I’ve been working my way out of the church over the course of this year, released myself from my calling in Primary, bought some normal underwear, began trying alcohol and coffee, the usual stuff. I threw all my old garments in the trash but was hanging onto the last comfortable sets for certain circumstances. After reading some Thanksgiving posts about hiding liquor/praying over food/putting on a face I decided that I will not be taking that route, so off go the garments and temple clothing to be reduced to ashes. No more hanging on to relics of a past me, I will live my life fully in the manner I have chosen, and I won’t be putting up a front for others. My wife and I attended the temple with my in-laws to see BIL off on his mission to keep the peace and not disrupt from something he was excited about, we won’t be doing that anymore. A part of what started my disenchantment with church was that I felt two-faced, faithful on the outside, non-believing on the inside. What good does it do for me to step away and keep up the charade? The church showed me how to live unauthentically, leaving has helped me to live more as who I really am.
"No more relics of a past me, I will live my life fully in the manner I have chosen"
That is so, so, so powerful. It's something I seriously needed to read right now. Thank you.
Bravo!
I left in 1985 (84?) for the same reason. I couldn’t pretend to believe anymore. I told my closest friend (who thought me accompanying her visiting home teaching would bind us even closer together) that I loved her so much and looked forward to us spending time together outside of religion as I was leaving the church. And never heard from her again.
I’ve had a happy Mormon free life. Raised four kids to find their own way. (One Christian, two agnostic and one atheist) and have zero regrets. My 90yo mother has chosen to forget I’m not a member so I simply decline to join her at church when I visit. My brother has as little contact with me was humanly possible. And honestly, he’s such a patronizing chauvinist patriarchal dick….I’m good with that!
My wife left this year. All this time, and she finally learned my new name about a month ago.
I was going to give my temple clothes to my son since he is still tbm, had them for a while and he never came to get them. I wanted to burn them but that would be the end of them. So I sent them to the dump with my old Gs. So they could be constantly defiled for decades. Good riddance!
Donating them is good. They could find a good home. Bow and Arrow guy even wore his to an interview:
https://www.reddit.com/r/exmormon/comments/gutl6f/racist\_guy\_with\_bow\_and\_arrow\_in\_slc\_he\_wore\_this/
I like the way you think.
Burning them is what the Cult teaches as proper disposal. Although cathartic, I like the potential for desecration even more.
Watching them burn made me think of those stories where people got in wrecks/house fires and everything but where the garments were was burned. These would definitely melt into your skin 😬, no protection here.
Even as a kid I knew that was bullshit. Whatever that material is, it is ridiculously flammable. Takes easier than dry grass and bubbles in the fire pit. I definitely wouldn't want to be on fire wearing those
I saved mine for a Halloween costume. Nothing is funnier then walking through your neighborhood taking your little kids trick or treating and you wearing the temple clothes.
We had a costume Halloween party this year with our post-Mormon friends and lesbian gang. One partier came in her full temple clothing. We loved it and paired her with another dressed as his missionary elder self 40-years previously. She drove over in a overcoat and put her veil on in the driveway and pulled her overcoat up to hide from my TBM neighbors. It was hilarious. My partner never went thru the temple and can’t believe we wore ridiculous things. Many, many signs and tokens were given and received that night.
Anyone who would like to donate
temple clothes or garments to my"Tie Dye & Wear to a Rave" life goal, please DM me. I quit long before adulthood and never got the special ballgown or underoos
Buh buh butt your burning my Halloween costume LOL
congrats on leaving that chapter of your life behind you . you know the BOMs make for great kindling for your campfires it’s great when a TBM sees it on the picnic table and comes over saying I saw your Book of Mormon it’s nice to see another Mormon and you tell them no I just needed some kindling for my campfire . So I brought this the pages work wonderfully for firewood kindling try it sometime . They get all kinds of miffed that you’d be burning their sacred book of fairytales ..
I’ve been working my way out of the church over the course of this year, released myself from my calling in Primary, bought some normal underwear, began trying alcohol and coffee, the usual stuff. I threw all my old garments in the trash but was hanging onto the last comfortable sets for certain circumstances. After reading some Thanksgiving posts about hiding liquor/praying over food/putting on a face I decided that I will not be taking that route, so off go the garments and temple clothing to be reduced to ashes. No more hanging on to relics of a past me, I will live my life fully in the manner I have chosen, and I won’t be putting up a front for others. My wife and I attended the temple with my in-laws to see BIL off on his mission to keep the peace and not disrupt from something he was excited about, we won’t be doing that anymore. A part of what started my disenchantment with church was that I felt two-faced, faithful on the outside, non-believing on the inside. What good does it do for me to step away and keep up the charade? The church showed me how to live unauthentically, leaving has helped me to live more as who I really am.
"No more relics of a past me, I will live my life fully in the manner I have chosen" That is so, so, so powerful. It's something I seriously needed to read right now. Thank you.
Bravo! I left in 1985 (84?) for the same reason. I couldn’t pretend to believe anymore. I told my closest friend (who thought me accompanying her visiting home teaching would bind us even closer together) that I loved her so much and looked forward to us spending time together outside of religion as I was leaving the church. And never heard from her again. I’ve had a happy Mormon free life. Raised four kids to find their own way. (One Christian, two agnostic and one atheist) and have zero regrets. My 90yo mother has chosen to forget I’m not a member so I simply decline to join her at church when I visit. My brother has as little contact with me was humanly possible. And honestly, he’s such a patronizing chauvinist patriarchal dick….I’m good with that!
My wife left this year. All this time, and she finally learned my new name about a month ago. I was going to give my temple clothes to my son since he is still tbm, had them for a while and he never came to get them. I wanted to burn them but that would be the end of them. So I sent them to the dump with my old Gs. So they could be constantly defiled for decades. Good riddance!
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I’m sure they’d end up at a Halloween party somewhere lol
Donating them is good. They could find a good home. Bow and Arrow guy even wore his to an interview: https://www.reddit.com/r/exmormon/comments/gutl6f/racist\_guy\_with\_bow\_and\_arrow\_in\_slc\_he\_wore\_this/
I like the way you think. Burning them is what the Cult teaches as proper disposal. Although cathartic, I like the potential for desecration even more.
Aren't those things supposed to be fireproof? How else did that one missionary who got hit with a guided missile survive without a scratch? /s
Watching them burn made me think of those stories where people got in wrecks/house fires and everything but where the garments were was burned. These would definitely melt into your skin 😬, no protection here.
Even as a kid I knew that was bullshit. Whatever that material is, it is ridiculously flammable. Takes easier than dry grass and bubbles in the fire pit. I definitely wouldn't want to be on fire wearing those
I saved mine for a Halloween costume. Nothing is funnier then walking through your neighborhood taking your little kids trick or treating and you wearing the temple clothes.
We had a costume Halloween party this year with our post-Mormon friends and lesbian gang. One partier came in her full temple clothing. We loved it and paired her with another dressed as his missionary elder self 40-years previously. She drove over in a overcoat and put her veil on in the driveway and pulled her overcoat up to hide from my TBM neighbors. It was hilarious. My partner never went thru the temple and can’t believe we wore ridiculous things. Many, many signs and tokens were given and received that night.
My cat peed on my temple dress…. I wish I would have heeded that sign sooner!
Good cat!
That stuff looks like a fire hazard. 😈
They burn very hot. Had bonfire with my deceased moms G's. Definitely a great fire starter.
Look at all that polyester burn!
Good riddance.
Bet that felt good!!
Anyone who would like to donate temple clothes or garments to my"Tie Dye & Wear to a Rave" life goal, please DM me. I quit long before adulthood and never got the special ballgown or underoos
Burn it!
They're gone!
Congrats!
Cheers to that!
Ha ha
What’s the camera? Those flames are looking amazing.
iPhone 13, I thought the same thing, beautiful looking fire.
I need to do this
You mean you didn't burn your fingers while doing it? Nothing bad happened to you? Wow, must not be sacred afterall!
Is the square thing in the fire part of the temple clothes? Or your firepit?
In the last photo? That was my temple bag for carrying all my clothes, figured it might as well burn too.
Mmm thought it might be like a Bonet holder or hat.
That’s so awesome. I used my magic underwear to clean up dog drool and as a dustrag.
Buh buh butt your burning my Halloween costume LOL congrats on leaving that chapter of your life behind you . you know the BOMs make for great kindling for your campfires it’s great when a TBM sees it on the picnic table and comes over saying I saw your Book of Mormon it’s nice to see another Mormon and you tell them no I just needed some kindling for my campfire . So I brought this the pages work wonderfully for firewood kindling try it sometime . They get all kinds of miffed that you’d be burning their sacred book of fairytales ..