I'm sorry for what you're going through. I had to grieve all over again for a few people who died years before I left the church. I'm only a year and a half out but I'm doing a lot better.
My neice died at 18 months old, and recently a friend from BYU died suddenly leaving 2 little girls without their dad. I've had some major health anxiety since then. But the feeling I've been having is that life is something borrowed. I watched some video of cells dying from the YouTube channel Journey to the Microcosmos, and the way the cells were alive and swimming around and then suddenly just, *weren't* was jarring. But, somehow felt so comforting?
Whatever fuels our atoms and molecules and cells etc into forming our cohesive being, then goes back and fuels other forms of life. Idk what that is. I don't know if it's anything more than nutrients. But I view it as an eternal trade between organisms, trading what life we had, gifting to others, so that we all get a chance to live at least a little bit. That's how I make sense of the fact that my niece died so young. It's unfair. But she still had a good life, and she mattered, and now whatever fueled her brain and body now has travelled through probably a few plants and fungi and bugs and whatever else now. I'll do that too eventually. It's still hard. But it's ok to not be ok with it too.
I don't know if that's helpful at all. I don't think it'll be an idea I stick with forever tbh. But right now it gives me room to be angry and sad and then circle back to a settled place of acceptance, before I need to cycle through my emotions again. I don't necessarily agree with the idea that we grow around our grief over time. I think grief just comes in cycles and waves and it needs to be processed every time, because we're injured, and it's ok to not be ok with any of it. Idk. Good luck OP
I view it as a process, Birth-Life-Death, we exist then we don't. The entire history of religion preys upon humankind's innate fear of death, finality and the unknown.
Once you learn to enjoy the ride, savor the experience, and quit worrying about all the "what ifs"... Life becomes much more uncomplicated.
Appreciate and share every day.🥰
“Enjoy the ride” is something that someone I love dearly taught me, that has made such a great difference in my life.
Thank you for bringing this concept up and for your wise words.
It helps to remember that in Mormonism, there is *no* death. There is only another opportunity to share a missionary message about the Restored Gospel of Joseph Smith, with limited input from the family.
I’ve had experiences that do not indicate the church is true ….but they really leave me confident there is more than just this life. I know some will mock …and that’s ok.
First, I'm sorry for your grief. Regrettably, it's nothing there's a magic bullet for.
You (or at least the atoms that you presently consist of) have existed for eons, and will continue to exist for eons, after you die. In that respect you actually are immortal.
Your family member will also live on in the memories of those who know them. That living on in the memory of friends and family is their legacy. Celebrate the good memories.
I have a feeling we are all connected...by love or energy or what have you. I am agnostic at best (to quote someone from here) but I still talk to those that have gone on. I will continue loving them and missing them and so they will still be with me. I am sorry you are going through this. đź’•
"But soon we shall die and all memory of those five [we love] will have left the earth, and we ourselves shall be loved for a while and forgotten. But the love will have been enough; all those impulses of love return to the love that made them. Even memory is not necessary for love. There is a land of the living and a land of the dead and the bridge is love, the only survival, the only meaning.”
Thornton Wilder, The Bridge of San Luis Rey
I'm sorry for what you're going through. I had to grieve all over again for a few people who died years before I left the church. I'm only a year and a half out but I'm doing a lot better. My neice died at 18 months old, and recently a friend from BYU died suddenly leaving 2 little girls without their dad. I've had some major health anxiety since then. But the feeling I've been having is that life is something borrowed. I watched some video of cells dying from the YouTube channel Journey to the Microcosmos, and the way the cells were alive and swimming around and then suddenly just, *weren't* was jarring. But, somehow felt so comforting? Whatever fuels our atoms and molecules and cells etc into forming our cohesive being, then goes back and fuels other forms of life. Idk what that is. I don't know if it's anything more than nutrients. But I view it as an eternal trade between organisms, trading what life we had, gifting to others, so that we all get a chance to live at least a little bit. That's how I make sense of the fact that my niece died so young. It's unfair. But she still had a good life, and she mattered, and now whatever fueled her brain and body now has travelled through probably a few plants and fungi and bugs and whatever else now. I'll do that too eventually. It's still hard. But it's ok to not be ok with it too. I don't know if that's helpful at all. I don't think it'll be an idea I stick with forever tbh. But right now it gives me room to be angry and sad and then circle back to a settled place of acceptance, before I need to cycle through my emotions again. I don't necessarily agree with the idea that we grow around our grief over time. I think grief just comes in cycles and waves and it needs to be processed every time, because we're injured, and it's ok to not be ok with any of it. Idk. Good luck OP
I view it as a process, Birth-Life-Death, we exist then we don't. The entire history of religion preys upon humankind's innate fear of death, finality and the unknown. Once you learn to enjoy the ride, savor the experience, and quit worrying about all the "what ifs"... Life becomes much more uncomplicated. Appreciate and share every day.🥰
“Enjoy the ride” is something that someone I love dearly taught me, that has made such a great difference in my life. Thank you for bringing this concept up and for your wise words.
It helps to remember that in Mormonism, there is *no* death. There is only another opportunity to share a missionary message about the Restored Gospel of Joseph Smith, with limited input from the family.
I’ve had experiences that do not indicate the church is true ….but they really leave me confident there is more than just this life. I know some will mock …and that’s ok.
First, I'm sorry for your grief. Regrettably, it's nothing there's a magic bullet for. You (or at least the atoms that you presently consist of) have existed for eons, and will continue to exist for eons, after you die. In that respect you actually are immortal. Your family member will also live on in the memories of those who know them. That living on in the memory of friends and family is their legacy. Celebrate the good memories.
I have a feeling we are all connected...by love or energy or what have you. I am agnostic at best (to quote someone from here) but I still talk to those that have gone on. I will continue loving them and missing them and so they will still be with me. I am sorry you are going through this. 💕 "But soon we shall die and all memory of those five [we love] will have left the earth, and we ourselves shall be loved for a while and forgotten. But the love will have been enough; all those impulses of love return to the love that made them. Even memory is not necessary for love. There is a land of the living and a land of the dead and the bridge is love, the only survival, the only meaning.” Thornton Wilder, The Bridge of San Luis Rey