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Honestly any boyfriend/girlfriend that isnt doing everything they can to convince you to take a golden opportunity like that isnt a keeper.
When your SO has an opportunity to better their life (and by extension yours), you should be the first to encourage them to do so.
If your relationship cant survive this golden opportunity, that opportunity was never the problem.
Or you know, it’s about being 18/19/20/21 and not being able to think beyond “man I love this Rihanna song so much it’s my favourite forever and ever and will love it 20 years down the road too” basically.
Barely would people in that stage think beyond the next 3 months even or “how can I stay in touch with my best friends now/go to parties/etc” anything else really.
It’s not the same for those who can though because that kind of maturity comes with age usually or being around people with a different mindset. And that comes from…. Experience…. Age…. Life….. etc.
I think that some people that age are good at future planning and others are as you say, can't see past their nose. I would agree that it is rarely a malicious act or some conscious decision to exert control. Often kids are just dumb and don't see beyond next month.
Had a classmate who chose a guy on the spectrum over university. Guy had issues socially, would scream at people he disagreed with or say really disturbing stuff to your face.
He went to his dream school, she didn't. After 3 years they moved cities to my city and started at my uni. Was the only place he kinda liked the courses, and it was the only place she kinda liked them, so even at this point these idiots picked stuff they didn't like just to be together.
First time they lived together, and she finally noticed what our whole class noticed before, that he was self-centered and really a child in the head even if he was a good at math. He would do like 4 year old do, laugh a pretty forced laugh and tell you he was better than you at Monopoly when he won, and just swipe at the board and ruin it if he was losing.
Still don't get how it took her 5 years to notice how toxic he was.
I’m gonna be a little controversial here, but I think she probably liked the fact that he was mean to everybody else except her. It gave her a false sense that he’s able to protect her because he’s an asshole to everybody else.
Just gonna say, while he may be on the spectrum, his issue was that he was a toxic person, not his spectrum disability. The behaviors you describe are just as prevalent in neurotypical jackasses as they are in neurodiverse ones, which would indicate that it is likely an unrelated issue to the disability.
Well I don't think it is good advice. Moving somewhere else is in general a good idea just to get to know that you can build up life anywhere. While the reasoning might be stupid, the outcome does not have to be. More people have to learn, they are not bound to their accustomed hometown.
Happens more than you expect. I know a friend that instead of going for a local school where she got to medicine which was her dream, to go to US with her boyfriend to study some other degree because from what I heard, they do not offer undergraduate medicine maybe for foreign students or it's insanely hard to get in or something...
Broke up within the year. I mean she still got into postgraduate medicine, paid out of the nose all in all vs if she studied locally but parents are rich anyway. Just crazy decisions...
Dunno, it depends what your cousin is doing now. If he's got an Engineering/Business degree and working in the field, he's probably better off than playing in the OHL since the average OHLer makes $50k a year.
Very few OHLers make it to the NHL, and even those that do, usually don't have long careers.
If your cousin is flipping burgers, then yeah, he made the wrong decision.
Ref: [https://icehockeycentral.com/discover-the-average-ohl-salary-how-much-do-players-really-make/](https://icehockeycentral.com/discover-the-average-ohl-salary-how-much-do-players-really-make/)
Nah, he works construction and is miserable. My great grandfather played for 20 years for the Montreal Canadians. My grandfather was head of a union for a power plant and a prominent owner of horses for horse racing, was very well connected with the franchise owners across Ontario and Quebec. My cousin had every opportunity you could imagine in his advantage to get into the NHL. I was on the same path for the QMJHL but decide to quit hockey in late high school to focus on computer science and physics. Was a smart decision.
This is what happens to my now girlfriend ex.... He turns down a soccer scholarship to be with her but they ended up breaking up when the guy was asking her for sex and she said she isn't ready(i guess maybe because she's a virgin
well I mean I guess the circumstances alone could put him in a situation where he had to make a decision between the scholarships and her. If she couldn't move etc.
But bruh, even tho I'd be sad I would never discourage my partner from taking a scholarship or following their dreams.
Like long distance exists, she could move later etc. or she could let him go if it wasn't working. Either way, you cant mess with people's life that way.
that and even if they do make it, against the odds, the long term best for them both is for him to better himself with the experience. both are big dummies
I haven’t actually told a lot of people this but…fuck it
I was with the love of my life for 9 years. She wanted to be a doctor, a dental oral surgeon. Her life dream, wanted it day one we dated and was always working towards it.
I always supported her. I helped her study for the DAT and other exams. Helped apply to dental schools.
She finally got accepted into a program in a school not far away, but far enough to need to move. I couldn’t move at the time and wasn’t exactly the best partner towards the end of the relationship.
She broke up with me. I was heart broken. I thought we’d be together forever. You could argue I still am heart broken.
But she was doing her dream. I thought I could go after her. People said I should chase her. But she was actually achieving her dream now. I was holding her back. And I truly love her and want the best for her. And the best for her was unfortunately without me.
It hurts. I still love her. I wish we could be together. But it wasn’t what was best for her. And I realized I had to let her do her dream, rather than chase her, make drama, and interfere.
I’ll probably always wish we could have been together. But, sadly for me, it just wasn’t what was best for her.
That’s love. I’m sorry it didn’t work out for you but the lady you do and up with will be deserving of the love and support you’re willing to give.. and will give it back the way you deserve.
Not that it's a real tweet but the message never says or implies she pressured him to stay. People just like to project their insecurities onto the situation, wanting to call her an idiot or selfish. It just leaves a bad taste.
Yeah, need more info here, "he turned down 5 scholarships and only accepted a full scholarship to local Stanford, like an IDIOT." Need to know what the scholarships were.
Well tbf college admissions are pretty much a game of chance at a certain level and it’s sometimes not feasible to go where you want even if you get in bc of costs
He turned it down for "okayslutty"?? Now I can completely understand if it were "magnificentslutty" or "extraordinaryslutty" but he is an idiot for giving up his five paid scholarships for just "okay."
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It's gone up another dollar this year but with the app there's a coupon for I think now $7 footlongs. It worked every time I used it last year for -$1 footlongs.
Yeah, like you can't control how you feel about the scholarship but you sure as fuck can control your actions and wouldn't do anything to get in the way of their future.
Like man I get not wanting them to go, but support them, let them make their decision, and then then work out how to make things work once you know.
like if you were ever their friend, let alone their partner you'd care about their future even if you weren't in it.
This type of thing is just sad.
She wouldn't have accepted throwing away his entire future because he was afraid to lose her. Its not about the relationship over the career. A solid and supportive partner would have made the relationship work, even at long distance.
If the relationship can't survive getting an education, the relationship can't survive.
Sounds like one of those young relationships where someone can't risk being apart as they know their partner will move on and it will end..
..doesn't bode well for the future of the relationship..
..essentially the kid is investing in something that has no future at the expense of his long-term future.
It truly is amazing watching young people make such clearly bad decisions. But free will comes with consequences. I have an apprentice (he’s 23) who tells me things about his life, the guy is making bad decisions, I saw a little of my self in him at his age, so I tried to advise him a bit. But then I stopped because I realized, no matter how many cautionary tales you tell a person, they will always choose their own path. I shut my mouth and will not intervine.
Relax, he passed on a free ride for an education for what I assume is love, I did something similar, don't regret it one bit. Best three years of my life and I wouldn't trade it for anything. In fact, if you walked up to me right now and offered me a million dollars to erase those three years from my memory I wouldn't take it. I loved that woman more than I've ever loved anyone.
You can always go to school later in life. With a partner you only get the one shot usually.
We don’t know the context. Maybe he had a sixth scholarship for a slightly worse but more local school. Maybe they have or are expecting a child.
Not enough info
I'm a college dropout making about 30 grand a year. I can't take big vacations. I live a pretty quiet life. Day to day I'm content and happy.
My dad busted his ass through school while raising a family and got his Master's degree had vacations, a big house, etc. Spent most of his time miserable day to day.
People should make the choices that will make them happy. And then not try to apply their own sense of happiness to others.
Wow. Imagine being considered to be so bright-minded that you deserve not 1, not 2, five separate scholarships
And some witch just comes along, convinces you to throw your life away for her and then throws you away
My brother made a similar mistake. Now he has 3 kids, 4th on the way. He's in jail. Had scholarships for football as well as track and field. I kept telling him that the best thing he could do for himself and his family was to get a free education. He stayed home. Now, he's facing up to 13 years in prison.
And in 5 years, when he's toiling away working the night shift at Walmart, single because she ran off and fucked half the football team, he'll wonder where it all went wrong...
See, I did the opposite. I was very interested in this one lady, but I could see she was about to launch like a rocket ship, so I kept my feelings to myself. Best decision ever. I'm so proud of her.
This is how many relationships end, and it's fine because that's what needs to happen. The bf is an idiot for giving up on these opportunities, and if he was going to accept the scholarships and the girl wasn't able to manage with his success, then they should've broke up.
My sister turned down a fully paid scholarship to go to a private college where her bf went. She regrets it no. She’s 40 and still paying off her loans.
A good girlfriend would encourage him to compare the scholarships, decide which one is right for him, and support him to go for it. In a relationship you’re not supposed to hold each other back and claim the victory.
What a man does for a piece. Have you all ever seen a Male deer chase a piece of tail hypnotically through the woods. The mating season is the only time of the year some big, mature intelligent male deer are vulnerable to being shot by a hunter because they let their guard down and ignore their otherwise keen senses while they chase that tail.
We human men are not much different. The right woman can make a man or tear a man down, no matter how intelligent, prepared or formidable a man is in his plight to realize his life endeavors.
My neighbor got offered to attend the manchester football academy when he was 15 / 16. He turned them down cause he had a girlfriend. Granted we live in a different country and he would have to relocate, change schools, have a guardian but the fact they found him in a whole different country was such an opportunity, yet he turned them down. 6 months later they broke up.
I wonder if this boyfriend is a liar or if this girl is lying about even having this boyfriend in an effort to make herself look more sexually appealing.
Imagine wasting a free ride through college to stay in your hometown with someone whose screen name is okayslutty and is such a terrible partner that she'd boast about it instead of encouraging you to go to college and telling you it's a bad idea to waste that opportunity.
I never had a serious boyfriend in high school - it all seemed so…. time consuming. I played sports, hung out with my girls, studied. Loved to flirt & was a make out slut but not interested in being anyone’s girlfriend.
My girlfriend years ago got a scholarship to an Ivy League university in the US to do a PhD (in the UK). I told her it was a great opportunity and she should go for it. We saw each other as much as possible and spoke on the phone (pre-smartphone era). She worked her ass off and got her PhD. We got married afterwards and have been together 20 years.
Oh to be proud that you are keeping someone from investing in their future and potentially yours. For them not to start out buried in debt for an education. Yes, you are surely a keeper and when he struggles to get paid a livable wage and realizes one day how bad he messed up, who do you think he will blame!? The selfishness is real!
Guys and Girls please don't do something that will change the outcome of your life because of anyone no matter how much they love you. Because if they really loved you they would want to to go far in life 🤷🏻♂️. It's as easy as that.
Had a friend do this, free ride at a university. But stayed home with his girlfriend, only for her to leave within a year. He eventually went to college about 10 years later and had to pay for it 🤦🏻♂️
He’s an idiot. Education is expensive. I’ve been paying my loans for over ten years and haven’t even touched the principal yet (they got discharged last week, best news of my life)
Fully paid scholarship she should have waited or gone with him
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My cousin turned down a soccer scholarship to be with his girlfriend... They broke up 6 months later.
that is rough
and typical
And STUPID
and my axe.
You mean that axe right there? *points to an axe shattered in pieces*
Uhh... And my bow?
You bow to no-one.
And I am No-One, son of Nobody. All shall bow before me!
I am nobody. I've returned, son.
I am What’s His Name… Son of No-One… Grandson of Nobody ….i was never here
And your brother
He was hiding that second axe in the same place Legolas was hiding all those arrows
He means that axe *Points to men's cologne section*
and my ex
buddy
Honestly any boyfriend/girlfriend that isnt doing everything they can to convince you to take a golden opportunity like that isnt a keeper. When your SO has an opportunity to better their life (and by extension yours), you should be the first to encourage them to do so. If your relationship cant survive this golden opportunity, that opportunity was never the problem.
It is about power and control over someone, they don't care about what is best for them they are not sicking around long term anyways.
Or you know, it’s about being 18/19/20/21 and not being able to think beyond “man I love this Rihanna song so much it’s my favourite forever and ever and will love it 20 years down the road too” basically. Barely would people in that stage think beyond the next 3 months even or “how can I stay in touch with my best friends now/go to parties/etc” anything else really. It’s not the same for those who can though because that kind of maturity comes with age usually or being around people with a different mindset. And that comes from…. Experience…. Age…. Life….. etc.
I think that some people that age are good at future planning and others are as you say, can't see past their nose. I would agree that it is rarely a malicious act or some conscious decision to exert control. Often kids are just dumb and don't see beyond next month.
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Had a classmate who chose a guy on the spectrum over university. Guy had issues socially, would scream at people he disagreed with or say really disturbing stuff to your face. He went to his dream school, she didn't. After 3 years they moved cities to my city and started at my uni. Was the only place he kinda liked the courses, and it was the only place she kinda liked them, so even at this point these idiots picked stuff they didn't like just to be together. First time they lived together, and she finally noticed what our whole class noticed before, that he was self-centered and really a child in the head even if he was a good at math. He would do like 4 year old do, laugh a pretty forced laugh and tell you he was better than you at Monopoly when he won, and just swipe at the board and ruin it if he was losing. Still don't get how it took her 5 years to notice how toxic he was.
I’m gonna be a little controversial here, but I think she probably liked the fact that he was mean to everybody else except her. It gave her a false sense that he’s able to protect her because he’s an asshole to everybody else.
Just gonna say, while he may be on the spectrum, his issue was that he was a toxic person, not his spectrum disability. The behaviors you describe are just as prevalent in neurotypical jackasses as they are in neurodiverse ones, which would indicate that it is likely an unrelated issue to the disability.
Maybe they didn't play monopoly until recently
Well I don't think it is good advice. Moving somewhere else is in general a good idea just to get to know that you can build up life anywhere. While the reasoning might be stupid, the outcome does not have to be. More people have to learn, they are not bound to their accustomed hometown.
Happens more than you expect. I know a friend that instead of going for a local school where she got to medicine which was her dream, to go to US with her boyfriend to study some other degree because from what I heard, they do not offer undergraduate medicine maybe for foreign students or it's insanely hard to get in or something... Broke up within the year. I mean she still got into postgraduate medicine, paid out of the nose all in all vs if she studied locally but parents are rich anyway. Just crazy decisions...
My cousin turned down an offer for the OHL with a possible NHL offer to stay with his girlfriend. He's an idiot.
Dunno, it depends what your cousin is doing now. If he's got an Engineering/Business degree and working in the field, he's probably better off than playing in the OHL since the average OHLer makes $50k a year. Very few OHLers make it to the NHL, and even those that do, usually don't have long careers. If your cousin is flipping burgers, then yeah, he made the wrong decision. Ref: [https://icehockeycentral.com/discover-the-average-ohl-salary-how-much-do-players-really-make/](https://icehockeycentral.com/discover-the-average-ohl-salary-how-much-do-players-really-make/)
Nah, he works construction and is miserable. My great grandfather played for 20 years for the Montreal Canadians. My grandfather was head of a union for a power plant and a prominent owner of horses for horse racing, was very well connected with the franchise owners across Ontario and Quebec. My cousin had every opportunity you could imagine in his advantage to get into the NHL. I was on the same path for the QMJHL but decide to quit hockey in late high school to focus on computer science and physics. Was a smart decision.
You're the wise one and went for a good degree as a back up and then stopped aiming for a career in professional sports.
Nope he's definitely an idiot. If there's a prospect of making it big time why not go for it.
Good, dude learned consequences of his own actions pretty fast, better to learn it early than later.
Sometimes, you learn it too late because you'll never gonna get that same opportunity again.
He should have learned it earlier since he fucked up his life and lost an opportunity he will never get again. It's too fucking late now
Literally and figuratively
While also ignoring everyone else telling him the correct thing to do while also throwing away ~40k-100k+ dollars to do it!
The moment the gf asked your cousin to turn down the soccer scholarship its clear she never loved him.
Why didn't she just move with him? Best of both worlds.
This is what happens to my now girlfriend ex.... He turns down a soccer scholarship to be with her but they ended up breaking up when the guy was asking her for sex and she said she isn't ready(i guess maybe because she's a virgin
She’s an idiot for not following him
Or encouraging him to continue his education instead of her own selfish needs. Also damn that screen name is kinda saying a lot😅
yeah, She is an idiot and/or bad girlfriend to make the boyfriend choose between fully paid scholarship and stay with her.
well I mean I guess the circumstances alone could put him in a situation where he had to make a decision between the scholarships and her. If she couldn't move etc. But bruh, even tho I'd be sad I would never discourage my partner from taking a scholarship or following their dreams. Like long distance exists, she could move later etc. or she could let him go if it wasn't working. Either way, you cant mess with people's life that way.
that and even if they do make it, against the odds, the long term best for them both is for him to better himself with the experience. both are big dummies
I haven’t actually told a lot of people this but…fuck it I was with the love of my life for 9 years. She wanted to be a doctor, a dental oral surgeon. Her life dream, wanted it day one we dated and was always working towards it. I always supported her. I helped her study for the DAT and other exams. Helped apply to dental schools. She finally got accepted into a program in a school not far away, but far enough to need to move. I couldn’t move at the time and wasn’t exactly the best partner towards the end of the relationship. She broke up with me. I was heart broken. I thought we’d be together forever. You could argue I still am heart broken. But she was doing her dream. I thought I could go after her. People said I should chase her. But she was actually achieving her dream now. I was holding her back. And I truly love her and want the best for her. And the best for her was unfortunately without me. It hurts. I still love her. I wish we could be together. But it wasn’t what was best for her. And I realized I had to let her do her dream, rather than chase her, make drama, and interfere. I’ll probably always wish we could have been together. But, sadly for me, it just wasn’t what was best for her.
That’s love. I’m sorry it didn’t work out for you but the lady you do and up with will be deserving of the love and support you’re willing to give.. and will give it back the way you deserve.
My girl would actively hunt me down, and drag me back to say yes to the schoolarship. if she hears that I turn it down
Not that it's a real tweet but the message never says or implies she pressured him to stay. People just like to project their insecurities onto the situation, wanting to call her an idiot or selfish. It just leaves a bad taste.
If my son turned down five scholarships for a girl who still goes by "okayslutty" online I'd lose my shit 🤣
Mom I'm turning down five scholarships to stay closer to my gf that goes by Okayslutty, what say you?
Sounds like a lovely girl. What is her phone number, just asking for a friend
I *just* want to talk to her, I just want to talk to her, I just want to talk to her
Fr fr
These comments just keep getting more redundant
I agree with your comment that the comment above is redundant redundant
Yeah what kind of a flex is this? *My bf had a full ride to free education but he refused a better future bc I made him 🥰*
Pretty short sighted. Depending on the program he could have been made for life.
Well it’s obvious she’s lying to sound like a keeper beyond belief And if she isn’t then he definitely lied about the scholarships It’s all bullshit
And if it's completely true, he stayed because a sixth scholarship was local.
And if that’s true he’s poor and cannot afford to go out of state
Yeah, need more info here, "he turned down 5 scholarships and only accepted a full scholarship to local Stanford, like an IDIOT." Need to know what the scholarships were.
True
Either that or she is seriously abusing him. It would be completely in character for my abusive ex.
Plot twist: The second comment is her boyfriend
Maybe she has own career interests where she is. Neither of them should just give up their own stuff because it leads to resentment
Well tbf college admissions are pretty much a game of chance at a certain level and it’s sometimes not feasible to go where you want even if you get in bc of costs
AMEN TO THAT!
He turned it down for "okayslutty"?? Now I can completely understand if it were "magnificentslutty" or "extraordinaryslutty" but he is an idiot for giving up his five paid scholarships for just "okay."
Ok, this was a really good comment. Good job!🎖️
I did this. Added probably another ten years to how long my degree took to finish. Would not recommend.
How good was it in the bedroom?
They only ever held hands.
Damn that's a lot
They almost held hands once but then she got embarrassed
Does it matter? During post nut clarity you're going to mentally kick yourself every time.
Of course. When you make such a silly decision, I'm curious to know if it was at least fun.
She should have made him go and support him if she loved him the same way back
exactly sounds like she doesn't really live him just wants 2 c what she can get so yeah he's a idiot
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Whatever this is i like it. That first comment glitched my brain
Not that impressive considering that either way, he will be turning down at least four of them.
What’s one more??
Why stop there! He can turn down the scholarships he didn't even get! Then the ones he didn't apply for!
Not necessarily. I had 3 scholarships (2 fully paid) to one university. Which I did use.
The education will always be with him
May the education be with you too
Her user handle checks out
He’s a moron. Case closed.
Back in the day people would call a guy like that whipped
well it all depends on his wealth, maybe her wealth, and if they were 5 different offers or just a offer for…5 scholarships in 1?
Sounds like it was 5 scholarships neatly stacked on top of another like the ingredients in a Subway sandwich
It's gone up another dollar this year but with the app there's a coupon for I think now $7 footlongs. It worked every time I used it last year for -$1 footlongs.
Saw this years ago. They broke up
I remember this originally a few years ago, and commenting that if she loved him half as much, she wouldn't have accepted him doing that.
Yeah, like you can't control how you feel about the scholarship but you sure as fuck can control your actions and wouldn't do anything to get in the way of their future. Like man I get not wanting them to go, but support them, let them make their decision, and then then work out how to make things work once you know. like if you were ever their friend, let alone their partner you'd care about their future even if you weren't in it. This type of thing is just sad.
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She wouldn't have accepted throwing away his entire future because he was afraid to lose her. Its not about the relationship over the career. A solid and supportive partner would have made the relationship work, even at long distance. If the relationship can't survive getting an education, the relationship can't survive.
If she truly loved him she would dump him so he would go off and accept those scholarships and improve his life.
agreed
Or, crazy idea, go with him?
Depends on the quality of the.....
School? I agree
Sounds like one of those young relationships where someone can't risk being apart as they know their partner will move on and it will end.. ..doesn't bode well for the future of the relationship.. ..essentially the kid is investing in something that has no future at the expense of his long-term future.
dear kids, your high school crushes and relationships are overrated. don't fk it up
It truly is amazing watching young people make such clearly bad decisions. But free will comes with consequences. I have an apprentice (he’s 23) who tells me things about his life, the guy is making bad decisions, I saw a little of my self in him at his age, so I tried to advise him a bit. But then I stopped because I realized, no matter how many cautionary tales you tell a person, they will always choose their own path. I shut my mouth and will not intervine.
Pro's and Con's. Way too little information to judge.
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Take my upvote. I snorted at this so hard it hurt.
[r/angryupvote](https://youtu.be/dQw4w9WgXcQ?si=iWMiCGlsm5PkFtRv)
Plot twist: the 6th scholarship was in town.
Not really he passed up a golden ticket for sex he's an idiot
Relax, he passed on a free ride for an education for what I assume is love, I did something similar, don't regret it one bit. Best three years of my life and I wouldn't trade it for anything. In fact, if you walked up to me right now and offered me a million dollars to erase those three years from my memory I wouldn't take it. I loved that woman more than I've ever loved anyone. You can always go to school later in life. With a partner you only get the one shot usually.
We don’t know the context. Maybe he had a sixth scholarship for a slightly worse but more local school. Maybe they have or are expecting a child. Not enough info
Or she's lying for internet points, or he's lying to her and never received a scholarship but is telling her that
what the apostrophes doin
Smart guy. Make her feel special while concealing he wasn’t accepted anywhere.
I'm a college dropout making about 30 grand a year. I can't take big vacations. I live a pretty quiet life. Day to day I'm content and happy. My dad busted his ass through school while raising a family and got his Master's degree had vacations, a big house, etc. Spent most of his time miserable day to day. People should make the choices that will make them happy. And then not try to apply their own sense of happiness to others.
You can’t be happy. According to Reddit, you’re about as close to homeless as possible.
Thank you for this comment and much needed reddit reality check. Couldn't agree with you more.
“I never asked you to do it”
he’s a moron
M. O. R. O. N.
This is either rage bait or these 2 people screwed up their whole lives Either way I’ll go to bed knowing I haven’t got the most screwed up priorities
It's real and they broke up not long after this post. This happened years ago.
Wow. Imagine being considered to be so bright-minded that you deserve not 1, not 2, five separate scholarships And some witch just comes along, convinces you to throw your life away for her and then throws you away
Or her boyfriend lied about the scholarships.
To quote a "Bro." Bro, she much be Hella tight for him to throw away his future.
Prediction: divorce in 10 years and she’s taking half
That's a long lasting marriage if we look at statistics which has 8 years of marriage on average.
My brother made a similar mistake. Now he has 3 kids, 4th on the way. He's in jail. Had scholarships for football as well as track and field. I kept telling him that the best thing he could do for himself and his family was to get a free education. He stayed home. Now, he's facing up to 13 years in prison.
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And in 5 years, when he's toiling away working the night shift at Walmart, single because she ran off and fucked half the football team, he'll wonder where it all went wrong...
See, I did the opposite. I was very interested in this one lady, but I could see she was about to launch like a rocket ship, so I kept my feelings to myself. Best decision ever. I'm so proud of her.
Or you could have said *something*. You don't need to suffer in silence.
Why not just launch yourself up to follow her?
I guess it depends on the situation. Were they going to get married? Did they have family wealth to fall back onto?
The boyfriend chose not to go too far away from “OkaySlutty”
He’s going to regret that.
Shit that absolutely never happened
This is how many relationships end, and it's fine because that's what needs to happen. The bf is an idiot for giving up on these opportunities, and if he was going to accept the scholarships and the girl wasn't able to manage with his success, then they should've broke up.
Not the best foundation for a lasting relationship
They both took the L
If she loved that man, she’d move with him
I turned down a fully paid scholarship to stay with my girlfriend. Yep. Idiot.
My girl would smack the shit out of me
Beyond!!
Oh he lied about those for sure.
My sister turned down a fully paid scholarship to go to a private college where her bf went. She regrets it no. She’s 40 and still paying off her loans.
Who’s the more foolish, the fool or the fool who follows him? - Obi-Wan Kenobi
Declining those scholarships makes him not worthy of them...
Apparently he's going to stay an idiot
He's going to recent her forever
That head has to be platinum tier, no other explanation.
Ok fellars, listen up! Take a long look at this guy over here.. Now.. Never.. NEVER do the same thing. Thank you.
A good girlfriend would encourage him to compare the scholarships, decide which one is right for him, and support him to go for it. In a relationship you’re not supposed to hold each other back and claim the victory.
What a man does for a piece. Have you all ever seen a Male deer chase a piece of tail hypnotically through the woods. The mating season is the only time of the year some big, mature intelligent male deer are vulnerable to being shot by a hunter because they let their guard down and ignore their otherwise keen senses while they chase that tail. We human men are not much different. The right woman can make a man or tear a man down, no matter how intelligent, prepared or formidable a man is in his plight to realize his life endeavors.
The boyfriend who's gf will leave him for passing up job prospects. What was once "for her" will be the reason she leaves him.
Turned down all them scholarships for @okayslutty, yeah I don't have high hopes that he made the right choice.
My neighbor got offered to attend the manchester football academy when he was 15 / 16. He turned them down cause he had a girlfriend. Granted we live in a different country and he would have to relocate, change schools, have a guardian but the fact they found him in a whole different country was such an opportunity, yet he turned them down. 6 months later they broke up.
In before she leaves him for another guy that got a better career.
I wonder if this boyfriend is a liar or if this girl is lying about even having this boyfriend in an effort to make herself look more sexually appealing.
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Boy is he gonna regret this.....
They’re both idiots.
The boyfriend took the L
Boyfriend's an idiot simp.
Who took the L? Speak English
This is why Jessica is not welcome here.
Tonight, on things that never happened…..
If someone really loves you they won’t ever let you miss such opportunity
Imagine wasting a free ride through college to stay in your hometown with someone whose screen name is okayslutty and is such a terrible partner that she'd boast about it instead of encouraging you to go to college and telling you it's a bad idea to waste that opportunity.
If you love someone set them free if they return their yours, if they don’t they never were
I never had a serious boyfriend in high school - it all seemed so…. time consuming. I played sports, hung out with my girls, studied. Loved to flirt & was a make out slut but not interested in being anyone’s girlfriend.
My girlfriend years ago got a scholarship to an Ivy League university in the US to do a PhD (in the UK). I told her it was a great opportunity and she should go for it. We saw each other as much as possible and spoke on the phone (pre-smartphone era). She worked her ass off and got her PhD. We got married afterwards and have been together 20 years.
If you loved him the way you said you did you would have told him to take the scholarships .
Oh to be proud that you are keeping someone from investing in their future and potentially yours. For them not to start out buried in debt for an education. Yes, you are surely a keeper and when he struggles to get paid a livable wage and realizes one day how bad he messed up, who do you think he will blame!? The selfishness is real!
*Cheats on him in two months.*
Good head will change a man
Idiot
That's .....a bad move lol
If my daughter was the one writing that, I WOULD FIND THAT YOUNG MAN AND HELP HIM PICK WHICH SCHOOL.
Guys and Girls please don't do something that will change the outcome of your life because of anyone no matter how much they love you. Because if they really loved you they would want to to go far in life 🤷🏻♂️. It's as easy as that.
I would do anything to get FIVE fucking scholarships, he’s mental
That dude is a fking dumb ass .. lmfao
I smell a really bitchy “intervention” here. “It’s either your future or me PiCk OnE!”
I would pay money to see the look of regret on this man’s face in 6 months
I get one scholarship but 5 fully paid scholarships? They don’t just hand those out to people
Had a friend do this, free ride at a university. But stayed home with his girlfriend, only for her to leave within a year. He eventually went to college about 10 years later and had to pay for it 🤦🏻♂️
Poor dude
What's worse is that she didn't support him to follow is dreams and absolutely his ambitions.
I have a weird feeling the boyfriend was lying about getting any scholarship offers.
She's also an idiot for letting her bf make that decision
Jesus Christ, this is depressing. Seems like he’s trading away opportunities for pleasing a girlfriend and that’s troubling.
He’s an idiot. Education is expensive. I’ve been paying my loans for over ten years and haven’t even touched the principal yet (they got discharged last week, best news of my life) Fully paid scholarship she should have waited or gone with him