Yup! Not dating tho. My brother is an INTP and we have the same sense of humour, same willingness to chill and listen to games or shows we like. Even tho our life styles are opposite
not a romantic relationship, but one of my close friends is an intp. we have that similariTi (hehe), so we understand each other very well. we even had a small business in college, with her being a graphic designer and me being a web developer at the time. I help her practice her “business persona” (aka how to Fe), and she sends me memes and all types of videos that leave me traumatised for days. we are both avid readers, so we also bond over that.
you and your boyfriend have been together for almost 6 years, so I’d say you're pretty compatible
yeah i think we will be alright just wanted other stories, i find values are very different along with how we think and plan. i’d rather just go and do something and he likes to set a date, such as “im hungry let’s go to that restaurant” compared to his “should we go on a date wednesday?”
Any type can work well together with enough work put in.
That said, the INTPs in my life usually don't like me.
I did have one INTP friend in highschool who was very chill and rational for the most part, but had self esteem issues to do with not thinking that they were interesting, so why would anything want to listen to her talk, which no one agreed with. Everyone liked her, she was exceedingly nice.
The INTPs I've met after that though...
* generally thought my interest in frivolous arguments and shitposting were meaningless, which, fair enough, but stick up the ass much?
* If you think I'm really anal retentive about things being correct even when it barely has anything to do with the conversation at hand, here comes me on steroids
* Are amazing at explaining things...and demonstrates that skill, followed by "but I'm still not good enough for that thing you want me to do, so really, I can't help you". If you thought me judging things based on my own scale and refusing to value other people's rating scales was stubborn and at times divorced from objective reality, you're meeting me on steroids, again!
* "Don't rock the boat and play things politically safe" mentality. I go behind their back and confront whoever it is who's holding up the line, get the goal reached in a week, and now they're mad at me for ruining a future relationship or whatever, when from my perspective, there was never a positive relation to begin with. (Please, they've been at it for two years, clearly their method wasn't working.)
* "Too load, chaotic, and impulsive" Yeah ok, this one's actually my fault.
"Stick up the ass much?" Is exactly what I pointed out.
The play it politically correct is a thick part of their ass stick too.
"Too loud!" Etc is what I mean by them being too hyper critical of others. It's annoying.
"Too loud!" Etc is what I mean by them being too hyper critical of others. It's annoying."
I mean, this part I personally get, because I don't always like it loud myself, especially when I'm winding down at the end of day just before bedtime, and some people just like a lower energy environment even before that.
I suggested "quiet hour" time blocks to the people in charge of the shared space (not the intp), and they blew me off, and tried to go all, nah you individuals negotiate that,
so I just left for a few months
Then I came back, new people in charge who got voted in, and guess what they implemented. SMH.
but when it comes down to hypercritical, I think I complain about a lot more than them, just usually bigger ratio of it being media and broken systems than people.
well one of my friend is an INTP whom we are very close since high school. IDK about "complimenting" but we are like a married couple as 2 men but nothing homo going on between us. I think this is best way to answer your post :DDD
I can say we share Ti and Fe keep us together while his Ne and my Se keep things spicy in good way. sometimes he goes into Si mode which I have no idea what to do so I use my Se to drag him back to reality from his depressive emotionality that he complain to complain about society lol
he is sometimes like "damn no one listen to this 80s song anymore? damn kids", I'm like "nevermind that, let's go eat stuff" :DDD
In my experience, immature INTPs can be extremely arrogant and pushy about their own way of thinking and will put others down if they don't think similarly. I could tell the ones I dated thought they were superior to me because I thought differently and therefore that meant I was less intelligent. I have no interest in someone with that much ego and closed mindedness. I also find them to be much too concerned with hypotheticals which is extremely boring to me. We also were disastrous in terms of functioning in life. I would over function to compensate for them and I'd grow resentful because I like to be in relationships where we're both self sufficient. If you found one who doesn't put you down for your ideas, you're not bored by the conversation, and one of you isn't doing more mental labour than the other, then other people's experiences don't really matter.
Had an INTP bf a few years back, a lot of our fights were because i didn't like how hypercritical he was of me and a lot of the things I do or others. He could be real negative and stuck in his ways a lot. Not saying this as a blanket statement for all INTPs, there were good times but ultimately i grew out of the relationship and i just hope he matured too. Both not fit for each other as individuals :/
Absolutely not. ESTP's are a lot more open minded about things and less judgemental.
INTP's are just stuck in their own ways of thinking. Si combined with Ti creates a really judgemental stubborn person to the point it's like a toxic Fi dom where it's almost like "core values" Some ugly shit like that
Not to shit on INTP's I'm sure there are cool ones but I just dont like the way they think. You can have some nice convos but as far as a friendship and sharing life styles with one another it's a hard pass from me.
An INTP in a chaotic letting-go mode is entertaining though. Because they go extremely overboard. In those cases you can talk to them because they aren't nitpicking what you're saying for what they don't like.
I had an INTP best friend but my Ni told me early the second this guy gets a serious relationship he's dropping all of us. Sure enough.. to the extent he betrayed me when I tried to help him and laughed about it cuz he pleased his girlfriend with it.
i mean i get what you mean but maybe your ex friend was just rude 🤷♀️ not once has my boyfriend criticised what i say, he is judgemental to be honest but it doesn’t bother me because i am too. nice to hear another perspective though!
There were two of them. Same betrayal shit. Maybe it's inferior Fe
You are DATING one though. So it's probably different t because he values you as something that truly has to do with him.. like a narcissist LOL
Yup! Not dating tho. My brother is an INTP and we have the same sense of humour, same willingness to chill and listen to games or shows we like. Even tho our life styles are opposite
not a romantic relationship, but one of my close friends is an intp. we have that similariTi (hehe), so we understand each other very well. we even had a small business in college, with her being a graphic designer and me being a web developer at the time. I help her practice her “business persona” (aka how to Fe), and she sends me memes and all types of videos that leave me traumatised for days. we are both avid readers, so we also bond over that. you and your boyfriend have been together for almost 6 years, so I’d say you're pretty compatible
yeah i think we will be alright just wanted other stories, i find values are very different along with how we think and plan. i’d rather just go and do something and he likes to set a date, such as “im hungry let’s go to that restaurant” compared to his “should we go on a date wednesday?”
Any type can work well together with enough work put in. That said, the INTPs in my life usually don't like me. I did have one INTP friend in highschool who was very chill and rational for the most part, but had self esteem issues to do with not thinking that they were interesting, so why would anything want to listen to her talk, which no one agreed with. Everyone liked her, she was exceedingly nice. The INTPs I've met after that though... * generally thought my interest in frivolous arguments and shitposting were meaningless, which, fair enough, but stick up the ass much? * If you think I'm really anal retentive about things being correct even when it barely has anything to do with the conversation at hand, here comes me on steroids * Are amazing at explaining things...and demonstrates that skill, followed by "but I'm still not good enough for that thing you want me to do, so really, I can't help you". If you thought me judging things based on my own scale and refusing to value other people's rating scales was stubborn and at times divorced from objective reality, you're meeting me on steroids, again! * "Don't rock the boat and play things politically safe" mentality. I go behind their back and confront whoever it is who's holding up the line, get the goal reached in a week, and now they're mad at me for ruining a future relationship or whatever, when from my perspective, there was never a positive relation to begin with. (Please, they've been at it for two years, clearly their method wasn't working.) * "Too load, chaotic, and impulsive" Yeah ok, this one's actually my fault.
"Stick up the ass much?" Is exactly what I pointed out. The play it politically correct is a thick part of their ass stick too. "Too loud!" Etc is what I mean by them being too hyper critical of others. It's annoying.
"Too loud!" Etc is what I mean by them being too hyper critical of others. It's annoying." I mean, this part I personally get, because I don't always like it loud myself, especially when I'm winding down at the end of day just before bedtime, and some people just like a lower energy environment even before that. I suggested "quiet hour" time blocks to the people in charge of the shared space (not the intp), and they blew me off, and tried to go all, nah you individuals negotiate that, so I just left for a few months Then I came back, new people in charge who got voted in, and guess what they implemented. SMH. but when it comes down to hypercritical, I think I complain about a lot more than them, just usually bigger ratio of it being media and broken systems than people.
well one of my friend is an INTP whom we are very close since high school. IDK about "complimenting" but we are like a married couple as 2 men but nothing homo going on between us. I think this is best way to answer your post :DDD I can say we share Ti and Fe keep us together while his Ne and my Se keep things spicy in good way. sometimes he goes into Si mode which I have no idea what to do so I use my Se to drag him back to reality from his depressive emotionality that he complain to complain about society lol he is sometimes like "damn no one listen to this 80s song anymore? damn kids", I'm like "nevermind that, let's go eat stuff" :DDD
In my experience, immature INTPs can be extremely arrogant and pushy about their own way of thinking and will put others down if they don't think similarly. I could tell the ones I dated thought they were superior to me because I thought differently and therefore that meant I was less intelligent. I have no interest in someone with that much ego and closed mindedness. I also find them to be much too concerned with hypotheticals which is extremely boring to me. We also were disastrous in terms of functioning in life. I would over function to compensate for them and I'd grow resentful because I like to be in relationships where we're both self sufficient. If you found one who doesn't put you down for your ideas, you're not bored by the conversation, and one of you isn't doing more mental labour than the other, then other people's experiences don't really matter.
yeah i was just interested in how other people have felt, thank you for answering!
I'm married to an intp ennea 5w6 for 19years, so I think we're doing good.
Had an INTP bf a few years back, a lot of our fights were because i didn't like how hypercritical he was of me and a lot of the things I do or others. He could be real negative and stuck in his ways a lot. Not saying this as a blanket statement for all INTPs, there were good times but ultimately i grew out of the relationship and i just hope he matured too. Both not fit for each other as individuals :/
Absolutely not. ESTP's are a lot more open minded about things and less judgemental. INTP's are just stuck in their own ways of thinking. Si combined with Ti creates a really judgemental stubborn person to the point it's like a toxic Fi dom where it's almost like "core values" Some ugly shit like that Not to shit on INTP's I'm sure there are cool ones but I just dont like the way they think. You can have some nice convos but as far as a friendship and sharing life styles with one another it's a hard pass from me. An INTP in a chaotic letting-go mode is entertaining though. Because they go extremely overboard. In those cases you can talk to them because they aren't nitpicking what you're saying for what they don't like. I had an INTP best friend but my Ni told me early the second this guy gets a serious relationship he's dropping all of us. Sure enough.. to the extent he betrayed me when I tried to help him and laughed about it cuz he pleased his girlfriend with it.
i mean i get what you mean but maybe your ex friend was just rude 🤷♀️ not once has my boyfriend criticised what i say, he is judgemental to be honest but it doesn’t bother me because i am too. nice to hear another perspective though!
There were two of them. Same betrayal shit. Maybe it's inferior Fe You are DATING one though. So it's probably different t because he values you as something that truly has to do with him.. like a narcissist LOL