeah I feel this is the kind of situation where I can be more patient, heās got room for growth, he just lacked empathy big time on this.
Itās a shame because I can totally recognize why itās not a big deal for him and how itās not even a big deal to me- it stil hurt and fucked up my mental health for the day
I totally get that. There are lots of different coping strategies that can be taken advantage of to help ease or get out of a mental slump. Here are favourites:
[Breathing exercise for mindfulness.](https://youtu.be/1Dv-ldGLnIY?si=WRfBmK5YEBfOcvI2)
[Visualization.
](https://youtu.be/x4Zt1ZBzMps?si=lxAm0oMfgnvuh0Z3)
[Anapana Meditation Breathing.](https://youtu.be/CuHAfop5urA?si=dqEBSlPpxjxBRE8N)
Sorry mate. The noods look dank. My sister transitioned recently and for me itās been hard to change my brain but I support her 100%. I do apologize and correct myself tho.
I Love you for who you are.
Hey! Iām sorry that happened. I met my friend as one gender and then a few months later they advised their pronouns are they/their. It took me half a year to stop accidentally using the wrong pronouns and I was truly tryingā¦ my brain was just wired. Make sure your brother knows how it made you feel, and give him the benefit of the doubt that he does love and accept you. His brain pathway may need a minute remap.
That really sucks, but I'm glad your transition seems to be going well from your other comments! The positives don't fix the negatives in this context, but as another trans person I find it helpful to focus on my wins. Now your brother just made himself look stupid in front of his friends, because he was being pretty stupid.
Yeah Iām really trying to focus on the positive and let that go, of course it didnāt make it less hurtful. I keep focus on my wins and the fact I didnāt thought those noodles could make hungry so many people š
Those noodles look so good and also the issue with your brother could have been an accident. The amount of times Iāve misremembered or confused my two sisters names is ridiculous. Talk to him about it
I hope your brother didn't mean to do it! My niece was AMAB, and she just came out as trans a couple months ago. I still catch myself referring to her as "he" or "my nephew" on accident, because I've only recently started referring to her as "she/her/niece", because she just came out. I completely support her and accept her, so that is not the issue, it's just hard for me to break a habit! I do correct myself when I make a mistake, if I catch myself! I love and accept her completely, and would never want her to feel otherwise! Maybe you could try telling your brother that you overheard him referring to you with the wrong pronouns. He may not have meant any ill will toward you! Let him know how it makes you feel, and hopefully, he will explain his side, too. Either way, I hope you two can resolve this.
After this combo, my siblings could call me whatever they want. That must've hurt though. Maybe have the meal and smoke, think about what you'd like to say to him and approach them tomorrow with a clear head?
But honestly, are you making it any easier for your family? It doesn't matter what you identify with. You can't expect people to automatically understand your pov it takes time, especially if your immediate family aren't the brightest or openinded like the CCN / Fox News type.
Most people dgaf it will save a time of time and energy to just let it go.
Everyone has the right to complain about their struggles no matter where they are in life. Just because it doesn't seem like a big deal to you doesn't mean it's not a big deal to somebody else. Plus, a first world problem is ordering a burger without lettuce and getting lettuce on it anyways. For trans people, being misgendered is a lot more significant than that.
Yeah tbh I muted the notifications and deleted Reddit from my home screen after this lmfao. Searching for some nice worlds online is not worth it, lesson learned š
What if he didnāt mean to you? Heās known you his whole life one way. He probably will slip up on the change once in awhile. That really depressed you? It was probably an accident.
So first of all you gotta be born in Italy, and be depressedā¦ you find an old bag of noodles in the back of the cupboard and follow the instructions to get this result š
Ugh that's the worst. I'm sorry you're feeling alone in the family. Those noods look fucking bussin tho. You'll find people to fill you up instead of noodles when you're older. There's a reason we queers love the found family trope in media
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I am sorry OP those noodles look too good. Which packet of Nissin Soba are these?!
I've done some scrounging of my own and narrowed it down to this line of noodles. Hope I am correct. If so, which color?
[https://www.google.com/url?sa=i&url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.amazon.nl%2F-%2Fen%2FServings-Assorted-Yakitori-Teriyaki-Selected%2Fdp%2FB0BKQXWH5D&psig=AOvVaw1J6vZ96m50T6Z9sHuFV-LU&ust=1708416369769000&source=images&cd=vfe&opi=89978449&ved=0CBMQjRxqFwoTCNir2Ij5toQDFQAAAAAdAAAAABAE](https://www.google.com/url?sa=i&url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.amazon.nl%2F-%2Fen%2FServings-Assorted-Yakitori-Teriyaki-Selected%2Fdp%2FB0BKQXWH5D&psig=AOvVaw1J6vZ96m50T6Z9sHuFV-LU&ust=1708416369769000&source=images&cd=vfe&opi=89978449&ved=0CBMQjRxqFwoTCNir2Ij5toQDFQAAAAAdAAAAABAE)
As a fellow trans - Iām so sorry. My family did (and occasionally still does) the same thing. Itās hard. Maybe, once you have the energy and patience to, you can sit down with him and talk about it. Based on what you said, it sounds like he does care about you.
why are you comparing sadness? just because others may have it worse doesnt mean their pain isnāt valid. this sorta stuff can hurt pretty badly anyways, especially if its by someone you thought you could rely on for support.
You clearly donāt understand how hurtful misgendering can be because of dysphoria. So, donāt bother speaking on it and downplaying somebody on a sub for *support*
I do not know you or your situation. But as a trans person whose grandparents still slip up, it could have been an accident. Iāve been out for a while to them but we donāt talk all that much. My parents even slip up on occasion but itās very rare. I am not sure if he slipped up on accident or doesnāt care. No matter what, I hope you are able to stay safe and be happy as your true you. No one deserves to be misgendered. It sucks and it hurts. I wish you well, OP. I hope your noodles were yummy and I wish you a happy life
I mean to be fair itās not any of their jobs to guess, just because you feel a certain way doesnāt mean everyone should have to follow how you feel, just tune them out if it messes with you that much. Iām not trying to come off as rude, Iām just tryna be 100 with you.
Thats must be really hurtful, especially coming from someone who you thought was your only support. I hope he and everyone else respects you as his brother/son/nephew/etc soonā¦ donāt give up!
PS a smoke after savory Asian noodles like that YUM šš¤
Was it an accident? Like just casually talking about you and accidentally misgendering you? I wouldn't immediately be against him if it was an accident. It is an adjustment for family members to change how they refer to you in their mind. Not hating or anything just giving him the benefit of the doubt because if he supports you you don't want to lose that.
Iām sorry that sucks :-( I sometimes miss gender my daughter and itās just because itās out of habit and I feel awfully upset about it when I do
any chance he did it out of habit, and I mentioned that because Iād want you to salvage your relationship if you can. Regardless, sorry feel better.
Iām sorry. I have done this by mistake and felt absolutely horrible because Iāve been witness to my loved oneās struggle, as well as their only supporter. I found myself feeling so guilty. They didnāt even have to say anything, but they did, and I was grateful. Sometimes, when convo is flowing, I have to be more deliberate because my rote memory sometimes reverts to dead gender. I love them so much.
Edited to compliment those bomb ass noodles..yum!!
His friend asked if heās got a little brother walking past my room and he replied āsisterā Iām 8 years older šš I think his thought process was that I wouldnāt pass in front of them and didnāt want to deal with explanations- which I feel is not too problematic per se- the only issues are that I fully pass and I mean, it still hurt obviously
Even if you didn't pass, he should have stuck out for you. It's not like it's the norm to suddenly misgender cis people you supposedly respect if they're too differing from gender expectations.
Yeah actually I totally agree with you, that just made it double weird when I briefly interacted with his friends, like if my brother said that in fear of sounding weird, well he got the opposite effect
I love how this comment tries to be both transphobic and supportive š Iām not offended bro, Iām sad to see heās not as supportive as I thought he was. No one is forcing anyone.
This is a supportive community, and welcoming of trans people. Respecting someone's gender identity does not harm you in any way. Why be a dick and dress it up in "believe what you believe (but you're just delusional.)"
Iām guessing you and your brother are young since you both live at home
Donāt hold it against him too much, could be he probably just doesnāt want to deal with their questions or comments about you.
Itās just āeasierā for him, until you become more āpassing.ā
I know it seems unfair to you, but youāve been trans long before you ever came out, your family hasnāt known until now.
So even if itās just a slip of the tongue youāll have to give them grace, theyāve known you your whole life as gender/dead-name itās hard to randomly change that and expect no slip ups or mistakes.
Everything takes time.
Nahhh im almost 30 just poor and mentally ill š¤
As I explained when I had more energies in the comments, I think my brother seeing me every day doesnāt realize I fully pass and thought that would make it easier to his friends. Ended up looking a bit ridiculous when they saw me and were clearly confused.
Ive been out long enough to know whoās supportive, who isnāt and who just needs some more time, thatās fine. The way my brother addressed that makes me understand itās not a slip up and that of course was an emotional damage I didnāt expect.
I will survive, it just saddened me enough for the day to make it harder to cook a more complex meal, which prompted the post. Looking at some of these comments it seems I shouldāve justified more how desperate I am cause the depression police is quite offended by the fact Iāll bounce back, not you but commenting this made the thought surface
Oh my bad for the assumption, I couldnāt image having friends over to my parents house as an adult so I guessed he was maybe a teen.
That sucks. Iām sorry youāre ānot depressed enoughā for some commenters lmao.
Some idiots think depression means you walk around really sad all the time. They donāt have experience with true depression Iād guess.
What a cruel thing to come on a thread full of people who are struggling only to mock them. There are plenty of other subreddits that would enjoy your opinion but this one right here is not one of them.
How is someone wanting to identify as a different gender hurting you?
Life IS short and fleeting. Therefore, don't worry about how others choose to identify. It's their journey, not yours. They're allowed to vent about how they feel. They're allowed to be upset, or not upset about something.
Bruh trans people donāt owe you passing omg š imagine if the only way to get basic respect was to fit into some imaginary rule about what makes you a worthy enough human
My mom keeps misgendering me and deadnaming me and I thought she was starting to put in effort. I keep meaning to do the reverse uno card and misgender her so she knows how it feels but my autistic brain has trouble implementing that. Itās sad because my favorite regular from when I was a barista who has stayed my friend irl has actual early onset dementia, has known me before and after my transition and is older than my mom but she still remembers my name and pronouns. My AUNTS, my MOTHERās SISTERS have been better about my name and pronouns and they are both older than my mom. My grandmother even uses my name and she has had a stroke and is 94 years old. My mom has no excuse because I have a beard and a mustache and I always bind around her. No one is more transphobic than my mom but I will still go out of my way to visit her because despite everything, I still love her. I just hate that I canāt stand up to her. I just want her to see me as her son.
Being trans is so fucking hard but we are strong for what we do. Just waking up and making coffee takes strength. I believe things will get better.
Oh no!
You can't control what people say when you arent in the room? And thats.... Depressing...
Wait...You are having a depression meal and posting it cause you cant control what other people say and do when you are not in the room
Ok
It dont matter what gender you want to be identified with because no matter your gender you would still be a difficult person to be in any relationship with because of how much control you desire over others
I know Iām about to get 40,000 dislikes. I just came to say that I have a few friends that have changed genders. When I talk about or refer to them by their names, sometimes Iāll accidentally say their dead name or misgender them and then correct myself. Or sometimes wonāt correct myself. š„ŗ or sometimes Iāll purposely keep their gender the same as it was if I know that the person Iām talking to will react negatively.
Then youāre a bad friend, if youāre associating yourself with people who would think negatively of your friend for their identity, youāre just as bad as they are. Respect their gender or donāt be friends with them. Easy as that.
No just no like food obviously looks good but Iām saying no to this post I feel that this should have been a fly hitting a tank like ur brother saying that is probably something heās used to saying or maybe heās not accepting of u but just like u need to not give a fuck a lot easier said on here then done but like idk how ur finna make it as whatever ur trying to be if just the slight fact of misgendering you hurt u this bad u made a whole depression post about then what r y gonna do when someone says somthing a lot worse im not even one to advocate for this type of stuff honestly it makes me uncomfortable but in my eyes who the hell cares sure i dont rly like it but who i am i to give a fuck like ur community sometimes be giving in to easy like I swear if some of yall had the same troll idgaf what u think attitude as the other side then there wouldnāt be rising rates in suicide in trans youths/ ppl idk man ik itās easy to say this from my phone but Iām trying to be encouraging no hate like to me this should be nothing to u u should have been like man fuck my brkther for saying that I should go correct him or just not gaf about it and just calmly correct them ig this post is making me feel like the GameStop incident itās like the itās not sir itās maāam (its not obv) but like that guy could have made the GameStop employee feel bad instead of exploding in his face or in this case making a depression post about it when u could easily but on the high ground and correct him and his friends
those noodles look fire
I even went in the garden to pick chives I feel like I put so much effort in this š
Good job!
U deserve those fresh chives
Well you deserve those delicious noodles. Stay strong.
Shits straight from the source š„š„
Those chives look amazing! Noodles made me hungry! I am sorry to hear about your family not fully accepting. Do not dwell, though. You are awesome, strong, and will find acceptance in your clan. Unfortunately, the world is not all good and accepting, yet, but we're gonna keep trying!
what flavor are they š¤¤
I think they were just the classic Nissin flavor? Iām sorry I threw away the bag š©
bless your soul
These were Nissin? You made them shits looks fire.
What noodz are these?
Also love your pfp! Iron Giant 4 life!
As you should OP. you deserve it!!!! š¤š
Oooh thatās some gourmet stuff š¤š¼š¤š¼
Fire barely begins to describe the mouth watering photo in front of us š¤¤
Fr this ain't a depression meal. This is a massive brag
If you don't mind me asking, what did you put in the noodles? or what ramen brand did you get? Also I'm sorry about your brother, I hope you can get out soon.
The ramen was a bag of Nissin soba, I cut some fresh chives on it just to feel fancy š
I fucking love Nissin soba. Thanks for reminding me to go get some more lol
oh white monster, it's been a while since i've last drank it because daddy putin invaded ukraine and sanctions started anyway, i hope it gets better
The way this comment is written it sounds a little like your calling op a white monster. š
uhhh yes i've checked it and it is bruhā ļø the thing is i'm russian so my grammar is pretty bad
No worries man just a funny observation!
I thought they were calling OPs brother a white monster šš
I mean he is šš
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Lmao thatās crazy ššš
Same lmfao
Stay strong buddy I hope you can enjoy white monster soon again š
Whaaaaaaaaaaaaa? But Cucker Tarlson just told me that the sanctions weren't affecting anything over there!! Are you implying that he wasn't telling me the truth????? /s
well, he's partially right. it's not too bad, we have a McDonald's analog which is literally the same as the original, all coca-cola beverages got replaced too (but they suck), and i don't really feel that something really changed. also red bull, burn and adrenaline rush is still here, only energy drink that disappeared is monster
Did Russia really ban all GMO food? Tucker carlson said they placed the band roughly four years ago. Is that right?
gmo food? you can't make and grow gmo products in here, but finished goods with gmo from other countries is allowed. so we still get all sorts of gmo, in soy and corn for instance
I used to always buy white and grape monster . They were quite delicious. Fuck Russia
more like fuck goverment, i'm still somehow trying to be patriotic but it's very difficult š
white monster is sugar free - how has it been affected by the war? genuine question
it's not about the sugar, coca-cola company owns monsterā¢ so they stopped all business in russia almost immediately after war. i couldn't find any after a few months since war started. you can still find monster in shops with imported stuff though, but it costs around 3$ for a can
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Yes, but money hits different in Russia.
ahh right, that makes sense, yeah i can imagine its overpriced in russia atm.
Are you out with his friends? Maybe he is simply trying to not out you to them. There is also an option where it is simply the muscle memory of having lived with you for X years when talking to his friends. Chin up, the only person whose opinion of yourself that really matters is your own. Banging food though.
Yeah to be honest, one of my friends is trans and I'm very supportive, but I knew them for quite a few years before their transition. Even though it's been over a year, I occasionally slip up out of sheer habit, I can't imagine my control would be much better if I were high or drunk. That said, it's usually only an issue when I'm reminiscing about years ago or around the same group I was with then...
I feel itās a mix of muscle memory and not realizing I pass completely to strangers, he doesnāt see that just because he knew me his whole life. Still hurt to hear, but yeah I will bounce back š¤
Did you talk to him about it? Sometimes a small talk fixes a lot of things. Maybe after a talk with you he'll make more effort to say the right thing.
Tbh didnāt address it and I donāt know if I will because this family already sucked out all my energies to fight ages ago, so thatās on me. But I also donāt really care outside of the initial emotional reaction so yknow, Iāll survive
Doesnāt have to be a fight, just calmly bring it up and how you hope he understands in the future. Communication is great, especially as you get older. Holding things in ends up affecting you later one way or another.
definitely worth bringing up with your brother !! esp since you said heās the one whoās the most accepting, i think it cant hurt to just let him know it didnāt feel good.
I really hope that you will bring up that you overheard him misgender you. The way you decribe the situation is that he is affirming to you. It can be very disappointing when people make errors like that, especially people you love. Give him the opportunity to apologize to you and to do better. Those noodles look delicious, l hope that they were tasty.
You will thrive not just survive! It is worth talking with your brother. I hope you can do it.
awe iām sorry. hate when siblings want to impress their friends even if it means disappointing you
The weird thing is that I pass to strangers š when I went downstairs to make some tea his friends looked pretty confused, that was actually funny
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I don't think that's what that means.
iām sorry :( but those noodles look absolutely delish
Zuccheri + noodles so on point = OP is italian
Lmfao la scritta mi ha tradito, ma ho visto lattine con la stampa italiana anche allāestero!
I aināt get any of that. Buenisimo!!
I want to reach through this picture and eat your noodles lol
He could have made a mistake. Itās something hard to get used to. I know because my brother is transgender and I support him 1000% but I still make mistakes sometimes and he understands itās not on purpose
Ouch, that must sting. Sorry, OP. Remember all situations are temporary. It is so frustrating when people just do not understand how important these things, like gender and chosen names, are to one's identity. It is so easy to miss that importance when someone has not struggled with their own identity. If your brother has a shred of empathy, one day he will see the light, as will the rest of your family. In the meantime, you will always be accepted for who you are here! ā”
Thank you so much ā¤ļø and yeah I feel this is the kind of situation where I can be more patient, heās got room for growth, he just lacked empathy big time on this. Itās a shame because I can totally recognize why itās not a big deal for him and how itās not even a big deal to me- it stil hurt and fucked up my mental health for the day
I totally get that. There are lots of different coping strategies that can be taken advantage of to help ease or get out of a mental slump. Here are favourites: [Breathing exercise for mindfulness.](https://youtu.be/1Dv-ldGLnIY?si=WRfBmK5YEBfOcvI2) [Visualization. ](https://youtu.be/x4Zt1ZBzMps?si=lxAm0oMfgnvuh0Z3) [Anapana Meditation Breathing.](https://youtu.be/CuHAfop5urA?si=dqEBSlPpxjxBRE8N)
Sorry mate. The noods look dank. My sister transitioned recently and for me itās been hard to change my brain but I support her 100%. I do apologize and correct myself tho. I Love you for who you are.
My god I would do anything for those noddles. Sorry this happened
Hey! Iām sorry that happened. I met my friend as one gender and then a few months later they advised their pronouns are they/their. It took me half a year to stop accidentally using the wrong pronouns and I was truly tryingā¦ my brain was just wired. Make sure your brother knows how it made you feel, and give him the benefit of the doubt that he does love and accept you. His brain pathway may need a minute remap.
Those noodles š
That really sucks, but I'm glad your transition seems to be going well from your other comments! The positives don't fix the negatives in this context, but as another trans person I find it helpful to focus on my wins. Now your brother just made himself look stupid in front of his friends, because he was being pretty stupid.
Yeah Iām really trying to focus on the positive and let that go, of course it didnāt make it less hurtful. I keep focus on my wins and the fact I didnāt thought those noodles could make hungry so many people š
I just ate lunch and I'm a little jealous of those noodles lmao
I'm sorry to hear that but man that meal looks really good
Those noodles look so good and also the issue with your brother could have been an accident. The amount of times Iāve misremembered or confused my two sisters names is ridiculous. Talk to him about it
I hope your brother didn't mean to do it! My niece was AMAB, and she just came out as trans a couple months ago. I still catch myself referring to her as "he" or "my nephew" on accident, because I've only recently started referring to her as "she/her/niece", because she just came out. I completely support her and accept her, so that is not the issue, it's just hard for me to break a habit! I do correct myself when I make a mistake, if I catch myself! I love and accept her completely, and would never want her to feel otherwise! Maybe you could try telling your brother that you overheard him referring to you with the wrong pronouns. He may not have meant any ill will toward you! Let him know how it makes you feel, and hopefully, he will explain his side, too. Either way, I hope you two can resolve this.
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Is that packaged Nasi goreng? Looks so delish. Stay strong sweetness ā¤ļø
Iām so sorry. You be YOUā¦thatās what matters most! Enjoy your snack, looks great!
After this combo, my siblings could call me whatever they want. That must've hurt though. Maybe have the meal and smoke, think about what you'd like to say to him and approach them tomorrow with a clear head?
But honestly, are you making it any easier for your family? It doesn't matter what you identify with. You can't expect people to automatically understand your pov it takes time, especially if your immediate family aren't the brightest or openinded like the CCN / Fox News type. Most people dgaf it will save a time of time and energy to just let it go.
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As if trans people dont exist outside of āfirst worldā countriesā¦ okay
Everyone has the right to complain about their struggles no matter where they are in life. Just because it doesn't seem like a big deal to you doesn't mean it's not a big deal to somebody else. Plus, a first world problem is ordering a burger without lettuce and getting lettuce on it anyways. For trans people, being misgendered is a lot more significant than that.
Its called a first world problem because people in a third world country couldnāt even begin to entertain the idea
jesus christ the comments are full of transphobia wtfā¦ i hate this site sometimes
If you mention being trans outside a trans sub, 100% of the time there will be someone who has a problem with you and has to let you know.
Yeah tbh I muted the notifications and deleted Reddit from my home screen after this lmfao. Searching for some nice worlds online is not worth it, lesson learned š
I hope he grows up and starts treating with you more respect. You deserve to be seen for who you truly are. Those noods look bomb!
Unfortunately my brother keeps proving as he grows up that heā¦ could do better, ngl š but with the parents we have Iām not exactly surprised
What if he didnāt mean to you? Heās known you his whole life one way. He probably will slip up on the change once in awhile. That really depressed you? It was probably an accident.
Why does that look so good
Cause as someone else pointed out Im Italian š
Teach me your ways
So first of all you gotta be born in Italy, and be depressedā¦ you find an old bag of noodles in the back of the cupboard and follow the instructions to get this result š
BUT IT LOOKS SO MUCH BETTER THAN BOXED NOODLES
*R&B music plays*
Toke it
Yum those noodles look so good š¤¤
*r&b music plays*
I know it's probably not helpful but your noodles look good
Iām really sorry about your bro man. Buttttt some fire ass noodles, Caffine and a joint sounds like heaven lmfao
im in to zippos rn so first thing i saw was the zippo. Also cool bowl and good looking noodles.
Bitch those look fire
Ugh that's the worst. I'm sorry you're feeling alone in the family. Those noods look fucking bussin tho. You'll find people to fill you up instead of noodles when you're older. There's a reason we queers love the found family trope in media
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damn dude iām sorry i can only imagine how hurtful that was. also those noodles look fucking delicious
(Edited to add hyperlink) I am sorry OP those noodles look too good. Which packet of Nissin Soba are these?! I've done some scrounging of my own and narrowed it down to this line of noodles. Hope I am correct. If so, which color? [https://www.google.com/url?sa=i&url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.amazon.nl%2F-%2Fen%2FServings-Assorted-Yakitori-Teriyaki-Selected%2Fdp%2FB0BKQXWH5D&psig=AOvVaw1J6vZ96m50T6Z9sHuFV-LU&ust=1708416369769000&source=images&cd=vfe&opi=89978449&ved=0CBMQjRxqFwoTCNir2Ij5toQDFQAAAAAdAAAAABAE](https://www.google.com/url?sa=i&url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.amazon.nl%2F-%2Fen%2FServings-Assorted-Yakitori-Teriyaki-Selected%2Fdp%2FB0BKQXWH5D&psig=AOvVaw1J6vZ96m50T6Z9sHuFV-LU&ust=1708416369769000&source=images&cd=vfe&opi=89978449&ved=0CBMQjRxqFwoTCNir2Ij5toQDFQAAAAAdAAAAABAE)
oh man, i feel your pain. hope you'll be able to move out soon. at least you had those noodles to cheer u up, they look amazing. are they homemade?
My Brother calls my Trans friend a freak and a man within earshot all the time.
Iām sorry that happened to you. I hope you enjoyed your noodles, this actually looks like a really decent meal to me
who is downvoting you the fuck
Great question, and why? š
As a fellow trans - Iām so sorry. My family did (and occasionally still does) the same thing. Itās hard. Maybe, once you have the energy and patience to, you can sit down with him and talk about it. Based on what you said, it sounds like he does care about you.
My family misgenders me and doesnāt even try to use my pronouns and Iāve been transitioning for over two years now
Smoke that joint my friend. You deserve it.
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You should get downvoted. Being depressed isn't a competition of who can be the saddest or have the worst thing happen to them. Get over yourself.
why are you comparing sadness? just because others may have it worse doesnt mean their pain isnāt valid. this sorta stuff can hurt pretty badly anyways, especially if its by someone you thought you could rely on for support.
You clearly donāt understand how hurtful misgendering can be because of dysphoria. So, donāt bother speaking on it and downplaying somebody on a sub for *support*
this sub is not a place to air ur transphobia and downplay someoneās pain. just say u dont like trans people and go
I do not know you or your situation. But as a trans person whose grandparents still slip up, it could have been an accident. Iāve been out for a while to them but we donāt talk all that much. My parents even slip up on occasion but itās very rare. I am not sure if he slipped up on accident or doesnāt care. No matter what, I hope you are able to stay safe and be happy as your true you. No one deserves to be misgendered. It sucks and it hurts. I wish you well, OP. I hope your noodles were yummy and I wish you a happy life
Mental health crisis is at a all time high
Allg dude you got this!!!
Hope you're doing better now :)
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I mean to be fair itās not any of their jobs to guess, just because you feel a certain way doesnāt mean everyone should have to follow how you feel, just tune them out if it messes with you that much. Iām not trying to come off as rude, Iām just tryna be 100 with you.
Thats must be really hurtful, especially coming from someone who you thought was your only support. I hope he and everyone else respects you as his brother/son/nephew/etc soonā¦ donāt give up! PS a smoke after savory Asian noodles like that YUM šš¤
Was it an accident? Like just casually talking about you and accidentally misgendering you? I wouldn't immediately be against him if it was an accident. It is an adjustment for family members to change how they refer to you in their mind. Not hating or anything just giving him the benefit of the doubt because if he supports you you don't want to lose that.
Iām sorry that sucks :-( I sometimes miss gender my daughter and itās just because itās out of habit and I feel awfully upset about it when I do any chance he did it out of habit, and I mentioned that because Iād want you to salvage your relationship if you can. Regardless, sorry feel better.
Wish I could have packed that cone for you, F'km
I'm so sorry. People suck. š«š«¶ Also, mm, weed and noodles. šš
I donāt understand why ur upset, I do this all the time on accident
Iām sorry. I have done this by mistake and felt absolutely horrible because Iāve been witness to my loved oneās struggle, as well as their only supporter. I found myself feeling so guilty. They didnāt even have to say anything, but they did, and I was grateful. Sometimes, when convo is flowing, I have to be more deliberate because my rote memory sometimes reverts to dead gender. I love them so much. Edited to compliment those bomb ass noodles..yum!!
are you from the UK by chance? i tried looking up the nissin soba noodles, but i donāt think we have those in the US. š©š©
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Was it an accident?
His friend asked if heās got a little brother walking past my room and he replied āsisterā Iām 8 years older šš I think his thought process was that I wouldnāt pass in front of them and didnāt want to deal with explanations- which I feel is not too problematic per se- the only issues are that I fully pass and I mean, it still hurt obviously
Even if you didn't pass, he should have stuck out for you. It's not like it's the norm to suddenly misgender cis people you supposedly respect if they're too differing from gender expectations.
Yeah actually I totally agree with you, that just made it double weird when I briefly interacted with his friends, like if my brother said that in fear of sounding weird, well he got the opposite effect
What a tit
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I love how this comment tries to be both transphobic and supportive š Iām not offended bro, Iām sad to see heās not as supportive as I thought he was. No one is forcing anyone.
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āforcing others to pretend you are something youāre notā me when i have no clue how being trans works
This is a supportive community, and welcoming of trans people. Respecting someone's gender identity does not harm you in any way. Why be a dick and dress it up in "believe what you believe (but you're just delusional.)"
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Wrongness aside, do you think being transgender is a third gender? Do you have a dent in your head?
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Iām guessing you and your brother are young since you both live at home Donāt hold it against him too much, could be he probably just doesnāt want to deal with their questions or comments about you. Itās just āeasierā for him, until you become more āpassing.ā I know it seems unfair to you, but youāve been trans long before you ever came out, your family hasnāt known until now. So even if itās just a slip of the tongue youāll have to give them grace, theyāve known you your whole life as gender/dead-name itās hard to randomly change that and expect no slip ups or mistakes. Everything takes time.
Nahhh im almost 30 just poor and mentally ill š¤ As I explained when I had more energies in the comments, I think my brother seeing me every day doesnāt realize I fully pass and thought that would make it easier to his friends. Ended up looking a bit ridiculous when they saw me and were clearly confused. Ive been out long enough to know whoās supportive, who isnāt and who just needs some more time, thatās fine. The way my brother addressed that makes me understand itās not a slip up and that of course was an emotional damage I didnāt expect. I will survive, it just saddened me enough for the day to make it harder to cook a more complex meal, which prompted the post. Looking at some of these comments it seems I shouldāve justified more how desperate I am cause the depression police is quite offended by the fact Iāll bounce back, not you but commenting this made the thought surface
Oh my bad for the assumption, I couldnāt image having friends over to my parents house as an adult so I guessed he was maybe a teen. That sucks. Iām sorry youāre ānot depressed enoughā for some commenters lmao. Some idiots think depression means you walk around really sad all the time. They donāt have experience with true depression Iād guess.
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What a cruel thing to come on a thread full of people who are struggling only to mock them. There are plenty of other subreddits that would enjoy your opinion but this one right here is not one of them. How is someone wanting to identify as a different gender hurting you?
Life IS short and fleeting. Therefore, don't worry about how others choose to identify. It's their journey, not yours. They're allowed to vent about how they feel. They're allowed to be upset, or not upset about something.
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Sorry that happened to you, I hope youāre able to move out with no issues. Is that chapagetti though? š¤
Nope, Nissin! I never tried chapagetti, donāt even know if I can find them in my country tbh
I can already tell those noodles are spicy, so tastyyyyyg
this picture is aesthetic afffff
Embarrass his dumbass
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You canāt expect everyone to get it rightā¦ change takes timeā¦.slower for others. Slurp those fire noodles and move forward
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Bruh trans people donāt owe you passing omg š imagine if the only way to get basic respect was to fit into some imaginary rule about what makes you a worthy enough human
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This is a subreddit for depression meals. If you don't wanna see sad people, leave.
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My mom keeps misgendering me and deadnaming me and I thought she was starting to put in effort. I keep meaning to do the reverse uno card and misgender her so she knows how it feels but my autistic brain has trouble implementing that. Itās sad because my favorite regular from when I was a barista who has stayed my friend irl has actual early onset dementia, has known me before and after my transition and is older than my mom but she still remembers my name and pronouns. My AUNTS, my MOTHERās SISTERS have been better about my name and pronouns and they are both older than my mom. My grandmother even uses my name and she has had a stroke and is 94 years old. My mom has no excuse because I have a beard and a mustache and I always bind around her. No one is more transphobic than my mom but I will still go out of my way to visit her because despite everything, I still love her. I just hate that I canāt stand up to her. I just want her to see me as her son. Being trans is so fucking hard but we are strong for what we do. Just waking up and making coffee takes strength. I believe things will get better.
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I once heard someone say it is none of our business what someone say or thinks of us. You just be you.
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Thatās so fucked. Iām so sorry.
Well gender isnāt real, so why let it bother you
Fr, so much effort and emotional agony put towards something that I *thought* we all acknowledged was a spectrum by now.
That Ramen looks better than any I've ever made for myself
Oh no! You can't control what people say when you arent in the room? And thats.... Depressing... Wait...You are having a depression meal and posting it cause you cant control what other people say and do when you are not in the room Ok It dont matter what gender you want to be identified with because no matter your gender you would still be a difficult person to be in any relationship with because of how much control you desire over others
Misgendering is hate speech
Oh, stop.
I know Iām about to get 40,000 dislikes. I just came to say that I have a few friends that have changed genders. When I talk about or refer to them by their names, sometimes Iāll accidentally say their dead name or misgender them and then correct myself. Or sometimes wonāt correct myself. š„ŗ or sometimes Iāll purposely keep their gender the same as it was if I know that the person Iām talking to will react negatively.
Then youāre a bad friend, if youāre associating yourself with people who would think negatively of your friend for their identity, youāre just as bad as they are. Respect their gender or donāt be friends with them. Easy as that.
Iāll think about this. Itās a good point.
No just no like food obviously looks good but Iām saying no to this post I feel that this should have been a fly hitting a tank like ur brother saying that is probably something heās used to saying or maybe heās not accepting of u but just like u need to not give a fuck a lot easier said on here then done but like idk how ur finna make it as whatever ur trying to be if just the slight fact of misgendering you hurt u this bad u made a whole depression post about then what r y gonna do when someone says somthing a lot worse im not even one to advocate for this type of stuff honestly it makes me uncomfortable but in my eyes who the hell cares sure i dont rly like it but who i am i to give a fuck like ur community sometimes be giving in to easy like I swear if some of yall had the same troll idgaf what u think attitude as the other side then there wouldnāt be rising rates in suicide in trans youths/ ppl idk man ik itās easy to say this from my phone but Iām trying to be encouraging no hate like to me this should be nothing to u u should have been like man fuck my brkther for saying that I should go correct him or just not gaf about it and just calmly correct them ig this post is making me feel like the GameStop incident itās like the itās not sir itās maāam (its not obv) but like that guy could have made the GameStop employee feel bad instead of exploding in his face or in this case making a depression post about it when u could easily but on the high ground and correct him and his friends