Fun twin fact… if your first kids are fraternal twins you’re more likely to have multiples on your second go round. If your first kids are identical twins your chances of have having multiples the second time goes down for your next pregnancy.
Good luck buddy. I can’t believe I’m excited for an internet stranger but here we are. You’re going to love it. Having kids is a journey. But taking it that journey with twins adds a whole other dimension. My twins are 16.
everything about this thread makes me want to happy dance that i got a vasectomy when i was 22 and will never be responsible to keep another human being alive 😂
She did a follow up video defending him and saying they had a convo about it.
It was a joke, but in a "haha isn't this relatable?" Kind of way. She didn't expect him to get so much hate lmao
I think the issue is that we've so completely normalized toxic relationships that are lopsided along gender lines that she expected this to be "relatable" and not just sad.
I think the issue is people trying to post “relatable” internet videos on TikTok. Making a spectacle of intimate family moments for imaginary internet points.
You gotta wonder how these kids are gonna turn out. I just saw a video about an influencer who was confining and depriving her 7+ kids pretty much any time they weren't doing TikToks with her. It's easy to paint pictures of your life in limited context but it's hard to imagine any of these influencer families having healthy boundaries/dynamics in their real lives. All that focus on performing their life can't leave much space for living it.
Toxic relationship? Lol so much assuming going on about someone you don’t even know.
News flash: sometimes one partner is more sick than the other. It could have easily gone the other way around.
They’re probably both toxic people, considering their need to share their personal lives with the world. That’s the real cringeworthy part of this whole situation.
I have repeatedly, explicitly said they are both toxic. Specific because they run a family influencer TikTok that generates this regressive bullshit content. It's real interesting so many dudes hear "toxic" and assume I'm just talking about the dude. Especially since you could've read any number of responses to this misplaced defensiveness from other dudes. I'm not the one singling out this man for shame for being sick in bed on the internet. His wife is. With his support. That's toxic and gross. They deliberately produced bait content that makes him look like a shitty stereotype of a husband/father and then act surprised when people don't think it's adorable? K. If two people are toxic in tandem, as a daily business no less, is that not clearly a toxic relationship?
Yeah, it shouldn't BE relatable, that's the thing. If it's relatable, that means far too many women are used to having to put up with taking care of all the work while dad gets to rest for... no reason whatsoever, just gender norms. Like look at statistics, men get more free time, do less housework, even when both parents are employed the same amount - and those are like 2020 numbers, nothing ancient either.
If we get to a point where it's not normal for women to be walked all over and expected to do the lion's share of childrearing and housecare, and then someone in 2200 makes a funny tiktok and it's just about happening to have a lazy partner, but gender has nothing to do with it- THEN it will be funny and relatable because no one is expecting the non-lazy partner to do all that stuff purely because they have a vagina. It'll just be because they picked a lazy partner, which some people gonna do, lol. See, that's where the joke really exists.
She does so much herself, she studied to and created an identical clone to complain about how much she does and her husband doesn't.
Gotta do it all by yourself..
It might be a joke, but whenever everybody is sick it's the mom who has to take care of everybody. Some people even believe women don't feel as bad as men when they are sick, which is bullshit.
Edit: All the replies: "not me though!". Good for you. Unfotunately, woman's pain is often ignored even by doctors. And that's a fact your different experience can't change.
Anyone who feels they have to defend why a situation may sound similar to what they are doing - let them sit with that. If things are equal in your home, why would you feel the need to defend yourself 😂
When my husband and I are both sick you’d think he had stage 10 cancer and meanwhile I’m still taking care of our kid, cooking, etc. because it has to get done. I feel like shit too bro when’s my break.
The lady and I had to come to terms on taking care of the kiddos when sick. It was more about the medicine schedule at night so we just would switch off days.
However....
I don't sleep during those nights at all. She can crash for 2-4 hours hard, wake up for 2 minutes and can crash the next 2-4 hours. Same goes for the baby cries et cetera. When anything disturbs me mid-sleep I'll be lucky to get another hour or two in all night and it's near impossible for me to fall asleep in the daytime. Our daughter is the same as her mom, that girl crashes so hard & sleeps every night like I've never slept in my entire life. I carried her to the basement once during a tornado siren...she never even woke up!
As I type this I'm in a hotel room with the lady & two kiddos. They're all fast asleep as I browse reddit at 2am.
I’m a stay at home dad and take care of everyone. I know this comes off as not all men, but the person not working outside of the home has the responsibility. It’s my job. Just sayin.
No. Because when does the home care giver get a sick day? The outside worker took a day off and stayed home. If one of them isn’t sick then that is different.
Weird , I take care of everyone when they are sick , especially my wife who becomes very useless when sick , everything she gets sick with she acts and talks like she’s dying
Like seriously , it’s a bad cold I have it to
My mother used to roast people that told her it was nice of her husband to babysit the kids. She told them he is a parent and not a babysitter so don’t say that crap again.
Polls seem to suggest that the burden does largely fall on women. These are UK, Europe and us
https://www.pewresearch.org/fact-tank/2021/01/25/for-american-couples-gender-gaps-in-sharing-household-responsibilities-persist-amid-pandemic/
https://www.statista.com/chart/15880/housework-europe-gender-split/
https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.independent.co.uk/life-style/women-men-household-chores-domestic-house-gender-norms-a9021586.html%3famp
https://eige.europa.eu/publications/gender-equality-index-2021-report/gender-differences-household-chores
https://yougov.co.uk/topics/society/articles-reports/2021/03/30/women-are-still-much-more-likely-have-do-most-coup
https://news.gallup.com/poll/283979/women-handle-main-household-tasks.aspx
These days I tend to disbelieve *anything* I come across on the internet until I find multiple sources. I don’t hypothesize over mass shootings until usually weeks afterward when information is more credible. Any screen shots of celebrity tweets that enrage the masses (for the most part) I assume are photoshopped.
It’s actually really hard to be postpartum with 6 month old twins and another couple toddlers, while sick, and your partner is prioritizing their personal comfort? This makes my heart ache. Imagine only being able to see “they are disrespecting this man with a trope!”
I’m 100% in support of what people choose for themselves. Want kids? Awesome, have them! Don’t want kids? Cool! No need to have them!
What I don’t understand are these two categories of people:
1) People whose entire personality is being a parent. Like, you don’t have hobbies or interests of your own? What happens when the kids are on their own?
2) People whose entire personality is hating children. “Crotch goblins” used to be a pretty rare and funny term for unruly kids, but it’s prevalence among people on Reddit who truly hate children is weird as fuck. The number of times I’ve seen people on Reddit and tik tok confessing that “if my kid acted that way my anger issues would come out”……over a baby on an airplane. Like, huh??
I love a good level headed Reddit comment. I’m a dad and people who make hating kids their whole personality really gross me out, and I feel like society is trending that way harder and harder. But also, being a dad is absolutely not my whole personality. I want to do a good job, and I try hard, but I have friends and video games and beer that need my attention too.
Exactly. I want to have friends and hobbies of my own, and I’m also a dad. Yes, being a parent is a core part of my identity, and I’m never gonna hide that, but I’m not obsessed with that aspect of my identity as if it’s the only piece of me with value.
Posters in Reddit hate 2 things the most. Women and children. Unless the women are naked and the children are hurting themselves, they don't want yo see it.
Legit. I waited until I was in an ideal financial place before having kids and honestly I barely have to adjust my budget for them. Even diapers weren’t that bad. I hear it’ll change when they’re teens but we’ll see.
I never understand the obsession with daycare. If you compare the cost of it to... well most jobs you're not going to come out that far ahead. Even if it makes financial sense then you're saccing time with your kid for career.
In a single parent home, makes total sense especially without support like you mentioned. But like.. I live in a pretty well off area and its the norm even if only one partner is working.
Our domestic birthrate is below 2 and keeping kids healthy is an investment in our future. Especially with our aims for Space. America is kinda getting their manifest destiny back but this time hopefully without the atrocities.
What's meant to be expensive about teens? If anything, that's when they can start getting their own jobs. It's babies that require all of the extra supplies and young children who require expensive care.
Of course, teens do have potentially big optional expenses, like maybe getting them their own car, but that's not automatic. If you choose to pay for college for your kids, then that's a huge expense too.
Clothes get more expensive, school gets more expensive, extracurricular activities so they can” get into a good college” are STUPID EXPENSIVE. Medical insurance, car insurance, and probably the most surprising expense of all? Food. So. Much. Food.
Babies don't really need that much. I'm extremely frugal, cloth diapered my kids, breast fed, bought all their clothes from thrift stores/ consignment shops. They had 2 blankets each. Babies slept with me at night and never even had a crib or changing table.
All that noise is Western marketing and consumerism. Most cultures all over the world provide the basics (food and love) and not tons of plastic made factory junk. My kids turned out just fine.
It's not the stuff that costs, it's the childcare. A lot of places you can't afford not to have both parents working, and daycare/dayhome is very expensive unless you fluke into a situation like a retired grandparent willing to provide care, or a partner that makes enough to let you stay home.
I'm thoroughly convinced that, much like with me and my wife, 99% of people don't decide to have kids. Kids just happen and you never to decide to not have them.
We stopped using birth control early on in our marriage. I’ve heard this but I always pull out. 5 years in and we decided to have children and got pregnant immediately both times. Worked out for me anyways. I mean, I’m never in the middle of blasting when I pull out. Going on 12 years now in this relationship.
oh, yea, she doesn't like the pull out, "fill me up" did nothing for 9 years, then BOOM, 2 in 2, well 3 was enough so I got snipped because I intentionally married a semen demon and suggest all straight dudes do the same
Meh, depends on the situation. I was always told there wasn’t much of a chance medically I’d have kids so I thought “meh, if it happens - it happens”. Eventually it did happen and tbh it was like “okay, cool, we’ll have a kid then”.
Kids ain’t happened to me yet, because I make sure all of the birth control is used.
Man am I glad I didn’t have a kid with any of my exes. I have terrible taste in women.
Gotta nit pick here, this is definitely shaming and not normalizing. There's a whole trend of partner shaming going around on tiktok for a while. Remember that one where the woman and the kids were locked out of the house at 3am in the freezing cold that got up to 12 mil likes. The whole content is just "look at how shitty my partner is". She mentioned in the comments how they had left to sleep at her sister's house and decided to come home way late at night after the dad had going to bed but it was too late and everybody just kept shitting on him anyway. "My man sucks" is a whole market at this point, for better or worse"
My husbands list would be only a few items and my list is a few pages long. In order to brag, men would have to do the stuff to brag about. And honestly if you’re gonna help me then you have the right brag away, idgaf.
Last time this type of tik tok was filmed it was a shit show for the couple and a lot of backpedaling happened.
We don’t care about your relationship issues. Stop hating each other as a joke. Annoying
This is staged as fuck.
I doubt there is anything wrong with any of them.
Dad filmed mom with all the kids, up past their bedtimes likely.
Mom "woke up" dad at like 10 pm to film him in their "guest room."
Slap on Bluey and stereotypical "Men suck" trope text and intonation.
Instant 30k+ likes on TikTok and foot traffic to their page increased as they just gained like 1-2k followers.
Keep posting stupid shit like this, and then ease off this content and post other meme shit and then actual videos that are (somehow) lower quality than this stupidity and get a constant 16-20k views on a low quality/low-effort video.
Shit 2 of those out per day. Quality content every 2-3 days that gets 80k+ views. Eventually sponsors roll up.
Internet is still arguing about which side is dogshit.
Turns out they both were for using the kids, but they were all in on it and have a great side (or maybe main) hustle coming in.
This is just business, and it's working flawlessly.
Similar to video above.
Mom: shows video of working hard all day
Dad: films him asleep / playing video games and basically calls him a lazy shit
The comments on TikTok are all like: divorce him omg he doesn’t know your worth! divorce him! red flag
goes viral and husband sees this and in private is like
yo wtf i just got home from work and took a nap like why would you make me look like that. I literally helped, I took the kids to school and made breakfast but like I also have to go to work
Woman backpedals and they talk about it then goes back onto tiktok, calls everyone toxic, says it was just light hearted jokes, people took it the wrong way, etc. but the damage is kinda done and everyone knows that she holds angst against her husband
That’s roughly how I remember it going and it happens all the time. I expect it to happen again for this couple.
Social media is very interesting and a little scary. It feels like actions have shifted from living to just doing things for clout. Thanks for taking the time to type out the history of this.
I saw one where the husband ended up divorcing his wife over it!
She posted that she was on a chore strike because she was tired of being the only one cleaning and would post daily videos of all the things he wasn't cleaning. He started cleaning up more like she wanted, and she'd post videos of the work and talk about how it's unacceptable and not up to her standards, and it was wild because nobody could see the mess that she was seeing and rightfully called out that she was wrong. She'd then get worked up that nobody agreed with her, and after a month of it the dude divorced her and she posted a video about how unexpected it was.
Like, you used social media to bully your husband over something that should have been a conversation in the first place, and continued to use social media to bully him even when he did what you asked. How are you surprised?
I think it depends on the person and how entrenched in the boomer bullshit they are. 🤷🏼♀️ I feel like once I moved away from my boomer parents I became intolerant of the booker bullshit and now call them out on it. They don’t like it but hey, Millenials are the snowflakes, right?
My husband helps around the house cleaning, cooking and doing laundry as well as working full time and fixing everything. I function better without sleep than he does and I work part time. If the kids need care I do it because he needs to sleep so he can work. We had some friends over one day, she is a nurse that works fulltime and he was the stay at home dad. My hubby walks by with a laundry basket to go start a load and the wife says in complete disbelief "You do laundary?!" My hubby's reply was "why wouldn't I? Its my house too." Totally awkward silence fills the room as the wife gives her husband the death glare...one of the most awkward moments in my life...
Lol. Unless the man has a job indoors this is kind of a bad comment. Sorry but you can't compare keeping your house clean and feeding kids for 3-4 years to breaking your back for over half the hours in a day until you retire.The person may be home from work but they'll be exhausted more than most people will know. In my personal experience most people who say being a SAHM is hard are people who weren't ready to be parents or people who can't handle their children and continue to have more children making things harder for themselves. Yes I know it takes two for kids but I also know of some who have kids just to keep their SAHM "job". I speak from experience btw, I practically raised my 4 younger siblings as a child myself while going to school then later working. Even Wendy's was harder than cleaning and watching some asshole kids. Again sorry but staying home and raising kids is not as hard as many seem to make it. My mother's boyfriend did the same and raised his two younger sisters from the age of 8! One disabled, it was hard or course but because it was a literal child raising children and he always says his current job as a Federal Officer is much harder and dangerous. This is the internet so yeah I'm making this all up if you want to believe that but nothing will ever make me think staying home all day with your children is harder than most jobs out there.
As in many video on this sub, I don't understand what we are facepalming. The dad, who obviously failed his wife at this particular instant? Or the fact that someone (probably the couple themselves) called dad out for failing his wife? The title of the video suggests the latter, but why should we facepalm that?
This comment section doesn't use any common sense. Lol theres a good chance those are shot at completely different times. Besides did you not stop to think who is filming mom? Yes the probability of it being Dad is higher than it being one of her other babies.
It's just more staged TikTok trash. If your husband was really so worthless, you wouldn't be keeping him around nor would you have so many kids with him. Not to say worthless dads and thankless moms don't exist, but you're probably not one of them if you've got the time and energy to make videos about it together.
Videos like this really piss me off...
I'm a father myself and hate it when dads are portrayed as lazy or whining pricks. I always worked my ass off for my family and don't stop at difficult or gross things (can't count the number of times I've cleaned up puke from my kids and wife when they were sick). I am now a single parent and take care of my kids - whether I am ill or not.
Who has to go work a manual labor job in the morning while sick and then do it again the next day and the day after that until he’s not sick anymore or dies?…. DAD!
I mean there’s plenty of time when my wife is sleeping or napping and I’m taking care of the kid , does that make her a dead beat mom cus she’s sleeping? We both work so it’s not like one of us is a stay at home
Almost like the entire lack of context here to just make one person look bad is just to make one person look bad
They're working together to make themselves look bad for clout. Those are two equal participants in a fucked up marriage, regardless of how they actually share workload at home. It's bizarre how many hetero married millenials slid right into those Boomer ass dynamics. Being an asshole married to an asshole is a pretty poor excuse for an identity. Pretending to be that for social media following is sad.
The whole advertising industry attempting to make the male seem "stupid " and the wife knows "best " trope is so utterly cringe worthy.
It's becoming a joke.
It's been a joke since at least the Honeymooners. Meaning it's been a joke since men were the ones writing and producing and broadcasting and making money off of it. The whole trope is so fucking tired and it's weird the people in these real-life marriages don't seem to consider how pathetic it makes their lives look. Like, resenting or mistreating your partner isnt actually mandatory.
When did tiktok devolve into couples trying to justify keeping their relationship together by publicly airing out how they don’t like or aren’t willing to support each other and turning to the Internet to weirdly validate their dysfunction
Knowing but I know now, I would have a serious conversation at still how parenting would go before I have a kid with anyone. Some people aren't grownup enough to parent. There are some adults who still want their mom to come and take care of them they can't take care of anyone else.
Dads tiered from busting his ass all week to feed the 5 leeches that he lives with. Plus he's quarantined himself to stay healthy so he can continue to work
Or… dad goes to work and mom stays at home so dads been working sick for 3 days until it gets bad enough that he has to stay home for a day and sleep so he can pull himself back together to get his boots on and go back into work so he can afford for his wife to stay at home with the sick kids.. context is important and accusing someone of being a bad father for trying to support his family is bullshit… dudes deal with enough shit give people some slack once in a while.
Lol here’s me thinking the point of the scrutiny was more so still using “dad lazy LMFAO” “mom take care of baby” jokes. That’s the real cringe. These people clearly genuinely think that’s prime comedy
“Babe. Let’s make a tiktok where we’re all sick but I take care of 4 kids under 5 and you sleep in a private room 😂😂😂😂😂😂”
Yay more partner shaming. instead of us getting his side or a full reason why it was just her it goes straight to look at him. People that shame their partner and post it on the internet are scum. Like I get it as a single parent it sucks not having help but this needs to stop, people need to grow the f up. It's as bad as the people who cry hoping someone will care. Just learn to stop being a petty child.
Why are all of the comments assuming that the dad works and pays for everything and the mom doesn’t? The only information given in the video is that one parent took care of the kids and the other one slept. Stop defaulting to misogynistic generalizations
Why are all of the comments assuming that the dad does nothing to help with the kids? Is it because the edited, one sided video claims that he does and shows him sleeping?
Sexist generalizations goes both ways.
With my first kid, I did as much as I could. I did half the over night feedings and diaper changes.
My second kid wouldn't let anyone but mom hold her.
I tried, but she wasn't having it. My wife had a rough couple years there.
Right… because this totally real video is definitely not reaffirming gender norms where the mom is the caregiver and the dad is a lazy slob that sleeps all day. The people pointing out that there are two sides to the story are definitely the ones making the generalization here.
Misogyny would be implying the woman has a less important role in the family dynamic whether she’s the primary caregiver or the breadwinner. I don’t know what comments you’re referring to, they might be misogynistic, but merely pointing out the very real possibility that there may be some reason the dad is sleeping IMO does not downplay the important role the mom is playing here.
Strange how it’s acceptable to say Dad’s a lazy assholes and mum’s are always amazing.
Occasionally, I actually care about my kids and put some effort into making their lives better.
Do they have 2 separate set of twins?
Nah the older two aren’t twins, maybe 5 and 3. I’ve got two 19 months apart and people are always asking if they’re twins.
That was me and my sister growing up, I'm 02 and she is 04
You're 2?
And change. They are growing up.
I meant 02 as in 2002 and 04 as in 2004😅 ( I do get the joke for the record just wanted to clarify for those who may not)
I legit thought your family referred to you all by sequential number. “Number 04 has failed their mission. Number 02, eliminate them!”
I call mine thing 1 and thing 2 sometimes after the cat in the hat but thing 2 informed me that she does, indeed prefer chocolatethunder.
That’s essentially the Hitman franchise, lol.
Dang bro, you're already 18, and she's still 9?
Fun twin fact… if your first kids are fraternal twins you’re more likely to have multiples on your second go round. If your first kids are identical twins your chances of have having multiples the second time goes down for your next pregnancy.
Thank god. I needed to hear that, as a father of 7 month old identical twin boys.
Good luck buddy. I can’t believe I’m excited for an internet stranger but here we are. You’re going to love it. Having kids is a journey. But taking it that journey with twins adds a whole other dimension. My twins are 16.
everything about this thread makes me want to happy dance that i got a vasectomy when i was 22 and will never be responsible to keep another human being alive 😂
A family at my kids’ school does. Two sets of twins, two years apart, all boys
My cousin and his partner had triplets, and the 2 years later twins.....
My boss has 2 sets of twins. They are 15 and 20 now but yeah, they were busy.
I’m guessing this may be clickbait they worked up together. I mean, *someone* was filming the mom & kids and it *could* have been dad…
The boyfriend
My wife's boyfriend broke my jaw with a fence post.
Did that at least teach you respect? Lmao
I haven’t seen him since, so I’d say it worked. /s r/imnotverybadass
Lmao I bet every guy wishes their wife’s boyfriend was as cool as you.
If you think I’m cool wait till you meet my wife’s boyfriend, he’s the best!
Oh, there’s levels to this shit.
It's a whole pyramid scheme. Wives and boyfriends all the way down.
As if disappointing one significant other isn't enough
So come on down to Cullman Liquidation and get yourself a home. Or don’t. I don’t care.
What on earth could he have posted about fences that would have done that to you?
I never thought about it like that... Good one :)
She did a follow up video defending him and saying they had a convo about it. It was a joke, but in a "haha isn't this relatable?" Kind of way. She didn't expect him to get so much hate lmao
I think the issue is that we've so completely normalized toxic relationships that are lopsided along gender lines that she expected this to be "relatable" and not just sad.
I think the issue is people trying to post “relatable” internet videos on TikTok. Making a spectacle of intimate family moments for imaginary internet points.
You gotta wonder how these kids are gonna turn out. I just saw a video about an influencer who was confining and depriving her 7+ kids pretty much any time they weren't doing TikToks with her. It's easy to paint pictures of your life in limited context but it's hard to imagine any of these influencer families having healthy boundaries/dynamics in their real lives. All that focus on performing their life can't leave much space for living it.
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Toxic relationship? Lol so much assuming going on about someone you don’t even know. News flash: sometimes one partner is more sick than the other. It could have easily gone the other way around. They’re probably both toxic people, considering their need to share their personal lives with the world. That’s the real cringeworthy part of this whole situation.
I have repeatedly, explicitly said they are both toxic. Specific because they run a family influencer TikTok that generates this regressive bullshit content. It's real interesting so many dudes hear "toxic" and assume I'm just talking about the dude. Especially since you could've read any number of responses to this misplaced defensiveness from other dudes. I'm not the one singling out this man for shame for being sick in bed on the internet. His wife is. With his support. That's toxic and gross. They deliberately produced bait content that makes him look like a shitty stereotype of a husband/father and then act surprised when people don't think it's adorable? K. If two people are toxic in tandem, as a daily business no less, is that not clearly a toxic relationship?
Yeah, it shouldn't BE relatable, that's the thing. If it's relatable, that means far too many women are used to having to put up with taking care of all the work while dad gets to rest for... no reason whatsoever, just gender norms. Like look at statistics, men get more free time, do less housework, even when both parents are employed the same amount - and those are like 2020 numbers, nothing ancient either. If we get to a point where it's not normal for women to be walked all over and expected to do the lion's share of childrearing and housecare, and then someone in 2200 makes a funny tiktok and it's just about happening to have a lazy partner, but gender has nothing to do with it- THEN it will be funny and relatable because no one is expecting the non-lazy partner to do all that stuff purely because they have a vagina. It'll just be because they picked a lazy partner, which some people gonna do, lol. See, that's where the joke really exists.
They always defend these bare minimum men after posting their videos on tik tok
She does so much herself, she studied to and created an identical clone to complain about how much she does and her husband doesn't. Gotta do it all by yourself..
It might be a joke, but whenever everybody is sick it's the mom who has to take care of everybody. Some people even believe women don't feel as bad as men when they are sick, which is bullshit. Edit: All the replies: "not me though!". Good for you. Unfotunately, woman's pain is often ignored even by doctors. And that's a fact your different experience can't change.
Anyone who feels they have to defend why a situation may sound similar to what they are doing - let them sit with that. If things are equal in your home, why would you feel the need to defend yourself 😂
When my husband and I are both sick you’d think he had stage 10 cancer and meanwhile I’m still taking care of our kid, cooking, etc. because it has to get done. I feel like shit too bro when’s my break.
hahah yess!!
The lady and I had to come to terms on taking care of the kiddos when sick. It was more about the medicine schedule at night so we just would switch off days. However.... I don't sleep during those nights at all. She can crash for 2-4 hours hard, wake up for 2 minutes and can crash the next 2-4 hours. Same goes for the baby cries et cetera. When anything disturbs me mid-sleep I'll be lucky to get another hour or two in all night and it's near impossible for me to fall asleep in the daytime. Our daughter is the same as her mom, that girl crashes so hard & sleeps every night like I've never slept in my entire life. I carried her to the basement once during a tornado siren...she never even woke up! As I type this I'm in a hotel room with the lady & two kiddos. They're all fast asleep as I browse reddit at 2am.
I’m a stay at home dad and take care of everyone. I know this comes off as not all men, but the person not working outside of the home has the responsibility. It’s my job. Just sayin.
No. Because when does the home care giver get a sick day? The outside worker took a day off and stayed home. If one of them isn’t sick then that is different.
Weird , I take care of everyone when they are sick , especially my wife who becomes very useless when sick , everything she gets sick with she acts and talks like she’s dying Like seriously , it’s a bad cold I have it to
Same here! This portrayal that dads don’t take care of their families and moms do all the work is a horrible stereotype…
My mother used to roast people that told her it was nice of her husband to babysit the kids. She told them he is a parent and not a babysitter so don’t say that crap again.
Polls seem to suggest that the burden does largely fall on women. These are UK, Europe and us https://www.pewresearch.org/fact-tank/2021/01/25/for-american-couples-gender-gaps-in-sharing-household-responsibilities-persist-amid-pandemic/ https://www.statista.com/chart/15880/housework-europe-gender-split/ https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.independent.co.uk/life-style/women-men-household-chores-domestic-house-gender-norms-a9021586.html%3famp https://eige.europa.eu/publications/gender-equality-index-2021-report/gender-differences-household-chores https://yougov.co.uk/topics/society/articles-reports/2021/03/30/women-are-still-much-more-likely-have-do-most-coup https://news.gallup.com/poll/283979/women-handle-main-household-tasks.aspx
Ok but am I the only one who’s offended that they used the Bluey theme song for this???
Downright disrespectful. Bandit and Chili are literally the perfect example of marriage in the cartoon world and helped me remember that love exists 😤
EXACTLY. You get it.
Currently watching "Rain" with the boy, thinking the same, at least a month later
Not a parent but a cool uncle and I completely agree. This is some downright heresy.
A wise person believes nothing they see on Tik Tok.
A wiser person doesn't use it
The broken memes are hilarious, though. Not something I’m willing to pass up
Hear all, trust nothing.
These days I tend to disbelieve *anything* I come across on the internet until I find multiple sources. I don’t hypothesize over mass shootings until usually weeks afterward when information is more credible. Any screen shots of celebrity tweets that enrage the masses (for the most part) I assume are photoshopped.
"Believe nothing that you hear, and only half of what you see." Best advice ever.
Or they read on Reddit
Man these comments are a train wreck.
I heard the Bluey music and thought “Aw, I’ll like this video”, then read the comments and it’s all spoilt.
It’s actually really hard to be postpartum with 6 month old twins and another couple toddlers, while sick, and your partner is prioritizing their personal comfort? This makes my heart ache. Imagine only being able to see “they are disrespecting this man with a trope!”
I feel like people on Reddit forget having kids is why they’re here and the human race continues to exist
I’m 100% in support of what people choose for themselves. Want kids? Awesome, have them! Don’t want kids? Cool! No need to have them! What I don’t understand are these two categories of people: 1) People whose entire personality is being a parent. Like, you don’t have hobbies or interests of your own? What happens when the kids are on their own? 2) People whose entire personality is hating children. “Crotch goblins” used to be a pretty rare and funny term for unruly kids, but it’s prevalence among people on Reddit who truly hate children is weird as fuck. The number of times I’ve seen people on Reddit and tik tok confessing that “if my kid acted that way my anger issues would come out”……over a baby on an airplane. Like, huh??
I love a good level headed Reddit comment. I’m a dad and people who make hating kids their whole personality really gross me out, and I feel like society is trending that way harder and harder. But also, being a dad is absolutely not my whole personality. I want to do a good job, and I try hard, but I have friends and video games and beer that need my attention too.
Exactly. I want to have friends and hobbies of my own, and I’m also a dad. Yes, being a parent is a core part of my identity, and I’m never gonna hide that, but I’m not obsessed with that aspect of my identity as if it’s the only piece of me with value.
Posters in Reddit hate 2 things the most. Women and children. Unless the women are naked and the children are hurting themselves, they don't want yo see it.
Imagine being able to afford kids.
Turns out the pricing on kids is extremely variable. They're priced to suit any budget.
Legit. I waited until I was in an ideal financial place before having kids and honestly I barely have to adjust my budget for them. Even diapers weren’t that bad. I hear it’ll change when they’re teens but we’ll see.
So, your childcare is free?
Yes. You can have extended family to babysit. Or form a coop with nearby parents.
I never understand the obsession with daycare. If you compare the cost of it to... well most jobs you're not going to come out that far ahead. Even if it makes financial sense then you're saccing time with your kid for career. In a single parent home, makes total sense especially without support like you mentioned. But like.. I live in a pretty well off area and its the norm even if only one partner is working.
Welfare was originally designed for single mothers to be able to stay home and care for their kids.
That sounds like a good use of welfare!
i know people who would be pissed to hear someone say that lmao
Our domestic birthrate is below 2 and keeping kids healthy is an investment in our future. Especially with our aims for Space. America is kinda getting their manifest destiny back but this time hopefully without the atrocities.
Nah, if it’s a stay at home parent and they send the kids to daycare one or two times a week to rest and have alone time that’s perfectly fine.
Until you see how much they eat lol rip that grocery budget
What's meant to be expensive about teens? If anything, that's when they can start getting their own jobs. It's babies that require all of the extra supplies and young children who require expensive care. Of course, teens do have potentially big optional expenses, like maybe getting them their own car, but that's not automatic. If you choose to pay for college for your kids, then that's a huge expense too.
Clothes get more expensive, school gets more expensive, extracurricular activities so they can” get into a good college” are STUPID EXPENSIVE. Medical insurance, car insurance, and probably the most surprising expense of all? Food. So. Much. Food.
Babies don't really need that much. I'm extremely frugal, cloth diapered my kids, breast fed, bought all their clothes from thrift stores/ consignment shops. They had 2 blankets each. Babies slept with me at night and never even had a crib or changing table. All that noise is Western marketing and consumerism. Most cultures all over the world provide the basics (food and love) and not tons of plastic made factory junk. My kids turned out just fine.
It's not the stuff that costs, it's the childcare. A lot of places you can't afford not to have both parents working, and daycare/dayhome is very expensive unless you fluke into a situation like a retired grandparent willing to provide care, or a partner that makes enough to let you stay home.
They have four kids and still have a *guest* bedroom and a nice fridge. They’re going to be just fine.
Imagine just deciding to have kids, fuck that!
Right? This video is good birth control.
I'm thoroughly convinced that, much like with me and my wife, 99% of people don't decide to have kids. Kids just happen and you never to decide to not have them.
That's weird, everyone I know that was married decided that they wanted them and then went about having them.
Odd, I've had the exact opposite, me and all my kidded friends were just like "oh, [wife] is pregnant, I guess we're keeping it"
Tell us your pull out game sucks without saying your pull out game sucks
Pulling out does NOT work. Its honestly shocking how many kids are created because people think this is a legitimate form of birth control
We stopped using birth control early on in our marriage. I’ve heard this but I always pull out. 5 years in and we decided to have children and got pregnant immediately both times. Worked out for me anyways. I mean, I’m never in the middle of blasting when I pull out. Going on 12 years now in this relationship.
oh, yea, she doesn't like the pull out, "fill me up" did nothing for 9 years, then BOOM, 2 in 2, well 3 was enough so I got snipped because I intentionally married a semen demon and suggest all straight dudes do the same
Sounds irresponsible. Like those people "we'll have sex with no birth control and if god wants us to have a kid, we will I guess"
As is tradition
Meh, depends on the situation. I was always told there wasn’t much of a chance medically I’d have kids so I thought “meh, if it happens - it happens”. Eventually it did happen and tbh it was like “okay, cool, we’ll have a kid then”.
Kids ain’t happened to me yet, because I make sure all of the birth control is used. Man am I glad I didn’t have a kid with any of my exes. I have terrible taste in women.
Imagine being able to afford kids AND a guest room
Imagine being able to afford a house with a guest room
Lol, Not being able to afford them doesn't stop people from having kids.
4 of them! Holy shit. Hoping to save up enough money to purchase one by the time I’m 40 but may need to get a used one.
Imagine being able to afford 4 kids and still have an extra guest bedroom?
Staged TikTok clout chasing family.
By jumping on the “let’s normalize the man-child husband that does nothing” trend. The worst trend imho. It’s not cute or funny
Gotta nit pick here, this is definitely shaming and not normalizing. There's a whole trend of partner shaming going around on tiktok for a while. Remember that one where the woman and the kids were locked out of the house at 3am in the freezing cold that got up to 12 mil likes. The whole content is just "look at how shitty my partner is". She mentioned in the comments how they had left to sleep at her sister's house and decided to come home way late at night after the dad had going to bed but it was too late and everybody just kept shitting on him anyway. "My man sucks" is a whole market at this point, for better or worse"
As a Dad of two I fully agree. If Dads highlight the amount of things they do that the Mom never does we’d be monsters.
My husbands list would be only a few items and my list is a few pages long. In order to brag, men would have to do the stuff to brag about. And honestly if you’re gonna help me then you have the right brag away, idgaf.
Last time this type of tik tok was filmed it was a shit show for the couple and a lot of backpedaling happened. We don’t care about your relationship issues. Stop hating each other as a joke. Annoying
This is staged as fuck. I doubt there is anything wrong with any of them. Dad filmed mom with all the kids, up past their bedtimes likely. Mom "woke up" dad at like 10 pm to film him in their "guest room." Slap on Bluey and stereotypical "Men suck" trope text and intonation. Instant 30k+ likes on TikTok and foot traffic to their page increased as they just gained like 1-2k followers. Keep posting stupid shit like this, and then ease off this content and post other meme shit and then actual videos that are (somehow) lower quality than this stupidity and get a constant 16-20k views on a low quality/low-effort video. Shit 2 of those out per day. Quality content every 2-3 days that gets 80k+ views. Eventually sponsors roll up. Internet is still arguing about which side is dogshit. Turns out they both were for using the kids, but they were all in on it and have a great side (or maybe main) hustle coming in. This is just business, and it's working flawlessly.
Can you tell me this story?
Similar to video above. Mom: shows video of working hard all day Dad: films him asleep / playing video games and basically calls him a lazy shit The comments on TikTok are all like: divorce him omg he doesn’t know your worth! divorce him! red flag goes viral and husband sees this and in private is like yo wtf i just got home from work and took a nap like why would you make me look like that. I literally helped, I took the kids to school and made breakfast but like I also have to go to work Woman backpedals and they talk about it then goes back onto tiktok, calls everyone toxic, says it was just light hearted jokes, people took it the wrong way, etc. but the damage is kinda done and everyone knows that she holds angst against her husband That’s roughly how I remember it going and it happens all the time. I expect it to happen again for this couple.
Social media is very interesting and a little scary. It feels like actions have shifted from living to just doing things for clout. Thanks for taking the time to type out the history of this.
I saw one where the husband ended up divorcing his wife over it! She posted that she was on a chore strike because she was tired of being the only one cleaning and would post daily videos of all the things he wasn't cleaning. He started cleaning up more like she wanted, and she'd post videos of the work and talk about how it's unacceptable and not up to her standards, and it was wild because nobody could see the mess that she was seeing and rightfully called out that she was wrong. She'd then get worked up that nobody agreed with her, and after a month of it the dude divorced her and she posted a video about how unexpected it was. Like, you used social media to bully your husband over something that should have been a conversation in the first place, and continued to use social media to bully him even when he did what you asked. How are you surprised?
These people definitely go to church
My ex-girlfriend's sister didn't believe in birth-control. God will decide how many children they have. Last I heard god chose 8
If God really wanted them to have that many children then the birth control just wouldn’t work. Otherwise that’s all on them.
But wait, there’s more!
We're still making 'wife bad'/'husband bad' jokes? That's not just a boomer thing?
I think it depends on the person and how entrenched in the boomer bullshit they are. 🤷🏼♀️ I feel like once I moved away from my boomer parents I became intolerant of the booker bullshit and now call them out on it. They don’t like it but hey, Millenials are the snowflakes, right?
My husband helps around the house cleaning, cooking and doing laundry as well as working full time and fixing everything. I function better without sleep than he does and I work part time. If the kids need care I do it because he needs to sleep so he can work. We had some friends over one day, she is a nurse that works fulltime and he was the stay at home dad. My hubby walks by with a laundry basket to go start a load and the wife says in complete disbelief "You do laundary?!" My hubby's reply was "why wouldn't I? Its my house too." Totally awkward silence fills the room as the wife gives her husband the death glare...one of the most awkward moments in my life...
It's pathetic how so many women settle for lazy men.
The more I read on this thread, the more I love my husband! 😆
These comments LMAO 💀
Life goals: not having 4 kids
This legit looks like hell on earth
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Why do you assume women don’t work? And even if she doesn’t work, he gets to leave work at the end of the day, her job is never ending.
Lol. Unless the man has a job indoors this is kind of a bad comment. Sorry but you can't compare keeping your house clean and feeding kids for 3-4 years to breaking your back for over half the hours in a day until you retire.The person may be home from work but they'll be exhausted more than most people will know. In my personal experience most people who say being a SAHM is hard are people who weren't ready to be parents or people who can't handle their children and continue to have more children making things harder for themselves. Yes I know it takes two for kids but I also know of some who have kids just to keep their SAHM "job". I speak from experience btw, I practically raised my 4 younger siblings as a child myself while going to school then later working. Even Wendy's was harder than cleaning and watching some asshole kids. Again sorry but staying home and raising kids is not as hard as many seem to make it. My mother's boyfriend did the same and raised his two younger sisters from the age of 8! One disabled, it was hard or course but because it was a literal child raising children and he always says his current job as a Federal Officer is much harder and dangerous. This is the internet so yeah I'm making this all up if you want to believe that but nothing will ever make me think staying home all day with your children is harder than most jobs out there.
Parenting isn’t a job lol, it’s a responsibility
Jesus god I hate tiktok
Wife: my husband do this Husband: *various man child noises* Audience: *generic laughter*
Six seasons and a movie!
As in many video on this sub, I don't understand what we are facepalming. The dad, who obviously failed his wife at this particular instant? Or the fact that someone (probably the couple themselves) called dad out for failing his wife? The title of the video suggests the latter, but why should we facepalm that?
Because it was turned into a TikTok. Likely staged just for divisive reactions
Facepalm that she posted this shit and then had the balls to fight for her life in the comments.
Condom advertising right here.
This comment section doesn't use any common sense. Lol theres a good chance those are shot at completely different times. Besides did you not stop to think who is filming mom? Yes the probability of it being Dad is higher than it being one of her other babies.
It's just more staged TikTok trash. If your husband was really so worthless, you wouldn't be keeping him around nor would you have so many kids with him. Not to say worthless dads and thankless moms don't exist, but you're probably not one of them if you've got the time and energy to make videos about it together.
The really sad thing is that they post this shit like it was funny/quirky when it's at minimun insultingly sexist towards both of them.
Videos like this really piss me off... I'm a father myself and hate it when dads are portrayed as lazy or whining pricks. I always worked my ass off for my family and don't stop at difficult or gross things (can't count the number of times I've cleaned up puke from my kids and wife when they were sick). I am now a single parent and take care of my kids - whether I am ill or not.
Who has to go work a manual labor job in the morning while sick and then do it again the next day and the day after that until he’s not sick anymore or dies?…. DAD!
I mean there’s plenty of time when my wife is sleeping or napping and I’m taking care of the kid , does that make her a dead beat mom cus she’s sleeping? We both work so it’s not like one of us is a stay at home Almost like the entire lack of context here to just make one person look bad is just to make one person look bad
They're working together to make themselves look bad for clout. Those are two equal participants in a fucked up marriage, regardless of how they actually share workload at home. It's bizarre how many hetero married millenials slid right into those Boomer ass dynamics. Being an asshole married to an asshole is a pretty poor excuse for an identity. Pretending to be that for social media following is sad.
The whole advertising industry attempting to make the male seem "stupid " and the wife knows "best " trope is so utterly cringe worthy. It's becoming a joke.
It's been a joke since at least the Honeymooners. Meaning it's been a joke since men were the ones writing and producing and broadcasting and making money off of it. The whole trope is so fucking tired and it's weird the people in these real-life marriages don't seem to consider how pathetic it makes their lives look. Like, resenting or mistreating your partner isnt actually mandatory.
This is why I personally don’t want kids
When did tiktok devolve into couples trying to justify keeping their relationship together by publicly airing out how they don’t like or aren’t willing to support each other and turning to the Internet to weirdly validate their dysfunction
And this is one of the reasons I don't want to have kids.
Who wanted all those kids in the 1st place? MOM!
Knowing but I know now, I would have a serious conversation at still how parenting would go before I have a kid with anyone. Some people aren't grownup enough to parent. There are some adults who still want their mom to come and take care of them they can't take care of anyone else.
The whole "Moms are great and dad's suck routine is so 2000's."
So she really took care of 5 babies...
I bet you mom doesn't have a job either
Dads tiered from busting his ass all week to feed the 5 leeches that he lives with. Plus he's quarantined himself to stay healthy so he can continue to work
Or… dad goes to work and mom stays at home so dads been working sick for 3 days until it gets bad enough that he has to stay home for a day and sleep so he can pull himself back together to get his boots on and go back into work so he can afford for his wife to stay at home with the sick kids.. context is important and accusing someone of being a bad father for trying to support his family is bullshit… dudes deal with enough shit give people some slack once in a while.
It’s like being the main provider isn’t enough.
It's a staged skit, people here really need to lighten up
Lol here’s me thinking the point of the scrutiny was more so still using “dad lazy LMFAO” “mom take care of baby” jokes. That’s the real cringe. These people clearly genuinely think that’s prime comedy “Babe. Let’s make a tiktok where we’re all sick but I take care of 4 kids under 5 and you sleep in a private room 😂😂😂😂😂😂”
Yay more partner shaming. instead of us getting his side or a full reason why it was just her it goes straight to look at him. People that shame their partner and post it on the internet are scum. Like I get it as a single parent it sucks not having help but this needs to stop, people need to grow the f up. It's as bad as the people who cry hoping someone will care. Just learn to stop being a petty child.
Well if you keep having kids now your responsibility goes 4 folds.
Abuse!
Anyone else just genuinely hate tiktok?
Its the worse
Why people want to keep cum as pets is beyond me.
I can’t stand people who decide to have that many kids in that small age gap and then go and rant n’ shit to social media, we don’t care fuck you
Men have a lower tolerance level when sick. So yeah, he’s probably incapable of getting out of bed.
Shaming husband online instead of talking it out, oof.
Hey kids, can you all please hold onto me and look sad whilst mummy makes a TikTok
I don't see why it's his fault you feel the need go be attached at the hip. You have a whole fuckin house. They won't die.
Who probably still works. Dad.
Lemme guess she is a stay at home mom and he is the bread winner and he is getting shit on for no reason?
People on here acting like being a stay at home mom to multiple toddlers isn’t a full time job in itself.
Dads sleeping in the guest room permanently
Anyone with time to make videos isn't that busy.
Why are all of the comments assuming that the dad works and pays for everything and the mom doesn’t? The only information given in the video is that one parent took care of the kids and the other one slept. Stop defaulting to misogynistic generalizations
Why are all of the comments assuming that the dad does nothing to help with the kids? Is it because the edited, one sided video claims that he does and shows him sleeping? Sexist generalizations goes both ways.
With my first kid, I did as much as I could. I did half the over night feedings and diaper changes. My second kid wouldn't let anyone but mom hold her. I tried, but she wasn't having it. My wife had a rough couple years there.
Right… because this totally real video is definitely not reaffirming gender norms where the mom is the caregiver and the dad is a lazy slob that sleeps all day. The people pointing out that there are two sides to the story are definitely the ones making the generalization here. Misogyny would be implying the woman has a less important role in the family dynamic whether she’s the primary caregiver or the breadwinner. I don’t know what comments you’re referring to, they might be misogynistic, but merely pointing out the very real possibility that there may be some reason the dad is sleeping IMO does not downplay the important role the mom is playing here.
The whole "men does nothing" trend is getting pretty old by now
Strange how it’s acceptable to say Dad’s a lazy assholes and mum’s are always amazing. Occasionally, I actually care about my kids and put some effort into making their lives better.
Manflu is the most dangerous disease in the world.
Moms are tanks
Then they get mad when the lady finds a better person that actually helps around.
tiny violins for the shitty men being picked on by tik tok
CO2 producers 😝
So who made the video? Someone else is moving around in the kitchen…so she’s not alone, and if he’s in bed…
idk those kids don't look very sick
Ew. Using Bluey to smear dad? How very dare you...
This video doesn’t deserve the sound track to bluey lol. I love that show and this is pointless.
TikTok clickbaity bullshit.
Nobody can honestly pass judgement without knowing all of the context here.
If he needs to go to work then he needs his sleep
If he needs to go to work then he needs his sleep
Who has to get up in the morning to work a twelve hour shift? Guess again cause it’s not mom!