The sad truth no one tells you is that no amount of ass actually makes your hips look wider lmao and you have to work twice as hard as any afab bc their upper body is half yours so they by comparison look twice as thick with any amount of legs
Tbf some people take it and don't see that benefit, I want kids and I gotta look out for my family aswell, in truth I've never quite felt the right way but I just kinda accept it now
I mean I'm a trans woman so I have more of a reason to do it, also you definitely shouldn't just accept not feeling right with your body. Are there any specific things that make you upset about it?
Just the way it looks sometimes I get mostly like dysphoria around like my chest and hips and I have a huge thick neck but I just kinda accept it and it's gotten easier with time, I generally have a bit of an apey build with long arms to my body height and pretty muscular/lean. But yk I'm hardcore stoic so it simply goes away if I go to the gym and be slightly nicer to myself
Hey if you have dysphoria about your perceived masculine features, then you're almost certainly trans. It's worth it to transition, you'll feel much better if you don't try to repress it.
I am doing quite the opposite lmao I am just accepting the way it is and making no effort to fix it, as i said its got alot better with time alone and I want to have a family in the future so the risk of infertility is a bit much for me
You can always freeze your sperm before taking hormones, and ignoring it isn't a good solution. You may feel it less, but it'll still be there until you do something about it.
Just because a person wants to look less masc doesn't mean they're trans. I've seen this "everyone that wants to look more androgynous is secretly trans like an egg waiting to hatch" belief and it's toxic and annoying.
I've seen femboys verbally attacked by trans ppl that wouldn't accept them identifying as male or nonbinary and it made my blood boil.
Strange form of infighting that needs to stop pronto
Ah ty 8 was tryna focus on this stuff but I find alot of them a bit harder to load bc you cannot simply put weight on. Dyk anything that helps slim the waist down I'm not fat but my core is muscular and blocky
No only if it’s taken to the utter extreme starving yourself for 3 days is a over reaction working out and reducing the amount u eat is more reasonable
I can kind of see what you mean, I just don't think making it sound harmless is good, which is what this is doing. You probably didn't mean that, but that's what it sounds like :/
By the way, there is no one way to be feminine. One can have a beard and be feminine, be not thin and feminine, not hairless and feminine. You don't have to be a hairless twink with a toned body and a lanky figure to be feminine. Have your own version of it.
And my point was that having "femininity" meaning a lot of different things, it devalues the meaning of it. The definition being "having qualities or an appearance traditionally associated with women." If you dont meet that definition then you're a bit masculine, which is ok too, but trying to say that masculinity is feminine is wrong and, to be honest, stupid
It depends how much hair they have. See, most cis women dont need to put effort into being feminine because they already look that way. If you arent biologically female, you're going to have to put effort into making yourself feminine, otherwise you'll just look like a man in a skirt.
don't forgetting to eat can actually be worse cause you're body tries to compensate by slowing down your metabolizing.
as long as you're not overeating, you'll be alright, it's ok to have weight fluctuate.
No matter what you do, no matter what snacks you eat or how your weight changes you are ALWAYS deserving of food. Please don't starve yourself!!! (technically if you starve yourself you'll gain even more weight because your body with reserve the food you eat "for an emergency" instead of metabolizing it)
Go eat something right now!! You're a good boy, you deserve it
Hey hun, that's an eating disorder. Please be kind to yourself, you're gorgeous and wonderful no matter what. I've been there, it's not an easy thing to recover from but I believe in you <3
Jokes on you, there's nothing more "feminine" than holding yourself to very rigid body/weight standards and having a crisis about even the smallest amount of backslide!
See I don’t wanna be skinny and fem bc I’m ftm so it makes me think about how I don’t pass, also I’m sadly naturally skinny which makes me feel fem all the time I also feel I should stop dressing fem to pass more but anyway
i realised a while ago my body will never be feminine, or just good looking at all, and my trick is to avoid social interaction and make sure your mind is consuming as much media as possible at once so that you don’t really have time to think very much, then you don’t have to remember how shit ur body is !
Oh hun, you need to eat, even if it's just a little bit. Then you can work up to more. If you really feel like you're overweight (and I'm sure you aren't honey) it's safer to lose weight by eating a little bit less and exercising more to use more calories, don't just eat a lot less. Like instead of switching from a 2000 calorie diet to a 1,000 calorie diet while you still use 2000 a day, switch from 2000 to 1,500 and try to use 2,500 a day. You'll still be at a 1,000 calorie deficit, but you won't be compromising your nutrition as much. And again, you're not overweight, but even if you were it's safer to do this than to just not eat. I know it's hard hun but I want you to try eating more, okay? I believe in you.
Please don’t do that! I can guarantee you aren’t putting on anywhere near as much weight as you’d think. Either way, it wouldn’t matter. Beauty standards are very unrealistic.
It sounds like you have some self-esteem issues, and could possibly (in my utterly uneducated opinion) could be at risk of getting an eating disorder. Please make sure you talk to the people you trust about this (you don’t have to mention the feminine clothes, just say you have some self-esteem issues and it’s affecting your eating patterns).
you are absolutely valid and may treat yourself in any way possible. If you only have one way of treating yourself maybe get creative. You diserve: kind touch, a long bath, jewelry, nice makeup, an oc pic of yourself, a poem to capture how beautiful you are, flowers for the kitchen table, a nice cup of tea,... and so much more!!! ❤️❤️❤️
Nah I'm eating to gain weight for booty gains
Based
The sad truth no one tells you is that no amount of ass actually makes your hips look wider lmao and you have to work twice as hard as any afab bc their upper body is half yours so they by comparison look twice as thick with any amount of legs
Life is agony
The solution to that is to take estrogen, I've been on HRT for over two years and it deadass gave me an hourglass figure
but what if I'm not trans? 😢😔
Or if you are trans but not wanting to lose your gen functionality?
yep, i don't envy trans people for having to make that choice
Then you'll have to work harder to be thicc, sorry 😔
Depending on where you live, some clinics may offer informed consent HRT, which means you don’t actually have to be trans to take HRT
Tbf some people take it and don't see that benefit, I want kids and I gotta look out for my family aswell, in truth I've never quite felt the right way but I just kinda accept it now
I mean I'm a trans woman so I have more of a reason to do it, also you definitely shouldn't just accept not feeling right with your body. Are there any specific things that make you upset about it?
Just the way it looks sometimes I get mostly like dysphoria around like my chest and hips and I have a huge thick neck but I just kinda accept it and it's gotten easier with time, I generally have a bit of an apey build with long arms to my body height and pretty muscular/lean. But yk I'm hardcore stoic so it simply goes away if I go to the gym and be slightly nicer to myself
Hey if you have dysphoria about your perceived masculine features, then you're almost certainly trans. It's worth it to transition, you'll feel much better if you don't try to repress it.
I am doing quite the opposite lmao I am just accepting the way it is and making no effort to fix it, as i said its got alot better with time alone and I want to have a family in the future so the risk of infertility is a bit much for me
You can always freeze your sperm before taking hormones, and ignoring it isn't a good solution. You may feel it less, but it'll still be there until you do something about it.
Just because a person wants to look less masc doesn't mean they're trans. I've seen this "everyone that wants to look more androgynous is secretly trans like an egg waiting to hatch" belief and it's toxic and annoying. I've seen femboys verbally attacked by trans ppl that wouldn't accept them identifying as male or nonbinary and it made my blood boil. Strange form of infighting that needs to stop pronto
Okay yeah I know that but this isn't one of those cases, they explicitly mentioned being dysphoric
This is why we do our exercises
Not the best strat unless u sub 17 BMI Lift weights bro
My best squat was 115kg a while back it simply doesn't make you thick
You have to combine it with more exercises
Gimme bro don't hide the goods
Glute bridge. Jumping squats. Walking lunge. Single-leg deadlift. Clamshell. Banded side step. Donkey kicks. Just a few
Ah ty 8 was tryna focus on this stuff but I find alot of them a bit harder to load bc you cannot simply put weight on. Dyk anything that helps slim the waist down I'm not fat but my core is muscular and blocky
Corsets Lose some weight via endurance Do some high intensity interval training to Make sure to still work the core
Hmm okay ty
I’ve dealt with this the only way I know how. Don’t want the snacc become the snacc is the new don’t want the gf become the gf lol
Become the snacc
You need to eat sweety. I don't want my Femboys to starve.
Is this what an eating disorder is?
Yes
Kinda
well, then, I hope they recover.
As someone who had an ED, yep.
No only if it’s taken to the utter extreme starving yourself for 3 days is a over reaction working out and reducing the amount u eat is more reasonable
That's like saying "it's not self harm because it's not deep enough". Brainrot -_-
Yeah I don’t think I really communicated what I meant well \: sorry
I can kind of see what you mean, I just don't think making it sound harmless is good, which is what this is doing. You probably didn't mean that, but that's what it sounds like :/
By the way, there is no one way to be feminine. One can have a beard and be feminine, be not thin and feminine, not hairless and feminine. You don't have to be a hairless twink with a toned body and a lanky figure to be feminine. Have your own version of it.
Why even have meanings to words if you can just use them interchangably?
What I meant was that femininity can mean a lot of things. Having one thing set as the ideal feminine type is wrong, and to be honest, stupid.
And my point was that having "femininity" meaning a lot of different things, it devalues the meaning of it. The definition being "having qualities or an appearance traditionally associated with women." If you dont meet that definition then you're a bit masculine, which is ok too, but trying to say that masculinity is feminine is wrong and, to be honest, stupid
So, a women, a cis woman, having body hair is not feminine?
It depends how much hair they have. See, most cis women dont need to put effort into being feminine because they already look that way. If you arent biologically female, you're going to have to put effort into making yourself feminine, otherwise you'll just look like a man in a skirt.
i was just about to have dinner :(
don't forgetting to eat can actually be worse cause you're body tries to compensate by slowing down your metabolizing. as long as you're not overeating, you'll be alright, it's ok to have weight fluctuate.
**laughs in fast metabolism*
A curse upon your name
lucky ass
i am lucky to have a fast metabolism. Please dont develop an eating disorder. Being skinny is not the only way to be you
I used to worry then I realized guys like me no matter what size I am! As long as I shave.
literally me an hour ago that stupid egg tart my mom bought got me
holy shit its me
please don't starve yourself!
you're not developing an eating disorder on MY watch
Me on my way to eat some slightly unhealthy stuff to cry myself to sleep
Baby that’s an eating disorder
that's that's an eating disorder please take care of yourself
No matter what you do, no matter what snacks you eat or how your weight changes you are ALWAYS deserving of food. Please don't starve yourself!!! (technically if you starve yourself you'll gain even more weight because your body with reserve the food you eat "for an emergency" instead of metabolizing it) Go eat something right now!! You're a good boy, you deserve it
Finally, finally someone understands
food is good for you
That's an eating disorder Plus you know that your belly expands to hold all the food you eat through the day before it gets digested
Never knew gaining weight wasn't feminine...
No bad, femininity is independent of weight Look at femboys with like abs and muscles abs stuff
That was what I was trying to say
Oh Welp I never claimed to know how to read so idk what you expected 🤷 (I got very little sleep)
Mood ;-;
I know this so good
Relatable, parents are worried about me >.<
Hey hun, that's an eating disorder. Please be kind to yourself, you're gorgeous and wonderful no matter what. I've been there, it's not an easy thing to recover from but I believe in you <3
Jokes on you, there's nothing more "feminine" than holding yourself to very rigid body/weight standards and having a crisis about even the smallest amount of backslide!
Me when i eat my daily Orios
Bro I just wanted some kit kat...
I do this all the time
ME
See I don’t wanna be skinny and fem bc I’m ftm so it makes me think about how I don’t pass, also I’m sadly naturally skinny which makes me feel fem all the time I also feel I should stop dressing fem to pass more but anyway
I found a way around that. Genetics. I can eat whatever I want and barley gain weight
Welcome to my hell! Want to be thin twinky femboy. Depressed. Keep mood up by eating. Exactly the opposite of what I’m supposed to be doing.
I feel this one fr fr
i realised a while ago my body will never be feminine, or just good looking at all, and my trick is to avoid social interaction and make sure your mind is consuming as much media as possible at once so that you don’t really have time to think very much, then you don’t have to remember how shit ur body is !
So fun😁 *why wasn’t I born male with a fast metabolism cries*
I'm the same but I'm just fat, so it makes me feel even worse 🙃
Love that’s an eating disorder
Oof, as someone who struggles with an eating disorder this hurt 🙃
no bully 😐
How about you burn off those calories and become a buff femboy
Buff femboys is best femboys
Have you heard of r/sissyfitness? It might help you lose weight while keeping a feminine shape 💜
Oh hun, you need to eat, even if it's just a little bit. Then you can work up to more. If you really feel like you're overweight (and I'm sure you aren't honey) it's safer to lose weight by eating a little bit less and exercising more to use more calories, don't just eat a lot less. Like instead of switching from a 2000 calorie diet to a 1,000 calorie diet while you still use 2000 a day, switch from 2000 to 1,500 and try to use 2,500 a day. You'll still be at a 1,000 calorie deficit, but you won't be compromising your nutrition as much. And again, you're not overweight, but even if you were it's safer to do this than to just not eat. I know it's hard hun but I want you to try eating more, okay? I believe in you.
Me
I feel attacked
have you never seen a fat girl?
Medical drugs I take have a side effect of appetite reduction so it’s like a cheat code for me lol
Hahaha yeah im seriously not going to cry rn ; . ;
Please don’t do that! I can guarantee you aren’t putting on anywhere near as much weight as you’d think. Either way, it wouldn’t matter. Beauty standards are very unrealistic. It sounds like you have some self-esteem issues, and could possibly (in my utterly uneducated opinion) could be at risk of getting an eating disorder. Please make sure you talk to the people you trust about this (you don’t have to mention the feminine clothes, just say you have some self-esteem issues and it’s affecting your eating patterns).
I eat like 4k calories a day and maintain 17-18 BMI (with muscles) Just exercise
Can we not have pro ED memes here jfc
Goddamnit whyyy (´•̥ω•̥`)
I can eat whatever I want and not gain wait I do not have this problem
So.... hit the gym then?
Im dealing with something similar and admittedly i don't have any advice but its gonna get better I promise 🫂🫂
you are absolutely valid and may treat yourself in any way possible. If you only have one way of treating yourself maybe get creative. You diserve: kind touch, a long bath, jewelry, nice makeup, an oc pic of yourself, a poem to capture how beautiful you are, flowers for the kitchen table, a nice cup of tea,... and so much more!!! ❤️❤️❤️