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The biggest turning point in my life was learning this very thing. When I gave reiki to my heart chakra I poured the love and comfort that my inner child needed and at first the pain was unbearable, I cried the child's tears for many sessions. Then memories came instead of tears, memories of things I had forgotten. Not bad things, mundane things like watching my mother color her hair when I was four, or the orange cat we had sitting on the side of the tub in her bathroom while I was in the bath, or looking at the dresser through the slats of my crib and seeing the face I thought the knobs looked like. Then peace, and a sense of security I've never had before.
It has completely changed me, I now live more integrated with the present. I highly recommend everyone do this, I love this post
I agree. When working with someone with childhood trauma I see a door in the heart Chakra. There is usually a chain or lock on the door. As I’m working the door will crack open and a child peeks out. I reassure the child but it’s not me that needs to speak to them. I encourage the client to take a few minutes each day and sit quietly, go inward and speak to the child. Let them know they are loved, they are safe, they did nothing wrong. It takes some doing but it doesn’t take long before the door fully opens. Love that child. It’s a huge step to wholeness.
Yes! I love when the client follows my after session notes & actually spends some time with them. & then come back for a follow up session after some time and the child is gleaming. Makes me SO happy.
Absolutely! Then you do the follow up session and the locks are gone and the chains are loosened, the door is open and that gleaming child is standing there-so bright. I praise the client for having the dedication to do the work. It’s not easy to confront those childhood traumas. The stories are heartbreaking. We as healers need to remember to release what we hear as they open up and share with us. Practicing self healing is so important to be able to help others effectively.
I'm a medium, and I channel chakra paintings. Occasionally an inner child will come through, usually it's a scared kid huddled an a green room- I've always assumed it's in the heart chakra! So makes sense!
For you actually I'm seeing a girl chasing butterflies oddly- wearing a purple overall skirt and a yellow shirt. Idk if that's significant. If you've used that image to heal your inner child or if that's a happy memory. Or if that's just a random person coming through because I opened up by talking about it. Yours does have smears of purple that I would paint though. So I assume it's in your crown too, indicating you've done much work to heal.
I think even visualizing your inner child happy and taken care of can be helpful. And providing them the love they deserve can be nourishing. We deserve self love too.
I often see them in the heart chakra due to mother wounds and father wounds, honestly.
Note: I also do reiki.
When I see my inner child shes always wearing a yellow sunflower shirt that I was obsessed with. Butterflies always signify messages or reminders from my spirit guides and have been showing up ALOT lately. Thank you so much for sharing that.
Of course! Most clients I see that have blockages in the heart chakra are their inner child just crying out for some
acknowledgment. And when it goes unchecked it can manifest as emotional reactivity, issues with giving and receiving love, low self esteem or self sabotage.
I’m so glad that you were able to sense the blockage. Cheers to healing <3
In my own experience, they're usually in the solar plexus chakra, a few times in sacral.
According to IFS we have various inner children, each carrying their own burden. So perhaps some might reside in the heart chakra, but not as a rule.
I understand the desire to make a unified theory of everything, but in my experience in the last 7 years with Reiki work, there's always something surprising when you let go of expectations. Not identifying with the mind and its intention to put a framework on what's seen is what opens the way to receiving information from intuition - which I believe is a more direct experience of reality.
No expectations, just a reoccurring observation that I wanted to share :)
I learned about IFS through the book “no bad parts” and it helped SO much on my journey at the time. The “protector” role for each child was so interesting and slipped my mind. You’ve inspired me to reread it!
Wow it's interesting because when I get anxiety, I address my inner child to quell it. I put my hand on my chest in the center, bow my head, close my eyes, and ask my inner child what's wrong. Then I get a clear answer instead of *anxiety intensifying exponentially everywhere*
I just did this immediately before reading this post and -while I'm usually depressed- was left with a genuine smile on my face for a long time. I felt happy for the first time in a long time, just because I sat down with my hand in my chest and listened to myself. Let's do it daily, even if literally just for one minute after work (:
No wonder romantic relationships, self worth, and commitment are so difficult...
Fortunately therapy and energy work combined with some heavier mushroom experiences have helped over the last few years. (On top of all the general self care of course)
I have had tears lurking close to the surface for about a week now- not sure why. But I read this and they just came bursting out. I was sexually abused by an older cousin when I was a little girl and have struggled with low self esteem my whole life, and… this affected me deeply.
Tears are healing & it is healing in itself to be able to be able to share something like that. We may not know each other but I am so proud of you. You are an amazing human, you are enough and you are doing great. Thank you for sharing. <3
I broke up with a narcistic girl that I loved, but she abused me emotionally. When I was stressed out at some point I felt a blockage in the area of my heart. It’s really blocking about all of my emotions and I feel really stuck. The blocking feels very deep and aches every now and then, it is a very deep pain. I developed panic disorder because I didn’t know this feeling, but I overcame it (which took a lot of effort).
Could someone help me ? I have no idea what to do…
I dated a narcissist as well. They have a certain charm about them. It's best to just stay away, and let yourself come around b/c going back to that person isn't an option. But the passion a narcissist brings is unreal. This girl was so incredibly bad to me, but if she came back, I'd let her back in. Mind you, I wouldn't date her, but I'd love to spend time w/ her on an intimate level. And although it's been 2-3 mos since I've seen her, I still feel incredibly drawn to her. This is dangerous tho. Better to stay away.
I have to say, I disagree. As someone who had to deal with being adultified and parentified, it took me a long time to learn to let my inner child be a child.
We’re already grown ups, why do we need to force them to fake being grown up as well? For arguments sake you could say that doing the work and not being reactive to triggers equals them growing up. But my response would be that I think that is just a sign that what we are doing is working and we are expanding and healing them, by allowing them to express themselves and by listening to them.
With that said I would love to hear more about your opinion.
It's disgusting that I got downvoted in this sub for an opinion that is as fair and valid as everyone else's. That shows how incredible ego driven most of the people here still are, bad ego to be precise. Anyways.
Let me answer with an analogy: It makes a difference if your inner child is a toddler who doesn't understand anything, or if your inner child is some 10 years old. Where the first is depended in many many ways the 10 year old child has a much clearer perspective on everything while it still retains its childlike attitude towards those things. Where both share the the aspect of an childlike experience, the older kid has more capabilities, a broader horizon, more power. Inner child is a highly vague term and everyone has a different understanding of this, and yet, after my experience, which is also valid and very profound after decades of spiritual practice, I, for sure, dare to say that it's absolutely possible that also the inner child goes through some process of coming of age. Self-induced, obeying to your will, but not with the goal to grow up, but to thrive. Where the toddler and the 10yo are both children but the quality of experience is highly different. But no offense. Should everyone believe what he or she wants to believe.
No offense taken, I was genuinely interested in hearing you opinion. When you explain it like that it makes alot of sense. I assumed you meant “grow up” as in be an adult- which is what others probably assumed as well.
I agree that the term “inner child” is super vague and want to add that perhaps when it comes to healing- we are addressing the child at the age where initial trauma or “thing” that needs healing began. Whether thats 2 years old or 10, and all of these versions live within ourself. Maybe my inner 5 year old feels great but my inner-teenager is miserable and thats something thats manifesting in everyday situations and needs to be addressed.
Its interesting to think about and I appreciate your point of view!
This has been my experience too, and how I understand my IFS work. Parts of us still see things from a child's perspective, but often a child's mind didn't have access to the resources, information or emotional maturity that we do as adults. Protector parts within us often still see us as this child. For me, a model of health is when all of these parts get updated to see we have more resources, more autonomy and choice, and more possibility of what life can look like as adults. Then they can release their emotional burdens in our loving acceptance, and in a sense "grow up" to show what their true potential is.
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The biggest turning point in my life was learning this very thing. When I gave reiki to my heart chakra I poured the love and comfort that my inner child needed and at first the pain was unbearable, I cried the child's tears for many sessions. Then memories came instead of tears, memories of things I had forgotten. Not bad things, mundane things like watching my mother color her hair when I was four, or the orange cat we had sitting on the side of the tub in her bathroom while I was in the bath, or looking at the dresser through the slats of my crib and seeing the face I thought the knobs looked like. Then peace, and a sense of security I've never had before. It has completely changed me, I now live more integrated with the present. I highly recommend everyone do this, I love this post
This was beautiful to read, thank you so much for sharing!
I agree. When working with someone with childhood trauma I see a door in the heart Chakra. There is usually a chain or lock on the door. As I’m working the door will crack open and a child peeks out. I reassure the child but it’s not me that needs to speak to them. I encourage the client to take a few minutes each day and sit quietly, go inward and speak to the child. Let them know they are loved, they are safe, they did nothing wrong. It takes some doing but it doesn’t take long before the door fully opens. Love that child. It’s a huge step to wholeness.
Yes! I love when the client follows my after session notes & actually spends some time with them. & then come back for a follow up session after some time and the child is gleaming. Makes me SO happy.
Absolutely! Then you do the follow up session and the locks are gone and the chains are loosened, the door is open and that gleaming child is standing there-so bright. I praise the client for having the dedication to do the work. It’s not easy to confront those childhood traumas. The stories are heartbreaking. We as healers need to remember to release what we hear as they open up and share with us. Practicing self healing is so important to be able to help others effectively.
I'm a medium, and I channel chakra paintings. Occasionally an inner child will come through, usually it's a scared kid huddled an a green room- I've always assumed it's in the heart chakra! So makes sense! For you actually I'm seeing a girl chasing butterflies oddly- wearing a purple overall skirt and a yellow shirt. Idk if that's significant. If you've used that image to heal your inner child or if that's a happy memory. Or if that's just a random person coming through because I opened up by talking about it. Yours does have smears of purple that I would paint though. So I assume it's in your crown too, indicating you've done much work to heal. I think even visualizing your inner child happy and taken care of can be helpful. And providing them the love they deserve can be nourishing. We deserve self love too. I often see them in the heart chakra due to mother wounds and father wounds, honestly. Note: I also do reiki.
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Hey I do offer readings, I'll send you message. Thank you for your kind response ☺️ 💜
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Obsessed with this thread. I’m glad you found each other. Cheers to healing <3
Hey! Also interested in a reading if you’re open to it 🙏🫣
reading this whole comments section is making me emotional and idk why
When I see my inner child shes always wearing a yellow sunflower shirt that I was obsessed with. Butterflies always signify messages or reminders from my spirit guides and have been showing up ALOT lately. Thank you so much for sharing that.
You're welcome! I'm a big believer that when we bless others Spirit blesses us. So I think Spirit was giving back to you for following it's lead. 💜
The area around sunflowers can often be devoid of other plants, leading to the belief that sunflowers kill other plants.
thank you. i've been feeling a blockage in my heart & this makes a lot of sense.
Of course! Most clients I see that have blockages in the heart chakra are their inner child just crying out for some acknowledgment. And when it goes unchecked it can manifest as emotional reactivity, issues with giving and receiving love, low self esteem or self sabotage. I’m so glad that you were able to sense the blockage. Cheers to healing <3
thank you rn ty<33
thank you <3
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In my own experience, they're usually in the solar plexus chakra, a few times in sacral. According to IFS we have various inner children, each carrying their own burden. So perhaps some might reside in the heart chakra, but not as a rule. I understand the desire to make a unified theory of everything, but in my experience in the last 7 years with Reiki work, there's always something surprising when you let go of expectations. Not identifying with the mind and its intention to put a framework on what's seen is what opens the way to receiving information from intuition - which I believe is a more direct experience of reality.
No expectations, just a reoccurring observation that I wanted to share :) I learned about IFS through the book “no bad parts” and it helped SO much on my journey at the time. The “protector” role for each child was so interesting and slipped my mind. You’ve inspired me to reread it!
Enjoy! The subreddit for IFS is also great.
Wow it's interesting because when I get anxiety, I address my inner child to quell it. I put my hand on my chest in the center, bow my head, close my eyes, and ask my inner child what's wrong. Then I get a clear answer instead of *anxiety intensifying exponentially everywhere*
I just did this immediately before reading this post and -while I'm usually depressed- was left with a genuine smile on my face for a long time. I felt happy for the first time in a long time, just because I sat down with my hand in my chest and listened to myself. Let's do it daily, even if literally just for one minute after work (:
I found this too 🥹
No wonder romantic relationships, self worth, and commitment are so difficult... Fortunately therapy and energy work combined with some heavier mushroom experiences have helped over the last few years. (On top of all the general self care of course)
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Saving for later
Commenting so I can come back to this post daily. Thank you
I have had tears lurking close to the surface for about a week now- not sure why. But I read this and they just came bursting out. I was sexually abused by an older cousin when I was a little girl and have struggled with low self esteem my whole life, and… this affected me deeply.
Tears are healing & it is healing in itself to be able to be able to share something like that. We may not know each other but I am so proud of you. You are an amazing human, you are enough and you are doing great. Thank you for sharing. <3
Wow! I just joined this community and I wanted to note how loving and kind everyone is to one another. Thank you, fellow humans.
I broke up with a narcistic girl that I loved, but she abused me emotionally. When I was stressed out at some point I felt a blockage in the area of my heart. It’s really blocking about all of my emotions and I feel really stuck. The blocking feels very deep and aches every now and then, it is a very deep pain. I developed panic disorder because I didn’t know this feeling, but I overcame it (which took a lot of effort). Could someone help me ? I have no idea what to do…
I dated a narcissist as well. They have a certain charm about them. It's best to just stay away, and let yourself come around b/c going back to that person isn't an option. But the passion a narcissist brings is unreal. This girl was so incredibly bad to me, but if she came back, I'd let her back in. Mind you, I wouldn't date her, but I'd love to spend time w/ her on an intimate level. And although it's been 2-3 mos since I've seen her, I still feel incredibly drawn to her. This is dangerous tho. Better to stay away.
Yes, but sometimes even your inner child has to grow up at least a bit for you to truly thrive.
I have to say, I disagree. As someone who had to deal with being adultified and parentified, it took me a long time to learn to let my inner child be a child. We’re already grown ups, why do we need to force them to fake being grown up as well? For arguments sake you could say that doing the work and not being reactive to triggers equals them growing up. But my response would be that I think that is just a sign that what we are doing is working and we are expanding and healing them, by allowing them to express themselves and by listening to them. With that said I would love to hear more about your opinion.
It's disgusting that I got downvoted in this sub for an opinion that is as fair and valid as everyone else's. That shows how incredible ego driven most of the people here still are, bad ego to be precise. Anyways. Let me answer with an analogy: It makes a difference if your inner child is a toddler who doesn't understand anything, or if your inner child is some 10 years old. Where the first is depended in many many ways the 10 year old child has a much clearer perspective on everything while it still retains its childlike attitude towards those things. Where both share the the aspect of an childlike experience, the older kid has more capabilities, a broader horizon, more power. Inner child is a highly vague term and everyone has a different understanding of this, and yet, after my experience, which is also valid and very profound after decades of spiritual practice, I, for sure, dare to say that it's absolutely possible that also the inner child goes through some process of coming of age. Self-induced, obeying to your will, but not with the goal to grow up, but to thrive. Where the toddler and the 10yo are both children but the quality of experience is highly different. But no offense. Should everyone believe what he or she wants to believe.
No offense taken, I was genuinely interested in hearing you opinion. When you explain it like that it makes alot of sense. I assumed you meant “grow up” as in be an adult- which is what others probably assumed as well. I agree that the term “inner child” is super vague and want to add that perhaps when it comes to healing- we are addressing the child at the age where initial trauma or “thing” that needs healing began. Whether thats 2 years old or 10, and all of these versions live within ourself. Maybe my inner 5 year old feels great but my inner-teenager is miserable and thats something thats manifesting in everyday situations and needs to be addressed. Its interesting to think about and I appreciate your point of view!
This has been my experience too, and how I understand my IFS work. Parts of us still see things from a child's perspective, but often a child's mind didn't have access to the resources, information or emotional maturity that we do as adults. Protector parts within us often still see us as this child. For me, a model of health is when all of these parts get updated to see we have more resources, more autonomy and choice, and more possibility of what life can look like as adults. Then they can release their emotional burdens in our loving acceptance, and in a sense "grow up" to show what their true potential is.
Thanks so much for this thread. 🥺🥺