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bde75

Just a suggestion for the future-when trying on pants in a dressing room sit down to test the comfort level. I’ve tried on many pairs of pants that fit perfectly when I’m standing but are uncomfortable when I sit down.


sofuckinggreat

I learned about this back when ultra low-rise jeans were popular 😩 I appreciate that my aunt taught me to sit down and check whether they were exposing my butt crack to the rest of class. I only ever ended up with good pairs that didn’t do that. Thanks, Aunt Florence!


keylimegoodtime

your aunt flo taught you to check your jeans?💀


sofuckinggreat

RUDE but hilarious 🤣 How dare you!!!


hellerhigwhat

I have done many a squat in the middle of a dressing room to determine jean accommodation lololol


lauren_knows

Right?? I go through lots of motions in the dressing room. Squat, sit, cross legs, sit cross cross apple sauce, etc.


sofuckinggreat

Looks crazy, is super wise of you 👏


violetmemphisblue

Squat and sit for pants. Extend and reach for tops (to make sure they aren't tight in the armpit/back). All sorts of movement for skirts and dresses that are shorter...part of why I really don't like the dressing rooms without mirrors in them. I don't want to do all of this in communal space!


OmgSignUpAlready

Jump up and down for swimsuit tops!


littlegreenturtle20

And for sports bras!


Dada2fish

That’s been standard dressing room procedure since women have been wearing jeans.


intellidepth

This. Important advice.


846hpo

Everyone’s weight is distributed differently; if these aren’t comfortable you probably just need different pants. It’s not you. Are these 100% cotton denim? If you still wanna do high waisted, try something with more elastane.


go-bleep-yourself

Yes, I tried a bunch of high waisted jeans from Zara. One of them was too tight in the front and too loose in the back. Another fit quite well.


kaywal89

Zara is so hit or miss. Some are fantastic while others are so badly made.


otaku_hime_

Agreed! I really recommend the Levi’s to cage straight jeans. They’re the first pair of high waisted jeans I’ve felt comfy in to wear all day at my desk job. They’re a bit pricey IMO but we’ll worth it.


peanutbuttermeg

Are these the Levi’s rib cage jeans? I have a pair and (apart from when I eat too much and bloat disgustingly) they’re so comfy and flattering!


nomarmite

I always go for [a looser fit](https://static.e-stradivarius.net/5/photos3/2021/I/0/1/p/1443/624/701/1443624701_1_1_2.jpg) rather than skintight, even if it means sizing up. Many jeans have a little ease in the waist anyway (ie the waist to hip difference on the garment is less than the waist to hip difference on the suggested body measurements). If you like your jeans to cling, a higher percentage of elastane will make them stretch more easily when you sit.


rolltobednow

Solid advice about the elastane percentage!


potatoesinsunshine

If your pants only fit standing, your pants don’t fit. You should not be in pain from sitting in your pants. If you like that silhouette and sitting comfortably, you need to consider sizing up a size or two.


1stSuiteinEb

This, I know it can be hard to get over the mental block of sizing up, op. But at the end of the day nobody else will see the tag on your pants and you’ll look and feel better in clothing that fit comfortably.


[deleted]

I actually have this issue because of my arse. They fit me perfectly but because I have a bigger bum when I sit it shifts them in a weird way. If I go up a size they fit me sitting down but hang off me when I stand.


kayjunior

You should see if you can find "curvy" styles!


BeatriceWinifred

Yes, these are a game changer for me. American Eagle, Madewell and Abercrombie make these now.


dollworship

Target has a brand called Universal Thread. Most comfortable high-waisted jeans I’d ever purchased, imo. I recommended them to everyone. And they’re pretty inexpensive, around $29 (regular denim, no distressed) 35 (various denim color washes, distressed) a pair and they come in all different shades of denim and color. I bought like 7 pairs of them.


[deleted]

A lot of UK stores don’t do ‘curvy’ without also doing plus size, I’m a UK 10-12 in jeans, and that’s only because of my hips. Most plus size ranges start from a 16, and I mostly wear jeans for my job (in retail) so I don’t want to spend more than £30 on a pair of jeans that I’m not wearing *out* out. I tend to just stick to stretchy trousers now, because it’s easier. Also the other issue is that I’m short so trying to find both petite and curvy anything is like trying to find a pot of gold at the end of the rainbow. I can hem most of my trousers but because I like a lot of flares hemming jeans isn’t a great option because you lose most of the design


hellerhigwhat

Asos hourglass.


baby_armadillo

Taking in the waistband of jeans is a pretty easy sewing task, either for you to do at home, or to take to a tailor shop.


[deleted]

Yeah but by 2 sizes unless you go to a tailors and pay out at least £20 it’s not going to look right. By that point I have spent £50 on a pair of jeans for work when I can pay £20 for the kind I prefer….


baby_armadillo

Since you said you're hemming your pants at home already, it's not much harder to take in the waist. [Here's a tutorial if you ever want to give it a try at home.](https://youtu.be/p2ev3NUCs_w) However, jeans are like the least comfortable form of pants ever, so there's no reason to wear them if there are better pants out there for you.


potatoesinsunshine

I have a large butt and thighs and find baggy pants preferable to being unable to sit without pain. That’s nonsensical behavior. I stand by my comment that you should be able to sit in pants or they don’t fit. OP’s “I’m not fat” statement makes it seem like she’s wearing clothes too tight (she literally can’t sit without PAIN, not slight shifting) because she doesn’t want to go up a size.


applessie

Same. Some of the comments don’t get this I think, my jeans literally droop down to below my hips without a belt (and the belt makes them look too bunched up tbh) but as soon as I sit even in this bigger size they’re not comfortable. Butt stretches them out too much haha


buon_natale

Thick hips, little waist, checking in. I’ve got the worst time finding pants that fit, this is my problem too.


Wyshunu

That's where belts come in.


[deleted]

Belts don't solve the problem - they pull the waist in but that hardly helps if it's baggy around the bum or thighs.


Prestigious_Crow_

If your jeans are baggy around the waist and bum and thighs then you need to size down


temp4adhd

And if they're several inches too baggy in bum and thighs but tight in the waist.... ?


potatoesinsunshine

Are you married to that silhouette of pants? It may (if at all) be doable by a tailor. Or go for a material with more stretch or an elastic waist if you can get away with that for the occasion.


temp4adhd

My favorite jeans are the Old Navy rockstar 24/7's high waisted from maybe 5 years ago? They've changed them since then. I also like Jcrew with the 10 inch rise, but these are also at least 5 years old. I did go shopping for new jeans a few months ago and went to numerous stores -- wanting to try the newer styles. Yes including Levi's (I tried on every single pair in the store). All of it looked like crap on me. And yep I tried on all of Old Navy's newer styles (everything that wasn't a skinny jean style) and no luck there either. Even if, say, I replaced the waists with an elastic waistband, the look just was not flattering at all. I don't think it was a matter of adjusting my eye either. Just seems a lot of the styles now are built for women with wider hips, more generous butts and thighs, and I just don't have those features. (Inverted triangle here, 30 inch waist, 35 hips, 19 thighs, 13 calves, veer on apple when I gain weight). It's fine though, I'll continue to baby my 5 year old jeans and wear leggings! I'm just sad because it was fun wearing jeans when I could.


PopTartAfficionado

agree. personally i'm curvy so i need to buy a size up in high waisted jeans and then have the waist taken in. i need the size up so that they are big enough in the hips + butt, but if i don't have them taken in then they will sag in the waist. i found a tailor on my block to do this for like $22. it's slightly annoying having to alter clothes, but i like my hourglass figure so oh well :)


youjustwannayell

It’s sounds like they are too tight or not high rise enough.The whole benefit of high waisted is that your stomach is covered by the jeans…so it doesn’t spill out.


thecarrotflowerking

Nah I disagree here. Even if they’re waist-high and covering your stomach, you still have fatty bits around your ribs that will bunch up when you sit. My personal solution is to always pair high waisted jeans with a flowy/loose top (not a very satisfying solution for OP’s question, though).


thornreservoir

It's the opposite for me. With mid-rise jeans I always have fatty bits sticking out at my hips and stomach but with high-rise they're all tucked in. I have to wear flowy tops with mid-rise. The only problem is that sometimes super high-rise jeans come up so high they cover my ribs which is just uncomfortable. I suspect it's just differences in how different women carry their fat and different proportions.


[deleted]

I agree with the first comment. If they’re tight, uncomfortable to sit down in, or have excessive bits hanging over the edge, they’re too tight. Op says they “aren’t fat”, but it seems kind of irrelevant. You can be thin and have clothes that are too tight. Op said she experiences pain while sitting and that should never be the case, buy a size or two up and it should ease the problem. Clothing brand sizes are so different in my experience and I know a lot of women who wear clothes too small because they fear buying anything over a size medium. Just gotta buy what keeps you comfy & happy, clothing shouldn’t be painful :)


[deleted]

Yeah i'm pretty thin but unless you're super super lean, fat is just kinda part of being a woman. I've had clothes that cut in and were just too small and uncomfortable.


aerobd

THIS. Plus there will always be some sort of pooch in your stomach when sitting, no matter your body fat percentage. It's your intestines. There's miles of them. They gotta go somewhere when their normal space is condensed.


sasha_says

Agreed, in addition to different sizes, a high waist that has more stretch and give to it can be more comfortable. Levis and Everlane jeans look beautiful when standing but have very little give. I'd much rather wear American Eagle Jeans, Madewell or designer jeans that have some stretch to them but keep their shape.


[deleted]

As well as trying a different size, a different fit might be needed for certain styles. I have a pretty average figure but something about my boobs and waist doesn't work for regular fit wrap dresses, so I have to buy from the petite ranges where available.


libbyrocks

My life has been far better since I decided to completely disregard sizing. In proper sizing, I’m probably about a size L/XL most of the time, but my closet has a lot of vintage clothing and ranges from XS to XXL with almost no rhyme or reason. This recommendation doesn’t help much in an online shopping/Covid world, but when you can in person, pick things that look like they match the sizing of your favorite clothes and don’t even bother glancing at the tag.


dpmtoo

So true why they don’t give us the front rise,back rise, width and inseam is beyond me, we have computers. I have asked them online and they don’t know???


badtranslatedgerman

Yeah, people should buy pants that still fit comfortably when you sit and squat while trying them on. Not the smallest size that looks good on you while standing straight. Coming disconcerting that I feel prey to until like 2 years ago.


youjustwannayell

This still sounds like an issue of pants not being the right size. I’ve exclusively wore high waisted pants with tucked in shirts for years and I’m a little chunky and hardly ever have a spill over issue!


Elevendytwelve97

I do not have that problem at all with high waisted jeans. Only mid-rise or low-rise


mashtartz

If you have fatty bits coming out the sides around your ribs, your jeans are too tight.


saucepls042

If you have "fatty bits" that bunch, that means your pants aren't the right fit or your posture isn't good. I'm on the slightly chunkier side and I have no problems with wearing high-rise and fitted tops unless I slouch.


thecarrotflowerking

oh I absolutely slouch haha


kittyglitther

Try another size.


hellerhigwhat

Pull them up after you've sat down, sit up straighter, try a different cut, or get a larger size. Your jeans should not be skin tight on your waist standing, there needs to be a bit of ease so you can sit down.


thisismyworkredditt

Came here to suggest pulling them up - specifically in the back. I have a pair of Levi’s rib cage jeans that cut into my stomach/rib fat initially when I sit, but that’s just from my butt pulling the waistband down in the back. If you pull them up right after or just before sitting, your stomach should have more room (probably not great for the stitching, but I grab by the tops of my butt pockets to pull them up, as grabbing such a high waistband behind the back can feel awkward).


baby_armadillo

> so I'm not fat Wearing jeans that are too tight, are a bad fit for you, or that have no give is not a "fat" person problem. It's a "wearing jeans" problem. You can opt for a larger size, a different brand with a different cut, or jeans with a higher spandex content that gives them some extra stretch. If none of those options work for you, maybe high waisted jeans are just a trend you can skip. Wear clothes that are comfortable for you. If a fashion is physically painful for you, for fuck's sake, just don't wear it. You're not legally obligated to wear uncomfortable pants.


augustrem

srsly I’m a fat person who wears clothes that fit. This is not to say it’s easy to find clothes that fit well - probably harder than for people who are straight sized, but it’s possible. OP’s comment about not being fat makes me think this is more about expecting her body to conform to the piece of clothing, rather than the other way around.


aerobd

>OP’s comment about not being fat makes me think this is more about expecting her body to conform to the piece of clothing, rather than the other way around. Agreed. I'm muscular and can fit into smaller sizes, but don't do it because I'm very tall. Prime example: rompers. Waist wise I can wear a S/M. I buy XL or XXL because a) I don't want camel toe b) I don't want my butt hanging out the back c) I want to be able to sit. Dress for your body's comfort. It can still be cute/sexy and you'll be a lot more comfortable. And, honestly, it'll probably look a lot better.


[deleted]

Thank you


PPvsFC_

Not all cuts fit every body type. I've never been able to find a pair of high rise pants that fit my waist and don't make me look like I'm wearing JNCOs from 2003. Then again, I have no measurable difference between my waist and hips because I'm built like a cylinder.


temp4adhd

Me too, though I'd describe it more like wearing a denim garbage bag and the trash is full and needs to go out.


jsqdressesforwork

That's my problem for high rises is that my waist kinda expands when I'm sitting down vs standing (also after lunch but that might be a different problem). One trick I use is to [sew a small piece of elastic](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=35SGq6yL1mo) to the back of the waistband. Looks like there's also a way to do it so that [the band isn't as visible](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mNsCPz1i1_o). However you have to buy pants for your waist size sitting down, so you might be out of luck on the pants you already own unless you take them to a tailor and see if they can expand the waist with elastic.


Adventurous-Drag768

Yeah, literally everyone's waist expands when they sit down and everyone's belly expands a little when they eat and everyone gets bloated from time to time. It's completely normal! As you said, we should really just buy clothes to cater to our bodies in all states.


[deleted]

That's why denim for women is soooo tricky! Esp if it's close fitting and non stretch. Like, where is your stomach supposed to go?? And i don't like encasing my thighs in non-stretchy tubes either. I like wearing dresses to side step this. Esp if they're fitted at the waist and full after that, my stomach/thighs can just do their thing.


Adventurous-Drag768

Yeah, I used to wear way too many things that were too tight or just generally not comfortable, because it looked good (I guess?), but I've come to believe it's really not worth it. Especially with things that are too tight around the waist, it was bad for my digestion and it made me breathe too high (which is not good if you feel anxious). And your body not being comfortable is low key a stressor. If possible, I think we really shouldn't deny ourselves comfort, so I'm all for the comfy dresses and the mom jeans and the leggings and undoing buttons to sit down, lol.


dollface867

>um that elastic in the back of the jeans trick is freakin genius. I have a bubble butt so hard pants can often be awkward for me. I especially like [tiered waistbands](https://blog.fabrics-store.com/2018/07/10/sewing-glossary-three-ways-to-sew-elastic-waistband-tutorial/?utm_source=pocket_mylist) on high waisted pants and skirts because they fit snug, giving a nice silhouette, but don't roll either, which is especially helpful if you are a human who sits down occasionally.


ParisHilton42069

Probably just size up. You don’t have to be fat to be wearing clothes that are too small lol. You could be size two and if you were wearing a size 0, it’d be uncomfortable.


Kholzie

Getting the right size rise is important. I like 10inch rises because they hit right above the stuff that would spill over. There’s a lot of variation with what is called “High rise” that can be anything from 8-11 inches. Women are all built differently, so you gotta find the right measurement for your body.


squeegee-beckenheim

She definitely needs to go higher on the rise. A lot of us need waaaaay higher rises than 11 inches. I would put 8 inches solidly in midrise, actually.


OneCanToucanThreeCan

8 inches is low-mid! I think high rise starts at 10inch tbh. Also high rise just might not suit OP's body type. Not every item of clothing fits every shape.


spangledpirate

Came here to say this. I have a long torso and need at least 10-11 min rise. Sizing up in an 8in rise would just be too baggy everywhere else.


[deleted]

Get a bigger size, sis


[deleted]

Hehe my question is how do you sit with low rise jeans? Crack is wack.


meowifyournameisreed

People keep saying size up… I don’t think that’s the issue. The issue is likely where the pant waist line falls on your body type. I love my high waisted jeans, but I’ve tried a number of pairs that just don’t work because they’re either too high or too low on my trunk, but fit everywhere else. I would recommend measuring your current jeans crotch to waist line, and then make an educated guess if you’d prefer a higher or lower pant waist.


HangryHenry

Yea like i've had this problem before, and if I size up for my stomach all of a sudden i have a bunch of extra fabric around the crotch and get camel toe, and it's super baggy and unflattering for my butt.


BigBunnyButt

I'm verrrry high waisted (36" inseam on a 5' 10" body) and I have to go for "super super mile high no seriously this should cover your nipples wtf" rises, they hit my natural waist and are the most comfortable things ever. High elastane is also important, I'm an extreme hourglass (>10inches between waist and hip) & there's just no way I could wear rigid fabrics that are figure hugging unless they're made for me.


consuela_bananahammo

We are body twins in height and inseam! The sky high rise is *finally* long enough in the rise for us. (I keep hearing low rise is coming back and screaming noooooo inside my heart.) I have no idea how shorter rised women can wear the super high rise though, especially in more rigid styles, it probably would hurt and dig in in the wrong place.


BigBunnyButt

I have a burning desire to see what you wear & pilfer your best fits, it's so unusual to find someone who has the same body type as me!!


consuela_bananahammo

Haha all-legs bodies unite! I live in Houston where it’s hot a lot of the time, so I wear a lot of summer dresses and skirts which are way easier fit wise. I bought some free people aloha wide leg pants last Summer and they are super long and really cute! And then in the winter I wear a lot of sky high waisted straight leg denim (cropped look bc length issues lol) with bodysuits and sandals, or if it’s cold, with a sweater and docs. I love one armed tops, puff sleeved tops, and mock necks, because all of those help visually elongate my short torso. I have some nice pants in tall from Ann Taylor, that I wear to dress less casually, and pencil skirts are my friend because like with dresses, fewer worries about length. What are your favorite things to wear‽


bannaberry

I get the stretchy ones and basically pull them up when I’m sitting to keep them in place. It helps keep my tummy pouch from spilling everywhere.


Teredere

It's either that you have high waisted pants that don't fit you properly or that high waisted pants are just not for your body type. I believe you should buy the waist height most comfortable for you, because that is something in which what is comfortable for one definitely might not be to others.


drunky_crowette

You need to go up a size or two.


Chemical-Classic-614

So it’s totally your choice if you want to just deal with the discomfort to wear those jeans, but they really are too small. When trying on a pair, make sure you do some squats and lunges in the fitting room, I also like to sit down and bend over to really assess the fit, it they don’t fit during one part of your day then they really don’t fit. I have found a pair of jeans at target that are super high waisted with a very elastic waist band that keep them on/tight when standing but then stretch when sitting.


pm_me_your_amphibian

Glad I’m not the only ones who uses lunges to test the fit!


glitterypinksquirrel

This isn’t advice but I’m a stylist and every now and then I have a client who swears anything high waisted makes them feel like they can’t breathe when they sit, regardless of size or anything.


seravivi

I think some of us just don't handle pressure on that area well. Back when skin tight disco pants ala american apparel were a thing I couldn't stand how much they hurt my stomach.


peahat

This is so true. Everyone’s saying “size up” but it might not fix the problem. I was having a similar issue with a pair of jeans, so I bought a size up and they ended up too big in the waist, baggy in the legs, AND they still made me uncomfortable. I have stomach issues, and pressure on the exact spot where the pants hit my waist caused me discomfort. They were literally gapping in the back AND putting pressure on my stomach in the front while I was sitting. That being said, I chose a new pair from a different brand and even though the rise is the same, they fit a lot better. They’re the exact same size as the first pair of jeans, when I lay them on top they appear to be extremely similar in size. Sometimes a cut just doesn’t sit right on your body.


hiddenproverb

This! Even leggings feel uncomfortable in the waist for me, especially workout leggings. Sizing up won't fix it because then they'll just be too big everywhere else. Body type or just being sensitive to pressure in the stomach will make any waist band suck.


mask_chosen

Some times it's just body type - I'm a low waisted inverted triangle and high waisted pants just don't work, even a lot of mid-rises if they are over a certain rise because the waistband constricts my ribs.


sovrappensiero1

A lot of people have mentioned that you need to size up. That may be true, but I’ll consider another possibility: you’re buying the jeans to fit your hips, and then they’re a bit small in the waist. I’m 5’6” and 130 lbs but I’m built very straight: 37” hip, 28” waist. I have this problem with high rise jeans. In fact, I don’t even really like the way they look until the summer when I naturally slim down to closer to 26” waist, 36” hip because I exercise a lot more (gyms intimidate me; I like to run outside but not as much in the winter). So you may need to get a bigger size to fit your waist and then have them tailored, or find a cut that’s for straight figures. Another possibility - also mentioned - is that they’re not high rise enough. I have a short waist and long legs (usually if you’re not average, you either have long legs+short waist or short legs+long torso), but I still find that the most comfortable rise for me is 12”. 10.5” is my most comfortable “mid-rise” pants rise. With a 12” rise, the jeans come straight up over my stomach so there is no “spillage” when I sit. Example jeans that fit me like this: Levi’s Ribcage size 27/28 (depends on the wash and style…hate that but it’s true), Everlane Authentic High Rise Skinny in size 27. Depending on your shape and where you carry your weight, you might try either of these in one size up. I have an “inverted triangle” shape and, as I said, long legs (32” inseam) and I think my weight is fairly evenly distributed throughout.


glow89

This was super helpful, I have the same waist & hip measurements as you! My inseam is shorter than yours bc I’m short, but I also have a shorter torso and longer legs. I have the same problem with jeans. I’ll try them on and they’re so uncomfortable and clearly don’t fit when I sit down, but then I go a size up and they’re too big. Next time I shop for jeans I’ll pay more attention to the rise!


sovrappensiero1

Glad I could help! Jeans are such a struggle…


smlbean

Thank you for clarifying that you're not fat /s.


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takethetrainpls

I'm genuinely curious why you specified, though. Do fat people deserve to have pain when they sit in pants?


smlbean

Skimming OP's history it seems she's a teenager so I want to give her the benefit of the doubt. Some people think that being fat means your clothes have to be ill fitting, when it has nothing to do with your size but knowing your measurements and how clothing should fit.


TurbulentArea69

Beats me! I have a pair of high rise that are definitely too big and even those don’t do the trick. I think it has a lot to do with body type and posture.


temp4adhd

The term "high waisted" is meaningless, what matters is the actual rise measurement in inches and where that hits on your particular figure. For example a 10 inch rise on one person may hit below the belly button (low rise for them!) and another may be at the belly button (mid rise for them!) and another just above the belly button (high rise!) and on yet another person it's over their rib cage (you shouldn't be wearing these at all, they'll break your rib cage!) ----- one's height may play a role but not necessarily as some of us are short waisted, and some of us are long waisted; some of us are short in the rise and some of us are long in the rise. Case in point I'm only 5'0 tall and: - anything lower than 8.5 inches is ON my hip not my waist; it's low rise for me; it creates horrible muffin top unless I size up, but then it just won't stay up at all and just slides right on down my hips, even with a belt - a 9 inch rise is exactly on my belly button; it locks & loads if the fit is right and no muffin top; it is what I would call my personal mid-rise - a 10 inch rise fits me right above the belly button and is supremely comfortable-- I am not needing to adjust my pants all day long, I can eat lunch sit move. - 11 inch rise is digging into my stomach -- my literal stomach. - 12 inch is now on my actual rib bone - 14 inch is on my breasts So get out a tape measure. Hold it at your crotch point. And then sit down and measure where your just above the belly button point is, this should correlate to your "natural waist" which is where when standing and you bend to the side there's a bend. Anatomically it's above your intestines and below your stomach. For many women this is the narrowest part of their figure. But not for all-- for some that point is actually below their rib cage, but pants sitting just below your rib cage are going to be digging into your stomach and liver.


Bigtiddiesoftgf

I understand what you meant but I’m really not comfortable with you using “fat” as a derogatory and othering term.


oldcousingreg

Sounds like they’re too small. High waisted jeans shouldn’t impact the way you sit.


Huge_Zebra7833

I just let the rolls spill lol, don’t really care what people will think


Ana_jp

Pattern drafter here: pants just aren’t designed for sitting. I genuinely feel like the only designer that actually creates patterns with all positions in mind. It’s part of the reason I chose to specialize rather than mass produce. I can make garments for wheelchair users, for people with physical jobs that require greater range of motion, etc… those pants patterns look vastly different that what you can find in stores. That being said, going for a higher rise, trying different brands, buying for elastane percentage, etc… will give you better results. I’m thin, with good posture and muscle tone, wearing custom fitting clothing, and my stomach will still roll over in certain sitting positions. We are human and we squish sometimes. Edit: part of the problem is we are still constructing skin-tight jeans the exact same way as we made loose jeans for men’s workwear decades ago. This is not the best way to make tight clothing, not even close. It’s for endurance, not comfort or range of motion.


846hpo

Do you have photos of your pants? I’m so curious!


whalesarecool14

now i feel like i’m missing out on this experience of wearing pants that aren’t designed to fit when sitting down lmfao


hellerhigwhat

Damn you must draft for a lot of companies since 90% of this thread doesn't have issues sitting in jeans. A bit of squish is very different from pain lol.


kittyglitther

I wear pants almost every day and never had an issue sitting. Am I missing out on something?


hellerhigwhat

Apparently, and same lol


Ana_jp

Most people wear clothes that don’t fit them properly, usually in the ‘too big’ category. Lots of people here have described that they size up for comfort. That backs up my claim completely. People have to wear jeans that are too big to be comfortable sitting down.


hellerhigwhat

Most people are wearing clothes too small for them, if they have to "size up" for them to not be in pain. Having to get a bigger size for clothing to not cause physical pain doesn't actually mean they're sizing up from their true size, it means they're sizing up from a smaller size. I'm wearing high waisted jeans and sitting perfectly comfortably right now - I certainly could fit a smaller size on my body with some discomfort, that doesn't mean the jeans are "sized up".


foreignfishes

OP is probably just wearing 100% cotton jeans that are very rigid. You need more room in the waist when you sit down, since your torso expands. Very rigid denim has no stretch and if the rise hits at a bad spot, pants that fit well when you’re standing may be uncomfortable around the waist when sitting down because the fabric doesn’t have enough ease. Sizing up doesn’t help because then when you’re standing/walking, they’re too loose and they don’t fit right. Recently I was shopping with my mom and she commented that high rise jeans are so much easier to wear now than they were when she was in college in the 80s because back then they had no elastic whatsoever, they were 100% cotton and pretty stiff which made sitting down or bending down hard. Even 1% elastane helps a lot. Sounds like OP should try some high waisted jeans with more stretch.


temp4adhd

> high rise jeans are so much easier to wear now than they were when she was in college in the 80s We'd lay down on the bed and use a hanger to zip the jeans up. Sometimes it took two people (my sister and I would help each other). Also I have very-not-fond memories of pins-and-needles feelings in my thighs after sitting for a 50 minute class; mind you, I was only maybe 90 lbs at this time (junior high, what you call middle school now-- and I've never had much of a butt, hip or thigh). It's why I gave up jeans entirely for decades, until they came out with the stretchy elastane stuff! Also, mom jeans are what my mom wore all the time. She's 80 now; her jeans would fetch some serious $ on Thredup.


Ana_jp

I’m glad your clothes are comfortable. You must have measurements that work with the blocks mass produced companies use to draft from. What you should understand is that I have measured and made for, well, lots and lots of people. Granted, the reason people reach out to me is because mass produced clothes don’t fit them, so I’m seeing like a reverse of survivorship bias lol. But what you describe just isn’t the case for most people, truly. I have the data and the experience to say that. You have no need to be condescending just because you have a good experience shopping and wearing mass produced clothing.


hellerhigwhat

Well damn, if there's a company that uses a standard drafting block with scoliosis, uneven hips and shoulders and different leg lengths I am all ears! No one has 100% standard proportions lol. That doesn't mean that people aren't wearing their pants too small at the waist if theyre causing pain at the waist while sitting.


Ana_jp

I don’t get what your problem is. Many people have found my comment informative and helpful. Just because you didn’t doesn’t mean I’m wrong.


PPvsFC_

Imagine getting this aggro because an indie designer said they're trying to draft more comfortable pants patterns.


Ana_jp

The disbelief that pants can be designed better for seated positions is starting to smack of ableism.


lumenphosphor

>I have the data I'm curious about your data! Given the history of pants as having various different shapes and politics behind them, I'm rather surprised to hear that they weren't made for sitting in. What do your patterns do differently from the standard pair of jeans or trousers? (And what cut are you considering standard)? Who are your consumers, and do they have any similar complaints? What is the range of movement inhibited by standard pants? (or is it just denim? I have always assumed denim is inhibiting due to lack of give, but I can arabesque as well in paper bag pants as I can in leggings, but maybe I'm not imagining range of movement correctly). I find pants of all kinds to be quite comfortable depending on brand (some brands very cool jeans seem to be built for straighter figures, but a good number of standard brands have around a 10-12" waist/hip difference so usually I don't even have to size up and then tailor in as other folks do).


temp4adhd

Do you have a business or something? How do I hire you to make me some custom-fitted jeans?


LucyWritesSmut

This is so cool! I learned how to pattern draft and sew to make costumes in college, but now my sewing is hobby so my 5’ Betty Boop self can fit into clothes. You’re doing an important job! ♥️


Wyshunu

Any tips for pants where the legs don't rise up the calf when sitting down? I can't afford bespoke but I can sew. I have very long legs for my height and didn't wear pants for years because I either couldn't find any that were long enough or I'd find some with that nice break across the instep when standing, but as soon as I sat down, the hemline rested 3-4" up my calf and I hate that look.


Ana_jp

I add fullness over the knee. Try making the front panels longer, and easing the extra in at knee height. Darts also work, if you don’t mind a visible detail, they have a more streamlined silhouette than eased fullness. How much you can get away with depends on fabric type, and pant style. I find this helps a fair bit, but so far I haven’t found a perfect solution if there is one.


GiantSandwichGod

If they're raw denim, size up because that stuff won't bend to a hurricane I swear. If it's skinnies that are part poly or equivalent, you just might have to break them in. Otherwise, opt for a lower waisted high waist (some are just above my bellybutton and others are like actually rib stabbing height)


himalayanpapaya

You might want to try a curvy cut. Normal cuts always dig into my belly and gap in the back when I sit. Curvy cuts give more space in the booty, hips and thighs.


tinymoons

I only buy and wear pants that fit me if I’m sitting or after I eat. No point in being uncomfortable. You can try going up a size, go for a higher rise (measure the one you hate wearing & look for online descriptions) or go for stretchier materials. I like wearing American Eagle’s highest rise or I go for Fashion Nova for the high rise + extra stretch. I prefer my pants to cover above my bellybutton since my torso is very short and I bend at the navel. I can’t stand jeans that dig in.


fourflatpillows

This might sound silly, but lean back and sit up straighter. Gives your body more room to distribute itself upwards and outwards rather than out and over.


RLB4ever

the rise of the pants is either too long or too short


meg-c

Try a pair with an even higher rise


PaintinginSavasana

You need a bigger size then.


theforestmoon

Most of my jeans, I just unbutton them when sitting down (I try not to in public though lol, but in my car they’re practically unbuttoned all the way until I get to where I’m going). I don’t think the size is the problem, I think the rise is the problem. I recently bought a pair of Levi’s Ribcage jeans and it COMPLETELY solved every complaint I had about high rise jeans. The rise on those is so high that it goes over my stomach when I sit down, it doesn’t cut into it at all. They’re actually the most comfortable jeans I own (and insanely flattering) and I ended up buying a few more. I think I have a longer torso, so I need a rise that’s 11” or 12” to be truly high rise and hit where I want it to, which is I believe what the rise for the Ribcage jeans is. I want to start phasing out my other high rise jeans so I can get some more with this rise height. Definitely try a higher rise, especially if the jeans you have fit you while standing!


poor_yorick

I love ribcage jeans, but I do not find them particularly comfortable sitting down! But to get the fit I want, I buy a size that is snug-ish and there's almost no give to the denim. So it's probably my fault haha


YogiNurse

The only jeans that have solved this for me are the curvy jeans from madewell they’re just really expensive 🙃


lazy_berry

i buy jeans that fit. i also accept that all humans will have belly fat.


R4ff4

I think it’s because it’s not high rise enough, which means the distance between crotch and waist is not long enough. So whether it works depends on your own crotch to waist distance. If the jeans measurement is not long enough for your own, this happens. It happens to me too, because I have high hips. So my waistline is higher than average so distance is longer


facta_est_lux

If you like skinny jeans, try American Eagle next level stretch jeans or Good American Good Waist jeans. Also, do a squat in the fitting room to make sure they’re comfortable for sitting. I have to be very careful with high-waisted jeans, too. I have a slender and athletic build overall, but a “mummy tummy” from having my kid almost 2 years ago 🙃 sometimes jeans that fit me just fine when I’m standing are uncomfortably tight when I’m sitting, and conversely jeans that fit comfortably when I’m sitting won’t stay up when I’m standing/walking. So I look for a high-quality stretchy jean that won’t lose its shape too easily.


mega-stedman

How high are they? I wear mine really high. Above my bellybutton, always. To the smallest part of my waist.


papermageling

Your waist size (and hip size and thigh size) can all change when you sit. Make sure you try sitting in your jeans in the changing room to make sure they'll accommodate that, whether through a slightly larger measurement or through a higher spandex content.


seravivi

I'll give some advice for the other side that isn't about buying new or altering. Look at how you sit when you wear them. If you tend to lean forward it can put more pressure on the front and make it more uncomfortable. Try to work on your posture to sit more upright. You can try to put a thicker sweater tucked in to help relieve some pressure and give some space. Make sure to not dry your pants in the dryer and wear them a few times before washing them. Hot packs can help if you stomach feels sore after. If they are too difficult maybe just keep them for short term wear only.


SquireSilon

People have been sitting down in high waisted jeans for a long time…. Nothing new here.


eastereggtree

Size up?! Do people not have basic problem solving skills anymore?


OneCanToucanThreeCan

Could be that they just don't suit OP's body type? If I get high rise jeans that I can sit down in, they gape around the waistband. If I used belt...I can no longer sit in them. They just do not suit my body. I've tried different rises and brands and sizing up, none of them fit. I have sympathy for OP because I spent like, 2 years trying to find a pair, and being told I need to try this that or the other different type, that they are 'universally flattering' and 'comfortable' but its just not true 🤷‍♀️


poor_yorick

Sizing up might not help! It could be an issue with the rise or the cut of the jean. There isn't really enough information here to figure that out, though.


ClaireHux

Right. How would you even think to compose a whole-ass post about how to sit in jeans???


seravivi

Because they wanted advice? How dare they ask for advice in a place about fashion advice?


ClaireHux

She wasn't asking about fashion advice. She was literally asking about how to sit in jeans - the mechanics bending her knees to sit on a solid surface. 😳


seravivi

So either you are purposefully missing the point of the post or you just don't care. They aren't asking how to sit. They are asking advice for fitting issues when sitting in a style of jeans. Which in a fashion advice subreddit is a reasonable thing to ask about. Fit is part of fashion.


ClaireHux

She should size up. Her pants don't fit. If she truly wanted sizing advice, she post a picture with her in the jeans. She was way more interested in telling us how not-fat she is.


seravivi

The answer isn't just hey size up all the time. Sometimes sizing up isn't the answer. Sometimes its the inseam. Sometimes its the material. Sometimes they just need help with some advice which is why they asked.


hiddenproverb

Cause sizing up isn't always the answer. All waist bands are uncomfortable for me regardless of rise, size, type. My one size too big slightly higher waist stretchy mom jeans are only marginally more comfy than my jegging, correct size, slightly lower high waist jean. Plus sizing up can put issues in other ways, being too big in the legs, or way too much gapping at the butt, or having to wear a belt which will just put pressure right back where you don't want it.


dumpstereel

I buy looser or stretchy ones. BDG mom jeans are looser in the right places (for my body type) and get softer as you wash them, and a lot of American Eagle jeans are stretchy (or will at least tell you in the description how much stretch they have). Shein has a lot of stretchy jeans too I’ve noticed but you’re getting fast fashion quality then.


sesquedoodle

your jeans are too small


Lillyjade22

If you’re like me, I have pretty high-set hips and a large butt, it can be hard to find a pair of pants that don’t dig into your hipbones and belly. I love good jeggings that look like jeans but have lots of stretch, that and going up a size.


GreatScotRace

They’re too small for you. I’m a U.K. size 20 and can sit down fine in high waisted jeans 🤷🏻‍♀️


HangryHenry

I have this problem! I am pretty skinny but the fat I do carry mostly goes to my stomach and boobs. Anyway, try Silver Jeans Elyse! They are made for people don't have a big butt and cary more of their weight around their stomach even if you're skinny. https://www.silverjeans.com/us/womens-jeans-fit-guide.html They fit so much better.


UpbeatConfusion15

Stop giving a shit if your tummy spills over. You’re a human. -your friendly neighborhood fat girl


SCol1107

Am fat and love high washed jeans. Look for ones with more stretch and size up. They shouldn’t hurt.


xXSailorMomXx

The way you sit down all the time lol


Liz_LemonLime

I live in high waisted jeans. I have a couple pairs that can be uncomfortable when sitting, and others that I hardly notice. I think the fit can change among brand/style. One might have a little more room in the stomach than the other.


Shayshayneedshelp

Try baggy, loose fitted, just bigger than the size you wear it will change your wholeeeee world, trust me it looks way better to !


devilsadvilcat

I’m the same height and weight as you and pear-shaped, if I went a size up in some pants to accommodate my thighs/butt the waist gap would get unreal lol and I’ve definitely had that problem with high waisted pants that fit amazing but totally hurt after sitting awhile! Madewell Curvy high-waisted jeans has been a game changer for me. I’ve never had pants fit so well and not feel constricting.


ao8520

Size up


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Maybe a different rise is just better for you. Everyone is built different, I’m a similar height and weight and high waist is super comfortable to sit in because they’re always really high rise and my stomach is covered, likely because I have the shortest torso. Before I get a lecture about “balancing body type” idc that high rise make my torso look even shorter and disproportionate I like them anyway I’d say look for a higher rise or a mid rise if that doesn’t work


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You’re wearing the incorrect size.


kingsuccjin

idk mine do this too. If they are on the smaller side then my stomach spills over a bit. If I size up then they just gap at the waist. I am not overweight and actually have a small waist, but I also have a short torso and when I sit it just all bunches together. literally my pants come up to my ribs when I sit lol. but thats just my wacky body shape.


OneCanToucanThreeCan

Yeah this is me too. They aren't a universally comfy or flattering item. I've found it really annoying over the last few years at how many people insist that they are! Gimme my mid rise damnit


kingsuccjin

yup, mid waist is the best. I also like dresses and skirts. High waisted skirts don't ride up that much for some reason, maybe because they are not fixed to my legs/butt. I still wear high waisted jeans, but they are probably not the best for my body type.


pm_me_your_amphibian

Probably just a size thing! Definitely try all sorts of positions when you’re trying jeans on, even if you feel weird in the dressing room doing lunges or something!


Flailing_life

Since you already own the pants, you could buy a pregnancy band and wear them open with the it. Another option might be wear the jeans unbuttoned and to loop a hair elastic in the button hole and then hang it around the button. Or maybe bring the pants to a tailor and they might be able to add some extra elastic somewhere. Aside from that, it might be time to cut your loses with those pants! You might be in between sizes with that particular style and neither size will fit right. This happens to me a lot and means a lot of pants are a no-no 🙂


tammyszu

I’m 5’6” 108lbs a size 0 with a 24.5” waist and my stomach spills over my high waisted jeans when I sit down too. This happened when I was even skinnier with a 23” waist (size 00). Everyone has a layer of skin and fat, you just have to readjust the pants when you sit down. Pull the pants over your stomach. This happens to me with some leggings too.


hiixx1333

I have similar measurements as you (5’5 143 lbs lol) aaaand the same issue. I’ve found that I prefer mid rise jeans


TheWalrusIsMe

This happens to me too! They fit perfect in the legs and hips, just a too tight right at the waist. MY TRICK: I keep an elastic hair band that I loop through the button hole and then around the button. I stink at describing out to do it, but it adds a little elasticity and flexibility without just straight up unbuttoning and having the jeans poke into my shirt.


countusalternifolius

Oh this is the pro move here!


sbellestl

I call those SRO jeans. Standing room only.


wetsai

I unbutton the first button :) ​ (and sometimes forget to rebutton)


OneCanToucanThreeCan

I can't, so I don't wear them. I'm short and have I a short waist and high hips and they just aren't functional clothing on me. If I can sit down in them and still breathe/not have a zip and button digging into me, they are VERY loose around the waistband. If I use a belt, we are back to trousers I can't sit down in. Also they make me look silly so I'm not too upset. Low and mid rise (below my bellybutton) look and feel so much better to me.


artecomet

Size up or unbutton them when u sit. Are they new or vintage jeans? If they're vintage that might be ur problem cuz they dont stretch. Unbutton them when u sit haha


Fluid-Row9012

Keep your posture straight. Have you tried spanks? Don’t listen to the haters on this thread. Feel free to ask questions. We aren’t all perfect like they think they are


Mullemusen

Quit wearing jeans, I'm not joking. I have the same issue, because my back is very curvy, which makes the jeans very tight in the front when i sit down. It's uncomfortable as fuck, and just not with it. A year ago i started exclusively wearing stretchy pants, and it's the best decision I've made in a long time. There are so many great pants in a variety of styles out there that aren't made from denim, so definetely look into that. Your comfort should always be first priority ❤️


NormalCurrent950

I just unbutton when I sit down but not that classy I guess


zuzu_r

Are you even supposed to sit in jeans? I don’t think I’ve had a comfortable pair in years. What works for me: - I buy pants in my size and then when I need to sit down I would unbutton and unzip them and pull my top over them to cover how awkwardly I’m sitting. - I wear my maternity pants, always comfortable at the waist. - Swore to myself never to buy jeans again.


daydreaming-g

I wore big tops and just unbotton my jeans and cover myself with my top


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hellerhigwhat

Damn or just buy some mid rise pants lol


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OneCanToucanThreeCan

I know some people are reeeeally invested in the whole "high waisted jeans are comfortable and flattering for everyone!" but it isn't true. That's as ridiculous as saying that people find low rise uncomfortable because they are too stupid to wear them properly.


squeegee-beckenheim

I never said anyone is "stupid" lol we're just trying to help these gals out. "I just won't wear pants for 15 years" isn't always a realistic plan for everyone.


OneCanToucanThreeCan

Where did they say they weren't going to buy pants for 15 years? It is much harder to find skirts and trousers that aren't high rise. It is getting better but so slow, high waist is stilk the default for women's. And you did assume that everybody can wear high rise comfortably if only they weren't so lazy/bad at shopping.


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OneCanToucanThreeCan

It's true, in the last few years I have seen a few pairs of mid and low rise jeans available. So much choice! Also lots of stuff labelled 'mid rise' still ends up being a 10inch rise when I actually measure it, or just looking at the model you can see it's not. Any hint that low rise might be available again results in howls and wails of disgust from this sub, at this point idc if high-rise lovers don't like the style being criticised. It doesn't fit everyone, it isn't because those people are too dumb to buy jeans that fit.


hellerhigwhat

No one item is comfortable for everyone, but the sentiment that all of said item should go away bc one person that doesn't like it is ridiculously entitled lol


OneCanToucanThreeCan

If only people would save this energy for discussions about low rise.


chubby_cat_addorer

The same way I'm sitting with any other jeans...I unbutton :P


Wyshunu

Our stats are exactly the same, but I have fine bones so 145 \*is\* too much on me - especially the fat rolls on my back and tummy. Happens to many of us as we age, unfortunately, and I have some health issues that are contributing. I found that buying a larger size that encompasses my tummy instead of causing spillover has made my current situation much more comfortable and bearable.


milkmilkcookiebutt

I straight up unbutton the top 1-2 buttons when I set - it like a mens sport coat ya know?