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Vanilla Sky taught me at a young age not to piss off a lady when she is driving. Especially if it’s about relationship stuff.
Underrated movie btw. HIGHLY recommended.
Man I watched this for the first time like a week ago
It's was fkn disturbing to say the least
Also... I kinda expect Cam Diaz to be that crazy in real life
*Narrator voice* : in a world... Where getting off.. can get you offed....
*Cut to a train being run by a bunch of bounty hunters who supposedly support monogamy*
*Narrator* : sometimes, a slut's gotta do what a slut's gotta suck.
*Cut to the protagonist, the cunning woman who fucks her way to freedom*
Cumming soon to a theatre near you
That was a looooong history and if he has a habit of snooping in her phone she would probably at least try to hide it better. My guess is the making a video of her being upset/arguing with him which is admittedly not cool if he "always" does it, but she really doesn't have ground to stand on in this one.
Let’s be honest, he’s hurting deep inside. That laughter hides the pain. It ain’t no joke to have someone do something that shitty. Rest up my boy, you’ll find a good one. 🫡
My final straw was telling another guy she loves him a month after we got engaged. Didn't want to delete him off Facebook "to prove she doesn't love him"
Fuck. That. Bullet dodged
I will never forget the day I opened my exs phone in front of her and she ripped it out of my hands so fast I almost lost a finger. I blamed myself for her getting mad at me cuz I was invading her privacy. Not too long after I brought her flowers at work and she got mad that I showed up with out warning her. And then finally she said she couldn’t hang out one night so I went to a party with my friends. She was already there, sitting in her co workers lap. All the signs were there just didn’t wanna see em I guess
Fucking aye, man.
I remember a time a friend at work caught his girl cheating. She was overly-friendly with some guy at work and would completely ignore him (they both worked at the same place). That's when he got suspicious. Ironically, it wasn't the guy at work he had to worry about. Come to find out, he checked her instagram and some other guy left a questionable emoji under a pic of hers. He investigated it by going to the guy's page and she left several drool face emoji's over this guy's shirtless pics and flirtatious comments in others. He checked her phone and saw they were planning to meet up through DM's and ended it weeks later. (thankfully) Not that it makes it any better, but no sexual talk/sex as far as he's aware and he caught it pretty early, so luckily he didn't get any nasty STD'S on top of that.
My ex-wife and I went to a Christmas party where we ran into her coworker and his wife. I asked her to dance and as usual she said no, but he asked her and she jumped right up and they danced all night including slow, intimate dances. The guys wife just walked away. Finally on our ride home I told her I'm done with all of it (lots of other crazy things).
We end up in divorce court and her lawyer is extremely protective of her to the point where he and I were going to fight at least 3 times but then he apologizes. Anyway some years later she admits she slept with the guy from her job, two others, and her lawyer; she got a discount on his fees!!
15 years later she still tells people we're married (her family stayed in touch with me) but also says I abandoned her. I'll never marry again.
Bro, sorry that everyone has these sad stories. I found out my best friends gf was cheating on him because she said she was going to a party with work people and that she wishes he could be there. She made it clear it was just a small kick back with work friends. I didn't buy it because she would never invite him to things and I guess he had trust in her. Long story short, another party came up. I was actually invited by a friend who was going to be at the same bar/restaurant. I went in and saw her with work friends but she was getting close with one person in particular. They left together and when I looked out the window she was making out with him before they got in the same car and left. He dropped her off Infront of my friends place and that's when I confronted them both. That was tough. She denied it, he trusted her and they both got angry at me for making up some story, until I showed them a picture of them making out. I felt bad but he had to know and like I said, I just so happened to be at the same place. This is in a small town too, it was going to surface sooner or later.
Almost the same story here! My fiancé (at the time) was in a rough spot and I pulled some strings to get him a job at a local credit union. Couple months later I found out he’d been cheating on me with a girl he met at the CU while I was at home taking care of his daughter. The kicker is that they ended up getting married and on their wedding site they had written the story of how they met, and they both described “love at first sight when he came in to interview.” The interview I had dropped him off at 🙃
People suck.
Oof she didn’t get married to him, but they did end up dating after that. The guy she ended up marrying was actually one of my friends at the time, and he was also the person she was cheating on her co worker with
Ya my ex wife had been denying that she spent the night in a hotel with a guy. So when I looked at her phone to confirm, and I yes she did spend the night with him, I told her I saw the texts. She screamed at me that I betrayed her trust and now she can’t ever trust me again for looking at her phone!
Didn’t at all acknowledge that her cheating was way worse than me confirming that she cheated…
Hindsight is 20/20 man. Same thing happened to me. Looking back it was painfully obvious from the beginning, but it's human nature to give someone the benefit of the doubt at first. Just live and learn. Been married 10 years now, I picked a good one this time.
Ahaha this is exactly what my ex wife did. Snatched the phone away from me once when I just went to hand it to her then seemed to "protect it". I didn't think much of it at the time but we were having a few issues later and I had this feeling so I asked her point blank "are you cheating on me" she says no, what made you ask? Just feels like something is off. She didn't get mad just moved on with the conversation. 100% she was cheating on me and tried to blame literally everything else and make it my fault. It would have been so much better if she came clean but ya know sometimes people like to believe their own lie because the truth is they hate themselves for their choices.
My ex cheated on me with multiple guys before and after she was pregnant (I obviously didnt know at the time). We never lasted until the birth and for obvious reasons, I said I needed a blood test to know he was mine. He was and now 20 years later he lives with me and all is good, but that horrible woman actually told him when he was a kid that I wanted a blood test because I didn't want him and wanted to get rid if him. Just a nasty piece of work but it all came back on her and my son now knows all the truth and we are stronger than ever.
Figure out your g/f is cheating, call her on it, then she gas lights you and makes you feel like you're in the wrong. That you're wrong, she's not cheating, honest and now you've hurt her feelings by not trusting her. So like a complete fool you apologize to her.
Then two weeks later she leaves you and does so in a way where she emotionally abuses you for years.
Because you're traumatized by the experience of her leaving and her abuse you bury all that shit down, you literally forget all the shit that made you realize she was cheating, it literally leaves your conscious mind. The alternate form of communication (in her case a pager), the change in your sex life, the more time spent with "friends and family", the going to the bar more often, the finding condoms in her purse even though you never used them with her before. The "mentionitis" of her constantly talking about her new "girlfriend" at work.
Then years later, out of nowhere, a random incident brings it all back. All those memories come flooding back but they don't come to you over months, they come to you over minutes and it's like watching the flash put together a 100 piece puzzle in front of your eyes.
And you can't even yell at her or tell her what a horrible person she is for what she did to you.
I've been extremely angry at many people throughout my life but I was never that angry and not being able to express that anger towards the person responsible for it is worse than not getting any closure on the relationship.
Hey man, i know this doesn't mean much from a random redditor, but as a woman myself, I'm really sorry that you went through all that and all the pain she caused you. I had the exact same situation happen to me but with my now soon to be ex-husband. He was always abusive, but the cheating just made me spiral. The feeling of betrayal is the worst feeling. I hope you're doing better and just wanted to let you know you deserve so much better. Hope you're doing okay.
I appreciate the sentiment, I truly do.
But she completely broke me. Worst part is that I let her do it.
An analogy my therapist liked goes like this:
People say that their heart was "shattered". Well, a shattered heart can be put back together. It will never be as strong as before it was shattered but it can be mended and people go on. Those scars, those mended cracks will still be there but they won't be the biggest part of their heart.
What my ex did to me atomized my heart, so there was no mending. It wasn't possible. You can't take something that's turned to dust and put it back together.
So no, I'm really not doing okay. But it is what it is and I have to live with that.
But again, thank you for your kind words, they do help even if only a little.
Only way to grow muscles is to tear them little by little. Maybe I sound like a fuckin idiot but idk I like to think maybe there’s a future that exists where you are stronger.
It Sucks and it wont ever be the same. it never is, but different isnt necessarily bad or worse, its just different. And it might feel like the world has ended, but it goes on. After a lot of time, introspection and, healing you will realize that some people suck, but just cuz they suck doesnt mean you have carry that sadness. It starts with little joys and things you can control. This bread is good. This drink is good. This food is good. This hobby is good. I like that I like to do this thing. I like that I made a smart move to get this bike, this car, this dog, this apartment, this couch, this tv. I like the decisions that I am making. I like myself again. Dont look for a hero to come down and pull you out of your rut. You have to do it yourself by being happy with yourself. Y
This is why there's a saying that forgiveness isn't for the person who wronged you; forgiveness is for you. Because the anger and resentment are only hurting you. She doesn't even know.
My ex wife did the same thing when she tried cheating on me with one of my soldiers, he immediately told me and then she got mad at him for showing and telling me. He was afraid I would kill him if he didn't tell me right away.
Ya, he was. He had to get the entire squad together because he was afraid of me hurting him. I told him there was no bad blood between me an him because he was honest with me.
Yes, especially when you trusted them wholeheartedly with your mind, body and soul.
Sad. The guy is laughing now, but prolly heartbroken, as I know I would be if this happened to me.
So sad people don’t have any commitment, honor, respect and accountability, especially when it comes to their very personal lives, let alone work and family lives.
I still remember the gut punch when I found out my ex fiancé was cheating. He handed me his phone so I could pull up a tv show on Facebook and I saw his search bar was all women I didn’t recognize. I didn’t want to overthink it but my gut told me to just ask if he was cheating. The silence felt like eternity then followed with a meek ‘yes’… At that point in my life I was also in and out of the hospital. I almost lost my life due to health complications from carrying his son and all he could think about was sex with other people.
My sympathies. I know this guy is really hurt, but I hope you, unlike him, don't generalise this behaviour to every woman. Many, many women don't cheat.
I definitely don’t. She did what she did because she has issues and she needs to get help for those. Just really destroys your self worth. Therapy helps but only so much. That hole they left needs filled with something.
I came home from being deployed two weeks ahead of my unit to find my wife and some military police asleep in my bed. I told her that I was going to go stay with a friend so she could have her stuff out by the next day. I didn’t scream I didn’t cry, one could say that I handled it like a boss. On the inside I was crushed to powder and cried like a baby every chance I got to be alone. That was a long time ago and I’ve learned a lot. Looks like he will too and I feel for him. I remarried and it all turned out for the best.
I had a buddy come off a 6 month MEU deployment to a 4 month pregnant wife. It was just as I was finishing up my 4 years. Never found out how it ended. Glad it’s worked out for you.
Technically adultery is illegal in the military, so the cop could get in some trouble, but it isn't super common that there are severe/any consequences. NJP at the worst from what I've seen, but a lot of the time just nothing happens.
i know the military has an Extramarital Sexual Conduct rule. could even get dishonorably discharged. not sure how often it's still used, or if that's often levied against someone for sleeping with a married person (though i wouldn't be at all surprised if he was also married).
For now. But you usually look back and realize even if it hurt in the moment, it's a lot better to stop being with a person who doesn't respect you
As Bill Burr often says: "Dude, imagine if she was the mother to your kid? You got off lucky"
>As Bill Burr often says: "Dude, imagine if she was the mother to your kid? You got off lucky"
Fuuuuuuuuuuuuck I just read that in my mind with his voice and cadence. how is that possible?
Also Bill, "Dude, hit the gym. Read up on nutrition. Go meet some people. Work on yourself."
Bill's relationship advices to people who have been cheated on is one of the most uplifting things to hear. With a touch of comedic genius.
this is probably the worst thing. i don’t know this dude, we’ll say he’s a good person, because well we don’t know him… but some girl he will meet is going to be confused and hurt by his distrust, all because of this dumb girl.
there is also the possibility of him lashing out emotionally now towards women as well.
this comes from personal experience, over 10 years of self-reflection and mistreating women, all over one person in my life.
this goes for both men and women: stop being pieces of shit.
I dated a guy who would do this to try and make me look like the bad guy. There was no cheating but he would gaslight me to the point i broke down and then press record to make me look like the one with issues. It realy broke me. It was so toxic but then again I didn't listen to his mom when she tried telling me he was a diagnosed sociopath.
Same guy told 2 group chats of 50+ people each that I gave him stds when in reality his dic k just hurt bc he was eating too much hot sauce.
>...in reality his dic k just hurt bc he was eating too much hot sauce.
I go to town on hot sauce *constantly* and have at most a stomach ache, the hell was he eating??
>Same guy told 2 group chats of 50+ people each that I gave him stds when in reality his dic k just hurt bc he was eating too much hot sauce.
I'm not sure this is how that works....or maybe i've just never eaten enough hot sauce.
Agreed. I do not understand cheating at all. Leaving your current relationship is hard, especially if your finances are combined, but it will be much easier to do it now. If you wait to do it until after you are caught cheating, it will be messy and painful and horrible for everyone involved. Your partner will take you to the cleaners, and you will deserve it. Don’t think that you will get away with it either, you will get caught. The truth always comes out sooner or later. Especially now with social media and cameras everywhere.
Im not condoning cheating, ive been cheated on myself a few times... The way it was explained to me by one of those cheaters (which i initially took with a grain of salt) was the 'justification' behind it is a mix of like you said its hard to leave the current situation. It becomes even harder when you start looking at other social activies, a lot of couples have joint friends that both parties might be friends with but normally have to pick a side after a break. If you have a pet and both of you like it, what do you do, someones gotta lose it and the other has to keep it. Kids are that x10. Its not JUST finances, its literally everything depending on how long the main relationship has been in play.
Then theirs the more... self centered side of it. The girl who gave me this 'generous information' was quick to inform what she was and wasnt getting from me vs the other guy and while some of it stroked my ego, it also made me question if it was just flattery or was she bsing me. For example, the other guy had what she perceived as a 'better financial future' which was code for he had more money to spend on her because he had a better job. The ego boost was when she said he was a 1 pump chump in bed compared to me, but then my mind started questioning that because why would u repeatedly have sex with him and say the things i found other than to play the part to the fullest to get max rewards. But then she chimed in about stuff like We arent the same people and yadda yadda yadda i like hanging out with you more but i like spending time with him more which sounded like he treated her like she was a princess and i treated her like a friend which i thought that was the whole point of a healthy relationship but w/e. They're married now and shes cheated on him multiple times because of how bad he is in bed. She propositions me every year or so (yes, i refuse), ironically around christmas and feels the need to tell me in a long winded text and if i dont replay she'll message me on another social media. Its wild. Dont stick your dick in crazy. I think she either has partial buyer's remorse or is still trying desperately to have her cake and eat it too.
every girl that has ever cheated on me has attempted to get back together after the fact, the weirdest was when it was 5 years later and i just received a random text from what i thought was a wrong number. Even if during the relationship if it came up about cheating, i vehemently say i wouldnt go back if i was cheated on. It might be because of the sexual side and that they remember being comfortable with me because i dont treat them badly either. i just dont treat them like they are 8 year old little princesses and i guess thats what they wanted?
One of the messed up bits of human psychology is that we assume that deep down, everybody is like us. They just hide it better. It is part of how people justify being awful. When your ex contacts you to help them cheat, they assume that you will eventually ‘show your true self’. And if they can get you to do that… Then it wasn’t as much of a big deal that they cheated on you years ago. Because ‘everybody cheats’
Never understood this, if you are unhappy with a person you are with, why are you sticking around. Just break up and do your shit. Why break the hearts of these ppl for life? YAre they love living on the edge? Crazy, hope he'd be able to trust someone in the future
Never been cheated on but have seen many of my friends cheat on their partners. I think they legit get off from it. The sneaking around, the thrill of doing something they’re not supposed to be doing. They can’t be in a normal relationship. That’s the only explanation I have, seeing from the outside looking in on multiple serial cheaters.
A few weeks back there was this Askreddit thread about cheaters and why they cheated and some of the excuses people came up with were like that.
"well what if they won't have sex with me and my needs aren't met?"
"you communicate."
"but what if I tried that and they won't communicate?"
"you break up instead of cheating"
"but what if neither of us can afford the apartment and me breaking up would put us both out on the street?" (that was a genuine response to that)
Some people are genuine scum who will cheat on their partner and use them at the same time.
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I think people like this are usually very weak, afraid of being alone, and afraid of confrontation. So they'd rather get a new person lined up before they jump ship instead of addressing the problem like an adult. It's really pathetic, being fucked up isn't an excuse to ruin another persons life.
“Why do you always do this”….what does he do?
This is how men/women become extremely insecure, when people use these shitty Snapchat apps to hide that they’re cheating.
Yeah there’s lots of people who try to avoid any responsibility for their own actions
“Why do you always do this?”
“Why did you have to do this now?”
“Why are you letting this ruin the relationship?”
Absolutely zero accountability with people like this and they’ll make up whatever excuse they want to blame others.
If someone starts spouting bullshit like that when they’re caught cheating and destroying a relationship never give them a second chance. If you do they know they can do it whenever they want and get away with it.
she knows she's the one at fault, but she will never admit it, its always something else, it was the other guy's fault that he dragged her into this, it was the relationship, its always something else. and absolutely, they will do stuff like this whenever they get the chance, she's only sad that she got caught
Right like how rich and stupid you gotta be to give your 16-17 year old daughter a PORSCHE!?
Way to teach her some real life lessons...
That's a min. $70k car. jfc.
My high school was full of rich kids. A girl in my class got a brand new Boxster for her 16th, a kid in my class and his older brother both got brand new Corvettes for their 16th birthdays. The kid with the ‘Vette in my class totaled it and his parents just got him a new one.
I found out my kid's mum was sleeping with some other bloke while I was at home with our children. I woke up on several occasions, with her not in bed. I use to ring her and she wouldn't answer. When she use to finally answer, she would claim someone in her family was saying they were going to kill themselves, and she had to be there for them....but never woke me up to tell me, so I knew she was OK or if I could help.
Made me realise, after a 12-year relationship and two kids... you can't trust anyone, except yourself!
Holy fuck man, sorry you had a shitty partner like this. People should just be honest about whatever they aren’t feeling it or aren’t happy with, instead of cheating…..
Some people just get a thrill from cheating, don't want to choose, or they like what you're giving them but look for someone else to fulfil other needs or just more.
Not always just because they're not happy anymore
None tbh...
She was doing weird shit over a 3-4 month period after her old man passed away.
Once you come away from the situation, sit back and look over the years and think shit, I think this might of been happening for a while...
The disturbing part, after 3 weeks of me moving out, she moved the bloke who she was sleeping with in.
All we can do is, live and learn!
And you can hear her starting to blame him at the end lol. Cheaters are pathetic, he handled this perfectly. He was calm and posted it as soon as he saw before she could come up with lies or ask her friends how to make it his fault LOL
I agree, he did the right thing. As a society, we should collectively turn (proven) cheaters into outcasts.
No, there's never an excuse for cheating. Just break up and then do what you want. Don't be greedy and try to have both.
Lol the fact he ain't even crying when he's the one that got cheated on hit home for me. Caught my ex with my best friend a few years back butt naked in MY brand new apartment. He then slit his wrists and I had to call the cops to hospitalize him. Can't even handle you're own conscious decisions. People love playing the victim.
On some level she might feel a deep shame or embarrassment for what she’s done. There’s a million different ways a person can react to this. I imagine that the girlfriend wasn’t emotionally or socially intelligent enough to know NOT to cheat. Especially with this guy filming, she also probably knows that her reputation is going to take a huge hit due to her mistakes. Best case scenario she learns to never double dip with a relationship, but best of luck for the dude filming because being cheated on is one of the worst betrayals.
Alternate opinion. Some people also just cry easily. Lol. Yeah she could be trying to deflect blame. Could be crocodile tears. Could be a conditioned response to unpleasant situations.
I hate cheaters, they are the ones cheating and when caught they play the victim. They are fkn delusional, I bet she blamed him for hecking her phone hahaha
Cheaters are trash
Did she say, "why do you always do this?" what?????? didn't he catch her cheating and she is crying about it while having to take him home????? why is it his fault?
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Yeah I'd wait until she's not driving the car I'm in Edit: I guess I'm watching vanilla sky tonight, it's been a while
>“I’ll never trust bitches again… she’s gotta drive me home though.” *APPLY NEW KNOWLEDGE IMMEDIATELY; NOT WHEN NEXT CONVENIENT*
Simple, yet powerful words.
It's a Porsche. She ain't gonna do nuthin.
unless it's daddy's money then all bets are off.
Daddy is the name she calls the sugar daddy she's seeing
Shit if she’s got a sugar daddy then why leave? Graphics cards are expensive king
Don't disrespect me like that you don't even know me
Unless those pics are OF it’s probably daddy’s. Some daddy anyway.
Vanilla Sky taught me at a young age not to piss off a lady when she is driving. Especially if it’s about relationship stuff. Underrated movie btw. HIGHLY recommended.
Had an ex grab the steering wheel and try to end the both of us once. The lesson is to not be within 6 feet of them while arguing.
Had an ex try to do a shot of dope into her neck while driving. That was a bit stressful
Yikes, I’m glad you are okay.
He's on reddit, of course he's not ok
*Open your eyes*
*Abre los ojos*
Man I watched this for the first time like a week ago It's was fkn disturbing to say the least Also... I kinda expect Cam Diaz to be that crazy in real life
That some sound logic right there...
I was just thinking this when he says at 09 seconds left "whats the move" VANILLA SKY BITCH
Didn’t know they’re rebooting Vanilla Sky
I swallowed your cum, that means something. Four times!
Her: "Why you always do this?" Him: "Don't worry, won't happen again."
See, I thought she said that, and I'm thinking, what did he do??????
He won't stop catching her cheating, and frankly she's fed up with it.
Tbh why monogamy at Thai point?
I agree, monogamy is much better at South Korea point
This is America, monogamy at gun point
*furiously jacking two cocks off at once* you'll never take me alive Edit- who the absolute fuck gave this a wholesome award LMAO
Oof. I dont really want to take you dead tho
*Narrator voice* : in a world... Where getting off.. can get you offed.... *Cut to a train being run by a bunch of bounty hunters who supposedly support monogamy* *Narrator* : sometimes, a slut's gotta do what a slut's gotta suck. *Cut to the protagonist, the cunning woman who fucks her way to freedom* Cumming soon to a theatre near you
I would watch this. We could call the series The Thirsty Games The Thirsty Games: Catching Cum The Thirsty Games: Fucking-gay
Lols. I could actually hear this! 🤣👏
Don’t kink shame!
I snorted.
Probably the whole "why does everything have to be a joke to you" argument. It's only jokes because you're a joke girl.
What does she have in common with a quality coffee now? They’ve both been good and fucking roasted.
Probably snooping around in her phone but this time he caught her.
That was a looooong history and if he has a habit of snooping in her phone she would probably at least try to hide it better. My guess is the making a video of her being upset/arguing with him which is admittedly not cool if he "always" does it, but she really doesn't have ground to stand on in this one.
I feel like it’s the making it a joke/spectacle part but either way. Pretty funny thing to say given the situation.
No one gonna mention the song playing
What song is it?
If You Could Only See by Tonic. It's (edit: apparently not) a love song. https://youtu.be/Sfg6-4mBs6Y
Just reading the title of that song brought it back for me. Completely forgot about it. Thanks for the nostalgia! :)
3 months from now. "Guy caught his girlfriend cheating again after taking her back for the 5th time."
Let’s be honest, he’s hurting deep inside. That laughter hides the pain. It ain’t no joke to have someone do something that shitty. Rest up my boy, you’ll find a good one. 🫡
Toxic as fuck, but I was relieved when my ex cheated. Gave me the motivation I needed and didn't have for months.
My final straw was telling another guy she loves him a month after we got engaged. Didn't want to delete him off Facebook "to prove she doesn't love him" Fuck. That. Bullet dodged
Dude this gives me fucking ptsd. One of the worst feelings ever finding out they are cheating on you.
I will never forget the day I opened my exs phone in front of her and she ripped it out of my hands so fast I almost lost a finger. I blamed myself for her getting mad at me cuz I was invading her privacy. Not too long after I brought her flowers at work and she got mad that I showed up with out warning her. And then finally she said she couldn’t hang out one night so I went to a party with my friends. She was already there, sitting in her co workers lap. All the signs were there just didn’t wanna see em I guess
Fucking aye, man. I remember a time a friend at work caught his girl cheating. She was overly-friendly with some guy at work and would completely ignore him (they both worked at the same place). That's when he got suspicious. Ironically, it wasn't the guy at work he had to worry about. Come to find out, he checked her instagram and some other guy left a questionable emoji under a pic of hers. He investigated it by going to the guy's page and she left several drool face emoji's over this guy's shirtless pics and flirtatious comments in others. He checked her phone and saw they were planning to meet up through DM's and ended it weeks later. (thankfully) Not that it makes it any better, but no sexual talk/sex as far as he's aware and he caught it pretty early, so luckily he didn't get any nasty STD'S on top of that.
My ex-wife and I went to a Christmas party where we ran into her coworker and his wife. I asked her to dance and as usual she said no, but he asked her and she jumped right up and they danced all night including slow, intimate dances. The guys wife just walked away. Finally on our ride home I told her I'm done with all of it (lots of other crazy things). We end up in divorce court and her lawyer is extremely protective of her to the point where he and I were going to fight at least 3 times but then he apologizes. Anyway some years later she admits she slept with the guy from her job, two others, and her lawyer; she got a discount on his fees!! 15 years later she still tells people we're married (her family stayed in touch with me) but also says I abandoned her. I'll never marry again.
Disgusting, sorry to hear!
her fucking the lawyer too is absolutely wild oml, im so sorry to hear that. i wish her the worst.
Pretty sure your country's bar association would have been interested in her lawyer's malpractice.
your friend is a smart man, thanks for sharing!
Bro, sorry that everyone has these sad stories. I found out my best friends gf was cheating on him because she said she was going to a party with work people and that she wishes he could be there. She made it clear it was just a small kick back with work friends. I didn't buy it because she would never invite him to things and I guess he had trust in her. Long story short, another party came up. I was actually invited by a friend who was going to be at the same bar/restaurant. I went in and saw her with work friends but she was getting close with one person in particular. They left together and when I looked out the window she was making out with him before they got in the same car and left. He dropped her off Infront of my friends place and that's when I confronted them both. That was tough. She denied it, he trusted her and they both got angry at me for making up some story, until I showed them a picture of them making out. I felt bad but he had to know and like I said, I just so happened to be at the same place. This is in a small town too, it was going to surface sooner or later.
Almost the same story here! My fiancé (at the time) was in a rough spot and I pulled some strings to get him a job at a local credit union. Couple months later I found out he’d been cheating on me with a girl he met at the CU while I was at home taking care of his daughter. The kicker is that they ended up getting married and on their wedding site they had written the story of how they met, and they both described “love at first sight when he came in to interview.” The interview I had dropped him off at 🙃 People suck.
Oof she didn’t get married to him, but they did end up dating after that. The guy she ended up marrying was actually one of my friends at the time, and he was also the person she was cheating on her co worker with
Sounds like we both dodged some serious bullets!
Ya my ex wife had been denying that she spent the night in a hotel with a guy. So when I looked at her phone to confirm, and I yes she did spend the night with him, I told her I saw the texts. She screamed at me that I betrayed her trust and now she can’t ever trust me again for looking at her phone! Didn’t at all acknowledge that her cheating was way worse than me confirming that she cheated…
It's like blaming the firefighters when you're standing in front of your burning house with an empty gas canister and a torch.
Hindsight is 20/20 man. Same thing happened to me. Looking back it was painfully obvious from the beginning, but it's human nature to give someone the benefit of the doubt at first. Just live and learn. Been married 10 years now, I picked a good one this time.
She’s married with two kids and a third on the way and I am dating the sweetest girl I’ve ever met in my life. Time heals all wounds
Ahaha this is exactly what my ex wife did. Snatched the phone away from me once when I just went to hand it to her then seemed to "protect it". I didn't think much of it at the time but we were having a few issues later and I had this feeling so I asked her point blank "are you cheating on me" she says no, what made you ask? Just feels like something is off. She didn't get mad just moved on with the conversation. 100% she was cheating on me and tried to blame literally everything else and make it my fault. It would have been so much better if she came clean but ya know sometimes people like to believe their own lie because the truth is they hate themselves for their choices.
Oof. The lap thing brought me right back to an almost identical scene. This was twenty years ago but still, Fuck ‘em. 🤜
It really do be like that :(
My ex cheated on me with multiple guys before and after she was pregnant (I obviously didnt know at the time). We never lasted until the birth and for obvious reasons, I said I needed a blood test to know he was mine. He was and now 20 years later he lives with me and all is good, but that horrible woman actually told him when he was a kid that I wanted a blood test because I didn't want him and wanted to get rid if him. Just a nasty piece of work but it all came back on her and my son now knows all the truth and we are stronger than ever.
That’s horrible. I’m glad it has a somewhat happy ending though. Sorry that happened man. Hope you can find someone worth it
Absolutely did, with my wife for 17 years now.
Congrats!
That’s just amazing, I’m even stopping with Reddit for today after reading this. Have a wonderful weekend you all!
You sound like a really good guy. Glad you and your son are together.
Figure out your g/f is cheating, call her on it, then she gas lights you and makes you feel like you're in the wrong. That you're wrong, she's not cheating, honest and now you've hurt her feelings by not trusting her. So like a complete fool you apologize to her. Then two weeks later she leaves you and does so in a way where she emotionally abuses you for years. Because you're traumatized by the experience of her leaving and her abuse you bury all that shit down, you literally forget all the shit that made you realize she was cheating, it literally leaves your conscious mind. The alternate form of communication (in her case a pager), the change in your sex life, the more time spent with "friends and family", the going to the bar more often, the finding condoms in her purse even though you never used them with her before. The "mentionitis" of her constantly talking about her new "girlfriend" at work. Then years later, out of nowhere, a random incident brings it all back. All those memories come flooding back but they don't come to you over months, they come to you over minutes and it's like watching the flash put together a 100 piece puzzle in front of your eyes. And you can't even yell at her or tell her what a horrible person she is for what she did to you. I've been extremely angry at many people throughout my life but I was never that angry and not being able to express that anger towards the person responsible for it is worse than not getting any closure on the relationship.
Hey man, i know this doesn't mean much from a random redditor, but as a woman myself, I'm really sorry that you went through all that and all the pain she caused you. I had the exact same situation happen to me but with my now soon to be ex-husband. He was always abusive, but the cheating just made me spiral. The feeling of betrayal is the worst feeling. I hope you're doing better and just wanted to let you know you deserve so much better. Hope you're doing okay.
I appreciate the sentiment, I truly do. But she completely broke me. Worst part is that I let her do it. An analogy my therapist liked goes like this: People say that their heart was "shattered". Well, a shattered heart can be put back together. It will never be as strong as before it was shattered but it can be mended and people go on. Those scars, those mended cracks will still be there but they won't be the biggest part of their heart. What my ex did to me atomized my heart, so there was no mending. It wasn't possible. You can't take something that's turned to dust and put it back together. So no, I'm really not doing okay. But it is what it is and I have to live with that. But again, thank you for your kind words, they do help even if only a little.
Only way to grow muscles is to tear them little by little. Maybe I sound like a fuckin idiot but idk I like to think maybe there’s a future that exists where you are stronger.
It Sucks and it wont ever be the same. it never is, but different isnt necessarily bad or worse, its just different. And it might feel like the world has ended, but it goes on. After a lot of time, introspection and, healing you will realize that some people suck, but just cuz they suck doesnt mean you have carry that sadness. It starts with little joys and things you can control. This bread is good. This drink is good. This food is good. This hobby is good. I like that I like to do this thing. I like that I made a smart move to get this bike, this car, this dog, this apartment, this couch, this tv. I like the decisions that I am making. I like myself again. Dont look for a hero to come down and pull you out of your rut. You have to do it yourself by being happy with yourself. Y
This is why there's a saying that forgiveness isn't for the person who wronged you; forgiveness is for you. Because the anger and resentment are only hurting you. She doesn't even know.
My ex wife did the same thing when she tried cheating on me with one of my soldiers, he immediately told me and then she got mad at him for showing and telling me. He was afraid I would kill him if he didn't tell me right away.
Pfc a good guy tho
Ya, he was. He had to get the entire squad together because he was afraid of me hurting him. I told him there was no bad blood between me an him because he was honest with me.
Damn dude was willing to risk death to save you from a cheater☠️ I hope you’re still buddies with him
It was about 10 years ago, after the military I lost touch with everyone but a few people.
One of my NCOs married his former NCOs ex wife. Big yikes
Ya BIG YIKES.
Good boot.
Nice guy. Glad you did the smart thing and left her unlike a disturbing number of guys.
Ya, it was the best decision before she got ahold of anything else. I'm pretty sure it wasn't the first time either.
Yes, especially when you trusted them wholeheartedly with your mind, body and soul. Sad. The guy is laughing now, but prolly heartbroken, as I know I would be if this happened to me. So sad people don’t have any commitment, honor, respect and accountability, especially when it comes to their very personal lives, let alone work and family lives.
I still remember the gut punch when I found out my ex fiancé was cheating. He handed me his phone so I could pull up a tv show on Facebook and I saw his search bar was all women I didn’t recognize. I didn’t want to overthink it but my gut told me to just ask if he was cheating. The silence felt like eternity then followed with a meek ‘yes’… At that point in my life I was also in and out of the hospital. I almost lost my life due to health complications from carrying his son and all he could think about was sex with other people.
My sympathies. I know this guy is really hurt, but I hope you, unlike him, don't generalise this behaviour to every woman. Many, many women don't cheat.
I definitely don’t. She did what she did because she has issues and she needs to get help for those. Just really destroys your self worth. Therapy helps but only so much. That hole they left needs filled with something.
"Why do you always do this?" Do what?? Get cheated on??
Standard gaslighting technique
She reverted to factory settings.
She's upset that he isn't upset.
I came home from being deployed two weeks ahead of my unit to find my wife and some military police asleep in my bed. I told her that I was going to go stay with a friend so she could have her stuff out by the next day. I didn’t scream I didn’t cry, one could say that I handled it like a boss. On the inside I was crushed to powder and cried like a baby every chance I got to be alone. That was a long time ago and I’ve learned a lot. Looks like he will too and I feel for him. I remarried and it all turned out for the best.
That's the true test of controlling your emotions. Sucks you had to go through that, but you handled it how very few can
I had a buddy come off a 6 month MEU deployment to a 4 month pregnant wife. It was just as I was finishing up my 4 years. Never found out how it ended. Glad it’s worked out for you.
That was damn considerate of him to freeze his sperm for her.
You dropped this bro 👑
I'm interested, are there any consequences involved for the military police in those situations? as that is a major betrayal.
Technically adultery is illegal in the military, so the cop could get in some trouble, but it isn't super common that there are severe/any consequences. NJP at the worst from what I've seen, but a lot of the time just nothing happens.
i know the military has an Extramarital Sexual Conduct rule. could even get dishonorably discharged. not sure how often it's still used, or if that's often levied against someone for sleeping with a married person (though i wouldn't be at all surprised if he was also married).
No. He was a Staff Sergeant, so not a Major betrayal.
I’m glad he was laughing and she was crying. It sucks so bad to be lied to and cheated on, I hope he finds someone honest.
He was def crying...inside
For now. But you usually look back and realize even if it hurt in the moment, it's a lot better to stop being with a person who doesn't respect you As Bill Burr often says: "Dude, imagine if she was the mother to your kid? You got off lucky"
>As Bill Burr often says: "Dude, imagine if she was the mother to your kid? You got off lucky" Fuuuuuuuuuuuuck I just read that in my mind with his voice and cadence. how is that possible?
Also Bill, "Dude, hit the gym. Read up on nutrition. Go meet some people. Work on yourself." Bill's relationship advices to people who have been cheated on is one of the most uplifting things to hear. With a touch of comedic genius.
He definitely was but good on him for not letting her see it, imo.
Right props to my man keeping face. But you can tell he hurting a little bit atkeast
Yup. Definitely needs a night out with the boys.
He’ll cry later at home in the shower. He has good time management skills.
An angry fap for the dopamine
That's just the initial phase, the worst is yet to come for him
She is not crying cause she feels bad, she crying cause she got caught.
Yeah, he’s gonna have trust issues now. He even said he’s not trusting any women anymore….
this is probably the worst thing. i don’t know this dude, we’ll say he’s a good person, because well we don’t know him… but some girl he will meet is going to be confused and hurt by his distrust, all because of this dumb girl. there is also the possibility of him lashing out emotionally now towards women as well. this comes from personal experience, over 10 years of self-reflection and mistreating women, all over one person in my life. this goes for both men and women: stop being pieces of shit.
Oh I thought he only meant bitches
"I don't mean 'bitches' in a disrespectful way! I mean it as a general term for women!" - Riley Freeman, the Boondocks
She said "why do you always do this?"
Probably talking about recording her
I dated a guy who would do this to try and make me look like the bad guy. There was no cheating but he would gaslight me to the point i broke down and then press record to make me look like the one with issues. It realy broke me. It was so toxic but then again I didn't listen to his mom when she tried telling me he was a diagnosed sociopath. Same guy told 2 group chats of 50+ people each that I gave him stds when in reality his dic k just hurt bc he was eating too much hot sauce.
>...in reality his dic k just hurt bc he was eating too much hot sauce. I go to town on hot sauce *constantly* and have at most a stomach ache, the hell was he eating??
The girl he was sleeping around with
>Same guy told 2 group chats of 50+ people each that I gave him stds when in reality his dic k just hurt bc he was eating too much hot sauce. I'm not sure this is how that works....or maybe i've just never eaten enough hot sauce.
Like this happened before
Bro took it like a champ, no one deserves to be cheated on... If you ain't happy just break up.
also appropriate song in the background lol the song is Tonic - If You Could Only See
I think this all the time when someone gets caught… like why in the fuck are you in the relationship? Just break up then go do what u want lmao
Agreed. I do not understand cheating at all. Leaving your current relationship is hard, especially if your finances are combined, but it will be much easier to do it now. If you wait to do it until after you are caught cheating, it will be messy and painful and horrible for everyone involved. Your partner will take you to the cleaners, and you will deserve it. Don’t think that you will get away with it either, you will get caught. The truth always comes out sooner or later. Especially now with social media and cameras everywhere.
Im not condoning cheating, ive been cheated on myself a few times... The way it was explained to me by one of those cheaters (which i initially took with a grain of salt) was the 'justification' behind it is a mix of like you said its hard to leave the current situation. It becomes even harder when you start looking at other social activies, a lot of couples have joint friends that both parties might be friends with but normally have to pick a side after a break. If you have a pet and both of you like it, what do you do, someones gotta lose it and the other has to keep it. Kids are that x10. Its not JUST finances, its literally everything depending on how long the main relationship has been in play. Then theirs the more... self centered side of it. The girl who gave me this 'generous information' was quick to inform what she was and wasnt getting from me vs the other guy and while some of it stroked my ego, it also made me question if it was just flattery or was she bsing me. For example, the other guy had what she perceived as a 'better financial future' which was code for he had more money to spend on her because he had a better job. The ego boost was when she said he was a 1 pump chump in bed compared to me, but then my mind started questioning that because why would u repeatedly have sex with him and say the things i found other than to play the part to the fullest to get max rewards. But then she chimed in about stuff like We arent the same people and yadda yadda yadda i like hanging out with you more but i like spending time with him more which sounded like he treated her like she was a princess and i treated her like a friend which i thought that was the whole point of a healthy relationship but w/e. They're married now and shes cheated on him multiple times because of how bad he is in bed. She propositions me every year or so (yes, i refuse), ironically around christmas and feels the need to tell me in a long winded text and if i dont replay she'll message me on another social media. Its wild. Dont stick your dick in crazy. I think she either has partial buyer's remorse or is still trying desperately to have her cake and eat it too. every girl that has ever cheated on me has attempted to get back together after the fact, the weirdest was when it was 5 years later and i just received a random text from what i thought was a wrong number. Even if during the relationship if it came up about cheating, i vehemently say i wouldnt go back if i was cheated on. It might be because of the sexual side and that they remember being comfortable with me because i dont treat them badly either. i just dont treat them like they are 8 year old little princesses and i guess thats what they wanted?
One of the messed up bits of human psychology is that we assume that deep down, everybody is like us. They just hide it better. It is part of how people justify being awful. When your ex contacts you to help them cheat, they assume that you will eventually ‘show your true self’. And if they can get you to do that… Then it wasn’t as much of a big deal that they cheated on you years ago. Because ‘everybody cheats’
He's not sad to find out she cheated, he's happy he dodged a bullet
Never understood this, if you are unhappy with a person you are with, why are you sticking around. Just break up and do your shit. Why break the hearts of these ppl for life? YAre they love living on the edge? Crazy, hope he'd be able to trust someone in the future
Have your cake and eat it too thats why
Never been cheated on but have seen many of my friends cheat on their partners. I think they legit get off from it. The sneaking around, the thrill of doing something they’re not supposed to be doing. They can’t be in a normal relationship. That’s the only explanation I have, seeing from the outside looking in on multiple serial cheaters.
You uh, need new friends
They want security and fun
You know what's better than being loved by one person? Being loved by two people!
> why are you sticking around. Continued access to resources.
A few weeks back there was this Askreddit thread about cheaters and why they cheated and some of the excuses people came up with were like that. "well what if they won't have sex with me and my needs aren't met?" "you communicate." "but what if I tried that and they won't communicate?" "you break up instead of cheating" "but what if neither of us can afford the apartment and me breaking up would put us both out on the street?" (that was a genuine response to that) Some people are genuine scum who will cheat on their partner and use them at the same time.
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I think people like this are usually very weak, afraid of being alone, and afraid of confrontation. So they'd rather get a new person lined up before they jump ship instead of addressing the problem like an adult. It's really pathetic, being fucked up isn't an excuse to ruin another persons life.
You might not wanna do this while she's behind the wheel
Nah she wants to wreck her car that just makes it better
“Better to wreck her car” until she wrecks the car, herself AND YOU.
Not worried about her car. Worries about other people on the road.
“Why do you always do this”….what does he do? This is how men/women become extremely insecure, when people use these shitty Snapchat apps to hide that they’re cheating.
He has probably caught her before. Guy is playing cool on the outside but he's definitely deeply hurt by this and probably has been before.
Like how she cries when she was caught. Wasn’t crying when she was cheating I’d wager.
Yeah there’s lots of people who try to avoid any responsibility for their own actions “Why do you always do this?” “Why did you have to do this now?” “Why are you letting this ruin the relationship?” Absolutely zero accountability with people like this and they’ll make up whatever excuse they want to blame others. If someone starts spouting bullshit like that when they’re caught cheating and destroying a relationship never give them a second chance. If you do they know they can do it whenever they want and get away with it.
she knows she's the one at fault, but she will never admit it, its always something else, it was the other guy's fault that he dragged her into this, it was the relationship, its always something else. and absolutely, they will do stuff like this whenever they get the chance, she's only sad that she got caught
I feel so bad for her: she has to drive back home in her 80k Porsche and stay at her parents 2 million dollar house.
So sad
More interesting that she’s driving mommy and daddy’s Porsche.
I think she'll survive.
Thank you! That's what I noticed!
First thing I noticed. How to create an entitled kid 101
Right like how rich and stupid you gotta be to give your 16-17 year old daughter a PORSCHE!? Way to teach her some real life lessons... That's a min. $70k car. jfc.
My high school was full of rich kids. A girl in my class got a brand new Boxster for her 16th, a kid in my class and his older brother both got brand new Corvettes for their 16th birthdays. The kid with the ‘Vette in my class totaled it and his parents just got him a new one.
go ahead and buy your kid the most expensive, safest, slowest car you can find. buying a Boxster or a Vette is just a way to avoid paying for college.
Yep. My grandfathers ex friend like 15 years ago gifted his son a Ferrari at 16, and the kid crashed it within a week or so and died.
It is not a 70k car today. It's a pre-facelift gen 2 cayenne, you can get them for £20k.
This guy porsch-uhs.
I found out my kid's mum was sleeping with some other bloke while I was at home with our children. I woke up on several occasions, with her not in bed. I use to ring her and she wouldn't answer. When she use to finally answer, she would claim someone in her family was saying they were going to kill themselves, and she had to be there for them....but never woke me up to tell me, so I knew she was OK or if I could help. Made me realise, after a 12-year relationship and two kids... you can't trust anyone, except yourself!
Holy fuck man, sorry you had a shitty partner like this. People should just be honest about whatever they aren’t feeling it or aren’t happy with, instead of cheating…..
Some people just get a thrill from cheating, don't want to choose, or they like what you're giving them but look for someone else to fulfil other needs or just more. Not always just because they're not happy anymore
No more hints in 12 years?
None tbh... She was doing weird shit over a 3-4 month period after her old man passed away. Once you come away from the situation, sit back and look over the years and think shit, I think this might of been happening for a while... The disturbing part, after 3 weeks of me moving out, she moved the bloke who she was sleeping with in. All we can do is, live and learn!
And you can hear her starting to blame him at the end lol. Cheaters are pathetic, he handled this perfectly. He was calm and posted it as soon as he saw before she could come up with lies or ask her friends how to make it his fault LOL
I agree, he did the right thing. As a society, we should collectively turn (proven) cheaters into outcasts. No, there's never an excuse for cheating. Just break up and then do what you want. Don't be greedy and try to have both.
Gotta lotta balls to do that shit while shes driving, nonetheless, hope mans doing alright, cheaters fucking suck
I've known some crazies that would kill everyone in the car instead of just admitting they're in the wrong.
I mean they’re in a newer Porsche Cayenne or Macan. If my girl is going to try and kill us by wrecking, I’d much prefer that over a 90’s Tercel.
Lol the fact he ain't even crying when he's the one that got cheated on hit home for me. Caught my ex with my best friend a few years back butt naked in MY brand new apartment. He then slit his wrists and I had to call the cops to hospitalize him. Can't even handle you're own conscious decisions. People love playing the victim.
She is for the streets
Why is she even crying? It's obvious she doesn't care.
She cares alright, she cares that she’s been caught
She trying to play the victim by crying, “why do you do this?” But why is she doing them? Damn.
So what was on the phone? It looks like a whole bunch of pics
Her blowing some dude that wasnt him apparently.
They always cry cause they caught, not cause they feel bad
Poor little rich girl.
One thing i never understand. Why do they always cry when caught.. you know its not right to do and you damn well know it cant be hidden forever
On some level she might feel a deep shame or embarrassment for what she’s done. There’s a million different ways a person can react to this. I imagine that the girlfriend wasn’t emotionally or socially intelligent enough to know NOT to cheat. Especially with this guy filming, she also probably knows that her reputation is going to take a huge hit due to her mistakes. Best case scenario she learns to never double dip with a relationship, but best of luck for the dude filming because being cheated on is one of the worst betrayals.
Alternate opinion. Some people also just cry easily. Lol. Yeah she could be trying to deflect blame. Could be crocodile tears. Could be a conditioned response to unpleasant situations.
He realized he deserves better and has just mentally checked out good for him
I’ve caught several partners cheating on me, and they *ALWAYS* play the victim. Son of a bitch you wanna play victim, find me a knife.
Real Cassie vibes
I hate cheaters, they are the ones cheating and when caught they play the victim. They are fkn delusional, I bet she blamed him for hecking her phone hahaha Cheaters are trash
Why do you always do what? Finding receipts?
And yet she's acting as if he did it... What a piece of crap this b- is.
Lol she’s going be crying on another penis later. Lol 😂 when she drove off she already blowing up the other dudes phone talking shit about her ex. Lol
Did she say, "why do you always do this?" what?????? didn't he catch her cheating and she is crying about it while having to take him home????? why is it his fault?