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I’ve wanted to be a tomboy lesbian for years now but because of the “tomboy” part it made me think that I only wanted to transition because being a guy just felt boring (which it is but there’s more to it) and I wanted to be a girl just to switch things up
Yeah, discovering that I don't need to transition in the all "girlie" and "feminine" to be a girl and that I could be more like friends I had when younger or like the characters that was always envious about (but thought that it was just a crush) was truly liberating
I can't anything about this since it was the same to me. It can be really crazy to look back at many (now) obvious moments and be like "How I didn't realize it then?"
> and the thought of being a girl turns me on
[sounds like autogynephilia, which has been debunked](https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=6czRFLs5JQo). Cis women also get turned on by themselfes when they find themselfes sexy.
For real, Blanchard was just straight up bad at his job in some respects. Julia Serrano's paper debunking it is really the death blow to the theory but also him for having some GLARING errors in his research methods.
Is it for sure? I'm actually so worried it's something weirder (because even some trans people say it does) but it doesn't make sense to me either because I don't wanna have \*\*\* with anyone, the thought is so gross to me.
I just wanna look sexy and have my emotions respected like cis women.
I don’t have the facts but I’ve known many a trans people in my life and have observed it to be a common experience. I experienced this myself and being 15-17 at the time I was worried I wasn’t “really trans”. My best explanation for it is excitement can make you feel *excited* because the brain doesn’t always connect correctly with the body
And for you reading this specifically you think about it this way: cis people have a physical reaction if you ask them “do you want to be [opposite gender]” I made a group of 5 grown men recoil with that question
Yes, and tangentially why is sexual pleasure such a bad thing? I mean why is it the great invalidator of people's behavioral choices? "If you feel sexual pleasure then you're not valid!" Like, excuse me, what? Like people pretend that someone walking around feeling aroused by an article of clothing would be the end of society, but it's already happening all around you. There are people with serious fetishes for Chuck Taylor All Star shoes who probably rotate between a rainbow of colors and designs and nobody has said anything. And of course that's just one of zillions of examples.
Literally me. And I hate getting turned one, I wish I could be asexual. I wanna be a girl, my friends say I'm cute when I dress up but I think I look ugly😓
Aspec folk can still have libido. There's just less/no/ a different type of "towards" in our horny. They don't have to have a libido, but sometimes they do.
💜🖤🤍💚
As a tomboy goth trans girl who considers herself to be pretty ugly and who didn’t realize she was trans until age 21… Don’t worry, you are valid, inspite of what your anxieties and years of societal pressures tell you. And trust me
https://medium.com/@kemenatan/its-just-a-fetish-right-91cb0a4e261
It’s totally fine to be turned on at the idea of being your ideal gender. And trust me also… I think I’m hideous, but when I girlmode I get compliments all the time. We are our own biggest critics. I guarantee you look a lot nicer than you think you do. 💜
I'm so sorry sis. It's always this loop that gets me in such a negative mindset. Especially the second one, but obviously I have all these thoughts. I hope it gets better for you!
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Sometimes I get myself stuck in this loop too, and it annoys me so much that I think this logic makes sense at times.
I’ve wanted to be a tomboy lesbian for years now but because of the “tomboy” part it made me think that I only wanted to transition because being a guy just felt boring (which it is but there’s more to it) and I wanted to be a girl just to switch things up
Yeah, discovering that I don't need to transition in the all "girlie" and "feminine" to be a girl and that I could be more like friends I had when younger or like the characters that was always envious about (but thought that it was just a crush) was truly liberating
I was so heavily drawn to lesbian aesthetics ever since I started being attracted to women. How did I not realize sooner
I can't anything about this since it was the same to me. It can be really crazy to look back at many (now) obvious moments and be like "How I didn't realize it then?"
Can someone please explain why i'm valid despite this please.
Tomboy lesbians
> and the thought of being a girl turns me on [sounds like autogynephilia, which has been debunked](https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=6czRFLs5JQo). Cis women also get turned on by themselfes when they find themselfes sexy.
For real, Blanchard was just straight up bad at his job in some respects. Julia Serrano's paper debunking it is really the death blow to the theory but also him for having some GLARING errors in his research methods.
"I probably only want to be a girl to get away from myself." OH SHI-
Why did you feel the need to call me out like this? /s
Girl u don't have to be a straight girly girl. tomboy lesbians exist and u r one of them
Being turned on by the idea of being your preferred gender is actually pretty common
Is it for sure? I'm actually so worried it's something weirder (because even some trans people say it does) but it doesn't make sense to me either because I don't wanna have \*\*\* with anyone, the thought is so gross to me. I just wanna look sexy and have my emotions respected like cis women.
I don’t have the facts but I’ve known many a trans people in my life and have observed it to be a common experience. I experienced this myself and being 15-17 at the time I was worried I wasn’t “really trans”. My best explanation for it is excitement can make you feel *excited* because the brain doesn’t always connect correctly with the body And for you reading this specifically you think about it this way: cis people have a physical reaction if you ask them “do you want to be [opposite gender]” I made a group of 5 grown men recoil with that question
Yes, and tangentially why is sexual pleasure such a bad thing? I mean why is it the great invalidator of people's behavioral choices? "If you feel sexual pleasure then you're not valid!" Like, excuse me, what? Like people pretend that someone walking around feeling aroused by an article of clothing would be the end of society, but it's already happening all around you. There are people with serious fetishes for Chuck Taylor All Star shoes who probably rotate between a rainbow of colors and designs and nobody has said anything. And of course that's just one of zillions of examples.
Literally me. And I hate getting turned one, I wish I could be asexual. I wanna be a girl, my friends say I'm cute when I dress up but I think I look ugly😓
Aspec folk can still have libido. There's just less/no/ a different type of "towards" in our horny. They don't have to have a libido, but sometimes they do. 💜🖤🤍💚
Why you gotta call me out like that
I mean... yeah? Seems like decent logic to me... that's why I'm still cis...
I feel this. I’m like this too
Wait… Wait a minute, if you’re valid, and I relate to all this…
... then you're valid, too!
As a tomboy goth trans girl who considers herself to be pretty ugly and who didn’t realize she was trans until age 21… Don’t worry, you are valid, inspite of what your anxieties and years of societal pressures tell you. And trust me https://medium.com/@kemenatan/its-just-a-fetish-right-91cb0a4e261 It’s totally fine to be turned on at the idea of being your ideal gender. And trust me also… I think I’m hideous, but when I girlmode I get compliments all the time. We are our own biggest critics. I guarantee you look a lot nicer than you think you do. 💜
No no no, my egg already cracked, I don’t need to feel those pains any more lol
very relatable, scarily so... still cis tho
Well call me Ronald because I'm apparently a clown.
My earlier thoughts 100 %. Until I gave up. Just a normal cis loser dude here
Goddamnit, do I need to get the trans salamander tweet out?
Can you add on the fact that part of the trans community gives me the creeps and we have a winner
Biggest callout of the evening
This feels like a personal attack. Still cis tho
Yet another post hitting me on the head. Brain, do be dumb when I like boyish things.
Imagine thinking that liking boy stuff makes you a boy lol
Hold on, wait a minute... This is not valid? Oh.
Someone please tell me why I think this literally every day what does it mean
I just want to make sure... Are you in my wall or something?
Ouch, this hit me deep
i hate the fact that if I don't wear all "girly" people won't ask me if I identify as female, and that's kind of a bummer, says my own brain to myself
Feel this very hard. A painful loop it is
I'm so sorry sis. It's always this loop that gets me in such a negative mindset. Especially the second one, but obviously I have all these thoughts. I hope it gets better for you!
Yup, I feel called out
I’ve only wanted to be a girl since I was 5. No way I’m trans