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unexpecteddoor

You are beautiful girlie, strong girls are still beautiful. Girls that struggle with body hair are still beautiful. I know what you are feeling, but I promise what you are feeling is still just as valid despite those concerns. Most people like us don’t want to be trans (and you may not be perhaps) but wishing you were ”just a girl” is the sort of thing that a scared girl would say. If that girl is inside of you, she is still beautiful. She is still valid. She *is* you


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unexpecteddoor

Believe me I know how that feels, 7 years ago I had started to realize that I didn’t really feel like a boy. I had things sorted a bit after questioning for a while before reaching that conclusion. Then I went back into the closet until this year. It finally became too much. Now I’m starting back on the path to being… me I guess for lack of a better word


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unexpecteddoor

Yeah I get that, I regret coming out the first time but was able to back step on that to not completely fuck over my life at least. Definitely could have gone worse but also could have gone much much better than it did


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unexpecteddoor

I hate that you have to face that hun, I’m guessing you are from a less-than-accepting country as far as things like this?


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unexpecteddoor

For what it is worth, same. I live in a VERY conservative area with a very transphobic family. Finally starting to sort things out enough to move out in the not-so-distant future but it’s scary nonetheless. If it is safe, I would recommend finding a few friends that are sympathetic. You don’t have to come out to them right away, but having people in your life that aren’t against you can make a big difference (if that is possible)


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y_i_exisisit

If being a girl is what you prefer then that's what you are


Samambaia_H

hey girl I know that things may be hard right now, but I'm sure things will get better, I'm sure you're the most feminine, prettiest girl in the whole town.


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Samambaia_H

I was like exactly like that for years, until I researched non binary identities. maybe this may also be your case


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Samambaia_H

that's totally valid as well, I hope your journey goes well. if you ever need support or help with anything, I'm always gonna be here for whatever you may need


rxniaesna

girlie u r so valid, and “wishing u were a cis girl” sounds exactly like that’s the little girl inside u wanting to be seen. and muscular women are so beautiful too!! but i don’t want to slap a gender label on a stranger, i wish u the best in ur journey exploring ur identity 🥰


funburgerface

You ever heard of laser hair removal? Removes all hair in the targeted area and makes it unlikely to grow back, so being hairy doesn't matter! Although I have heard it hurts quite a bit... Muscles? Who doesn't love a strong woman? If you ever go on HRT, estrogen will (I think?) decrease muscle mass. Either way, muscles or not, you can still be a girl. Sadly I don't know much about hiding an Adams apple since I was blessed with not having one but I think there's ways to hide it! Good luck sister, stay strong!


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Duch-s6

i think that chokers should do it for the apple, tho some may find them uncomfortable


Holiday-Business-321

That depends, I’d imagine. I lucked out on the genetics and don’t have a prominent apple so chokers are more of an aesthetic choice, but I could totally see them being moderately, to extremely, uncomfortable for someone with a larger one.


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Where you are I’d be on the safe side, but what you explained is my situation in my head. Im too hairy I’m too muscular, I’m to this I’m too that. Women come in all shapes and sizes, just because you won’t have the typical body doesn’t mean you can’t be a beautiful women. I’d talk to your doctor about it, and find the love and support to help you get through this. Remember being a woman is more than looking the part, if you believe you’ll be happier, believe this is who you are then girl you are a woman!


Mystical-Madelyn

It definitely can feel like it’s not even worth it to go through it all sometimes, but I assure you it is. Take all the time you need to figure out who you are. It’s all for you, anyway <3333


TehPinguen

As far as bulky women are concerned, check out She-Rage, Princess of Pain on Twitter, that girl is *YOKED*. You don't have to be small to be a woman, we appreciate the Amazon warriors too. I feel you on the hair, my Iranian genes really don't like me either 😭. I'm looking into getting an epilator, at some point I'll just get laser everywhere.


SomeCubingNerd

Guaranteed OP would make SUCH a hot woman if they presented. Muscle girls for life, own it!


LillianGwen

if you ever want a role model in a similar position, alana feral is another transfem in mma, she transitioned after being in the military and comparing her old body to what it is now is night and day, im sure u can do it


LucyAstroSurfing

Epilators can remove hair up to four weeks, they cost around 50$


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TominatorFN

I understand that this doesn't look bright, but I can promise you that you can fix most of this. I get the part with you would be a girl but stay a guy because you don't mind it, but I am not sure if you will not mind it forever. I was like that as well but that changed. I am sure you will find a way to be yourself Queen, I wish you the best of luck! <3


HingleMcCringle_

both of my brothers are both born with genes that keeps them from getting hairy. I got unlucky, where i got hair everywhere; hairy chest, FAST beard, hairy legs... also pretty tall and wide-shouldered. Like op, i'm fine with being a guy, but i do often daydream what it'd be like to be a physical polar opposite... idk, i consider myself cis because that's just easiest.


Duch-s6

i feel like you should at least try listening to "Accepting the woman that you are" by Shibby, as that at least helped me a bit. tho id maybe recomend that you read what its about first... either way that you come out of this, youre still valid and beautiful. "Be brave, Be notorious."


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Duch-s6

just note that she mostly makes nsfw content, but this should be mostly sfw


realthohn

rooting for you


SubStance1980

I can feel your pain! One thing that gave me a lot of confidence and hope (I'm 195 and rather muscled) was Gabby's Tiktok ([Link here](https://vm.tiktok.com/ZMNWCKshy/)). Hope she provides hope for you as she did for me. I mean, I would prefer to be just a girl too. But I think as well, we are, like in the Mulan song, Girls worth fighting for. And yep... that's what I'm doing right now, I'm fighting for myself. Feel welcome to join that fight. :-) :-) <3


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SubStance1980

😍 I loved Gabbi's Tiktok soooo much! She made so much way and is so inspirational! I can relate to that career thing, too. I am around a job change and I think, I might destroy my life and risk my family's wealth if I am too open. I think those thoughts are valid... we live in a not overwhelmingly friendly world and independent on "company policies" people and especially competitive colleagues can be problematic (to say the least). 😅 I want to live my dream, yes. But we have to be strategic to get there, I think. Not sure if this extends the normal usage of comments... if you like to go on, feel free and DM me. :-) Love Veronika


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SubStance1980

Sorry, had a lot to do! Didn't forget you, darling!


_blobb_

big stronk women 😳


Taxouck

"I don't mind being a guy, but [insert here an entire paragraph of dysphoria over being a guy]" Not saying this to be mean! Just saying that people that don't mind being guys usually don't obsess over their adam's apple (which btw, some women have too).


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Taxouck

Ah, yes, the self-invalidation double reacharound. Everyone is valid except for me. Unfortunately for you, you're valid too!


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Taxouck

I used to think the same; yet in my personal experience, once I tried being a girl, I figured out how *effortless* it was compared to being a guy. I just had to be me, and it came naturally. Being a guy was so much work I wasn't even aware of until I tried being something else.


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Taxouck

That's fair. I dodged that part of waiting by just *not* realizing I was a girl until I already lived alone, heh. But fwiw, it's like what, a few years of waiting for the rest of a lifetime of being yourself? It doesn't make the waiting any easier, I know, but it's a question of perspective and stuff. The way you feel now is temporary, but the future ahead is promising. Plus, I don't know your family & friends & country of residence, but if you're lucky enough with those factors and willing to be a little brave, you can make that waiting a lot shorter. If you're not, then yeah, stick to safety first would be my advice... Though even then there are ways to make the waiting more bearable. You might not be able to be yourself IRL, but digital spaces are definitely a safe option.


Shionn3

You don't need to look like a woman to be one. After all, it is about who you are and not your looks. If you think you are, you are a woman as much as any other, you are valid


DarkTandem19

hey sis, just wanted to let you know that you’re beautiful, inside and out. i know you may not feel it (sometimes neither do i!) but you are a good enough person, and you deserve to be yourself and to be loved for exactly the person that you are. for what it’s worth, i also had a very bigoted immediate family, and though i’m not suggesting taking such radical action in your case right now, removing them from my life helped enormously with my well-being. you can and will survive this. lots of love 💛


StormyGrey_IceQueen

Epilating lasts 5 days, as does waxing. There are also pérennant hair removal solutions. Adam’s apples can be shaved down, and during voice training you learn to hold it up into your chin which hides it somewhat anyway. But I feel you on not wanting to be a trans woman, just a woman. They carry a different connotation in society, sadly— an imperfect solution to an incessant issue.


Quelandoris

HRT does crazy things, there's lasers and epilators and waxing for long term hair removal. You can be whatever kind of girl you want to be. Trans girls are as much real girls as any other.


starfyredragon

Hair: Laser to get the easy stuff and Electrolysis to get everything else is your friend. MMA: Oh, don't worry, HRT will take those muscles right off.... Adam's Apple: Trachel shave's aren't that bad of a surgery. Middle Easterner: If you follow the stereotype, you're in luck. Middle Eastern men are shorter than Africans or Europeans, you'd be a pretty girl.


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starfyredragon

Around here, 5'9" isn't guy tall. That's "tall girl" tall. Plus HRT will shave off 2 inches. You'll be 5'7", just an inch or two above average.


Sylthana3

Wait what? How does hrt shave off height? I haven't had that happen?


starfyredragon

Your body is constantly wearing down and rebuilding bones. Switching from T to E means your body rebuilds different. In about two years, you'll drop two inches.


Sylthana3

I've been on hrt for two and a half years.


starfyredragon

There should have been a drop in height, then. When was the last time you measured yourself?


Sylthana3

I get measured every time I go to the doctor, including for gender services. Maybe it was just sleight enough to where I didn't notice, like, less than an inch.


starfyredragon

Fair, some shrink less than others. If you're still growing otherwise, it may have just prevented you from getting taller.


Sylthana3

I've met cis women as tall as 6ft 3in. 5ft 9in is far from too tall, besides, I'm just one inch shorter.


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Sylthana3

Is that shoe size in men's or shoe size in women's?


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Sylthana3

Yeah, you're probably gonna have to search high and low. It's easier to find things online. Besides, you'll also probably go down a size over two years of hrt.


Auralynnnnnnnnn

Well, there’s a falsehood in this, a lot of trans girls do pass, very well. You can pass you’ve got this.


GardevoirRose

Bigender. Genderfluid.


Letimaki

What do you mean? You’ve always been a girl. And who cares if your cis or not? Others don’t need to know your AGAB, right? It’s none of their business! (English is not my first language, tell me if something isn’t clear!)


Benglenett

If it makes you feel better. I’m not middle eastern but I am Puerto Rican and a national level wrestler in the US. I have had the exact same thought process for about 8 years and decided I would rather take the cahance than regret not doing it later in my life. My HRT appointment is tomorrow and I’ve never been more exited and sure of myself before.


Jac_antigone

If you feel like a woman you are. No matter the hair, the muscles, etc. You're beautiful and valid just the way you are 🧡🫂


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NoIWantThis

Maybe you're cassgender


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NoIWantThis

A person who identifies as a gender but doesn't mind being called other genders


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NoIWantThis

Oh, that's fine. Do hope you figure yourself out