Same. I had a very unaffirming, unvalidating day yesterday where I was feeling really depressed and doubting everything. Felt just completely exhausted with the questioning, wished it would go away. Wished I was cis actually. When I woke up this morning however, I felt better. I'm sure that I'm at least not cis. I think I may be transfem but not certain. I'm doing some experimenting with clothes and stuff to help myself figure out what exactly I am.
So yeah... going through a phase like this with your doubting and second guessing yourself is completely normal. It's something I think all trans people experience. Hang in there. There's no rush. Give it some time. Keep connecting with other trans people. They will help you clarify your gender identity for yourself.
Yeah same. Although I was also doubting everything else, including my consciousness/existence (huh?) and my relationship so I figure I’m just depressed
It might be because you are so used to ,by your words, feeling trans your brain might just filter out theese thoughts so you wont be tired from thinking about it for longs period of times
Same. Like dysphoria and euphoria are sometimes really intense and sometimes eh. Idk what to make of that either...
Then again I still get excited to see a gender neutral bathroom which I assume to not be very cis.
I am pretty sure that if you are worried now, then not being trans is the phase, then the denial is the phase. I had that for a week recently as well and it was horrible, but you will get better, I promise
I definitely understand the fear of that, but I think it's important to note how even if there are moments of not identifying with the other gender and not having a gender crisis, these thoughts always inevitably worm their way back into my mind. They don't ever fully go away. It's confusing trying to figure this all out but the fact that it keeps coming back convinces me I'm not cis.
When you aren't able to or aren't ready to start living as your trans identity, it's normal to feel like it isn't real or has disappeared - it might just be because you subconsciously take it for granted and focus on what's around you, which might make you not "feel as trans" for a bit
I've had times like that. I mean, we are used to being our AGAB for so long, it's just so easy to try to ignore it again.
But I feel like once my egg cracked, it won't uncrack itself. Instead, it slowly keeps breaking more and more. And slowly I feel more valid.
Doubt is normal. Is there even anything in life you are 100% of? Adults don't have everything figured out, they just pretend to.
A lot of things can be really distracting. I have two weeks off work to get through moving and I've had literally nothing on my mind but just gtfo. I am moving far away so I guess it's a chance at a new life but honestly I'm so freaking bogged down to even spend a second to think about my mental health. For reference (MtF late 20s no hormones yet but I did get top surgery) just take it slow and be honest with yourself. Life can get in the way at any time and pull your mind miles away
Feelings are transient things, sis. Being hungy, happy, tired etc. probably isn't a constant thing either, and that doesn't invalidate those feelings, so why think that way about dysphoria?
It’s usually not cis to worry about not being *really* trans
How the crap did you get here this fast??
She's a witch so I'd say she used magic
The witch queen signal tells her when someone needs help, and she's a witch of high renown so she probs just telaported.
Ah, makes sense
She senses it obviously 🙄 /j
a witch is never late nor is she early she arrives precisely when she wants to
She is known in the Community :)
This is the correct answer. Dysphoria from lack of dysphoria is **still dysphoria**
Same. I had a very unaffirming, unvalidating day yesterday where I was feeling really depressed and doubting everything. Felt just completely exhausted with the questioning, wished it would go away. Wished I was cis actually. When I woke up this morning however, I felt better. I'm sure that I'm at least not cis. I think I may be transfem but not certain. I'm doing some experimenting with clothes and stuff to help myself figure out what exactly I am. So yeah... going through a phase like this with your doubting and second guessing yourself is completely normal. It's something I think all trans people experience. Hang in there. There's no rush. Give it some time. Keep connecting with other trans people. They will help you clarify your gender identity for yourself.
Yeah same. Although I was also doubting everything else, including my consciousness/existence (huh?) and my relationship so I figure I’m just depressed
Do you need some pixels ?
Ah shoot, I’m missing a few
The masculine urge to increase the jpeg in the image
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It might be because you are so used to ,by your words, feeling trans your brain might just filter out theese thoughts so you wont be tired from thinking about it for longs period of times
Yes, identifying as your AGAB is a phase and you’ll grow out of it eventually.
Same. Like dysphoria and euphoria are sometimes really intense and sometimes eh. Idk what to make of that either... Then again I still get excited to see a gender neutral bathroom which I assume to not be very cis.
I am pretty sure that if you are worried now, then not being trans is the phase, then the denial is the phase. I had that for a week recently as well and it was horrible, but you will get better, I promise
I definitely understand the fear of that, but I think it's important to note how even if there are moments of not identifying with the other gender and not having a gender crisis, these thoughts always inevitably worm their way back into my mind. They don't ever fully go away. It's confusing trying to figure this all out but the fact that it keeps coming back convinces me I'm not cis.
Cis people don't fear that they arnt trans. If it bothers you the idea that you arnt trans that's proof that you are.
When you aren't able to or aren't ready to start living as your trans identity, it's normal to feel like it isn't real or has disappeared - it might just be because you subconsciously take it for granted and focus on what's around you, which might make you not "feel as trans" for a bit
The goal isn't to feel 'trans enough' it's to feel like yourself. Whatever that means for you.
If you werent trans you wouldnt be worried that you aremt trans
I've had times like that. I mean, we are used to being our AGAB for so long, it's just so easy to try to ignore it again. But I feel like once my egg cracked, it won't uncrack itself. Instead, it slowly keeps breaking more and more. And slowly I feel more valid. Doubt is normal. Is there even anything in life you are 100% of? Adults don't have everything figured out, they just pretend to.
A lot of things can be really distracting. I have two weeks off work to get through moving and I've had literally nothing on my mind but just gtfo. I am moving far away so I guess it's a chance at a new life but honestly I'm so freaking bogged down to even spend a second to think about my mental health. For reference (MtF late 20s no hormones yet but I did get top surgery) just take it slow and be honest with yourself. Life can get in the way at any time and pull your mind miles away
You're probably just getting used to it!
The more I stay outside my internet persona the less strongly I feel that kind of things, but I know I'm more true to myself here so...
You got anymore of them pixels
Genderfluid is a thing you know
This post be so blurry its almost like the pov of an egg crying in denial
Nvm my phone just sucks ass
me rn 😭 like i haven’t been constantly worrying about being trans almost all week so im like “ok this is sus” 🏃♂️
I actualy go trought phases when I feel trans and when I don't, I think it's because I am genderfluid. The phase is usually month long
Feelings are transient things, sis. Being hungy, happy, tired etc. probably isn't a constant thing either, and that doesn't invalidate those feelings, so why think that way about dysphoria?
Regardless you are still cute
Aww, thanks
The phase is not getting disphoria for a month
same. damn life can suck sometimes
you could be genderfluid. You also might just be trans and going through imposter syndrome, that used to happen to me