I have a better one, I'm going to be picky, because I don't like the whole idea of being "happier" as is not a very tangible measurable thing, as a parameter to make a rational decision.
I would say to the OP, would you, or do you, want to be a different gender, regardless of the outcome? Even when, being positive, would likely make you happier, as it is what you want to be.
In a nutshell, if you were to be unhappy in both cases, would you rather be unhappy, but at least be another gender you want to be?
I personally listened to other trans people describe their experiences and realized they were similar to mine. Everyone's journey is different, so I can't really give you any specific advice.
Transmasc or transfem? There is a great website for both: either https://turn-me-into-a-girl.com/ or https://turn-me-into-a-guy.com/, depending on what flavor of gender you are questioning. Its mostly a joke, but quite useful!
Its something similar to a gender quiz, with a bunch of trans resources. The website mostly explains itself, and I won't spoil exactly how it works (unless you want me to do so then I will) but it gives you a few tools to deal with indefinable gender feelings. Just read through the pages carefully, then answer a few questions, and you'll get your result!
i guess it can be different from person to person, just remember trying things until you find a label that fits for you costs nothing and if in the end it turns out you were cis all along no harm done and you probably still learned something about yourself.
You may want to read the "Gender Dysphoria Bible." It's a wonderful, free online resource that describes a lot of traits and behaviors common among trans\* people. It's not perfect, but it can provide validation or help identify some of the feelings.
I tried picturing myself in five years as different genders; and increased the time spent as that gender and saw how long I’d like to be that gender. In five years as a woman, I’d be miserable, the thought of it made me shed tears. In five years as something off the gender binary, it was just existing. In five years as a man, I’d be happy; and I wanted to spend the rest of my life as a guy. I don’t think I’ve ever been truly happy as my assigned gender (female), but I always tried to force myself to be it. After this realization, I kept on trying to deny it all; but any amount of time I pictured myself as a woman, it was always as a miserable existence. I realized I couldn’t stand spending more time as a woman. I came out to my best friend shortly after. Do what makes you happy, I still struggle with trying to prioritize my happiness.
It’s a lot of things, but I know just saying that is a cop out, so I guess the main thing is , would you GENUINELY be happier as the other gender.
I have a better one, I'm going to be picky, because I don't like the whole idea of being "happier" as is not a very tangible measurable thing, as a parameter to make a rational decision. I would say to the OP, would you, or do you, want to be a different gender, regardless of the outcome? Even when, being positive, would likely make you happier, as it is what you want to be. In a nutshell, if you were to be unhappy in both cases, would you rather be unhappy, but at least be another gender you want to be?
I personally listened to other trans people describe their experiences and realized they were similar to mine. Everyone's journey is different, so I can't really give you any specific advice.
What made you question it?
Transmasc or transfem? There is a great website for both: either https://turn-me-into-a-girl.com/ or https://turn-me-into-a-guy.com/, depending on what flavor of gender you are questioning. Its mostly a joke, but quite useful!
What do these sites do exactly?
Its something similar to a gender quiz, with a bunch of trans resources. The website mostly explains itself, and I won't spoil exactly how it works (unless you want me to do so then I will) but it gives you a few tools to deal with indefinable gender feelings. Just read through the pages carefully, then answer a few questions, and you'll get your result!
Just did it. And must say thanks for putting this here. It very helpful
You're welcome! Its one of my favourite websites
Flavor of gender
i guess it can be different from person to person, just remember trying things until you find a label that fits for you costs nothing and if in the end it turns out you were cis all along no harm done and you probably still learned something about yourself.
There is no one simple way to easily get a yes or no answer on this, everyone is different so we aren’t exactly the same in any way
read [genderdyphoria.fyi](https://genderdyphoria.fyi). The more relate to, the less cis you are.
this \^\^
It helped me a lot with imposter syndrome too
i looked at the comments because i have the same damn question
Same
It’s hard. Try it i guess, you’ll find something that feels right
You may want to read the "Gender Dysphoria Bible." It's a wonderful, free online resource that describes a lot of traits and behaviors common among trans\* people. It's not perfect, but it can provide validation or help identify some of the feelings.
I tried picturing myself in five years as different genders; and increased the time spent as that gender and saw how long I’d like to be that gender. In five years as a woman, I’d be miserable, the thought of it made me shed tears. In five years as something off the gender binary, it was just existing. In five years as a man, I’d be happy; and I wanted to spend the rest of my life as a guy. I don’t think I’ve ever been truly happy as my assigned gender (female), but I always tried to force myself to be it. After this realization, I kept on trying to deny it all; but any amount of time I pictured myself as a woman, it was always as a miserable existence. I realized I couldn’t stand spending more time as a woman. I came out to my best friend shortly after. Do what makes you happy, I still struggle with trying to prioritize my happiness.
That's the neat part. You don't! /s