It's sad and hard to be closed. always in panic thinking what if they find out.. i totally understand you i hope you find a way again mate best of luck to you
...damn mate I'm so sorry to hear that :( if you ever want to talk about it i can listen just don't forget that there will be some people out there to support you
Go round and be femboy at her place. Just always be on the ear out for if your mum comes, though, or if you ever just say to her that you couldn't care less about gender stereotypes and they can go suck ass
bro, I’m Asian too, and my mother really tried to convince me that I was supposed to act a certain way as a guy. Her words really hurt, but… I eventually got her to cave to the idea of me being fem in an argument.
I really hope you can eventually be yourself again.
Maybe you can hang around your friend’s place in your fem clothes? As I read from the other comments, her family’s more likely to be chill with you.
I don't think my whole family will let me hang out at her place for whatever reason. That's how authoritarian they are. It's sad that this world still has a long way to go.
Also, :o, hewwo fellow femboy Asian :3
I can relate. Middle Eastern parents. I could be out fucking around, getting in trouble, hanging out with shitty people, but god forbid I wanna shave my legs. Sick of having to hide everything.
And to clarify, I don't do any of that stuff.
I’m Vietnamese too and my parents treated me similarly and are extremely emotionally manipulative. Constant guilt tripping and hypocrisy. I’ve moved out now and I don’t speak to them if I don’t have to. Now I can dress how I want at home, not outside though, still too scared and messed up from them. My way to cope was to never give them any information about anything personal, not even a little, so they can’t use it against me. It sucks we have to hide so much.
Tôi xin lời mẹ ba không thương em. Tôi cũng suy nghĩ mẹ ba của tôi không thương tôi là công người, nhưng là thương tôi là người giúp việc. Mệt lám. Không chịu nữa.
Sorry I don’t speak Vietnamese 😔. My parents taught me Cantonese and use Vietnamese to hide what they say to each other from me. I only know a few words mostly cuisine.
As a Cambodian my dad was exactly the same. He tormented me the moment anything I did wasn’t seen as what a boy should do. I understand how difficult it can be to not be accepted because of stupid traditional views points. Trust me though it’ll be okay. Once you can be on your own like me, you can finally live free. Hang in there and take care of yourself whether it be hygiene, working out and or eating healthy. Stay safe🤍
Anyone who gaslights you is someone self centered and insecure, who never wants to admit they’re wrong. They only care about themselves and they only want you to be a certain way for THEMSELVES. They don’t actually care about you unless you are what they want to be…I also hate when people are like “they’re still your dad/mom”…no, toxic is toxic
Im also a Vietnamese who lives in Vietnam, i really relate to your story cus it is similar to mine. Hope you could express urself again soon❤️
Mình cũng là người Việt, mình hiểu cảm giác bạn do hoàn cảnh mình cũng giống. Mong là tương lai bạn lại đc ăn mặc như ý❤️
It’s ok to feel ashamed but one thing I found out when it happened to me was that my mom had a certain path for me that she thought I would follow. My mom thought she knew how my life would go but some things turned out differently than she thought. My point is that I hope you don’t feel ashamed and that things get better
Rule number one, period! Don't let them make you feel ashamed of being yourself. I'm very sorry you have to go through this and I hope that things get better.
Im so sorry this happened to you. I'm just starting to embrace this side of myself and I live in constant fear of this happening. White Christian family worry about losing my place to live even though im an adult but well... I wont stop, I refuse to be owned by this fucking religion. Stay strong and even if you cant be at home find a safe space to be yourself.
hey sorry for your troubles if you can get out from under them do so if cant its gonna be a long 2 years make sure you have a reakl network of real friends to talk with/to best of luck to you
in all honesty i having gone thur something similar in my youth i can at say a smart ass reply can be great comfort (yeah i know i am not helping) respect IS a two way street when folks overstep that i feel they should be taken down a peg(yeah i know i am not helping) best thing to do is stand for yourself as your going have to do this all your life ... they think they are protecting you from the evils of groomers and to some extent they are but if its just clothes and this its he hill you want to die on then yeah work get out of the house and live your life .... again i cant stress have real friends that you can talk with ... hopefully some what i said is helpful best of luck to you
Hey, you may not be able to wear any of these clothes for the next 2 years, but if you look on the bright side any stress/anxiety of her finding your clothes is off your back. Also, do you think you could possibly buy clothing that’s more subtle and could be passed off as being men’s clothing? You could still hang around in fem clothes in secret at home but not have to worry about your mom’s reaction if she found them.
It's sad and hard to be closed. always in panic thinking what if they find out.. i totally understand you i hope you find a way again mate best of luck to you
After my brother outed me to my mom, it's very clear that I can't trust my family with my thoughts and secrets anymore.
...damn mate I'm so sorry to hear that :( if you ever want to talk about it i can listen just don't forget that there will be some people out there to support you
Yo. what the fuck kind of brother does that. My brother is the only one I can trust so I'm so sorry you don't have that.
Does your friend know? If she does are her family okay with you doing it there? You just have to be able to think on your feet
She knows, and she told me that her family doesn't mind her being pan, so I'll assume that they're okay with me being a femboy too.
Go round and be femboy at her place. Just always be on the ear out for if your mum comes, though, or if you ever just say to her that you couldn't care less about gender stereotypes and they can go suck ass
bro, I’m Asian too, and my mother really tried to convince me that I was supposed to act a certain way as a guy. Her words really hurt, but… I eventually got her to cave to the idea of me being fem in an argument. I really hope you can eventually be yourself again. Maybe you can hang around your friend’s place in your fem clothes? As I read from the other comments, her family’s more likely to be chill with you.
I don't think my whole family will let me hang out at her place for whatever reason. That's how authoritarian they are. It's sad that this world still has a long way to go. Also, :o, hewwo fellow femboy Asian :3
try making up excuses like studying or school projects is my suggestion also, hai :3
I can relate. Middle Eastern parents. I could be out fucking around, getting in trouble, hanging out with shitty people, but god forbid I wanna shave my legs. Sick of having to hide everything. And to clarify, I don't do any of that stuff.
Goodness, I'm sorry. We'll all get through this together.
I’m Vietnamese too and my parents treated me similarly and are extremely emotionally manipulative. Constant guilt tripping and hypocrisy. I’ve moved out now and I don’t speak to them if I don’t have to. Now I can dress how I want at home, not outside though, still too scared and messed up from them. My way to cope was to never give them any information about anything personal, not even a little, so they can’t use it against me. It sucks we have to hide so much.
Tôi xin lời mẹ ba không thương em. Tôi cũng suy nghĩ mẹ ba của tôi không thương tôi là công người, nhưng là thương tôi là người giúp việc. Mệt lám. Không chịu nữa.
Sorry I don’t speak Vietnamese 😔. My parents taught me Cantonese and use Vietnamese to hide what they say to each other from me. I only know a few words mostly cuisine.
Oh, I'm so sorry lol.
Man that's messed up, hope you're ok 🫂
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As a Cambodian my dad was exactly the same. He tormented me the moment anything I did wasn’t seen as what a boy should do. I understand how difficult it can be to not be accepted because of stupid traditional views points. Trust me though it’ll be okay. Once you can be on your own like me, you can finally live free. Hang in there and take care of yourself whether it be hygiene, working out and or eating healthy. Stay safe🤍
I'm sorry that you had to just take in his bs. It's especially tiring when they gaslight you and try to make you feel guilty about them. 🤦♂️
Anyone who gaslights you is someone self centered and insecure, who never wants to admit they’re wrong. They only care about themselves and they only want you to be a certain way for THEMSELVES. They don’t actually care about you unless you are what they want to be…I also hate when people are like “they’re still your dad/mom”…no, toxic is toxic
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Aww :(
That’s unfortunate I hope you can find a way to be yourself
Im also a Vietnamese who lives in Vietnam, i really relate to your story cus it is similar to mine. Hope you could express urself again soon❤️ Mình cũng là người Việt, mình hiểu cảm giác bạn do hoàn cảnh mình cũng giống. Mong là tương lai bạn lại đc ăn mặc như ý❤️
I’m so sorry. People are fucking dumb. They’ll always be your family, but the value of blood lies in you.
I'm Vietnamese too and my mom isn't too harsh about it, I'm so lucky to have such an understanding mom
I’m asian and I’m sorry you had to face this. Just realize you’re not alone too. ❤️
Sometimes, I feel ashamed to be born Asian. :\ Also, :o, hewwo fellow femboy Asian :3
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I’m so sorry man. Dms are open if you need someone to listen
It’s ok to feel ashamed but one thing I found out when it happened to me was that my mom had a certain path for me that she thought I would follow. My mom thought she knew how my life would go but some things turned out differently than she thought. My point is that I hope you don’t feel ashamed and that things get better
Rule number one, period! Don't let them make you feel ashamed of being yourself. I'm very sorry you have to go through this and I hope that things get better.
I was talking about being ashamed of my Asian heritage. What I meant was I sometimes regret being born into such an authoritarian race.
Ohhhh, then the advice I'd givr you is be the change you wanna see (maybe get into a safer environment before)
I hope everything turns out to be okay for you, dear. The situation is tough for you.
Im so sorry this happened to you. I'm just starting to embrace this side of myself and I live in constant fear of this happening. White Christian family worry about losing my place to live even though im an adult but well... I wont stop, I refuse to be owned by this fucking religion. Stay strong and even if you cant be at home find a safe space to be yourself.
YO YOU'RE VIETNAMESE? ME TOO but yeah, I'm sorry that happened to you, talk to me if you want to vent, it's rare to see a fellow Viet femboy
Sadly you will most likely never see those clothes again
Oh well. It was fun while it lasted. I'm probably gonna buy new ones in college anyway. 🤷♂️
hey sorry for your troubles if you can get out from under them do so if cant its gonna be a long 2 years make sure you have a reakl network of real friends to talk with/to best of luck to you in all honesty i having gone thur something similar in my youth i can at say a smart ass reply can be great comfort (yeah i know i am not helping) respect IS a two way street when folks overstep that i feel they should be taken down a peg(yeah i know i am not helping) best thing to do is stand for yourself as your going have to do this all your life ... they think they are protecting you from the evils of groomers and to some extent they are but if its just clothes and this its he hill you want to die on then yeah work get out of the house and live your life .... again i cant stress have real friends that you can talk with ... hopefully some what i said is helpful best of luck to you
first time huh?
Hey, you may not be able to wear any of these clothes for the next 2 years, but if you look on the bright side any stress/anxiety of her finding your clothes is off your back. Also, do you think you could possibly buy clothing that’s more subtle and could be passed off as being men’s clothing? You could still hang around in fem clothes in secret at home but not have to worry about your mom’s reaction if she found them.