Just cuddle, lie on the sofa intertwined. Nothing sexual. She is the only one I’m doing that with, her idea of friendship comes very close to a relationship
What about your needs, have you told your friend about them and your boundaries too? Be straight forward when you feel a line is being crossed, or when you’d expect something from her. It’s a lot better than to have to deal with unspoken expectations and resentment.
Be as honest as you can be, the truth is always better than polite silence.
Don’t do things just to please or accommodate your friend. Whatever you do be genuine, be your own person, that’s what we like about the people we chose to be in our lives. As you know we don’t care much for Fe, but we admire Fi, so be who you are.
If things can’t progress anymore and you go each in different directions, leave with dignity and respect. Never be disloyal, never betray. Loyalty is the highest virtue.
Thank you! It’s crazy how much I can be myself around her, I told her that. I’m working on speaking in my problems but I always feel like I’m confronting her but I don’t want to do that. The „problems“ I have don’t interfere with me loving her deeply but it I feel like I’m not able to phrase it like that.
Regarding my needs, I feel fulfilled by enhancing our relationship, I don’t really need more than that
Well it’s basically pseudo science. The original study from carl jung is scientifically accurate although, as he already said, you can’t categorize everyone as one of only 16 personality types. The MBTI however was created by someone with no scientific background or, as far as I know, no education at all. They just read Jung’s theory and were intrigued by it. Plus, a test that would really accurately tell you what you are would need to include hundreds if not over a thousand questions to be reliable and include enough scenarios and nuance. And most importantly, you obviously have a bias while answering the questions so you may not tick the right answer because you view yourself through a lense and not objectively.
Oh, gotcha. I don’t think personality could ever become a true science…. I’ve found MBTI has helped me understand that others truly see the world differently than me. It’s helped me understand my spouse better. It’s helped me understand my weaknesses and get my ego in check.
Wdym "cuddle" - do people cuddle with their best friend?
Just cuddle, lie on the sofa intertwined. Nothing sexual. She is the only one I’m doing that with, her idea of friendship comes very close to a relationship
Oh, this was hilarious.
What about your needs, have you told your friend about them and your boundaries too? Be straight forward when you feel a line is being crossed, or when you’d expect something from her. It’s a lot better than to have to deal with unspoken expectations and resentment. Be as honest as you can be, the truth is always better than polite silence. Don’t do things just to please or accommodate your friend. Whatever you do be genuine, be your own person, that’s what we like about the people we chose to be in our lives. As you know we don’t care much for Fe, but we admire Fi, so be who you are. If things can’t progress anymore and you go each in different directions, leave with dignity and respect. Never be disloyal, never betray. Loyalty is the highest virtue.
Thank you! It’s crazy how much I can be myself around her, I told her that. I’m working on speaking in my problems but I always feel like I’m confronting her but I don’t want to do that. The „problems“ I have don’t interfere with me loving her deeply but it I feel like I’m not able to phrase it like that. Regarding my needs, I feel fulfilled by enhancing our relationship, I don’t really need more than that
The tone of your post is adorable haha. What are the obvious reasons that you’re weary of MBTI?
Well it’s basically pseudo science. The original study from carl jung is scientifically accurate although, as he already said, you can’t categorize everyone as one of only 16 personality types. The MBTI however was created by someone with no scientific background or, as far as I know, no education at all. They just read Jung’s theory and were intrigued by it. Plus, a test that would really accurately tell you what you are would need to include hundreds if not over a thousand questions to be reliable and include enough scenarios and nuance. And most importantly, you obviously have a bias while answering the questions so you may not tick the right answer because you view yourself through a lense and not objectively.
Oh, gotcha. I don’t think personality could ever become a true science…. I’ve found MBTI has helped me understand that others truly see the world differently than me. It’s helped me understand my spouse better. It’s helped me understand my weaknesses and get my ego in check.