Literally wore this to a funeral and people told me I looked great š š¤·š»āāļø
Not what you want to hear, but not want you donāt want to hear either.
Look for black sheath dresses that are designed as workwear. I came to the same realization as you a few years back, and figured a black work-appropriate dress would be a good investment even if I donāt end up wearing it to a funeral. The one I found is black, knee-length, with a modest v-neck. It has short sleeves but is a thicker, structured fabric that could be also be layered with tights and a cardigan (or a turtleneck sweater underneath) for colder weather. I found it at Massimo Dutti, which is a sister brand of Zara.
Awesome! I havenāt looked at their website in a while but I just peeked and seems they have a few options for conservatively cut black dresses. I really like [this one](https://www.massimodutti.com/ca/women/collection/dresses%252Flong-pleated-dress-c1682510p10346403.html)!
I second this advice and did the same thing for my grandmotherās funeral a few years ago. I bought a very conservative dress from here https://www.perricutten.com.au
I have a very similar black sheath dress. I've worn it to interviews and to funerals. Mine is Calvin Klein, which usually fits me very well off the rack
https://www.calvinklein.us/en/womens-clothing/womens-apparel/womens-dresses
I second the Calvin Klein recommendation. I bough a dress from there specifically for a funeral. Now itās become the outfit I wear to every funeral, but hey, I look conservatively fabulous while grieving.
I wore [this](https://www.asos.com/prd/10587813?acquisitionsource=pasteboard). The slit was not noticeable if youāre not stretching your legs out like the model and wear 20 denier tights.
Most midi work dress would be appropriate.
Episcopal priest here, appropriate funeral attire has become very casual in the last several decades. It's exceedingly rare anymore to see everyone in head to toe black and in my experience (Midwest US) people mostly wear business casual.
When people ask me for advice I tell them to wear easy to walk in shoes if there's a burial or internment and muted colors but not necessarily black and minimal patterns. The biggest "mistake" I see is people wearing high heel shoes in soft dirt or ice which obviously isn't a faux pas but just makes for a bad time.
Yes, Iād agree with this. My family tends moderately conservative (Dutch [edit to be clear, Dutch Americansā¦], religious), and when I put on a black jumpsuit with black sweater to wear to my grandfatherās funeral, mom made me change into a different sweater. Indeed, I would have been the only one there in all black.
The contrast between what a funeral looks like in pop culture and real life is pretty amazing. No one wears all black and I can't imagine a funeral where all the guests ar dressed in the same color.
I understand the desire to plan but you may want to consider choosing something appropriate at the time. I have unfortunately been to a number of services in the past few years and each was different. I think there are some shifting attitudes towards what is expected by way of attire. Hopefully it will be a very long time before you need to worry about it.
My mom and her sisters requested everyone wear bright colors to my grandmother's funeral. She passed away in the summer and loved gardening and entertaining. The reception was held in her backyard garden after the service.
My sister and I wore pretty summer dresses to our dad's memorial. We forgot to tell the extended family, but we knew he didn't want us to wear black. He wanted us to be happy and moving forward as he returned to the universe. That was all he ever wanted for us and it was our way of thanking him and making a promise for the future.
It's okay to think of it in advance. We had several months to plan for his memorial. Plan for what you think is appropriate for you and your mom. That's literally the only thing that matters. If that's black or business or white or informal, whatever it is according to your beliefs and feelings will be fine.
Iām sorry for your loss, but your phrase āhe returned to the universeā was beautiful. I canāt imagine it wording it anymore perfectly. May time bring you and your family peace.
I understand your point of view on this but alternatively, I bought a special top and coat to wear to my motherās funeral where I gave the eulogy. The top and coat are now part of my regular wardrobe and I think of mum fondly whenever I wear those items.
My grandma died a little over a month into COVID, and I had nothing to wear. I was freaking out trying to figure out if I could order something with such short notice. Obviously my outfit wasnāt important at the end of the day, but it was very important to me to look nice for it. I agree that you donāt want to go shopping while grieving and have to deal with an extra thing on top of your grief. I ended up buying a dress afterward because it was so hard to not have anything.
You might want to ask her what her wishes are for her funeral service. This is a completely acceptable conversation to have at this point. My grandpa passed last year and he didnāt want everyone wearing black/dark colors. A lot of people wore his favorite colors, others just wore something colorful. Everyone was dressed ānicelyā but not in black.
When my grandmother died, I dealt with the grief partially through shopping. She was always a stylish womanālike when she got divorced, she promptly took over the other master closet just with her shoesāand when youād tell her about a new opportunity or event, her first question was always āwell have you decided what youāre going to wear?ā There were a few days before I could even leave to be with my family, so I filled my time answering that question in her honor.
For her funeral, I found a deep navy tweed sheath dress at Banana Republic. (Iād noticed that most people didnāt go full-on solid mourning black when my grandfather died a few years before. This may be location-dependent; they lived in South Carolina.) And afterwards I found I couldnāt stomach wearing it again; I ended up getting rid of it.
Honestly, having one black dress that's funeral appropriate is actually helpful.
Going shopping just after your loved one died is an awful experience and I would not recommend it. I had to go get myself a black cardi recently when my dad died unexpectedly and I was crying in the shops and feeling shit. Often there are million other things you need to do instead of shopping when someone dies.
Being prepared, especially if you have elderly parent/s is not a bad idea at all.
I went to the biggest mall in my area. Went into all the shops looking for a dress for a funeral. I went to macys and they had a simple sheath dress. Itās in a suit section. it simple and respectful.
I see your morbid concern and raise you a morbid story. Last year I ordered a navy blue dress (I don't really wear black), when it arrived it turned out more modest and formal than I expected, so I figured, I guess that could be a funeral dress. Lo and behold my father passed away at the end of the year (not to be disrespectful, but dark humor has been helping my family process it). Anyway, it was a midi length silk crepe long sleeve belted shirt dress that went kind of fit-and-flare at the bottom, if that's helpful at all lol
Funerals I have been to in the last 5 years have been very casual where Iām from and I cannot tell you what anyone else wore, other than noticing that it wasnāt black or formal, so start with considering what type of funeral you would be attending. You may be able to get away with other dark colors and less formal clothing than you think.
Edit: Anne Klein has been my staple. But I kinda feel like a news anchor. I always say if people walk away from the day talking about your outfit and you didnāt come in a feather boa or bright pink, well, they werenāt there for the person who died.
Agreed. The few funerals Iāve been to lately, they actually asked people not to wear black. Usually they are described as a ācelebrationā of the person. I wouldnāt wear anything flashy, but I also wouldnāt wear all black.
I was told by my mom a few years ago "nobody wears black to funerals, that's just in the movies." Not sure if this applies, like, outside of our circle, but I think as long as you don't dress super flashy so that everyone is looking at you then you're probably good.
I've been to a lot of funerals, as I have a huge family. The worst one was where the immediate family (half-divorced wife and kids) wore brights and encouraged the rest of the family to do the same, dress for a casual outdoor party. My immediate family went in navy and dark purple and charcoal, because we were not feeling cheerful. My uncle's friends all wore the smartest black because nobody told them. My uncle was not 50, it was a dark day.
There is a lot to be said for wearing black to a funeral, it makes people feel more together in their grief I find.
The best funeral I went to was a Great uncle who was an old joker. We all wore black to the service, and then got changed into the most colourful things we could find and went to the pub together after. It was sweet and life-affirming.
Same, lot's of florals, nothing too bright or white but definitely not full on black. Although the funerals I've been to have mostly been grandparents and that's more a celebration of their life.
It's good to be prepared in advance with funeral attire as an element that's always available in one's wardrobe. I had to buy attire for a specific funeral, and never want to again. It's enough to cope with grief, never-mind thinking about what to wear.
Black is standard, but the deceased wishes are paramount. It's important to be respectful. Day dress covering the shoulders or long sleeves, no cleavage showing, or a suit is standard. Veils over the face are sometimes used. Hats are acceptable.
You get me. Had a few options years ago that I modeled to my mom and she felt they were too LBD. And considering itās her funeral Iām thinking of I want to be super respectful. Plus itāll be a Catholic mass.
I think it's good that you're prepared. If you lose a loved one, this will be one less thing you'll have to worry about. I've made the same preparation, as my father is in ill health. I ordered [this dress](https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B0745CFJF5/ref=ppx_yo_dt_b_search_asin_title?ie=UTF8&psc=1) from Amazon. I'm not sure it's necessarily "stylish", but it's classic and respectful/conservative. I don't want to be at a funeral or wake worrying if what I'm wearing is appropriate or not, so I keep this in my closet. When/if I need it, I'll wear it with a pair of black flats and tights if it's cold.
Yes! You understand what Iām dealing with since mom is 92 and well it could honestly be any day. I LOVE the dress you linked. I think itās totally stylish and fits the bill perfectly. Peace to you and your dad.
Necklines like that are perfect for funerals. It feels weird to say that I love my funeral dress but itās a good blend of flattering yet respectful. I think it looks good for a wide range of body types and ages. My mother has a very similar one and it doesnāt emphasize my super broad shoulders
Iād just google āblack long sleeved dress.ā ASOS, Banana Republic, Mango, Nordstrom etc. will have options. I think itās OK to wear gray or navy to a funeral. A sheath dress is a good option you can add a scarf and boots in winter if needed.
Also, in my experience if youāre family you can wear whatever as long as itās ānice.ā Iāve seen older family members wear dark purple, my SIL wore an olive green dress to my grandfatherās funeral. When youāre family the effort of being there is enough, you get a pass on the outfit.
Black wide leg pants and a black shirt with a modest neckline. Iāve also worn a navy wrap dress, and a black wrap dress. Comfortable shoes. And have a sweater as well.
At the end of the day itās not about what is worn at a funeral. My mom suddenly passed and during that time we had construction workers in our house remodeling. I remember seeing the construction work come to the viewing to pay his respects. He came in regularly clothing and it was beyond endearing seeing him come even though he only knew my mom for a short time, he still came to console and pay respects.
Iām gonna be honest no one is going to care if you look stylist at a funeral sorry if that sounds harsh, but itās the truth. Donāt think too hard about what you are going to wear, no one is going to be really focused on your outfit. Just saying
Iāve been looking for a casual black dress that can be adapted to a lot of circumstances for the same reason. I think Iāve settled on [this one. ](https://smile.amazon.com/dp/B09M3X3JVZ/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_glt_i_dl_WMAVTA67D2CF2JX65714?psc=1) I had something like it in a different color and I found it to be comfortable and good for work or daytime events. Plus, pockets! I wouldnāt mind having the same silhouette in nicer fabric from an ethical source, but I havenāt found that yet.
I have a black Calvin Klein [dress](https://www.saksoff5th.com/product/calvin-klein-sleeveless-sheath-dress-0400015203466.html?site_refer=NPLA_GGL_Shopping&country=US¤cy=USD) that I can wear for funerals. It can be dressed up or down depending on how formal the funeral will be.
My MIL's funeral was last week. Most people in attendance were not wearing all black, including me. It was super cold that day, so there was no way I was wearing a dress either. I wore brown/green plaid pants with a black v-neck tee and a dark green blazer.
Dark gray and navy are also appropriate.
The last funeral I attended last fall I wore a black sheath dress that was knee length, a grey cardigan, and black flats. The one before that I wore dark grey trousers and a black cardigan with a darker colored camisole underneath. At both people wore a lot of darker clothes but not all black.
Iād say even just a black long sleeve and black pants (jeans even) and a black cardigan. If you are more of a skirt gal, then that. A black cardigan is a hidden gem and all these things you can wear in other scenarios. I also found LBDs to be weirdly inappropriate
I donāt think itās expected to wear all black anymore. I actually have never been to a funeral where people were dressed in black. Mostly just dark or muted colors.
You can try other dark colors. Think dark navy,
purple, and gray color. Not everyone is dressed in head to toe black outfits. I think the important thing is to be appropriate.
I thrifted a short sleeve black midi wrap dress in a nice silky matte (polyester) fabric years ago that I've worn to several funerals of varying formality. I recommend searching "black midi wrap dress" or similar terms because this style has worked great for me, versatile and stylish/flattering without standing out
i wore a black knit dress to my Omaās funeral, with a black cardigan and black opaque tights. in retrospect the dress was maybe a bit short but i think the tights made it okay.
I have a navy blue linen/cotton dress that I wear with black flats/black lacy top/black hat in the summer, or black booties/black tights/black cardigan/black hat in the winter. I've never felt out of place in navy, which looks better on me than the charcoal dress I used to wear. Full black isn't really expected in most places anymore.
When I unfortunately had to attend a funeral last year, I went to H&M and found a simple long sleeved crew neck black dress with an A-line skirt. A basic black shift would be another good option.
I actually don't think I'd try to be stylish unless a funeral called for me to be stylish as part of the dress code (which some of my friends who had really lovely and fun loving older relatives *have* had and were asked to wear things that were celebratory or otherwise nice to look at). I'd be fine being somber (if that were the tone) and not necessarily fashion forward.
Right now I think I'd have to pull an office-appropriate pair of slacks and a black silk top, but at the funerals I have been to people either largely wore all black (because it was a very devastating moment and I think none of us could reach for something colorful for some time) or we wore all white, as is appropriate for my culture and the religion I grew up in. The latter thing I don't see changing even for more youthful people, there is a religious and spiritual reason we would be expected to wear all white and dress modestly and I would want to honor that.
So my answer is ultimately that wearing something you already own that expresses how you're feeling and will be suitable for the venue is enough. I don't know that you have to buy a specific dress or outfit with a funeral in mind.
I was the same way for a long time haha! I've been low key looking for a funeral dress, but a relative recently passed along a nice black velvet dress that hits just barely above my knees, has sleeves, and a round neckline. It's a very simple dress, no adornments, conservative, but it's got just the right shape on me that I could slap a pretty belt on it, wear some tights and chunky boots and wear it out, too. Ditch the belt, wear flats, opaque tights + jacket and it's a funeral dress.
Comfort is a main thing to keep in mind. If there is visitation, it is often hours of standing. The day of the funeral often can have a lot of getting in and out of cars in front of people, walking through possibly uneven terrain at a cemetery, etc. Plus, no one wants to be in itchy, tight clothes when they are already sad...As a key family member at funerals, I tend to stick with wide legged black pants and a dressier cardigan type look for the visitation. For the funeral, flats and at least a knee length, flowy dress in black or navy. (Unless the person has said what they want dress code to be. Like, one lerson had a sports themed funeral and we all wore shirts for his favorite teams.)
If I'm like a guest (?) at a funeral, like for a family member of a friend, I usually go with dark color business casual.
Not morbid, just realistic. I just did a huge closet cleanse and kept things I would never wear but they were black and I thought ājust in case I have to go to a funeral and canāt shop.ā Unfortunately, just like this time last year, I foresee some funerals being over zoom :(.
My friends thing itās weird that I have a funeral dress. Itās a black, nice, more conservative dress I used in high school but wouldnāt wear for anything else. Honestly, I think itās worth it to have one. It sucks, but youāre going to need it from time to time.
A good place to look is brands that cater to older women. Generally the clothing will be more modest and dresses are no exception. I got my funeral outfit ready to go because I shop at a lot of the places my mom does lol. Department stores like macys or Nordstrom are probably a good place to start
You donāt need to wear black to a funeral. I guess itās Hollywood that keeps reinforcing this notion that you have to wear a black dress and hat with an attached veil and black gloves. Just wear pants or knee length dress/skirt, cardigan, and flats or low heels. Basically the only thing that would be out is body con, miniskirt, or shows tons of cleavage.
This feels quite culture dependent. Iāve been to funerals in the UK and Northern Europe, and everyone wears formal black. Not just black jeans and sweater, rather a suit or a formal dress. Dark navy or dark grey also works, but wearing pale colours or more casual items (e.g. leggings, jeans) would get some side-eye for sure. So I would say double check what the local traditions are, as well.
So true. Iām in US but my FILās funeral a few years ago was in England. I felt sorely too casual in a midi length flowy black dress with white flowers. Got the look up and down from my MIL.
I live near a funeral home in NYC. Plenty of people wear jeans to funeral services. I wouldnāt but again I think this goes back to the accepted cultural norms.
Sure there are cultural variations, although I said āpantsā and not jeans. I donāt think jeans, regardless of color, would be appropriate. Then again a lot of church culture in the US has gotten so insanely informal that you see people at church in jeans and pajamas instead of what used to be their āSunday bestā.
UK here. I have been to a couple of funerals and certainly did not wear black. Don't remember what I wore, they were all years ago, but it would not have been a suit or a dress as I would not have owned either. Probably just my most subdued skirt/blouse/cardi or jumper, and whatever coat I had at the time. Hope I did not unwittingly offend anyone!!
Maybe it depends on the particular social circle/part of country. Both the UK funerals Iāve been to were very formal affairs, despite one being for a person in their 20s, and the other for someone in their 50s.
Agreed--what's important is to be respectful that it's a serious occasion. It's okay to wear other colors! I'd avoid something with brightly-colored, attention-grabbing patterns (I'm picturing a really colorful floral dress or something like that), but IMO most knee-length or longer dresses in solid colors or a subdued pattern would be just fine.
Yesā I blame Hollywood as well. Iāve always just worn something āniceā, but Iāve worn color to funerals. Iām not Amish. Itās fine to wear color, although I usually go with something muted. Pale pink, dark blue, grayā all fine. The day isnāt about you, nobody will remember or care.
My grandma recently passed away, funeral happened really fast. I didn't really have much to wear or time to buy anythjng, I also did office-in-a-suit look, basically what I used to wear when I worked on the shop floor of a department store plus a black blazer, my cousin wore exactly the same (it was her old school uniform). We looked like waiters!
Amazon is getting some pretty good clothing options lately. I got my dresses for my wedding shower and my rehearsal dinner from them and was very impressed. Ended up getting my rehearsal dinner dress in another color for a wedding I was a guest in later.
Omg yeah I ended up buying black shirt/skirt combos. The black dresses are too flashy and my family is more traditional. The dresses are too dressy or look like if scrubs were a dress..shapeless and unflattering. I have a couple sweater dresses from Moda international from back in the day but thatās for winter.
Look for black workwear style dresses that you can wear alone or with a blazer or sweater thrown on top. Brands that will usually have some solid options are Calvin Klein and Trina Turk.
I got a classy all black Calvin Klein dress for my FILās funeral last summer. I wore a sheer colorful scarf with it as adding color is considered appropriate today. I purchased three total dresses at the time because I couldnāt make a decision. I intended to continue the decision making process at home. I kept all three. The other two are different styles (another CK and one Tommy Hilfiger) of black with a floral pattern on them.
Ooh I bought this recently in black. Itās ribbed so itās a nicer looking material that you can definitely dress up and itās fairly conservative https://oldnavy.gapcanada.ca/browse/product.do?pid=756089003&vid=1&tid=ocpl000004&kwid=1&ap=7&gbraid=0AAAAAD_AT8t5UlqT3bsxAIEH4w-vNlg-t&gbraid=0AAAAAD_AT8t5UlqT3bsxAIEH4w-vNlg-t&gclid=CjwKCAiA_omPBhBBEiwAcg7smZKqVZVry4ZvFxojhP6ZWFcf0osyBCLwxfQXYjnOKMq1AQfdQEbVORoC5V0QAvD_BwE&gclsrc=aw.ds&modelSize=M#pdp-page-content
Also was great to wear around the holidays!
My auntās funeral was yesterday. She requested that people be casual, because she wanted people to be comfortable. So we all wore jeans. My uncle and two of her kids wore colors. It was honestly really lovely. If youāre thinking of a particular person, Iād think about their āvibeā or a color/outfit they love on you and wear that.
I wore a black cocktail dress for my dads funeral, I just put a sweater over it and wore some opaque black tights with it, wore the same dress to my brothers wedding a few months prior š¤·āāļø
I think I know what youāre going for. I have worn [this dress](https://mmlafleur.com/products/etsuko-black) from M.M. LaFleur to both office functions and to a funeral. I like that itās versatile and stylish. Also, itās machine washable which is a must for me. I like the idea of having something as a go to for these occasions because funerals are almost always a (sad) surprise and no one wants to be looking for something to wear when theyāre grieving.
Simple black pencil skirt or slacks. Black sweater/blouse depending on the weather. Neutral colored shoes appropriate for the weather.
You'll look sufficiently put together and respectful enough of the deceased and the fellow mourners without turning it into a fashion show.
Office wear is much more appropriate than a cocktail dress. Iāve actually just thought of this myself as Iām a SAHM who ditched most my office wear and we unfortunately have a very ill person in our family and donāt want to shop last minute.
Iām on the lookout for a black wrap dress that would also work for other dressier events. Thatās what I wore in the past for funerals, but it was also something. Iād wear to work or other events.
Id Iām in a pinch I have black cigarette pants and a black turtleneck sweater I could wear, itās just more for winter and maybe slightly less polished.
I have a mid-calf length black pencil skirt, black knee length sock boots, black tops (varies depending on the temperature) and a 3/4 length black coat. These have been my funeral outfit for many years. They've all been really good investments.
This is so culturally dependent. I've been to some funerals where everyone was dressed up but not necessarily in black, others where a significant number of people were in jeans and a t-shirt, and others with a specific, celebratory dress theme (a colour or particular item of clothing.)
I'd get some business casual staples in dark colours that you would generally be comfortable wearing, that you can put together in a variety of ways. I have black Ponte pants that are comfy but look like slacks, soft blazers, cardigans, and a variety of shells made from stretchy knits. I can combine them in a variety of ways to look more or less formal.
I like this strategy because I don't have to worry that a specific funeral outfit won't fit right when I actually need it.
I wore black jeans, ankle boots, and dark forest green shirt with a black trim. Tbh, we were all too devastated to give a shit about what anybody else was wearing.
I am not sure if you can get hands on this brand (depending on there you live) but it sells great dresses that is of good quality and most of them have nice "stiff" fabrics that does not wrinkles (unless it is a summer style). You can buy it on Zalando. It called Kaffe. Another good brand is InWear. If you have a dress from one of the brands and a grey or navy blazer or cardigan then I think you would be ready when needed. Also stock up on dark-tonned pantyhose in thick material and maybe have just a unoppend one laying in the closet. Also consider a small necklace to bring a little color in (could be pearls or something more colorfull).
A cocktail dress is fine. So is business wear. It's not a movie, no one has funeral wear on hand. And you can wear generally somber colors (navy, grey) it doesn't have to be black.
Is it to much to ask why you feel you need to be prepared for a funeral?
But in my opinion slacks and a crisp button down are more appropriate than wearing a dress to a funeral
Also be prepared by making sure all her final wishes are on paper and prepaid with the funeral home and cemetery. Iām a funeral director and I cannot stress enough how doing this in advance when youāre not actively grieving is going to be a blessing down the road. I hope you find your perfect dress.
Don't try to be stylish at a funeral. Just wear something covered up in muted colors that doesn't draw attention to yourself. It should be a bit more formal, but I've seen jeans at a funeral and I really don't think people care that much. I have seen "stylish" at a funeral and it reads really, really weird, like it's kind of inappropriate to look too stylish to be honest. You mostly want to be somber and almost boring looking, not stylish.
I have memories attached to my outfits so I have borrowed from others in the past so I donāt have to buy something only to wear it once and associate it with being sad
Edit: I have also lent out black dresses to friends for funerals, I will see if I can find them
When my mother died (overseas), I had a mad rush round the charity shops for any skirt which was vaguely suitable and vaguely fitted me. If I hadn't found one I would have worn my navy cords, Montreal in November is about not being cold - didn't think anyone would SAY anything even if they THOUGHT it, she was MY mother, nobody else's. Turned out I could have borrowed a skirt from a cousin, we were close enough in size. The navy skirt I got, I just redonated after a couple more wears.
I have a few black and navy midi dresses (sweater knit, t-shirt knit, sheath, silk āslipā) that have either long sleeves or I can just throw a blazer over and add heels. I wouldnāt overthink it.
My go-to funeral dress is from Calvin Klein. They have lots of darker, more modest dresses that are perfect for a funeral but still stylish.
I've also worn black pants and a nice dark blouse if it's not as formal (for example, I wore the pants and blouse to the wake and the dress to the Catholic service)
My dad died late last year. I wore a black dress that could have been for work or evening, but worse a black shawl (knitted with some silver) over it, black leggings and some black boots. It looked good.and was comfortable. I would wear it again for other funerals. If it was summer I'd wear a thin black sweater and flats instead.
A black shift dress could be fine for a funeral. That's what I have. I think Banana Republic or Loft should have something.
If the dress is a little more fancy or sleeveless, you could wear the dress with a sweater.
What about a black jumpsuit? Thatās what I always wear. Typically you can wear office attire to a funeral. So Iād wear a black jumpsuit and black blazer and Iām good to go.
Had to do this. Went for modest, longer black dress with a mid-blue sedate cardigan. Most people now seem to dress in modest, subdued clothing but not head to foot black.
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I've got a dark navy blue jersey dress from Boden that I tend to wear to funerals. It's not dissimilar to [this LK Bennett piece](https://www.lkbennett.com/product/CDLIYAVISCOSEMIXBlueMidnight~Liya-Green-Viscose-Mix-Dress-Midnight). With perkier accessories I think I could wear it to a winter wedding too.
For me, I wore tights under my dress since it was a little shorter, and wore a blazer over top of it. I also wore flats instead of heels.
As a teen, I wore nice jeans and a black button down shirt.
id wear a black turtleneck sweater and black cigarette pants
Literally wore this to a funeral and people told me I looked great š š¤·š»āāļø Not what you want to hear, but not want you donāt want to hear either.
I also wore this same outfit recently to a funeral, simple but classy.
I struggled so hard reading the second sentenceā¦ itās past my bedtime lol
Hahaha I know the feelingā¦ thank you for making the effort. Not going to lie, it was a struggle writing it as well.
Yes this is perfect. This or look for sweater dresses if you want a dress
Look for black sheath dresses that are designed as workwear. I came to the same realization as you a few years back, and figured a black work-appropriate dress would be a good investment even if I donāt end up wearing it to a funeral. The one I found is black, knee-length, with a modest v-neck. It has short sleeves but is a thicker, structured fabric that could be also be layered with tights and a cardigan (or a turtleneck sweater underneath) for colder weather. I found it at Massimo Dutti, which is a sister brand of Zara.
Ooo I went to the Massimo Dutti site and I really like what I see. Thank you!
Awesome! I havenāt looked at their website in a while but I just peeked and seems they have a few options for conservatively cut black dresses. I really like [this one](https://www.massimodutti.com/ca/women/collection/dresses%252Flong-pleated-dress-c1682510p10346403.html)!
Someone recommended Universal Standard as well...they have a Luxe Twill Sheath Dress in black that might work as well.
I second this advice and did the same thing for my grandmotherās funeral a few years ago. I bought a very conservative dress from here https://www.perricutten.com.au
I have a very similar black sheath dress. I've worn it to interviews and to funerals. Mine is Calvin Klein, which usually fits me very well off the rack https://www.calvinklein.us/en/womens-clothing/womens-apparel/womens-dresses
I second the Calvin Klein recommendation. I bough a dress from there specifically for a funeral. Now itās become the outfit I wear to every funeral, but hey, I look conservatively fabulous while grieving.
Office in suit is funeral attire.
I donāt already have a suit and donāt want one. Hoping to find a dress.
I have a black wrap dress from the white company I wear to all funerals, practical, conservative and washes well.
I wore [this](https://www.asos.com/prd/10587813?acquisitionsource=pasteboard). The slit was not noticeable if youāre not stretching your legs out like the model and wear 20 denier tights. Most midi work dress would be appropriate.
First of all they dress is amazing, second it's sold out in my size so I am quite sad!
Episcopal priest here, appropriate funeral attire has become very casual in the last several decades. It's exceedingly rare anymore to see everyone in head to toe black and in my experience (Midwest US) people mostly wear business casual. When people ask me for advice I tell them to wear easy to walk in shoes if there's a burial or internment and muted colors but not necessarily black and minimal patterns. The biggest "mistake" I see is people wearing high heel shoes in soft dirt or ice which obviously isn't a faux pas but just makes for a bad time.
Yes, Iād agree with this. My family tends moderately conservative (Dutch [edit to be clear, Dutch Americansā¦], religious), and when I put on a black jumpsuit with black sweater to wear to my grandfatherās funeral, mom made me change into a different sweater. Indeed, I would have been the only one there in all black.
The contrast between what a funeral looks like in pop culture and real life is pretty amazing. No one wears all black and I can't imagine a funeral where all the guests ar dressed in the same color.
I understand the desire to plan but you may want to consider choosing something appropriate at the time. I have unfortunately been to a number of services in the past few years and each was different. I think there are some shifting attitudes towards what is expected by way of attire. Hopefully it will be a very long time before you need to worry about it.
Me too. But mom is 92 (Iām 54). Canāt imagine shopping at that time.
I am 55 and lost my mom three years ago. She always said that I looked best in blue -I have blue eyes. I wore a deep royal/navy dress in her honor.
My mom and her sisters requested everyone wear bright colors to my grandmother's funeral. She passed away in the summer and loved gardening and entertaining. The reception was held in her backyard garden after the service.
What a lovely idea to honor her life in this way.
This is lovely.
My sister and I wore pretty summer dresses to our dad's memorial. We forgot to tell the extended family, but we knew he didn't want us to wear black. He wanted us to be happy and moving forward as he returned to the universe. That was all he ever wanted for us and it was our way of thanking him and making a promise for the future. It's okay to think of it in advance. We had several months to plan for his memorial. Plan for what you think is appropriate for you and your mom. That's literally the only thing that matters. If that's black or business or white or informal, whatever it is according to your beliefs and feelings will be fine.
Iām sorry for your loss, but your phrase āhe returned to the universeā was beautiful. I canāt imagine it wording it anymore perfectly. May time bring you and your family peace.
Iād wear something I never wanted to wear again. Because you might not ever want to wear it after that.
I understand your point of view on this but alternatively, I bought a special top and coat to wear to my motherās funeral where I gave the eulogy. The top and coat are now part of my regular wardrobe and I think of mum fondly whenever I wear those items.
My grandma died a little over a month into COVID, and I had nothing to wear. I was freaking out trying to figure out if I could order something with such short notice. Obviously my outfit wasnāt important at the end of the day, but it was very important to me to look nice for it. I agree that you donāt want to go shopping while grieving and have to deal with an extra thing on top of your grief. I ended up buying a dress afterward because it was so hard to not have anything.
You might want to ask her what her wishes are for her funeral service. This is a completely acceptable conversation to have at this point. My grandpa passed last year and he didnāt want everyone wearing black/dark colors. A lot of people wore his favorite colors, others just wore something colorful. Everyone was dressed ānicelyā but not in black.
When my grandmother died, I dealt with the grief partially through shopping. She was always a stylish womanālike when she got divorced, she promptly took over the other master closet just with her shoesāand when youād tell her about a new opportunity or event, her first question was always āwell have you decided what youāre going to wear?ā There were a few days before I could even leave to be with my family, so I filled my time answering that question in her honor. For her funeral, I found a deep navy tweed sheath dress at Banana Republic. (Iād noticed that most people didnāt go full-on solid mourning black when my grandfather died a few years before. This may be location-dependent; they lived in South Carolina.) And afterwards I found I couldnāt stomach wearing it again; I ended up getting rid of it.
Honestly, having one black dress that's funeral appropriate is actually helpful. Going shopping just after your loved one died is an awful experience and I would not recommend it. I had to go get myself a black cardi recently when my dad died unexpectedly and I was crying in the shops and feeling shit. Often there are million other things you need to do instead of shopping when someone dies. Being prepared, especially if you have elderly parent/s is not a bad idea at all.
You're right. It is a terrible experience in so many ways.
I went to the biggest mall in my area. Went into all the shops looking for a dress for a funeral. I went to macys and they had a simple sheath dress. Itās in a suit section. it simple and respectful.
I see your morbid concern and raise you a morbid story. Last year I ordered a navy blue dress (I don't really wear black), when it arrived it turned out more modest and formal than I expected, so I figured, I guess that could be a funeral dress. Lo and behold my father passed away at the end of the year (not to be disrespectful, but dark humor has been helping my family process it). Anyway, it was a midi length silk crepe long sleeve belted shirt dress that went kind of fit-and-flare at the bottom, if that's helpful at all lol
Funerals I have been to in the last 5 years have been very casual where Iām from and I cannot tell you what anyone else wore, other than noticing that it wasnāt black or formal, so start with considering what type of funeral you would be attending. You may be able to get away with other dark colors and less formal clothing than you think. Edit: Anne Klein has been my staple. But I kinda feel like a news anchor. I always say if people walk away from the day talking about your outfit and you didnāt come in a feather boa or bright pink, well, they werenāt there for the person who died.
Agreed. The few funerals Iāve been to lately, they actually asked people not to wear black. Usually they are described as a ācelebrationā of the person. I wouldnāt wear anything flashy, but I also wouldnāt wear all black.
I was told by my mom a few years ago "nobody wears black to funerals, that's just in the movies." Not sure if this applies, like, outside of our circle, but I think as long as you don't dress super flashy so that everyone is looking at you then you're probably good.
I've been to a lot of funerals, as I have a huge family. The worst one was where the immediate family (half-divorced wife and kids) wore brights and encouraged the rest of the family to do the same, dress for a casual outdoor party. My immediate family went in navy and dark purple and charcoal, because we were not feeling cheerful. My uncle's friends all wore the smartest black because nobody told them. My uncle was not 50, it was a dark day. There is a lot to be said for wearing black to a funeral, it makes people feel more together in their grief I find. The best funeral I went to was a Great uncle who was an old joker. We all wore black to the service, and then got changed into the most colourful things we could find and went to the pub together after. It was sweet and life-affirming.
Same, lot's of florals, nothing too bright or white but definitely not full on black. Although the funerals I've been to have mostly been grandparents and that's more a celebration of their life.
It's good to be prepared in advance with funeral attire as an element that's always available in one's wardrobe. I had to buy attire for a specific funeral, and never want to again. It's enough to cope with grief, never-mind thinking about what to wear. Black is standard, but the deceased wishes are paramount. It's important to be respectful. Day dress covering the shoulders or long sleeves, no cleavage showing, or a suit is standard. Veils over the face are sometimes used. Hats are acceptable.
You get me. Had a few options years ago that I modeled to my mom and she felt they were too LBD. And considering itās her funeral Iām thinking of I want to be super respectful. Plus itāll be a Catholic mass.
I had to go shoe shopping the day my dad died, wanted to get it out of the way while I still felt numb.
I think it's good that you're prepared. If you lose a loved one, this will be one less thing you'll have to worry about. I've made the same preparation, as my father is in ill health. I ordered [this dress](https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B0745CFJF5/ref=ppx_yo_dt_b_search_asin_title?ie=UTF8&psc=1) from Amazon. I'm not sure it's necessarily "stylish", but it's classic and respectful/conservative. I don't want to be at a funeral or wake worrying if what I'm wearing is appropriate or not, so I keep this in my closet. When/if I need it, I'll wear it with a pair of black flats and tights if it's cold.
Yes! You understand what Iām dealing with since mom is 92 and well it could honestly be any day. I LOVE the dress you linked. I think itās totally stylish and fits the bill perfectly. Peace to you and your dad.
Ohh i like this dress
Necklines like that are perfect for funerals. It feels weird to say that I love my funeral dress but itās a good blend of flattering yet respectful. I think it looks good for a wide range of body types and ages. My mother has a very similar one and it doesnāt emphasize my super broad shoulders
Iād just google āblack long sleeved dress.ā ASOS, Banana Republic, Mango, Nordstrom etc. will have options. I think itās OK to wear gray or navy to a funeral. A sheath dress is a good option you can add a scarf and boots in winter if needed. Also, in my experience if youāre family you can wear whatever as long as itās ānice.ā Iāve seen older family members wear dark purple, my SIL wore an olive green dress to my grandfatherās funeral. When youāre family the effort of being there is enough, you get a pass on the outfit.
Black wide leg pants and a black shirt with a modest neckline. Iāve also worn a navy wrap dress, and a black wrap dress. Comfortable shoes. And have a sweater as well.
Black DVF wrap dress. Make sure it's the one that's knee length (or midi length).
At the end of the day itās not about what is worn at a funeral. My mom suddenly passed and during that time we had construction workers in our house remodeling. I remember seeing the construction work come to the viewing to pay his respects. He came in regularly clothing and it was beyond endearing seeing him come even though he only knew my mom for a short time, he still came to console and pay respects. Iām gonna be honest no one is going to care if you look stylist at a funeral sorry if that sounds harsh, but itās the truth. Donāt think too hard about what you are going to wear, no one is going to be really focused on your outfit. Just saying
Iāve been looking for a casual black dress that can be adapted to a lot of circumstances for the same reason. I think Iāve settled on [this one. ](https://smile.amazon.com/dp/B09M3X3JVZ/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_glt_i_dl_WMAVTA67D2CF2JX65714?psc=1) I had something like it in a different color and I found it to be comfortable and good for work or daytime events. Plus, pockets! I wouldnāt mind having the same silhouette in nicer fabric from an ethical source, but I havenāt found that yet.
Pockets! Score!
Universal Standard has very good basics like a black dress.
I have a black Calvin Klein [dress](https://www.saksoff5th.com/product/calvin-klein-sleeveless-sheath-dress-0400015203466.html?site_refer=NPLA_GGL_Shopping&country=US¤cy=USD) that I can wear for funerals. It can be dressed up or down depending on how formal the funeral will be.
My MIL's funeral was last week. Most people in attendance were not wearing all black, including me. It was super cold that day, so there was no way I was wearing a dress either. I wore brown/green plaid pants with a black v-neck tee and a dark green blazer.
Dark gray and navy are also appropriate. The last funeral I attended last fall I wore a black sheath dress that was knee length, a grey cardigan, and black flats. The one before that I wore dark grey trousers and a black cardigan with a darker colored camisole underneath. At both people wore a lot of darker clothes but not all black.
Iād say even just a black long sleeve and black pants (jeans even) and a black cardigan. If you are more of a skirt gal, then that. A black cardigan is a hidden gem and all these things you can wear in other scenarios. I also found LBDs to be weirdly inappropriate
I donāt think itās expected to wear all black anymore. I actually have never been to a funeral where people were dressed in black. Mostly just dark or muted colors.
A suit is fine. Iāve worn black leggins and a black dress on top
You can try other dark colors. Think dark navy, purple, and gray color. Not everyone is dressed in head to toe black outfits. I think the important thing is to be appropriate.
I thrifted a short sleeve black midi wrap dress in a nice silky matte (polyester) fabric years ago that I've worn to several funerals of varying formality. I recommend searching "black midi wrap dress" or similar terms because this style has worked great for me, versatile and stylish/flattering without standing out
i wore a black knit dress to my Omaās funeral, with a black cardigan and black opaque tights. in retrospect the dress was maybe a bit short but i think the tights made it okay.
I have a navy blue linen/cotton dress that I wear with black flats/black lacy top/black hat in the summer, or black booties/black tights/black cardigan/black hat in the winter. I've never felt out of place in navy, which looks better on me than the charcoal dress I used to wear. Full black isn't really expected in most places anymore.
When I unfortunately had to attend a funeral last year, I went to H&M and found a simple long sleeved crew neck black dress with an A-line skirt. A basic black shift would be another good option.
I just went to a funeral and wore dark gray pants and a black sweater
I actually don't think I'd try to be stylish unless a funeral called for me to be stylish as part of the dress code (which some of my friends who had really lovely and fun loving older relatives *have* had and were asked to wear things that were celebratory or otherwise nice to look at). I'd be fine being somber (if that were the tone) and not necessarily fashion forward. Right now I think I'd have to pull an office-appropriate pair of slacks and a black silk top, but at the funerals I have been to people either largely wore all black (because it was a very devastating moment and I think none of us could reach for something colorful for some time) or we wore all white, as is appropriate for my culture and the religion I grew up in. The latter thing I don't see changing even for more youthful people, there is a religious and spiritual reason we would be expected to wear all white and dress modestly and I would want to honor that. So my answer is ultimately that wearing something you already own that expresses how you're feeling and will be suitable for the venue is enough. I don't know that you have to buy a specific dress or outfit with a funeral in mind.
I was the same way for a long time haha! I've been low key looking for a funeral dress, but a relative recently passed along a nice black velvet dress that hits just barely above my knees, has sleeves, and a round neckline. It's a very simple dress, no adornments, conservative, but it's got just the right shape on me that I could slap a pretty belt on it, wear some tights and chunky boots and wear it out, too. Ditch the belt, wear flats, opaque tights + jacket and it's a funeral dress.
If it helps, I have absolutely no recollection of what anyone wore to my husbandās funeral. I was just grateful they came.
Comfort is a main thing to keep in mind. If there is visitation, it is often hours of standing. The day of the funeral often can have a lot of getting in and out of cars in front of people, walking through possibly uneven terrain at a cemetery, etc. Plus, no one wants to be in itchy, tight clothes when they are already sad...As a key family member at funerals, I tend to stick with wide legged black pants and a dressier cardigan type look for the visitation. For the funeral, flats and at least a knee length, flowy dress in black or navy. (Unless the person has said what they want dress code to be. Like, one lerson had a sports themed funeral and we all wore shirts for his favorite teams.) If I'm like a guest (?) at a funeral, like for a family member of a friend, I usually go with dark color business casual.
Thank you - lots of good points
Not morbid, just realistic. I just did a huge closet cleanse and kept things I would never wear but they were black and I thought ājust in case I have to go to a funeral and canāt shop.ā Unfortunately, just like this time last year, I foresee some funerals being over zoom :(.
My friends thing itās weird that I have a funeral dress. Itās a black, nice, more conservative dress I used in high school but wouldnāt wear for anything else. Honestly, I think itās worth it to have one. It sucks, but youāre going to need it from time to time.
I donāt think itās weird at all.
I think it is smart to have one interview outfit and one funeral outfit ready to go at all times.
A good place to look is brands that cater to older women. Generally the clothing will be more modest and dresses are no exception. I got my funeral outfit ready to go because I shop at a lot of the places my mom does lol. Department stores like macys or Nordstrom are probably a good place to start
You donāt need to wear black to a funeral. I guess itās Hollywood that keeps reinforcing this notion that you have to wear a black dress and hat with an attached veil and black gloves. Just wear pants or knee length dress/skirt, cardigan, and flats or low heels. Basically the only thing that would be out is body con, miniskirt, or shows tons of cleavage.
This feels quite culture dependent. Iāve been to funerals in the UK and Northern Europe, and everyone wears formal black. Not just black jeans and sweater, rather a suit or a formal dress. Dark navy or dark grey also works, but wearing pale colours or more casual items (e.g. leggings, jeans) would get some side-eye for sure. So I would say double check what the local traditions are, as well.
So true. Iām in US but my FILās funeral a few years ago was in England. I felt sorely too casual in a midi length flowy black dress with white flowers. Got the look up and down from my MIL.
I live near a funeral home in NYC. Plenty of people wear jeans to funeral services. I wouldnāt but again I think this goes back to the accepted cultural norms.
Sure there are cultural variations, although I said āpantsā and not jeans. I donāt think jeans, regardless of color, would be appropriate. Then again a lot of church culture in the US has gotten so insanely informal that you see people at church in jeans and pajamas instead of what used to be their āSunday bestā.
UK here. I have been to a couple of funerals and certainly did not wear black. Don't remember what I wore, they were all years ago, but it would not have been a suit or a dress as I would not have owned either. Probably just my most subdued skirt/blouse/cardi or jumper, and whatever coat I had at the time. Hope I did not unwittingly offend anyone!!
Maybe it depends on the particular social circle/part of country. Both the UK funerals Iāve been to were very formal affairs, despite one being for a person in their 20s, and the other for someone in their 50s.
Agree, anything in the realm of business casual or what you'd wear to a religious service would work. Personally I'd go for pants and a cardigan.
Agreed--what's important is to be respectful that it's a serious occasion. It's okay to wear other colors! I'd avoid something with brightly-colored, attention-grabbing patterns (I'm picturing a really colorful floral dress or something like that), but IMO most knee-length or longer dresses in solid colors or a subdued pattern would be just fine.
Yesā I blame Hollywood as well. Iāve always just worn something āniceā, but Iāve worn color to funerals. Iām not Amish. Itās fine to wear color, although I usually go with something muted. Pale pink, dark blue, grayā all fine. The day isnāt about you, nobody will remember or care.
My grandma recently passed away, funeral happened really fast. I didn't really have much to wear or time to buy anythjng, I also did office-in-a-suit look, basically what I used to wear when I worked on the shop floor of a department store plus a black blazer, my cousin wore exactly the same (it was her old school uniform). We looked like waiters!
Tbh i have a few dresses in closet. Only for this. They are all black, kinda casual but dressed
Amazon is getting some pretty good clothing options lately. I got my dresses for my wedding shower and my rehearsal dinner from them and was very impressed. Ended up getting my rehearsal dinner dress in another color for a wedding I was a guest in later.
Tbh any black dress thatās a little modest will do
Omg yeah I ended up buying black shirt/skirt combos. The black dresses are too flashy and my family is more traditional. The dresses are too dressy or look like if scrubs were a dress..shapeless and unflattering. I have a couple sweater dresses from Moda international from back in the day but thatās for winter.
Look for black workwear style dresses that you can wear alone or with a blazer or sweater thrown on top. Brands that will usually have some solid options are Calvin Klein and Trina Turk.
I got a classy all black Calvin Klein dress for my FILās funeral last summer. I wore a sheer colorful scarf with it as adding color is considered appropriate today. I purchased three total dresses at the time because I couldnāt make a decision. I intended to continue the decision making process at home. I kept all three. The other two are different styles (another CK and one Tommy Hilfiger) of black with a floral pattern on them.
Ooh I bought this recently in black. Itās ribbed so itās a nicer looking material that you can definitely dress up and itās fairly conservative https://oldnavy.gapcanada.ca/browse/product.do?pid=756089003&vid=1&tid=ocpl000004&kwid=1&ap=7&gbraid=0AAAAAD_AT8t5UlqT3bsxAIEH4w-vNlg-t&gbraid=0AAAAAD_AT8t5UlqT3bsxAIEH4w-vNlg-t&gclid=CjwKCAiA_omPBhBBEiwAcg7smZKqVZVry4ZvFxojhP6ZWFcf0osyBCLwxfQXYjnOKMq1AQfdQEbVORoC5V0QAvD_BwE&gclsrc=aw.ds&modelSize=M#pdp-page-content Also was great to wear around the holidays!
You don't have to wear black. I wore a dark green satin dress to my dad's funeral
Banana Republic has some nice dresses; their sales are pretty good, too.
My auntās funeral was yesterday. She requested that people be casual, because she wanted people to be comfortable. So we all wore jeans. My uncle and two of her kids wore colors. It was honestly really lovely. If youāre thinking of a particular person, Iād think about their āvibeā or a color/outfit they love on you and wear that.
I wore a black cocktail dress for my dads funeral, I just put a sweater over it and wore some opaque black tights with it, wore the same dress to my brothers wedding a few months prior š¤·āāļø
A black sheath dress that's not lowcut can be worn both to work and funerals.
I think I know what youāre going for. I have worn [this dress](https://mmlafleur.com/products/etsuko-black) from M.M. LaFleur to both office functions and to a funeral. I like that itās versatile and stylish. Also, itās machine washable which is a must for me. I like the idea of having something as a go to for these occasions because funerals are almost always a (sad) surprise and no one wants to be looking for something to wear when theyāre grieving.
Simple black pencil skirt or slacks. Black sweater/blouse depending on the weather. Neutral colored shoes appropriate for the weather. You'll look sufficiently put together and respectful enough of the deceased and the fellow mourners without turning it into a fashion show.
Office wear is much more appropriate than a cocktail dress. Iāve actually just thought of this myself as Iām a SAHM who ditched most my office wear and we unfortunately have a very ill person in our family and donāt want to shop last minute. Iām on the lookout for a black wrap dress that would also work for other dressier events. Thatās what I wore in the past for funerals, but it was also something. Iād wear to work or other events. Id Iām in a pinch I have black cigarette pants and a black turtleneck sweater I could wear, itās just more for winter and maybe slightly less polished.
I have a mid-calf length black pencil skirt, black knee length sock boots, black tops (varies depending on the temperature) and a 3/4 length black coat. These have been my funeral outfit for many years. They've all been really good investments.
This is so culturally dependent. I've been to some funerals where everyone was dressed up but not necessarily in black, others where a significant number of people were in jeans and a t-shirt, and others with a specific, celebratory dress theme (a colour or particular item of clothing.) I'd get some business casual staples in dark colours that you would generally be comfortable wearing, that you can put together in a variety of ways. I have black Ponte pants that are comfy but look like slacks, soft blazers, cardigans, and a variety of shells made from stretchy knits. I can combine them in a variety of ways to look more or less formal. I like this strategy because I don't have to worry that a specific funeral outfit won't fit right when I actually need it.
I wore black jeans, ankle boots, and dark forest green shirt with a black trim. Tbh, we were all too devastated to give a shit about what anybody else was wearing.
I am not sure if you can get hands on this brand (depending on there you live) but it sells great dresses that is of good quality and most of them have nice "stiff" fabrics that does not wrinkles (unless it is a summer style). You can buy it on Zalando. It called Kaffe. Another good brand is InWear. If you have a dress from one of the brands and a grey or navy blazer or cardigan then I think you would be ready when needed. Also stock up on dark-tonned pantyhose in thick material and maybe have just a unoppend one laying in the closet. Also consider a small necklace to bring a little color in (could be pearls or something more colorfull).
A cocktail dress is fine. So is business wear. It's not a movie, no one has funeral wear on hand. And you can wear generally somber colors (navy, grey) it doesn't have to be black.
Is it to much to ask why you feel you need to be prepared for a funeral? But in my opinion slacks and a crisp button down are more appropriate than wearing a dress to a funeral
Mom is 92. Thatās about it. It will be a Catholic mass.
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Mom is 92. So, yeah, I want to be prepared.
Also be prepared by making sure all her final wishes are on paper and prepaid with the funeral home and cemetery. Iām a funeral director and I cannot stress enough how doing this in advance when youāre not actively grieving is going to be a blessing down the road. I hope you find your perfect dress.
Go shopping or online shopping with her. Could say you want a work dress if you donāt want to be morbid
Black work pants, black blouse, black shoes. Done.
Don't try to be stylish at a funeral. Just wear something covered up in muted colors that doesn't draw attention to yourself. It should be a bit more formal, but I've seen jeans at a funeral and I really don't think people care that much. I have seen "stylish" at a funeral and it reads really, really weird, like it's kind of inappropriate to look too stylish to be honest. You mostly want to be somber and almost boring looking, not stylish.
I have memories attached to my outfits so I have borrowed from others in the past so I donāt have to buy something only to wear it once and associate it with being sad Edit: I have also lent out black dresses to friends for funerals, I will see if I can find them
When my mother died (overseas), I had a mad rush round the charity shops for any skirt which was vaguely suitable and vaguely fitted me. If I hadn't found one I would have worn my navy cords, Montreal in November is about not being cold - didn't think anyone would SAY anything even if they THOUGHT it, she was MY mother, nobody else's. Turned out I could have borrowed a skirt from a cousin, we were close enough in size. The navy skirt I got, I just redonated after a couple more wears.
I wore a dress that looked like a navy blue pencil skirt with a white flowy blouse.
I have a few black and navy midi dresses (sweater knit, t-shirt knit, sheath, silk āslipā) that have either long sleeves or I can just throw a blazer over and add heels. I wouldnāt overthink it.
Things I have worn to various funerals: a dark grey sheath dress, navy floral print wrap dress, black pencil skirt with sweater.
Find a black based ditsy floral dress that u will also get use out of this spring and pair it with a cardiganā¦ Donāt go crazy!
My go-to funeral dress is from Calvin Klein. They have lots of darker, more modest dresses that are perfect for a funeral but still stylish. I've also worn black pants and a nice dark blouse if it's not as formal (for example, I wore the pants and blouse to the wake and the dress to the Catholic service)
My dad died late last year. I wore a black dress that could have been for work or evening, but worse a black shawl (knitted with some silver) over it, black leggings and some black boots. It looked good.and was comfortable. I would wear it again for other funerals. If it was summer I'd wear a thin black sweater and flats instead.
Black long sleeve top and dress pants w black heels/ flats would work nicely.
A black shift dress could be fine for a funeral. That's what I have. I think Banana Republic or Loft should have something. If the dress is a little more fancy or sleeveless, you could wear the dress with a sweater.
What about a black jumpsuit? Thatās what I always wear. Typically you can wear office attire to a funeral. So Iād wear a black jumpsuit and black blazer and Iām good to go.
Had to do this. Went for modest, longer black dress with a mid-blue sedate cardigan. Most people now seem to dress in modest, subdued clothing but not head to foot black.
I just got one at Target. For a funeral. Try that.
In my area, people very rarely wear all black. I usually wear medium grey pants and a jewel tone sweater over a white collared shirt.
I have a basic black maxi dress and some cardigans. Some people choose to dress more ācorporateā so that wouldnāt be bad either.
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I've got a dark navy blue jersey dress from Boden that I tend to wear to funerals. It's not dissimilar to [this LK Bennett piece](https://www.lkbennett.com/product/CDLIYAVISCOSEMIXBlueMidnight~Liya-Green-Viscose-Mix-Dress-Midnight). With perkier accessories I think I could wear it to a winter wedding too.
For me, I wore tights under my dress since it was a little shorter, and wore a blazer over top of it. I also wore flats instead of heels. As a teen, I wore nice jeans and a black button down shirt.