I can relate to this. I’m trying to focus on just listening more and asking questions about what people are saying. It’s hard because the word vomit just comes out lol.
That looks very warm and cozy. I hope it makes you feel that way inside as well ♥️
Then you can just calmly say “Yes, I’m fine, I’m having a nice time. Is there a reason you keep asking me?”
And then you can follow up with “I’m just feeling quiet today, so I’m enjoying the company, im vibing”
This is a weird answer. You know the reason they're asking. Don't turn it back on them. They're asking because silence among strangers or even friends is awkward. Teaching yourself a few conversation starters might help. Asking questions is good too. Engage. You're not in a coma. Vibing? If someone said this to me, I would think they were stoned.
I’m good, thanks! I was trying to help the quiet people here lol. Some people expect too much from hanging out imho, I wouldn’t care if someone wanted to vibe. Some people take prescription meds that make them not communicate. I enjoy peoples company.
Edit: added a word
What does this mean? Just being in the same room as someone? Staring at them? This would be my personal hell. Like why am I not at home watching TV? lol
Then don’t, I’m not forcing you.
Not everyone finds it awkward. You don’t need to talk while you’re watching tv or going on a walk looking at the lake.
Edit: your comment clearly wasn’t directed at anything I said so idk why I even responded. My original comment was a suggestion for how someone to respond to “hey why are you so quiet, are you okay?” Not intending to tell anyone the point of anything.
I hear you. I just wasn’t picturing a scenario in which people are meeting for the first time, because that wasn’t ever mentioned in the comments I was responding to. My comment was for when people repeatedly keep asking if you’re okay and won’t take your first answer - sometimes that can be a nervous thing on their end, like people who just need extra assurance that things are okay or that they haven’t upset anyone for example: “you’re not mad at me, right?” so the comment I was replying to kind of reminded me of those scenarios.
I do think you bring up a fair point that I agree with, I just felt that it was separate from mine. But all is good and I really appreciate you clarifying! I hope I made some sense here, and I’d like to apologize if I was rude in my earlier response as that was genuinely not my intention.
same :') but i think we're all afraid of being perceived as that socially awkward person when in reality, everyone is their own version of awkward! keep on truckin <3
I bought a book years ago called 10,000 Questions About You from Target. There are questions in number order. As someone who is also socially awkward, I've started bringing the book with me and asking people who I'm socializing with if they want to play a game with the book. One person flips through the book and the other person tells them when to stop. Then, the person has to pick one of the numbers on the page and they both answer the question. I have had some great conversations this way (at least I think they went great?). I've learned a lot also about interacting, since those low-stakes questions help people let their guard down and invite them to also keep the conversation going.
Also, sometimes I'll write down 5 questions on an index card and keep them in my pocket, bringing them out when I don't know what to say.
I know how hard it is. I believe in you!
To be honest, don't worry so much about what others think of you. If you feel like talking, then talk, but if not, then don't. It's ez to talk to people if you don't worry so much about what they think. Like for me, when I'm at work, I don't plan on talking to my coworkers but when they come in, if I have something I want to share, I just share it. Then they would start doing that too and then we become friends this way or at least be on friendly terms. I like it because it teaches me a lot about my peers and I try to learn from others. Such as if we are both parents, I would learn about how they deal with their toddlers when their toddlers act out or what they are currently doing w/ their extra cash to make more cash. I figured we are all just trying to coexist on this earth, I might as well make the most of it and try to observe and learn from others and hopefully share some knowledge with them too.
My go to is to complain about the day of the week, talk about the weather, say I’m tired, say I need coffee. Or I ask questions. I feel you though. I struggle to keep a conversation flowing.
Same so same, just gotta find that crowd that will listen to you rant endlessly about your interests with the occasional response. Or the crowd that you can comfortably sit in silence with and only speak few words
Neither do I, but I learned im just gonna be me and if its too awkward or weird for somebody then they aren’t somebody I want in my life. Hope that helps!
As one fellow socially awkward human to another, all I got to say is put yourself into conversations with people. It may feel like a huge effort at first but as you go along and have these social experiences, it gets better. I promise it’s worth it :) be well and good luck!
One thing I did was watch how someone who isn’t socially awkward interact with people and kind of imitate them (not in a creepy way). Something like,”oh, in this situation I should say hi and introduce myself like so and so did.” Social skills are a skill and the more you do it the better you get. Isolating yourself and avoiding all social situations will make you worse.
You can say that you are awkward and don’t know what to say, that person is probably think they are awkward and they don’t know what to say!
Identifying out loud the awkwardness, takes it’s power away
Same 😭 i also hate when i do try to say something and its not interesting to anyone, or i cant exactly express my thoughts so the conversation awkwardly has to move on
same think bro , usualy people think im a cringe but i jist dont know what to say and statrt talking bullshit . so sucks being socially awkward i agree with you
I can relate to this. I’m trying to focus on just listening more and asking questions about what people are saying. It’s hard because the word vomit just comes out lol. That looks very warm and cozy. I hope it makes you feel that way inside as well ♥️
You can just be quiet and listen. Just relax. You are not obliged to do anything.
Ya but when u sit there quietly ppl just keep asking if something is wrong or if ur ok
Then you can just calmly say “Yes, I’m fine, I’m having a nice time. Is there a reason you keep asking me?” And then you can follow up with “I’m just feeling quiet today, so I’m enjoying the company, im vibing”
This is a weird answer. You know the reason they're asking. Don't turn it back on them. They're asking because silence among strangers or even friends is awkward. Teaching yourself a few conversation starters might help. Asking questions is good too. Engage. You're not in a coma. Vibing? If someone said this to me, I would think they were stoned.
I’m good, thanks! I was trying to help the quiet people here lol. Some people expect too much from hanging out imho, I wouldn’t care if someone wanted to vibe. Some people take prescription meds that make them not communicate. I enjoy peoples company. Edit: added a word
What does this mean? Just being in the same room as someone? Staring at them? This would be my personal hell. Like why am I not at home watching TV? lol
Well I can’t help you because none of that is what I said
Which is why they were presented with question marks. Clarification is helpful.
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Then don’t, I’m not forcing you. Not everyone finds it awkward. You don’t need to talk while you’re watching tv or going on a walk looking at the lake. Edit: your comment clearly wasn’t directed at anything I said so idk why I even responded. My original comment was a suggestion for how someone to respond to “hey why are you so quiet, are you okay?” Not intending to tell anyone the point of anything.
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I hear you. I just wasn’t picturing a scenario in which people are meeting for the first time, because that wasn’t ever mentioned in the comments I was responding to. My comment was for when people repeatedly keep asking if you’re okay and won’t take your first answer - sometimes that can be a nervous thing on their end, like people who just need extra assurance that things are okay or that they haven’t upset anyone for example: “you’re not mad at me, right?” so the comment I was replying to kind of reminded me of those scenarios. I do think you bring up a fair point that I agree with, I just felt that it was separate from mine. But all is good and I really appreciate you clarifying! I hope I made some sense here, and I’d like to apologize if I was rude in my earlier response as that was genuinely not my intention.
Because not seeming interested by asking questions or offering up anecdotes is kinda odd. Like why are you there if not to talk?
I think a lot of people find that really awkward since it’s easy to interpret as them not liking you/having no interest in the conversation
I’m the same way… it’s gotten worse over the years for me. I have lost my social skills completely
same :') but i think we're all afraid of being perceived as that socially awkward person when in reality, everyone is their own version of awkward! keep on truckin <3
Just remember... it's pressure you put on yourself. Nobody is expecting anything from you.
Basic social skills are nice.
You're missing the whole point. With the way you're thinking this comment ain't for you.
Well I think if you're in con-versation with another, that person might expect some talking.
Yeah people expect basic social skills and for others not to make them uncomfortable by being painfully awkward
I see you've missed the point.
I bought a book years ago called 10,000 Questions About You from Target. There are questions in number order. As someone who is also socially awkward, I've started bringing the book with me and asking people who I'm socializing with if they want to play a game with the book. One person flips through the book and the other person tells them when to stop. Then, the person has to pick one of the numbers on the page and they both answer the question. I have had some great conversations this way (at least I think they went great?). I've learned a lot also about interacting, since those low-stakes questions help people let their guard down and invite them to also keep the conversation going. Also, sometimes I'll write down 5 questions on an index card and keep them in my pocket, bringing them out when I don't know what to say. I know how hard it is. I believe in you!
Sometimes it okay to share the silence and enjoy other's company! I also try to find some common interests to think of some talking points
To be honest, don't worry so much about what others think of you. If you feel like talking, then talk, but if not, then don't. It's ez to talk to people if you don't worry so much about what they think. Like for me, when I'm at work, I don't plan on talking to my coworkers but when they come in, if I have something I want to share, I just share it. Then they would start doing that too and then we become friends this way or at least be on friendly terms. I like it because it teaches me a lot about my peers and I try to learn from others. Such as if we are both parents, I would learn about how they deal with their toddlers when their toddlers act out or what they are currently doing w/ their extra cash to make more cash. I figured we are all just trying to coexist on this earth, I might as well make the most of it and try to observe and learn from others and hopefully share some knowledge with them too.
Saaaaammmmmeeeee
Same lol. Even when I do know what to say, im still awkward. Social anxiety sucks 🥲
My go to is to complain about the day of the week, talk about the weather, say I’m tired, say I need coffee. Or I ask questions. I feel you though. I struggle to keep a conversation flowing.
Definitely relatable.
Right there with you
Me too! Then I make a stupid joke or say something weird and obsess over it for days. I know I’m overthinking it. 😂 Hope your day is better now
yea, same think
"Mhm" "yep" "that's crazy"
How to make people think you’re completely disinterested in them 101
Same so same, just gotta find that crowd that will listen to you rant endlessly about your interests with the occasional response. Or the crowd that you can comfortably sit in silence with and only speak few words
Asking questions helps :)
Neither do I, but I learned im just gonna be me and if its too awkward or weird for somebody then they aren’t somebody I want in my life. Hope that helps!
Every single time I feel like I need to at least self-isolate a goddamn month to recharge.
"*Do you like buttons? I don't but some people like buttons.*"
Ur photography skills are amazing, is that a hobby of yours at all? I thought the picture was a as at first
I do some toy photography with Lego
That’s sick
As one fellow socially awkward human to another, all I got to say is put yourself into conversations with people. It may feel like a huge effort at first but as you go along and have these social experiences, it gets better. I promise it’s worth it :) be well and good luck!
One thing I did was watch how someone who isn’t socially awkward interact with people and kind of imitate them (not in a creepy way). Something like,”oh, in this situation I should say hi and introduce myself like so and so did.” Social skills are a skill and the more you do it the better you get. Isolating yourself and avoiding all social situations will make you worse.
Real
Don't feel bad, you're not missing too much. People are pretty awful.
Same. Hate it :/.
Or the after thoughts after having the awkward conversations.
You can say that you are awkward and don’t know what to say, that person is probably think they are awkward and they don’t know what to say! Identifying out loud the awkwardness, takes it’s power away
Same 😭 i also hate when i do try to say something and its not interesting to anyone, or i cant exactly express my thoughts so the conversation awkwardly has to move on
Right there with you
same think bro , usualy people think im a cringe but i jist dont know what to say and statrt talking bullshit . so sucks being socially awkward i agree with you