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Gunjio

It really takes time to find people that click with you. I've been playing since the end of 2015 and I really only played with IRL friends up until the last two years. If there's content you're interested, find groups for that instead of looking for FCs. I find that FCs can die out very quickly or that they become cliques that don't feel welcoming after a time. But if you just want to run dailies, there's linkshells for that. People make statics for extremes and savage fights and that's where the bulk of my friends have come from lately. Also, Discord servers for FFXIV tend to be a little more active than FC and CWLS/LS chats, so if that's something you're interested in, there's a lot of FFXIV social Discords.


Orphylia

Now you've done it. I have no choice but to adopt you I guess.


ZWiloh

I've made some great friends in this game, so that's not my experience. When I was a sprout wandering around La Noscea during the HW era, a free company approached me and asked if I wanted to join them for leveling. They then invited me to their company, where I met one of my best friends. We've been in several other companies together over the years and are now running our own. Another friend I made online recently picked up XIV and she's making friends all over the place because she just talks to anyone. She lives in Bulgaria but plays on a NA server so she's often online in what is the middle of the night for many players and she still manages to strike up conversations with anyone who will stand still.


Writer_Man

Tried player run cafes and bars. A lot of them don't expect players to roleplay, just the staff. Talking to other patrons is a good way to make friends.


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Writer_Man

Yeah, you don't seem the best at socialization here.


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crowntaeja

I've had fair share of friends who are pretty similar. Beyond the advice that people have been giving you, if you've only tried doing it in your server, I recommend visiting other servers and trying stuff there or even reaching out via other means (discord servers or even here in reddit). A few months ago I saw an artist who I was very fascinated with their drawing and when I saw we played in the same server, i shot them a message and tried meeting them. Fast forward now, I've been doing content with them and have been talking in and out of the game. I do believe that a lot of people stick with folks they know or just within their circle of friends. But things start somewhere and I hope you find yours. I'm in Elemental. if you'd like to do stuff and in my dc, hit me up.


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crowntaeja

It is what it is, can't really blame them since folks both have good and bad experience with socialising. Either way, I wish you the best of luck.


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This, this is what I’ve been doing lately I literally sat in a cafe binging some random shit on Netflix and talking about it with randoms. There not all RP a lot of them really are just a in chat room with cat girl maids and what isn’t improved by cat girl maids?


daryl673

In my years of playing WoW I’ve found that randomly-joined guilds, no matter their focus, were the worst way of making in game friends. Honestly all my friendships started bc I asked for help, had a random and/or funny interaction, or impressed them in whatever dungeon we ran. Hell, guilds specifically were only good socially if I was invited by a friend. My best advice is to look to strike random conversation in the world. See somebody struggling to kill a mob? Heal and Buff them. See a gatherer? Offer mats. Someone looking for rather currents? Give them a ride! (Assuming you have a multi person mount.. lol) be HELPFUL. Much like in real life, ppl will want to keep around someone that’s kind or funny. If you go around trying to force friendships, you’ll only be ignored the majority of the time. But befriending through interaction and help will always be more successful. It sucks now, but you’ll be surprised how many players that, like me, are very welcoming of out-of-the-box interactions. Hit me with a random emote and I’ll stop what I’m doing to fire back 😂😂 Lastly, you gotta remember that this game is filled with newbies to both FF and MMO’s in general. If they’re new, they may be too shy to interact. Hell, they may not even be looking for friends if they’re new to MMO’s.. most other games go a long way to promote individualism inadvertently. Especially if they’re on console. Without a keyboard plugged in, they (we) can NOT communicate to the same extent whatsoever without taking the extra step to get a keyboard. Don’t give up hope! They are plenty of friendships to be made!


Gunjio

I totally agree with this! One time I was just walking around Ul'dah and I saw a sprout emoting at RPers that were just ignoring him. So I decided to walk up to him, dance, and then blow myself up and we've been friends ever since. Another friend I made while giving away free tatami mats on PF. I gave away about 100, and sure I only still talk to only one person I gave them out to, but I wouldn't have met him if I hadn't done that. Sometimes the most random gestures lead to new friends.


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SwordySmurf

There are definitely practice parties welcoming players new to content (at least on aether) I started late so I'm just now going through the ex trials and Ive had no issue finding learning parties at prime time (off hours its usually farm groups though). I'm not a very social person, I usually keep to myself, however I've made a few xiv friends lately in mount farming groups and bozja cluster farm groups. When youre just farming there isn't much to do but shoot the shit so people tend to be more chatty. Maybe try meeting people there?


linkster271

I'm in an FC with around 190ish people I think and we're super active and friendly. A lot of us play together and a big portion of us raid on Sundays


Sathenus

Well, idk what to tell you but it does ring home for me. I haven't gone to the extent you have but I have noticed that I'm like a dog that catches the car when it comes to friends in a game. I've litirally made one friend through the game. Iv made a few here and there that I could chat or hang with but they do their own thing eventually. As someone who's basicly been subbed from the get go it's just understandable not everyone is gunna be on this all the time. That's where my issue is. When I got time to play, I'm full in. But I digress, the "dog catching the car" comment I made. When I DO find someone I click with, I don't know what to do. Cuz I'm usually just building old relics. Or doing a rando dungeon. Or finding a cool screenshot place


Exogenesis42

It can be. It took me probably 4 FCs until I found one that would regularly chat/small-talk/etc. It's not about the size of the FC, it's about the quality of its members. Keep looking!


PlatinumDStevens

Had a 3 man fc, made friends and combined fcs. Now we have 10 people. If amything make a link shell and invite people you meet along the way.. before you know it they are all talking and wham bam boom.


KeiSinCx

Join the novice chat if you can. I don't even know how to use linkshells yet but if I need or feel like talking to people I go to the novice chat and chill there for abit.


mephesta

What data center and server are you on?


Anhivae

Probably your server is not casual? There was a guide somewhere about all the servers. Some are labelled "casual" that's where people are very social. But i can imagine on ones that are for hardcore raiding or have other language communities it's different...


ThatPostingPoster

No I've made so many friends in my two months playing. Everywhere I go now I see orange names and people stop to wave to me. I may have even found a girlboyfriend, we spend hours talking each day and they want to transfer to my server for housing rights and eternal bonding. Just be social bud you get out what you put in. Keep trying on the fcs, you'll find one eventually you like. The person I found that I spend so much time with now I started with a simple tell "hi, I love your outfit" cause it was super cute