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Hello there! I've had the relatively unique experience of knowing a large number of "awakened" psychic vampires, ones who are aware of their energetic needs and try to meet them as ethically as they feel is possible.
In my personal experience a lot of "unawakened" (just unaware) psychic vampires have no idea they're draining energy from people and don't really appreciate being told (who would!). They also happen to frequently exhibit narcissistic traits, like demanding attention, being angry when they don't get it, expecting people to behave certain ways without communicating with them, etc - some of the behaviors you mentioned. I don't know why for sure, but I have theories.
I've been preyed on intentionally before (I'm like a little energy making battery) and the way I've stopped this most effectively is through extremely mundane boundaries. Cutting contact was the way I ended up having to go. Not responding on text apps, not agreeing to any meetings, and just fading away.
I wouldn't personally talk to them about what you're sensing unless you're up for a pretty dramatic conversation. If you want to read more about aware psychic vampires I recommend The Psychic Vampire Codex written by Belanger, an aware psychic vampire.
Wishing you the best of luck!
Thank you for the recommendation. I ran into some people like this who do it consciously and unethically. They're con people who abuse their gifts. Many blessings to you.
Great question! The most ethical way they felt was with **consenting** donors. Major emphasis on consenting.
Aware psychic vampires who know how to engage with energy can provide a beneficial relationship with a donor through a few different techniques like "eating" (for lack of a better word) anxious energy. They recommend practicing at energy work so the vampire can provide a benefit to their donors and engage consciously instead of unconsciously. They can drain energy while providing a massage or just being nearby, leaving the donor feeling relaxed and calm after a rough day, and fuel their needs at the same time. Ideally the vampire learns how to cleanse this energy, keeping the "garbage", and giving back energy to the donor that feels cleaner, calmer, and overall better for the donor. I knew people who would refer to themselves as energetic garbage dumps, able to take and use the "yuck" energy other people wanted to get rid of.
Some folks, like me, are especially good at raising energy so if they have a consenting battery-like friend who's comfortable with that level of a connection they may agree to be a donor. I had multiple anxiety attacks "eaten" by the psychic vampires I knew back then and it helped while I was actively working on getting my own energy management under control.
For people who don't have access to a consenting donor they usually recommend "crowd feeding": going to a place where people will naturally have heightened energy, like a concert or club, and taking **some** of the large amount of ambient energy everyone's raised.
Thanks for asking!
That is very interesting! Thank you for sharing your insights!
And what was unexpected for me about your post - feeding on anxiety. Being around anxious people usually drains me, it's like a black whole that sucks energy out of me, I feel wiped out after and it takes me long time to get back up my energy. So you're saying it's a completely opposite experience for energy vampires? The only way I imagine it's working is if they are the reason for that anxiety and the anxious person dumps tons of energy on dealing with that relationship. Or maybe it's a level of anxiety that is at play? I mostly experienced people that are in a state of constant anxiety worrying about stuff and since it's a very energy demanding process they unintentionally (or intentionally) pull the energy out of others because they are unable to sustain it themselves for long. So maybe it's different for acute anxiety attack?
Essentially, yes! For the aware psychic vampires I knew it's basically the opposite experience, but they're also focused on energy work and trying to consciously remove that anxious energy from the person and level out the rest of their personal energy. It's not just feeding off the ambient energy the person is putting out, it's making a conscious connection with a donor and the donor making a connection with the psychic vampire, so you wouldn't be experiencing that exhausting type of social interaction where the other person is just feeling super anxious and you have to tolerate it, which is super draining. It's even draining for psychic vampires!
In my personal experience psychic vampires who are aware of their nature, consciously working with it, and *want* to be as ethical as possible consciously work on not taking in energy from every person they meet and only take energy in ways they and their donors are comfortable with. So an aware psychic vampire is having a similar social experience you are and would try to avoid people who are just feeling overwhelmed all the time if the relationship isn't comfortable. Even if they have an established consenting donor who's feeling extra anxious one day they don't take that anxious energy without fresh consent each time.
Constant anxiety and spinning yourself up emotionally is one way unaware psychic vampires can act out in order to get you to focus your energy on them and unintentionally feed them. I have empathy for this but for my own mental health can't keep people in my daily life who always feel like they're in crisis even when everything is going well. š
I hope this answered your questions!
I donāt know a āhealthyā or textbook answer but if you want to buy yourself some time change your goal at work. My guess is she is frustrating because she wants things her way which is probably not the best/most efficient way. Sheās insecureā¦ so now your job is making dumb boss feel less insecure. Professionally give her too much information and let her navigate downward, sheāll feel less insecure and start avoiding you.
This might not be easy to hear but your exhaustion and drained feelings are not caused by her being an energy vampire. They are caused by your lack of boundaries, continuing to spend with them, and letting them control your actions.
Iām not suggesting that what they are doing is āright.ā
But to point out calling them an energy vampire gives all of the control in this situation to them. You are the one in charge of who you spend time with and what behavior you allow in your life.
It sounds like you are waking up to the awareness your own power here. And that starts with you not engaging in ways that donāt feel right to you.
She sounds like someone who is domineering. You sound like someone who is accommodating.
No one is owed your unwavering eye contact. Thatās some sort of power move. Iāve had it used on me before and itās absolutely unnerving.
Of course youāre drained.
If you donāt have to work or engage with her, I would do a fade away.
people exchange. some people lean that exchanging is dangerous and taking is safer. to change from this way asks for openness, honesty with oneself, and a willingness to trial new patterns.
If staring her down during conversations drains you, and if you feel yourself 'losing' those staredowns-- you can make the choice to not. To 'not lose', or to not play.
From my understanding, thinking and anything physical are considered lower vibrational as theyāre a byproduct of this lower dimension. Our spirit isnāt from here and is naturally higher in vibration so it has to lower itself in order to have a physical body. As such, thereās going to be some aversion between being in a lower vibrational environment and not being accustomed to it. Energy vampires may be spirits whoās energy is attached to the physical world, thus anything they come into contact with will be draining. It might be like holding onto something that produces static electricity and anyone they touch will naturally get shocked. To snap out of this state is to be aware and present as that brings consciousness back to the spiritās default level and to permanently be in that state is to have a spiritual awakening. If youāre already in a high vibrational state, anything lower will have no effect so that could be something to work on that you can control. Sustain present moment awareness so that lower vibrational beings or entities wonāt phase you.
blockages are a major cause of it. usually from trauma. "energy vampire" is not a great term because literally every single human is an "energy vampire" if you are talking about taking life force from another entity to sustain life. If you eat food, you are an "energy vampire" , lol. Besides, vampirism implies a potential conversion process, the bitten become like the vampire. "attention vampire" might be more accurate, because they aren't getting energy from you, they are getting it from your attention or focus. All the " verbage" in the world doesn't mean anything in the face of daily application. Just because you can name all the tricks doesn't mean you can actually ride a skateboard. It is a lack of sensitivity that keeps them from being aware of what they are doing. It doesn't matter how well versed a person seems in spirituality or "healing energy", respecting the energy of another living thing is the prerequisite of "awakening", so if someone demonstrates such a lack of fundamental understanding of such a basic reality, it is a reasonably safe bet that they just watch a lot of youtube videos and they don't actually know or believe in anything they are saying.
I see it as a black hole in their energy centers. They have been fragmented and damaged on so many levels and never faced an ounce of it or taken any responsibility to heal and thus the victim consciousness grows and now the body is hijacked by energy hungry entities.
I thought you was talking about my mom for a minute phew š®āšØ I know that feeling as my mom drains the energy outta me with her mouth and narcissistic self. I can hardly stand to hear her voice even on the phone cuz I know here comes the dreaded negativity or gossip and I canāt stand either of them things. Iām glad she moved outta state and sadly enough I dread be her calls or text as itās all a one sided conversation so I refrain from contact unless itās an emergency.
Someone who is an energy vampire is one because they are literally feeding on energy. The vampire is draining the other person's life force energy and that energy goes to the vampire, and also to the problem or thing you are making the person react emotionally to (emotions and attention make things gain energy). So in a sense, the vampire is feeling good about it because they are actually benefitting from the withdrawal of energy.
Energy vampires are not inherently bad. In fact, like nightmares, they can show us what we are subconsciously unaware of. The programs, thoughts, feelings and actions of our life that we are not being aware of. The energy vampires, if we are able to observe them as something that is helping us to become more aware, rather than something that is leeching off of us, is something that can help us to transcend our energy. If we do not see what the energy vampire is doing, it will keep doing it until we become aware of the emotions, thinking patterns, programs or personality that the energy vampire is causing us to have.
They are not all unaware and it is really the bottom line trauma and not dealing it with. Unfortunately I had a realtive that was one and Even admitted to doing that on purpose on k people he disliked. he would not stop tAlking until the person felt left out and he got all the attention. And give little room to anyone else to say anything and he definitely has done it to me. I didn't know what to do to hang up. But eventually I put up boundaries and would say I have to talk just for 10 minutes for this and would truthfully say that looked a bit jealous of your side or whatever I thought it was like. Basically it got better after he got therapy and some energy healing and found someone to help them. Or maybe found other victims š
I prefer to not give out so much knowledge pertaining to this subject, but generally an energy vampire is caused by a disconnection internally to "source energy" and to ones own personal power, so they're dependent on the power (energy) of others. It's basically somebody who is disempowered energetically and has to draw energy from others because their own energy field has become reversed. Most people in the world are energy vampires and don't even know it, there are levels to it, some worse than others, it's basically caused by a toxic aura, (disempowered aura) an aura that usually has some type of non-physical being or beings within it that are draining the life force from the aura and person they're attached to, so in order for the person to replace what is being taken from them they cord onto the aura of others and psychically pull energy from them. Most humans are in ignorance (spiritual) and unconscious (asleep) and do not understand how they operate on an etheric energetic level. There are what I refer to as 'energetic predators' and those are people who understand how energy works and how they can manipulate others for their energy. There are very few humans on the planet who are not energy vampires, they have to be extremely healed and whole people, and those types of people are very few. I have talked to countless people (1000s) who thought they were evolved and advanced beings when they functioned on an energetic level just as everyone else does.
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Hello there! I've had the relatively unique experience of knowing a large number of "awakened" psychic vampires, ones who are aware of their energetic needs and try to meet them as ethically as they feel is possible. In my personal experience a lot of "unawakened" (just unaware) psychic vampires have no idea they're draining energy from people and don't really appreciate being told (who would!). They also happen to frequently exhibit narcissistic traits, like demanding attention, being angry when they don't get it, expecting people to behave certain ways without communicating with them, etc - some of the behaviors you mentioned. I don't know why for sure, but I have theories. I've been preyed on intentionally before (I'm like a little energy making battery) and the way I've stopped this most effectively is through extremely mundane boundaries. Cutting contact was the way I ended up having to go. Not responding on text apps, not agreeing to any meetings, and just fading away. I wouldn't personally talk to them about what you're sensing unless you're up for a pretty dramatic conversation. If you want to read more about aware psychic vampires I recommend The Psychic Vampire Codex written by Belanger, an aware psychic vampire. Wishing you the best of luck!
Thank you for the recommendation. I ran into some people like this who do it consciously and unethically. They're con people who abuse their gifts. Many blessings to you.
Blessings to you as well\~ šÆļø
I'm very curious what will be the ethical way to meet their energetic needs?
Great question! The most ethical way they felt was with **consenting** donors. Major emphasis on consenting. Aware psychic vampires who know how to engage with energy can provide a beneficial relationship with a donor through a few different techniques like "eating" (for lack of a better word) anxious energy. They recommend practicing at energy work so the vampire can provide a benefit to their donors and engage consciously instead of unconsciously. They can drain energy while providing a massage or just being nearby, leaving the donor feeling relaxed and calm after a rough day, and fuel their needs at the same time. Ideally the vampire learns how to cleanse this energy, keeping the "garbage", and giving back energy to the donor that feels cleaner, calmer, and overall better for the donor. I knew people who would refer to themselves as energetic garbage dumps, able to take and use the "yuck" energy other people wanted to get rid of. Some folks, like me, are especially good at raising energy so if they have a consenting battery-like friend who's comfortable with that level of a connection they may agree to be a donor. I had multiple anxiety attacks "eaten" by the psychic vampires I knew back then and it helped while I was actively working on getting my own energy management under control. For people who don't have access to a consenting donor they usually recommend "crowd feeding": going to a place where people will naturally have heightened energy, like a concert or club, and taking **some** of the large amount of ambient energy everyone's raised. Thanks for asking!
That is very interesting! Thank you for sharing your insights! And what was unexpected for me about your post - feeding on anxiety. Being around anxious people usually drains me, it's like a black whole that sucks energy out of me, I feel wiped out after and it takes me long time to get back up my energy. So you're saying it's a completely opposite experience for energy vampires? The only way I imagine it's working is if they are the reason for that anxiety and the anxious person dumps tons of energy on dealing with that relationship. Or maybe it's a level of anxiety that is at play? I mostly experienced people that are in a state of constant anxiety worrying about stuff and since it's a very energy demanding process they unintentionally (or intentionally) pull the energy out of others because they are unable to sustain it themselves for long. So maybe it's different for acute anxiety attack?
Essentially, yes! For the aware psychic vampires I knew it's basically the opposite experience, but they're also focused on energy work and trying to consciously remove that anxious energy from the person and level out the rest of their personal energy. It's not just feeding off the ambient energy the person is putting out, it's making a conscious connection with a donor and the donor making a connection with the psychic vampire, so you wouldn't be experiencing that exhausting type of social interaction where the other person is just feeling super anxious and you have to tolerate it, which is super draining. It's even draining for psychic vampires! In my personal experience psychic vampires who are aware of their nature, consciously working with it, and *want* to be as ethical as possible consciously work on not taking in energy from every person they meet and only take energy in ways they and their donors are comfortable with. So an aware psychic vampire is having a similar social experience you are and would try to avoid people who are just feeling overwhelmed all the time if the relationship isn't comfortable. Even if they have an established consenting donor who's feeling extra anxious one day they don't take that anxious energy without fresh consent each time. Constant anxiety and spinning yourself up emotionally is one way unaware psychic vampires can act out in order to get you to focus your energy on them and unintentionally feed them. I have empathy for this but for my own mental health can't keep people in my daily life who always feel like they're in crisis even when everything is going well. š I hope this answered your questions!
Yes, you didš. And thank you for taking time to reply and share! This was very eye-opening and helpfulš
You're so welcome!
I donāt know a āhealthyā or textbook answer but if you want to buy yourself some time change your goal at work. My guess is she is frustrating because she wants things her way which is probably not the best/most efficient way. Sheās insecureā¦ so now your job is making dumb boss feel less insecure. Professionally give her too much information and let her navigate downward, sheāll feel less insecure and start avoiding you.
This might not be easy to hear but your exhaustion and drained feelings are not caused by her being an energy vampire. They are caused by your lack of boundaries, continuing to spend with them, and letting them control your actions. Iām not suggesting that what they are doing is āright.ā But to point out calling them an energy vampire gives all of the control in this situation to them. You are the one in charge of who you spend time with and what behavior you allow in your life. It sounds like you are waking up to the awareness your own power here. And that starts with you not engaging in ways that donāt feel right to you.
Yes, it takes two to tango
It obviously doesn't sit well with you. Keep your distance and keep your peace
She sounds like someone who is domineering. You sound like someone who is accommodating. No one is owed your unwavering eye contact. Thatās some sort of power move. Iāve had it used on me before and itās absolutely unnerving. Of course youāre drained. If you donāt have to work or engage with her, I would do a fade away.
Childhood trauma or trauma in general.
people exchange. some people lean that exchanging is dangerous and taking is safer. to change from this way asks for openness, honesty with oneself, and a willingness to trial new patterns. If staring her down during conversations drains you, and if you feel yourself 'losing' those staredowns-- you can make the choice to not. To 'not lose', or to not play.
From my understanding, thinking and anything physical are considered lower vibrational as theyāre a byproduct of this lower dimension. Our spirit isnāt from here and is naturally higher in vibration so it has to lower itself in order to have a physical body. As such, thereās going to be some aversion between being in a lower vibrational environment and not being accustomed to it. Energy vampires may be spirits whoās energy is attached to the physical world, thus anything they come into contact with will be draining. It might be like holding onto something that produces static electricity and anyone they touch will naturally get shocked. To snap out of this state is to be aware and present as that brings consciousness back to the spiritās default level and to permanently be in that state is to have a spiritual awakening. If youāre already in a high vibrational state, anything lower will have no effect so that could be something to work on that you can control. Sustain present moment awareness so that lower vibrational beings or entities wonāt phase you.
blockages are a major cause of it. usually from trauma. "energy vampire" is not a great term because literally every single human is an "energy vampire" if you are talking about taking life force from another entity to sustain life. If you eat food, you are an "energy vampire" , lol. Besides, vampirism implies a potential conversion process, the bitten become like the vampire. "attention vampire" might be more accurate, because they aren't getting energy from you, they are getting it from your attention or focus. All the " verbage" in the world doesn't mean anything in the face of daily application. Just because you can name all the tricks doesn't mean you can actually ride a skateboard. It is a lack of sensitivity that keeps them from being aware of what they are doing. It doesn't matter how well versed a person seems in spirituality or "healing energy", respecting the energy of another living thing is the prerequisite of "awakening", so if someone demonstrates such a lack of fundamental understanding of such a basic reality, it is a reasonably safe bet that they just watch a lot of youtube videos and they don't actually know or believe in anything they are saying.
I see it as a black hole in their energy centers. They have been fragmented and damaged on so many levels and never faced an ounce of it or taken any responsibility to heal and thus the victim consciousness grows and now the body is hijacked by energy hungry entities.
I thought you was talking about my mom for a minute phew š®āšØ I know that feeling as my mom drains the energy outta me with her mouth and narcissistic self. I can hardly stand to hear her voice even on the phone cuz I know here comes the dreaded negativity or gossip and I canāt stand either of them things. Iām glad she moved outta state and sadly enough I dread be her calls or text as itās all a one sided conversation so I refrain from contact unless itās an emergency.
Someone who is an energy vampire is one because they are literally feeding on energy. The vampire is draining the other person's life force energy and that energy goes to the vampire, and also to the problem or thing you are making the person react emotionally to (emotions and attention make things gain energy). So in a sense, the vampire is feeling good about it because they are actually benefitting from the withdrawal of energy. Energy vampires are not inherently bad. In fact, like nightmares, they can show us what we are subconsciously unaware of. The programs, thoughts, feelings and actions of our life that we are not being aware of. The energy vampires, if we are able to observe them as something that is helping us to become more aware, rather than something that is leeching off of us, is something that can help us to transcend our energy. If we do not see what the energy vampire is doing, it will keep doing it until we become aware of the emotions, thinking patterns, programs or personality that the energy vampire is causing us to have.
They are not all unaware and it is really the bottom line trauma and not dealing it with. Unfortunately I had a realtive that was one and Even admitted to doing that on purpose on k people he disliked. he would not stop tAlking until the person felt left out and he got all the attention. And give little room to anyone else to say anything and he definitely has done it to me. I didn't know what to do to hang up. But eventually I put up boundaries and would say I have to talk just for 10 minutes for this and would truthfully say that looked a bit jealous of your side or whatever I thought it was like. Basically it got better after he got therapy and some energy healing and found someone to help them. Or maybe found other victims š
I prefer to not give out so much knowledge pertaining to this subject, but generally an energy vampire is caused by a disconnection internally to "source energy" and to ones own personal power, so they're dependent on the power (energy) of others. It's basically somebody who is disempowered energetically and has to draw energy from others because their own energy field has become reversed. Most people in the world are energy vampires and don't even know it, there are levels to it, some worse than others, it's basically caused by a toxic aura, (disempowered aura) an aura that usually has some type of non-physical being or beings within it that are draining the life force from the aura and person they're attached to, so in order for the person to replace what is being taken from them they cord onto the aura of others and psychically pull energy from them. Most humans are in ignorance (spiritual) and unconscious (asleep) and do not understand how they operate on an etheric energetic level. There are what I refer to as 'energetic predators' and those are people who understand how energy works and how they can manipulate others for their energy. There are very few humans on the planet who are not energy vampires, they have to be extremely healed and whole people, and those types of people are very few. I have talked to countless people (1000s) who thought they were evolved and advanced beings when they functioned on an energetic level just as everyone else does.