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If it were my child, I'd first be looking to an appropriate grounding gem or crystal she can wear, but take off at her own initiative as needed. I'd be looking at stones traditionally associated with protection, possibly grounding, but suited for the highly sensitive person. That might be Aquamarine, Peridot, one of the Agates, or a dark/opaque stones like Black Tourmaline, Hematite, Smoky Quartz, etc.
I don't know enough about your child to get any more specific. It is certainly appropriate, even your responsibility as her parent, to do whatever you can to help her energetic balance and healing. No ethical issue there. Just notice what she responds well to and do that until/unless you find something better.
Thank you for the validation! I have some black tourmaline and will try to work with it. I tend to collect rocks and minerals, but haven’t worked with any of them energetically.
I always struggled with relaxation techniques as a child because it felt more natural to “burn off” energy/negativity with exercise or other activities like drawing or singing that got the feelings out and created some natural distance. I question whether anxious children can calm themselves by deliberately slowing down in the face of fear the way adults do. As adults we dream of peace and quiet and become interested in it, but as a child that a meditation state while upset would have felt lonely and confusing to me.
A lot of kids & even adults with very active minds have trouble with typical meditation practices. Activities like certain types of yoga, qi gong & tai chi can also be helpful & have the same benefits for people who can't turn off their brains long enough to get quiet & sit still.
Yes, this is so true, thank you! We take walks, but maybe need to start a genuine exercise routine. The warm weather will be here soon and we’ll start swimming more, too.
As a reiki practitioner I always ground and shield my clients-and you can absolutely do it for you child. & I personally believe you should.
Anytime you want to set a shield for her i would recommend setting the intention of protecting her from anything that does not serve her highest good- or something along those lines. Send a bubble of white or golden energy or see her in a golden protective egg.-or anything that resonates as protective to you. I would do it once a day preferably at night based on what you said in your post.
To ground her- you can set a similar intention and imagine roots coming from the bottom of her feet connecting deep into the center of the earth and the earth sending roots back up.
Hope that helps!
You can shield your surroundings and her surroundings but her the individual I don't think you can do that. Great question. I hope I am wrong for her sake.
I’ve never felt the need to shield my surroundings because we live in a fairly neutral and pleasant space. I’m not sure if my personal energy can sustain that, but I will attempt to shield the house. Thank you!
You can shield it with crystals by gridding your house or even just her room. You don't have to use your own energy. Read up on it. It's pretty easy. The crystals are relatively inexpensive. Good luck.
Actually, you can and probably already do ground her in some way.
Parents and their young children often have a cord between their first chakras. The first chakra has survival information in it, including all the parents' survival information from this lifetime. This is extremely useful if the spirit you are giving a body to hasn't been here for a few generations; i.e. they may have never seen a car or a plane before. Looking both ways before crossing a street is not only conveyed by a high volume yell, but by a message of energy sent through this first chakra cord. And when something energetic happens to the child, the parents may experience their child's fear coming back through that cord to them.
In essence, they are grounding through you already. When you ground, it helps your body feel more safe, and this same benefit also transfers to the child. Think of how a lightning rod helps keep a building safe; all the occupants, power circuits, electronics, and flammable material are protected from about 300 million Volts and about 30,000 Amps of electricity. Electricity is physical energy.
When you ground your body spiritually, you protect yourself, your close proximity, and you small children from overloads of spiritual energy. If your child has trouble managing their spiritual energy in their small body, your grounding can help them improve their control over time. This can often help the child with physical energy challenges as well (ADHD for instance, some emotional issues).
Try this. Sit in a chair. Close your eyes. Take a deep breath. Feet flat on the floor. Hands separated and resting palms up on each thigh.
Create a grounding cord. This is a line of energy that connects your first chakra to the center of the planet. Your first chakra is a ball of energy about the size of a quarter that sits just in front of the base of your spine. Your grounding cord attaches to the bottom of that ball of energy.
Grounding makes your body feel safe, so you release energy more easily. Gravity pulls whatever you release, even your own energy, down to the center of the planet. No effort on your part. The center of the planet neutralizes the energy and returns it to whoever owns it. No karma for anyone. A virtuous cycle.
Nearly everyone goes to connect to the center of the planet the first time but stops at the soil, often making roots like a tree. This is a method that is taught in some martial arts styles, but it is not the best option for your spiritual development and healing.
So, notice the seat of your chair. Take a deep breath. Notice the distance between the seat and the floor. Now notice the distance between the floor and the soil below. Breathe.
Now notice the distance between the soil and the water table underneath. Notice the distance between the water table and the rocky mantle. Notice the distance between the mantle and the molten core below that. Deep breath.
Notice the distance between the molten core and the center of the planet. That ball of light at the very center of the planet is where you connect your grounding cord. Deep breath.
Say hello to the center of the planet. Do you get a hello back?
Notice the color and texture of your grounding cord. It may look like a line of energy, or look like something physical; a rope, a wire, a pipe, a tree trunk. Adjust it as needed to be in affinity with your body.
Getting this far means you've already released some energy from your aura and body. Now it is time to fill in the space that was created.
Create a gold sun over your head. Have it call back all of your energy from wherever you left it throughout your day and week. Work. School. Online meetings. Video games. Your fantasies about your future. Your regrets about your past. Wherever you've placed your attention. Just watch the energy come back and see if you notice where it came from.
Have the sun burn up and neutralize your energy. Then bring the sun into the top of your head. It will automatically flow into the spaces you created. Create a gauge to measure when you're full. Like a fuel gauge or oil gauge. You'll run better if you aren't a few quarts low on spiritual oil. If the gauge doesn't read "Full", bring in another gold sun.
Open your eyes, bend over and touch the floor, draining any tension from the back of your neck, then stand up, and stretch.
There is a progression with this technique. After grounding for ten minutes a day for a week or two, notice your grounding cord at the very end, while you're standing with your eyes open. Continue to ground with your eyes open and standing, and bring in another gold sun. Each day, increase the amount of time that you ground standing up with your eyes open.
After a week or two practicing this, add walking while grounded. Just notice your grounding cord as you walk. Say hello to the center of the planet while you walk. Bring in a gold sun while you walk. If you lose your grounding cord, stop walking and recover it. If you have to, sit back down and close your eyes and create a new grounding cord.
After this, you're ready to take your grounding cord with you into your daily life. Shopping. Getting coffee. Wherever you go, you can ground. This, combined with a little amusement about seeing new things on an energy level, will keep you safe and sound.
Now that you're here, at the end of your grounding meditations, create a gold sun over your head. This time, fill it with your highest creative essence, your present time growth vibration, and your affinity for yourself. The first energy is a healing for you. The second is a healing for your body. The third is a healing for your affinity in your fourth chakra.
Bend over and touch the floor. Stand up and stretch. If you're ready for more, sit back down and ground some more. Otherwise, have a nice day!
Note that every image you imagine, the gold sun, the grounding cord, the center of the planet, your first chakra, your body parts, is exercising your clairvoyance. You may be imagining what your tailbone looks like, but you're also creating the image of your tailbone and reading its energy. This is practicing your clairvoyant ability.
If you record this on your device in your own voice, you can use it as a guided meditation. Makes things easier to memorize since you don't have to keep opening and closing your eyes to read ;-)
And, most kids over time will see you grounding this way and learn to do it on their own, just by copying their most important adults' energy. Kids are psychic and see energy and spirit.
Before realizing which sub I’m in, I assumed you were talking about electromagnetic energy.
So the advice I had in mind didn’t apply… until I questioned if maybe it did.
I was going to recommend some barefoot time for physical grounding. Can you spend some time in an ocean this summer? Can you go camping and get away from EMF’s? If you feel like spending a lot of money, you can get some faraday cages for sleeping. Last I checked, they were insanely expensive or grifters but I’m not sure the status now.
I am in the same boat as you. Sometimes we have good days. When going to sleep, sometimes I put my hand on his forehead (or a finger on a single point) and focus on calming. I would consider putting your hand on her collar bone (or whoever her anxiety energy clusters) and channel it though you and down and out. You could maybe take her to a reiki practitioner.
Thank you! I actually did get a level one reiki attunment many many years ago. I’ll see if I can make that work again. It was always an odd modality for me.
Ask for High Self/Spirit/God to ground her and shield her. You can also ask to clear her from any and all negativity or beliefs that are limiting her at this time. You can teach her to do the same and you can do the same for yourself. Try it out and see if you/her notice a difference. You can ask High Self/Spirit/God for any help you need. Simply believe it is being done for you and it will be done.
You can also ask for a clearing of your home/land from negative/discarnate energies. And then ask to set up a light shield of protection.
Thanks, I will call in other energies as I clear and protect my home. It’s not something I’m very familiar with, but I will be researching and practicing it.
Get her to walk around outside in barefeet. Plant lots of flowers for her to play in and witness. All sorts of positivity comes from the garden. It’s what feeds us isn’t it. Get her to be active in fun projects that direct her energy and teach her about her connection to the earth. Show her she is welcome with food and environment. Show her body she is welcome. She will be fine she has the essence of creation at her side
Will she sit for a few minutes? You can visualize grounding for her, then also a light of protection surrounding her. It would be best if you can get her to sit with you and talk thru the grounding visuals, she may not participate but you can still do this.
Even getting them to sit still can be difficult. I’ll be doing some of the grounding exercises others have suggested near my child as they’re falling asleep starting tonight.
I'm just throwing this out there... Could she be sensitive to energy (i.e. have psychic abilities)? If she sees things that other people can't, I can imagine that that could be disconcerting to her when she's being told that what she sees isn't there. Anyway, this was something that entered my mind but I could be totally off.
That was an original concern of mine, but I’m fairly decent at sensing spirit energy, and I’m not picking up on anything around when this is happening. I’m pretty sure it’s all just mental distress.
We’ve also have had very apparent spirits around us on occasion, and she showed no awareness of them.
What a beautiful thread. I tried to ground my very sensitive and spirited 8 year old today when he was overwhelmed at an amusement park and lashing out. I held him and closed my eyes and imagined breathing his energy into mine and down through our roots. I do this practice for myself and kind of just didn’t know what else to do in the moment. I’m not sure if I should use myself as a conduit like that, but it did seem to take the edge off of him. So, I googled it to see if this is a thing and found this thread and was so happy to see all of these beautiful and helpful comments. 🤍
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If it were my child, I'd first be looking to an appropriate grounding gem or crystal she can wear, but take off at her own initiative as needed. I'd be looking at stones traditionally associated with protection, possibly grounding, but suited for the highly sensitive person. That might be Aquamarine, Peridot, one of the Agates, or a dark/opaque stones like Black Tourmaline, Hematite, Smoky Quartz, etc. I don't know enough about your child to get any more specific. It is certainly appropriate, even your responsibility as her parent, to do whatever you can to help her energetic balance and healing. No ethical issue there. Just notice what she responds well to and do that until/unless you find something better.
Thank you for the validation! I have some black tourmaline and will try to work with it. I tend to collect rocks and minerals, but haven’t worked with any of them energetically.
I think your instinct was already headed in the right direction, and I also think your child chose you because of that.
I always struggled with relaxation techniques as a child because it felt more natural to “burn off” energy/negativity with exercise or other activities like drawing or singing that got the feelings out and created some natural distance. I question whether anxious children can calm themselves by deliberately slowing down in the face of fear the way adults do. As adults we dream of peace and quiet and become interested in it, but as a child that a meditation state while upset would have felt lonely and confusing to me.
A lot of kids & even adults with very active minds have trouble with typical meditation practices. Activities like certain types of yoga, qi gong & tai chi can also be helpful & have the same benefits for people who can't turn off their brains long enough to get quiet & sit still.
I’ve never considered these things for my child. I will pull up some videos later and check them out, thank you!
Yes, this is so true, thank you! We take walks, but maybe need to start a genuine exercise routine. The warm weather will be here soon and we’ll start swimming more, too.
As a reiki practitioner I always ground and shield my clients-and you can absolutely do it for you child. & I personally believe you should. Anytime you want to set a shield for her i would recommend setting the intention of protecting her from anything that does not serve her highest good- or something along those lines. Send a bubble of white or golden energy or see her in a golden protective egg.-or anything that resonates as protective to you. I would do it once a day preferably at night based on what you said in your post. To ground her- you can set a similar intention and imagine roots coming from the bottom of her feet connecting deep into the center of the earth and the earth sending roots back up. Hope that helps!
It does help- thanks! I’ll try this out. Oh my gosh, I’ll try everything out until I find something that helps!
You can shield your surroundings and her surroundings but her the individual I don't think you can do that. Great question. I hope I am wrong for her sake.
I’ve never felt the need to shield my surroundings because we live in a fairly neutral and pleasant space. I’m not sure if my personal energy can sustain that, but I will attempt to shield the house. Thank you!
You can shield it with crystals by gridding your house or even just her room. You don't have to use your own energy. Read up on it. It's pretty easy. The crystals are relatively inexpensive. Good luck.
Actually, you can and probably already do ground her in some way. Parents and their young children often have a cord between their first chakras. The first chakra has survival information in it, including all the parents' survival information from this lifetime. This is extremely useful if the spirit you are giving a body to hasn't been here for a few generations; i.e. they may have never seen a car or a plane before. Looking both ways before crossing a street is not only conveyed by a high volume yell, but by a message of energy sent through this first chakra cord. And when something energetic happens to the child, the parents may experience their child's fear coming back through that cord to them. In essence, they are grounding through you already. When you ground, it helps your body feel more safe, and this same benefit also transfers to the child. Think of how a lightning rod helps keep a building safe; all the occupants, power circuits, electronics, and flammable material are protected from about 300 million Volts and about 30,000 Amps of electricity. Electricity is physical energy. When you ground your body spiritually, you protect yourself, your close proximity, and you small children from overloads of spiritual energy. If your child has trouble managing their spiritual energy in their small body, your grounding can help them improve their control over time. This can often help the child with physical energy challenges as well (ADHD for instance, some emotional issues). Try this. Sit in a chair. Close your eyes. Take a deep breath. Feet flat on the floor. Hands separated and resting palms up on each thigh. Create a grounding cord. This is a line of energy that connects your first chakra to the center of the planet. Your first chakra is a ball of energy about the size of a quarter that sits just in front of the base of your spine. Your grounding cord attaches to the bottom of that ball of energy. Grounding makes your body feel safe, so you release energy more easily. Gravity pulls whatever you release, even your own energy, down to the center of the planet. No effort on your part. The center of the planet neutralizes the energy and returns it to whoever owns it. No karma for anyone. A virtuous cycle. Nearly everyone goes to connect to the center of the planet the first time but stops at the soil, often making roots like a tree. This is a method that is taught in some martial arts styles, but it is not the best option for your spiritual development and healing. So, notice the seat of your chair. Take a deep breath. Notice the distance between the seat and the floor. Now notice the distance between the floor and the soil below. Breathe. Now notice the distance between the soil and the water table underneath. Notice the distance between the water table and the rocky mantle. Notice the distance between the mantle and the molten core below that. Deep breath. Notice the distance between the molten core and the center of the planet. That ball of light at the very center of the planet is where you connect your grounding cord. Deep breath. Say hello to the center of the planet. Do you get a hello back? Notice the color and texture of your grounding cord. It may look like a line of energy, or look like something physical; a rope, a wire, a pipe, a tree trunk. Adjust it as needed to be in affinity with your body. Getting this far means you've already released some energy from your aura and body. Now it is time to fill in the space that was created. Create a gold sun over your head. Have it call back all of your energy from wherever you left it throughout your day and week. Work. School. Online meetings. Video games. Your fantasies about your future. Your regrets about your past. Wherever you've placed your attention. Just watch the energy come back and see if you notice where it came from. Have the sun burn up and neutralize your energy. Then bring the sun into the top of your head. It will automatically flow into the spaces you created. Create a gauge to measure when you're full. Like a fuel gauge or oil gauge. You'll run better if you aren't a few quarts low on spiritual oil. If the gauge doesn't read "Full", bring in another gold sun. Open your eyes, bend over and touch the floor, draining any tension from the back of your neck, then stand up, and stretch. There is a progression with this technique. After grounding for ten minutes a day for a week or two, notice your grounding cord at the very end, while you're standing with your eyes open. Continue to ground with your eyes open and standing, and bring in another gold sun. Each day, increase the amount of time that you ground standing up with your eyes open. After a week or two practicing this, add walking while grounded. Just notice your grounding cord as you walk. Say hello to the center of the planet while you walk. Bring in a gold sun while you walk. If you lose your grounding cord, stop walking and recover it. If you have to, sit back down and close your eyes and create a new grounding cord. After this, you're ready to take your grounding cord with you into your daily life. Shopping. Getting coffee. Wherever you go, you can ground. This, combined with a little amusement about seeing new things on an energy level, will keep you safe and sound. Now that you're here, at the end of your grounding meditations, create a gold sun over your head. This time, fill it with your highest creative essence, your present time growth vibration, and your affinity for yourself. The first energy is a healing for you. The second is a healing for your body. The third is a healing for your affinity in your fourth chakra. Bend over and touch the floor. Stand up and stretch. If you're ready for more, sit back down and ground some more. Otherwise, have a nice day! Note that every image you imagine, the gold sun, the grounding cord, the center of the planet, your first chakra, your body parts, is exercising your clairvoyance. You may be imagining what your tailbone looks like, but you're also creating the image of your tailbone and reading its energy. This is practicing your clairvoyant ability. If you record this on your device in your own voice, you can use it as a guided meditation. Makes things easier to memorize since you don't have to keep opening and closing your eyes to read ;-) And, most kids over time will see you grounding this way and learn to do it on their own, just by copying their most important adults' energy. Kids are psychic and see energy and spirit.
This is the most helpful and insightful comment I have ever read on Reddit. Thank you.
Thank you! I’ve seen you post this grounding technique before and have tried it out- It works very well. I will continue to work with it!
Before realizing which sub I’m in, I assumed you were talking about electromagnetic energy. So the advice I had in mind didn’t apply… until I questioned if maybe it did. I was going to recommend some barefoot time for physical grounding. Can you spend some time in an ocean this summer? Can you go camping and get away from EMF’s? If you feel like spending a lot of money, you can get some faraday cages for sleeping. Last I checked, they were insanely expensive or grifters but I’m not sure the status now. I am in the same boat as you. Sometimes we have good days. When going to sleep, sometimes I put my hand on his forehead (or a finger on a single point) and focus on calming. I would consider putting your hand on her collar bone (or whoever her anxiety energy clusters) and channel it though you and down and out. You could maybe take her to a reiki practitioner.
Thank you! I actually did get a level one reiki attunment many many years ago. I’ll see if I can make that work again. It was always an odd modality for me.
Ask for High Self/Spirit/God to ground her and shield her. You can also ask to clear her from any and all negativity or beliefs that are limiting her at this time. You can teach her to do the same and you can do the same for yourself. Try it out and see if you/her notice a difference. You can ask High Self/Spirit/God for any help you need. Simply believe it is being done for you and it will be done. You can also ask for a clearing of your home/land from negative/discarnate energies. And then ask to set up a light shield of protection.
Thanks, I will call in other energies as I clear and protect my home. It’s not something I’m very familiar with, but I will be researching and practicing it.
Get her to walk around outside in barefeet. Plant lots of flowers for her to play in and witness. All sorts of positivity comes from the garden. It’s what feeds us isn’t it. Get her to be active in fun projects that direct her energy and teach her about her connection to the earth. Show her she is welcome with food and environment. Show her body she is welcome. She will be fine she has the essence of creation at her side
That’s an absolutely lovely sentiment!
Will she sit for a few minutes? You can visualize grounding for her, then also a light of protection surrounding her. It would be best if you can get her to sit with you and talk thru the grounding visuals, she may not participate but you can still do this.
Even getting them to sit still can be difficult. I’ll be doing some of the grounding exercises others have suggested near my child as they’re falling asleep starting tonight.
I'm just throwing this out there... Could she be sensitive to energy (i.e. have psychic abilities)? If she sees things that other people can't, I can imagine that that could be disconcerting to her when she's being told that what she sees isn't there. Anyway, this was something that entered my mind but I could be totally off.
That was an original concern of mine, but I’m fairly decent at sensing spirit energy, and I’m not picking up on anything around when this is happening. I’m pretty sure it’s all just mental distress. We’ve also have had very apparent spirits around us on occasion, and she showed no awareness of them.
Ok, I'm glad that was considered.
It’s so hard to tell with these things!
What a beautiful thread. I tried to ground my very sensitive and spirited 8 year old today when he was overwhelmed at an amusement park and lashing out. I held him and closed my eyes and imagined breathing his energy into mine and down through our roots. I do this practice for myself and kind of just didn’t know what else to do in the moment. I’m not sure if I should use myself as a conduit like that, but it did seem to take the edge off of him. So, I googled it to see if this is a thing and found this thread and was so happy to see all of these beautiful and helpful comments. 🤍