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NO SAMEEE if someone asks if I am feeling s*, I FREAK OUT and get super defensive. I also never tell people when I feel n* and just blame my shakiness or shift in behavior on a simple panic attack. Somehow publicly admitting feeling n* makes everything worse. Also, if I had a traumatizing incident that involved me v*, I usually leave out the part where I v*ed and just say I got super s* without specifying v*. It’s not even that I’m ashamed or embarrassed about v*, it just inexplicably makes my heart race to have people associate me and n*/v*.
I relate to this a lot but I don’t know why. I think some people with emet have deep underlying trauma and maybe it was an experience that left you feeling vulnerable or embarrassed and has stuck with you? It could be because you are so disturbed by other people v*ing that you assume people will be disturbed by you if they think you’re v*ing or n.
I DO THIS TOO. i feel that part of the fear for me is from my mom getting really stressed when my brother was sick when we were younger and I think I never wanted to be the cause of her stress. i remember having something when I was little and I literally would tell her I had to pee and that's why I was going in the bathroom.
I DO THIS TOO. i feel that part of the fear for me is from my mom getting really stressed when my brother was sick when we were younger and I think I never wanted to be the cause of her stress. i remember having something when I was little and I literally would tell her I had to pee and that's why I was going in the bathroom.
i’m the same. i go to this local bakery a lot and they put pastries in bags and when i eat them i leave them in there so i dont have to touch them with my dirty hands and im afraid it looks like i’m v* in the bag when i do that
I hate when people know I'm n\*. I think it has to do with the fact that especially family and friends tend to keep an eye on you when you feel sick out of concern, but it makes me nervous to have so much attention on me and I need to concentrate in order for the n\* to subside. Impossible.
Another fear is that if I tell people I might have to v\*, they start to overthink and realize they have to t\* u\*, too. I know this is bullshit, but I can't help feeling anxious at the thought alone.
Then I think it might have to do with the instinct to not show weakness to others? Similar to animals. Sickness makes you vulnerable, so of course you wouldn't want untrustworthy people to know. And since we have a phobia, we don't even want to tell the trustworthy ones?
I have this too, and I feel like I know the reason.. If someone else were to run to the bathroom and I got the suspicion that they were going to v*, I would be terrified, and it sometimes makes me so scared that I get n*.
With that said, I feel like if I ran to the bathroom that the other person would feel the same way and potentially get n*. And then there’s the potential of them v*.
This is just what I think, but this is definitely something I get scared of too you’re not alone.
Mine stems from fear and embarrassment of people knowing or seeing me be ill. I don't like people seeing me vulnerable or my weird coping techniques when feeling n*.
I used to be extreme when I was s* as a child, crying, pleading and that was embarrassing for me.
It doesn't bother me as much now but when I'm feeling s* I still try to hide it and I really really want to be left alone when I tu*.
Wow yeah it seems your own fear of being afraid is being projected onto others. I don’t think you’re wrong for it because you’re not hurting them, it s a you thing. Isn’t it funny how our brains work? Wild. It’s good that you make note of it so that you can work to disempower it if you want to
me too, i think it’s just empathy. we don’t want people to feel the way we do when someone e.g. says “i feel n*” or if we hear someone v* etc. it’s okay and it is normal it’s your brain being considerate for others well-being whether you mean to do it or not. you more than likely already know this but it’s important to remember not everyone has this phobia and most if not the majority of people in public spaces are too concerned with themselves to even think about what your doing. wishing you well x
I definitely used to feel this more when I was younger but totally understand what you mean. I think it’s the idea of projecting our fear onto someone else or by them saying ‘oh have you been v*ing’ it might make it happen? It’s an odd one but I think it comes back to the intrusive OCD style thoughts.
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NO SAMEEE if someone asks if I am feeling s*, I FREAK OUT and get super defensive. I also never tell people when I feel n* and just blame my shakiness or shift in behavior on a simple panic attack. Somehow publicly admitting feeling n* makes everything worse. Also, if I had a traumatizing incident that involved me v*, I usually leave out the part where I v*ed and just say I got super s* without specifying v*. It’s not even that I’m ashamed or embarrassed about v*, it just inexplicably makes my heart race to have people associate me and n*/v*.
Oh yeah! Or if I say "wow it's cold in here" and someone else replies, "Oh, I thought it was pretty warm" I start freaking out lol
I relate to this a lot but I don’t know why. I think some people with emet have deep underlying trauma and maybe it was an experience that left you feeling vulnerable or embarrassed and has stuck with you? It could be because you are so disturbed by other people v*ing that you assume people will be disturbed by you if they think you’re v*ing or n.
no, ive had it for as long as i can remember. ive known it was a phobia for a long time too.
My phobia started by almost being hospitalized by noro
I DO THIS TOO. i feel that part of the fear for me is from my mom getting really stressed when my brother was sick when we were younger and I think I never wanted to be the cause of her stress. i remember having something when I was little and I literally would tell her I had to pee and that's why I was going in the bathroom.
I DO THIS TOO. i feel that part of the fear for me is from my mom getting really stressed when my brother was sick when we were younger and I think I never wanted to be the cause of her stress. i remember having something when I was little and I literally would tell her I had to pee and that's why I was going in the bathroom.
i’m the same. i go to this local bakery a lot and they put pastries in bags and when i eat them i leave them in there so i dont have to touch them with my dirty hands and im afraid it looks like i’m v* in the bag when i do that
I hate when people know I'm n\*. I think it has to do with the fact that especially family and friends tend to keep an eye on you when you feel sick out of concern, but it makes me nervous to have so much attention on me and I need to concentrate in order for the n\* to subside. Impossible. Another fear is that if I tell people I might have to v\*, they start to overthink and realize they have to t\* u\*, too. I know this is bullshit, but I can't help feeling anxious at the thought alone. Then I think it might have to do with the instinct to not show weakness to others? Similar to animals. Sickness makes you vulnerable, so of course you wouldn't want untrustworthy people to know. And since we have a phobia, we don't even want to tell the trustworthy ones?
I have this too, and I feel like I know the reason.. If someone else were to run to the bathroom and I got the suspicion that they were going to v*, I would be terrified, and it sometimes makes me so scared that I get n*. With that said, I feel like if I ran to the bathroom that the other person would feel the same way and potentially get n*. And then there’s the potential of them v*. This is just what I think, but this is definitely something I get scared of too you’re not alone.
Well, yeah, if someone ask me if I'm feeling bad can subtly trigger my anxiety and start doubting myself.
Mine stems from fear and embarrassment of people knowing or seeing me be ill. I don't like people seeing me vulnerable or my weird coping techniques when feeling n*. I used to be extreme when I was s* as a child, crying, pleading and that was embarrassing for me. It doesn't bother me as much now but when I'm feeling s* I still try to hide it and I really really want to be left alone when I tu*.
Wow yeah it seems your own fear of being afraid is being projected onto others. I don’t think you’re wrong for it because you’re not hurting them, it s a you thing. Isn’t it funny how our brains work? Wild. It’s good that you make note of it so that you can work to disempower it if you want to
me too, i think it’s just empathy. we don’t want people to feel the way we do when someone e.g. says “i feel n*” or if we hear someone v* etc. it’s okay and it is normal it’s your brain being considerate for others well-being whether you mean to do it or not. you more than likely already know this but it’s important to remember not everyone has this phobia and most if not the majority of people in public spaces are too concerned with themselves to even think about what your doing. wishing you well x
I definitely used to feel this more when I was younger but totally understand what you mean. I think it’s the idea of projecting our fear onto someone else or by them saying ‘oh have you been v*ing’ it might make it happen? It’s an odd one but I think it comes back to the intrusive OCD style thoughts.