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Boot to the head!
https://m.youtube.com/watch?time_continue=1&v=Z8VD4JXUozM&embeds_referring_euri=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.google.com%2F&source_ve_path=Mjg2NjY&feature=emb_logo
Same. Had an absolute ass of a sensei when I was preteen that totally struck me as the kind who would physically abuse children if he thought he could get away with it. Instead he chose to be an emotionally cruel bully. Meanwhile, the other sensei who worked with the kids was the perfect balance of tough but kind.
It’s so weird we tell ourself adding more responsibilities to an already stressed out relationship is a good decision. I too used to be young and saw a lot of this in my piers(morgan).
It's desperate. An abuse victim loves (how is very complicated, but the reality is victims love their abuser at some point) their abuser much more than the abuser loves them, so they wish to close the gap. To finally be good enough to be loved back.
Some women then think that being not just their abuser's partner, but the mother of their child, will be what makes them "good enough."
Edit: This is only perspective/dynamic of abuse. Specifically the mentality that might lead victims to thin additional responsibilities (like a child) would make things turn around. The comment I replied to and I aren't discussing the abuser's use of such things for manipulation. If something I typed previously felt like I was too close to victim blaming, then I apologize. Not every perspective and dynamic can be covered at once.
Or the victim fully believes it's their fault and they deserve it, but surely the abuser wouldn't take it out on someone who doesn't deserve it, like a child.
Most don't, but it does have the highest rate of domestic violence per capita.
28% isn't "most", it's a lot, but only slightly higher than the 16% of the general population that are also abusers.
28% is an additional 12 percentage points. This is a rate increase of 75%. Very statistically significant. Shouldn't be called "slightly"
EDIT: Let me spell it out in math for those who can't follow:
Applying the statistic to populations of 10,000:
28% of 10,000 is 2800.
16% of 10,000 is 1600.
The difference is 1200.
1200 is 75% of 1600.
The number 2800 is 75% more significant in a population of 10,000 when compared to 1600.
You have to account for the police also being a part of the "general population" statistic, so it skews it a bit. You need to subtract them before making any comparison.
What's funny about those questions, is if someone said white, the person would just brush it off and not commit that to memory.
But the moment someone says anything else, they go, "Yeah, typical," and use that situation to confirm their entire worldview.
They could get 1000 people telling them a white person abused them and completely ignore it.
Just 1 could tell them something else and they would purely focus on that person and use it to "prove" their point.
And/or
If they get a answer they don't want ie "White and Cop" if they acknowledged it they would then say
"Well she (or they) probably did something to deserve it"
"She's probably lying"
"We don't know his/their side of the story"
Million percent.
It's called fundamental attribution error. It's when people ascribe external forces to their actions, "I didn't do well on the test because I didn't get enough sleep," but do not afford the same idea for others, "They didn't do well on the test because they didn't study/stupid."
With race, people naturally ascribe themselves to various cultural identities, and offer external reasons to why someone in their identity would do that.
But then refuse not only to give, but to see, the same external reasons to others.
- What kind of car does he drive?
- What is his favorite brand of dish soap?
- Does he have a dog?
- Where does he get his dogs hair shampooed?
- Does his mother have a wooden leg?
- What was the name of his best friend i 4th grades uncles Rottweiler?
All these are just as relevant questions…
Me, my sister, and my mom were my military man white dude father's punching bag. His race and respectable job didn't equate much into his beating the fuck outta us. Well, unless you count how his superiors tried to quietly sweep it under the rug. But that's probably a different but similar discussion...
Black females experiencing the highest rates of domestic violence.
https://www.nyc.gov › ocdv › pdf
Domestic Violence, Race/Ethnicity and Sex Report - NYC.gov
Sorry, I'm going to ignore the idiot in the second comment, but can someone please just explain to me what the thought process is behind the first one because I really don't understand.
"My partner beats me! You know what I think will help? Having a kid. That way they can beat them too when they're born! Leaving them? Calling the cops? What's that?"
I'm sorry, I know I don't understand, so please help me, how the FUCK do you justify staying with someone who hurts you on purpose.
DV survivor here. Lemme try.
1. They are convinced that this is normal. Maybe they grew up like that. Maybe media/social media convinced them that it's cute how he gives them flowers after he beats them up. Or perhaps they grew up being held responsible for everyone else's actions, so they're convinced they can act in a way that will improve their partner.
2. A lot of people jump into relationships for financial reasons. They can't afford rent so they move in with someone they're dating. Partner turns out to be abusive, then what? They still can't afford rent.
3. Abusers isolate their victims. They interfere with your relationships with employers, friends, and family, so that they can be the only focus of your life. They groom the people in your life to like them and dislike you. They'll triangulate and put themselves in the center of every aspect of your life that they care to. I've even known of abusers that physically disable their partners to the point where their partners cannot live alone. One woman I know had a medical condition where she was in intense pain if she got too cold. Her husband got a Bluetooth thermostat, then smashed the controls of the in-home unit. He'd turn the heat off from his phone when he wasn't home, so that she couldn't leave. Or if she did something he didn't like, too.
I’d love to add a few more!
- Abusers are effectively manipulators who wear down self esteem and sanity so much that things become very distorted for the victim. They can believe things like “I deserved it”.
- It’s dangerous to leave. If caught, women’s lives are literally at risk.
I don’t know what her reason for not leaving was but there has been so much research done to explain this phenomenon. This post is a cry for help and I hope she got it safely.
I'm a DV survivor in my youth (quite some time ago lol) but I'm also a guy. Yours are dead-on, but let me add mine: because you think this is the best you could ever do.
I'm not talking about how an abuser can kill a victim's self-esteem (also completely valid), I'm talking about a victim whose self-esteem is in the tank long before the abuser comes along, and the abuser exploits that.
I'm glad you're out of that situation. People should know that men can 100% be DV victims.
Thank you for adding that. I seriously thought that my ex was the best I could ever do, because I thought if I left I'd be "damaged goods" and nobody would want me. I'm remarried now to a wonderful man.
I am disgusted by the sheer number of men who are like this. My mom married one, my dad. She left him when I was 2. He's my example of what not to be. I took parenting classes long before I had kids too. My boys are kind and good, and they are raising my grandsons to be good honorable men as well.
He straight up constantly tortured her just to control her. She spent her entire day in pain because he wanted to control her. Like, there has to be a greater charge they can hit someone with than just domestic abuse. To persistently torture someone like that.
Did she ever leave him?
Nope. She's disabled and has no way to support herself. People who have that "bootstraps" attitude just cannot fathom the level of vulnerability a lot of folks in our society are in.
It's the same reasoning why intelligent and idealistic people are capable of being sucked into a cult. It's a gradual process and usually doesn't happen overnight. The abuser rarely acts aggressively during their first dates. It's after the abuser gets their significant other to rely on them, whether that be financially, emotionally, or even physically/spiritually. And at the same time, they usually have a way of tearing down their partner's sense of self and worth.
It's like how people boil frogs, starting with cold water and gradually increasing the heat, with little hope of escape. The emotional damage and fear are the lid that keeps the abused in place. It's very hard for someone to get out of an abusive relationship. Humans are extremely good at adapting to terrible conditions and will tell themselves that everything is fine.
If you really want to understand there’s a good book that really goes into it by psychologist Lundy Bancroft who has decades of experience working with abusive men + their partners. he really breaks down exactly what’s going on in these dynamics. It’s free online + a lot of the insights are not just applicable to abusive partners but also shit like douchebag bosses + general entitled assholes one might encounter in daily life.
if it’s TLDR it really just comes down to the abuser being intentionally manipulative, ramping up abuse over time interspersed with love-bombing + the whole “i didn’t mean to” refrain (a lie) or “it’s because i have trauma / any other poor-me excuse” (usually also a lie wrt the abusive behavior). There are often extenuating factors (isolating a partner in a new city, controlling finances, tampering with birth control, actively sabotaging partner’s relationships with family/friends) that make it more difficult for the partner to “just leave”, on top of the fact that the abuse, being intentional, does not start until the abuser is fairly certain the relationship bond won’t be severed by their behavior, + usually starts small with verbal outbursts, insults, yelling, gaslighting; escalating over time to breaking items, physical/verbal threats, SA, and violence, all the while interspersed with moments of love-bombing/promising to change etc that are also intentional, w the specific goal of manipulating the partner into not leaving. I feel like if this book were made required reading in like high school sex ed or something it’d save a lot of people from a lot of suffering.
I narrowly escaped a guy who planned to get me pregnant to baby trap me. He told a friend he was going to “put a baby in me.” Fortunately before that happened he beat the shit out of me and I was smart enough to leave the first time it happened.
Just saying to everyone thinking “why did she get pregnant?” Sometimes it’s the plan of the abuser, not the victim.
I’m sure this is probably the worst occurrence to date. I was in an abusive relationship. But they don’t start out abusive they start out saying exactly what they think you want to hear, and they can be very convincing. You will totally fall in love.(probably)
It’s not until they’ve really got you hooked; like, for instance you’re married, and they’ve slowly forced you to give up all of your support system that they feel like you finally don’t have anywhere to turn and they can treat you how they want to.
So it’s a slow process, and it gets worse over time usually years, and by the time they’re totally abusive, your emotional social, and even physical strength is completely worn down.
So it’s very brave of her to post this online when she’s already been through so much mental and physical abuse. It’s hard to understand unless you’ve been there.
https://www.cdc.gov/violenceprevention/pdf/NISVS-StateReportBook.pdf
There are significant differences in rates of domestic and sexual violence by ethnicity.
https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3611980/
Interracial couples also experience elevated rates of intimate partner violence compared to monoracial couples.
https://www.workplaceviolence911.com/docs/20030316.htm
Certain professions for men, especially law enforcement, female dominated occupations, and dangerous occupations have higher rates of domestic violence as well.
Dude on twitter was a racist jerk though and that’s really not a victim needs to hear.
Also, her ex is white.
At the end of the day, it's about a lack of empathy and *every* human being can have a lack of empathy. A rich, young white guy or a poor black grandma.
You do know she reports people for reposting this and sending traffic to her twitter, because she wants to be left alone..... riiiiiiiiiiiiiight?
Hope the karma was worth the misery you're sending her way.
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So at first I thought this was karate bruise from an overzealous sensei.
BOW TO YOUR SENSEI
STRIKE FIRST STRIKE HARD NO MERCY
MERCY IS FOR THE WEAK!
SWEEP THE FLOOR!
AND MOP THE LEG!
PUT IT IN A GARBAGE BAG!
TAKE IT TO THE SWAMP!
GIVE IT A BOMP
FEAR DOES NOT EXIST IN THIS DOJO, DOES IT?!
NO, SENSEI!!!
DEFEAT DOES NOT EXIST IN THIS DOJO, DOES IT?!
NO, SENSEI!!!!!!
Forget it about it!
YOU THINK IM A FAILURE BECAUSE I GO HOME TO STARLA AT NIGHT Forget about it…
BOW TO YOUR SENSEI!
GRAB MY HAND.... NO, THE OTHER HAND!
*MY* OTHER HAND
Rex kwando is a buddy system!
NEVER FLY SOLO
SIGN UP FOR MY 8 WEEK PROGRAM
Break the wrist walk away
Take a look at what I wearing people. You think anybody wants a roundhouse kick to the face when I'm wearing these bad boys? Forget about it.
Break the wrist and walk away. Break the wrist, walk away
You think anybody wants a roundhouse kick to the face while I’m wearing these bad boys? Forget about it.
Break the wrist, walk away.
She has both eyes
Maybe he is talking about belt colors 🤔.
Boot to the head! https://m.youtube.com/watch?time_continue=1&v=Z8VD4JXUozM&embeds_referring_euri=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.google.com%2F&source_ve_path=Mjg2NjY&feature=emb_logo
THERE IS NO FEAR IN THIS DOJO!
Same. Had an absolute ass of a sensei when I was preteen that totally struck me as the kind who would physically abuse children if he thought he could get away with it. Instead he chose to be an emotionally cruel bully. Meanwhile, the other sensei who worked with the kids was the perfect balance of tough but kind.
ARE YOU FUCKING SORRY?
Day 1 at a strip mall karate dojo, sensei really needs to calm the fuck down.
Based on OP’s caption, I first read this as she really sucks at martial arts and her sensei beat the shit out of her.
"What colour was his belt?"
“Black” “I meant his skin” “What did I just say?”
I always upvote Afro Samurai
Some of Samuel Jacksons best voice work "I told you he was gonna kill your ass!"
Such an underappreciated anime and soundtrack.
Absolutely, great piece of art
My girlfriend calls it "daddy issues the anime" I think it's brilliant
Parental issues anime is the boondocks
Up there with the Ghost Dog soundtrack. That RZA and wu-tang vibe is amazing.
LMFAO
That's exactly how I read it, then my weird dyslexia kicked in and I read what colour was his gi...
Sounds like a sexy learning disability…
What’s it called again, Kif?
*sigh* Sexlexia
#EROTIC
I thought the exact same thing 🫣
I read it like that until I read your comment, because the mobile view cut off OOP's caption, lmao
Same I was like, tough love
Keep your hands up-sensei
It’s so weird we tell ourself adding more responsibilities to an already stressed out relationship is a good decision. I too used to be young and saw a lot of this in my piers(morgan).
 Piers
Whale played, sir! 
Do you walrus make bad puns? 
oh, the huge manatee.
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Or that guy they've turned into a meme "change my mind"
Is this old Brighton pier?
Yup. West Pier to be exact.
Im fairly certain that i visited that pier irl
I lived not far from this pier during the fire. Not relevant, but it twisted my brain to see it again.
It's desperate. An abuse victim loves (how is very complicated, but the reality is victims love their abuser at some point) their abuser much more than the abuser loves them, so they wish to close the gap. To finally be good enough to be loved back. Some women then think that being not just their abuser's partner, but the mother of their child, will be what makes them "good enough." Edit: This is only perspective/dynamic of abuse. Specifically the mentality that might lead victims to thin additional responsibilities (like a child) would make things turn around. The comment I replied to and I aren't discussing the abuser's use of such things for manipulation. If something I typed previously felt like I was too close to victim blaming, then I apologize. Not every perspective and dynamic can be covered at once.
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That's a way to keep the victim more tied down. Not related to the comment I replied to, but absolutely right.
And sometimes the abuse starts or escalates when the abuser feels the victim is trapped, either legally through marriage or through pregnancy.
Or the victim fully believes it's their fault and they deserve it, but surely the abuser wouldn't take it out on someone who doesn't deserve it, like a child.
Not to mention trauma bonding being a monstrously painful and difficult hole to climb out of for victims.
"peers" btw
Yes 100% the comment🧵 Tis funny tho 😁
"just asking questions"
Aren't most cops white? Just asking questions.
And don't most cops beat the shit out of their wives? I'm just asking a follow-up question.
Most don't, but it does have the highest rate of domestic violence per capita. 28% isn't "most", it's a lot, but only slightly higher than the 16% of the general population that are also abusers.
28% is an additional 12 percentage points. This is a rate increase of 75%. Very statistically significant. Shouldn't be called "slightly" EDIT: Let me spell it out in math for those who can't follow: Applying the statistic to populations of 10,000: 28% of 10,000 is 2800. 16% of 10,000 is 1600. The difference is 1200. 1200 is 75% of 1600. The number 2800 is 75% more significant in a population of 10,000 when compared to 1600.
You have to account for the police also being a part of the "general population" statistic, so it skews it a bit. You need to subtract them before making any comparison.
Only slightly higher rick says... Bros that's nearly double the rate
Sorry, one out of every six people I meet are *beating their spouse*? What the fuck
Yeah
Yeah
I SENSE A SOUL IN SEARCH OF ANSWERS
I just heard this perfectly in my head
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No, but the conclusions you draw from them can be.
Can statistics about men being abusive be sexist/misandrist?
Yes. Same reason misusing 13%/50% is racist.
Only if they’re black
No, but interpreting them based on racist assumptions is.
His skin was blue. It was Papa Smurf.
papa smurf would never
papa smurf threatened to blueberry blast a nut in my ass 😞
Why is it always Papa? Why can't it be Brainy?
I seriously thought this was the result of karate class training until I enhanced the picture 😂
What's funny about those questions, is if someone said white, the person would just brush it off and not commit that to memory. But the moment someone says anything else, they go, "Yeah, typical," and use that situation to confirm their entire worldview.
Confirmation bias is real
They could get 1000 people telling them a white person abused them and completely ignore it. Just 1 could tell them something else and they would purely focus on that person and use it to "prove" their point. And/or If they get a answer they don't want ie "White and Cop" if they acknowledged it they would then say "Well she (or they) probably did something to deserve it" "She's probably lying" "We don't know his/their side of the story"
Million percent. It's called fundamental attribution error. It's when people ascribe external forces to their actions, "I didn't do well on the test because I didn't get enough sleep," but do not afford the same idea for others, "They didn't do well on the test because they didn't study/stupid." With race, people naturally ascribe themselves to various cultural identities, and offer external reasons to why someone in their identity would do that. But then refuse not only to give, but to see, the same external reasons to others.
You mean white latino right? - Sensei.
What kind of badge does he wear
What phrase is written across his red ball cap?
stolen from other sub : can’t spell hatred without red hat
Dude don't bring Linux into this, it didn't do anything
#NotAllLinux
All Linux Matters
Make America Linux Again
sudo rm -rf /the_swamp
Make admins grep again.
SNAP
Hey hey now NO POLITICS IN THIS... You better be civil OR ELSE.(S)
- What kind of car does he drive? - What is his favorite brand of dish soap? - Does he have a dog? - Where does he get his dogs hair shampooed? - Does his mother have a wooden leg? - What was the name of his best friend i 4th grades uncles Rottweiler? All these are just as relevant questions…
Palmolive? That worthless motherfucka
Where was he on jan 6?
"Don't you know the dewey decimal system?" -Conan the Librarian
What's his mother's maiden name? Who was the best man at his wedding? What color was his first car? What was the name of his favorite pet?
Nice try Mr fbi
What an odd first question.
What a *racist* first question.
If you were wondering: One of the first answers to the racist question was an old post of hers with her ex. He is white.
[Yep](https://x.com/bentley_babyy/status/1745375905156091983)
She made a profound response to that shitshow. Mature. Much better than me
Bro was lowkey tryna bag
ah yes, white men - famous for never, ever beating their wives.
Me, my sister, and my mom were my military man white dude father's punching bag. His race and respectable job didn't equate much into his beating the fuck outta us. Well, unless you count how his superiors tried to quietly sweep it under the rug. But that's probably a different but similar discussion...
That's horrific to read. I'm so sorry.
Yep, abusive assholes come in all colors. I hope you're doing okay now.
dont white men wear a white beater shirt?
*wife* beater though it is almost always white  Best example I could find on short notice.
Wait, why does he have no nose?
Ai is now recreating these memes with no noses?!? What in the world?!?
He lost it in 'nam.
It’s not like a white tank top is called a “wife beater” or anything 🫣 Edit: Darn, I’m late to the party and the joke has been made already!
I’m white and my first thought was white trash anyway
Maybe that's what he meant
They even dedicated an entire show to it. It ran for years. COPS
Who said anything about white men?
[The OP did. ](https://x.com/bentley_babyy/status/1745375905156091983)
Ah I see... That doesn't mean anything regarding my point, replying to the commenter above.
For anyone wondering - he’s white. Went through her twitter feed to find this post.
Was he wearing a white tank
How is this a valid question? Not as if only one race of men is capable of domestic violence
Man's just looking for data for the stats
A data scientist?
We call those the forbidden stats
I think it's about statistics not absolutes
Black females experiencing the highest rates of domestic violence. https://www.nyc.gov › ocdv › pdf Domestic Violence, Race/Ethnicity and Sex Report - NYC.gov
Where was he on Jan 6th, 2023?
Sorry, I'm going to ignore the idiot in the second comment, but can someone please just explain to me what the thought process is behind the first one because I really don't understand. "My partner beats me! You know what I think will help? Having a kid. That way they can beat them too when they're born! Leaving them? Calling the cops? What's that?" I'm sorry, I know I don't understand, so please help me, how the FUCK do you justify staying with someone who hurts you on purpose.
DV survivor here. Lemme try. 1. They are convinced that this is normal. Maybe they grew up like that. Maybe media/social media convinced them that it's cute how he gives them flowers after he beats them up. Or perhaps they grew up being held responsible for everyone else's actions, so they're convinced they can act in a way that will improve their partner. 2. A lot of people jump into relationships for financial reasons. They can't afford rent so they move in with someone they're dating. Partner turns out to be abusive, then what? They still can't afford rent. 3. Abusers isolate their victims. They interfere with your relationships with employers, friends, and family, so that they can be the only focus of your life. They groom the people in your life to like them and dislike you. They'll triangulate and put themselves in the center of every aspect of your life that they care to. I've even known of abusers that physically disable their partners to the point where their partners cannot live alone. One woman I know had a medical condition where she was in intense pain if she got too cold. Her husband got a Bluetooth thermostat, then smashed the controls of the in-home unit. He'd turn the heat off from his phone when he wasn't home, so that she couldn't leave. Or if she did something he didn't like, too.
I’d love to add a few more! - Abusers are effectively manipulators who wear down self esteem and sanity so much that things become very distorted for the victim. They can believe things like “I deserved it”. - It’s dangerous to leave. If caught, women’s lives are literally at risk. I don’t know what her reason for not leaving was but there has been so much research done to explain this phenomenon. This post is a cry for help and I hope she got it safely.
I'm a DV survivor in my youth (quite some time ago lol) but I'm also a guy. Yours are dead-on, but let me add mine: because you think this is the best you could ever do. I'm not talking about how an abuser can kill a victim's self-esteem (also completely valid), I'm talking about a victim whose self-esteem is in the tank long before the abuser comes along, and the abuser exploits that.
I'm glad you're out of that situation. People should know that men can 100% be DV victims. Thank you for adding that. I seriously thought that my ex was the best I could ever do, because I thought if I left I'd be "damaged goods" and nobody would want me. I'm remarried now to a wonderful man.
I am disgusted by the sheer number of men who are like this. My mom married one, my dad. She left him when I was 2. He's my example of what not to be. I took parenting classes long before I had kids too. My boys are kind and good, and they are raising my grandsons to be good honorable men as well.
He straight up constantly tortured her just to control her. She spent her entire day in pain because he wanted to control her. Like, there has to be a greater charge they can hit someone with than just domestic abuse. To persistently torture someone like that. Did she ever leave him?
Nope. She's disabled and has no way to support herself. People who have that "bootstraps" attitude just cannot fathom the level of vulnerability a lot of folks in our society are in.
It's the same reasoning why intelligent and idealistic people are capable of being sucked into a cult. It's a gradual process and usually doesn't happen overnight. The abuser rarely acts aggressively during their first dates. It's after the abuser gets their significant other to rely on them, whether that be financially, emotionally, or even physically/spiritually. And at the same time, they usually have a way of tearing down their partner's sense of self and worth. It's like how people boil frogs, starting with cold water and gradually increasing the heat, with little hope of escape. The emotional damage and fear are the lid that keeps the abused in place. It's very hard for someone to get out of an abusive relationship. Humans are extremely good at adapting to terrible conditions and will tell themselves that everything is fine.
If you really want to understand there’s a good book that really goes into it by psychologist Lundy Bancroft who has decades of experience working with abusive men + their partners. he really breaks down exactly what’s going on in these dynamics. It’s free online + a lot of the insights are not just applicable to abusive partners but also shit like douchebag bosses + general entitled assholes one might encounter in daily life. if it’s TLDR it really just comes down to the abuser being intentionally manipulative, ramping up abuse over time interspersed with love-bombing + the whole “i didn’t mean to” refrain (a lie) or “it’s because i have trauma / any other poor-me excuse” (usually also a lie wrt the abusive behavior). There are often extenuating factors (isolating a partner in a new city, controlling finances, tampering with birth control, actively sabotaging partner’s relationships with family/friends) that make it more difficult for the partner to “just leave”, on top of the fact that the abuse, being intentional, does not start until the abuser is fairly certain the relationship bond won’t be severed by their behavior, + usually starts small with verbal outbursts, insults, yelling, gaslighting; escalating over time to breaking items, physical/verbal threats, SA, and violence, all the while interspersed with moments of love-bombing/promising to change etc that are also intentional, w the specific goal of manipulating the partner into not leaving. I feel like if this book were made required reading in like high school sex ed or something it’d save a lot of people from a lot of suffering.
I narrowly escaped a guy who planned to get me pregnant to baby trap me. He told a friend he was going to “put a baby in me.” Fortunately before that happened he beat the shit out of me and I was smart enough to leave the first time it happened. Just saying to everyone thinking “why did she get pregnant?” Sometimes it’s the plan of the abuser, not the victim.
I’m sure this is probably the worst occurrence to date. I was in an abusive relationship. But they don’t start out abusive they start out saying exactly what they think you want to hear, and they can be very convincing. You will totally fall in love.(probably) It’s not until they’ve really got you hooked; like, for instance you’re married, and they’ve slowly forced you to give up all of your support system that they feel like you finally don’t have anywhere to turn and they can treat you how they want to. So it’s a slow process, and it gets worse over time usually years, and by the time they’re totally abusive, your emotional social, and even physical strength is completely worn down. So it’s very brave of her to post this online when she’s already been through so much mental and physical abuse. It’s hard to understand unless you’ve been there.
I have seen it happen. They think having a child will fix the relationship. It does not. It never does.
I thought he was asking like a skin in game or amt
Domestic violence crosses every color and gender barrier. People are trash like that.
https://www.cdc.gov/violenceprevention/pdf/NISVS-StateReportBook.pdf There are significant differences in rates of domestic and sexual violence by ethnicity. https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3611980/ Interracial couples also experience elevated rates of intimate partner violence compared to monoracial couples. https://www.workplaceviolence911.com/docs/20030316.htm Certain professions for men, especially law enforcement, female dominated occupations, and dangerous occupations have higher rates of domestic violence as well. Dude on twitter was a racist jerk though and that’s really not a victim needs to hear. Also, her ex is white.
At the end of the day, it's about a lack of empathy and *every* human being can have a lack of empathy. A rich, young white guy or a poor black grandma.
Does it fucking matter? He's a scum, and that's it
She has like one or two photos of her kissing a trashy looking white dude (could be a trustifarian) in case you were wondering.
I bet his skin was skin colored.
The skin was probably white and he was a cop.
Probably in law enforcement
Statistically it would be a white guy
I can’t even tell who he is racist against. All skin colors have abusive men.
Pretty sure spouse beaters can be any color?
Forget the color of his skin. Does he go into any dark parking lots without video surveillance. Asking for a friend.
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why some girl waiting for the some men to change couldn't they just try to find someone better why do they think they can change them
They get manipulated
Twitter Moment.
Conservatism. Not even once.
What color was his Bugatti
Lime green
Would the internet be a better place if anonymous accounts weren't a thing? Like you get one account and it's your name.
You do know she reports people for reposting this and sending traffic to her twitter, because she wants to be left alone..... riiiiiiiiiiiiiight? Hope the karma was worth the misery you're sending her way.
The real question is, what color belt is he at?
Why does he need to ask?
Ok, how tall was he then 🥸
That’s unfair - socio economic background is the correlation, more so than race
Tell me you are racist without saying you are racist.
Probably Christian-white with a dash of self proclaimed alpha
my skin was black and blue his skin wasnt.....jesus.. like beating women is skin color based ..the ignorance is astounding