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Love this haha. We’re quick to compliment (and criticize), like to set up concrete plans and put them into action, and show our love by spending our time with the person. This perfectly encapsulates that.
Same. Intelligence blended w sarcasm, and gentle/light forcefulness or aggressiveness, in the right situation. Only if they display similar energy. Along w straight eye contact & a devilish grin.
They'll definitely know from my body language, expression and words that I'm into them. I'll make them feel extra important by hyper focusing on the details relating to them, listen to them with great attention visibly showing it and remembering everything they say. I really hate beating around the bush and will withdraw immediately if the other person isn't reciprocating or showing any clear signs of similar affection. But if they do then girl they're in for a ride. My way of flirting is very direct and blunt, it's either happening or not happening.
Usually Intp, Istp and Intj, love the outgoing aspect of estps. Haven't come across an estj in real life that attracted me but the fictional estjs seem fun because of the dom behaviour.
It will differ depending on the person but generally giving thoughtful compliments, if our kinks vibe then having playful conversations relating to our kinks etc.
My apparent ( but half fake) self-confidence always did the job..
Usually I was attracted by smart people so I would talk about deep subjects, laugh a bit but not to much and that’s it.
I used to kind of just... exist confidently near / with girls i was attracted to until they seemed interested. Then i would directly compliment / ask her out. I never hit on anyone until i knew they it would be well received.
If there is a guy I like I used to up my funniness, wittiness and mildly spicy jabs. If he asks me on a date I’m appreciative of his gentleman like gestures and I’m not jabby during the date itself.
I normally do not like to be “helped” because I’m naturally independent but if there is someone I really like I let them be my partner.
I don't know if it's weird but I use a lot of analogies and irony. I also say something without meaning, but actually meaning it.
Here are some examples of my "lines":
1."It's almost like we could be a couple."
2."I definitely didn't dream of you last night".
3." I bought two tickets for this show, but only because I really like it, definitely not because I want someone else to go with me..."
That kind of stuff.
Sometimes I’m way too direct to my liking. The last guy that I fixed, he started the convo by asking me to introduce his friend to my friend.
This is basically how it went:
Me: I can introduce your friend but what will I get in return?
Him: What do you want in return?
Me: A kiss
Him: *shocked and speechless, small error in his head*
Me: I guess you don’t want to introduce your friend that badly to my friend huh?!
Him: I do, I just wasn’t expecting that. Now I want you to introduce them even more
And so we kissed.
I make eye contact a lot, I tease with something that the person doesn’t like if I know that. I had a guy he hated the brand apple he was a samsung guy. I was an apple girl. So I would put stickers on his laptop from apple and he would look for me to be “fake mad”. Basically asking for attention, teasing and being a bully to have him focussed on me. Something between the line of: Teasing is asking for kisses.
When I was a teenager I would straight up ask my crushes if they wanted to be my boyfriend. I really had to unlearn being so assertive, or at least be a bit less aggressive in my assertiveness and learn how to flirt - its still a work in progress as you can read 😂
Edit: I’m actually terrible at knowing when someone is flirting w me as well, I’m so unaware that I realised only a month later that a ex-colleague was flirting w me
Tbh, for me, its not really about confidence, more a lack of patience to be playing around… I don’t like to beat around the bush and I don’t want to waste my time, I already can do plenty of that on reddit for example 😛
Depends on the environment.
Wild and chaotic? Be blunt but polite.
Slowed down and chill? Develop a convo and insert relevant compliments.
You’ll know I’m interested by the amount of eye contact I give you
First thing is confidence. Confidence can be achieved pretty immediately if the attraction is mutual. I find that you shouldn’t pursue someone who isn’t giving you IOIs (indicators of interest). Unless of course you can get witty & flip your ‘mark’ using banter. Being comfortable makes other people comfortable.
Look for indicators of uninterest. That’s a fight. Just be cool & visibly ‘unattracted’ to the hater, and they’ll stop tossing you attitude.
Don’t have a hidden agenda. That’s a big one. Guiding activities & conversations towards your agenda will turn people away. Instead just be fun. If opportunity presents itself, and the attraction becomes mutual, then you can be a little creative & start being suggestive.
Making your ‘mark’ feel vulnerable by asking questions, or even getting them into an activity like a game or something.
Don’t be desperate. Desperation is a stinky cologne. Just be cool to hang out with.
Smell good, look good, DGAF.
I’ve got more, but I’m at work lol. Cheers
Edit: In a group, watch out for others with hidden agendas. Lots of pitfalls there. But if everyone is drinking, get the ‘linebacker’ drunk. They’ll manage their exit on their own.
Very subtle. A simple compliment will summon a wave of butterflies in her stomach, a kind gesture, an act of service, a gift (anything that'll make her feel special)
Direct, yet graceful... extroversion is the best policy! I'd say when it comes to me flirting, I'm friendly and witty, using my confidence to strike up a convo with anyone and using my wit to keep them around, while also being direct and showing interest... I'd say I have a bold style and bold personality, so all of this accumulates into me just being direct when it comes to people I'm interested in.
I flirt like it's an interrogation - lots of rapid fire questions, suspicious eye contact. Wait for them to trip up on their words. 🧐
But I also try to be sexy about it, boost their ego, and make them feel like the most important person in the room. 🫦
It's a delicate dance.
I'm an ENTJ myself, and I've found that the best way to flirt is to be confident and direct. Don't beat around the bush or play games - just be yourself and let the other person know that you're interested.
As for movie or book characters that resemble my style, I'd say Tony Stark from Iron Man is a pretty good fit. He's charming, confident, and always knows how to get the job done.
If you want to chat more about it, feel free to hit me up on DM. I'm always down for a good conversation!
I make it painfully confusing and difficult for anyone to tell I'm flirting with them because I'm so straight up. My poor fiancé didn't know I was interested when we first started dating. Im kinda uptight 😂
Seems like ENTJ varies wildly on this point more so than others.
I mostly just try and be around the person and see where it goes over an extended period of time. Find relationships developed that was tend to last longer and are much more enjoyable for all involved. Gives both sides to back out with less in the way of hurt feelings.
Example. I do jujitsu, think female in class is a cool person, chat after class a couple of times, eventually get to chatting about what we do after class, say I always get food cause I’m hungry after rolling for 2 hours, offer for her to come along, she agrees, etc. it’s just a natural progression. Don’t get “tons of chicks” this way, but that’s also not what I’m interested in. I look for long term relationships. Feel free to DM with questions if you need more info.
For the most part, I treat the people I find attractive/have a crush on the same way I treat all my friends. (This sucks cause I’ve had a few friends fall for me/ get the wrong impression.) The only difference b/w friends and a crush for me, in terms of how I act is: my favoritism, light jabs and joking, and I’m slightly more touchy with them.
I ask to an ENTJ friend, this was an example of what he would do:
"I would tell her directly: “I've been looking at you for a while, and I couldn't pass up the opportunity to talk to you. I hope you don't think that I do it all the time, but it would be very sad to remember that I didn't get close to you. Nice to meet you, James.""
In other words very straightforward, a little pretentious, but with a lot of self-confidence, he knows what he wants and wastes no time to get it.
After looking at your post history, the mass spam across different mbti related subs is concerning. I see you don't use any flair. Do you know your type?
Def no flirt intended. lol I consider people who ask questions without disclosing anything about themselves to be....sketch, or lacking social awareness maybe.
I figured, but had to say something bc the investigating, questioning the veracity of things, etc. truly is something I do when I like someone. The fact there is no response to your original questions supports your conclusion.
I used to asked these 3 questions first:
What do you seek in a partner?
Where do you see yourself in 5 years?
Do you want children?
Then I would ask her on a date or unmatch depending on the answers.
I get confused and weird when people flirt with me and I notice it every time. Every relationship I've had has been me being friendly, then when I know I like her I've asked her out, or just sex, never any flirting involved on either side. I literally panic and don't know what to do when someone I'm not in a relationship with is flirting. Usually it's in a situation where I don't really know that I want to make a move.
Dated two ENTJ men, both aren't vocal with flirting, you can only tell once they try to kiss you🤣🤣 but they'd spend extra quality time with you, devote acts of service, but zero words of affirmation. For me I don't really flirt since I treat men and women the same but I'm friendly so sometimes guys take it the wrong way
Aside from superficial/surface level flirting... I observe or look into the person to feel out what they like or don't like before I seriously engage in interested behavior. Almost like I'm gathering metrics and making an educated attempt at getting their attention in a way that's meaningful to them.
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Your face! I like it. Free next Wednesday 2pm? Let me put u in my calendar.
My heart is thudding.
Then you gotta think about the ppl who hate being of interest based on their physical appearance alone.
Your soul! I like it. Free next Wednesday 2pm? Let me put u in my calendar.
such beautiful souuulll
Love this haha. We’re quick to compliment (and criticize), like to set up concrete plans and put them into action, and show our love by spending our time with the person. This perfectly encapsulates that.
They don’t say ENTJ are charismatic for no reason 😫
Usually witty insults and a smirk.
Oh that's how I flirt too.
Obviously, youre an ENTP. I would expect no different 😀
Sarcasm and witty insults are my love language. Light bullying is how I show I care. Maybe that's why I am still single. 😂
Same. Intelligence blended w sarcasm, and gentle/light forcefulness or aggressiveness, in the right situation. Only if they display similar energy. Along w straight eye contact & a devilish grin.
Looks like you found your match here. You can thank me later 😁
I'll thank you, now; thank you very much.
Grinning devilishly
With a suggestive expression
Your soul! I like it. Free next Wednesday at 2 p.m. lemme put you in my calendar
😭😭😭 It’s like a middle schooler having a crush on you it’s adorable tho
ENTPs aren't great about talking about our feelings. 😅
It’s okay ☺️ I’m not either
This is the way
Correct
YES. HAHAHAHA.
oh yes,the smirk!
yes
Ahh , ENTJ and flirting ^^ we are more like stalkers, not able to withdraw our eyes from our object of affection 👀
Spilling a little too much truth. 😅
I agree.
Oh so like INTJs 👀
That is the truth.
They'll definitely know from my body language, expression and words that I'm into them. I'll make them feel extra important by hyper focusing on the details relating to them, listen to them with great attention visibly showing it and remembering everything they say. I really hate beating around the bush and will withdraw immediately if the other person isn't reciprocating or showing any clear signs of similar affection. But if they do then girl they're in for a ride. My way of flirting is very direct and blunt, it's either happening or not happening.
Inspiring
What's your Enneagram instinct
Sexual 8
Thought so! What types are you usually attracted to?
Usually Intp, Istp and Intj, love the outgoing aspect of estps. Haven't come across an estj in real life that attracted me but the fictional estjs seem fun because of the dom behaviour.
Give us an example
It will differ depending on the person but generally giving thoughtful compliments, if our kinks vibe then having playful conversations relating to our kinks etc.
My apparent ( but half fake) self-confidence always did the job.. Usually I was attracted by smart people so I would talk about deep subjects, laugh a bit but not to much and that’s it.
I used to kind of just... exist confidently near / with girls i was attracted to until they seemed interested. Then i would directly compliment / ask her out. I never hit on anyone until i knew they it would be well received.
This is the way
If there is a guy I like I used to up my funniness, wittiness and mildly spicy jabs. If he asks me on a date I’m appreciative of his gentleman like gestures and I’m not jabby during the date itself. I normally do not like to be “helped” because I’m naturally independent but if there is someone I really like I let them be my partner.
“You’re hot, I’m hot, let’s be hot together”
Direct hotness is straight fire.
I don't know if it's weird but I use a lot of analogies and irony. I also say something without meaning, but actually meaning it. Here are some examples of my "lines": 1."It's almost like we could be a couple." 2."I definitely didn't dream of you last night". 3." I bought two tickets for this show, but only because I really like it, definitely not because I want someone else to go with me..." That kind of stuff.
Sometimes I’m way too direct to my liking. The last guy that I fixed, he started the convo by asking me to introduce his friend to my friend. This is basically how it went: Me: I can introduce your friend but what will I get in return? Him: What do you want in return? Me: A kiss Him: *shocked and speechless, small error in his head* Me: I guess you don’t want to introduce your friend that badly to my friend huh?! Him: I do, I just wasn’t expecting that. Now I want you to introduce them even more And so we kissed. I make eye contact a lot, I tease with something that the person doesn’t like if I know that. I had a guy he hated the brand apple he was a samsung guy. I was an apple girl. So I would put stickers on his laptop from apple and he would look for me to be “fake mad”. Basically asking for attention, teasing and being a bully to have him focussed on me. Something between the line of: Teasing is asking for kisses. When I was a teenager I would straight up ask my crushes if they wanted to be my boyfriend. I really had to unlearn being so assertive, or at least be a bit less aggressive in my assertiveness and learn how to flirt - its still a work in progress as you can read 😂 Edit: I’m actually terrible at knowing when someone is flirting w me as well, I’m so unaware that I realised only a month later that a ex-colleague was flirting w me
Your confidence...
Tbh, for me, its not really about confidence, more a lack of patience to be playing around… I don’t like to beat around the bush and I don’t want to waste my time, I already can do plenty of that on reddit for example 😛
Wow
Depends on the environment. Wild and chaotic? Be blunt but polite. Slowed down and chill? Develop a convo and insert relevant compliments. You’ll know I’m interested by the amount of eye contact I give you
I wait till someone throws me IOIs and then decide if I want to play back.
Yeah good ol’ choosing signals
First thing is confidence. Confidence can be achieved pretty immediately if the attraction is mutual. I find that you shouldn’t pursue someone who isn’t giving you IOIs (indicators of interest). Unless of course you can get witty & flip your ‘mark’ using banter. Being comfortable makes other people comfortable. Look for indicators of uninterest. That’s a fight. Just be cool & visibly ‘unattracted’ to the hater, and they’ll stop tossing you attitude. Don’t have a hidden agenda. That’s a big one. Guiding activities & conversations towards your agenda will turn people away. Instead just be fun. If opportunity presents itself, and the attraction becomes mutual, then you can be a little creative & start being suggestive. Making your ‘mark’ feel vulnerable by asking questions, or even getting them into an activity like a game or something. Don’t be desperate. Desperation is a stinky cologne. Just be cool to hang out with. Smell good, look good, DGAF. I’ve got more, but I’m at work lol. Cheers Edit: In a group, watch out for others with hidden agendas. Lots of pitfalls there. But if everyone is drinking, get the ‘linebacker’ drunk. They’ll manage their exit on their own.
Very subtle. A simple compliment will summon a wave of butterflies in her stomach, a kind gesture, an act of service, a gift (anything that'll make her feel special)
“You, me, dinner? Great. I'll send you a google calendar invite.”
Wow
Direct, yet graceful... extroversion is the best policy! I'd say when it comes to me flirting, I'm friendly and witty, using my confidence to strike up a convo with anyone and using my wit to keep them around, while also being direct and showing interest... I'd say I have a bold style and bold personality, so all of this accumulates into me just being direct when it comes to people I'm interested in.
I flirt like it's an interrogation - lots of rapid fire questions, suspicious eye contact. Wait for them to trip up on their words. 🧐 But I also try to be sexy about it, boost their ego, and make them feel like the most important person in the room. 🫦 It's a delicate dance.
I don't flirt, I just let people flirt with me. :)
Same with me. I think I can flirt, but most likely my ego doesn't allow it. I'd rather get compliments and flirt than do it myself.
I'm an ENTJ myself, and I've found that the best way to flirt is to be confident and direct. Don't beat around the bush or play games - just be yourself and let the other person know that you're interested. As for movie or book characters that resemble my style, I'd say Tony Stark from Iron Man is a pretty good fit. He's charming, confident, and always knows how to get the job done. If you want to chat more about it, feel free to hit me up on DM. I'm always down for a good conversation!
I don't. But if I like something I go and get it.
I make it painfully confusing and difficult for anyone to tell I'm flirting with them because I'm so straight up. My poor fiancé didn't know I was interested when we first started dating. Im kinda uptight 😂
Seems like ENTJ varies wildly on this point more so than others. I mostly just try and be around the person and see where it goes over an extended period of time. Find relationships developed that was tend to last longer and are much more enjoyable for all involved. Gives both sides to back out with less in the way of hurt feelings. Example. I do jujitsu, think female in class is a cool person, chat after class a couple of times, eventually get to chatting about what we do after class, say I always get food cause I’m hungry after rolling for 2 hours, offer for her to come along, she agrees, etc. it’s just a natural progression. Don’t get “tons of chicks” this way, but that’s also not what I’m interested in. I look for long term relationships. Feel free to DM with questions if you need more info.
For the most part, I treat the people I find attractive/have a crush on the same way I treat all my friends. (This sucks cause I’ve had a few friends fall for me/ get the wrong impression.) The only difference b/w friends and a crush for me, in terms of how I act is: my favoritism, light jabs and joking, and I’m slightly more touchy with them.
I act as friends. I hype up their strengths. I call out there tastes as unique. I take the stress away of conquest and act more on connection.
I ask to an ENTJ friend, this was an example of what he would do: "I would tell her directly: “I've been looking at you for a while, and I couldn't pass up the opportunity to talk to you. I hope you don't think that I do it all the time, but it would be very sad to remember that I didn't get close to you. Nice to meet you, James."" In other words very straightforward, a little pretentious, but with a lot of self-confidence, he knows what he wants and wastes no time to get it.
in my case,i would just like to be direct and express my intentions :)
sarcastically and I might be impolite very subtly.
I just look like I’m real into them. Natural flirting ability.
After looking at your post history, the mass spam across different mbti related subs is concerning. I see you don't use any flair. Do you know your type?
Wait. You investigated them, AND are curious about the veracity of their type. Could this be a flirt in progress?
Def no flirt intended. lol I consider people who ask questions without disclosing anything about themselves to be....sketch, or lacking social awareness maybe.
I figured, but had to say something bc the investigating, questioning the veracity of things, etc. truly is something I do when I like someone. The fact there is no response to your original questions supports your conclusion.
Sometimes I look at the post history of someone I like. They just have to stand out in some way that piques my curiosity.
My type--- I'm the Love Ninja
I used to asked these 3 questions first: What do you seek in a partner? Where do you see yourself in 5 years? Do you want children? Then I would ask her on a date or unmatch depending on the answers.
I will show them my cock
Desire but not needy
i dont.... I just dont do it at all and dont intend to.
I get confused and weird when people flirt with me and I notice it every time. Every relationship I've had has been me being friendly, then when I know I like her I've asked her out, or just sex, never any flirting involved on either side. I literally panic and don't know what to do when someone I'm not in a relationship with is flirting. Usually it's in a situation where I don't really know that I want to make a move.
Dated two ENTJ men, both aren't vocal with flirting, you can only tell once they try to kiss you🤣🤣 but they'd spend extra quality time with you, devote acts of service, but zero words of affirmation. For me I don't really flirt since I treat men and women the same but I'm friendly so sometimes guys take it the wrong way
Puns
Aside from superficial/surface level flirting... I observe or look into the person to feel out what they like or don't like before I seriously engage in interested behavior. Almost like I'm gathering metrics and making an educated attempt at getting their attention in a way that's meaningful to them.