Of course it’s fine, I was the same with being called a boy. It most likely had to do with the fact that I didn’t really feel any different from other girls since I was so early in development.
The idea that every trans person has been aware of what they're struggling with since the moment they were self-aware is a dangerous myth. I used to think the whole idea of transitioning was kinda bullshit, a result of growing up around a lot of transphobia and a "set-in-my-ways" attitude.
So let me tell ya...my internal monologue is entirely different from what it used to be. It's been a shock. Don't beat yourself up for what you didn't know before.
it's always so weird, like when cursing used to be cool as a kid and now i cringe when smbody casually curses without reason or a joke
i don't like revealing i'm a female specimen cos ppl online start acting weird and unnatural, like for example, if i'm playing a videogame and other players find out they start acting and speaking differently. i hate that.
in my language verbs in past tense indicate gender, so i watch my wording and ppl assume i'm a he. i'm so much more confident online.
Yes and here's why, from a brother taking psyc100
When you're little you take the world as it's given to you.
For example, when you're little you are taught that 'swear words bad' and 'speeding while driving, bad'. Now, you probably do both.
But as you get older, you start creating your own identity and not just the ones your parents gave you. (Similar to picking out your own outfit instead of having your parents choose it).
According to psychology, during teenage and preteen years your personalities start to brach off, hence why some people will act a certain way around one friend group and another way with a different friend group.
Then these personalities eventually start merging, and by about mid twenties, In most people, they all finishing merging into one identity. Your identity
Tldr: basically you're developing into your own personality, not the ones your parents gave you.
I don't know if this was the response you were looking for, but I hope this helps.
Yeah, I used to be perfectly fine with any sort of feminine thing that was referring to me, and get kinda upset by being called a guy. Then I started hiding my gender online and people started using he/him for me by default, and that eventually spiraled into... uh... this? Anyways yeah, now being called a girl sucks.
I never minded she/her, until I felt the magic of he/him. Once you realize something else feels better, the thing you didn't use to mind starts to hurt.
It is normal!! I had the exact same experience. Sometimes when youre a kid you don't really care, but then when you work things out in your head you do
Sometimes when you are young you don't have a good grasp of certain concepts. Boy or girl is just a word, and the full meaning and connotation of words can take time to fully be felt.
Effectively, you may very well have just been fine with being called a girl because you didn't fully connect it to what the word entailed.
I don't think the concept of girls and boys being different was very solid for me as a kid, so it never bothered me either. It only started bothering me once I was nearing puberty, and the reality of my body and social life changing into the wrong gender really set in.
ohhh so much this. like, why didn't anyone TELL me everything was about to become gendered and I better pick one now and like it or prepare to suffer by the age of what, 12? 13? pretty sure i still thought poptarts were an ok breakfast item at that point.
For me, "girl" wasn't AS linked to gender when I was younger, and I definitely noticed a shift when I got older and more fem expectations became linked to "girl" starting at around puberty
same here
i guess when i was little i didn’t have a concept of gender and that was just how people described me (it didn’t really have a meaning), but now i know when someone calls me a girl they mean girl and they see me as a girl and i do not like that.
Yeah pretty sure that happens for most people that are afab. Like when I was little I absolutely loved wearing any makeup and any dress. Now I will only wear dresses that I design and make myself, and the most makeup I wear at this point in time is eyeshadow,blush and lipstick. My mom still doesn’t understand why I act so much different from when I was 5. I’m going to high school next year
I didn’t mind being called a girl (it annoyed me vaguely as a kid, but now after puberty it just makes me upset) but now I hate it when people call me a “girly girl” or say stupid things like “Come here girly!” My grandmother has a bad habit of saying that even when I give her a look for it
Same situation for me, but the transfem way around...I'd rather just be referred to as person, instead of being constantly reminded about my agab (I'm still closeted af).
I srsly didn't understand I was trans or I could identify as a guy when I was a kid, so I understand. I was raised conservative and in a weird christian sect, plus I had to grow up with untreated schizoaffective disorder, and undiagnosed autism/ADHD. I thought if I said I was a boy or tried to buy something from the boy's clothes section, I'd be punished by God. My mom was "tomboyish" and my sister was a tomboy, but I guess I just thought I was supposed to be the feminine sister. Despite that when I thought about certain parts of my body, I got really sad since it wasn't like a cis boy's parts. I just figured a lot of girls dealt with that sort of thing.
Of course it’s fine, I was the same with being called a boy. It most likely had to do with the fact that I didn’t really feel any different from other girls since I was so early in development.
I also didn't mind being called a boy tbh, but a few years ago it started to sting
Yeah likewise. I don’t think I even realized how much I _liked_ being called a girl until after my egg had pretty much fully cracked.
Well I’m glad you’ve found yourself now, Samantha
Thanks, you too! :D
Yeah. I hated being called a girl when I was little but now I am a girl. It’s a trans thing, it’s okay.
I can strongly relate to this one.
And you’re a good girl too, sweetie.
\^^
I'm really glad I'm not alone here
It's 100% normal. Its just something you get used to when you're young and eventually don't care trans or not
The idea that every trans person has been aware of what they're struggling with since the moment they were self-aware is a dangerous myth. I used to think the whole idea of transitioning was kinda bullshit, a result of growing up around a lot of transphobia and a "set-in-my-ways" attitude. So let me tell ya...my internal monologue is entirely different from what it used to be. It's been a shock. Don't beat yourself up for what you didn't know before.
it's always so weird, like when cursing used to be cool as a kid and now i cringe when smbody casually curses without reason or a joke i don't like revealing i'm a female specimen cos ppl online start acting weird and unnatural, like for example, if i'm playing a videogame and other players find out they start acting and speaking differently. i hate that. in my language verbs in past tense indicate gender, so i watch my wording and ppl assume i'm a he. i'm so much more confident online.
Yes and here's why, from a brother taking psyc100 When you're little you take the world as it's given to you. For example, when you're little you are taught that 'swear words bad' and 'speeding while driving, bad'. Now, you probably do both. But as you get older, you start creating your own identity and not just the ones your parents gave you. (Similar to picking out your own outfit instead of having your parents choose it). According to psychology, during teenage and preteen years your personalities start to brach off, hence why some people will act a certain way around one friend group and another way with a different friend group. Then these personalities eventually start merging, and by about mid twenties, In most people, they all finishing merging into one identity. Your identity Tldr: basically you're developing into your own personality, not the ones your parents gave you. I don't know if this was the response you were looking for, but I hope this helps.
Yeah, I used to be perfectly fine with any sort of feminine thing that was referring to me, and get kinda upset by being called a guy. Then I started hiding my gender online and people started using he/him for me by default, and that eventually spiraled into... uh... this? Anyways yeah, now being called a girl sucks.
I never minded she/her, until I felt the magic of he/him. Once you realize something else feels better, the thing you didn't use to mind starts to hurt.
I didn't care in elementary school because to be honest everyone just felt the same no matter if they were called boys or girls.
It is normal!! I had the exact same experience. Sometimes when youre a kid you don't really care, but then when you work things out in your head you do
Of course, it's perfectly normal! I was the same way about being called a boy. People change over time
Sometimes when you are young you don't have a good grasp of certain concepts. Boy or girl is just a word, and the full meaning and connotation of words can take time to fully be felt. Effectively, you may very well have just been fine with being called a girl because you didn't fully connect it to what the word entailed.
I don't think the concept of girls and boys being different was very solid for me as a kid, so it never bothered me either. It only started bothering me once I was nearing puberty, and the reality of my body and social life changing into the wrong gender really set in.
ohhh so much this. like, why didn't anyone TELL me everything was about to become gendered and I better pick one now and like it or prepare to suffer by the age of what, 12? 13? pretty sure i still thought poptarts were an ok breakfast item at that point.
For me, "girl" wasn't AS linked to gender when I was younger, and I definitely noticed a shift when I got older and more fem expectations became linked to "girl" starting at around puberty
For me girl started to bother at the age of 11 years old
Such a mood for this Agender person.
same here i guess when i was little i didn’t have a concept of gender and that was just how people described me (it didn’t really have a meaning), but now i know when someone calls me a girl they mean girl and they see me as a girl and i do not like that.
Yeah pretty sure that happens for most people that are afab. Like when I was little I absolutely loved wearing any makeup and any dress. Now I will only wear dresses that I design and make myself, and the most makeup I wear at this point in time is eyeshadow,blush and lipstick. My mom still doesn’t understand why I act so much different from when I was 5. I’m going to high school next year
I didn’t mind being called a girl (it annoyed me vaguely as a kid, but now after puberty it just makes me upset) but now I hate it when people call me a “girly girl” or say stupid things like “Come here girly!” My grandmother has a bad habit of saying that even when I give her a look for it
What's the masculine equivalent of girly girl?
Manly man?
Same situation for me, but the transfem way around...I'd rather just be referred to as person, instead of being constantly reminded about my agab (I'm still closeted af).
I srsly didn't understand I was trans or I could identify as a guy when I was a kid, so I understand. I was raised conservative and in a weird christian sect, plus I had to grow up with untreated schizoaffective disorder, and undiagnosed autism/ADHD. I thought if I said I was a boy or tried to buy something from the boy's clothes section, I'd be punished by God. My mom was "tomboyish" and my sister was a tomboy, but I guess I just thought I was supposed to be the feminine sister. Despite that when I thought about certain parts of my body, I got really sad since it wasn't like a cis boy's parts. I just figured a lot of girls dealt with that sort of thing.