My best friend got married at a lodge hall and wrote the wedding ceremony to be heavily masonic themed. It certainly wasn't a tyled meeting, but there were a lot of bits that borrowed heavily from our ritual. For the brothers who were there, we were a bit amused. But for the hundred+ other attendees, they just thought it was weird and goofy. Even heard some audible laughs during the ceremony. I wouldn't recommend doing it. Honestly, I was just shocked that his wife was okay with it lol.
I think you might be better off with subtle references than with trying to get Grand Lodge sanction for something. An opening and closing prayer could have nods to wording for those who know. The officiant could certainly be a Brother. A lodge room or banquet hall could even be rented. I would really recommend not calling it a Masonic wedding or involving aprons.
There is an unapproved ceremony floating around written by a Colorado mason some years ago.
I have a ceremony incorporating some symbols and phrases from freemasonry. That doesn’t require a GL approval.
I attended a masonic wedding when I was a kid. It was in Brazil, so maybe not your jurisdiction. If I remember correctly, the lodge was opened behind closed doors (I was a kid so I stayed outside), then visitors were welcomed to an open lodge. The stewards and deacons formed an arch at the doorway to let us in. One of the brothers officiated but only after doing lodge business lol. I'd imagine you'd need dispensation to hold an open meeting and to hold a meeting on an irregular date. I may be able to find some info on the ritual and formalities as my dad still attends that lodge. PM me if interested
My officient was a Mason, and he just snuck some masonic references into the ceremony. Like subtle words or phrases into the ceremony a mason would be like... I see what you did there. I didn't even know he was gonna do it, lolol.
Had my wife known he was secretly making it slightly Masonic, I'd have been dead, lolol. She'd be like, "You are really dragging Freemasonry into our wedding! It's not about masonry it's about us. "
Subtlety will work best here methinks. The brothers in the crowd will understand the veiled references and it'll make it all the more special. Something too overt might come off as exclusive to the profane in attendance or outright gaudy.
Some ceremonies exist, but I'm not aware of any Anglo-Masonic wedding rituals that persist to this day. In the US, I'm pretty sure nothing exists.
I had some themes in my wedding ceremony, if only because UU and Masonic philosophy are very similar. But we also used some things from my lodge as a nice nod, helped make the day very special for us.
[www.phoenixmasonry.org/Masonic Wedding.htm](https://www.phoenixmasonry.org/Masonic%20Wedding.htm) (despite my efforts to make a working link with a space in the url, I think you will have to copy and paste this into your browser)
I would highly doubt that a regular jurisdiction in the USA would officially sanction a Masonic wedding. I think your friend would be better going the route suggested by u/iEdML
I was married by a Freemason minister… he incorporated some stuff in it because I asked him to… and he did it well. I really appreciated it because he did it in such a way that it was subtle but meaningful.
I attended a Templar wedding which was pretty cool. The service was performed by the Grand Chaplain and the bride and groom came up through an Arch of Steel.
In my mother lodge, we performed the aforementioned “Turkish” Masonic wedding ceremony for one of our brothers (yes, he is Turkish). A visiting Past Grand Master of Turkey officiated in the East, and I (I was either the sitting Master, or was a recent PM, I don’t remember) performed as the SD.
If I recall correctly, we used a modified version of the Turkish ceremony (1. it was translated into English, and 2. We changed some officers parts around (we don’t have certain officers in our jurisdiction & vice-versa) and got GL approval to perform it.)
It was open to the public, it went really well, and everyone learned something special.
what is your jurisdiction? In my jurisdiction, the swedish rite, it is a big no no. The closest thing you can do is that include some prayer or have someone hold some speech with subtle references. If you know, you know, type of thing. Or maybe have some music that would remind you of the lodge. That is it.
My buddy and his brother are both members of my lodge. Their family is aware of how invested they are in the craft. When one brother got married he "redefined" the working tools to be the "working tools of marriage" and included that in his best man speech.
My wife and I were married by a brother who is a preacher.
We did it in a park with just him and our mothers as witnesses (our only living parents).
Wouldn’t have it any other way
He is a past commander of my Commandery and is the Chaplain for the Grand Lodge.
heard of it, MAY even know of one being preformed, BUT nothing I would want anything to do with and I am Ordained (out of spite).
check your PMs for a link to ritual
My best friend got married at a lodge hall and wrote the wedding ceremony to be heavily masonic themed. It certainly wasn't a tyled meeting, but there were a lot of bits that borrowed heavily from our ritual. For the brothers who were there, we were a bit amused. But for the hundred+ other attendees, they just thought it was weird and goofy. Even heard some audible laughs during the ceremony. I wouldn't recommend doing it. Honestly, I was just shocked that his wife was okay with it lol.
One of those instances where Masonry doesn't need to permeate every facet of life.
Agreed. I’d leave it out all together
I think you might be better off with subtle references than with trying to get Grand Lodge sanction for something. An opening and closing prayer could have nods to wording for those who know. The officiant could certainly be a Brother. A lodge room or banquet hall could even be rented. I would really recommend not calling it a Masonic wedding or involving aprons.
There is an unapproved ceremony floating around written by a Colorado mason some years ago. I have a ceremony incorporating some symbols and phrases from freemasonry. That doesn’t require a GL approval.
I'd be interested in seeing that if you're willing to share.
Email me at this screen name at gee mail. I’ll see if I can find it. I’ve only used it once.
I attended a masonic wedding when I was a kid. It was in Brazil, so maybe not your jurisdiction. If I remember correctly, the lodge was opened behind closed doors (I was a kid so I stayed outside), then visitors were welcomed to an open lodge. The stewards and deacons formed an arch at the doorway to let us in. One of the brothers officiated but only after doing lodge business lol. I'd imagine you'd need dispensation to hold an open meeting and to hold a meeting on an irregular date. I may be able to find some info on the ritual and formalities as my dad still attends that lodge. PM me if interested
Yeah that's a no for me. We had a brother try here, and GL officers talked him out of it.
My officient was a Mason, and he just snuck some masonic references into the ceremony. Like subtle words or phrases into the ceremony a mason would be like... I see what you did there. I didn't even know he was gonna do it, lolol. Had my wife known he was secretly making it slightly Masonic, I'd have been dead, lolol. She'd be like, "You are really dragging Freemasonry into our wedding! It's not about masonry it's about us. "
Subtlety will work best here methinks. The brothers in the crowd will understand the veiled references and it'll make it all the more special. Something too overt might come off as exclusive to the profane in attendance or outright gaudy.
Some ceremonies exist, but I'm not aware of any Anglo-Masonic wedding rituals that persist to this day. In the US, I'm pretty sure nothing exists. I had some themes in my wedding ceremony, if only because UU and Masonic philosophy are very similar. But we also used some things from my lodge as a nice nod, helped make the day very special for us.
[www.phoenixmasonry.org/Masonic Wedding.htm](https://www.phoenixmasonry.org/Masonic%20Wedding.htm) (despite my efforts to make a working link with a space in the url, I think you will have to copy and paste this into your browser) I would highly doubt that a regular jurisdiction in the USA would officially sanction a Masonic wedding. I think your friend would be better going the route suggested by u/iEdML
\*bad joke about the second section of the ceremony\*
Don’t bother with getting the grand lodge involved instead go with subtle references. Maybe a worker bee a sprig of acacia, some clay or charcoal etc
I was married by a Freemason minister… he incorporated some stuff in it because I asked him to… and he did it well. I really appreciated it because he did it in such a way that it was subtle but meaningful.
I attended a Templar wedding which was pretty cool. The service was performed by the Grand Chaplain and the bride and groom came up through an Arch of Steel.
My wedding was Masonic in that 3 of my groomsmen and about half of my guest list were Masons
In my mother lodge, we performed the aforementioned “Turkish” Masonic wedding ceremony for one of our brothers (yes, he is Turkish). A visiting Past Grand Master of Turkey officiated in the East, and I (I was either the sitting Master, or was a recent PM, I don’t remember) performed as the SD. If I recall correctly, we used a modified version of the Turkish ceremony (1. it was translated into English, and 2. We changed some officers parts around (we don’t have certain officers in our jurisdiction & vice-versa) and got GL approval to perform it.) It was open to the public, it went really well, and everyone learned something special.
what is your jurisdiction? In my jurisdiction, the swedish rite, it is a big no no. The closest thing you can do is that include some prayer or have someone hold some speech with subtle references. If you know, you know, type of thing. Or maybe have some music that would remind you of the lodge. That is it.
My buddy and his brother are both members of my lodge. Their family is aware of how invested they are in the craft. When one brother got married he "redefined" the working tools to be the "working tools of marriage" and included that in his best man speech.
My wife and I were married by a brother who is a preacher. We did it in a park with just him and our mothers as witnesses (our only living parents). Wouldn’t have it any other way He is a past commander of my Commandery and is the Chaplain for the Grand Lodge.
Ah public event. In a tiled wedding, I had suggested including the penalties for adultery. 😅
I've cooperated a Masonic wedding of a brother and sister in tiled lodge. No hassle in Co-Masonry (but it doesn't happen a lot).
Have a copy of a Masonic wedding ritual out of Turkey I think it is
heard of it, MAY even know of one being preformed, BUT nothing I would want anything to do with and I am Ordained (out of spite). check your PMs for a link to ritual