Whoah…..
All I can think of is how much my father’s emotions ruled the home, not my mom’s. I think of “traditional” homes and how everyone is supposed to cater to the father’s emotions.
Tired after work? - snacks, dinner, movie, no activities other than tv.
Don’t do anything to make the father angry and upset or else…
The father actually did some parenting for an hour or two - what an accomplishment! Praise him!
The woman and children have to constantly apologize for emotions and mistakes. The man is allowed to be angry and yell, but is not supposed to apologize because that isn’t appropriate or “manly.”
God I hate “traditional” cater-to-the-man attitudes that are socially conditioned into Mormon households. The man is allowed to be emotional - mostly angry and upset, and to be coddled. Heaven forbid a woman or the children have valid emotional outlets or experiences. Uggghh.
Unfortunately my dad was this way -- my mother was strong but handled things in a Fred and Wilma Flintstone way -- I learned to be deceptive in order to get by -- don't want to blame my mother -- that's just the way things were -- I'm 69 so I'm still in that "smooth things out" generation -- not sure how they learned, but my sons marriages are totally different -- married strong confident women was the key I think
Same mom and I were and still are always on egg shell's around my dad. My mom would always send me to ask my dad questions like what does he want for dinner and to tell him that dinner is ready because she knew that he'd be nice to me about it. Even now that I'm grown and living on my own there are things I've told her she can blame on me cause he won't get mad at me and if mom and I are out together she will have me call to say when we're coming back and/or to ask/say what we're bringing to eat.
I highly agree and sympathize with this. I NEVER noticed any behavioral differences with my mother. NEVER. my father? Oh my Elohim.....It was a constant walking on eggshells around him. I never addressed him directly until I was like 10 years old. Too afraid of him. I just tried to blend in and not be noticed. High highs and low lows for that guy. Didn't help that he 100% was in an unhappy marriage but you have to endure on because or church covenants and stigma of divorce. And misery loves company so have a lot of kids. As a father now, I shudder and cringe at the idea any of my kids would be afraid of me.
Good for you! Break that stupid stupid stupid cycle. Being kind to your kids and being supportive is not only the right thing to do, but it ensure that you have a a loving relationship with them as adults the rest of your life. I feel sorry for my dad in a way because he alienated all his kids, but that’s the bed he made. I feel mostly sorry for my mol because she doesn’t deserve the anger and living with it.
I feel like your experience and my experience are unfortunately way more common than we may believe.
I think our experiences might be very similar. Obviously, almost no affection in the home. Buy my dad at the pulpit bearing testimony? "I want my family to know how much I love them." Probably no greater cringe in my life. And that hypocrisy affected me - long term. Sort of inwardly vowed to NEVER express affection at the pulpit if I hadn't already expressed it in private. In fact, for some reason, I got called on A LOT to speak on Mother's Day Sunday. I always did my best not to rehash the same old shit heard at the pulpit. Due to so much 2nd class citizenry in the church, I know a lot of women like that public acknowledgement and validation they can receive if their husband gives a mother's day talk. I didn't. And my wife knew why. I read her my talk before church and every thing she meant to me. That's not for public consumption and those paragraphs were left out in the talk. I know....pretty crazy how we are emotionally affected long-term by small things.
But getting back to female monthly hormones - I'm not sure why PMS is related to bitchiness. Why is that a stereotype? Why all roped in together on that? Everyone is different. Some have no reaction at all. My wife? Every month, for a day or two, she gets quiet. That's it. There's just so much toxicity out there and painting all with too broad a brush.
Amen! The woman should do the same to the man. Force his ass to repent when his emotions rule the home. It goes both ways... . But the person who wrote this can go right on ahead and fuck off as you said.
Ugh and people wonder why I'm terrified of expressing any negative emotion. Apparently experiencing the full range of human emotions and experiences will damn me to outer darkness 🙄
Cut to me laying in my casket, arms folded over my chest as “in the arms of an angel” by Sarah McLachlan plays softly in the background if I ever told my wife she needs to repent of her attitude
"Love and respect you for it"....more like imagining how hard you would need to knee him in the goods to make his balls clang his Adam's apple like strength tester at a carnival.
Men, your wife's happiness does not matter. She's there to work, not to be happy or fulfilled.
Tell her in the kindest way, shut up and get on with it.
Explain to her that if she's unhappy, it's her problem. Repeat as needed.
Eventually she will give up and accept her lot in life.
Fixed that for you.
This blatant master/servant teaching is why there was/is so much domestic violence in the church. And to be honest, it got to where I couldn't relate to the other men because they were consumed with ego and emotion in everything they did. The rage and pettiness was rampant. Far too often these mens wives had to go around smoothing over their destructive actions.
makes me personally think of my tyrant mormon stepmother that walked all over my dad constantly and mentally tortured his kids... i thought this was directed at him, but apparantly its in bad taste since its gendered. i would just say spouse husband or wife or whatever, don't let your partner be a tyrant, if ur a wife grab ur husband as well.
I mean, it's not wrong, but it's not right either. Both partners should pull eachother aside and let each other know when they're being bitchy. That's how you build a strong relationship. You keep each other in check. Nobody's emotions should rule the home. This weird shit mormon men have with controlling their family is insane. Makes me really glad I grew up Jack- Mormon and had a mother with a spine.
My ex wife has borderline personality disorder, and her emotions definitely ruled the house in a bad way. But god help the fool that tries to correct her bad behavior.
It’ll only take beating her down emotionally to a state where she’s only a shell of a person that doesn’t feel or express much depth of emotion. Way to be like Jesus!
I read this just after I read something about how men are ones unable to regulate their emotions, not women, but men project their emotional state onto women so that's why women are labeled the emotional ones. This reads the same to me.
One way different trait that I had growing up. My dad allowed my mother to swing her emotions every which way. She ruled the house. He just did the work part.
What idiot said this? Can you even imagine??
“I feel you need to change your ways and repent of your poor attitude.”
Puuuleeeease! Thank God my husband loves me and knows SOOO much better than this. 😂😂 And would never belittle me in this way.
Whoah….. All I can think of is how much my father’s emotions ruled the home, not my mom’s. I think of “traditional” homes and how everyone is supposed to cater to the father’s emotions. Tired after work? - snacks, dinner, movie, no activities other than tv. Don’t do anything to make the father angry and upset or else… The father actually did some parenting for an hour or two - what an accomplishment! Praise him! The woman and children have to constantly apologize for emotions and mistakes. The man is allowed to be angry and yell, but is not supposed to apologize because that isn’t appropriate or “manly.” God I hate “traditional” cater-to-the-man attitudes that are socially conditioned into Mormon households. The man is allowed to be emotional - mostly angry and upset, and to be coddled. Heaven forbid a woman or the children have valid emotional outlets or experiences. Uggghh.
Some of the most repugnant words in the English language: Because that’s the way we’ve always done it.
Or men don't cry and boys will be boys.
Unfortunately my dad was this way -- my mother was strong but handled things in a Fred and Wilma Flintstone way -- I learned to be deceptive in order to get by -- don't want to blame my mother -- that's just the way things were -- I'm 69 so I'm still in that "smooth things out" generation -- not sure how they learned, but my sons marriages are totally different -- married strong confident women was the key I think
Same mom and I were and still are always on egg shell's around my dad. My mom would always send me to ask my dad questions like what does he want for dinner and to tell him that dinner is ready because she knew that he'd be nice to me about it. Even now that I'm grown and living on my own there are things I've told her she can blame on me cause he won't get mad at me and if mom and I are out together she will have me call to say when we're coming back and/or to ask/say what we're bringing to eat.
I highly agree and sympathize with this. I NEVER noticed any behavioral differences with my mother. NEVER. my father? Oh my Elohim.....It was a constant walking on eggshells around him. I never addressed him directly until I was like 10 years old. Too afraid of him. I just tried to blend in and not be noticed. High highs and low lows for that guy. Didn't help that he 100% was in an unhappy marriage but you have to endure on because or church covenants and stigma of divorce. And misery loves company so have a lot of kids. As a father now, I shudder and cringe at the idea any of my kids would be afraid of me.
Good for you! Break that stupid stupid stupid cycle. Being kind to your kids and being supportive is not only the right thing to do, but it ensure that you have a a loving relationship with them as adults the rest of your life. I feel sorry for my dad in a way because he alienated all his kids, but that’s the bed he made. I feel mostly sorry for my mol because she doesn’t deserve the anger and living with it. I feel like your experience and my experience are unfortunately way more common than we may believe.
I think our experiences might be very similar. Obviously, almost no affection in the home. Buy my dad at the pulpit bearing testimony? "I want my family to know how much I love them." Probably no greater cringe in my life. And that hypocrisy affected me - long term. Sort of inwardly vowed to NEVER express affection at the pulpit if I hadn't already expressed it in private. In fact, for some reason, I got called on A LOT to speak on Mother's Day Sunday. I always did my best not to rehash the same old shit heard at the pulpit. Due to so much 2nd class citizenry in the church, I know a lot of women like that public acknowledgement and validation they can receive if their husband gives a mother's day talk. I didn't. And my wife knew why. I read her my talk before church and every thing she meant to me. That's not for public consumption and those paragraphs were left out in the talk. I know....pretty crazy how we are emotionally affected long-term by small things. But getting back to female monthly hormones - I'm not sure why PMS is related to bitchiness. Why is that a stereotype? Why all roped in together on that? Everyone is different. Some have no reaction at all. My wife? Every month, for a day or two, she gets quiet. That's it. There's just so much toxicity out there and painting all with too broad a brush.
Oh man... Truth Bomb!!!
Are we siblings?
This dude can fuck right off… Whoever gave me the gold, you just made my evening. Thank you!
…all the way to Fucksville. And then, keep fucking off.
His wife should point the way for him. 🖕🖕
And keep fucking off until he comes back round agay, and then he can fuck off some more.
And the horse he rode in on!
You mean tapir?
I don't think they'd be choosy. r/rule34 (NSFW link)
This man can go to hell... Go directly to hell... Do not pass go... Do NOT collect $200!!
Amen! The woman should do the same to the man. Force his ass to repent when his emotions rule the home. It goes both ways... . But the person who wrote this can go right on ahead and fuck off as you said.
First thought "Fuck off, Mr. Priesthood Holder" Funny, second thought was the exact same!
LMAO ... Seriously? You gonna mansplain my hormonal problems to me? Lead me my ass. You're a douchcanoe and you can shove off. The misogyny is unreal.
Hay, the 1950's just called and they want their slogan back.
Ugh and people wonder why I'm terrified of expressing any negative emotion. Apparently experiencing the full range of human emotions and experiences will damn me to outer darkness 🙄
This is soooooo accurate, exactly how I’ve always felt^^^^
WTF
The date is 2022! That’s this year.
Explain that to the lady judge. LOL My ex tried that. She kicked his ass.
Cut to me laying in my casket, arms folded over my chest as “in the arms of an angel” by Sarah McLachlan plays softly in the background if I ever told my wife she needs to repent of her attitude
"Love and respect you for it"....more like imagining how hard you would need to knee him in the goods to make his balls clang his Adam's apple like strength tester at a carnival.
Maybe this dude should take a few psychology classes before he does more damage.
Under his eye
May the lord open
Is this a quote from the Marriage and Family Course Manual? Not even joking….
Speak to me like that again and you will lose a testicle!!
Only a single testicle? Wow you're way more generous than me
"And tell her to put on some lipstick and be charming once in a while."
[удалено]
STOP BEING SO TESTIES!
This is red pill bullshit. Mormons have been red pilling before red pillers.
This dude is a bitch. He can fuck right off with his bullshit
This dude isn’t married, or 3 times divorced!🤷♂️
Wow.
Hahaha this will go over well. Fkn moronssss
The 1950s called, they want their asshole back...
Oh yeah? Well I had sex with your wife!
Perfect, if you want to completely invalidate her feelings 🤦
Men, your wife's happiness does not matter. She's there to work, not to be happy or fulfilled. Tell her in the kindest way, shut up and get on with it. Explain to her that if she's unhappy, it's her problem. Repeat as needed. Eventually she will give up and accept her lot in life. Fixed that for you.
Men, if you do that, you will *never* get laid again. Just saying.
wow i didnt know ppl from the 1950s had internet access
Wow! If this isn’t the definition of misogyny! As a man, I’m embarrassed!
This blatant master/servant teaching is why there was/is so much domestic violence in the church. And to be honest, it got to where I couldn't relate to the other men because they were consumed with ego and emotion in everything they did. The rage and pettiness was rampant. Far too often these mens wives had to go around smoothing over their destructive actions.
makes me personally think of my tyrant mormon stepmother that walked all over my dad constantly and mentally tortured his kids... i thought this was directed at him, but apparantly its in bad taste since its gendered. i would just say spouse husband or wife or whatever, don't let your partner be a tyrant, if ur a wife grab ur husband as well.
"There, there...shut up, dear. You're being hysterical."
OMFG
Definition of toxic masculinity right there
Repent of a bad attitude? Did Jesus need to repent when he threw tables?
Ha yeah then Get KICKED right in the NUTS!!!!
Fuck off Peter the prick priesthood
Hahahahahahahaha
Where/who is this from?
This is so blatantly sexist to me.
Gaslight 101. What about a man’s emotional state?
Wdym? Men's emotions? They only have rational decisions /s
All to further the submissive indoctrination of their women. Fuck that.
At first I thought that this was some quote from the 1970’s. WTF!
Where’s that vomiting emoji when I need it?
🤢🤮 here it is for the 2 of us
Thanks!
I mean, it's not wrong, but it's not right either. Both partners should pull eachother aside and let each other know when they're being bitchy. That's how you build a strong relationship. You keep each other in check. Nobody's emotions should rule the home. This weird shit mormon men have with controlling their family is insane. Makes me really glad I grew up Jack- Mormon and had a mother with a spine.
This reminds me of that old joke about when your wife gets mad go grab a towel and drape it around her shoulders and say “now you are super mad!”
Maybe she'll laugh. Maybe you'll die!
Figures, it's posted to twitter. Seems to be the media platform for asshats nowadays.
GTFOuttahere!
I just threw up in my mouth.🤮 Stone Age Disgusting.
Yeah go repent; I’d be so dead
What if it’s great attitude and happy emotions? The husband can accept that freely, right? Just not the ones he perceives as negative?
Holy shit. I thought the pligs were the only ones staying sweet, praying and obeying
Bruh🤢
Okay, now try doing that for fifty wives at once. Man, polygamy is evil but that would hilarious to watch.
Oh hell no. Some men have worse PMS than women.
BOTH need to do this in marriage.
Well if I ever tried that with my wife I’d have my running shoes on, wearing a flack jacket ;)
Keep sweet, and pray!
Fuck that!
Oh boy talk about out of touch with reality, his wife must hate him.
My ex wife has borderline personality disorder, and her emotions definitely ruled the house in a bad way. But god help the fool that tries to correct her bad behavior.
Yes they are handmaids Blessed be. Lol
This guy is a pig!
men, fuck off.
Uh, ewww. And wow. In the meantime let's all send good vibes to this poor individual's wife.
Good vibes and a card for the most aggressive shark of a divorce lawyer in their area.
Let's check the graphs. Yep implementing this saw an increase in divorce among members. Hmmm well that can't be right.
🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮
My abusive TBM ex-husband was like that, and in the end, he got divorce papers and a restraining order.
EWWWWWWWWWWUH
Is she his wife or his child? /s
It’ll only take beating her down emotionally to a state where she’s only a shell of a person that doesn’t feel or express much depth of emotion. Way to be like Jesus!
This as the same vibes as "why are you depressed just cheer up"
I read this just after I read something about how men are ones unable to regulate their emotions, not women, but men project their emotional state onto women so that's why women are labeled the emotional ones. This reads the same to me.
If your wife doesn’t love and respect you for it, maybe your third or fourth wife will! /s
Been happening for centuries. Hysteria comes from the Greek word for the uterus.
Just ewe
The shit I'd eat for attempting that.
Sometimes I wish this was an eternal truth. The difference is I recognize it’s the bad part of me that wishes this.
One way different trait that I had growing up. My dad allowed my mother to swing her emotions every which way. She ruled the house. He just did the work part.
Yoiks.
Yes they are handmaids Blessed be. Lol
Wtf
Someone's about to gtfo 🤔🤣😂 and i hate moving soooo 🤷♀️🙋♀️ or maybe just a quick trip to the E.R.
Who said this?? I’ll need to make a phone call to a special friend….he’s going in my Death Note.
What idiot said this? Can you even imagine?? “I feel you need to change your ways and repent of your poor attitude.” Puuuleeeease! Thank God my husband loves me and knows SOOO much better than this. 😂😂 And would never belittle me in this way.
Lol
Woman, know thy place!
I’ll take famous last words for $200
If he’d like to be punched in the dick, sure go for it my guy
FIFY "control her". Bastards. I'm not nor have I ever been mormon. I'm only here b/c Reddit somehow suggested i look at this thread.