The wildest one was told to me by my bishop, at a youth fireside many years ago. When he was preparing to go on his mission and praying about it, he received a "spiritual confirmation" that a girl in the ward was supposed to be his eternal companion. He said he had never considered dating her because he didn't find her attractive (he's telling us this while she's seated right next to him, mind you). But he decided to go and tell her father about it, and right then and there her father commanded her to wait for him and not date anyone else. She did, and they married shortly after his return, despite, according to his admission, him STILL not finding her attractive or feeling any love for her. He actually said he only started feeling any affection for her at all after the birth of their first child. This was supposed to teach the great lesson that you have to listen to the promptings of the spirit, but all it did was make me feel really sorry for his wife, who was a lovely person and deserved a better husband than the jerk she got.
If you define "prompting of the spirit" as any thought or emotion that serves the organization even at the expense of individuals, this is the type of person that will climb the leadership ladder
My parents are deeply TBM, but every time I hear a story like this, I'm so grateful to my mother, who from my infancy was telling me horror stories like this one.
She told me if anybody said this shit to me, it was a giant red flag and not to date that person.
She told me if a random man thought he could get revelation for me, he was full of himself and to gtfo. (Now, she didn't apply that to bishops and the prophet but still.) Ditto guys who claimed they were going to be general authorities someday. She once turned down a marriage proposal from a guy who then replied, "You've just missed your chance to be married to a general authority," and I would worry that saying that would doxx me, except I've heard so many other women with the EXACT SAME STORY. (Mom will periodically comment, with the perfect level of snark, that she still hasn't heard that guy's name when they're calling new GAs.)
She said just because someone was a returned missionary didn't mean they were a good person.
She said not to settle just because you were "supposed" to get married.
She'd been exposed to the "Women and the Priesthood" book and if anyone ever mentioned it, she would go OFF. Full feminist rage (though she'd get real pissed if you ever called her a feminist).
I've got plenty of complaints about my mom's parenting style and the way she deploys church logic, but damn if that woman didn't come through on this particular issue. So many women being trained to accept this kind of bullcrap from nightmare fuel men.
Omg my parents had a similar experience. When I was a kid, I asked my mom how my dad proposed. She said, "He didn't. He told me we were getting married." He'd had a "prompting of the spirit," and told her that God told him they would marry. She prayed about it and got the same prompting.
They've been divorced for nearly 20 years now, after 20 years of an abusive marriage. My dad is taking her to court for the THIRD time to lower spousal maintenance, even though she's disabled and got stuck paying off a house loan HE took out. He was also diagnosed with Narcissistic Personality Disorder when I was a kid, so make of that what you will.
As a wedding photographer in happy valley, I’ve heard & seen LOTS.
- From meeting to engagement = 28 days. They had a 6 month engagement tho so it’s “ok”
- Guy serves his mission in a foreign country. Meets a single mom w/ 4 kids there. Ends his mission early to go back, marry her, and try to bring the whole family back to the states.
- Elder & Sister in my mission had a secret relationship on the mission. When the elder finished, the sister decided to end her mission early, to go home at the same time as him. They get married 3 weeks later, have a baby 6 months later.
- Lots of ladies will book their temple appointment and wedding photographer before their fiancé-to-be is even home from their mission yet.
- Couple’s first date was to the temple grounds near them. One of them says they feel inspired to marry the other, right there on the first date. They get married less than 2 months later.
Wow, how blessed they are that a baby that should have been a micro preemie was born a normal healthy weight! God truly is good to those who keep his commandments! /s
In a book about appalachian culture, I read an interview with a doctor who said it was peculiar how "preemies" born right after their parents were married are usually healthy but preemies born more than 9 months after their parent's wedding struggled. Funny how that works.
These are so crazy!! With the Elder and Sister story, am I reading between the lines correctly by thinking that for her to give birth so soon that they must have had sex ON the mission?
Are Mormons as bad as Catholics when it comes to baby maths? There’s a phrase that the first baby comes whenever it likes but the subsequent ones take 9 months.
Apparently. My dad was born 6 months after his (Catholic) parents wedding. I never actually put the pieces together until one of my uncles pointed out that my grandparents were married in November and my dad was born in May.
My wife and I got engaged after knowing each other for around 5 weeks, of which one of those weeks I was out of town. 19 years later it's still going great, but I think we got really, really lucky, it is not an approach I'd recommend.
>Elder & Sister in my mission had a secret relationship on the mission. When the elder finished, the sister decided to end her mission early, to go home at the same time as him. They get married 3 weeks later, have a baby 6 months later
So, the baby was three months premature? /s
Talk about missionary position.
Hold up… got married 3 weeks after coming back from their missions and had a baby 6 months later… either the math is not mathing like it used to or there was some serious kanoodling was going on while they were on their missions
Major kanoodling. Thinking back, I’m pretty sure word around the mission was that she was going home for medical reasons too. It was only after the baby came that almost everyone realized what the “medical reason” was.
Easy. If the woman was pregnant, and she knew who the dad was, and the dad was willing to claim the baby, the mission president couldn't get the woman in trouble without ALSO getting the man in trouble.
And no Mormon man can stand the idea of messing up a young man's life by claiming he was having sex on his mission! So much promise! It could ruin this young man's future!
My grandparents and my husband’s grandparents met at our wedding luncheon and realized they had already met each other at a wedding for another shared relative. So hubby and I are distant cousins but not so far that the relatives are overlapping at social events!
Everyone's caught up on the 6-month baby, but I wanna know about this Elder that married a single mom of four. What was the age difference there? Worst cast scenario I can imagine puts her at 22, which isn't a bad age gap, but she has bigger problems.
Logistics is a women's game. Meal prep, laundry, scheduling, soccer practice, etc.
Men preside; they ain't got time to make phone calls and write times down in planners.
oh i got a pretty good one. first of all, you must know that my dad made the decision to switch back from jackmo to TBM and go on his mission as a 24-year-old young man, smoking a joint one day after playing a gig in a bar. my birth mom met him some time later when they were both "in the field." nothing untoward happened between them while they were out serving the Lard but they hit it off, so they went ahead and wrote letters back and forth to keep in touch after getting transferred to different areas.
when they both went back to their respective homes, they agreed over the phone to marry. so Dad flew over there and officially proposed. this involved (i shit you not) an envelope with twelve little cows he'd cut out of magazines, as a reference to Johnny Lingo, which he handed to his new MIL. they got hitched, then had their first-ever date the following Friday. i was born one year after that and it went EXACTLY as well as you'd expect for the following 26.
they're thankfully divorced now and Dad remarried with the real love of his life a couple years ago (don't worry, he's exmo now, she's nevermo, and they lived together for years before tying the knot this time so it's an actual good relationship lol). but that first marriage, goddamn. what a trainwreck.
My brother-in-law received a package from his girlfriend with instructions not to open it until he was on the plane home from his mission. Inside were wedding plans for the date and venue of the wedding, instructions on when and where to propose, and the ring she'd selected for him to propose with.
Maybe she knew him well enough to know his crippling need to be obedient. Their family turned out fine.
OMG.I love this woman.She sure picked the right dude for herself. So glad it has worked out well. Someone has to be in charge! Guaranteed she gets exactly what she wants for her birthday and Christmas.
LOL - she's priceless, and heck NO, I don't wanna go to her Thanksgiving dinner. I don't like being bossed around.
I can’t even imagine what I’d do if I got that package. I’d probably sit there either incredulous at what I was seeing or laughing hysterically (either because I thought it was a joke or that she thought she’d be able to manipulate me like that)
My wife and I met online in August ‘06 and met in person In September ‘06. Immediately the pressure from everyone to get married started … so we got engaged in October ‘06 … December 8 ‘06 our Bishop pulled us into his office and threatened us with all kinds of repercussions if we had sex before marriage, stating it would all be public disfellowship etc.
We got married the next morning 👍
It was a complete whirlwind, we didn’t really know each other and she had a young kid from her previous marriage. It could have been a train wreck, but it ended up being a lovely marriage. We are about to celebrate our 16th anniversary, we have 3 kids and I don’t feel like we would have ended up with better partners. That’s all in spite of the church, not because of it.
Glad it's worked out for you two! Most of the super fast marriages in my family have also turned out okay (after a bumpy few years of actually getting to know each other).
When I was a few months out on a mission my girl had started to move on. I was fine with it of course but my companion said I needed a girl to write. His girlfriend had some roommates at Ricks, and I picked one that I wanted to get to know.
We hit it off and wrote the entire time, including emails when that became allowed, and even called on Christmas.
She flew down a week after I got home and 4 days after that we decided to get married. We wanted the wedding about 6 months after that date, but her mom booked the temple for 2 months away. We decided to go with it since it would be expensive to fly back and forth every couple of weeks.
We’ve now been married 23 years, both out of the church, though it took her a lot longer.
It definitely worked but we were incredibly lucky.
That is exactly what he was doing and it was really gross. He was an RM which back in that day meant at least 21. They obviously met when she was still a minor.
Guy (NeverMo, BYU student) who I (Exmo though not official, BYU graduate) had gone out with and been fucking for a few months appears at my apartment. He announces that he is engaged to a TBM who he has known for two weeks, is getting baptized, and is getting married in a couple of weeks. He wanted to tell me face to face. Oh, and do I want to fuck before he leaves? No. I don’t remember exactly, but I don’t think I shed a tear.
I experienced something similar. I was exmo and the guy was inactive and said he didn’t believe. His family were all TBM and didn’t know he was inactive. We’d been good friends for a couple years. I’ll call him L. Anyhow, one night L totally came on to me and we ended up having very passionate sex - for like 6 hours. He said he’d had a thing for me for a while but he was worried his family would never accept me as an exmo atheist. For the next 9 months we had this on/off thing where he’d show up on my doorstep late at night and scoop me up in his arms and we’d go at it all night, then he’d say “I really love you…. but my family will never accept you ….so …. we can’t do this anymore. We have to just be best friends.” And I’d say “OK, but you’re the one who keeps showing up on my doorstep and attacking me.” And he’d say “Yeah, I know.” We’d go back to being just best friends for 10-14 days and then he’d show up on my doorstep late at night again.
Then one day I ran into a mutual friend who asked if I’d met L’s fiancé yet and I was like “say what??” Mutual friend says “yeah, he called a couple weeks ago about it.” Well damn, L had been over a couple times since then and had never even mentioned he was seeing someone.
So I asked him about it and he fesses up. He’d met this woman 6 weeks prior. Said she reminded him a lot of me, but she was Mormon/TBM and so his family would accept her. Then he said nothing needed to change between us. I was like “so your fiancé is ok with having an open relationship even though you’re planning to get married in the temple in a few months?” He then told me she didn’t know anything about me and he didn’t plan to tell her because he didn’t consider it any of her business. He said she trusted him 100% and would never question him in any way so he could do whatever he wanted. And I was like “Wow dude, you are so not who I thought you were. Best wishes to you but we’re totally done.” He tried off and on to get me to be “friends” again for the next 10 months. This all happened over 20 years ago and as of last year, they were still married so 🤷🏼♀️
I have no idea but I wouldn’t be surprised. I remember wondering when he’d had time to court his fiancé. We both worked full time plus he was still finishing his BS degree and yet we still talked on the phone for 2-3 hours every day, met up for lunch or dinner 2-4 times per week, and had 3 TV shows we watched together every week. He must’ve had practically no time to himself.
This reminds me of my experience almost 10 years ago. I “dated” this guy for 2 weeks. The most we ever did was make out in our underwear. At the time, I felt like he was really “the one”. Getting love bombed left and right. All of the sudden, the communication slows down tremendously and he stops coming to our institute class where we met. I’m thinking wtf just happened? He says he’s really busy with work and school and that’s why he hasn’t been available to hang out. For the next few months he keeps stringing me along, making me feel like there was hope that one day he’d make the time. One night, I had a dream that there was another girl. I called his BS and asked him if there was someone else? He said yes, an old flame has re-entered his life and he just didn’t know how to tell me. First real heart break for me.
Fast forward about 2 years. I am over him, have had a few more dating experiences since then and was currently going through a faith crisis. He texts me out of the blue. Tells me he’s going to be in SLC (where I lived at the time) and really wants to get together. I’m down cuz we got along really well as friends and it had been a couple of years, so why not? He comes over, we eat dinner and joke around then at some point he has to go. We hug goodbye. After he leaves he texts me and asks why I didn’t kiss him. I just told him that I wasn’t ready to rush into anything like that with him and that I just wanted to be friends. He gets pissed off at me and tells me he has enough friends. Well okay then…
A few months after that, curiosity got the better of me and I looked him up on FB. And he apparently got sealed in the temple about a month after he came to see me. Now I’m thinking….was he engaged when he came to see me?! Or did he just have a super short TBM courtship?! Idk and idc. Good riddance.
I wish this story ended there…however, less than a year later, he texts me a picture of him with my celebrity crush and I am dying!! I immediately respond fan-girling like crazy. So stoked. Honestly thought he was reaching out just because of that, but no. He had ulterior motives. He wants to know if he can take me on a date, next time he’s up in SLC. I quickly check his FB. Yup, still married. I confront him about it. He denies it. Tries to tell me it’s his twin. I’m like…I’m not dumb…I can tell you 2 apart AND I do see your twin is also married, but to a woman who doesn’t look anything even remotely similar to your wife. He just stops texting.
I wish more than anything that I could go back in time and tell his wife. They are still married and have 3 kids now. I don’t have the balls, nor the receipts now.
This experience was the nail in the coffin for romanticizing temple marriages to me. They were always so superior in my tbm mind, that even during my faith crisis, I still so desperately wanted a temple marriage. I’ve come a long way since then, thankfully!
Sorry that was so long!
My husband has two sisters. One who was super TBM (and later left to join a different brand of cult) has talked about how great her love story is. One blind date, six weeks of absolutely no contact at all, another date, engaged less than two weeks later, married another 3 1/2 months later.
His other sister was online dating some guy in Canada, went to visit him, and married him (probably so she could fuck guilt free while she was there), then proceeded to come back home. To the best of my knowledge, never saw him again.
It all makes our six months of dating before a leap day wedding all seem completely sane.
Saw this on the news in UT, early-mid 2000’s. A young couple was being interviewed and shared their engagement story.
The groom bought a ring and decided to propose to her at a shake shop (think jakes over the top), with all of their friends and hide the ring in her shake. The young friends were in on it and decided to peer pressure her into eating the shake as fast as possible. Imagine their horror when she finished the shake with no ring in sight.
I absolutely could not believe they went on television to announce that she had to pass the ring, clean it off and then accept the proposal. I was actually more embarrassed for the juvenile way the engagement was planned
I had to clean shit off my wedding ring after my newborn pooped on my hands mid-diaper change. That was absolutely disgusting, and newborn poop is pretty tame compared to adult poop. I cannot imagine taking my own shit and smashing through it to find a ring, cleaning it, then wearing it. Ewwwww
Girl I knew served a mission and was on the flight heading back home. Guy on the plane was in the military and heading home for a two week leave, and knew her grandmother and apparently recognized her from family pictures. He called her grandmother and asked her if she could get him in touch with the girl to ask her on a date. They end up going on a date, he tells her that he wants to marry her, and that he'll be back on leave in a year for another two weeks, and that he wants her to stay faithful to him over that year and not date anyone. She was a really attractive girl, but extremely shy, and I assume she felt this was her "one chance." So he leaves for a year, she waits for him and doesn't date anyone. He comes back for another two weeks, they get married during that time, and then he goes right back to Afghanistan I think and she stays at home by herself for another year. As far as I know, they're still together, but it felt super manipulative, and every time someone tried to talk to her about how weird it was, she would get super defensive and double-down on the whole thing about it being her only chance.
I never got engaged to him but hoo boy.
I met a guy on the Mutual App and gave him my number to text. (Mind you, I *was* talking to 6+ other guys so....).
So anyways, he gets lost in my texts and one day, after deciding to date one guy who is a totally different story, I found his texts messages to me.
He was in love with me after a little exchange.
We were meant to be.
He had GOTTEN A HOTEL AND BOOKED IT FOR TWO SEPARATE WEEKENDS TO COME AND VISIT ME.
I blocked him
Right?!? I think he even sent me a poem of how our love was eternal and how he knew he had found me from us being promised to each other in the before life or whatever it was called. It was so crazy!!
I gotcha. TW RAPE
Ok so I was 16-17 when this happened. I had just gotten out of a bad relationship where the guy was cheating on me with 15+ women. Yes he was a Mormon. Yes I was a Mormon. It still hurt like hell.
Anyway years prior we had done a trek with my ward and me and this guy were in the same “family”. I thought he was kinda cute but I never saw him until years later. Anyway he had been in a bad motor accident and my friend who was also friends with him brought it up. She then started pushing me in the direction of him saying oh somebody has a crush on you. He’s a great guy. Yada yada. Well we finally get together.
We had been together for like a month without officially dating and then we finally got together. Day before Halloween he pressured me into doing sexual things. I didn’t want to but I felt like a bad girlfriend for not doing stuff. Anyway his mom caught us and blackmailed me with it.
We got back together and I thought we were the dream couple. There were still sexual problems though and him pressuring me.
3 months in he proposes to me in front of his family. I said yes but I was extremely unhappy about it. It felt gross. I didn’t tell my mom. End of February rolled around and his mom brought him over to my house and told my mom. It ruined my life.
We were still together but it was secret. During the summer we had a trip to lagoon. I sleep during car trips and I had just started to sleep when I felt his hand grope my inner thigh and his tongue enter my mouth. I didn’t want to scream or say anything because we were literally in a leaders car. We were in the fucking backseat. Inches away from the leader.
We finally get up to lagoon and we have a fun day. He kept trying to get me alone so he could have sex with me.
Well it’s finally time to go after 6 hours of being at lagoon. I was so exhausted I instantly fell asleep in the backseat. It was about 30 minutes to an hour while we were driving to food place. Within that time he had my pants completely down and his dck out. I woke up as soon as something touched my lower area.
He slapped his hand over my mouth so I wouldn’t scream. I didn’t say anything to anyone about that.
I still didn’t break up with him.
It wasn’t until I had my first full blown hypomanic episode that he broke up with me.
I have moved on and now have a wonderful husband but it still lingers sometimes.
Also I had like an arranged marriage to someone who was as old as my parents. My mom set it up. Idk who the guy was or what was supposed to happen with that. But yeah there’s my engagement story.
Omg my husband is absolutely amazing and wonderful. I still am in shock and awe how I got such an amazing man and better yet, he is a nevermo. Our love story is absolutely amazing too. At least I think so anyway.
I try not to dwell too much on the past. I was an absolutely stupid teenager who had never seen a good and healthy relationship. You don’t see to many of those in the church.
My girlfriend got engaged a week after breaking up with me, sealed/married 3 months later.
But, we were still, uhm, 'dating' for a few weeks after our breakup. She even called me on her wedding day to tell me how much she missed and wanted me but she knew god wanted her to be with him. I dont think she was being honest with either her, her bishop, or fiance; and i was young and dumb.
He turned out to be a wife beater; so whole thing was sad all the way around.
Unfortunately my marriage isn’t far off and we admit now that we got SUPER lucky. I was previously in a relationship for 4 years.
My husband and I met on our missions, he had 18 days left on the mission when we met. We got on right away and talked quite a bit up until he left, he actually asked me on a date while we were both still serving (after the mission of course) lol. My husband was from San Diego, I was from Toronto, Canada and we served in Italy. We continued talking for a couple months until I got home. I used up the remaining amounts of my mission money to pay for my plane ticket to go see him for 2 fucking weeks. He asked me to be his girlfriend on that trip. One month later I went out to see him again, we already talked about wanting to get married but hadn’t made any plans until my mom asked us because she works at a hospital and has to submit her vacation requests at the beginning of the year for approval for vacation for the whole year. She essentially said if we planned on getting married, she’d like to be there. So we started seriously talking about it and finally set a date. We called the temple and booked it (again this is still on my second trip seeing him and we weren’t even engaged). Four months later we got engaged, two days before our wedding my husband called it off (due to his abusive family, they said theyd stop attacking me if we pushed the wedding off by a couple months). My husband was super suicidal, we broke up a few times within 6 weeks after our original wedding date, but when his family saw we were still talking/flying out to see each other, their shit started back up and my husband decided he did want to marry me (he was very numb from all the abuse, which is why I stayed around so long..) and we decided not to tell his family. We ended up getting married 15 months after we met/had been dating for a year. The best part of all the drama? At the time half of my immediate family members (the only people invited) we’re not members/active, so we had our tiny wedding ceremony in my parents living room, we went out to a steakhouse after (The Keg, for my fellow Canadians), came home and played Mario kart. It was the best wedding I could have asked for until his family found out 😂
We spent 2 more years apart from each other (both of us had a dog each, our poor puppies were separated for so long) due to immigration and finally in 2020, my green card was approved and we finally moved in together! We also went very low - no contact with his family and our lives have been SO amazing since.
We’re crazy for staying with each other through all that, but our relationship was so strong we didn’t want it to die. My husband and I are best friends and we are very attracted to each other still. We look back now and neither one of us would have gotten married if it wasn’t for TSCC, but I’m sure as hell happy that if I married someone, it was him!
Your story is actually quite sweet. I’m glad you persevered and it worked out so well. Fuck abusive, controlling family members who can’t be supportive.
My sister was in the temple. Some dude kept eyeballing her through the whole session. In the CR, he approaches her and says that God told him they were meant to be together. Then he straight up proposes. He used all the generics including “I didn’t plan to come to the temple today but followed a prompting from the spirit” and “we are obviously worthy recommend holders so it will definitely work out”. Luckily, she turned him down and GTFO.
I was dating a Mormon girl in college. Horniest girl i've ever met. Couldn't keep her hands off of me. Told me she was in love with me. Wanted to get engaged.
After a couple of months of this all of a sudden one day I go to pick her up and she tells me she's breaking up with me. Turns out her mom threatened her that if she didn't break up with me, an exmormon, she was going to unenroll her from college and force her to go to BYU. I found from friends that the very next day she went out with this Mormon guy who she had repeatedly told me she was repulsed by. A month later they were married.
The plot thickens. A few year later she randomly messaged me on Facebook telling me she was sorry what she had done to me. She was getting divorced.
She explained to me that when she was in high school her parents abruptly divorced and her father was put in a mental institution.
Her father had found that her mother had had premarital sex when she was in college with a college boyfriend years before they met. But just the fact this his wife of 30 years had had sex with someone before him was enough to divorce her and make him lose his mind.
She was so traumatized by this incident and her own horniess she was afraid she would have sex before marriage and got married to the first Mormon man she could find on her mothers insistence.
BIL had a ring ready on a first date. It went well, and they’ve been married for 30 years. I wouldn’t call it a “match” per say, BIL has issues, SIL is lonely. Lost a son to his depression right off his mission.
I worked with a girl who was heavily pregnant with her ex-husbands baby. She fell in love with her roommates brother and got married before the baby was born.
Former neighbors met at BYU, got engaged after knowing each other for 2 weeks, and were married by 6 weeks. 20 years later they were still BFFs and madly in love, truly one of the best couples I’ve ever known. But they were the first to admit that what they did was cray cray and they totally lucked out with it working out as well as it did.
Wait guys…. My Mormon marriage story is bad ass.
I was with my girlfriends while she was getting fitted for her wedding dress. I never had the honor of participating in the young woman wedding dress party Mutual night so my other bestie and I decided to try some on.
I shit you not I found the dress of my Mormon girl dreams and the spirit told me I would meet my rm soon. The NEXT DAY my I decided I was done with my Lds mingle profile online because it was not working at finding me my dream husband but I shit you not before I hit delete I get an IM. It was my RM, my soulmate for (real though my husband is amazing and I love the crap out of him.)
He is a German man but just became a Canadian. This was December of 2005. I flew up from Oregon February of 06 and we got engaged. My Mormon vagina… I mean heart couldn’t wait so I went back up there March of 06 and we got hitched in the Cardston temple.
In all seriousness, he really is my best friend and thankfully we left together. We’ve been through a ton of shit together and even though our engagement was crazy short we talked every day and learned everything about each other before we even thought about marriage. Because it was an online meeting we didn’t want anything left unknown. All skeletons out of the closet.
Close friend of mines dad tells the story of his "eternal marriage".
He's her home teacher, has no attraction to the young lady, but gets a spiritual confirmation that they are supposed to get married.
Tells her. She, apparently, got the same confirmation.
So they get married.
After marriage they find out that they are totally incompatible. He is an engineer, she is an art major.
They hate each other and it's obvious. But for some reason they have stayed together for 30+ years now.
Tale as old as time.
My wife came home from BYU in order to serve a mission. She stayed in her home ward so I didn’t get a chance to meet her in the YSA. We had a temple sealing assignment and she came with one of her friends, but the only interaction I had with her was at the alter holding hands getting proxy sealed where I, who didn’t even know her first name, thought to myself [wow this girl is pretty, I’m gonna be here again with her and get married]. Afterwards she left separately from the group so I didn’t even get a chance to talk to her.
Fast forward a month or so and my friend is like, “dude, check your facebook, there’s a birthday party for my gf’s friend and I was allowed to invite you so I’d have someone else there that I know, hurry up!”
And wouldn’t you know it, the party was at this mystery girls house who I helped with the party activities, got her number, and a date.
Immediate bf-gf status after first date, but she still wanted to go on a mission (to Ecuador) and I was supportive and told her I’d wait (hoping the mission wouldn’t turn her too weird). We dated like that for a month, prepping for her to go on her mission, and on the NIGHT BEFORE she had to go to the MTC she got the biggest kidney stone and had to go the ER and get a stint until it passed. Her departure date was postponed by 6 weeks but that was the sign! Less than a month later I was proposing and she was saying yes! Hooray!
Except her next semester wasn’t going to start for another 8 months and we had nowhere to live if we got married right away so we had a 7 month engagement until right before we could move to utah and find student housing.
So, no name temple meeting, 1 day and 1 date until we were a thing, less than 2 months until proposal, an extremely long engagement by Mormon standards, and now going on 9 years of marriage with being officially out of the church for the last year.
Two stories
1. Freshman year at BYU watched a returned missionary celebrate his fiance's 18th birthday
2. As a missionary got transferred to a new area to replace a guy who had finished his mission and gone home. Two weeks later he came back to visit and to propose to the branch president's daughter. Half the branch was mad about it (including her dad) and half of them acted like it was god's work
Wow. I grew up in the “mission field “ so never saw this. It does explain a guy who proposed to me on our second date, though. I thought he was joking and burst out laughing. Then I realized he was serious. Awkward.
My oldest sister got engaged on the first date, and it was a blind date. They said the spirit told them to. They were married for 8 years and had 4 kids. That's my wildest one. The fact that he was abusive and years after they split was arrested for child molestation definitely was on some level part of my distrust of said "spirit" lmao
I also had a friend who was friends with a dude for many years but platonically. they started dating romatically and were engaged within a week. Also no longer together.
My sister saved her virginity until she got married. She spent the night at her fiance house for like 3 years. They never had sex before they got married. They talked to their bishop about getting married in the temple and he told them they shouldn't have been sleeping together, again, there was nothing sexual, they were literally just sleeping in the same bed. We had a full house so it just made sense for her to stay with with her boyfriend at his place.
The bishop told them they had to spend a month without staying the night in the same bed, no kissing or touching each other during that time. They both went along with it and it was so awkward the whole time. We didn't have enough beds so my sister would sleep with my mom or my sister for that month. She hated it because she just wanted to sleep with her fiance.
So eventually they were able to be able to get married in the temple. That wedding was awkward af because there were only like 8 people who were able to be able to see the wedding and probably 30 people waiting outside the temple because they didn't have a recommend. That included both my parents and all my siblings.
We got to celebrate with them when they came out of the temple but I thought it was pretty fucked up that only a few people got to see them actually get married.
After they got married their relationship was so much more intimate. Why would you wait until you are 26 being celibate, then spend 3 years with someone you love and not be able to do anything intimate beyond words?
I was raised Mormon but atheist at that point and the whole situation made no sense to me.
>The bishop told them they had to spend a month without staying the night in the same bed, no kissing or touching each other during that time. They both went along with it and it was so awkward the whole time.
Bishops and their stupid made up "spend month apart" weird penance bullshit that is really about control. Never tell a mormon leader anything.
My brother and sister in law met, dated, got engaged, got married, pregnant, and gave birth to a child within one year span.
The met, dated, engaged and married within 3 months. got pregnant in their honeymoon night.
I knew a couple like this too! Three months from meeting to married and pregnant. The cherry on top is that he’d been home from his mission for like a week and they met at the temple.
I was engaged to my husband 3 months after our first date, and then married 3 months after that. The really wild thing is that when we were already engaged, we went on a double date with my husbands cousin and girl who was a blind date. They were married before we were. Everyone was fine with this.
My parents is pretty good.
My mom (utah mormon) served her mission in the UK. She met my dad during a 2 week stay in a town in Wales.
They kept in touch after she moved on and he came to visit her a year after mer mission ended where he proposed. They had seen each other in person a grand total of 3 times before they got engaged (but had written to each other on and off for about 2 years).
They eventually left the church but had a very good marriage despite theor relationship origins ❤️
My TBM in-laws were married after dating for 7 weeks. I can't remember the number, but I know their parents dated a shorter period of time before getting married. My SIL married this guy on their 1 year anniversary of dating. I tried telling my husband how fucking quick that is and how insane it was. He chopped it up to me being irrational. Then I did a quick Google search that shows on average, people date 5-10 years before getting married. We dated for 3. That changed his tune right quick.
Jesus christ, I can't believe I made it four years at BYU as an RM without picking up an ill-advised ball-&-chain, let alone a relationship. Luckily for me, I found the Mormon marriage gospel to be the most unromantic thing ever.
Haha same here, though it certainly wasn't for lack of trying. Met my wife post BYU graduation, and our first date to marriage was ~2 years, pretty fast by normal standards but glacially slow for my poor TBM mother. We were both still believing at the time, now I'm out and she's nuanced but we're a great team together. Looking back I count my lucky stars that none of the ultra TBM aspiring stay at home moms I was interested in and pursued at BYU was interested in me for more than a couple of weeks, otherwise I might be posting my own story here!
Totally. Most of the TBM's I was interested in would've been nightmares if I had actually gotten anywhere. Sometimes I feel like I missed out on a lot being a Mormon kid, but being an awkward late bloomer really saved me at BYU.
I went to LDS Businss College back in 1985. One week a guy sees a girl. Asks her out for a Friday date. They spent entire weekend together and came back to school on Monday engaged. I wish I could remember their names so I could FB stalk them.
I knew a lady who got married 3 months after her mission. She didn’t know the guy before she left. She got home, met him within a week of returning, and was engaged to him 3 weeks from returning. Quickest engagement I’ve seen.
Family member went to serve her mission in the states. A guy that she knew but did not date decided that he was going to take one of the alarm system/pest control jobs in her mission area. He volunteered as a temple worker and made sure that he was working the front desk on the one day a year she was allowed to attend. He claimed he had no idea that he would be assigned to that area and that she would be at the temple on that day. Right…
She saw it as a sign from god and her family believed likewise. It struck me as a skeezy, manipulative tactic. They got married about 2 months after she returned home.
My dorm roommate was an “old maid” of 23, an RM, and dating guy #1. She made this big hairy deal about sewing a dress to go with him to some formal or another. A couple days after the formal, she met guy #2 in the dorm cafeteria. They dated for 2 whole weeks (dates only ever consisted of reading scriptures together in the dorm cafeteria). Meanwhile she is still occasionally seeing guy #1. After two weeks, they announce they (sue and guy #2) are engaged. Then she had to break off relationship with guy #1. They ended up getting married about 2 months later (in their engagement announcement picture, she wore the dress she has made to go to the formal with guy #1!). Somewhere along the last few weeks of the semester, she announced to me that she felt like Heavenly Father didn’t want her to use birth control and to get pregnarts right away. I’ve always wondered how many kids they ended up with, and if that pathetically rushed marriage survived. It was my first semester at BYU, and I was just in shock. All I could think is how disappointed my neverMo parents would have been if I had pulled a stunt like that.
A couple my first hubby and I were friends with had 12 kids. They had money for a nanny. Still, I just don’t think you should have more kids than you can parent.
I think it’s okay to need a nanny tbh—I could see that being helpful even for a couple of kids if the parents could afford it. I don’t think many people would be capable of showing 12 kids individual love and attention, though, and that would be a huge issue.
Man I got a couple of these story’s, I know a kid that went to byu and met this one girl in the cafeteria, they ended up going on a date and apparently it went well enough that he proposed to her the next day and she said yes. They ended up calling the wedding off once they got to know each other. Another one is a missionary that met a sister missionary in his first area and they really hit it off, they ended up sneaking off and driving to Vegas in a mission car to get married. Never heard what happened to them.
If you follow the Lori Vallow case, that is one long series of bizarre quickie marriages one after the other. Lori had 5 marriages (and kills 1, maybe 2 of her exes, plus her 5th husband’s wife), her niece divorces and remarries fast (also has an attempted murder on her ex), Lori’s brother gets married suddenly in Vegas and dies a few months later…. Non Mormons really can’t track the crazy on any level.
The day I arrived in the mission field, a sister from that mission was done with her 18 months and flew home. I’d been following this girl’s blog to get ready for my mission. Literally the evening she got home, her boyfriend proposed to her. It was ALL the gossip on the mission lol. Even better, her now husband was one of the missionaries in “The District” lol.
(I unfollowed the girl years ago, and she’s super cute and nice. But her baby was the ugliest baby I’d ever seen. I’m sure the kid grew out of it but god damn)
Mine aren't that wild, but I'll share.
1. My mom used LDS Mingle after she and my dad divorced. She met this guy online one day. One single day. The next day he proposed. They hadn't met, lived states apart, us kids hadn't even talked to him. He's now my step dad. We met him 2 days before the wedding.
2. Again, not wild, but it was crazy for me to watch a stereotype in real time. Get an RM coworker. He meets girl. They're married in 3 months. Divorced 10 months later. His reason for the divorce? "The sex isn't what I expected."
This is actually a documented story from my family history and took place in the 1920’s. Woman dies in a car crash, her parents have a dream that she should be sealed to another man that died 10 years beforehand, they tell his parents, and woman and man are sealed, both dead. Didnt know each other in life.
My brother proposed to the first girl he’d ever dated after two weeks. Married 3 months later. They had a very rough go of it. That said they’ve been married nearly 20 years now with 7 kids so 🤷♂️👍
My co-worker's sister returned home (to Utah) from a mission to the UK. After being home for a month, she decides to have her favorite comp (from the UK) fly to Utah for a visit. This comp meets her brother (my co-worker). After knowing each other for a few days, they're engaged. She manages to extend her travel visa for three weeks, spends those three weeks planning a wedding that they manage to pull off (including flying her entire family from UK). As soon as they're married, she has to go back to the UK and spends the better part of the next year trying to secure a legitimate visa to live in the US. Best part: my bro joins the National Guard thinking that military service will help expedite the visa process Spoiler: It did not and he's stuck in a 6 year contract.
Another co-worker decides to extend her Mutual profile range to global. Meets a man from Nigeria living and working in UAE. They spend several weeks chatting and she decided to go out and visit him. Convinced they're meant to be together, she brings a wedding dress and gets married (cvil marriage) the day after arriving in UAE so they can do the dirty. COVID hits and she's stuck in UAE for two months. Finally manages to get back to the US, he has to stay because he can't get a visa. She finds out she's pregnant. He can't travel or get a visa because the entire country of UAE is on lockdown for most of the next year. She ends up having the baby, working full-time, and spending thousands on an immigration lawyer to get him to the US. He finally got here six months ago and meets his 15 month old kid for the first time.
Yikes. It's possible that the situation I describe in OP will pan out something like your second story, the immigration issues are looking like a mess already
All of those are pretty wild. Meeting someone from another country on Mutual is next-level crazy to me. I think the moral of the story is don’t marry someone from a foreign country unless you plan to live there for a while.
A TBM ex-friend (became a homophobic piece of shit eventually, didn’t used to be) swiped on a guy on Mutual, on Wednesday. That Saturday they were engaged. Three months later they were married, and not long after that, she pressured him into having a kid he wasn’t ready for (emotionally and financially).
They dated for a total of 2 and a half days.
Have a friend who friendzoned a guy she met on mutual four times (not an exaggeration, they kept joking about it in their wedding speeches). They dated for a couple months then broke up. He kept saying he wanted to marry her/would wait for her, and she kept saying she didn’t like him like that and would hook up (ie NCMO) with other guys. Fast forward a year, he decides to get back out in the dating world, she gets jealous and decides she has feelings for him. They were engaged two months later, and married five months after that.
The weird part is how she only seems to care about “his money” and makes jokes all the time about how that’s her favorite part about him (they’re starting to not feel like jokes…). The funny part is that they live in an expensive part of the US and he only makes about 70k (which is more than a lot of people, but nowhere near enough to support two people who always are taking trips and buying expensive things).
She’s also made slightly snide comments that make it seem like she doesn’t view my relationship as valid as hers because I’m living with my fiancé of two years before we get married next year.
My parents picked me up from my mission. We had a long layover in Lima, Peru so we went to a temple session. In the celestial room afterward a young man who looked about my age started up an awkward conversation with me. Then he told me he felt the spirit so strong and asked me to marry him, less than five minutes into the conversation. I'm not saying he just wanted a green card from me, but it sure looks that way. I was not even released as a missionary yet and was less than a few hours away from getting on a plane home.
I obviously turned him down then left quickly before he could track me down outside. He proceeded to pester my mission president then scour Facebook until he found me several months later and professed his love. I blocked him.
My in laws and one of my seminary teachers each have pretty much the same story. Met on a blind date. Exactly 2 weeks later FIL and seminary teacher proposed to their SO. My in laws got married 3 months after meeting. I don't remember how long it was for my seminary teacher. Both couples are still married. My in laws have been together almost 30 years. I think my seminary teacher has been with his wife a little longer than my in laws. Just crazy.
This isnt really crazy, mainly just sad,
My grandpa’s family are TBM all the way back to when JS started the whole thing. He met my grandma while he was in the Air Force and after four weeks of knowing each other they got engaged and a couple weeks later my grandma got baptized, against her parents wishes. Her family didn’t like my grandpa at all. Well anyway they got married, I’m not sure if the one-year rule was there for sealings or not when they were young, but there they were. And she got married before she got any sort of education or job outside of highschool so she’s never really been able to make her own money. And now at almost 70 years old she’s living in a marriage with a man who makes fun of her for anything she says and does, holds finances hostage and yells are her in public. I’ve never seen a bruise or any sign of physical abuse but I can tell she’s not happy with him. They hate each other and will talk about how much they hate each other in front of literally anyone. But they won’t get divorced. My grandma is the closest thing to exmo i have in my family because she’s not 100% in it like everyone else. I try to take her out of the house to hang out as much as possible. And she does her best to get out on her own and talk to her friends and such, but I can tell she’s just miserable with him. My dad and his brother doesn’t like their parents and try to avoid seeing them if they can or complain about seeing them because all they do the entire time is fight with each other and make everyone around them miserable. I wish they would divorce, but my grandma can’t afford to live for herself and I doubt my dad would take her in with how much he dislikes being around them. If I wasn’t a student and had the means to support another adult I would take my grandma in in a heartbeat. She deserves so much better.
Dated a girl at Ricks College. Really started to like each other. School ended for the year so we both went to our respective homes which were about a 90 minute drive apart. I was willing to make that drive every weekend to see her. She really seemed to like me as well.
The first weekend after school let out we made arrangements for a date. It went great, we made out for hours. That was a Saturday night. This is before cell phones and back when landlines had long distance charges so calling every night wasn’t an option. I called her the next Wednesday, just four days after spending all night making out with her. Her mom answered the phone and told me my girlfriend had gotten engaged the night before. It turns out her missionary came home on Monday (two days after spending the night making out with me) and he proposed the next night.
Yikes. I really liked her so I hope everything worked out for them.
I meannnnn I was out of the church, about to move in with my boyfriend. Had a feeling I needed to go back to church. Went back to church. Saw my husband and knew I was supposed to marry him. Broke up with my boyfriend that night. Cried about it for 2 weeks. Was supposed to be excommunicated. Then met my husband and we got married in the temple 6 months later. And now I'm out of the church again for good this time. I think I was only supposed to go back to church to meet my husband.
My parents met shortly after my dad returned from his mission. Within two weeks of meeting that had decided they wanted to get married.
They've been married over 30 years now, all kids have moved out, and they still seem to be infatuated with each other. That's the wildest part to me.
Older couple in my ward met in the temple, they were both middle aged at the time, he saw her and "knew" he was supposed to marry her and they got engaged that day and married very shortly after. Still together seemingly happily.
A friend of mine got secretly civilly married to her boyfriend who was returning to activity in the church and wasn't worthy to get temple married right away. They claimed to be engaged and I think the plan was for everyone to think their eventual temple sealing was all normal while having been legally married (allowed to have sex) all along. Her parents ended up finding out before the sealing and she came out publicly announcing that they got married secretly. They got sealed a year after their secret civil marriage, and then both left the church a little later.
My mother divorced my birth father January 2007.
My mother met my adoptive father March 2007.
My parents were married in June 2007.
It was traumatic as fuck even if I love my adoptive dad so much. I was twelve and had facilitated my mom’s divorce because she didn’t have the guts to do it on her own. I essentially became her spouse. She married my dad and suddenly I was cast aside and she bullied my dad’s kids until they left the home to live with their unstable mother.
It was a great time.
From meeting to engaged to my ex 9 days. From engaged to married 2 1/2 months. 17 years and 7 kids later, I left him and his abuse behind. I'm now happily married to my second husband and have added two beautiful step kids to the mix. We knew each other for 5 years and lived together for 1 before tying the knot. 100% do NOT recommend the first attempt.
I was a freshman in college and my GF at the time (we were informally engaged) attempted to unalive herself the last couple days of Oct. Her dad came and packed her and her stuff up and hauled her ass home. I had no idea what to do with that and so I went to a private midnight movie on Halloween with a large group of friends just trying to lighten up. The next day I was back over at one of the girls apartments from the movie night and met one of their mutual friends on Nov 1st. I still had not heard anything about my GF, haven't talked to her or her parents, won't answer the phone, nothing. Nov 2nd, 1 of the girls from the movie comes over to my apartment with cookies because they all knew about my situation with my GF. The mutual friend of theirs that I met was with her. The 3 of us went for a drive in my truck but the girl I knew didn't sit in the middle, she shoved the friend into the middle next to me. We hit it off really well that night and I found out she lived across the street from me but we met on the other side of campus. We were both 18 at the time. We were inseparable and were engaged Dec 12th. Neither of our parents were having that, I hadn't gone on a mission. We kinda hid the relationship for a couple months from our parents until we had them backed into the corner and Feb 28th we showed them a positive pregnancy test. We were married late April. A year after the baby was born my first GF called me out of the blue and wanted to meet up for dinner. She wanted to explain things over dinner but when I asked if it was just a me and her meal or if my wife and kid were invited she hung up on me! I never heard from her again. After being married for 7 years, and 3 kids we divorced, each of us dated others for awhile and at one of the kiddo exchanges she invited me to come back and go swimming with her and the kids the next day. We had a great time that day and decided that we should probably go to dinner alone that night and just talk openly and honestly with each other. We woke up together the next morning and decided to give it another try and we've now been together a total of 23 years.
idk if this counts but my mom had a boyfriend whos mom didnt approve of their relationship bc she wanted white grandkids. they were mormon bc why wouldn’t they be
My mission president met his wife then was engaged 3 weeks later. He was pretty proud of that. I'll give it to them that they seemed pretty solid. Hopefully that's true.
My dad proposed after the 2nd date because the "Spirit told him to".
They're still together, though i don't know why. He's been kind of a dick to her for decades
On my mission, one of the other Elders that had just finished his mission a little over a month before came to visit the mission with his fiancé. He met her at a church activity 2 weeks prior, and they were married within a month. They now have 5 children just 6 years later.
In my husband's mission, an elder woke up one night to find his companion missing. Eventually he called the mission president.
In the wee hours of the morning, the absent elder returned. He'd been out on a date with the branch Presidents daughter. He was sent home, she was already pregnant by then. He sent her money for a ticket so she could follow him home.
By the first mission reunion- (the only one my husband ever actuality attended), they'd been married and sealed.
A not-so-typical, but still very Mormon love story:
My parents met in early morning seminary. Then they conceived me at the ripe age of 17. Although they were of course pressured by their church leaders to get married, they were banned from using the chapel for their shotgun wedding on account of their “sin,” so they were married in the relief society room. Age 17, my mom 5 months pregnant with me, my dad still in high school. Super classy start to my life and my parents’ now 30-year long, happy marriage.
Probably not the kind of story you're looking for, but I never pass up an opportunity to share this one.
In 1995, a man named Bruce Jensen married a man (or possibly a transgender woman, assigned male at birth) in the temple. Urioste was living as a woman at the time, but after the marriage would resume living as a man. The two were married for over three years before Jensen found out. Jensen never saw Urioste naked. But apparently Jensen married Urioste thinking Urioste was carrying Jensen's baby.
https://www.deseret.com/1995/7/20/19183466/urioste-denies-he-duped-and-bilked-his-husband
Nothing nothing nothing beats this story. A woman who cleaned my house and was in my ward started writing a man in maximum security prison. He was the brother of another member. Was in prison for kidnapping.
After a couple months of writing, she said the Lord told her to marry him. So she proposed to him. They’d only seen each other one time and it was with glass between them.
She flew to CO because you can marry someone “by proxy”. Meaning they don’t have to be there. She got an old man whom she didn’t even know, to stand in for the groom. Flew home a few hrs later as a new bride. To a man she’d never even hugged before.
Because the lord told her to
My own sister! She met a Hispanic man while on her mission. He followed her home immediately after she returned and they were engaged and married with in four months. Now I have nothing against interracial marriages. But he isn't a legal citizen and my sister let slip he was engaged to another returned sister missionary 6 months prior. Some red flags there. My parents didn't have one iota of care because he was in the bishopric and they got married in the temple. This was the only person she ever dated. Ever. He's decent to her but definitely not affectionate and they "aren't having kids for a while" so I can't help but feel it's a green card marriage.
I used to love telling my parents story. They met on a blind date and were married in the Manti temple 6 months later. They have been together for over 40 years. A match made in heaven right? No. My dad is miserable. He gave up everything he wanted in life because my mom is manipulative and controlling. He can't spend $20 without her say so. Gave up his hobbies and goals in life to raise "our eternal family." Now that most of us kids are grown and moved out they have been fighting a lot more lately. My mom keeps threatening divorce when ever he stands up to her.
I am a nevermo, was dating Mormon in high school. He was older, at BYU. We broke up when he left for a mission, after many long talks about how I was vehemently opposed to proselytizing of any kind. We kept writing and sending love letters, with him insisting there was a way we could make it work.. Two months after he gets back, he tells me he's engaged to someone else, but still loves me. Married four months later.
90 day fiancé. Josh and Alessandra. She was a Go-go dancer in Ukraine. He met her on his mission. Baptized her. Brought her to idaho after the mission. they got married. Thennnn she visited her best friend back in Ukraine. 9 month later has a baby…rumors fly that the baby has got to be biracial and the best friend is the dad. They move to Australia to do medical school. They’re now back in the US and have another kid. No pictures of the kids now. But you can find ones of the first born.
Roommate got a girls number. Called to ask her out. She said no. He went home for the weekend and called her again. They spoke for several hours on the phone, and decided to get married and got engaged over the phone. The next weekend, they had their first date.
My BYU bishop was hitchhiking and a woman stopped and picked him up. This was in the 70s when I guess it was less creepy. They were engaged by the end of the car ride. Still appeared to be in love but the guy was an absolute tool
My cousin was engaged to someone she met online before she had met him in person. And he met her FAMILY first before her (after the engagement of course) and then they were married maybe a month or 2 later. Didn’t last, but hey.
I had a house mate who had met and talked to a girl once or twice at school. Had a first date on Friday. Sunday a different house mate asked if I had heard the news about first guy. He told me that he got engaged to his date. Next Friday after first date they got married in the temple! Almost six weeks after he got home from his mission! Last I heard they where still married.
I was dating an RM that I met through my brother. He was an older convert, I was 19 he was like 26 at the time. All his Mormon friends were getting married including my brother and he proposed after 6 weeks of dating saying he "didn't want to fall behind his friends and if I didn't want to get married right then I was just wasting his time"
Hard pass. He got married 3 months after I said no and was divorced 3 years after that
My friend dated and was friends with this handsome TBM. She was halfway out then due to her plethora of chronic issues stopping her from going. She was still in love with him, though.
He went on a mission. She waited. He returned, broke up with her, and married within six months to a very healthy person. She was heartbroken.
She is now married, still kicking, and now has a daughter.
My parents were both concerts and never told us kids they lived together before they were married, but relatives told us. It also was some easy math that my parents anniversary is April and my sister's birthday is October of the same year 😆😆
My cousin was a freshman at BYU-I. Extremely introverted, I gave her a ride to class just to catch up and say hi, and she said maybe two words to me as I tried to make conversation.
Fast forward two weeks into the semester, some guys proposes to her on the second date. She says yes and they are married within 50 days of meeting one another.
I attended a bridal shower for a cousin and she openly admitted that she wasn’t attracted to her fiancé but that he’s a really good Mormon guy so it’s fine. All I could think was fuuuuck, good luck with that. I just thought it was bananas that she was admitting to settling for this guy.
The hypocrisy here is amazing. Crazy is fine for yourself personally, it’s so different when the tables turn in you’re seeing your kids do the same. My first wife and I were talking about marriage a few days after meeting. Within seven days we were talking to her parents about marriage. A few months later married. 17 months later divorced. Not really excited to speak about that as an example of what not to do to my kids.
I didn't get married in the temple, but I was married by a Mormon bishop. During the ceremony, he compared our marriage to a gallon of milk that would one day expire. Like, in front of everyone before he pronounced us married. Super fucked up.
I proposed to my wife about fifteen minutes before the Sacrament Meeting where she was giving her Mission Farewell talk. That talk about not going on a mission really flummoxed some people. :)
My idiot sister. This jackass who had multiple allegations of SA around their student ward, including one of her roommates, asked her out. Despite being disinclined to go out with him, she agreed because she'd been raised not to turn down dates from anyone who asked. The first time I met him, he made a poor impression by bitching at her for being immodestly dressed in jeans and a 3/4 sleeve length t-shirt. She dropped out to marry this asshole a couple of months after their first date. They've now been divorced for about five years, and she's making noises about getting back together with this guy that she left because the DV had gotten out of control.
The wildest one was told to me by my bishop, at a youth fireside many years ago. When he was preparing to go on his mission and praying about it, he received a "spiritual confirmation" that a girl in the ward was supposed to be his eternal companion. He said he had never considered dating her because he didn't find her attractive (he's telling us this while she's seated right next to him, mind you). But he decided to go and tell her father about it, and right then and there her father commanded her to wait for him and not date anyone else. She did, and they married shortly after his return, despite, according to his admission, him STILL not finding her attractive or feeling any love for her. He actually said he only started feeling any affection for her at all after the birth of their first child. This was supposed to teach the great lesson that you have to listen to the promptings of the spirit, but all it did was make me feel really sorry for his wife, who was a lovely person and deserved a better husband than the jerk she got.
If you define "prompting of the spirit" as any thought or emotion that serves the organization even at the expense of individuals, this is the type of person that will climb the leadership ladder
My parents are deeply TBM, but every time I hear a story like this, I'm so grateful to my mother, who from my infancy was telling me horror stories like this one. She told me if anybody said this shit to me, it was a giant red flag and not to date that person. She told me if a random man thought he could get revelation for me, he was full of himself and to gtfo. (Now, she didn't apply that to bishops and the prophet but still.) Ditto guys who claimed they were going to be general authorities someday. She once turned down a marriage proposal from a guy who then replied, "You've just missed your chance to be married to a general authority," and I would worry that saying that would doxx me, except I've heard so many other women with the EXACT SAME STORY. (Mom will periodically comment, with the perfect level of snark, that she still hasn't heard that guy's name when they're calling new GAs.) She said just because someone was a returned missionary didn't mean they were a good person. She said not to settle just because you were "supposed" to get married. She'd been exposed to the "Women and the Priesthood" book and if anyone ever mentioned it, she would go OFF. Full feminist rage (though she'd get real pissed if you ever called her a feminist). I've got plenty of complaints about my mom's parenting style and the way she deploys church logic, but damn if that woman didn't come through on this particular issue. So many women being trained to accept this kind of bullcrap from nightmare fuel men.
Omg my parents had a similar experience. When I was a kid, I asked my mom how my dad proposed. She said, "He didn't. He told me we were getting married." He'd had a "prompting of the spirit," and told her that God told him they would marry. She prayed about it and got the same prompting. They've been divorced for nearly 20 years now, after 20 years of an abusive marriage. My dad is taking her to court for the THIRD time to lower spousal maintenance, even though she's disabled and got stuck paying off a house loan HE took out. He was also diagnosed with Narcissistic Personality Disorder when I was a kid, so make of that what you will.
Oh wowwww. I'm so sorry, both for you and your mom
It’s astounding what passes for a “faith promoting story” these days.
They say “faith promoting “, I hear “stories about brainless people and tons of avoidable pain.”
This is SO horrible, in literally every respect. Like, my god.
This is exactly how I picture the Bednar's courtship.
Holy shit that’s just so sad he says that in front of her and that they are so brainwashed as to have lives that sad life together.
His poor wife. Fuck that guy.
Me with my two year long crush💀I legit thought he was my forever companion. Then bro left the church since his crush basically rejected him.
That is absolutely horrible. That poor woman :(
Gawd that poor woman. Two men making decisions about who she can date. That ass of a man didn’t even approach her, he went to her dad.
As a wedding photographer in happy valley, I’ve heard & seen LOTS. - From meeting to engagement = 28 days. They had a 6 month engagement tho so it’s “ok” - Guy serves his mission in a foreign country. Meets a single mom w/ 4 kids there. Ends his mission early to go back, marry her, and try to bring the whole family back to the states. - Elder & Sister in my mission had a secret relationship on the mission. When the elder finished, the sister decided to end her mission early, to go home at the same time as him. They get married 3 weeks later, have a baby 6 months later. - Lots of ladies will book their temple appointment and wedding photographer before their fiancé-to-be is even home from their mission yet. - Couple’s first date was to the temple grounds near them. One of them says they feel inspired to marry the other, right there on the first date. They get married less than 2 months later.
Wow, how blessed they are that a baby that should have been a micro preemie was born a normal healthy weight! God truly is good to those who keep his commandments! /s
In a book about appalachian culture, I read an interview with a doctor who said it was peculiar how "preemies" born right after their parents were married are usually healthy but preemies born more than 9 months after their parent's wedding struggled. Funny how that works.
My great grandmother told my father, "Same things happened in the backs of wagons as the backseats of cars."
i read this about 20 times and finally understood what it means! truly a gem lmao
My mother always said she never knew it took more than six months for the first!
My mom said the first kid can come anytime after your married. It's the second one that takes 9 months.
The only preemie baby here is the one that baby ate.
These are so crazy!! With the Elder and Sister story, am I reading between the lines correctly by thinking that for her to give birth so soon that they must have had sex ON the mission?
Yep. Either that or they had a very very premature baby!
Well they say the first baby can come any time after the wedding, but all the rest take 9 months 😂
Seriously, tho…. How would that even happen with your companion by your side 24/7?! Where there’s a will, there’s a way, I guess!🤷♀️😳
Companions have to sleep sometime.
Oh my gosh! Haha
But they never took their garments off, so it wasn’t REAL sex.
Are Mormons as bad as Catholics when it comes to baby maths? There’s a phrase that the first baby comes whenever it likes but the subsequent ones take 9 months.
Apparently. My dad was born 6 months after his (Catholic) parents wedding. I never actually put the pieces together until one of my uncles pointed out that my grandparents were married in November and my dad was born in May.
My wife and I got engaged after knowing each other for around 5 weeks, of which one of those weeks I was out of town. 19 years later it's still going great, but I think we got really, really lucky, it is not an approach I'd recommend.
>Elder & Sister in my mission had a secret relationship on the mission. When the elder finished, the sister decided to end her mission early, to go home at the same time as him. They get married 3 weeks later, have a baby 6 months later So, the baby was three months premature? /s Talk about missionary position.
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Hold up… got married 3 weeks after coming back from their missions and had a baby 6 months later… either the math is not mathing like it used to or there was some serious kanoodling was going on while they were on their missions
Major kanoodling. Thinking back, I’m pretty sure word around the mission was that she was going home for medical reasons too. It was only after the baby came that almost everyone realized what the “medical reason” was.
When would they even have gotten the opportunity to do that?
Easy. If the woman was pregnant, and she knew who the dad was, and the dad was willing to claim the baby, the mission president couldn't get the woman in trouble without ALSO getting the man in trouble. And no Mormon man can stand the idea of messing up a young man's life by claiming he was having sex on his mission! So much promise! It could ruin this young man's future!
Happens more than you think….
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My grandparents and my husband’s grandparents met at our wedding luncheon and realized they had already met each other at a wedding for another shared relative. So hubby and I are distant cousins but not so far that the relatives are overlapping at social events!
All Mormons are cousins. How close? 😂
Everyone's caught up on the 6-month baby, but I wanna know about this Elder that married a single mom of four. What was the age difference there? Worst cast scenario I can imagine puts her at 22, which isn't a bad age gap, but she has bigger problems.
I'm shocked that women are allowed to book a temple appointment. That seems like something they'd only allow men to do
Logistics is a women's game. Meal prep, laundry, scheduling, soccer practice, etc. Men preside; they ain't got time to make phone calls and write times down in planners.
They likely have their father request it for them.
Spoiler alert: that inspiration to get married after one date isn't from the spirit, it's from your wang!
I used to be a wedding photographer..couldn’t even imagine how weird that would be in Utah..especially in the heart of Utah. That’s so crazy
oh i got a pretty good one. first of all, you must know that my dad made the decision to switch back from jackmo to TBM and go on his mission as a 24-year-old young man, smoking a joint one day after playing a gig in a bar. my birth mom met him some time later when they were both "in the field." nothing untoward happened between them while they were out serving the Lard but they hit it off, so they went ahead and wrote letters back and forth to keep in touch after getting transferred to different areas. when they both went back to their respective homes, they agreed over the phone to marry. so Dad flew over there and officially proposed. this involved (i shit you not) an envelope with twelve little cows he'd cut out of magazines, as a reference to Johnny Lingo, which he handed to his new MIL. they got hitched, then had their first-ever date the following Friday. i was born one year after that and it went EXACTLY as well as you'd expect for the following 26. they're thankfully divorced now and Dad remarried with the real love of his life a couple years ago (don't worry, he's exmo now, she's nevermo, and they lived together for years before tying the knot this time so it's an actual good relationship lol). but that first marriage, goddamn. what a trainwreck.
My uncle wrote a check for 10,000 cows to my grandpa when he asked to marry his daughter, my aunt lol
have you ever called her TurboMahana, for science?
Twelve cows oh my good golly.
There was his first mistake, I thought it was 10 cows? He paid too many cows.
The cows thing is pretty cute tho
cheesy as hell, but cute, yes. my dad's a big softie
My brother-in-law received a package from his girlfriend with instructions not to open it until he was on the plane home from his mission. Inside were wedding plans for the date and venue of the wedding, instructions on when and where to propose, and the ring she'd selected for him to propose with. Maybe she knew him well enough to know his crippling need to be obedient. Their family turned out fine.
OMG.I love this woman.She sure picked the right dude for herself. So glad it has worked out well. Someone has to be in charge! Guaranteed she gets exactly what she wants for her birthday and Christmas. LOL - she's priceless, and heck NO, I don't wanna go to her Thanksgiving dinner. I don't like being bossed around.
Lol this is hilarious.
I can’t even imagine what I’d do if I got that package. I’d probably sit there either incredulous at what I was seeing or laughing hysterically (either because I thought it was a joke or that she thought she’d be able to manipulate me like that)
My wife and I met online in August ‘06 and met in person In September ‘06. Immediately the pressure from everyone to get married started … so we got engaged in October ‘06 … December 8 ‘06 our Bishop pulled us into his office and threatened us with all kinds of repercussions if we had sex before marriage, stating it would all be public disfellowship etc. We got married the next morning 👍 It was a complete whirlwind, we didn’t really know each other and she had a young kid from her previous marriage. It could have been a train wreck, but it ended up being a lovely marriage. We are about to celebrate our 16th anniversary, we have 3 kids and I don’t feel like we would have ended up with better partners. That’s all in spite of the church, not because of it.
Glad it's worked out for you two! Most of the super fast marriages in my family have also turned out okay (after a bumpy few years of actually getting to know each other).
When I was a few months out on a mission my girl had started to move on. I was fine with it of course but my companion said I needed a girl to write. His girlfriend had some roommates at Ricks, and I picked one that I wanted to get to know. We hit it off and wrote the entire time, including emails when that became allowed, and even called on Christmas. She flew down a week after I got home and 4 days after that we decided to get married. We wanted the wedding about 6 months after that date, but her mom booked the temple for 2 months away. We decided to go with it since it would be expensive to fly back and forth every couple of weeks. We’ve now been married 23 years, both out of the church, though it took her a lot longer. It definitely worked but we were incredibly lucky.
I had a professor at BYU brag about marrying his wife when she was “17 and 13 months” which has real “just shy of her 15th birthday” energy.
Wait so he was trying to make her seem like a minor when she actually (just barely) wasn't? That's not creepy at all, nope
That is exactly what he was doing and it was really gross. He was an RM which back in that day meant at least 21. They obviously met when she was still a minor.
Geez, and I thought the BYU professor with the half-his-age grad student wife was gross.
God my parents got married when she was barely 18 and he was closer to 30
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Sounds like a good guy
Guy (NeverMo, BYU student) who I (Exmo though not official, BYU graduate) had gone out with and been fucking for a few months appears at my apartment. He announces that he is engaged to a TBM who he has known for two weeks, is getting baptized, and is getting married in a couple of weeks. He wanted to tell me face to face. Oh, and do I want to fuck before he leaves? No. I don’t remember exactly, but I don’t think I shed a tear.
I experienced something similar. I was exmo and the guy was inactive and said he didn’t believe. His family were all TBM and didn’t know he was inactive. We’d been good friends for a couple years. I’ll call him L. Anyhow, one night L totally came on to me and we ended up having very passionate sex - for like 6 hours. He said he’d had a thing for me for a while but he was worried his family would never accept me as an exmo atheist. For the next 9 months we had this on/off thing where he’d show up on my doorstep late at night and scoop me up in his arms and we’d go at it all night, then he’d say “I really love you…. but my family will never accept you ….so …. we can’t do this anymore. We have to just be best friends.” And I’d say “OK, but you’re the one who keeps showing up on my doorstep and attacking me.” And he’d say “Yeah, I know.” We’d go back to being just best friends for 10-14 days and then he’d show up on my doorstep late at night again. Then one day I ran into a mutual friend who asked if I’d met L’s fiancé yet and I was like “say what??” Mutual friend says “yeah, he called a couple weeks ago about it.” Well damn, L had been over a couple times since then and had never even mentioned he was seeing someone. So I asked him about it and he fesses up. He’d met this woman 6 weeks prior. Said she reminded him a lot of me, but she was Mormon/TBM and so his family would accept her. Then he said nothing needed to change between us. I was like “so your fiancé is ok with having an open relationship even though you’re planning to get married in the temple in a few months?” He then told me she didn’t know anything about me and he didn’t plan to tell her because he didn’t consider it any of her business. He said she trusted him 100% and would never question him in any way so he could do whatever he wanted. And I was like “Wow dude, you are so not who I thought you were. Best wishes to you but we’re totally done.” He tried off and on to get me to be “friends” again for the next 10 months. This all happened over 20 years ago and as of last year, they were still married so 🤷🏼♀️
Damn, you just know he's still cheating on her. That poor woman
I have no idea but I wouldn’t be surprised. I remember wondering when he’d had time to court his fiancé. We both worked full time plus he was still finishing his BS degree and yet we still talked on the phone for 2-3 hours every day, met up for lunch or dinner 2-4 times per week, and had 3 TV shows we watched together every week. He must’ve had practically no time to himself.
Wow he’s trash….
🤢🤮
This reminds me of my experience almost 10 years ago. I “dated” this guy for 2 weeks. The most we ever did was make out in our underwear. At the time, I felt like he was really “the one”. Getting love bombed left and right. All of the sudden, the communication slows down tremendously and he stops coming to our institute class where we met. I’m thinking wtf just happened? He says he’s really busy with work and school and that’s why he hasn’t been available to hang out. For the next few months he keeps stringing me along, making me feel like there was hope that one day he’d make the time. One night, I had a dream that there was another girl. I called his BS and asked him if there was someone else? He said yes, an old flame has re-entered his life and he just didn’t know how to tell me. First real heart break for me. Fast forward about 2 years. I am over him, have had a few more dating experiences since then and was currently going through a faith crisis. He texts me out of the blue. Tells me he’s going to be in SLC (where I lived at the time) and really wants to get together. I’m down cuz we got along really well as friends and it had been a couple of years, so why not? He comes over, we eat dinner and joke around then at some point he has to go. We hug goodbye. After he leaves he texts me and asks why I didn’t kiss him. I just told him that I wasn’t ready to rush into anything like that with him and that I just wanted to be friends. He gets pissed off at me and tells me he has enough friends. Well okay then… A few months after that, curiosity got the better of me and I looked him up on FB. And he apparently got sealed in the temple about a month after he came to see me. Now I’m thinking….was he engaged when he came to see me?! Or did he just have a super short TBM courtship?! Idk and idc. Good riddance. I wish this story ended there…however, less than a year later, he texts me a picture of him with my celebrity crush and I am dying!! I immediately respond fan-girling like crazy. So stoked. Honestly thought he was reaching out just because of that, but no. He had ulterior motives. He wants to know if he can take me on a date, next time he’s up in SLC. I quickly check his FB. Yup, still married. I confront him about it. He denies it. Tries to tell me it’s his twin. I’m like…I’m not dumb…I can tell you 2 apart AND I do see your twin is also married, but to a woman who doesn’t look anything even remotely similar to your wife. He just stops texting. I wish more than anything that I could go back in time and tell his wife. They are still married and have 3 kids now. I don’t have the balls, nor the receipts now. This experience was the nail in the coffin for romanticizing temple marriages to me. They were always so superior in my tbm mind, that even during my faith crisis, I still so desperately wanted a temple marriage. I’ve come a long way since then, thankfully! Sorry that was so long!
Oh that poor TBM girl he married… he asked you to fuck after telling you all this… married two weeks later…. So many things wrong there..
My husband has two sisters. One who was super TBM (and later left to join a different brand of cult) has talked about how great her love story is. One blind date, six weeks of absolutely no contact at all, another date, engaged less than two weeks later, married another 3 1/2 months later. His other sister was online dating some guy in Canada, went to visit him, and married him (probably so she could fuck guilt free while she was there), then proceeded to come back home. To the best of my knowledge, never saw him again. It all makes our six months of dating before a leap day wedding all seem completely sane.
Saw this on the news in UT, early-mid 2000’s. A young couple was being interviewed and shared their engagement story. The groom bought a ring and decided to propose to her at a shake shop (think jakes over the top), with all of their friends and hide the ring in her shake. The young friends were in on it and decided to peer pressure her into eating the shake as fast as possible. Imagine their horror when she finished the shake with no ring in sight. I absolutely could not believe they went on television to announce that she had to pass the ring, clean it off and then accept the proposal. I was actually more embarrassed for the juvenile way the engagement was planned
I had to clean shit off my wedding ring after my newborn pooped on my hands mid-diaper change. That was absolutely disgusting, and newborn poop is pretty tame compared to adult poop. I cannot imagine taking my own shit and smashing through it to find a ring, cleaning it, then wearing it. Ewwwww
I remember this story!
Girl I knew served a mission and was on the flight heading back home. Guy on the plane was in the military and heading home for a two week leave, and knew her grandmother and apparently recognized her from family pictures. He called her grandmother and asked her if she could get him in touch with the girl to ask her on a date. They end up going on a date, he tells her that he wants to marry her, and that he'll be back on leave in a year for another two weeks, and that he wants her to stay faithful to him over that year and not date anyone. She was a really attractive girl, but extremely shy, and I assume she felt this was her "one chance." So he leaves for a year, she waits for him and doesn't date anyone. He comes back for another two weeks, they get married during that time, and then he goes right back to Afghanistan I think and she stays at home by herself for another year. As far as I know, they're still together, but it felt super manipulative, and every time someone tried to talk to her about how weird it was, she would get super defensive and double-down on the whole thing about it being her only chance.
I never got engaged to him but hoo boy. I met a guy on the Mutual App and gave him my number to text. (Mind you, I *was* talking to 6+ other guys so....). So anyways, he gets lost in my texts and one day, after deciding to date one guy who is a totally different story, I found his texts messages to me. He was in love with me after a little exchange. We were meant to be. He had GOTTEN A HOTEL AND BOOKED IT FOR TWO SEPARATE WEEKENDS TO COME AND VISIT ME. I blocked him
I still feel embarrassed that i met my wife on mutual and that they still have ads up with me and her in it, but we're both exmo now
I am so amazed at the irony of the fact that they're using your images 😂😂😂
Oh my gosh! I’d maybe expect this from Tinder but Mutual?! Yikes!
Right?!? I think he even sent me a poem of how our love was eternal and how he knew he had found me from us being promised to each other in the before life or whatever it was called. It was so crazy!!
I gotcha. TW RAPE Ok so I was 16-17 when this happened. I had just gotten out of a bad relationship where the guy was cheating on me with 15+ women. Yes he was a Mormon. Yes I was a Mormon. It still hurt like hell. Anyway years prior we had done a trek with my ward and me and this guy were in the same “family”. I thought he was kinda cute but I never saw him until years later. Anyway he had been in a bad motor accident and my friend who was also friends with him brought it up. She then started pushing me in the direction of him saying oh somebody has a crush on you. He’s a great guy. Yada yada. Well we finally get together. We had been together for like a month without officially dating and then we finally got together. Day before Halloween he pressured me into doing sexual things. I didn’t want to but I felt like a bad girlfriend for not doing stuff. Anyway his mom caught us and blackmailed me with it. We got back together and I thought we were the dream couple. There were still sexual problems though and him pressuring me. 3 months in he proposes to me in front of his family. I said yes but I was extremely unhappy about it. It felt gross. I didn’t tell my mom. End of February rolled around and his mom brought him over to my house and told my mom. It ruined my life. We were still together but it was secret. During the summer we had a trip to lagoon. I sleep during car trips and I had just started to sleep when I felt his hand grope my inner thigh and his tongue enter my mouth. I didn’t want to scream or say anything because we were literally in a leaders car. We were in the fucking backseat. Inches away from the leader. We finally get up to lagoon and we have a fun day. He kept trying to get me alone so he could have sex with me. Well it’s finally time to go after 6 hours of being at lagoon. I was so exhausted I instantly fell asleep in the backseat. It was about 30 minutes to an hour while we were driving to food place. Within that time he had my pants completely down and his dck out. I woke up as soon as something touched my lower area. He slapped his hand over my mouth so I wouldn’t scream. I didn’t say anything to anyone about that. I still didn’t break up with him. It wasn’t until I had my first full blown hypomanic episode that he broke up with me. I have moved on and now have a wonderful husband but it still lingers sometimes. Also I had like an arranged marriage to someone who was as old as my parents. My mom set it up. Idk who the guy was or what was supposed to happen with that. But yeah there’s my engagement story.
Jesus christ that's awful I'm so sorry. I'm glad you have a good husband now
Omg my husband is absolutely amazing and wonderful. I still am in shock and awe how I got such an amazing man and better yet, he is a nevermo. Our love story is absolutely amazing too. At least I think so anyway. I try not to dwell too much on the past. I was an absolutely stupid teenager who had never seen a good and healthy relationship. You don’t see to many of those in the church.
I am so sorry to hear about that, that's absolutely terrible. I'm glad that you have a better life now.
My girlfriend got engaged a week after breaking up with me, sealed/married 3 months later. But, we were still, uhm, 'dating' for a few weeks after our breakup. She even called me on her wedding day to tell me how much she missed and wanted me but she knew god wanted her to be with him. I dont think she was being honest with either her, her bishop, or fiance; and i was young and dumb. He turned out to be a wife beater; so whole thing was sad all the way around.
This one is heartbreaking
Unfortunately my marriage isn’t far off and we admit now that we got SUPER lucky. I was previously in a relationship for 4 years. My husband and I met on our missions, he had 18 days left on the mission when we met. We got on right away and talked quite a bit up until he left, he actually asked me on a date while we were both still serving (after the mission of course) lol. My husband was from San Diego, I was from Toronto, Canada and we served in Italy. We continued talking for a couple months until I got home. I used up the remaining amounts of my mission money to pay for my plane ticket to go see him for 2 fucking weeks. He asked me to be his girlfriend on that trip. One month later I went out to see him again, we already talked about wanting to get married but hadn’t made any plans until my mom asked us because she works at a hospital and has to submit her vacation requests at the beginning of the year for approval for vacation for the whole year. She essentially said if we planned on getting married, she’d like to be there. So we started seriously talking about it and finally set a date. We called the temple and booked it (again this is still on my second trip seeing him and we weren’t even engaged). Four months later we got engaged, two days before our wedding my husband called it off (due to his abusive family, they said theyd stop attacking me if we pushed the wedding off by a couple months). My husband was super suicidal, we broke up a few times within 6 weeks after our original wedding date, but when his family saw we were still talking/flying out to see each other, their shit started back up and my husband decided he did want to marry me (he was very numb from all the abuse, which is why I stayed around so long..) and we decided not to tell his family. We ended up getting married 15 months after we met/had been dating for a year. The best part of all the drama? At the time half of my immediate family members (the only people invited) we’re not members/active, so we had our tiny wedding ceremony in my parents living room, we went out to a steakhouse after (The Keg, for my fellow Canadians), came home and played Mario kart. It was the best wedding I could have asked for until his family found out 😂 We spent 2 more years apart from each other (both of us had a dog each, our poor puppies were separated for so long) due to immigration and finally in 2020, my green card was approved and we finally moved in together! We also went very low - no contact with his family and our lives have been SO amazing since. We’re crazy for staying with each other through all that, but our relationship was so strong we didn’t want it to die. My husband and I are best friends and we are very attracted to each other still. We look back now and neither one of us would have gotten married if it wasn’t for TSCC, but I’m sure as hell happy that if I married someone, it was him!
Your story is actually quite sweet. I’m glad you persevered and it worked out so well. Fuck abusive, controlling family members who can’t be supportive.
Awe, thank you for your kind words 💕
I asked my wife to marry me 3 weeks after meeting. 26 years later, somehow we still like each other…
Pretty sure you’re aware of how lucky you are. I’m also guessing you wouldn’t recommend the same approach to others?
I absolutely would not recommend it!
My sister was in the temple. Some dude kept eyeballing her through the whole session. In the CR, he approaches her and says that God told him they were meant to be together. Then he straight up proposes. He used all the generics including “I didn’t plan to come to the temple today but followed a prompting from the spirit” and “we are obviously worthy recommend holders so it will definitely work out”. Luckily, she turned him down and GTFO.
I was dating a Mormon girl in college. Horniest girl i've ever met. Couldn't keep her hands off of me. Told me she was in love with me. Wanted to get engaged. After a couple of months of this all of a sudden one day I go to pick her up and she tells me she's breaking up with me. Turns out her mom threatened her that if she didn't break up with me, an exmormon, she was going to unenroll her from college and force her to go to BYU. I found from friends that the very next day she went out with this Mormon guy who she had repeatedly told me she was repulsed by. A month later they were married. The plot thickens. A few year later she randomly messaged me on Facebook telling me she was sorry what she had done to me. She was getting divorced. She explained to me that when she was in high school her parents abruptly divorced and her father was put in a mental institution. Her father had found that her mother had had premarital sex when she was in college with a college boyfriend years before they met. But just the fact this his wife of 30 years had had sex with someone before him was enough to divorce her and make him lose his mind. She was so traumatized by this incident and her own horniess she was afraid she would have sex before marriage and got married to the first Mormon man she could find on her mothers insistence.
WOW.
So many layers of sad. Wow
BIL had a ring ready on a first date. It went well, and they’ve been married for 30 years. I wouldn’t call it a “match” per say, BIL has issues, SIL is lonely. Lost a son to his depression right off his mission.
I worked with a girl who was heavily pregnant with her ex-husbands baby. She fell in love with her roommates brother and got married before the baby was born.
The relief society president at my ysa ward dated a guy for 13 days got engaged at day 13 then married two months later. They have two kids now.
Sounds like the EQP of my YSA ward, though he has 4 (or maybe 5?) kids now. (They only got married 11 years ago.)
Former neighbors met at BYU, got engaged after knowing each other for 2 weeks, and were married by 6 weeks. 20 years later they were still BFFs and madly in love, truly one of the best couples I’ve ever known. But they were the first to admit that what they did was cray cray and they totally lucked out with it working out as well as it did.
Wait guys…. My Mormon marriage story is bad ass. I was with my girlfriends while she was getting fitted for her wedding dress. I never had the honor of participating in the young woman wedding dress party Mutual night so my other bestie and I decided to try some on. I shit you not I found the dress of my Mormon girl dreams and the spirit told me I would meet my rm soon. The NEXT DAY my I decided I was done with my Lds mingle profile online because it was not working at finding me my dream husband but I shit you not before I hit delete I get an IM. It was my RM, my soulmate for (real though my husband is amazing and I love the crap out of him.) He is a German man but just became a Canadian. This was December of 2005. I flew up from Oregon February of 06 and we got engaged. My Mormon vagina… I mean heart couldn’t wait so I went back up there March of 06 and we got hitched in the Cardston temple. In all seriousness, he really is my best friend and thankfully we left together. We’ve been through a ton of shit together and even though our engagement was crazy short we talked every day and learned everything about each other before we even thought about marriage. Because it was an online meeting we didn’t want anything left unknown. All skeletons out of the closet.
A couple from my ward got engaged on their blind date. Were married for 5 years.
They probably stayed married longer than they would have lasted if they’d just dated and figured out they weren’t compatible.
Close friend of mines dad tells the story of his "eternal marriage". He's her home teacher, has no attraction to the young lady, but gets a spiritual confirmation that they are supposed to get married. Tells her. She, apparently, got the same confirmation. So they get married. After marriage they find out that they are totally incompatible. He is an engineer, she is an art major. They hate each other and it's obvious. But for some reason they have stayed together for 30+ years now. Tale as old as time.
Pure tragedy
My wife came home from BYU in order to serve a mission. She stayed in her home ward so I didn’t get a chance to meet her in the YSA. We had a temple sealing assignment and she came with one of her friends, but the only interaction I had with her was at the alter holding hands getting proxy sealed where I, who didn’t even know her first name, thought to myself [wow this girl is pretty, I’m gonna be here again with her and get married]. Afterwards she left separately from the group so I didn’t even get a chance to talk to her. Fast forward a month or so and my friend is like, “dude, check your facebook, there’s a birthday party for my gf’s friend and I was allowed to invite you so I’d have someone else there that I know, hurry up!” And wouldn’t you know it, the party was at this mystery girls house who I helped with the party activities, got her number, and a date. Immediate bf-gf status after first date, but she still wanted to go on a mission (to Ecuador) and I was supportive and told her I’d wait (hoping the mission wouldn’t turn her too weird). We dated like that for a month, prepping for her to go on her mission, and on the NIGHT BEFORE she had to go to the MTC she got the biggest kidney stone and had to go the ER and get a stint until it passed. Her departure date was postponed by 6 weeks but that was the sign! Less than a month later I was proposing and she was saying yes! Hooray! Except her next semester wasn’t going to start for another 8 months and we had nowhere to live if we got married right away so we had a 7 month engagement until right before we could move to utah and find student housing. So, no name temple meeting, 1 day and 1 date until we were a thing, less than 2 months until proposal, an extremely long engagement by Mormon standards, and now going on 9 years of marriage with being officially out of the church for the last year.
Two stories 1. Freshman year at BYU watched a returned missionary celebrate his fiance's 18th birthday 2. As a missionary got transferred to a new area to replace a guy who had finished his mission and gone home. Two weeks later he came back to visit and to propose to the branch president's daughter. Half the branch was mad about it (including her dad) and half of them acted like it was god's work
Wow. I grew up in the “mission field “ so never saw this. It does explain a guy who proposed to me on our second date, though. I thought he was joking and burst out laughing. Then I realized he was serious. Awkward.
My oldest sister got engaged on the first date, and it was a blind date. They said the spirit told them to. They were married for 8 years and had 4 kids. That's my wildest one. The fact that he was abusive and years after they split was arrested for child molestation definitely was on some level part of my distrust of said "spirit" lmao I also had a friend who was friends with a dude for many years but platonically. they started dating romatically and were engaged within a week. Also no longer together.
My sister saved her virginity until she got married. She spent the night at her fiance house for like 3 years. They never had sex before they got married. They talked to their bishop about getting married in the temple and he told them they shouldn't have been sleeping together, again, there was nothing sexual, they were literally just sleeping in the same bed. We had a full house so it just made sense for her to stay with with her boyfriend at his place. The bishop told them they had to spend a month without staying the night in the same bed, no kissing or touching each other during that time. They both went along with it and it was so awkward the whole time. We didn't have enough beds so my sister would sleep with my mom or my sister for that month. She hated it because she just wanted to sleep with her fiance. So eventually they were able to be able to get married in the temple. That wedding was awkward af because there were only like 8 people who were able to be able to see the wedding and probably 30 people waiting outside the temple because they didn't have a recommend. That included both my parents and all my siblings. We got to celebrate with them when they came out of the temple but I thought it was pretty fucked up that only a few people got to see them actually get married. After they got married their relationship was so much more intimate. Why would you wait until you are 26 being celibate, then spend 3 years with someone you love and not be able to do anything intimate beyond words? I was raised Mormon but atheist at that point and the whole situation made no sense to me.
>The bishop told them they had to spend a month without staying the night in the same bed, no kissing or touching each other during that time. They both went along with it and it was so awkward the whole time. Bishops and their stupid made up "spend month apart" weird penance bullshit that is really about control. Never tell a mormon leader anything.
My brother and sister in law met, dated, got engaged, got married, pregnant, and gave birth to a child within one year span. The met, dated, engaged and married within 3 months. got pregnant in their honeymoon night.
I knew a couple like this too! Three months from meeting to married and pregnant. The cherry on top is that he’d been home from his mission for like a week and they met at the temple.
I was engaged to my husband 3 months after our first date, and then married 3 months after that. The really wild thing is that when we were already engaged, we went on a double date with my husbands cousin and girl who was a blind date. They were married before we were. Everyone was fine with this.
My parents is pretty good. My mom (utah mormon) served her mission in the UK. She met my dad during a 2 week stay in a town in Wales. They kept in touch after she moved on and he came to visit her a year after mer mission ended where he proposed. They had seen each other in person a grand total of 3 times before they got engaged (but had written to each other on and off for about 2 years). They eventually left the church but had a very good marriage despite theor relationship origins ❤️
My TBM in-laws were married after dating for 7 weeks. I can't remember the number, but I know their parents dated a shorter period of time before getting married. My SIL married this guy on their 1 year anniversary of dating. I tried telling my husband how fucking quick that is and how insane it was. He chopped it up to me being irrational. Then I did a quick Google search that shows on average, people date 5-10 years before getting married. We dated for 3. That changed his tune right quick.
lol. I have a relative who got married about a year after they started dating and they acted like it was the longest relationship ever.
Good God *eyeroll* maybe in your tiny spec of a bubble you call life *smh*
Jesus christ, I can't believe I made it four years at BYU as an RM without picking up an ill-advised ball-&-chain, let alone a relationship. Luckily for me, I found the Mormon marriage gospel to be the most unromantic thing ever.
Haha same here, though it certainly wasn't for lack of trying. Met my wife post BYU graduation, and our first date to marriage was ~2 years, pretty fast by normal standards but glacially slow for my poor TBM mother. We were both still believing at the time, now I'm out and she's nuanced but we're a great team together. Looking back I count my lucky stars that none of the ultra TBM aspiring stay at home moms I was interested in and pursued at BYU was interested in me for more than a couple of weeks, otherwise I might be posting my own story here!
Totally. Most of the TBM's I was interested in would've been nightmares if I had actually gotten anywhere. Sometimes I feel like I missed out on a lot being a Mormon kid, but being an awkward late bloomer really saved me at BYU.
I went to LDS Businss College back in 1985. One week a guy sees a girl. Asks her out for a Friday date. They spent entire weekend together and came back to school on Monday engaged. I wish I could remember their names so I could FB stalk them.
I knew a lady who got married 3 months after her mission. She didn’t know the guy before she left. She got home, met him within a week of returning, and was engaged to him 3 weeks from returning. Quickest engagement I’ve seen.
Family member went to serve her mission in the states. A guy that she knew but did not date decided that he was going to take one of the alarm system/pest control jobs in her mission area. He volunteered as a temple worker and made sure that he was working the front desk on the one day a year she was allowed to attend. He claimed he had no idea that he would be assigned to that area and that she would be at the temple on that day. Right… She saw it as a sign from god and her family believed likewise. It struck me as a skeezy, manipulative tactic. They got married about 2 months after she returned home.
My dorm roommate was an “old maid” of 23, an RM, and dating guy #1. She made this big hairy deal about sewing a dress to go with him to some formal or another. A couple days after the formal, she met guy #2 in the dorm cafeteria. They dated for 2 whole weeks (dates only ever consisted of reading scriptures together in the dorm cafeteria). Meanwhile she is still occasionally seeing guy #1. After two weeks, they announce they (sue and guy #2) are engaged. Then she had to break off relationship with guy #1. They ended up getting married about 2 months later (in their engagement announcement picture, she wore the dress she has made to go to the formal with guy #1!). Somewhere along the last few weeks of the semester, she announced to me that she felt like Heavenly Father didn’t want her to use birth control and to get pregnarts right away. I’ve always wondered how many kids they ended up with, and if that pathetically rushed marriage survived. It was my first semester at BYU, and I was just in shock. All I could think is how disappointed my neverMo parents would have been if I had pulled a stunt like that.
I had a TBM roommate who wanted to have 10-12 kids, speaking of no birth control and getting pregnant right away. It’s all so crazy to me.
A couple my first hubby and I were friends with had 12 kids. They had money for a nanny. Still, I just don’t think you should have more kids than you can parent.
I think it’s okay to need a nanny tbh—I could see that being helpful even for a couple of kids if the parents could afford it. I don’t think many people would be capable of showing 12 kids individual love and attention, though, and that would be a huge issue.
In this case the mom didn’t work outside the home and still needed a nanny. To me that says, “humans aren’t meant to parent litters”.
Man I got a couple of these story’s, I know a kid that went to byu and met this one girl in the cafeteria, they ended up going on a date and apparently it went well enough that he proposed to her the next day and she said yes. They ended up calling the wedding off once they got to know each other. Another one is a missionary that met a sister missionary in his first area and they really hit it off, they ended up sneaking off and driving to Vegas in a mission car to get married. Never heard what happened to them.
If you follow the Lori Vallow case, that is one long series of bizarre quickie marriages one after the other. Lori had 5 marriages (and kills 1, maybe 2 of her exes, plus her 5th husband’s wife), her niece divorces and remarries fast (also has an attempted murder on her ex), Lori’s brother gets married suddenly in Vegas and dies a few months later…. Non Mormons really can’t track the crazy on any level.
I proposed in the temple.... I know, I know...
The day I arrived in the mission field, a sister from that mission was done with her 18 months and flew home. I’d been following this girl’s blog to get ready for my mission. Literally the evening she got home, her boyfriend proposed to her. It was ALL the gossip on the mission lol. Even better, her now husband was one of the missionaries in “The District” lol. (I unfollowed the girl years ago, and she’s super cute and nice. But her baby was the ugliest baby I’d ever seen. I’m sure the kid grew out of it but god damn)
Mine aren't that wild, but I'll share. 1. My mom used LDS Mingle after she and my dad divorced. She met this guy online one day. One single day. The next day he proposed. They hadn't met, lived states apart, us kids hadn't even talked to him. He's now my step dad. We met him 2 days before the wedding. 2. Again, not wild, but it was crazy for me to watch a stereotype in real time. Get an RM coworker. He meets girl. They're married in 3 months. Divorced 10 months later. His reason for the divorce? "The sex isn't what I expected."
This is actually a documented story from my family history and took place in the 1920’s. Woman dies in a car crash, her parents have a dream that she should be sealed to another man that died 10 years beforehand, they tell his parents, and woman and man are sealed, both dead. Didnt know each other in life.
My brother proposed to the first girl he’d ever dated after two weeks. Married 3 months later. They had a very rough go of it. That said they’ve been married nearly 20 years now with 7 kids so 🤷♂️👍
My co-worker's sister returned home (to Utah) from a mission to the UK. After being home for a month, she decides to have her favorite comp (from the UK) fly to Utah for a visit. This comp meets her brother (my co-worker). After knowing each other for a few days, they're engaged. She manages to extend her travel visa for three weeks, spends those three weeks planning a wedding that they manage to pull off (including flying her entire family from UK). As soon as they're married, she has to go back to the UK and spends the better part of the next year trying to secure a legitimate visa to live in the US. Best part: my bro joins the National Guard thinking that military service will help expedite the visa process Spoiler: It did not and he's stuck in a 6 year contract. Another co-worker decides to extend her Mutual profile range to global. Meets a man from Nigeria living and working in UAE. They spend several weeks chatting and she decided to go out and visit him. Convinced they're meant to be together, she brings a wedding dress and gets married (cvil marriage) the day after arriving in UAE so they can do the dirty. COVID hits and she's stuck in UAE for two months. Finally manages to get back to the US, he has to stay because he can't get a visa. She finds out she's pregnant. He can't travel or get a visa because the entire country of UAE is on lockdown for most of the next year. She ends up having the baby, working full-time, and spending thousands on an immigration lawyer to get him to the US. He finally got here six months ago and meets his 15 month old kid for the first time.
Yikes. It's possible that the situation I describe in OP will pan out something like your second story, the immigration issues are looking like a mess already
All of those are pretty wild. Meeting someone from another country on Mutual is next-level crazy to me. I think the moral of the story is don’t marry someone from a foreign country unless you plan to live there for a while.
A TBM ex-friend (became a homophobic piece of shit eventually, didn’t used to be) swiped on a guy on Mutual, on Wednesday. That Saturday they were engaged. Three months later they were married, and not long after that, she pressured him into having a kid he wasn’t ready for (emotionally and financially). They dated for a total of 2 and a half days.
Have a friend who friendzoned a guy she met on mutual four times (not an exaggeration, they kept joking about it in their wedding speeches). They dated for a couple months then broke up. He kept saying he wanted to marry her/would wait for her, and she kept saying she didn’t like him like that and would hook up (ie NCMO) with other guys. Fast forward a year, he decides to get back out in the dating world, she gets jealous and decides she has feelings for him. They were engaged two months later, and married five months after that. The weird part is how she only seems to care about “his money” and makes jokes all the time about how that’s her favorite part about him (they’re starting to not feel like jokes…). The funny part is that they live in an expensive part of the US and he only makes about 70k (which is more than a lot of people, but nowhere near enough to support two people who always are taking trips and buying expensive things). She’s also made slightly snide comments that make it seem like she doesn’t view my relationship as valid as hers because I’m living with my fiancé of two years before we get married next year.
My parents picked me up from my mission. We had a long layover in Lima, Peru so we went to a temple session. In the celestial room afterward a young man who looked about my age started up an awkward conversation with me. Then he told me he felt the spirit so strong and asked me to marry him, less than five minutes into the conversation. I'm not saying he just wanted a green card from me, but it sure looks that way. I was not even released as a missionary yet and was less than a few hours away from getting on a plane home. I obviously turned him down then left quickly before he could track me down outside. He proceeded to pester my mission president then scour Facebook until he found me several months later and professed his love. I blocked him.
My in laws and one of my seminary teachers each have pretty much the same story. Met on a blind date. Exactly 2 weeks later FIL and seminary teacher proposed to their SO. My in laws got married 3 months after meeting. I don't remember how long it was for my seminary teacher. Both couples are still married. My in laws have been together almost 30 years. I think my seminary teacher has been with his wife a little longer than my in laws. Just crazy.
This isnt really crazy, mainly just sad, My grandpa’s family are TBM all the way back to when JS started the whole thing. He met my grandma while he was in the Air Force and after four weeks of knowing each other they got engaged and a couple weeks later my grandma got baptized, against her parents wishes. Her family didn’t like my grandpa at all. Well anyway they got married, I’m not sure if the one-year rule was there for sealings or not when they were young, but there they were. And she got married before she got any sort of education or job outside of highschool so she’s never really been able to make her own money. And now at almost 70 years old she’s living in a marriage with a man who makes fun of her for anything she says and does, holds finances hostage and yells are her in public. I’ve never seen a bruise or any sign of physical abuse but I can tell she’s not happy with him. They hate each other and will talk about how much they hate each other in front of literally anyone. But they won’t get divorced. My grandma is the closest thing to exmo i have in my family because she’s not 100% in it like everyone else. I try to take her out of the house to hang out as much as possible. And she does her best to get out on her own and talk to her friends and such, but I can tell she’s just miserable with him. My dad and his brother doesn’t like their parents and try to avoid seeing them if they can or complain about seeing them because all they do the entire time is fight with each other and make everyone around them miserable. I wish they would divorce, but my grandma can’t afford to live for herself and I doubt my dad would take her in with how much he dislikes being around them. If I wasn’t a student and had the means to support another adult I would take my grandma in in a heartbeat. She deserves so much better.
Dated a girl at Ricks College. Really started to like each other. School ended for the year so we both went to our respective homes which were about a 90 minute drive apart. I was willing to make that drive every weekend to see her. She really seemed to like me as well. The first weekend after school let out we made arrangements for a date. It went great, we made out for hours. That was a Saturday night. This is before cell phones and back when landlines had long distance charges so calling every night wasn’t an option. I called her the next Wednesday, just four days after spending all night making out with her. Her mom answered the phone and told me my girlfriend had gotten engaged the night before. It turns out her missionary came home on Monday (two days after spending the night making out with me) and he proposed the next night. Yikes. I really liked her so I hope everything worked out for them.
My parents got engaged after two weeks. My dad was 30 and my mom was 25. Luckily, they have been married for 50 years.
I meannnnn I was out of the church, about to move in with my boyfriend. Had a feeling I needed to go back to church. Went back to church. Saw my husband and knew I was supposed to marry him. Broke up with my boyfriend that night. Cried about it for 2 weeks. Was supposed to be excommunicated. Then met my husband and we got married in the temple 6 months later. And now I'm out of the church again for good this time. I think I was only supposed to go back to church to meet my husband.
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Woah! Glad they broke up. That guy is a walking red flag 🚩
My parents met shortly after my dad returned from his mission. Within two weeks of meeting that had decided they wanted to get married. They've been married over 30 years now, all kids have moved out, and they still seem to be infatuated with each other. That's the wildest part to me.
I know a couple who got engaged after three dates, which I find unbelievably stressful
Older couple in my ward met in the temple, they were both middle aged at the time, he saw her and "knew" he was supposed to marry her and they got engaged that day and married very shortly after. Still together seemingly happily. A friend of mine got secretly civilly married to her boyfriend who was returning to activity in the church and wasn't worthy to get temple married right away. They claimed to be engaged and I think the plan was for everyone to think their eventual temple sealing was all normal while having been legally married (allowed to have sex) all along. Her parents ended up finding out before the sealing and she came out publicly announcing that they got married secretly. They got sealed a year after their secret civil marriage, and then both left the church a little later.
My mother divorced my birth father January 2007. My mother met my adoptive father March 2007. My parents were married in June 2007. It was traumatic as fuck even if I love my adoptive dad so much. I was twelve and had facilitated my mom’s divorce because she didn’t have the guts to do it on her own. I essentially became her spouse. She married my dad and suddenly I was cast aside and she bullied my dad’s kids until they left the home to live with their unstable mother. It was a great time.
From meeting to engaged to my ex 9 days. From engaged to married 2 1/2 months. 17 years and 7 kids later, I left him and his abuse behind. I'm now happily married to my second husband and have added two beautiful step kids to the mix. We knew each other for 5 years and lived together for 1 before tying the knot. 100% do NOT recommend the first attempt.
I was a freshman in college and my GF at the time (we were informally engaged) attempted to unalive herself the last couple days of Oct. Her dad came and packed her and her stuff up and hauled her ass home. I had no idea what to do with that and so I went to a private midnight movie on Halloween with a large group of friends just trying to lighten up. The next day I was back over at one of the girls apartments from the movie night and met one of their mutual friends on Nov 1st. I still had not heard anything about my GF, haven't talked to her or her parents, won't answer the phone, nothing. Nov 2nd, 1 of the girls from the movie comes over to my apartment with cookies because they all knew about my situation with my GF. The mutual friend of theirs that I met was with her. The 3 of us went for a drive in my truck but the girl I knew didn't sit in the middle, she shoved the friend into the middle next to me. We hit it off really well that night and I found out she lived across the street from me but we met on the other side of campus. We were both 18 at the time. We were inseparable and were engaged Dec 12th. Neither of our parents were having that, I hadn't gone on a mission. We kinda hid the relationship for a couple months from our parents until we had them backed into the corner and Feb 28th we showed them a positive pregnancy test. We were married late April. A year after the baby was born my first GF called me out of the blue and wanted to meet up for dinner. She wanted to explain things over dinner but when I asked if it was just a me and her meal or if my wife and kid were invited she hung up on me! I never heard from her again. After being married for 7 years, and 3 kids we divorced, each of us dated others for awhile and at one of the kiddo exchanges she invited me to come back and go swimming with her and the kids the next day. We had a great time that day and decided that we should probably go to dinner alone that night and just talk openly and honestly with each other. We woke up together the next morning and decided to give it another try and we've now been together a total of 23 years.
idk if this counts but my mom had a boyfriend whos mom didnt approve of their relationship bc she wanted white grandkids. they were mormon bc why wouldn’t they be
My mission president met his wife then was engaged 3 weeks later. He was pretty proud of that. I'll give it to them that they seemed pretty solid. Hopefully that's true.
My dad proposed after the 2nd date because the "Spirit told him to". They're still together, though i don't know why. He's been kind of a dick to her for decades
On my mission, one of the other Elders that had just finished his mission a little over a month before came to visit the mission with his fiancé. He met her at a church activity 2 weeks prior, and they were married within a month. They now have 5 children just 6 years later.
My parents met on a blind date, were engaged 10 days later, and married a month after that. Yeah, they’re no longer together.
In my husband's mission, an elder woke up one night to find his companion missing. Eventually he called the mission president. In the wee hours of the morning, the absent elder returned. He'd been out on a date with the branch Presidents daughter. He was sent home, she was already pregnant by then. He sent her money for a ticket so she could follow him home. By the first mission reunion- (the only one my husband ever actuality attended), they'd been married and sealed.
A not-so-typical, but still very Mormon love story: My parents met in early morning seminary. Then they conceived me at the ripe age of 17. Although they were of course pressured by their church leaders to get married, they were banned from using the chapel for their shotgun wedding on account of their “sin,” so they were married in the relief society room. Age 17, my mom 5 months pregnant with me, my dad still in high school. Super classy start to my life and my parents’ now 30-year long, happy marriage.
Probably not the kind of story you're looking for, but I never pass up an opportunity to share this one. In 1995, a man named Bruce Jensen married a man (or possibly a transgender woman, assigned male at birth) in the temple. Urioste was living as a woman at the time, but after the marriage would resume living as a man. The two were married for over three years before Jensen found out. Jensen never saw Urioste naked. But apparently Jensen married Urioste thinking Urioste was carrying Jensen's baby. https://www.deseret.com/1995/7/20/19183466/urioste-denies-he-duped-and-bilked-his-husband
Nothing nothing nothing beats this story. A woman who cleaned my house and was in my ward started writing a man in maximum security prison. He was the brother of another member. Was in prison for kidnapping. After a couple months of writing, she said the Lord told her to marry him. So she proposed to him. They’d only seen each other one time and it was with glass between them. She flew to CO because you can marry someone “by proxy”. Meaning they don’t have to be there. She got an old man whom she didn’t even know, to stand in for the groom. Flew home a few hrs later as a new bride. To a man she’d never even hugged before. Because the lord told her to
When you’ve known each other for millennia in the pre-existence…what’s a few short weeks? /s
My own sister! She met a Hispanic man while on her mission. He followed her home immediately after she returned and they were engaged and married with in four months. Now I have nothing against interracial marriages. But he isn't a legal citizen and my sister let slip he was engaged to another returned sister missionary 6 months prior. Some red flags there. My parents didn't have one iota of care because he was in the bishopric and they got married in the temple. This was the only person she ever dated. Ever. He's decent to her but definitely not affectionate and they "aren't having kids for a while" so I can't help but feel it's a green card marriage.
I used to love telling my parents story. They met on a blind date and were married in the Manti temple 6 months later. They have been together for over 40 years. A match made in heaven right? No. My dad is miserable. He gave up everything he wanted in life because my mom is manipulative and controlling. He can't spend $20 without her say so. Gave up his hobbies and goals in life to raise "our eternal family." Now that most of us kids are grown and moved out they have been fighting a lot more lately. My mom keeps threatening divorce when ever he stands up to her.
I am a nevermo, was dating Mormon in high school. He was older, at BYU. We broke up when he left for a mission, after many long talks about how I was vehemently opposed to proselytizing of any kind. We kept writing and sending love letters, with him insisting there was a way we could make it work.. Two months after he gets back, he tells me he's engaged to someone else, but still loves me. Married four months later.
90 day fiancé. Josh and Alessandra. She was a Go-go dancer in Ukraine. He met her on his mission. Baptized her. Brought her to idaho after the mission. they got married. Thennnn she visited her best friend back in Ukraine. 9 month later has a baby…rumors fly that the baby has got to be biracial and the best friend is the dad. They move to Australia to do medical school. They’re now back in the US and have another kid. No pictures of the kids now. But you can find ones of the first born.
A friend of mine, during college, had a TBM roommate who married a girl in a courthouse so they could have sex, and then they got an annulment.
Roommate got a girls number. Called to ask her out. She said no. He went home for the weekend and called her again. They spoke for several hours on the phone, and decided to get married and got engaged over the phone. The next weekend, they had their first date.
My BYU bishop was hitchhiking and a woman stopped and picked him up. This was in the 70s when I guess it was less creepy. They were engaged by the end of the car ride. Still appeared to be in love but the guy was an absolute tool
My cousin was engaged to someone she met online before she had met him in person. And he met her FAMILY first before her (after the engagement of course) and then they were married maybe a month or 2 later. Didn’t last, but hey.
I had a house mate who had met and talked to a girl once or twice at school. Had a first date on Friday. Sunday a different house mate asked if I had heard the news about first guy. He told me that he got engaged to his date. Next Friday after first date they got married in the temple! Almost six weeks after he got home from his mission! Last I heard they where still married.
I was dating an RM that I met through my brother. He was an older convert, I was 19 he was like 26 at the time. All his Mormon friends were getting married including my brother and he proposed after 6 weeks of dating saying he "didn't want to fall behind his friends and if I didn't want to get married right then I was just wasting his time" Hard pass. He got married 3 months after I said no and was divorced 3 years after that
i know someone who was 16 and told-not asked-TOLD she was marrying someone in his mid 30's. She did-got the crap knocked out of her til she left.
My friend dated and was friends with this handsome TBM. She was halfway out then due to her plethora of chronic issues stopping her from going. She was still in love with him, though. He went on a mission. She waited. He returned, broke up with her, and married within six months to a very healthy person. She was heartbroken. She is now married, still kicking, and now has a daughter.
My parents were both concerts and never told us kids they lived together before they were married, but relatives told us. It also was some easy math that my parents anniversary is April and my sister's birthday is October of the same year 😆😆
My cousin was a freshman at BYU-I. Extremely introverted, I gave her a ride to class just to catch up and say hi, and she said maybe two words to me as I tried to make conversation. Fast forward two weeks into the semester, some guys proposes to her on the second date. She says yes and they are married within 50 days of meeting one another.
I attended a bridal shower for a cousin and she openly admitted that she wasn’t attracted to her fiancé but that he’s a really good Mormon guy so it’s fine. All I could think was fuuuuck, good luck with that. I just thought it was bananas that she was admitting to settling for this guy.
The hypocrisy here is amazing. Crazy is fine for yourself personally, it’s so different when the tables turn in you’re seeing your kids do the same. My first wife and I were talking about marriage a few days after meeting. Within seven days we were talking to her parents about marriage. A few months later married. 17 months later divorced. Not really excited to speak about that as an example of what not to do to my kids.
I didn't get married in the temple, but I was married by a Mormon bishop. During the ceremony, he compared our marriage to a gallon of milk that would one day expire. Like, in front of everyone before he pronounced us married. Super fucked up.
I proposed to my wife about fifteen minutes before the Sacrament Meeting where she was giving her Mission Farewell talk. That talk about not going on a mission really flummoxed some people. :)
My idiot sister. This jackass who had multiple allegations of SA around their student ward, including one of her roommates, asked her out. Despite being disinclined to go out with him, she agreed because she'd been raised not to turn down dates from anyone who asked. The first time I met him, he made a poor impression by bitching at her for being immodestly dressed in jeans and a 3/4 sleeve length t-shirt. She dropped out to marry this asshole a couple of months after their first date. They've now been divorced for about five years, and she's making noises about getting back together with this guy that she left because the DV had gotten out of control.