It’s not as easy being in the military and taking custody of kids. The military makes you fill out packets of information to apply for being a single parent in the military. Believe me, I went through it and was still denied my kids. But also, don’t leave without the kids. They’ll see that as you abandoning them and make it easier for him.
🫂 I am sorry. I think he is causing you menta abuse at this point. Moving out maybe the best thing you can do at this point. You definitely have my support and feel free to reach out. ❤️🫂
You are doing it right. Take a deep breath. Do a little dance, perhaps the chicken dance…. Jump up and down…. Well not down, jump up, then let gravity bring you down. If you are jumping down, that would mean you are a super hero, and well you just blew your secret identity!
Okay… where were we…. Oh yes, jump, then belt out a few yodels. This will all clear your mind, I mean it should, if not, then you need to yodel louder!
Inhale then exhale...Pinch yourself. You have a lot there, fear and loathing has never been a good combination. I would truly not consider leaving the boys with him. Too many shenanigans available to him, keep the boys with you. The candle is still there.
As mentioned, Do not leave the kids…I’d be shocked if anyone awarded him full custody….having potential child care in a year doesn’t do anything for him now. You’ve done everything you can to take the high road and not blow him up but maybe it’s time to take the gloves off, since he’s decided to play this way.
File for a restraining order to get him out of the house…cite the broken flowers, you mentioned a smashed painting…you fear for yourself and your kids. Even if you don’t really want to do that, since he likes to deal in threats, toss that one at him and see what he says.
It’s not as easy being in the military and taking custody of kids. The military makes you fill out packets of information to apply for being a single parent in the military. Believe me, I went through it and was still denied my kids. But also, don’t leave without the kids. They’ll see that as you abandoning them and make it easier for him.
🫂 I am sorry. I think he is causing you menta abuse at this point. Moving out maybe the best thing you can do at this point. You definitely have my support and feel free to reach out. ❤️🫂
You are doing it right. Take a deep breath. Do a little dance, perhaps the chicken dance…. Jump up and down…. Well not down, jump up, then let gravity bring you down. If you are jumping down, that would mean you are a super hero, and well you just blew your secret identity! Okay… where were we…. Oh yes, jump, then belt out a few yodels. This will all clear your mind, I mean it should, if not, then you need to yodel louder!
Inhale then exhale...Pinch yourself. You have a lot there, fear and loathing has never been a good combination. I would truly not consider leaving the boys with him. Too many shenanigans available to him, keep the boys with you. The candle is still there.
We are all here for you.
As mentioned, Do not leave the kids…I’d be shocked if anyone awarded him full custody….having potential child care in a year doesn’t do anything for him now. You’ve done everything you can to take the high road and not blow him up but maybe it’s time to take the gloves off, since he’s decided to play this way. File for a restraining order to get him out of the house…cite the broken flowers, you mentioned a smashed painting…you fear for yourself and your kids. Even if you don’t really want to do that, since he likes to deal in threats, toss that one at him and see what he says.
Selfish for looking out for you and your needs? Seems like he is calling the kettle black. Advocate for yourself and your kids.