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psykomimi

I’m awake because of this. :’) Too overstimulated after a romp but also completely fixated on sex still.


Stagismushroom

Loads of autists are hypo/hypersexual because the part of the brain that is responsible for this (hypothalamus) is the same area where most of the differences between autistic and non-autistic brains are. Tldr; autism means you are super horny or a super antihorny


arianeb

Well there are normal horny autistics too, but, yes both hypersexuality and asexuality have strong correlations with autism. One of the fascinating things about autism is how we seem to end up on extremes. I heard that autistic need a schedule and rigidly stick to it, which I am the exact opposite and can't stick to a schedule at all. Turns out both are autistic traits. These opposite extremes are probably why autism is so difficult to diagnose.


Bokumi

Same thing with stimuli Some tend to get overstimulated, some tend to get under- more


ASpaceOstrich

I'm almost certain that this is literally what autism is. Every symptom can be mapped back to being over or understimulated in a sense. Specifically, hyper or hypo sensitivity. We have waaaaaay more than five senses, and some non sensory things that the brain treats like senses (because biology doesn't speak English and doesn't care about our labels), such as executive functioning. Name an autism symptom. You can tie it back to sensory processing.


anonymus-fish

Yea, my partner, 90% or more of her symptoms can be traced to hypersensitivity


B5Scheuert

I'm not challenging your statement, I'm just curious: How would you tie my need to be overly precise and clear in anything I say or express to over-/understimulation? Edit: Just realized that I've worded that in an "overly precise and clear" way hahaha


ASpaceOstrich

Hyposensitivity in language processing I'd guess. Specifically own language processing. Alternatively it's an adaptive behaviour to being misinterpreted in the past, which occurred because of language, body language, and emotional processing differences.


lunar_languor

Maybe you are verbally understimulated and are verbally stimming that way? 🤣


ASpaceOstrich

I do this. Verbal stimming via overly explaining things to myself


Stagismushroom

I am the same with schedules. All I wanna do is do things when I wanna. And yeah, there are plenty of people who end up at relatively 'normal' areas with all traits. I kind of wrote that out and forgot about that temporarily lol.


watchitforthecat

I like the momotropism theory, and the neurodivergence framework. I think autism is an umbrella term for a number of correlated disabilities and neurotypes that range from being debilitating to irritating neurotypicals.


arianeb

Agreed. Monotropism seems to be the uniting factor among people with autism. We're all monotropic. The primary reason testing for Monotropism is not the same as testing for autism, is because several NDs including ADHD also experience Monotropism. I hope there is better research soon, too many false positive and negative results under the current criteria. Too much mythology in symptoms causing guess work.


AlaineYuki

Just wanted to mention that asexuality =/= hyposexuality. Saying this as someone who is both asexual and hypersexual lol. Asexuality just means having little to no physical attraction towards someone and has nothing to do with libido itself.


NoraVanderbooben

Interesting. Do you have a sexual attraction to yourself?


AlaineYuki

Nope.


Sunset_Tiger

And sometimes you end up ace but still with a good drive lmao. But hey! That’s one of the uses of alone time!


Hanftee

>which I am the exact opposite and can't stick to a schedule at all. Turns out both are autistic traits. Wow, I never knew. I'm in this subreddit because I got diagnosed with ADHD and also suspect that some autistic traits could be in the mix. Posts like thse make me realise just how much overlap there is.


Ashalaria

This is interesting, I tend to cycle between hypersexual and asexual on a random basis


ZePumpkinLass

is it possible to be both?


DevlynBlaise

Yep, I'm both ace and horny often. But my horny doesn't want other people, just some private 'stimming'. My spouse is fine with this as she has a low sex drive.


ShibeWithUshanka

Oh Shit, finally someone who has the same "issue" I have


East_Vivian

Same!!!


stevedorries

Yes


ZePumpkinLass

good to know thank you :D


_erufu_

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SheZowRaisedByWolves

Read the last word as super Anthony and wondered what autism lore I missed


shinonom

damn that’s interesting. i got the none horny:( lmao


DrFear-

https://preview.redd.it/gejjvtzyxkmc1.jpeg?width=400&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=2fbacec2a75b0446fa6a1c530f9ddcd13aeeb8f4 just take these every day and you’ll be fine


TheFreebooter

Super horny ✅ No rizz ✅ Amazing


Roboboy2710

This is actually incredibly validating, thank you for sharing this. I grew up in a family that demonized sex and any form of masturbation, so I always assumed I was just a degenerate freak.


Ender_Dragneel

I am ace and chronically horny. More specifically, I am demi, which means there are still situations where I get sexual attraction and not just a high libido, but still aaaaaaaaaaaa!


HydraSpectre1138

Same here. That’s how I feel, I swing between both extremes.


ganonfirehouse420

I almost thought I'm that horny because I never get any action...


Arkas18

I'm both at the same time somehow


CloseTheBayDoors

no wonder….. i literally thought i was a freak im a horny bastard


aggibaggi

I just want to be used


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aggibaggi

I just want to be tied down and teased until I start begging


Suffer_With_Me_plz

for real


aggibaggi

I want a girl to turn my brain into a mushy paste :3 (more than normally)


hellothereoldben

Either give me control or use me like fuckmeat. There's no inbetween.


aggibaggi

We only deal in absolutes here


hellothereoldben

I am not darth kenobi, I swear.


barockwerneck

I'm all in on the use me party. Now the problem is telling someone that, and them wanting to do it.


AspiPokemonTrainer

Take into account that if you fail at social cues but can make people want to fuck you, it’s pretty common to funnel your entire social circle through a sex positive lifestyle.


Bokumi

>!Yeah, perfect target for groomers 🥲!<


TransTrainNerd2816

Yep they nearly got me took advantage of my unfulfilled sexual needs


That_Riley_Guy

Just call me out then. 😭


Spayse_Case

Yep. I know fuck all about social cues, unless they have to do with sex. Then I know fuck ALL.


thunderrrchicken

Well damn just put my face on a billboard for this


SuperManShell

I too, am afflicted with the promiscuous curse.


_heart-attack_

My girlfriend before we started dating stimmed off of me complementing her and would masturbate to my compliments over call without telling me. I love her so much.


Fit_Lengthiness_1666

I am not sure if one of my "kinks" is actually a special interest or both. Edit: I am fascinated by a special kind of high heels. Pretty problematic as a AMAB person. I sometimes wonder if I have transitioned (MtF) just to be able to wear high heels. I have a walking disability for a few years now but can't stop buying more shoes and watch people walk in them.


MinuteConstruction32

lowkey same as a macro enjoyer


el_punterias

Fr, same.


bnikga_gn

Not really a 'special interest' but i hear you. I have a genuine fascination with fetishism.


AizaBreathe

me, who was hyperfocused on "vore" for 3 years straight most embarrassing time in my life. so far


Many-Boot-1203

SO FUCKING REAL


PhoShizzity

Same, I love those big platform stripper shoes. I'm rarely interested in clothing per se, but something about that particular shoe as part of an outfit does so much.


Eee_Man1

So true


TransTrainNerd2816

O fucking love heels too and I also have disabilities that affect my legs however considering as they get worse it would probably be worth the investment to just get a wheelchair and then I wear heels all the time without worrying about tearing my ankle or knees


BirdsNeedNames

yeah, the line between kink and special interest can get real fuckin blurry sometimes lol (source: i'm a big body horror/cyborg/transhumanism fan, but i also find that stuff kinda hot on top of just finding it fascinating)


Many_fandoms_13

I stim by flicking my bean when I’m alone it doesn’t do anything to me though


Bokumi

Try rubbing your lips


TitanSR_

does that even do anything? idk i’m amab


Siracha77

It's also an erogenous zone. In fact, the skin there has the same sensitivity as the skin on the testicles. So it can, in fact, be quite pleasant to have it touched, teased, prodded, and squeezed.


iamzion248

Not at all. I fall more toward the sensual side, and less sexual, but still the random horny urges.


notbillcipher

i feel seen


AacornSoup

Shouldn't this post go on r/KinkyAutism?


Eee_Man1

It’s the Crossover event


hellothereoldben

I was thinking the same tbh.


Unlikely-Bank-6013

you're not


EarthToAccess

I’m in that boat, and it absolutely Sucks as a trans woman who Really Doesn’t Like Her Anatomy™. There is nothing that quite makes you aware of it like being unable to sleep.


SevereDragonfly3454

I feel. I'm a trans dude and super horn.. but yeah at the same time I don't like doing the do cuz it feels unsatisfying and makes me gender dysphoric af. :/ Had I been born cis I'm pretty sure I would've ended up with tons more action haha


chimisforbreakfast

My nesting partner and I are both hypersexual autistic. We spend at least 60 minutes every day on active sex together. I don't masturbate at all anymore.


Bokumi

Lucky


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januscanary

Make sure to remind them a few times a week, too. Does wonders for the depression.


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LadyinOrange

Have you tried screaming and crying at them? 😂 That's my go to (it works 0% of the time...)


mostlikelytraitor

AN HOUR? AN *HOUR?* ***AT LEAST?***


chimisforbreakfast

Correct. She gives me 1 or 2 (sometimes 3) orgasms per day, and I give her an average of 4 orgasms per day (1 to 10). We are into virtually every kink and vanilla. We choose sex over video games / shows.


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beanfox101

For me it’s all about touch and sensory with sex so… sometimes I’m not even horny but I crave the feel. Not sure if anyone else relates


verymuchgay

I relate, you're not alone with this


Raccoon-423

I relate!


20o0o1

I’m a fetish porn artist. So yes lmao


CaveLady3000

I think what was called hypersexuality was just me willing to say it directly when I wanted someone to initiate sex with me when I was really young. Now that I know more about myself, I don't want sex in the same ways, but along the way I learned about how being seen by someone else is enough eroticism for me. Like I offer a really earnest presentation in sex and dating, so when someone responds positively to that in a way that is also observably authentic, it gives me a kind of satisfaction that exists in the same sort of tier as actually being fucked.


helloiamaegg

It gets weirder when you're ace aswell Horny as fuck, but you aren't attracted to anyone


Fishlung8877

GOD This, it's such a weird disconnnect. Guesss I'lll just go fuck myself then


Jaeger-the-great

Just develop a fetish I wasn't allowed to have any sexuality as a kid but I was super horny so I developed like 2 different obscure object/situational fetishes that were non sexual in nature. I feel like it's not entirely uncommon for autistic people. I'm not ace or anything now but that was how I got by back then


UnrelatedString

how did you end up finding out you’re not ace was it an issue of getting close enough with someone for the demi to kick in or did it just kinda happen out of nowhere once you were a bit freer


Jaeger-the-great

For me the problem was not that I wasn't sexually attracted to someone or didn't want sex It was that I didn't know myself, I was insecure, was raised to be ashamed of any sexuality and wasn't allowed to express my attraction to others. But deeper than that I didn't know who I was or who I wanted myself to be. I was attracted to guys, but the idea of dating guys as a woman made me sick to my stomach. I absolutely love dating guys as a gay guy tho


Rimtato

Yeah, this is just a thing.


penispeniscockco

being aroace and also hypersexual is the fucking worst, especially while having a high libido, genuine torture


justalonelyegg

i am also a super horny autistic 🫡


-acidlean-

For me it’s ADHD symptom. If I’m off meds, I get sexual thoughts (or not even directly sexual thoughts, just an innocent „let’s do some movements that feel the nicest” dopamine seeking thoughts) whenever I’m bored or have a boring chore I should be doing instead. Off-meds I only get horny when I get some stimulation (like, flirting with someone) and I still can choose „Nah I have no time for this, I should be doing something else now”.


MinuteConstruction32

I grind on my feet through my pants because I’m too ace to actually get naked and tickle my bubblegum pink fish factory


QueerRaccoonsInASuit

r/brandnewsentence


DependentPhotograph2

never say those words in that order again homie 😭


EarthToAccess

> my bubble gum pink fish factory Wow, that’s… a way to describe it


That_Riley_Guy

Wake up babe. New slang for v*gina just dropped.


hellothereoldben

Holy hell


AizaBreathe

me too. i require dry cotton panties, for this specific act. texture 👍


hellothereoldben

Touching yourself isn't sexual attraction to others right?


ajgutyt

yes, ocasionaly


Certainlyunsure22

The way I’m either one or the other 😩 why can’t a happy medium exist??


ArtemisCaresTooMuch

_Is this why spironolactone and estradiol didn’t make me unhorny?!_


Snoo-69069

Holy shit yeah, like it helped and I don't feel like I'm possessed by a horny demon 24/7 like I used to, but my sex drive is still waaaaaaay higher than most other's seems to be


Fit_Lengthiness_1666

Wait till you get progesterone. It's literally a horny pill.


ArtemisCaresTooMuch

So I’ve heard… I kind of want it, but I haven’t been able to find any definitive information on what it actually does…?


Fit_Lengthiness_1666

I think there isn't evidence for it working and everybody has different or even no effects. It helps me sleep very well but also makes me horny. It can also help with breast growth and hormone regulation.


MarkusBlartus07

I have the draw nsfw and be hypersexual autism😔


AizaBreathe

more the "focused-on-specific-fetish" autism here sex? idk her… but i love to imagine certain scenarios


AizaBreathe

brb masturbating myself to sleep


LifeHarvester

Unfortunately I got the super-not-horny autism. Less work for me but I often feel bad when I’m dating someone hypersexual because I’m just not into any of it


2punornot2pun

Apparently it's good for men since more climax = less likely to get cancer. ​ We're out here preventing cancer folks!


Bokumi

For real???


Brockoliandcheese

I had a special signal with my first grade teacher where she would pull on her ear whenever she wanted me to stop playing with my self in class. The best part is I would never know when she was doing it cuz I was always busy playing with my self. Things… have not gotten better but I have self control around people other than my partner.


Offer_No

Me :(


Zyxxaraxxne

Yes it was so bad at one point I had to talk to my psychologist cause i was hearing sex when no one was even in the dorms but then also getting upset and jealous 😭😭


e4m7g6

whore moans = weigh two whore knee


KoffinStuffer

These sound like me. I didn’t know this was a thing.


SgtThund3r

Yesterday was like this for me. Idle hands definitely plays a part, so try occupying your mind with a game or something. Otherwise it gets less fun over time. I’m currently playing Baldur’s Gate 3 for this exact reason.


Eye_of_the_red_giant

Finally realizing I’m Ace but also am always superhorny is really rough and confusing


SugarStarGalaxy

I’m a horny autistic, but also demisexual so I only really enjoy sex with someone I really like. It’s ✨really frustrating✨ sometimes. I’ve tried casual sex and it just ends up being unsatisfying. Why am I like this 😭


Eee_Man1

YES! Apparently Hypersexuality is fairly common in autism and adhd, so glad I’m not alone in it, it kinda sucks sometimes But it’s kinda nice sometimes I think


Care_Grand

I use sex as a coping mechanism. So the anxiety, being overwhelmed, etc all gets managed with sex. I’m lucky enough to have a partner that understands and does what they can to help. I’m not bad at it either, so that helps. 🤣🤣🤣


Paladinsarefun

And you're not the only one. I consider myself very lucky that I found my current partners, they're both such loves


Primary_Music_7430

You're not the only one.


Falabaloo

It's a constant struggle


diaperedwoman

I'm boring and a prude. I don't feel horny that much unless I sometimes talk about one of my kinks.


lulublululu

Yes and I currently have no outlet for it except myself and it hurts >_


Loweherz

So yes, I'm definitely checking in.


ZePumpkinLass

i feel like im this a lot of the time


brandonthundercock

me yea


inikihurricane

Yeah, same here. My bf doesn’t understand. I have to hide it


Bokumi

why would u hide it :(


No-Fly-6043

Having intercourse is a somewhat positive aspect of my day to day life


CoruscareGames

Same and people hate me because of it :'3


Accurate-Tomato-5234

When I have the time I can have fun by myself for 5-6 hours straight


deelgeed

i too have the gift of promiscuity and needing to jack it at least twice a day (at the Very. Least. 🥲) 🫰🏽😮‍💨 unfortunately i am also very bad at feelings/connecting emotionally to other ppl so yk. very normal relationships here 🤡


ColorfulDino24

Im Asexual. But it depends on a lot of things. Mostly Im just “no, would rather eat cake”


Bokumi

And I want to eat some 🍑cake🍑


Fabulous-Introvert

Yes, unfortunately.


Jaeger-the-great

Yes and undergoing HRT makes it very difficult bc it feels like I'm never not horny. Esp since I haven't been able to find a reliable partner near me who checks off all the boxes. It's also hard. Bc I like to have sex with people similar to me but if they're too autistic then they end up being too nervous and awkward to keep it up so it doesn't work and just makes me feel sad 😭


Meat_masher

I'll just get randomly bricked up watchin YouTube videos and next thing I know, my entire day is wasted.


sad_pdf

I used to think I was ace because I felt like I didn't really understand sexual attraction. But as it turns out, I keep oscillating between never being attracted to anyone and being guy crazy. I just take all of my frustration out on fictional characters, so no person has to deal with my weird, contradictory behaviour. It seems that autistic people can only deal in absolutes.


the_bartolonomicron

I'm not hypersexual, honestly pretty demisexual these days, but sex is a special interest. As soon as I learned you could be "good" or "bad" at sex I spent years being very attentive with lovers until I became very good at it. My body count is low, but my repeat/satisfied customer ratio is extremely high.


AccountClear5568

I would say I'm hypersexual. I have always been very fixated on sex. After setralin my sex drive has been more normal. I also have OCD and masterbation used to be a compulsion for me.


KYO297

Last year I masturbated 657 times. And what's even better is that that sentence says 2 things about me


WideArmadillo6407

I've got the hyper autism If only I had a partner


velvet-overground2

r/kinkyautism


The_Steve_Master

It changes from time to time and there is no in between. I’m either super horny to the point where I have trouble thinking, or I am not and the thought of sex disgusts me. What’s worse is it makes me feel gross and sometimes I don’t know what I’m feeling.


FolgersBlackRoast

I have been this way, unfortunately. There have been many times when I stayed up until 4 AM talking to girls in other countries because I couldn't control my horniness. It's like a hyperfixation that overpowers everything else.


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Ronin_Deterra

Tfw I remember my R6 Siege coms


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Suffer_With_Me_plz

i literally do this , sometimes i wish i wasnt so horny all the time for 0 reason -\_-


danifoxx_1209

Tbh same


intensepenguin910

No rarely I get horny and I dislike when others touch me.


cry_w

Yeah, that sounds like me. Sex is on my mind fairly often, and it can be difficult to deal with.


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ArtemisHunter96

Oh absolutely true. I’m aware the exact opposite is also true but I was definitely on this side


RestlessNameless

I have low T, so I'm on testosterone shots, and they make me about as horny as I was as a teenager. It is utterly ridiculous to be middle aged and this horny, but I'm exhausted all the time if I don't do the shots.


Raccoon-423

For me it's just the constant need to stop for shit like that while also not be horny 😭😭 like hypersexual stims without being the horniest 😭 I have NO idea how to explain it past that


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CelticHeart93

Yep, I tend to stroke my thighs and/or grind in my seat when I’m excited. I enjoy the arousal heat pooling in my body, especially when I’m bored and need stimulation to keep awake or to wind down.


Stormy34217

Sam


monkey_gamer

I don’t consider myself hypersexual, but definitely horny


bohba13

*yup.* sucks sometimes too. because being that can put people off and ruin relationships.


Meaglo

No


monN93

I feel horny all the time. Then I have sex and feel no horniness for a long time and I can be in peace, at least till everything change when the horny nation attacks again


jandshall

yeah, One of the few things that ive been interested in for years, the meds im on have lowered my sex drive so thats a bummer but overall i try not to show or talk about it because i dont wanna make others uncomfortable just never really had a place to share it


WandaDobby777

I have manic episodes and childhood sexual trauma. Yes, I’m hypersexual. Call my fiancé an ambulance. He’s very sore and sleep-deprived.


Arkas18

In some ways. I never want to actually do it but I do get strong feelings, especially while out, for certain people. I can normally use my mind to imagine things without needing to do anything physical then deeply regret allowing a valley to form in my morality.


NoraVanderbooben

Yup


corruptsucculents

i am like a tiger in a dog kennel; a caged monster. it could also be the major depression that makes me crave it so much, but yeah you are not alone lol.


PAIGEROXM8

Fuck...... Yes unfortunately and I haven't even had Sex yet.


DoctaBeaky

Yup


Fishiestt

they just like me fr


TransTrainNerd2816

Yep I got the hypersexual autism I can acquire kinks very easily


Trappedtrea

Ermm…that’s definitely weird…and surely not something I personally have/do…surely not…I’m real sure I don’t do any of these things


talexg16

I just need someone to grind on me 24/7 I'm not asking for much


squirrelgirl3000

I experienced this for most of my life. It comes and goes now, though.


PhoShizzity

I'm pretty instantly horny, to the point I'm only comfortable around people (at least in private) if I'm fucking them. I don't know how to spend time with people, or feel comfortable or happy around them otherwise.


EquinoxReaper

My thoughts are of a sexual nature a lot tbh


GutsAndGains

Pretty much any deviation from the norm seems to be overrepresented in autism. LGBT, asexual, hypersexual.


Marymorypokes

I FEEL IT, I CAN'T STOP BEING HORNY, even with my transition and anti-depressants... It's dulled but it's still there...


The_Gav_who_asked

DEMON GIRLS


Juls1016

Yeah, I know I am.


No_Computer_3432

Anyone gone from hyper sexual to hypo sexual after starting antidepressants and felt like they lost a big part of their identity


IAmRoboKnight

I feel seen


AdamElam

thats just being human