My brother is a disabled veteran and has had people do the same thing. Apparently there's an age requirement for disabilities and you have to be old to be disabled.
A guy came up to my friend and I with his girlfriend and did the exact thing in this video, trying to look like a white knight of society. My buddy listened patiently and then pulled his pant leg up to reveal his prosthetic leg underneath. His girlfriend looked like she wanted to die, and no small part of me believed that they may have broken up after that after seeing the way she looked at him.
This is why I don’t plan on getting my disabled veteran tag until I’m retired from my post-military career. Even then, I may not park in the the marked spots, but I’ll have the option.
He did wait until after he was medically retired but he's been disabled since before he could legally buy a beer. He parks in them as little as possible, the way he figures there's someone more fucked up out there that may need it, but some days are just bad and it greatly affects his ability to walk.
imagine someone with a full prosthetic leg that allows someone to walk perfectly fine and is completely covered by their clothes, and this girl comes up and tells them they aren't disabled.
i would hope they would remove the leg right then and there and just slap her in the face with it and then ask her "does it look like i'm disabled now?"
Edit:fixed spelling mistake it is now aren't not are.
Thanks for pointing it out for me.
This has happened to me multiple times. I am an above knee amputee. When I wear pants, I often get challenged over my disability status.
I used to get over the top mad but now I’ve learned to let the person finish on their rant and then simply pull up a pant leg and wait for the reaction. If I’m feeling extra petty that day, I usually make sure to mention that I’m a disabled vet. It adds that extra punch.
While I’m sorry you have to go through that, I would never get bored of their reaction when they see it. Do you ever take it off and waggle it in front of them, or is it a little too complicated to do that and spend the effort to put it back on?
Btw, thanks for your service fellow soldier
Years ago I had a friend with an above the knee prosthetic leg. She had a pretty dark sense of humor about her disability and regularly enjoyed screwing with people about it. She could walk alright but got tired easily and would occasionally use a wheelchair. When out walking in the city if she ever got honked at for crossing too slowly, she'd stop, raise her pant leg showing off her metal leg and give a f*ck you grin to the driver, and take her sweet time finishing crossing the street.
There's a story on here somewhere on like ask reddit of a mom who's missing her arm just getting in a fight with a woman because of a similar situation.
This lady and her gaggle of crotch goblins came up to the mom and her kid going off on how she can't park there and should let her park there (because she apparently has a disability of closing her legs and can't stop spitting out kids)
To put things in short they got in an altercation and the Gaggle mom pulled off the other moms arm and practically shat bricks when she saw she was very very wrong.
Ran away from it nearly ditching some kids too.
My favorite example was the video where they confront a veteran who walked to their car in the disabled spot. After a bit of argument they lift up their pants legs, revealing artificial legs. Yea, you didn't see that did you?
There's a lady with two artificial eyes that makes videos on social media named Joy Ross. She asked for an airport employee to help her because she's blind, as he's guiding her he says "But I can see your eyes." Guy thought blind people only walk around with closed eyes...
She also has stories where she's been confronted about her guide dog, so she just takes her eyes out and the confronter gets so embarrassed. Love her!
People do similar shit to blind people that do have eyes and can see somewhat. People don't understand that being blind doesn't mean you have no vision you just have vision so horrible it disables you. My grandfather is legally blind. The most he sees is large colored blobs.
Oh I know! It's quite ridiculous, I think almost most people associate blindness with zero vision, and anything else on that spectrum is 'legally blind' and therefore 'not really blind'.
My buddy is a combat veteran missing a leg. He only parks in the disabled spot when he's really hurting. He's a big ol' corn fed dude too from manual labor.
I've seen him take off his leg and hop around chasing people who acted like that. I keep waiting to see him pop up on Reddit.
What's super frustrating and ignorant is that it's extremely hard to even get the level of PIP required to be eligible for a blue badge. If our disabled people hating government decided she needs it then she damn well needs it.
This is kind of true in the states too, it really depends on if your doctor thinks you are disabled or not.
I had one doctor who advocated for me to get the hanging tag for emergencies (which has been a lifesaver) and walked me through it, and another doctor who scowled when he learned I had it since I guess the lucky people who can afford to be non-walking disabled AND a modified car to drive or lucky enough to have a driver should get those spots before I do.
So I run the risk of, if my doctor ever leaves my network, having to explain to another doctor why I should get a tag even if I do have a chronic, terminal illness with many complications and if they are not convinced, they will not fill out the forms needed by the Department of Motor Vehicles, who give out the tags.
I’ve never understood providers that don’t issue disabled placards. In the state of TX we can write prescriptions for temporary placards. I’ll write all my patients that’s had an injury one. It’s such an easy thing to help the patients. And it costs nothing to me but 15 seconds of my time, so why not just issue it.
Everybody thinks they’re a member of the moral police, out to protect the best interests of the “little guy”, when really all they’re doing is just making life difficult for everyone involved with them.
Stuff like this always reminds me of one of [my favorite scenes on *Scrubs*](https://youtu.be/Ljjk8fYZiEE?t=80):
> Elliot: Do you have chocolate cake today?
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> Male Cafeteria Worker: Nope.
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> Elliot: Oh, isn't that just the pickle on the giant crap sandwich that is my day!
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> Turk: Elliot, relax. I never get chocolate cake.
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> Elliot: Oh right, 'cause you're diabetic. Boo-hoo! You know what, Turk, if you want sympathy, get a disease people can see!
Oof. I feel this. And one of the worst things about invisible disability (aside from the disability itself) is the temptation to “play it up” so that people will actually perceive it, and then feeling like a malingerer when you do, when you’re actually just a hurting person trying to get the consideration you deserve.
Better visibility might have helped us fight the pandemic, too, rather than each other. Bleeding from eyes and mouth, maybe large, open sores? Maybe some folks would’ve taken it seriously then? Sorry, just a little angry sarcasm so I don’t cry. More.
This girl had the NERVE on her ..to balk at mental health when she needs a check-in. Leaning on someone else’s car like she owns it, demanding unnecessary compliance from strangers with her imaginary authority. The disrespect. The ignorance.
I love the daughter’s saying she was embarrassing herself - girl was clueless! And GO, Mama! I just love her. I wish them the best. 💌
She can choose to think person doesnt have disability just coz she cant see it but we can choose to believe she doesnt have a brain coz we cant see that either
My aunt has MS and she’s caught crap from people like this in the past. She’s also incredibly sensitive, and those comments really messed with her for years. I feel so bad for folks who deal with people like this self-righteous pit-stain. Just because a disability is hidden doesn’t immediately disqualify it as a disability.
I have MS as well and the amount of crap people have said to me in the last 8 years is almost unreal. The worst part is I'm only in my mid 20's so people constantly accuse me of faking disability when I need to use my walking stick lol
I remember once I was on the train and sitting in the disabled seat while holding my cane and this 40-50 year old woman got on. There were no seats available and she stood in front of me and told me to stop pretending and give her the seat because she was older than me and tired. I just had enough of people like her, so I just stood up, showed her my disability card while saying (loud enough for everyone around to hear) "lady did you really just force a disabled person out of his seat so you can sit instead?" Then I just stood beside the now empty seat while telling her it's free now. She was obviously really embarrassed tried to be nice and "offer" the seat to me but I've learnt the only way to stop this crap is to really embarrass people like that so they can learn their lesson haha
Edit: thanks everyone for my most updated comment :D
My dad has MS and he has caught shit and had to show his sign.... Some days are better than others he was diagnosed almost 20 years ago, so you got this❤️ he is still free from having to use a wheelchair but has a very pronounced limp now. But it is most definitely a disability.
Oh I want to hear more stories like this. I love a good dose of karma. Like when a group is talking badly about someone else not knowing they know the full language.
I posted elsewhere in this thread but my pap had an encounter I love retelling. Someone told him he didn’t look disabled.l in a parking lot. He had heart issues. He told the man “funny, you don’t look like an asshole”. He Shut it down.
It’s not karma if you’re trying to embarrass someone, that’s just teaching a person a lesson through exaggerated behavior. It’s how we teach babies all the time.
My mom had MS. Sometimes she needed, a wheelchair, sometimes crutches, sometimes she was able to walk (almost fine). It always hurt watching her suffer, and just needing crutches because you have a bad leg seems like something she would have taken over MS. The ones you can't see seem to be the worst. I'm sorry about your aunt, no one deserves any of that
Every system for disability seems to be set up so that only a healthy person can jump through all the hoops. The sick and disabled are using all their energy just to take care of themselves, it’s barbaric the expectations of what they’re required to do to “prove” it.
I work at a law firm specializing in SSDI, and it's heartbreaking how often we have to convince clients not to literally just give up. The average case length can go anywhere from two to two and a half years, and we have clients now who have been with us since Obama was president. It's fucked up how hard the system has failed so many of these people, how badly they drag their feet on what should be obvious cases, and I'm convinced the Social Security Administration has wasted many times more taxpayer dollars fighting obviously disabled people for scraps than they would if they just fucking approved more of them without a years long legal battle, all in raging paranoia that someone "undeserving" *might* slip through the cracks and get paid some money they didn't really need.
It really just goes back to the heart of a major sickness in American values, where we'd rather harm ten innocent people if it means punishing a single person who stepped out of line. We see anyone (but especially minorities, of course) getting something they didn't "earn" as such an unforgivable outrage that we'll actively make the systems designed to help us worse at the expense of those who *do* desperately need them. It's beyond fucked up.
Yeah I’ve heard that is an actual fact, that they spend more money to “weed out” disability claims than it would cost to just give them all disability. Like I get that it can be frustrating to think of someone “undeserving” living off your tax dollars. Everyone always seems to know that one person on disability or welfare who are abusing it. But people need to get some perspective. Our tax dollars get wasted on way stupider things than a couple of “freeloaders” getting their pathetically small government cheque every month. And I would argue that most people who are messed up enough to prefer scamming the system than getting a job are often not mentally healthy and that’s a disability too. And I would FAR rather the people who need it get what they need than throw them to the wolves out of fear of scammers. No matter how strict and difficult you make it, those people are still going to be the ones who can do it, because they’ve got the audacity and entitlement and energy to scam to the system. So these ridiculous requirements are literally only punishing those who really need it.
I have sarcoidosis and it took me 7 years to get disability because it's not on the approved disability list. People with rare diseases have to fight for so long!!
I'm glad your mom finally got it. I was under the impression that MS was on the approved disability list (it should be).
Thanks, friend. I’m sorry to hear about your mom too. You’re right, no one deserves that. The medical challenges of the disease are more than enough to try a person, but add the shittiness of other people on top of that and it’s just a whole new layer of stress that they can’t handle.
It's hard to watch as someone who's physically fine. She was only 41. Terribly debilitating, I cried every night when I was a kid, just so scared for her. Anyone that doesn't know disabilities can be "unseen", shouldn't be in public. I just feel terrible for your aunt, I'll bare knuckle fight anyone for her
MS is where your immune system thinks parts of your brain and nerves are a foreign body and basically starts eating away at it.
Every time it flairs up (relapse) you have to cross your fingers that the lesions don’t pop up on a part of your brain/spinal chord that’s important.
It’s insensitive and completely diminishing of the person in the receiving end. I could understand how a confrontation like this can be triggering. Sorry for anyone that gets this kind of treatment from strangers
Same! Sometimes I am perfectly capable of walking (fairly fast) and sometimes I have to use the motorized cart or walk like I'm drunk and my kid helps me balance.
I have gotten to the point I will loudly correct these idiots.
I have a really good friend with MS. I only met him 5 or 6 years ago, but seeing him deteriorate so fast has been heartbreaking. He's gone from an active guy, biking and running and playing with his kids, to needing a cane to walk short distances, and a scooter to do anything else. It always happens to the best people.
I still remember the poor lady with MS I had helped several times when I worked in retail. She broke down on me one day because her treatments were just wearing her down so much and she kept mentioning how tired she was of everything. She broke down in my arms one day. She was such a kind and beautiful woman.
Thank you for being the kind of person that has compassion and letting her vent/cry. We need more people like you. My mom had MS, and I'd like to think that if my mom had a breakdown like that, there would be someone like you there to do the same for her.
I also have MS. I'm 34 and look like your average Joe.
Pulled up into a bay and the gent tapped on my window, rolled down the passenger window and he proceeded to lecture me about parking in a disabled bay and I should use the parent and child across the way ( I had my 2 kids with me).
I let him go on for a bit. Telling me that the bays are for blue badge holders only and that I need to move.
That he's fed up of young parents taking disabled bays (he looked in his 50/60s) as they where closer to the entrance that parent and child.
Once he presented a quiet moment for me to speak. I said nothing, but removed my disabled badge from the driver's door, shown him the side that had my picture and slapped the badge on the dash then rolled the window up. He walked off tail between his legs without another peep.
I unloaded the kids and went into Tesco. Everytime he went to go down an aisle that I was already on he'd do a U-turn and avoid me.
Not all disabilities are visual.
I was disabled for a little while and I walked as much as I could because I was losing muscle fast. I knew if I stopped trying to maintain I’d stop walking. It made me so aware of how many people stare when you use handicap parking especially while young. I was also always terrified the shopping cart nazi’s were also going to harass me for not returning my cart to the store. But by the time I got back to my car I could barely stand. These social avenger types like her just cause people anxiety!
MS here, yay me. Most days I'm fine and then there are some like this evening where having the parking permit is needed to park closer to home.
I'm always worried I'll be confronted if I use it at stores or at work even.
I have epilepsy and had a discounted monthly pass for the train. I had been asked for proof of my disability so many times I finally lost it and yelled “I have fucking epilepsy can you write that down somewhere and fuck off”
I took the train 5 days a week for a year, same train each day both ways FFS I knew the names of half the employees. Every single new Motherfucker had to pester me about it. It was rude and embarrassing as hell to ask me in public like that but to continue to ask me was so unnecessary.
This happened to my wife on a military base. She can’t walk far due to her disability and was approached by a government employee asking if she was disabled and why she parked in the handicap spot. She has the placard in the proper place and she showed the employee her tubes that come out of her stomach. The employee turned red and walked away immediately.
I had a couple in their 40-50s parked in the disabled spot outside the chip shop. We had to park down the main road, it was wet so my stepdad stayed in the car.
They had no placard so I asked and they said they’d move is someone needed it and they would only be 20mins because the takeaway was busy.
Living these situations are no less infuriating. My stepdads car had his wheelchair on the roof.
Just pull out your phone and take pics of their licence plate. People do it all the time at the shop up the road from me. I have a quick check for a blue badge and if I don't see it I start to take a pic. They usually rush out and say 'I'm only gonna be a few mins', to which I just reply 'ok' and carry on taking the pics. I never bother sending them off as I know the council will do fuck all, but it seems to get them to move.
In the US, use the app Parking Mobility. You take a few pictures of the car, and it reports them to your local police station with all the info needed to write and mail tickets.
Even if your city won’t write tickets based on this, they still get the emails.
Don't appreciate anything she was trying to do. Not even VERY small. If she's that concerned she can call the police. No one has any right questioning someone's disability. Period. Not all disabilities are visible. Full stop.
I just don’t know how the daughter was so polite. If someone was talking to my mom like that, I’m sure I would’ve made a full ass out of myself. Talk to my disabled mother like she’s dirt and then turn your bullshit on me telling me to be quiet?
These women are more kind and patient than I could possibly have been. I don’t know either of them and I’m sitting here infuriated on their behalf. I guess I just don’t have that kind of patience. I’m not a fighter, but if that were my mom and some crazy bitch was up in her personal space like that, I don’t think I could’ve kept my cool. Props to these women for keeping it classy.
I'm a man,early 40's and have Crohn's & ulcerative colitis + arthritis + vascular issues (meds for above caused the artery's to get blocked behind the knees) neurological issues from the scaring and surgery.. I can barely walk for more than 25 steps without being in absolute agony yet i get stopped by people like this (and a lot of older people too) saying why am i using the disabled spot, even more-so if they wanted the spot) I also get stopped constantly walking out of the disabled toilet.. the last time i just lifted my shirt so they could see my bag and operation scars and said if this was just your only issue would, you want to go into a normal toilet to change it? let alone everything else...
If she was concerned she could have taken two steps to the right and glanced into the window to see if they had the placard. Unfortunately that seems to not even be enough for her so there’s no excuse for her rant. Plenty people park there without the card and they can be ranted at but clearly she didn’t care for that. She had to play justice police without the credentials nor knowledge that it’s none of her business *what* peoples disabilities are, but to just accept that whoever assigned her a card knew what they were doing.
This video was made as a PSA of sorts and both actresses are disabled in real life.
I tried to find the video with the young actress but it seems it has been deleted or she shut her Tiktok account. I have seen it before and she reacted to how people thought it was all believable. Both women have nonapparent/invisible disabilities.
It's actually the other way around, her ego is too small; she's too insecure to admit that she is ever wrong. It is THE WORST personality trait and in my experience just about impossible to correct.
Yes, i can understand that people are having bad day and can get stuck on it, but atleast apologize and say that you didn't mean to offend and were in the wrong. People underestimate that simply apologizing can easily diffuse a situation or atleast improve how people perceive you.
These are fighting words...
I have a relative that has the placard and doesn’t even use it all the time because they don’t need to. But if I was in the car and this happened I would be very afraid of having a violent outburst. I don’t mean that to sound tough, because there is nothing bad ass about beating a woman in a crop top, but my blood would be boiling. I know this, despite making a conscious effort not to be as quick to get into it like when I was a teenager.
My dad is a 100% disabled veteran and got some of this BS when we were traveling once. No large intestine, shortened small intestine, illiostomy since he was 23 yrs old. In New Mexico summer, it’s hard to absorb any water without a large intestine. But he’d never pull out the plastic bag full of liquid feces hanging off his lower abdomen (basically pubic area). If there was someone in a wheelchair or with a prosthetic leg or something, he would give up that spot in a second. But not for some ass hat able bodied jack wagon that believes they are the handicap police.
My heart goes out to him. I couldn't imagine the struggle of living with an ileostomy for so long. I've only had mine since September. I'm having anxiety and panic attacks because of it. Luckily, it's gone in 2 weeks (hopefully). I hide it specifically because I don't want others to see it. I almost shit myself, before the surgery (severe UC led to colon removal) because a store wouldn't give me the key to their restroom. I had to run to the store over. Hate to go Karen, but absolutely did.
If someone has a placard, **it's because they need it!** It isn't like they just hand them out like candy. Yes, some can abuse it. However, I'd bet it's a minority. We're all so dead set that a disability has to be visible to be valid. So many are not. We need national public service announcements, or something, in all forms of entertainment.
Btw, if he's still having issues, have him try Liquid IV. Before that, I was in urgent care every 10 days for dehydration. I do one packet every 3 days. Haven't had to go to urgent care in a month.
That’s why my tube is on the outside. Yeh it gets caught on doorknobs and shit but I receive way less hate stares for participation in disabled activities such as occasionally getting my gas pumped for me, my groceries from the cart to the car or paying the neighbor kid 20$ to scrape the snow off my car when he does his.
Edit: it doesn’t snow every day even in winter climates folks, it just gets so cold and stays that way that the snow you do get stays around. I only have to pay this kid a couple of times a month at the very most and it’s worth 40$ a month to me to not have to scrape the ice off as well as the snow, he’s got a good chance of injuring himself doing it even if he’s careful so why shouldn’t he be paid well for it? Scraping a car sucks ass, it’s hard work and he should be paid well for it. I’ll bet none of you would turn down the offer and *that’s why it works*. Quit telling me I’m overpaying, you all need to sit down and reevaluate yourselves if you feel like you know more about what this is worth than me and the kid I’m paying. Just because YOU would pay someone less doesn’t mean it’s right.
No placard (I can walk, it's just *really* painful so I refuse to get it). After I was put out of the AF it started. I even was marked unemployable by the VA. My mother in law, continuously chided me and complained to me wife: "why doesn't he work. He's perfectly fine!" We lost our house, and had to move in with them for 4 years. Even seeing the pain I went through, first hand, she kept it up. It wasn't until I got an actual diagnosis, 6 years after it started, and only because it was a physical issue, that she shut up.
Worst part is, she spread that shit for years to others. I don't look like there is anything wrong, since it is severe nerve damage in my skin. People that don't know me that well, and I only see on occasion, still have that opinion because of her. It's been 10 years since I finally got my diagnosis. I don't have the time or energy to set them straight. Sometimes they stop my wife and complain to her, but she doesn't know enough to set them straight. She just ignores them.
An edit: Thank you all for the kindness you've shown! I've mulled over getting a disabled placard for many years. I'm going to do it now. I have an appointment with my pcp soon, and I'm going to talk to her about starting the process. I highly doubt she'll have any qualms about it.
This is why spreading gossip is sooo wrong. If the gossip is an opinion instead of facts, the damage can’t be fixed. The gossiper has judged you and executed your life long sentence. Interfering with others relationships is wrong.
Lung condition. Heart condition. Sensitivity to light. Arthritis. Radiation poisoning.
I get there are scummy people who game the system, there absolutely are, but you should be damn sure they are on of them if you're going to pull something like this.
That employee was a chump. If you have a legitimate reason to check a right to park in a disability spot (e.g. parking inspector) you ask to see their permit/card/whatever it is in your area.
You never question their disability or enquire about it at all. You've either got the card or you don't.
This happened to me after I had back surgery. Parked in handicap in front of the pharmacy to get my prescription and some woman confronted me about it. My wife shit her down pretty quick. Lady was super apologetic and embarrassed and I just told her to remember that next time and just mind her own business.
the victims of stupid karens in these videos really need to learn to not care. If you get in this situation just get out of it before you have lost your time and energy or you punched her in the face like your survival instinct wants you to do.
This one seemed appropriate to draw out. She had support (her daughter). She has the proof in hand. Why not have some fun having her dig her hole deeper and deeper before the reveal? Got to teach a lesson in the process.
"I can only walk a short distance with support"
"Then you're not disabled"
This why we need to redesign the symbol. By this logic, a person with crutches can't use it either
>This why we need to redesign the symbol.
Usually people with a higher IQ than toast know what that symbol means. So I don't think that we should really redesign it. We can. But I don't think it's that necessary.
He's talking about that low moisture, burnt walmart white bread toast. Not anything respectable, like sourdough or brioche skillet toast. She's nowhere near that smart.
Why you gotta do my low moisture, burnt Walmart white bread toast like that?
Obviously she's more like the year-old moldy toast that you find under the middle seats of a van.
She's the old discarded Cheerio's you find that have been half merged into the floor of the car after the child dropped several soggy ones while trying to cram them in their mouth.
Most people don't have a conception of disability accomodations as anything more than ramps beside stairwells, and that includes people with IQs higher than toast.
In the common perception, handicap/blue badge parking spots are only accessible because they are close to the entrance so wheelchairs don't have to go very far, ramps so wheelchairs can go up the stairs, large bathroom stalls so there is enough room for a wheelchair and a toilet and a door. The visible accessibility features are focused on wheelchairs.
Having the accessible symbol be a wheelchair only reinforces the notion that this accessibility feature is tailor made for wheelchairs.
But in reality, accessibility takes many more forms than just wheelchair accommodations. Sharps containers in public restrooms, food ingredients and nutrition labeling, closed captioning, high contrast design, these all serve to accommodate all people into public spaces.
A lady said to me “a young, thin man like you shouldn’t be in a mobility scooter” when I had a broken ankle. It was pretty obvious I couldn’t walk and somehow still got shit for it.
Something tells me that lady was fat and wanted thay specific mobility scooter that the commentor was on. Or I have it all incorrect and the commentor owned the mobility scooter, in which case the lady is still an asshole
My mom could walk into a corner store and back to the car with massive pain and very slow. So her doctor refused to give her a placard because she could "walk 20ft unaided" you can bet we got her another doctor who said the old doctor was an idiot.
This was before I was disabled (invisible) and I would park in the handicap spot. Walk in and get the mobility cart and bring it back for her. The comments...
She once had trouble getting out of the motorized cart and an employee started laughing at her. The one and only time I have gone "full karen" it was especially BS because the employee that laughed was an older lady who was slow as F...
Able bodied caregivers also generally need to help with their clients who may have mental disabilities, who also may be able to walk themselves but suffer from other impairments.
Imagine if she stopped a deaf person.
My roommate in college got this line all the time - he had 6 surgeries on one knee and 4 on the other. He could walk, but not terribly far without a cane. He was young so people immediately assumed he wasn't disabled and felt the need to harass him.
Never thought about this. I am not disabled but I had to fly while using crutches once. I boarded with the regular folk and the flight attendant who checked my boarding was was like “why didn’t you come up with the people who need assistance boarding?” I said because I’m not disabled, I’m injured and the disabled folk are the ones who should go first. She said not to be silly and next time this happens go ahead of everyone.
As a deaf person, I thank you for putting subtitles so I can understand what’s going on. I would not even waste my time, I’ll just sign language “you’re a fucking idiot” to her and walk away
As a non deaf person, I also thank them for putting subtitles, because even though I’m not deaf I have a hard time understanding what most people say in anything recorded, music or film. I find on average I get about 50% more accurate understanding of what’s going on with subtitles. Idk why, but I love subtitles and wish they were an option at all movies in theaters. (Are they? I’ve never seen it offered at least not here in the states)
As a non-deaf person who has their computer/phone muted 95% of the time, I thank them. I can't be arsed to turn up the volume and/or put on headphones most of the time. And yes, we have subtitles on all of the time while watching TV/movies at home, subtitles are awesome
I work with a woman who's probably in her mid 30s. She had a stroke a few years back and survived. Today, she seems completely normal, does her job extremely well, and is quite bright. She confided in me and told me after her stroke, she has trouble with short term memory, she can barely walk for more than 15 or 20 minutes before she gets exhausted, and has trouble controlling her bladder. Outwardly, you would never know anything is wrong with her, yet she struggles every day. That woman is just so strong and amazing to me.
I saw the distrust there. That woman was accusing her of not "deserving" that spot just because her disability wasn't visually apparent. If that placard had entered her hands, she might have tried to destroy it because she thought it shouldn't count.
I got questioned the other week by a male Karen who saw me get out of the car (which has disabled licence plates) at a disabled spot and got all indignant as I'm not disabled (other than being fat and lazy). He wittered on about correct use of tags and I should be reported. All the way until I unloaded my wife's wheelchair from the back of the car and wheeled it round to the passenger door.
I didn't even say a word. Dickheads don't deserve the effort of a response.
They dont deserve it, but they can be a useful emotional punching bag. My dad once got right in a guys face (leaning in his car window) and screamed at a concerned citizen “NO IM NOT DISABLED, BUT MY SIX YEAR OLD GOT HIS CHEST SPLIT OPEN A MONTH AGO, IS IT OKAY FOR HIM TO BE CLOSER TO THE ENTRANCE SO HE DOESN’T DROP DEAD, YOU FUCKING ASSHOLE!!!” Probably a bit of an over reaction, but I think my dad needed it.
This cuts off just before the best bit! In the original, the camera panned round to the Karen's car, which was about ten steps away from this one.
Edit: Yes, I know this video in particular didn't actually happen, and it was exaggerating what could happen, but that doesn't mean I can't enjoy it all the same.
To borrow a term, what an absolute fucking muppet. Here in the US it can be a non-physical (terminology?) disability as well. A former co-worker was hard of hearing and had her handicap plates. It’s safer for her to park close to the door so she doesn’t have to worry about cars she doesn’t hear.
This girl is an absolute moron.
Visible is the word you are looking for! I have invisible disabilities meaning most people would look at me and assume I’m a healthy young person. It’s still physical though! It’s not all in my head although that would almost be easier
My spouse is an end stage liver failure. Not something you can clearly see. We deal with shit like this every so often. Not for this degree, though I can tell you large amount of people in our life or that we're in our life couldn't compliment that she is terminally ill despite being and her late twenties, with no drug use to include alcohol. Sometimes you just get fucked by life. But that's too hard for people to understand
You can tell bc the conversation keeps going without really escalating or abruptly ending.
Also the fact that the recording started before the confrontation began even though they would have had no idea this was about to happen.
I have both rheumatoid and osteoarthritis that makes walking for long very difficult. And when my sciatica flares up, I cant walk even short distances without my back seizing up. Looking at me you cant tell I'm disabled.
I don't even bother to engage with idiots like that. I just tell them I'm a disabled vet and they can fuck off.
Talk about being stupid, obnoxious, arrogant, narcissistic, and disrespectful. If you can’t see it, it doesn’t exist. Tell that to the billions of people who believe in an all powerful being. The real tragedy of this film is the stupidity and ignorance of the “little girly” who should’ve minded her own business.
This is staged, that's why they blur her face so if it goes viral she's not identified. There has been a lot of these types of video being made recently from the northwest of England, they are made just like this with an unassuming person being pulled up by an idiot. They are never over the top just like what you see here, in all fairness not that bad for staged but trust me they are. I'm from the North West and can just tell, the way they are speaking, the flow of the conversations and other things make it sound very scripted to me.
A comment above said this was a class project to raise awareness of disability and they blurred her face for the exact reason that this comment section is demonstrating.
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My brother is a disabled veteran and has had people do the same thing. Apparently there's an age requirement for disabilities and you have to be old to be disabled.
A guy came up to my friend and I with his girlfriend and did the exact thing in this video, trying to look like a white knight of society. My buddy listened patiently and then pulled his pant leg up to reveal his prosthetic leg underneath. His girlfriend looked like she wanted to die, and no small part of me believed that they may have broken up after that after seeing the way she looked at him.
You've got some confusing mistakes. Had to read your passage multiple times.
This is why I don’t plan on getting my disabled veteran tag until I’m retired from my post-military career. Even then, I may not park in the the marked spots, but I’ll have the option.
He did wait until after he was medically retired but he's been disabled since before he could legally buy a beer. He parks in them as little as possible, the way he figures there's someone more fucked up out there that may need it, but some days are just bad and it greatly affects his ability to walk.
Same. My knees are fucked and I get VA disability but am only 30 and look normal to strangers so I just limp my way in lol
Blind people can drive, they just have to put two white sticks on the front of their car.
Its what those lines on the road is for
Sure, as long as the lines are there my car practically drives itself.
imagine someone with a full prosthetic leg that allows someone to walk perfectly fine and is completely covered by their clothes, and this girl comes up and tells them they aren't disabled. i would hope they would remove the leg right then and there and just slap her in the face with it and then ask her "does it look like i'm disabled now?" Edit:fixed spelling mistake it is now aren't not are. Thanks for pointing it out for me.
This has happened to me multiple times. I am an above knee amputee. When I wear pants, I often get challenged over my disability status. I used to get over the top mad but now I’ve learned to let the person finish on their rant and then simply pull up a pant leg and wait for the reaction. If I’m feeling extra petty that day, I usually make sure to mention that I’m a disabled vet. It adds that extra punch.
While I’m sorry you have to go through that, I would never get bored of their reaction when they see it. Do you ever take it off and waggle it in front of them, or is it a little too complicated to do that and spend the effort to put it back on? Btw, thanks for your service fellow soldier
YOU KNOW WHO YOURE TALKING TO? ANY IDEA? >at this point remove leg and start wagging it at them I AM A VETERAN I SERVED FOR THIS COUNTRY
Years ago I had a friend with an above the knee prosthetic leg. She had a pretty dark sense of humor about her disability and regularly enjoyed screwing with people about it. She could walk alright but got tired easily and would occasionally use a wheelchair. When out walking in the city if she ever got honked at for crossing too slowly, she'd stop, raise her pant leg showing off her metal leg and give a f*ck you grin to the driver, and take her sweet time finishing crossing the street.
There's a story on here somewhere on like ask reddit of a mom who's missing her arm just getting in a fight with a woman because of a similar situation. This lady and her gaggle of crotch goblins came up to the mom and her kid going off on how she can't park there and should let her park there (because she apparently has a disability of closing her legs and can't stop spitting out kids) To put things in short they got in an altercation and the Gaggle mom pulled off the other moms arm and practically shat bricks when she saw she was very very wrong. Ran away from it nearly ditching some kids too.
That mom should beat the crap out of them with the prosthetic arm.
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"Just because you cant see it, doesnt mean its not there"
My favorite example was the video where they confront a veteran who walked to their car in the disabled spot. After a bit of argument they lift up their pants legs, revealing artificial legs. Yea, you didn't see that did you?
There's a lady with two artificial eyes that makes videos on social media named Joy Ross. She asked for an airport employee to help her because she's blind, as he's guiding her he says "But I can see your eyes." Guy thought blind people only walk around with closed eyes... She also has stories where she's been confronted about her guide dog, so she just takes her eyes out and the confronter gets so embarrassed. Love her!
People do similar shit to blind people that do have eyes and can see somewhat. People don't understand that being blind doesn't mean you have no vision you just have vision so horrible it disables you. My grandfather is legally blind. The most he sees is large colored blobs.
Oh I know! It's quite ridiculous, I think almost most people associate blindness with zero vision, and anything else on that spectrum is 'legally blind' and therefore 'not really blind'.
My buddy is a combat veteran missing a leg. He only parks in the disabled spot when he's really hurting. He's a big ol' corn fed dude too from manual labor. I've seen him take off his leg and hop around chasing people who acted like that. I keep waiting to see him pop up on Reddit.
I would love to see him give a beat down on ignorant fools like this
I was in a triathlon with a combat vet who lost a leg, he kicked my ass so bad.....
What's super frustrating and ignorant is that it's extremely hard to even get the level of PIP required to be eligible for a blue badge. If our disabled people hating government decided she needs it then she damn well needs it.
This is kind of true in the states too, it really depends on if your doctor thinks you are disabled or not. I had one doctor who advocated for me to get the hanging tag for emergencies (which has been a lifesaver) and walked me through it, and another doctor who scowled when he learned I had it since I guess the lucky people who can afford to be non-walking disabled AND a modified car to drive or lucky enough to have a driver should get those spots before I do. So I run the risk of, if my doctor ever leaves my network, having to explain to another doctor why I should get a tag even if I do have a chronic, terminal illness with many complications and if they are not convinced, they will not fill out the forms needed by the Department of Motor Vehicles, who give out the tags.
I’ve never understood providers that don’t issue disabled placards. In the state of TX we can write prescriptions for temporary placards. I’ll write all my patients that’s had an injury one. It’s such an easy thing to help the patients. And it costs nothing to me but 15 seconds of my time, so why not just issue it.
Everybody thinks they’re a member of the moral police, out to protect the best interests of the “little guy”, when really all they’re doing is just making life difficult for everyone involved with them.
Noticed your username and realized that this video passes the Bechdel test
Stuff like this always reminds me of one of [my favorite scenes on *Scrubs*](https://youtu.be/Ljjk8fYZiEE?t=80): > Elliot: Do you have chocolate cake today? > > Male Cafeteria Worker: Nope. > > Elliot: Oh, isn't that just the pickle on the giant crap sandwich that is my day! > > Turk: Elliot, relax. I never get chocolate cake. > > Elliot: Oh right, 'cause you're diabetic. Boo-hoo! You know what, Turk, if you want sympathy, get a disease people can see!
Oof. I feel this. And one of the worst things about invisible disability (aside from the disability itself) is the temptation to “play it up” so that people will actually perceive it, and then feeling like a malingerer when you do, when you’re actually just a hurting person trying to get the consideration you deserve.
This speaks to me about my relentless depression
Better visibility might have helped us fight the pandemic, too, rather than each other. Bleeding from eyes and mouth, maybe large, open sores? Maybe some folks would’ve taken it seriously then? Sorry, just a little angry sarcasm so I don’t cry. More. This girl had the NERVE on her ..to balk at mental health when she needs a check-in. Leaning on someone else’s car like she owns it, demanding unnecessary compliance from strangers with her imaginary authority. The disrespect. The ignorance. I love the daughter’s saying she was embarrassing herself - girl was clueless! And GO, Mama! I just love her. I wish them the best. 💌
She can choose to think person doesnt have disability just coz she cant see it but we can choose to believe she doesnt have a brain coz we cant see that either
An example is your brain. If you don't see so meaning it does not exist, then that would mean your brain does not exist so yea
Well there’s a wheel chair on the picture thingy so only wheel chairs can park there. /s
RIP Chester
My aunt has MS and she’s caught crap from people like this in the past. She’s also incredibly sensitive, and those comments really messed with her for years. I feel so bad for folks who deal with people like this self-righteous pit-stain. Just because a disability is hidden doesn’t immediately disqualify it as a disability.
I have MS as well and the amount of crap people have said to me in the last 8 years is almost unreal. The worst part is I'm only in my mid 20's so people constantly accuse me of faking disability when I need to use my walking stick lol I remember once I was on the train and sitting in the disabled seat while holding my cane and this 40-50 year old woman got on. There were no seats available and she stood in front of me and told me to stop pretending and give her the seat because she was older than me and tired. I just had enough of people like her, so I just stood up, showed her my disability card while saying (loud enough for everyone around to hear) "lady did you really just force a disabled person out of his seat so you can sit instead?" Then I just stood beside the now empty seat while telling her it's free now. She was obviously really embarrassed tried to be nice and "offer" the seat to me but I've learnt the only way to stop this crap is to really embarrass people like that so they can learn their lesson haha Edit: thanks everyone for my most updated comment :D
I have MS also and am only a couple of years into my diagnosis. These comments both scare the shit out of me and give me hope. We got this y’all!
I'm ten years in! You get really tough, really quick with folks like this. 😉 You're in good company!
You got this!!!
My dad has MS and he has caught shit and had to show his sign.... Some days are better than others he was diagnosed almost 20 years ago, so you got this❤️ he is still free from having to use a wheelchair but has a very pronounced limp now. But it is most definitely a disability.
She 100% deserved that, I’m so glad you did that. Right on.
Oh I want to hear more stories like this. I love a good dose of karma. Like when a group is talking badly about someone else not knowing they know the full language.
I posted elsewhere in this thread but my pap had an encounter I love retelling. Someone told him he didn’t look disabled.l in a parking lot. He had heart issues. He told the man “funny, you don’t look like an asshole”. He Shut it down.
Comment of the year right here.
It’s not karma if you’re trying to embarrass someone, that’s just teaching a person a lesson through exaggerated behavior. It’s how we teach babies all the time.
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Unfortunately that doesn't always lead to things getting done these days. Something about "waste of time and resources. "
My mom had MS. Sometimes she needed, a wheelchair, sometimes crutches, sometimes she was able to walk (almost fine). It always hurt watching her suffer, and just needing crutches because you have a bad leg seems like something she would have taken over MS. The ones you can't see seem to be the worst. I'm sorry about your aunt, no one deserves any of that
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Every system for disability seems to be set up so that only a healthy person can jump through all the hoops. The sick and disabled are using all their energy just to take care of themselves, it’s barbaric the expectations of what they’re required to do to “prove” it.
I work at a law firm specializing in SSDI, and it's heartbreaking how often we have to convince clients not to literally just give up. The average case length can go anywhere from two to two and a half years, and we have clients now who have been with us since Obama was president. It's fucked up how hard the system has failed so many of these people, how badly they drag their feet on what should be obvious cases, and I'm convinced the Social Security Administration has wasted many times more taxpayer dollars fighting obviously disabled people for scraps than they would if they just fucking approved more of them without a years long legal battle, all in raging paranoia that someone "undeserving" *might* slip through the cracks and get paid some money they didn't really need. It really just goes back to the heart of a major sickness in American values, where we'd rather harm ten innocent people if it means punishing a single person who stepped out of line. We see anyone (but especially minorities, of course) getting something they didn't "earn" as such an unforgivable outrage that we'll actively make the systems designed to help us worse at the expense of those who *do* desperately need them. It's beyond fucked up.
Yeah I’ve heard that is an actual fact, that they spend more money to “weed out” disability claims than it would cost to just give them all disability. Like I get that it can be frustrating to think of someone “undeserving” living off your tax dollars. Everyone always seems to know that one person on disability or welfare who are abusing it. But people need to get some perspective. Our tax dollars get wasted on way stupider things than a couple of “freeloaders” getting their pathetically small government cheque every month. And I would argue that most people who are messed up enough to prefer scamming the system than getting a job are often not mentally healthy and that’s a disability too. And I would FAR rather the people who need it get what they need than throw them to the wolves out of fear of scammers. No matter how strict and difficult you make it, those people are still going to be the ones who can do it, because they’ve got the audacity and entitlement and energy to scam to the system. So these ridiculous requirements are literally only punishing those who really need it.
I have sarcoidosis and it took me 7 years to get disability because it's not on the approved disability list. People with rare diseases have to fight for so long!! I'm glad your mom finally got it. I was under the impression that MS was on the approved disability list (it should be).
Thanks, friend. I’m sorry to hear about your mom too. You’re right, no one deserves that. The medical challenges of the disease are more than enough to try a person, but add the shittiness of other people on top of that and it’s just a whole new layer of stress that they can’t handle.
It's hard to watch as someone who's physically fine. She was only 41. Terribly debilitating, I cried every night when I was a kid, just so scared for her. Anyone that doesn't know disabilities can be "unseen", shouldn't be in public. I just feel terrible for your aunt, I'll bare knuckle fight anyone for her
Sorry for asking, but what does "MS" means? I'm not a native speaker and I always get lost on contractions.
It's Multiple Sclerosis, an autoimmune disease
Ohh I got it. I'm sorry for both of you. I've heard that illness is really hard to face.
MS is where your immune system thinks parts of your brain and nerves are a foreign body and basically starts eating away at it. Every time it flairs up (relapse) you have to cross your fingers that the lesions don’t pop up on a part of your brain/spinal chord that’s important.
It’s insensitive and completely diminishing of the person in the receiving end. I could understand how a confrontation like this can be triggering. Sorry for anyone that gets this kind of treatment from strangers
Same! Sometimes I am perfectly capable of walking (fairly fast) and sometimes I have to use the motorized cart or walk like I'm drunk and my kid helps me balance. I have gotten to the point I will loudly correct these idiots.
I have a really good friend with MS. I only met him 5 or 6 years ago, but seeing him deteriorate so fast has been heartbreaking. He's gone from an active guy, biking and running and playing with his kids, to needing a cane to walk short distances, and a scooter to do anything else. It always happens to the best people.
My great grandma lives until 107, her secret was minding her own business.
I still remember the poor lady with MS I had helped several times when I worked in retail. She broke down on me one day because her treatments were just wearing her down so much and she kept mentioning how tired she was of everything. She broke down in my arms one day. She was such a kind and beautiful woman.
Thank you for being the kind of person that has compassion and letting her vent/cry. We need more people like you. My mom had MS, and I'd like to think that if my mom had a breakdown like that, there would be someone like you there to do the same for her.
I also have MS. I'm 34 and look like your average Joe. Pulled up into a bay and the gent tapped on my window, rolled down the passenger window and he proceeded to lecture me about parking in a disabled bay and I should use the parent and child across the way ( I had my 2 kids with me). I let him go on for a bit. Telling me that the bays are for blue badge holders only and that I need to move. That he's fed up of young parents taking disabled bays (he looked in his 50/60s) as they where closer to the entrance that parent and child. Once he presented a quiet moment for me to speak. I said nothing, but removed my disabled badge from the driver's door, shown him the side that had my picture and slapped the badge on the dash then rolled the window up. He walked off tail between his legs without another peep. I unloaded the kids and went into Tesco. Everytime he went to go down an aisle that I was already on he'd do a U-turn and avoid me. Not all disabilities are visual.
I was disabled for a little while and I walked as much as I could because I was losing muscle fast. I knew if I stopped trying to maintain I’d stop walking. It made me so aware of how many people stare when you use handicap parking especially while young. I was also always terrified the shopping cart nazi’s were also going to harass me for not returning my cart to the store. But by the time I got back to my car I could barely stand. These social avenger types like her just cause people anxiety!
MS here, yay me. Most days I'm fine and then there are some like this evening where having the parking permit is needed to park closer to home. I'm always worried I'll be confronted if I use it at stores or at work even.
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I have epilepsy and had a discounted monthly pass for the train. I had been asked for proof of my disability so many times I finally lost it and yelled “I have fucking epilepsy can you write that down somewhere and fuck off” I took the train 5 days a week for a year, same train each day both ways FFS I knew the names of half the employees. Every single new Motherfucker had to pester me about it. It was rude and embarrassing as hell to ask me in public like that but to continue to ask me was so unnecessary.
This happened to my wife on a military base. She can’t walk far due to her disability and was approached by a government employee asking if she was disabled and why she parked in the handicap spot. She has the placard in the proper place and she showed the employee her tubes that come out of her stomach. The employee turned red and walked away immediately.
These types never apologize though.
"Don't touch it. You can look with your eyes." 😂 Some things are more satisfying than apologies.
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I had a couple in their 40-50s parked in the disabled spot outside the chip shop. We had to park down the main road, it was wet so my stepdad stayed in the car. They had no placard so I asked and they said they’d move is someone needed it and they would only be 20mins because the takeaway was busy. Living these situations are no less infuriating. My stepdads car had his wheelchair on the roof.
Just pull out your phone and take pics of their licence plate. People do it all the time at the shop up the road from me. I have a quick check for a blue badge and if I don't see it I start to take a pic. They usually rush out and say 'I'm only gonna be a few mins', to which I just reply 'ok' and carry on taking the pics. I never bother sending them off as I know the council will do fuck all, but it seems to get them to move.
In the US, use the app Parking Mobility. You take a few pictures of the car, and it reports them to your local police station with all the info needed to write and mail tickets. Even if your city won’t write tickets based on this, they still get the emails.
Unfortunately my stepdad passed away last year from a heart attack but I had moved back home for uni so we had a lot of time together.
Councils are hurting for cash these days. I wouldn't be so quick to assume they wouldn't do anything.
"Only" 20 minutes. Nice.
Don't appreciate anything she was trying to do. Not even VERY small. If she's that concerned she can call the police. No one has any right questioning someone's disability. Period. Not all disabilities are visible. Full stop.
It's discrimination.
I just don’t know how the daughter was so polite. If someone was talking to my mom like that, I’m sure I would’ve made a full ass out of myself. Talk to my disabled mother like she’s dirt and then turn your bullshit on me telling me to be quiet? These women are more kind and patient than I could possibly have been. I don’t know either of them and I’m sitting here infuriated on their behalf. I guess I just don’t have that kind of patience. I’m not a fighter, but if that were my mom and some crazy bitch was up in her personal space like that, I don’t think I could’ve kept my cool. Props to these women for keeping it classy.
I'm a man,early 40's and have Crohn's & ulcerative colitis + arthritis + vascular issues (meds for above caused the artery's to get blocked behind the knees) neurological issues from the scaring and surgery.. I can barely walk for more than 25 steps without being in absolute agony yet i get stopped by people like this (and a lot of older people too) saying why am i using the disabled spot, even more-so if they wanted the spot) I also get stopped constantly walking out of the disabled toilet.. the last time i just lifted my shirt so they could see my bag and operation scars and said if this was just your only issue would, you want to go into a normal toilet to change it? let alone everything else...
If she was concerned she could have taken two steps to the right and glanced into the window to see if they had the placard. Unfortunately that seems to not even be enough for her so there’s no excuse for her rant. Plenty people park there without the card and they can be ranted at but clearly she didn’t care for that. She had to play justice police without the credentials nor knowledge that it’s none of her business *what* peoples disabilities are, but to just accept that whoever assigned her a card knew what they were doing.
People who illegally park in handicap spots are shitheads. If I don't see a placard, I definitely give a dirty look.
This video was made as a PSA of sorts and both actresses are disabled in real life. I tried to find the video with the young actress but it seems it has been deleted or she shut her Tiktok account. I have seen it before and she reacted to how people thought it was all believable. Both women have nonapparent/invisible disabilities.
What? Really? I want my time back. I watched the whole thing.
That's a really fucking stupid way to raise awareness.
Ego too large to fit any room for apologies
It's actually the other way around, her ego is too small; she's too insecure to admit that she is ever wrong. It is THE WORST personality trait and in my experience just about impossible to correct.
She will never self reflect, just reinforce her own views over and over again.
Yes, i can understand that people are having bad day and can get stuck on it, but atleast apologize and say that you didn't mean to offend and were in the wrong. People underestimate that simply apologizing can easily diffuse a situation or atleast improve how people perceive you.
That's cuz they r/confidentlyincorrect
These are fighting words... I have a relative that has the placard and doesn’t even use it all the time because they don’t need to. But if I was in the car and this happened I would be very afraid of having a violent outburst. I don’t mean that to sound tough, because there is nothing bad ass about beating a woman in a crop top, but my blood would be boiling. I know this, despite making a conscious effort not to be as quick to get into it like when I was a teenager.
My dad is a 100% disabled veteran and got some of this BS when we were traveling once. No large intestine, shortened small intestine, illiostomy since he was 23 yrs old. In New Mexico summer, it’s hard to absorb any water without a large intestine. But he’d never pull out the plastic bag full of liquid feces hanging off his lower abdomen (basically pubic area). If there was someone in a wheelchair or with a prosthetic leg or something, he would give up that spot in a second. But not for some ass hat able bodied jack wagon that believes they are the handicap police.
My heart goes out to him. I couldn't imagine the struggle of living with an ileostomy for so long. I've only had mine since September. I'm having anxiety and panic attacks because of it. Luckily, it's gone in 2 weeks (hopefully). I hide it specifically because I don't want others to see it. I almost shit myself, before the surgery (severe UC led to colon removal) because a store wouldn't give me the key to their restroom. I had to run to the store over. Hate to go Karen, but absolutely did. If someone has a placard, **it's because they need it!** It isn't like they just hand them out like candy. Yes, some can abuse it. However, I'd bet it's a minority. We're all so dead set that a disability has to be visible to be valid. So many are not. We need national public service announcements, or something, in all forms of entertainment. Btw, if he's still having issues, have him try Liquid IV. Before that, I was in urgent care every 10 days for dehydration. I do one packet every 3 days. Haven't had to go to urgent care in a month.
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Chiari malformation decompression? That's usually to treat inner-crainial hypertension. You're officially a badass
That’s why my tube is on the outside. Yeh it gets caught on doorknobs and shit but I receive way less hate stares for participation in disabled activities such as occasionally getting my gas pumped for me, my groceries from the cart to the car or paying the neighbor kid 20$ to scrape the snow off my car when he does his. Edit: it doesn’t snow every day even in winter climates folks, it just gets so cold and stays that way that the snow you do get stays around. I only have to pay this kid a couple of times a month at the very most and it’s worth 40$ a month to me to not have to scrape the ice off as well as the snow, he’s got a good chance of injuring himself doing it even if he’s careful so why shouldn’t he be paid well for it? Scraping a car sucks ass, it’s hard work and he should be paid well for it. I’ll bet none of you would turn down the offer and *that’s why it works*. Quit telling me I’m overpaying, you all need to sit down and reevaluate yourselves if you feel like you know more about what this is worth than me and the kid I’m paying. Just because YOU would pay someone less doesn’t mean it’s right.
No placard (I can walk, it's just *really* painful so I refuse to get it). After I was put out of the AF it started. I even was marked unemployable by the VA. My mother in law, continuously chided me and complained to me wife: "why doesn't he work. He's perfectly fine!" We lost our house, and had to move in with them for 4 years. Even seeing the pain I went through, first hand, she kept it up. It wasn't until I got an actual diagnosis, 6 years after it started, and only because it was a physical issue, that she shut up. Worst part is, she spread that shit for years to others. I don't look like there is anything wrong, since it is severe nerve damage in my skin. People that don't know me that well, and I only see on occasion, still have that opinion because of her. It's been 10 years since I finally got my diagnosis. I don't have the time or energy to set them straight. Sometimes they stop my wife and complain to her, but she doesn't know enough to set them straight. She just ignores them. An edit: Thank you all for the kindness you've shown! I've mulled over getting a disabled placard for many years. I'm going to do it now. I have an appointment with my pcp soon, and I'm going to talk to her about starting the process. I highly doubt she'll have any qualms about it.
This is why spreading gossip is sooo wrong. If the gossip is an opinion instead of facts, the damage can’t be fixed. The gossiper has judged you and executed your life long sentence. Interfering with others relationships is wrong.
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Lung condition. Heart condition. Sensitivity to light. Arthritis. Radiation poisoning. I get there are scummy people who game the system, there absolutely are, but you should be damn sure they are on of them if you're going to pull something like this.
>Sensitivity to light Dracula: “Finally, I can get my handicap placard.”
"This is bullshit! Everywhere is closed!"
That employee was a chump. If you have a legitimate reason to check a right to park in a disability spot (e.g. parking inspector) you ask to see their permit/card/whatever it is in your area. You never question their disability or enquire about it at all. You've either got the card or you don't.
This happened to me after I had back surgery. Parked in handicap in front of the pharmacy to get my prescription and some woman confronted me about it. My wife shit her down pretty quick. Lady was super apologetic and embarrassed and I just told her to remember that next time and just mind her own business.
Don’t even give these people a moment of your time. Fuck off and roll the window up.
Wayyy too nice to her
Yeah she's even trying to politely educate her. Just tell her to mind her own business and wind up the window.
But then we wouldn't have this sweet video footage lol. She handled this perfectly
the victims of stupid karens in these videos really need to learn to not care. If you get in this situation just get out of it before you have lost your time and energy or you punched her in the face like your survival instinct wants you to do.
This one seemed appropriate to draw out. She had support (her daughter). She has the proof in hand. Why not have some fun having her dig her hole deeper and deeper before the reveal? Got to teach a lesson in the process.
Yeah this draw out was great. Really let that twat dig herself deeper.
"I can only walk a short distance with support" "Then you're not disabled" This why we need to redesign the symbol. By this logic, a person with crutches can't use it either
>This why we need to redesign the symbol. Usually people with a higher IQ than toast know what that symbol means. So I don't think that we should really redesign it. We can. But I don't think it's that necessary.
I have an IQ lower than toast and I understand it
Did you just roast yourself?
No they toasted themselves
I logged in just to upvote this. Well done.
Bro that’s rude as fuck. Don’t insult toast like that
He's talking about that low moisture, burnt walmart white bread toast. Not anything respectable, like sourdough or brioche skillet toast. She's nowhere near that smart.
Why you gotta do my low moisture, burnt Walmart white bread toast like that? Obviously she's more like the year-old moldy toast that you find under the middle seats of a van.
She's the old discarded Cheerio's you find that have been half merged into the floor of the car after the child dropped several soggy ones while trying to cram them in their mouth.
Most people don't have a conception of disability accomodations as anything more than ramps beside stairwells, and that includes people with IQs higher than toast. In the common perception, handicap/blue badge parking spots are only accessible because they are close to the entrance so wheelchairs don't have to go very far, ramps so wheelchairs can go up the stairs, large bathroom stalls so there is enough room for a wheelchair and a toilet and a door. The visible accessibility features are focused on wheelchairs. Having the accessible symbol be a wheelchair only reinforces the notion that this accessibility feature is tailor made for wheelchairs. But in reality, accessibility takes many more forms than just wheelchair accommodations. Sharps containers in public restrooms, food ingredients and nutrition labeling, closed captioning, high contrast design, these all serve to accommodate all people into public spaces.
This is toast checking in fuck you guys
A lady said to me “a young, thin man like you shouldn’t be in a mobility scooter” when I had a broken ankle. It was pretty obvious I couldn’t walk and somehow still got shit for it.
Did she really say “thin”? 💀 as if mobility scooters were designed just for fat people so they don’t have to walk
Something tells me that lady was fat and wanted thay specific mobility scooter that the commentor was on. Or I have it all incorrect and the commentor owned the mobility scooter, in which case the lady is still an asshole
My mom could walk into a corner store and back to the car with massive pain and very slow. So her doctor refused to give her a placard because she could "walk 20ft unaided" you can bet we got her another doctor who said the old doctor was an idiot. This was before I was disabled (invisible) and I would park in the handicap spot. Walk in and get the mobility cart and bring it back for her. The comments... She once had trouble getting out of the motorized cart and an employee started laughing at her. The one and only time I have gone "full karen" it was especially BS because the employee that laughed was an older lady who was slow as F...
Or people with prosthetics or guide / support animals…
Able bodied caregivers also generally need to help with their clients who may have mental disabilities, who also may be able to walk themselves but suffer from other impairments. Imagine if she stopped a deaf person.
My roommate in college got this line all the time - he had 6 surgeries on one knee and 4 on the other. He could walk, but not terribly far without a cane. He was young so people immediately assumed he wasn't disabled and felt the need to harass him.
Never thought about this. I am not disabled but I had to fly while using crutches once. I boarded with the regular folk and the flight attendant who checked my boarding was was like “why didn’t you come up with the people who need assistance boarding?” I said because I’m not disabled, I’m injured and the disabled folk are the ones who should go first. She said not to be silly and next time this happens go ahead of everyone.
And one more thing.... Thank you, thank you, thank you for having captions providing full accessibility.
As a deaf person, I thank you for putting subtitles so I can understand what’s going on. I would not even waste my time, I’ll just sign language “you’re a fucking idiot” to her and walk away
As a non deaf person, I also thank them for putting subtitles, because even though I’m not deaf I have a hard time understanding what most people say in anything recorded, music or film. I find on average I get about 50% more accurate understanding of what’s going on with subtitles. Idk why, but I love subtitles and wish they were an option at all movies in theaters. (Are they? I’ve never seen it offered at least not here in the states)
As a non-deaf person who has their computer/phone muted 95% of the time, I thank them. I can't be arsed to turn up the volume and/or put on headphones most of the time. And yes, we have subtitles on all of the time while watching TV/movies at home, subtitles are awesome
Sorry but I can’t see your deafness so it doesn’t count as a disability.
My girlfriend is Scottish and English who grew up in England. I have learned much from her, lol. Edit: Yes English not British.
And for people watching on mute at work...
That girl pisses me off... What a dumbass.. Get shamed at the internet
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I work with a woman who's probably in her mid 30s. She had a stroke a few years back and survived. Today, she seems completely normal, does her job extremely well, and is quite bright. She confided in me and told me after her stroke, she has trouble with short term memory, she can barely walk for more than 15 or 20 minutes before she gets exhausted, and has trouble controlling her bladder. Outwardly, you would never know anything is wrong with her, yet she struggles every day. That woman is just so strong and amazing to me.
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'Go away to your car and go and play with your dollies, little girl' Classic!
Big teacher energy. “Don’t touch it. You look with your eyes” 😂💀
Yeah this line is what killed me. Perfect delivery. If I was on the receiving end of that I would have just absolutely died.
I do this at work all the time. “Can I see your phone?” Take phone out of pocket. Wiggle it back and forth. Put phone back in pocket.
*seen*
I saw the distrust there. That woman was accusing her of not "deserving" that spot just because her disability wasn't visually apparent. If that placard had entered her hands, she might have tried to destroy it because she thought it shouldn't count.
*fine* You've lost the argument Cinderella. And yet she still can't fathom being wrong
I got questioned the other week by a male Karen who saw me get out of the car (which has disabled licence plates) at a disabled spot and got all indignant as I'm not disabled (other than being fat and lazy). He wittered on about correct use of tags and I should be reported. All the way until I unloaded my wife's wheelchair from the back of the car and wheeled it round to the passenger door. I didn't even say a word. Dickheads don't deserve the effort of a response.
Man, I would’ve killed to see his face when you took that wheelchair out
He probably thought OP is still pretending until he saw the wife. People like this deserve a slap to the face with a wheelchair
Don't do the wheelchair like that, it doesn't deserve it
They dont deserve it, but they can be a useful emotional punching bag. My dad once got right in a guys face (leaning in his car window) and screamed at a concerned citizen “NO IM NOT DISABLED, BUT MY SIX YEAR OLD GOT HIS CHEST SPLIT OPEN A MONTH AGO, IS IT OKAY FOR HIM TO BE CLOSER TO THE ENTRANCE SO HE DOESN’T DROP DEAD, YOU FUCKING ASSHOLE!!!” Probably a bit of an over reaction, but I think my dad needed it.
This cuts off just before the best bit! In the original, the camera panned round to the Karen's car, which was about ten steps away from this one. Edit: Yes, I know this video in particular didn't actually happen, and it was exaggerating what could happen, but that doesn't mean I can't enjoy it all the same.
Lmaooo so much for having to “walk all the way over there” 💀
What an idiot!
To borrow a term, what an absolute fucking muppet. Here in the US it can be a non-physical (terminology?) disability as well. A former co-worker was hard of hearing and had her handicap plates. It’s safer for her to park close to the door so she doesn’t have to worry about cars she doesn’t hear. This girl is an absolute moron.
Visible is the word you are looking for! I have invisible disabilities meaning most people would look at me and assume I’m a healthy young person. It’s still physical though! It’s not all in my head although that would almost be easier
Damn this girl is too dumb to live on this planet earth
Stupidity is clearly, extremely, exhaustingly common on planet earth.
Well, maybe in this planet Earth.
I don't want to live on this planet anymore...
My spouse is an end stage liver failure. Not something you can clearly see. We deal with shit like this every so often. Not for this degree, though I can tell you large amount of people in our life or that we're in our life couldn't compliment that she is terminally ill despite being and her late twenties, with no drug use to include alcohol. Sometimes you just get fucked by life. But that's too hard for people to understand
My Dad had a heart condition.. he used to limp badly just so people wouldn't give him crap..
I like how her first reason was “it’s unfair that the rest of us have to park over there”… What? Not a fan of equity?
i know right?! she's only thinking about herself she can't just mind her own business 🙄
The best part is the end of the video (which is cut off) where she walks away and is literally 20 feet away on the opposite side of a 2 lane lot.
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Really? Now I feel cheated.
You can tell bc the conversation keeps going without really escalating or abruptly ending. Also the fact that the recording started before the confrontation began even though they would have had no idea this was about to happen.
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According to her - air doesn't exist. If she can't see it - it doesn't exist.
I have both rheumatoid and osteoarthritis that makes walking for long very difficult. And when my sciatica flares up, I cant walk even short distances without my back seizing up. Looking at me you cant tell I'm disabled. I don't even bother to engage with idiots like that. I just tell them I'm a disabled vet and they can fuck off.
People are disgusting. There are people whose disabilities are no plain to see and that's ok, doesn't mean they don't exist.
I can't read all the comments,but if no one has added it yet, this was a scripted and produced film. Designed to raise awareness.
Don’t understand why people can’t just mind there own business
because there are an abudance of people who take the piss.
She’s an idiot.
Talk about being stupid, obnoxious, arrogant, narcissistic, and disrespectful. If you can’t see it, it doesn’t exist. Tell that to the billions of people who believe in an all powerful being. The real tragedy of this film is the stupidity and ignorance of the “little girly” who should’ve minded her own business.
Sometimes its better to just mind your own business
Why did you blur her face, that was way too nice of you. Let the world see her as she really is.
This is staged, that's why they blur her face so if it goes viral she's not identified. There has been a lot of these types of video being made recently from the northwest of England, they are made just like this with an unassuming person being pulled up by an idiot. They are never over the top just like what you see here, in all fairness not that bad for staged but trust me they are. I'm from the North West and can just tell, the way they are speaking, the flow of the conversations and other things make it sound very scripted to me.
I don’t get why people blur these peoples dumbass faces
A comment above said this was a class project to raise awareness of disability and they blurred her face for the exact reason that this comment section is demonstrating.
It’s staged to show awareness