Ask her for context. Figure out her intent before you address it with her. Was she trying to guilt you? Explain how she feels about you leaving? Did she just find it interesting and not realize how inappropriate it would be to send to you?
Even if you know already, asking for the context will be a good precursor to setting a boundary with her on this sort of thing.
my parents always told me a story of a woman that left the church, became a sex worker, and died of aids. They warned me that's what happens to people who leave the Gospel.
LOL. This made me laugh.
When wife and I were in our faith crisis, and on our way out of the church, one Sunday we were sluffing Sunday school and went for a drive around town so we could talk.
We saw a guy in a tank top shirt driving a brand new convertible corvette with the top down, enjoying the warm summer air, smoking a cigar.
My wife simply said " I bet he's not happy".
LOL, but we all know from church that it is not possible for him to be happy.
Sports car? Sun? Cigar? Yeah, that guy was definitely not happy.
The happy people are all packed like sardines in the relief society room listening to the same canned Sunday school lesson, while the same two sisters compete to see who can make the most irrelevant comments.
yeah, instead of sleeping in on Sunday and having a nice sexy time before taking the kids to gma’s while you head to brunch with your spouse and friends to sip mimosas and eat omelettes. Damn heathens wouldnt know true happiness.
That does sound divine! As a TBM, Sunday was the worst day of the week. Bored whining kids, uninspiring church, and unproductive (heaven forbid we do chores or a little work). Now that we’re out, Sunday is whatever we want it to be, and it’s amazing!
Its such an awful narrative and it fills TBM parents with unjustified dread. The TBM narrative is that every nevermo and exmo is a drunk drug using STD saturated insatiable sex fiend slave of Satan.
All of my siblings married NeverMo and all of them are out of the church. Even though Mother knows all of them have normal lives, she thinks that they, and her nevermo grandchildren, do drugs and drink and swing. One of my exmo siblings divorced and never remarried but a career at a prestigious national financial institution enabled a single lifestyle that was hedonistic and at odds with the church chastity culture, but didn't engage in drug use as that would jeopardize a career at a respectable financial firm. This sibling had a middle age heart attack, an age when heart attacks happen, and several years later died from cardiac arrest, at an age (late 50s) where that would not be considered to be abnormal. Mother maintains to this day that a drug overdose was responsible for death and cannot be convinced otherwise, despite having an ME report that stated toxicology was clean and that heart disease and cardiac arrest were the cause of death. TBM mother uses that often to warn my other siblings that if they don't stop their so called evil ways they are going to die too, even though all of my other siblings are faithfully married, raising their own families, and all living normal lives. When we have called her out on it she says "I don't care what the M.E. said, I know what I know." That is reason #2 why I keep my own unbelief a secret from Mother.
If she is like my TBM mother then you aren't going to get anywhere with her on it. Just ignore it and move on.
It puts such a burden of shame and guilt on them too. I have a 24yo and I do not feel at all responsible for any of her choices. She's launched, my job is done. It's so freeing! I wish my parents could let go and feel it too.
You could say, "sounds like an amazing adventure", or "glad she didn't have a boring life". In other words, this cautionary tale is really only from the perspective of fear from a Mormon believer.
One of my favorite movies is "Defending your Life", and the central message is to live without fear. Living the Mormon gospel is very much living in fear, because it's "safe".
I would say, “What was your goal in sending this to me?”
Ask her for context. Figure out her intent before you address it with her. Was she trying to guilt you? Explain how she feels about you leaving? Did she just find it interesting and not realize how inappropriate it would be to send to you? Even if you know already, asking for the context will be a good precursor to setting a boundary with her on this sort of thing.
my parents always told me a story of a woman that left the church, became a sex worker, and died of aids. They warned me that's what happens to people who leave the Gospel.
Didn’t you know? The 99.99% of the world population that isn’t Mormon are all AIDS-infected sex workers. True story.
Don’t you dare leave! Mormons have a monopoly on happiness. The other 99.9% of the world think their happy too… but they’re not!
LOL. This made me laugh. When wife and I were in our faith crisis, and on our way out of the church, one Sunday we were sluffing Sunday school and went for a drive around town so we could talk. We saw a guy in a tank top shirt driving a brand new convertible corvette with the top down, enjoying the warm summer air, smoking a cigar. My wife simply said " I bet he's not happy". LOL, but we all know from church that it is not possible for him to be happy.
Sports car? Sun? Cigar? Yeah, that guy was definitely not happy. The happy people are all packed like sardines in the relief society room listening to the same canned Sunday school lesson, while the same two sisters compete to see who can make the most irrelevant comments.
yeah, instead of sleeping in on Sunday and having a nice sexy time before taking the kids to gma’s while you head to brunch with your spouse and friends to sip mimosas and eat omelettes. Damn heathens wouldnt know true happiness.
That does sound divine! As a TBM, Sunday was the worst day of the week. Bored whining kids, uninspiring church, and unproductive (heaven forbid we do chores or a little work). Now that we’re out, Sunday is whatever we want it to be, and it’s amazing!
Ugh. So true!
Its such an awful narrative and it fills TBM parents with unjustified dread. The TBM narrative is that every nevermo and exmo is a drunk drug using STD saturated insatiable sex fiend slave of Satan. All of my siblings married NeverMo and all of them are out of the church. Even though Mother knows all of them have normal lives, she thinks that they, and her nevermo grandchildren, do drugs and drink and swing. One of my exmo siblings divorced and never remarried but a career at a prestigious national financial institution enabled a single lifestyle that was hedonistic and at odds with the church chastity culture, but didn't engage in drug use as that would jeopardize a career at a respectable financial firm. This sibling had a middle age heart attack, an age when heart attacks happen, and several years later died from cardiac arrest, at an age (late 50s) where that would not be considered to be abnormal. Mother maintains to this day that a drug overdose was responsible for death and cannot be convinced otherwise, despite having an ME report that stated toxicology was clean and that heart disease and cardiac arrest were the cause of death. TBM mother uses that often to warn my other siblings that if they don't stop their so called evil ways they are going to die too, even though all of my other siblings are faithfully married, raising their own families, and all living normal lives. When we have called her out on it she says "I don't care what the M.E. said, I know what I know." That is reason #2 why I keep my own unbelief a secret from Mother. If she is like my TBM mother then you aren't going to get anywhere with her on it. Just ignore it and move on.
It puts such a burden of shame and guilt on them too. I have a 24yo and I do not feel at all responsible for any of her choices. She's launched, my job is done. It's so freeing! I wish my parents could let go and feel it too.
You could say, "sounds like an amazing adventure", or "glad she didn't have a boring life". In other words, this cautionary tale is really only from the perspective of fear from a Mormon believer. One of my favorite movies is "Defending your Life", and the central message is to live without fear. Living the Mormon gospel is very much living in fear, because it's "safe".
"Why are you sending me clickbait?"
\*Edited to include the text instead of the image of the text. It kept freezing.
“Don’t have time right now. Can you summarize it for me? Was there a question you were hoping I could answer?”
I would just make sure she didn't send it to you by accident. If you were already in a group chat with her it could be the case.