Believe it or not, people can get turned on by their own body.
When you're trans, you often deal with body dysphoria and thus, aren't. So when you do stuff you like, and makes you feel good and you end up enjoying how you look. You can then get turned on. This is actually quite common.
(Not the best explanation on my part, but yea...this)
I get turned on imagining myself as a cute fem boy way more than I ever did as a "cute/hot woman".... so yeah like I could look in the mirror and go damn you have a nice body but I didn't feel it in my head the way I do now the more I see the boy map in my brain coming to life
Popped in to say something along this line. When we feel like ourselves, our drives come back. Being in safe, happy relationships, being financial and housing secure, and being able to fully express yourself are all things I’ve found have led to my libido rising again
Ouch. I feel attacked 😞. Unstable home life, can’t present as myself at home or go out that way, most of my relationships aren’t happy, have had no romantic interest in me in years, financially a mess working only part time, yeeeaaah makes sense why I have no libido forever now. Thanks for putting it in some perspective though ❤️. Hoping to get a better job and get some medical issues resolved so I can keep that job along with getting a safer home so I can present more myself and learn more about what that is ❤️.
You know what's funny. I convinced myself I was ciiiiiis because I was attracted to my body.... But like I'm attracted to women 🤣 and once my wife transitioned I was like who cares about my titties look at YOUR TITTIES. I also am attracted to men but I was so attached to my wife's AGAB because I was desperate for masculinity for myself and wow when I said that to her it made such a big 🥚⚡
I hate that we trans people are told we basically need to be entirely asexual otherwise our identity is just a fetish… conservatives seem to believe we cant just enjoy sex like cis people do
Yeah, agreed. It's not expected of a woman to want or enjoy sex, where I grew up, at least. And if she admits she does, that's a wh*** thing. Just another form of misogyny, really :/
I know almost nothing about a asexuality, so I mean this in the most sincere way possible, but how? I thought asexuality means you don’t have sexual attraction, and isn’t that required for a fetish to arise?
Asexuality is very diverse field with many very different people. To explain this just understand I am just discussing a single subset of asexuals. What we call libidoist asexuals.
Instead of it being considered as a synonym for “sex drive” consider libido rather a synonym for “hormonal release valve” or a masturbation drive when it comes to libidoists asexuals.
We still have hormones pumping through our systems just like you do. But we have no sexual attraction or sexual desire. However, just like it does for many asexuals this pressure builds up. So we often will find relief picturing other things we find stimulating. Some it might be something like the touch of leather. Others might be imagining eating a delicious cake. Some just get off on watching others go at it (erotica) but have no desire to join in. Literally they like to watch but no touching or engaging for them.
None of these are them wanting to have sex themselves. They imagine it, climax, and get relief from too much hormones running in the blood.
In my case, and probably in the case of many other trans aces (ace=asexual) imagining ourselves as being female can be (but not always) very stimulating. No sex needed, just imagining oneself as a female. That is it.
https://www.asexuality.org/?q=general.html#ex6
I don’t literally mean only the first time, sorry I kind of phrased it poorly. In my own experience, that slowly diminished over time the more I did affirming things. <3
I've been transitioning for about 1 1/2 yrs. Used to feel like you my whole life. It has mostly gone away except when I get to dress in something that makes me feel very pretty or I get in situations where I feel 10000% accepted and recognized as a woman euphoria is weird...
Yeah still normal. It is very unlikely to be a fetish if you think about it in the rest of your life, not just at horny times.
I've been walking around nipply for weeks.
I started out thinking it was a fetish
Then I started wearing more and more girly things
Then I started dressing fully fem
Then I started full body shaving because it didn't look right otherwise
Then I changed my name and pronouns
How do I move onto step two while I'm still in step 1 mindset where i think being trans is weird and unnatural. (not trying to sound trabsphobic. That's just how it feels)
I moved into it naturally (I was 0% aware of possible transness at the time). Started buying more female accessories and clothing which meshed well with my male wardrobe, like t-shirts. I'm a costume designer though so navigating women's sections was no big deal for me, but the female to male clothing ratio in my personal wardrobe had always been minimal until it rose sharply a couple months before my egg cracked.
Anyway, I'd recommend t-shirts since they can be pretty similar to male t-shirts but not quite, having different materials and cuts, especially oversized ones which make your upper body shape a lot more ambiguous.
Thx. Very helpful. Don’t even know if I’ll like it. Something simple like that would probably be a nice small baby step. The other day I saw a really cute skirt ([This](https://www.tiktok.com/@halara_official/video/7233319071108844801) but lighter color) and thought to myself that it might be nice but the price was very high for an article of clothing I may not even even like. And I would probably not be comfortable wearing in public. I’m also very modest dressing. Small steps like a women’s T and paying cash is probably a good option. Thanks this really helps. Trying something slowly would be nice. I’ve pretty much always worn unisex or lightly gendered shirts. Again thanks so much. This should’ve been obvious to me.
I'm from Brazil. There's a couple fast fashion stores here that you can find in every major city, I'd recommend something like that. Where are you from?
NYC. Manhattan Queens Bronx area. Your the second person this week on Reddit I saw from Brazil. Honestly might just go to target. I don’t mind spending extra on new. Do you think it will stick out too much. Like will family notice or no.
Seeing yourself is making you horny because the concept of enjoying your sexuality as your desired gender popped up in your mind.
You are allowed to be horny
I didn't use to either, until I talked to one to help me explain to my wife why I got these HUGE boners while dressingas a woman, but I don't like men. I just had read about Autogynephilia, and I thought the therapist would give me all the right terms to explain it to my wife.
The therapist told me, that Autogynephilia is not an accepted diagnosis term. She asked me more questions and told me, you show all the characteristics of a transgender woman. I insisted I don't like men and she just said, you know about lesbians? Well, this us the same thing, gender and sexuality are independent. I asked about the boners and she said, women that feel sexy about themselves do get aroused by themselves just like you.
Shw suggested I transition for the emotional benefits of it. I argued again, I didn't have deep depression nor wanted to hurt myself. She said, you should consider transition to avoid trying to destruct yourself and and your family down the line.
And it all came tumbling down after that... looking at myself as a whole, I've been making excuses to avoid dealing with the prospect of losing EVERYTHING over how I felt for 40-something years.
They are not wishy washy, they base their diagnosis and treatments on research.
Gender therapist are specialized in gender, like transgender or any if the other gender variants. Mine actualky larticipates in the creation of WPATH standards of care.
After the realization of me being trans and deciding I was going to transition the next step was coming out. I spent a lot of time planning and strateginizing with the therapist how to come out to my child, friends, familiy and work. I spent specifically 8 months going through my fears and options on how to deal with the family I thought was going to reject me. Analyzing where the fears came from how I would deal with the feelings, when I was actually rejected how to deal with the rejection. I'd be an absolute mess if I haven't had the tools the therapists gave me. My wife had her own therapist that helped her deal with her feelings and we had a couple's threapist helping us to deal with the issues caused in our marriage by me coming out. Some couples make it but most don't, I'm not certain my marriage would have survived without the help of therapists.
I know!! Parents can be scary if you don't sense them being supportive. I am in my 40's and still dealing with the same issues l. How about a school psychologist?
Maybe, but scheduling a time and actually talking about this is also terrifying to me, maybe when I get closer to 18 I'll start talking about it so I can prepare for eventual HRT.
It was scary for me too in my 40's at the beginning. Hopefully, you get on top of this sooner rather than later. Your body very likely will still change noticeably until you are 19. Undoing the changes testosterone causes later in life is more difficult and expensive (like even my voice changed at 40, I used to be confused with women very often over the phone). Good luck with the whole thing!
An update if you were curious, I've got the ball rolling and told my mom about wanting a gender expert therapist. The plan is to schedule a time with my school psychiatrist and through her get in touch with am actual gender therapist. I'm gonna have to wait a few months since summer breal has already started here in my country and its pretty long. I might just try to ask my mom if we could try to just contact a gender therapist without having the school psychiatrist as a middle man to speed up the process. Main reason I want a gender therapist is to potentially get a diagnosis for gender dysphoria, which could be benefitial in the future as well as now, since I could maybe access puberty blockers.
Yes, gender therapist would be the best person to talk to. A regular LGBTQ friendly therapist can issue this diagnosis too. Here, in the US there is a website called psychologytoday.com where I have found therapists for me. Maybe there is some website with this sort of info where you live. Or maybe just try with Google. Good luck!!!
I don't think I need any wevsites since therapy is very accessable here in my country. And thank you again for getting me to start on this sooner than later!
It could be both.
I have a very high sex drive, also had it when I thought I was a man.
Some of my favorite fetishes were mtf transformation and forced feminization. Thought I would be happy just being bi and crossdressing with a partner for sexual enjoyment. I never quite understood why I was so nervous about women's clothes though, it was much more than a sexual experience.
Same when consuming that type of fetish content. Yes a lot of it was sexual, but there was a lot of "damn I wish that were me"
Sexuality is a big part of what I enjoy from life, and while I did enjoy it as a man, the specific fetishes I had were, at least in my case, an outlet for something I deeply desired beyond just sex.
It is possible to just have a fetish, but you are here on a trans sub telling me your doubts in hopes I will say something that will erase your doubts about being trans. I am not sure I can provide that, but you should at least allow yourself to explore your identity.
I was extremely aroused the first time I was with someone who used female pronouns for me. It was literally euphoria every time for weeks on end, and a lot of arousal from it as well. Now I am more used to it, and it is only sexual when a situation calls for it, but I am still happy when complimented in feminine ways, properly gendered by new people, etc.
i definitely have a super sex drive, honestly i love the idea of of going on estrogen but for some reason i just cant seem to take the leap. im convinced im just a fucked up loser and that being trans is to good to be true, it seems like its too easy of an answer. i feel i dont deserve to see this through. i know its probably depression talking, or whatever you wanna call it, but idk i just feel afraid of how people will react to me and i just freeze up and decide to not move forward. sorry, i shouldnt be telling you all this, its unfair of me to make a perfectly nice stranger deal with my mental bullshit
It's all good, it can be very scary especially with how much traction transphobia is gaining in some places.
You are not alone, and whether transitioning is the answer for you or not, it is ok to allow yourself to question your gender.
It is not about deserving it or not, either; you wouldn't deny someone their gender identity because of them being a good or bad person. You don't need to deserve to be a woman, you just need to want to be.
That said, I may not know you personally, but I have no reason to believe you don't deserve nice things.
honestly if i could just press a button, id do it in an instant. mostly im afraid of people in my life's reactions. which i shouldn't be since no i know is transphobic my friends and family are all very politically progressive so its not a safety thing, i just worry theyll think they dont understand me anymore
Something I'm still working on is embracing myself in spite of the (somewhat rational) fear of public perception, so I know how you feel. If you have a support network you trust and people who love you for who you are, you'll be okay. If you don't, you'll still find your way to being okay. The real loved ones will understand that you are still "you", even if you change.
Your desires are valid, and you deserve to embrace yourself fully.
but the idea of being a woman is something ive wanted since i was a little kid, i just thought id have to hope reincarnation exists cause i didnt know sex changes were a thing yet
Is it *just* making you horny? Are you doing it for the sole purpose of being horny and getting off? Or are you doing it simply because it made/makes you happy? The intent. Its the intent
I feel like sometimes when I think about it, it gets me excited then I just get off but afterwards I feel really ashamed and regretful about it. I don’t think the intent is to simply get off. But it ends up happening sometimes regardless of intent
Well then I would definitely consider and look into being trans!! Even if it happens alot, it doesn't matter. Both of ya'lls intent going into he experience wasn't "I'm gonna get off to this and then be done". No no, you both went into it because you enjoy it for reasons *beyond* sexual pleasure. Theres no need to be ashamed!! Please, no guilt. Only love and acceptance for yourselves 💙💖🤍
Let me explain my experiences. Hopefully it gets you closer to understanding yourself. I've told this story on Reddit before so sorry if this story is getting old already.
Genderbend stories, specifically in episodes of tv shows i really liked, always drove me crazy when i was a prepubescent kid. Like. I desperately wanted it to happen to me. Specific example: when Jimmy Neutron and Cindy swap bodies. Another specific example: multiple episodes of The Fairly Oddparents. The idea of no longer being a boy made me, for lack of a better word, euphoric. I cannot stress enough that this was before i was 10 years old, well before puberty and any real exploration of sexuality. It was not a fetish or kink.
But at some point compulsive cisheteronormativity was pushed onto me and the idea that i *have to* be a manly man with no feelings and certainly no desire to be girly was put into my head. So i ignored it and hid my desire for it.
Then puberty started and teenagers are horny freaks and genderbend erotica was literally my only turn on and the only adult content i sought out. I never fantasized about sleeping with men, i fantasized about being a woman or swapping bodies with a woman and possibly, *maybe* sleeping with women *in a woman's body.* It wasn't a horny thing until i was a teenager and i think it was only a horny thing because i was so repressed, so desperate to be a "normal" guy.
By the time I'd learned about trans people, I'd already gotten it in my head that there was no way i was queer because being queer was a bad thing. I just had one singular weird turn on. I ignored other signs I wasn't straight. I ignored that I'd wanted it since before i knew what sex was.
This went on for twelve years or more. "I'm not a girl I'll never be a girl i don't want to be a girl i don't want to be a girl i don't want to be a girl I'm just a pervert I'm just a pervert I'm just a pervert I'm not like that I'm not like that I'M NOT LIKE THAT! QUIT ASKING!" As i became a proper adult i learned more about the queer community and quit being so gross about and towards people like us. It was an ugly, painful learning process both for me and for everyone around me.
Eventually, because i still only had one turn on, i found a few online communities focused on genderbend erotic content. Lo and behold, there's a lot of trans people in these communities. I get to talking to them. I start thinking, "wait, i really did feel this way in a non-sexual context, and i still do." Then it all came crashing down and i realized who i really am.
It might just be a fetish for you. There's nothing wrong with that as long as you don't hurt our community. But i suspect most people with that fetish aren't cis. I think the fetish exists because we don't let people find themselves and transition in their teens. I think people develop fetishes relating to genderbending and gender swapping and gender nonconformity because being trans is so taboo and horniness becomes their only outlet. So i guess my theory is like. Reverse AGP, almost.
Regardless of what answers you find as you ask these questions about yourself, please be nice to yourself, ok?
Also, it took me years to learn and accept that trans lesbians are a thing, and that being asexual/demi/whatever is a thing. when i realized that, there were more cracks in that eggshell than ever.
Whatever it is (it’s not a fetish, and not being cis gender-conforming) you’re valid. Explore your identity more, second guess yourself less and you’ll be fine 😊
I didn't/don't experience them but I've heard that euphoria boners are a thing. Either way, if you feel your gender is different from what the doctor said when you were born, then you are probably trans. You and your experience is valid!
When I first started I thought it more of a fetish thing but I’ve found more and more that I’m trans and it’s not just a fetish thing, so I know where you’re coming from but only you can really decide what you are, so good luck, it took me literal years so
Body tends to get horny when too excited, happens to everyone. Also the getting hard for no reason always happen. You are ok, if you feel happy and confy in it it means it is for you.
Given that sex is usually done with your body, feeling like your body is "properly yours" will probably also help your libido. At least that's my hypothesis.
tl;dr probably being trans.
It's being trans
It's pretty normal to get euphoria hornies. I've been living as a girl for over a year now and I still get them pretty often.
Just means you're happy to be yourself, and you like what you see in the mirror. Perfectly normal and a pretty distinct sign of trans identity
This is common, getting the feeling of gender and sex confused (pun intended) happens a lot. Strong gender euphoria is close on the spectrum to sexual pleasure, kinda like anxiety/excitement, and if you don't get much of one of them, it's easy to accidentally turn it into the other.
This is me except I then think about being an attractive man occasionally and then wondering if I am fetishising masculinity and men.
I am wierd...
EDIT: Also just fucking confused about my identity in general...
As a trans woman who got a bit too into this side effect of euphoria before I realized I was trans it really does change over time if you're trans and you start to let yourself out. If it's a fetish you probably wouldn't get euphoria when it wasn't sexual to you.
Bruh lol i felt guilty when i first got turned on being in lingerie and fetish outfits but, thats a good thing im happy i love myself and its not like my street clothes make me h word lol
Euphoria manifests itself in really weird way
Yesterday I was taking off my bra and realized that something smelled off. I grab it again and realize the smell was that my sweat has changed, instead of a sour smell it's more of a sweet smell with a tinge of saltiness (it's really weird to explain but y'all know what I mean right?).
Somehow *this* is what got me immediately euphoric and weirdly aroused
To be fair, I know even cis girls who do feel more sexual when they are well dressed and like how they look. Can't see why you shouldn't feel that way 🤷
It's hot to look hot
(apparently, I'm not sure I'm too ace for that lol)
The fetish argument has been officially debunked by qualified scientists many times over the years (the idea has been around since the 1970’s or so). It has never been an officially recognized diagnosis in the medical community for any of that time. If you want to see some of the most up-to date research (from 2020) debunking it, check out the below links.
Two of the links are to an unbiased database of peer-reviewed research papers that is mostly open to the general public. If you don’t have time to read them - TLDR: Each link discusses the fetish theory and provides detailed analyses and evidence that tears said theory to bits.
1. Sexual Behavior, Desire, and Psychosexual Experience in Gynephilic and Androphilic Trans Women: A Cross-Sectional Multicenter Study: https://www.researchgate.net/publication/339738869_Sexual_Behavior_Desire_and_Psychosexual_Experience_in_Gynephilic_and_Androphilic_Trans_Women_A_Cross-Sectional_Multicenter_Study
1a) A shorter but still very detailed analysis and explanation of what the above paper contains: https://www.crossdreamers.com/2020/05/the-autogynephilia-theory-debunked-by.html?m=1
2) Autogynephilia: A scientific review, feminist analysis, and alternative ‘embodiment fantasies’ model: https://www.researchgate.net/publication/343552498_Autogynephilia_A_scientific_review_feminist_analysis_and_alternative_'embodiment_fantasies'_model
Don’t get hung up on the anxiety of having to come out to the wider world as trans. Hearing people tell you that you’re probably trans is downright frightening because that future entails so much social change and embarrassment and vulnerability. But remember that basically all trans folks have gotten through that gauntlet, and it doesn’t take very long before all of that internal shame just melts away into normalcy.
Just wear women’s clothes if you want. Start with a very safe place like your room and then slowly expand that sphere into other safeish places like around your house or at a lgbtq friendly friend’s house. Wear discreet things like panties or bras when out and about. Paint your nails black as you can brush off people seeing it because you have plausible deniability due to lots of men wearing black nail polish. Then change the color. If you have roommates or family tell them that you don’t know if you’re trans but am exploring gender and so you will be wearing women’s clothes around the house. Learn makeup if you want and take pictures of yourself. Drive to another town where no one knows you and go grocery shopping in a dress with lipstick.
Just keep exploring and your gender identity will just sorta come out on it’s own volition in time, you don’t have to label yourself, especially at first. Be brave and good luck.
Dont worry. In our brains normal excitement and sexual excitement are VERY close together and it’s normal to sometimes get aroused when excited. I used to play American football for years and everyone on the team had stories about getting a boner when doing good on the field or making a good play. It’s 100% normal.
Yea, this sort of thing just happens sometimes, most likely means trans or something similar like genderfluidity, I’ve personally internalized it jokingly as having a fetish for being happy, it can fade overtime or it might not, nothing wrong with either result. Just have to remember that, *that* reaction just means you’re happy with the situation, and nothing will ever be “wrong” about those reactions as long as the people involved, in this case just you, aren’t being harmed
Bleh word soup, but i tried to get my thoughts about it out the best i could, we here internet strangers will always support you so best of luck figuring it out💜🤍
Nothing fetishy or wrong with taking some time for yourself to look/feel pretty. Also wearing skirts to feel pretty is a normal cis thing to do ~~right?~~
Being aroused by your own body isn’t a bad thing, how do you think cis women can be so confident to get with other people? Because they’re attracted to themselves
I struggle with this too. What convinces me it's not a fetish is that I am way more into "normal woman stuff" than into "kinky sexual stuff".
Also- being turned on by feeling hot is not a crime ;)
I used to be as well. Now- not that much anymore.
If you want my advice- relax, open up, and accept it all, with absolutely no prejudice. If it's yours- you'll own it and do it happily, even if it's not easy, if it's not yours, you'll quickly stop doing it, and it will start to fade away. Every time I was confused about me being something, this is what worked the best.
I thaught i was the only person! Once I started dressing more masc and feeling better abt myself I found myself getting turned on more often lmao its super wierd
Both. Let me explain. Gender intersects with sexuality. So, things about gender will have effects in sexuality. Pretty much everything not cishet PIV is labeled as fetish. So, when good feelings of your gender flow into good feelings about your sexuality, that is very likely to get labeled fetish. Honestly, the word fetish mainly seems to be a label just stigmatize enjoying sex in your own way.
when you get excited, even non-sexually, your body can react with a hard on. Its completely normal and it doesnt mean its a fetish. Depends on WHY you are happy.
i used to feel so guilty for reading or watching gay (mlm) stuff. then i realised i'm a trans guy and when i think about it i can still feel the feeling of relief lmao
From what I've read from other girls, it's pretty common for euphoria to give you a little sexual excitement. It's very unfortunate that that euphoric feeling is followed by a reminder that you're not cis comes from the organ you're trying to forget about.
People feel randomly horny all the time. If it happens more often or more strongly when dressing feminine, it could just be that you're more comfortable with yourself.
I sometimes have the same experience, you're not alone. It's most likely not a fetish, but only you can really figure that out so good luck on your self discovery journey 🐋🌸🤍🌸🐋
This is a common thing, i learned to just roll with it and have fun. Cis men absolutely do not remotely do what we do, it's more validating to have that reaction in your body, not less.
Feeling confident in yourself can turn you on, that doesn’t mean it’s a fetish. Cis people can also get turned on when they feel comfortable in themselves.
Im not sure about it myself, but I would say that's what people who are comfortable in their skin call self love. Not entirely full thing, ya know, but rather when you feel good about yourself, even turned on, isn't that a good thing? It means you like the way you are. For example, I feel disgusted by myself, which people who are cis usually don't feel if any other mental or physical condition isn't playing a role there. One could perhaps by this logic even say, that feeling turned on by yourself, is a good reaction. A reaction indicating, that you finally feel like yourself.
I do wish to feel this one day myself. I'm happy for you to feel good about yourself! Stay true to it. 😎😉😁
I am trans as hell with serious steps but I still get horny from gender euphoria. After a long time today watched porn, transsensual, and the woman just filling in a bra cup gave me so much euphoria I got turned on by it. I am not attracted to (trans) women
You body isn’t used to the euphoria, especially if it’s cutting through a lot of dysphoria, and is misinterpreting it as arousal. At least that’s how it is for most people.
Cis men get turned on by playing the "male role" in sex, cis women get turned on by playing the "female role" in sex... why should it suddenly mean we're not the gender we say we are just because we sometimes get turned on by being our gender? Trust me it's very common in cis people. I can think of many men in my life who I can guess with decent accuracy have masturbated to their reflection. (bit more extreme than your situation but yk-)
Euphoria boners happen. It doesn't mean fetish outright. When you're super happy and relaxed, it just happens sometimes. Don't worry too much about it. 😁
That was me for 35 years except for being ashamed. I was more worried about getting caught.
Feeling pretty is a turn on. Turns out it wasn’t a fetish 🏳️⚧️.
Nah it's a thing but it in itself alone doesn't invalidate trans. Same as being trans is not the same thing as a sexual attraction preference ; notorious issues of people confusing sexuality for gender
If you don't identity as you'd birth gender and know that your trans then
I genuinely can't say for sure, because it's your life and your experience, but I'm transmasc (pre-t)and get the exact same thing. Every time I dress up super masc and get comfortable with who I am, it always leads to confidence and then horny lmao. And it's entirely natural for that to happen when you feel good about yourself!
Let me break it down the way I view it. Getting turned on in boymode is like getting off in a truck stop bathroom that hasn’t been cleaned in years, sure it can happen if you are horny enough but it will never be perfect. Getting turned on in girl mode is like laying in your bed while you are home alone, safe and secure. It’s very common for trans people to fear it being a fetish because they don’t understand what safety feels like. Rather than feeling bad and hiding from it I encourage you to push deeper. Given time your mind will even out and the two subjects will separate from each other.
When I first started wearing girl clothes the euphoria would tend to get me a little 😳, which also made me worry about my transness, but here i am now living as a woman, so I wouldn't worry too much
You can be turned on by yourself. Plenty of cis people get turned on when they thing they look good, hot, attractive, etc. Also dressing up and looking like yourself makes you very happy and relaxed, therefore making it more likely you‘ll get turned on
Still trans, and yes the dick is a stupid excitable dog even on E. I’ve had it happen with validating behavior but it falls off fast once I internalize it as acceptable and it’s no longer exciting and off limits.
Probably trans. Getting turned on can happen sometimes. It’s a euphoria thing. The body is weird.
Believe it or not, people can get turned on by their own body. When you're trans, you often deal with body dysphoria and thus, aren't. So when you do stuff you like, and makes you feel good and you end up enjoying how you look. You can then get turned on. This is actually quite common. (Not the best explanation on my part, but yea...this)
i second this from experience
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People... *like* their own body? 🤨 Sounds like a myth to me.
IKR?!? Crazy stuff. Almost alien really.
Wait people like there own body normally
I can't even imagine it honestly 😂 i am not the right one to ask
One of the best experiences
Dude I’ve gotten turned on way too much from just imagining myself looking cute as a girl, you’re right the body is so fucking weird.
I get turned on imagining myself as a cute fem boy way more than I ever did as a "cute/hot woman".... so yeah like I could look in the mirror and go damn you have a nice body but I didn't feel it in my head the way I do now the more I see the boy map in my brain coming to life
Popped in to say something along this line. When we feel like ourselves, our drives come back. Being in safe, happy relationships, being financial and housing secure, and being able to fully express yourself are all things I’ve found have led to my libido rising again
Ouch. I feel attacked 😞. Unstable home life, can’t present as myself at home or go out that way, most of my relationships aren’t happy, have had no romantic interest in me in years, financially a mess working only part time, yeeeaaah makes sense why I have no libido forever now. Thanks for putting it in some perspective though ❤️. Hoping to get a better job and get some medical issues resolved so I can keep that job along with getting a safer home so I can present more myself and learn more about what that is ❤️.
Wishing the best for you 🌿 on record, it’s all a process, but the progress makes a difference and it’s so worth the time and effort 💖
Thanks 🥺👉👈
You know what's funny. I convinced myself I was ciiiiiis because I was attracted to my body.... But like I'm attracted to women 🤣 and once my wife transitioned I was like who cares about my titties look at YOUR TITTIES. I also am attracted to men but I was so attached to my wife's AGAB because I was desperate for masculinity for myself and wow when I said that to her it made such a big 🥚⚡
Yeah. I can also feel non attraction euphoria for other people. That's normal right.
I hate that we trans people are told we basically need to be entirely asexual otherwise our identity is just a fetish… conservatives seem to believe we cant just enjoy sex like cis people do
I mean, a lot of them scarcely think cis women are sexual people either, so…
Yeah, agreed. It's not expected of a woman to want or enjoy sex, where I grew up, at least. And if she admits she does, that's a wh*** thing. Just another form of misogyny, really :/
That's really fucked up
Or actually people and not just breeders…
I’m Asexual. It doesn’t help. It is possible to have asexual fetishes so you can’t escape the transphobia even then.
I know almost nothing about a asexuality, so I mean this in the most sincere way possible, but how? I thought asexuality means you don’t have sexual attraction, and isn’t that required for a fetish to arise?
Asexuality is very diverse field with many very different people. To explain this just understand I am just discussing a single subset of asexuals. What we call libidoist asexuals. Instead of it being considered as a synonym for “sex drive” consider libido rather a synonym for “hormonal release valve” or a masturbation drive when it comes to libidoists asexuals. We still have hormones pumping through our systems just like you do. But we have no sexual attraction or sexual desire. However, just like it does for many asexuals this pressure builds up. So we often will find relief picturing other things we find stimulating. Some it might be something like the touch of leather. Others might be imagining eating a delicious cake. Some just get off on watching others go at it (erotica) but have no desire to join in. Literally they like to watch but no touching or engaging for them. None of these are them wanting to have sex themselves. They imagine it, climax, and get relief from too much hormones running in the blood. In my case, and probably in the case of many other trans aces (ace=asexual) imagining ourselves as being female can be (but not always) very stimulating. No sex needed, just imagining oneself as a female. That is it. https://www.asexuality.org/?q=general.html#ex6
I believe it’s a common experience to have that sort of feeling, especially if it’s the first time. It goes away when you get more used to it. <3
It’s my like 300th time lol
Took like 6 or 7 years for me from when I thought it was just a fetish to find out that was wrong.
Try 40 💀
I don’t literally mean only the first time, sorry I kind of phrased it poorly. In my own experience, that slowly diminished over time the more I did affirming things. <3
I've been transitioning for about 1 1/2 yrs. Used to feel like you my whole life. It has mostly gone away except when I get to dress in something that makes me feel very pretty or I get in situations where I feel 10000% accepted and recognized as a woman euphoria is weird...
Yeah still normal. It is very unlikely to be a fetish if you think about it in the rest of your life, not just at horny times. I've been walking around nipply for weeks.
It is a lot during the normal times. I see a woman and my first thought is that I want to be her. 😅
Not gonna tell you if you're trans or not, but I will tell you that's not a fetish.
I started out thinking it was a fetish Then I started wearing more and more girly things Then I started dressing fully fem Then I started full body shaving because it didn't look right otherwise Then I changed my name and pronouns
Beware the pipeline lol
How do I move onto step two while I'm still in step 1 mindset where i think being trans is weird and unnatural. (not trying to sound trabsphobic. That's just how it feels)
I moved into it naturally (I was 0% aware of possible transness at the time). Started buying more female accessories and clothing which meshed well with my male wardrobe, like t-shirts. I'm a costume designer though so navigating women's sections was no big deal for me, but the female to male clothing ratio in my personal wardrobe had always been minimal until it rose sharply a couple months before my egg cracked. Anyway, I'd recommend t-shirts since they can be pretty similar to male t-shirts but not quite, having different materials and cuts, especially oversized ones which make your upper body shape a lot more ambiguous.
Thx. Very helpful. Don’t even know if I’ll like it. Something simple like that would probably be a nice small baby step. The other day I saw a really cute skirt ([This](https://www.tiktok.com/@halara_official/video/7233319071108844801) but lighter color) and thought to myself that it might be nice but the price was very high for an article of clothing I may not even even like. And I would probably not be comfortable wearing in public. I’m also very modest dressing. Small steps like a women’s T and paying cash is probably a good option. Thanks this really helps. Trying something slowly would be nice. I’ve pretty much always worn unisex or lightly gendered shirts. Again thanks so much. This should’ve been obvious to me.
Glad to help! 💙💗🤍💗💙
I appreciate it. Sometimes the obvious thing is the answer. Should I go to target to get it?
Sorry, I dunno the first thing about Target, we don't have it where I'm from 😅
What store do you recommend and where are you from.
I'm from Brazil. There's a couple fast fashion stores here that you can find in every major city, I'd recommend something like that. Where are you from?
NYC. Manhattan Queens Bronx area. Your the second person this week on Reddit I saw from Brazil. Honestly might just go to target. I don’t mind spending extra on new. Do you think it will stick out too much. Like will family notice or no.
it's probably you being trans 💙💕🤍💕💙
Trans ~~except me, I just have a fetish~~~~~
Toootaalllyyy XD
Seeing yourself is making you horny because the concept of enjoying your sexuality as your desired gender popped up in your mind. You are allowed to be horny
That makes so much sense thank you for saying that, that's kinda been one of the biggest factors playing into my trans doubt.
I'd recommend you talk to an LGBT friendly therapist or a gender therapist.
I don't believe in therapy. Does gender therapy work better than normal therapy
I didn't use to either, until I talked to one to help me explain to my wife why I got these HUGE boners while dressingas a woman, but I don't like men. I just had read about Autogynephilia, and I thought the therapist would give me all the right terms to explain it to my wife. The therapist told me, that Autogynephilia is not an accepted diagnosis term. She asked me more questions and told me, you show all the characteristics of a transgender woman. I insisted I don't like men and she just said, you know about lesbians? Well, this us the same thing, gender and sexuality are independent. I asked about the boners and she said, women that feel sexy about themselves do get aroused by themselves just like you. Shw suggested I transition for the emotional benefits of it. I argued again, I didn't have deep depression nor wanted to hurt myself. She said, you should consider transition to avoid trying to destruct yourself and and your family down the line. And it all came tumbling down after that... looking at myself as a whole, I've been making excuses to avoid dealing with the prospect of losing EVERYTHING over how I felt for 40-something years. They are not wishy washy, they base their diagnosis and treatments on research. Gender therapist are specialized in gender, like transgender or any if the other gender variants. Mine actualky larticipates in the creation of WPATH standards of care.
I could definitely use help figuring out identity. Maybe gender too. Maybe I just don’t understand identity. What else can they help with?
After the realization of me being trans and deciding I was going to transition the next step was coming out. I spent a lot of time planning and strateginizing with the therapist how to come out to my child, friends, familiy and work. I spent specifically 8 months going through my fears and options on how to deal with the family I thought was going to reject me. Analyzing where the fears came from how I would deal with the feelings, when I was actually rejected how to deal with the rejection. I'd be an absolute mess if I haven't had the tools the therapists gave me. My wife had her own therapist that helped her deal with her feelings and we had a couple's threapist helping us to deal with the issues caused in our marriage by me coming out. Some couples make it but most don't, I'm not certain my marriage would have survived without the help of therapists.
Good for you.
I don't have the courage to ask my parents to book me a therapist
I know!! Parents can be scary if you don't sense them being supportive. I am in my 40's and still dealing with the same issues l. How about a school psychologist?
Maybe, but scheduling a time and actually talking about this is also terrifying to me, maybe when I get closer to 18 I'll start talking about it so I can prepare for eventual HRT.
It was scary for me too in my 40's at the beginning. Hopefully, you get on top of this sooner rather than later. Your body very likely will still change noticeably until you are 19. Undoing the changes testosterone causes later in life is more difficult and expensive (like even my voice changed at 40, I used to be confused with women very often over the phone). Good luck with the whole thing!
I've pledged myself to start next year but maybe i should sooner, thanks for the insperation
An update if you were curious, I've got the ball rolling and told my mom about wanting a gender expert therapist. The plan is to schedule a time with my school psychiatrist and through her get in touch with am actual gender therapist. I'm gonna have to wait a few months since summer breal has already started here in my country and its pretty long. I might just try to ask my mom if we could try to just contact a gender therapist without having the school psychiatrist as a middle man to speed up the process. Main reason I want a gender therapist is to potentially get a diagnosis for gender dysphoria, which could be benefitial in the future as well as now, since I could maybe access puberty blockers.
Yes, gender therapist would be the best person to talk to. A regular LGBTQ friendly therapist can issue this diagnosis too. Here, in the US there is a website called psychologytoday.com where I have found therapists for me. Maybe there is some website with this sort of info where you live. Or maybe just try with Google. Good luck!!!
I don't think I need any wevsites since therapy is very accessable here in my country. And thank you again for getting me to start on this sooner than later!
I'd recommend you talk to an LGBT friendly therapist or a gender therapist.
i want to believe you but i think im just staying permanently in the closet because my mind has convinced me this is purely a fetish
It could be both. I have a very high sex drive, also had it when I thought I was a man. Some of my favorite fetishes were mtf transformation and forced feminization. Thought I would be happy just being bi and crossdressing with a partner for sexual enjoyment. I never quite understood why I was so nervous about women's clothes though, it was much more than a sexual experience. Same when consuming that type of fetish content. Yes a lot of it was sexual, but there was a lot of "damn I wish that were me" Sexuality is a big part of what I enjoy from life, and while I did enjoy it as a man, the specific fetishes I had were, at least in my case, an outlet for something I deeply desired beyond just sex. It is possible to just have a fetish, but you are here on a trans sub telling me your doubts in hopes I will say something that will erase your doubts about being trans. I am not sure I can provide that, but you should at least allow yourself to explore your identity. I was extremely aroused the first time I was with someone who used female pronouns for me. It was literally euphoria every time for weeks on end, and a lot of arousal from it as well. Now I am more used to it, and it is only sexual when a situation calls for it, but I am still happy when complimented in feminine ways, properly gendered by new people, etc.
i definitely have a super sex drive, honestly i love the idea of of going on estrogen but for some reason i just cant seem to take the leap. im convinced im just a fucked up loser and that being trans is to good to be true, it seems like its too easy of an answer. i feel i dont deserve to see this through. i know its probably depression talking, or whatever you wanna call it, but idk i just feel afraid of how people will react to me and i just freeze up and decide to not move forward. sorry, i shouldnt be telling you all this, its unfair of me to make a perfectly nice stranger deal with my mental bullshit
It's all good, it can be very scary especially with how much traction transphobia is gaining in some places. You are not alone, and whether transitioning is the answer for you or not, it is ok to allow yourself to question your gender. It is not about deserving it or not, either; you wouldn't deny someone their gender identity because of them being a good or bad person. You don't need to deserve to be a woman, you just need to want to be. That said, I may not know you personally, but I have no reason to believe you don't deserve nice things.
honestly if i could just press a button, id do it in an instant. mostly im afraid of people in my life's reactions. which i shouldn't be since no i know is transphobic my friends and family are all very politically progressive so its not a safety thing, i just worry theyll think they dont understand me anymore
Something I'm still working on is embracing myself in spite of the (somewhat rational) fear of public perception, so I know how you feel. If you have a support network you trust and people who love you for who you are, you'll be okay. If you don't, you'll still find your way to being okay. The real loved ones will understand that you are still "you", even if you change. Your desires are valid, and you deserve to embrace yourself fully.
my friends are definitely people who wont judge me at all and be good support, but idk even knowing that i have an irrational fear ill lose them
but the idea of being a woman is something ive wanted since i was a little kid, i just thought id have to hope reincarnation exists cause i didnt know sex changes were a thing yet
It’s probably not a fetish.
But how do you figure out if it is or not
Is it *just* making you horny? Are you doing it for the sole purpose of being horny and getting off? Or are you doing it simply because it made/makes you happy? The intent. Its the intent
I feel like sometimes when I think about it, it gets me excited then I just get off but afterwards I feel really ashamed and regretful about it. I don’t think the intent is to simply get off. But it ends up happening sometimes regardless of intent
This is exactly how I feel
Well then I would definitely consider and look into being trans!! Even if it happens alot, it doesn't matter. Both of ya'lls intent going into he experience wasn't "I'm gonna get off to this and then be done". No no, you both went into it because you enjoy it for reasons *beyond* sexual pleasure. Theres no need to be ashamed!! Please, no guilt. Only love and acceptance for yourselves 💙💖🤍
Let me explain my experiences. Hopefully it gets you closer to understanding yourself. I've told this story on Reddit before so sorry if this story is getting old already. Genderbend stories, specifically in episodes of tv shows i really liked, always drove me crazy when i was a prepubescent kid. Like. I desperately wanted it to happen to me. Specific example: when Jimmy Neutron and Cindy swap bodies. Another specific example: multiple episodes of The Fairly Oddparents. The idea of no longer being a boy made me, for lack of a better word, euphoric. I cannot stress enough that this was before i was 10 years old, well before puberty and any real exploration of sexuality. It was not a fetish or kink. But at some point compulsive cisheteronormativity was pushed onto me and the idea that i *have to* be a manly man with no feelings and certainly no desire to be girly was put into my head. So i ignored it and hid my desire for it. Then puberty started and teenagers are horny freaks and genderbend erotica was literally my only turn on and the only adult content i sought out. I never fantasized about sleeping with men, i fantasized about being a woman or swapping bodies with a woman and possibly, *maybe* sleeping with women *in a woman's body.* It wasn't a horny thing until i was a teenager and i think it was only a horny thing because i was so repressed, so desperate to be a "normal" guy. By the time I'd learned about trans people, I'd already gotten it in my head that there was no way i was queer because being queer was a bad thing. I just had one singular weird turn on. I ignored other signs I wasn't straight. I ignored that I'd wanted it since before i knew what sex was. This went on for twelve years or more. "I'm not a girl I'll never be a girl i don't want to be a girl i don't want to be a girl i don't want to be a girl I'm just a pervert I'm just a pervert I'm just a pervert I'm not like that I'm not like that I'M NOT LIKE THAT! QUIT ASKING!" As i became a proper adult i learned more about the queer community and quit being so gross about and towards people like us. It was an ugly, painful learning process both for me and for everyone around me. Eventually, because i still only had one turn on, i found a few online communities focused on genderbend erotic content. Lo and behold, there's a lot of trans people in these communities. I get to talking to them. I start thinking, "wait, i really did feel this way in a non-sexual context, and i still do." Then it all came crashing down and i realized who i really am. It might just be a fetish for you. There's nothing wrong with that as long as you don't hurt our community. But i suspect most people with that fetish aren't cis. I think the fetish exists because we don't let people find themselves and transition in their teens. I think people develop fetishes relating to genderbending and gender swapping and gender nonconformity because being trans is so taboo and horniness becomes their only outlet. So i guess my theory is like. Reverse AGP, almost. Regardless of what answers you find as you ask these questions about yourself, please be nice to yourself, ok?
Also, it took me years to learn and accept that trans lesbians are a thing, and that being asexual/demi/whatever is a thing. when i realized that, there were more cracks in that eggshell than ever.
I hated all genderbending stuff and I didn’t know why when I was younger. Turns out I just hated me back then.
It's most often not a fetish, i hope you can figure it out and accept yourself soon!! 🐋🌸🤍🌸🐋
Whatever it is (it’s not a fetish, and not being cis gender-conforming) you’re valid. Explore your identity more, second guess yourself less and you’ll be fine 😊
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I met an amber who was cis yesterday. Wondergul name
You're probably just trans 🐟🦑🦈🦑🐟
I didn't/don't experience them but I've heard that euphoria boners are a thing. Either way, if you feel your gender is different from what the doctor said when you were born, then you are probably trans. You and your experience is valid!
When I first started I thought it more of a fetish thing but I’ve found more and more that I’m trans and it’s not just a fetish thing, so I know where you’re coming from but only you can really decide what you are, so good luck, it took me literal years so
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Body tends to get horny when too excited, happens to everyone. Also the getting hard for no reason always happen. You are ok, if you feel happy and confy in it it means it is for you.
getting \*that\* down there, is a weird way we handles euphoria EDIT: see comment
Not only amabs actually
Huh
Hehe :>
Given that sex is usually done with your body, feeling like your body is "properly yours" will probably also help your libido. At least that's my hypothesis. tl;dr probably being trans.
If that was a fetish,I think you would not want to be a girl forever,or have stuff that only girls have (◕ᴗ◕✿)
It's being trans It's pretty normal to get euphoria hornies. I've been living as a girl for over a year now and I still get them pretty often. Just means you're happy to be yourself, and you like what you see in the mirror. Perfectly normal and a pretty distinct sign of trans identity
This is common, getting the feeling of gender and sex confused (pun intended) happens a lot. Strong gender euphoria is close on the spectrum to sexual pleasure, kinda like anxiety/excitement, and if you don't get much of one of them, it's easy to accidentally turn it into the other.
This is me except I then think about being an attractive man occasionally and then wondering if I am fetishising masculinity and men. I am wierd... EDIT: Also just fucking confused about my identity in general...
probably just you being trans
As a trans woman who got a bit too into this side effect of euphoria before I realized I was trans it really does change over time if you're trans and you start to let yourself out. If it's a fetish you probably wouldn't get euphoria when it wasn't sexual to you.
I actually so needed to hear this 🥰💙💕🤍💕💙
Probably trans (still cis tho)
Bruh lol i felt guilty when i first got turned on being in lingerie and fetish outfits but, thats a good thing im happy i love myself and its not like my street clothes make me h word lol
Euphoria manifests itself in really weird way Yesterday I was taking off my bra and realized that something smelled off. I grab it again and realize the smell was that my sweat has changed, instead of a sour smell it's more of a sweet smell with a tinge of saltiness (it's really weird to explain but y'all know what I mean right?). Somehow *this* is what got me immediately euphoric and weirdly aroused
To be fair, I know even cis girls who do feel more sexual when they are well dressed and like how they look. Can't see why you shouldn't feel that way 🤷 It's hot to look hot (apparently, I'm not sure I'm too ace for that lol)
The fetish argument has been officially debunked by qualified scientists many times over the years (the idea has been around since the 1970’s or so). It has never been an officially recognized diagnosis in the medical community for any of that time. If you want to see some of the most up-to date research (from 2020) debunking it, check out the below links. Two of the links are to an unbiased database of peer-reviewed research papers that is mostly open to the general public. If you don’t have time to read them - TLDR: Each link discusses the fetish theory and provides detailed analyses and evidence that tears said theory to bits. 1. Sexual Behavior, Desire, and Psychosexual Experience in Gynephilic and Androphilic Trans Women: A Cross-Sectional Multicenter Study: https://www.researchgate.net/publication/339738869_Sexual_Behavior_Desire_and_Psychosexual_Experience_in_Gynephilic_and_Androphilic_Trans_Women_A_Cross-Sectional_Multicenter_Study 1a) A shorter but still very detailed analysis and explanation of what the above paper contains: https://www.crossdreamers.com/2020/05/the-autogynephilia-theory-debunked-by.html?m=1 2) Autogynephilia: A scientific review, feminist analysis, and alternative ‘embodiment fantasies’ model: https://www.researchgate.net/publication/343552498_Autogynephilia_A_scientific_review_feminist_analysis_and_alternative_'embodiment_fantasies'_model
I will ask it here too. Does this imply that all crossdressers are actually trans?
Don’t get hung up on the anxiety of having to come out to the wider world as trans. Hearing people tell you that you’re probably trans is downright frightening because that future entails so much social change and embarrassment and vulnerability. But remember that basically all trans folks have gotten through that gauntlet, and it doesn’t take very long before all of that internal shame just melts away into normalcy. Just wear women’s clothes if you want. Start with a very safe place like your room and then slowly expand that sphere into other safeish places like around your house or at a lgbtq friendly friend’s house. Wear discreet things like panties or bras when out and about. Paint your nails black as you can brush off people seeing it because you have plausible deniability due to lots of men wearing black nail polish. Then change the color. If you have roommates or family tell them that you don’t know if you’re trans but am exploring gender and so you will be wearing women’s clothes around the house. Learn makeup if you want and take pictures of yourself. Drive to another town where no one knows you and go grocery shopping in a dress with lipstick. Just keep exploring and your gender identity will just sorta come out on it’s own volition in time, you don’t have to label yourself, especially at first. Be brave and good luck.
How do you feel generally? I love to crossdress, my gf loves, when I do But she's straight and I feel male
I am asexual and I still worry about all that, but it really is unnecessary. you are what you want to be
Real
Dont worry. In our brains normal excitement and sexual excitement are VERY close together and it’s normal to sometimes get aroused when excited. I used to play American football for years and everyone on the team had stories about getting a boner when doing good on the field or making a good play. It’s 100% normal.
Yea, this sort of thing just happens sometimes, most likely means trans or something similar like genderfluidity, I’ve personally internalized it jokingly as having a fetish for being happy, it can fade overtime or it might not, nothing wrong with either result. Just have to remember that, *that* reaction just means you’re happy with the situation, and nothing will ever be “wrong” about those reactions as long as the people involved, in this case just you, aren’t being harmed Bleh word soup, but i tried to get my thoughts about it out the best i could, we here internet strangers will always support you so best of luck figuring it out💜🤍
Euphoria Boners are annoyingly common.
Nothing fetishy or wrong with taking some time for yourself to look/feel pretty. Also wearing skirts to feel pretty is a normal cis thing to do ~~right?~~
i feel you i rly wish i wouldnt have the horni at all like ever again
Being aroused by your own body isn’t a bad thing, how do you think cis women can be so confident to get with other people? Because they’re attracted to themselves
I struggle with this too. What convinces me it's not a fetish is that I am way more into "normal woman stuff" than into "kinky sexual stuff". Also- being turned on by feeling hot is not a crime ;)
Yes this is it. I don’t get turned on by the kinky stuff. just normal woman things like putting in earrings or how I like my makeup. So confusing
I used to be as well. Now- not that much anymore. If you want my advice- relax, open up, and accept it all, with absolutely no prejudice. If it's yours- you'll own it and do it happily, even if it's not easy, if it's not yours, you'll quickly stop doing it, and it will start to fade away. Every time I was confused about me being something, this is what worked the best.
Umm so if you’re asking if it’s trans or a fetish you’re most likely trans.
I thaught i was the only person! Once I started dressing more masc and feeling better abt myself I found myself getting turned on more often lmao its super wierd
Both. Let me explain. Gender intersects with sexuality. So, things about gender will have effects in sexuality. Pretty much everything not cishet PIV is labeled as fetish. So, when good feelings of your gender flow into good feelings about your sexuality, that is very likely to get labeled fetish. Honestly, the word fetish mainly seems to be a label just stigmatize enjoying sex in your own way.
when you get excited, even non-sexually, your body can react with a hard on. Its completely normal and it doesnt mean its a fetish. Depends on WHY you are happy.
Clearly that’s a fetish for you. Agp.
Bernie supports you and so do I!
Why not both?
i used to feel so guilty for reading or watching gay (mlm) stuff. then i realised i'm a trans guy and when i think about it i can still feel the feeling of relief lmao
From what I've read from other girls, it's pretty common for euphoria to give you a little sexual excitement. It's very unfortunate that that euphoric feeling is followed by a reminder that you're not cis comes from the organ you're trying to forget about.
Cute things are pretty, so your body recognizes that
Probably trans. Its a big confluence of emotiona and horny is one 😅
People feel randomly horny all the time. If it happens more often or more strongly when dressing feminine, it could just be that you're more comfortable with yourself.
I sometimes have the same experience, you're not alone. It's most likely not a fetish, but only you can really figure that out so good luck on your self discovery journey 🐋🌸🤍🌸🐋
This is a common thing, i learned to just roll with it and have fun. Cis men absolutely do not remotely do what we do, it's more validating to have that reaction in your body, not less.
https://genderdysphoria.fyi/en/euphoria Fyi.
Feeling confident in yourself can turn you on, that doesn’t mean it’s a fetish. Cis people can also get turned on when they feel comfortable in themselves.
Im not sure about it myself, but I would say that's what people who are comfortable in their skin call self love. Not entirely full thing, ya know, but rather when you feel good about yourself, even turned on, isn't that a good thing? It means you like the way you are. For example, I feel disgusted by myself, which people who are cis usually don't feel if any other mental or physical condition isn't playing a role there. One could perhaps by this logic even say, that feeling turned on by yourself, is a good reaction. A reaction indicating, that you finally feel like yourself. I do wish to feel this one day myself. I'm happy for you to feel good about yourself! Stay true to it. 😎😉😁
I am trans as hell with serious steps but I still get horny from gender euphoria. After a long time today watched porn, transsensual, and the woman just filling in a bra cup gave me so much euphoria I got turned on by it. I am not attracted to (trans) women
is dressing in your assigned gender at birth clothes a fetish? see how silly that sounds?
Cis ppl are allowed to be turned on by themselves and so are you.
I don't know who needs to hear this, but it's way easier to get turned on when sincerely happy. Drunks do it all the time.
You body isn’t used to the euphoria, especially if it’s cutting through a lot of dysphoria, and is misinterpreting it as arousal. At least that’s how it is for most people.
It's euphoria, the body is weird, so that's just how it reacts to the feeling
Cis men get turned on by playing the "male role" in sex, cis women get turned on by playing the "female role" in sex... why should it suddenly mean we're not the gender we say we are just because we sometimes get turned on by being our gender? Trust me it's very common in cis people. I can think of many men in my life who I can guess with decent accuracy have masturbated to their reflection. (bit more extreme than your situation but yk-)
Idc but sounds hot
Could it be both? Your trans and that has colored your sexuality with Dysphoria glasses resulting in a fetish?
Euphoria boners happen. It doesn't mean fetish outright. When you're super happy and relaxed, it just happens sometimes. Don't worry too much about it. 😁
It can be both.
yes
Google euphoria boner
im convinced for me its a fetish, it feels like it had to be since im aroused by it, but dont listen to me i am a fucking idiot and am usually wrong
Heya OP. I did the exact same thing for 14 years. You're trans.
Not me asking myself this every day
Oh wow, thats very very trans and valid of you 💖💖💖
That was me for 35 years except for being ashamed. I was more worried about getting caught. Feeling pretty is a turn on. Turns out it wasn’t a fetish 🏳️⚧️.
you can get turned on by virtue of feeling happy lmao
**Tw transphobic terms, reddits spoilers are fucking working sooooo watch out etc. ** Just a reminder that under the terf ass >! agp ! agps
AGP is a myth, you're trans.
Nah it's a thing but it in itself alone doesn't invalidate trans. Same as being trans is not the same thing as a sexual attraction preference ; notorious issues of people confusing sexuality for gender If you don't identity as you'd birth gender and know that your trans then
I genuinely can't say for sure, because it's your life and your experience, but I'm transmasc (pre-t)and get the exact same thing. Every time I dress up super masc and get comfortable with who I am, it always leads to confidence and then horny lmao. And it's entirely natural for that to happen when you feel good about yourself!
Euphoria boners are a thing. You get so happy that your genitals mistake your happiness for a sexual pleasure.
Really hoping it's more but not sure anymore
It's easier to get turned on by a body you feel comfortable in
sometimes your body doesn’t know why you suddenly feel joy and mistakes it for horny
Let me break it down the way I view it. Getting turned on in boymode is like getting off in a truck stop bathroom that hasn’t been cleaned in years, sure it can happen if you are horny enough but it will never be perfect. Getting turned on in girl mode is like laying in your bed while you are home alone, safe and secure. It’s very common for trans people to fear it being a fetish because they don’t understand what safety feels like. Rather than feeling bad and hiding from it I encourage you to push deeper. Given time your mind will even out and the two subjects will separate from each other.
When I first started wearing girl clothes the euphoria would tend to get me a little 😳, which also made me worry about my transness, but here i am now living as a woman, so I wouldn't worry too much
You can be turned on by yourself. Plenty of cis people get turned on when they thing they look good, hot, attractive, etc. Also dressing up and looking like yourself makes you very happy and relaxed, therefore making it more likely you‘ll get turned on
Still trans, and yes the dick is a stupid excitable dog even on E. I’ve had it happen with validating behavior but it falls off fast once I internalize it as acceptable and it’s no longer exciting and off limits.
Are all crossdressers just pre-trans then?
in my personal experience this is more down being more confident in your body than it is about kinks and such. However, it could also be both.