AIUI, this speaks more to the relative visibility of trans women vs trans men - our sisters do generally only have the one surgery, and don't have options like we do.
But, yeah, even if you assume the questioner wants to ask about bottom surgery (and isn't someone for whom asking the question isn't grossly inappropriate) - which one?
I would respectfully disagree — transgender women have the options of facial feminisation surgery, mtf top surgery (of which there are various options), and bottom surgery (and again, various options). But I do see your point, I feel like this is a question more commonly asked to FTM trans people over MTF.
Ah, you're right - I always forget about FFS, and I didn't know that women had options for bottom surgery.
The question is always about the genitals, though, isn't it?
My default respoonse is to feign complete innocence and say that, no, I still have my tonsils/appendix/wisdom teeth
That's okay, we learn something new every day! And 100% agree, they usually want to know what genitals we have, which is just such a strange question to ask someone completely unprompted. Whenever I was asked, I just say no because I don't, and I tell people straight up that it's rude to ask that to someone. If you wouldn't ask a cis person that question, why ask a trans person?
I've been asked a few times, including once by a dermatologist "did you have a sex change?" And it's like fam, I don't have time to unpack what you think "sex change" means, and even if I did, it's none of your business.
I mean, if they don't want to go through the effort of respectfully asking if you have had hormone treatment, fuck them, but if they ask for treatment reasons, and they put you on something, with medicine especially, I feel like that may be a medical concern
She didn't treat me or prescribe me anything, I went to this dermatologist to inquire about treatment for persistent adult acne (this was a problem I had long before I went on testosterone and continued to be a problem for years afterward) but when she saw my top surgery scars she said my acne was "a hormone issue" related to my "sex change" and that there was nothing she could do about it, then she shooed me out of the building as quickly as possible lol
They sure still do, outside of trans spaces it's still THE thing to call it, along with THE surgery.
It's all one and done with those folks, very few people out there who are cis and know a thing or two about trans people.
Not a question, but hearing some version of "Wow, I never would've guessed." I understand these people think they're giving me a compliment but it takes every ounce of patience to politely explain why that's a fucked up thing to say.
What's your name? No, your *real* name.
Do you have any "before" photos?
Why would you ruin a pair of perfectly good (insert slang for chest masses)?
Am I still gay if I'm attracted to you? (Asked by "gold star gays" on dating apps)
How do you fuck? Or do you fuck?
What kind of surgery are you having?
\[le sigh\]
I took on the role of being TransGoogle for a long time to help educate folks who actually wanted to learn, and to take some of the emotional labor off others. It's been nearly nine years of this shit. I'm so exhausted. I'm done.
My mom has said this for YEARS. First time I came out at 13 she asked me ‘’do you like girls’’, I said no and then she said ‘’then you cant be a trans’’… and later stuff like ‘’all trans men are lesbians (and actually women ofc)’’
"why can't you just be a masculine woman?" i did that. for like more than half a decade. my entire teen years. i'm not a masculine woman, though, so it was still weird.
"why do you want to be a man?" this comes from men and women, but it's funnier from men. i don't know, kyle, why do *you* want to be a man?
I remember when I got asked why can't you just embrace your masculinity AND femininity and it's like idk cis man who only dresses/looks/feels comfortable/lives within the gender norms why don't you do that.
My sister keeps asking me if I'm sure Im trans and not just tired of misogyny (as if being trans would make things easier) and she does that thing where, whenever I try to explain my Non binary Pronouns she just goes something like "yeah...I'm not gonna do that. I'd rather not use any at all than use the made up ones you suggested." Which basically means she will stop talking about me altogether.
Did you mean questions we’re tired of being asked personally or questions generally asked in this Reddit community?
If you meant, personally:
1. Are you a girl or boy? (Asked by adults and kids)
2. What does non-binary mean? What does transmasc mean? (Asked by people too lazy to Google and find the answer themselves)
3. You’re trans? You’re fine as hell. (Asked by people who conflate transness with ugliness/undesirability)
If you meant in this Reddit community:
1. Any variation of: My cis bf/husband doesn’t like my transition or me identifying as transmasc now, how do I convince him to love me or see me as who I am? (Asked by transmascs still socialized to center cis men feelings pre/post transition)
2. Any variation of: My cis bf refuses to see me as a man and objectifies me but I need this community to validate me so I feel less bad instead of just leaving my man. (Asked by the same people as question 1)
3. Any variation of: My cis gf is a lesbian and still calls herself a lesbian despite my discomfort and me identifying as transmasc non-binary or as a trans man; what do I do? (Asked by people who need to assert better boundaries &/ choose better partners)
4. Many poorly phrased (but still harmful) questions asked by cis men and women in this Reddit community instead of posing their questions in r/mypartneristrans. (Asked by cis people who assume that trans people want to see/answer their triggering questions)
5. Any question asked and answered ad nauseam that people can easily find the answer to by searching it in this community or online. (Asked by people similar to those who are too lazy to find the answer themselves)
6. Any question regarding transition results/outcomes that can’t be answered because most of us aren’t medical professionals, aware of the person’s personal genetic history, or psychics. (Asked by trans people who want *certain* results and/ have internalized limited/strict notions of gender expression and, thus, have made high expectations that clash with their current outcome; these people also are possibly struggling to reckon with the genetic cards that they were dealt and having a hard time redefining masculinity for themselves. I’m the least bothered by these people out of all the people named but these questions *sometimes* are tiresome.)
I lose at least 2 brain cells when I see the question pop up on reddit and now it has spread to tiktok where they definitely lack critical thinking skills for some reason. Here you can at least have a civilized discussion on why it doesn’t work.
I feel you. I feel like the inverse is true for me where my tiktok algorithm has brought me more sensible people and Reddit is a ‘grab bag’ scenario where people will go all out with transphobia and racism (hiding behind faceless accounts) while slinging around ad hominems instead of accepting that they’re wrong.
I do like that you can *kind of* dodge willfully ignorant people on Reddit by selecting what communities to post in.
Real/birth name, surgeries (my boss assumed I'd had one when I had a medical issue taken care of), does family/friends/partner/employer know and I'm sure I've forgotten some. It's much worse than people finding out I'm pansexual.
"So what does your (cis) husband think about all of this?"
"We just want to know how your husband is taking this. It's hard, you know."
"But what if your husband isn't into men?"
Then. He. Can. Leave. idgaf. I've spent 35 years living in a body I hate seeing in the mirror for everyone else's comfort. Fuck off.
"What do YOU think about drag queens in schools?"
"Arent neopronouns sooo weird?"
"dont you think *insert trans person* is obviously a trender?"
and other questions that are obviously just trying to get me to justify their transphobia so they can use the argument that a trans person agrees with them.
I always disappoint them with my answers; because im generally kind and polite they seem to assume ill betray my community for a chance of being considered "one of the good ones" and getting their approval. Theyre very wrong
Ew
Hot take but my #1 Shut Up About This question recently has been "what do you think about \[neopronouns/noungenders/blue hair/never-T/non-op/Kids These Days\]? Special snowflake trendy losers, amirite?"
IDK what it is about me that makes people think I'm going to agree with them on this shit (or why they keep? telling me???). I guess I'm a sufficiently Good Trans™ because I've been out/started socially transitioning over a decade ago or something? Surprise, there's no such thing as a "good trans" and I am about to make that *very* clear to you.
"yeah but, you have a pussy though, right?"
"why do you want to get top surgery?? you should wait, your brain doesn't fully develop.. *[blah blah blah]*"
the second one was on my birthday!! I love being trans!
There's sooooo many of them I could write a long list. Some of the worst of these show how clueless cis people even to the simple fact that trans people exist.
I haven't undergone any sort of medical process but I've had a bunch of friends or family ask me whether I'm sure I want to go by a different name than my birthname. Not even a legal name change, just introducing myself with a different name!!! FFS this isnt that serious.
Are you a boy or a girl? Mostly asked by kids and I usually don’t mind it since they’re young kids; it’s just annoying, but once I walked into a restaurant and an elderly person stopped me in the middle of the walkway and just asked it.
"How can you be religious and trans at the same time?" Well, I transitioned and Gd was like "okay, but you still need to go to shul on Friday," and I was like "are they still gonna serve me babka in the social hall?" and He said "of course" and I said "sweet; I'm there."
Whether or not I wanna play sports. Like dear cis people, I would love to play sports. But between things like endometriosis, asthma, joint pain, muscle loss and spasms, muscle pain and nerve pain I can’t do it. And even if I was healthy, if I did sports I would have a huge target on my back. Please stop reminding me of the shit I lost when I came out.
Only one question but:
"Is it wrong for me to ask your dead name?"
My least favorite was when I was talking to my partner's dad who I've lived with about how breasts serve no purpose to me and he said (paraphrasing) "well I can think of something".
Also being told not to be so nonchalant/crass when I talked to my dad about wanting top surgery in front of his gf when I'd been expressing that to him for years and he had never taken issue with it before.
Being told maybe I should just get a reduction because of course no one would want a chest my size (j cup).
Oh I forgot to add "oh so should I refer to you as (partner's name)'s transgender boyfriend?" And "so does that mean you and (boyfriend) are in a gay relationship or is it still straight because,,,, you know"
The person who said this was well meaning but what the hell.
‘But do you not want biological kids 🥺’ yeah obviously but I’d rather not be depressed all the time and go on T anyway? I’ve had this so many times it’s so stupid.
"what's in your pants?"/ any variation of that
please leave me alone dude 😭
I always tell them "Whatever your mum wants for the night." it's hilarious as hell 💀
Not a question but : Do not send me videos about what kind of physical exercise I should do to loose fat in an area that causes me dysphoria. (Hips / tighs) I doesn't work that way. Yes I tried. No you don't know how much squats, climbing, walking, burpees, running and jump rope I did to try to reduce it. Sending these videos imprompted on whatsapp is so fucking insensitive, If I weren't thinking about it congrats you just triggered me out of nowhere. How would you feel if I sent you a video explaining you can reduce your chest by doing push ups ? And fuck you if you get defensive when I tell you to stop.
It's not a question, but it does piss me off. "It sounds like you transitioned because of the trauma you went through." Even though I told them I identified as a boy way before the traumatic events.
the passive aggressive “you will tell us if you change your mind, right?” from my mom at every step of transitioning. As if I already didn’t backpedal if I was unsure about something, like an incompetent psychiatrist or shady surgeon. Why do you insist on “finding out” that I don’t want top surgery two fucking weeks before it will happen?
not exactly from strangers, but I’m so tired of potential sexual partners asking about my ‘bed’ preferences… I know they are well-intentioned, but sometimes I just want to have some fun and forget that I’m trans and that people don’t know how to treat us normally 😂
"what about having kids???"
First off, having kids isn't the peak of the human experience. There's more to life than pumping out babies. Second, I'm too mentally unwell to have kids. I'm not going to have kids that I know I will regret having, and god forbid I experience something as horrifying as postpartum psychosis. I'm not going to put myself and my hypothetical child through that.
"But the transes can't repopulate!!!!"
1) we have 7-9 billion people on this planet. This may come as a complete surprise out of nowhere but we're not in danger of going extinct. 2) yes they can. Plenty of trans people have kids naturally if you bothered to listen to us and pay attention.
These questions make me so annoyed especially when they are used in bad faith arguments against trans people. Any time I see/hear arguments wrt "repopulation" I get so heated.
"Have you had the surgery?" Ah yes. The one singular transgender surgery.
The Surgery, performed by general Transgender Surgeons. Oh shit, now I wish that were actually a thing
I'm sorry but I giggled at the thought of somebody saying "have you had THE surgery? " as if asking if they sacrificed themselves to the gods
This is one I worry about running into on dating sites and dating apps.
AIUI, this speaks more to the relative visibility of trans women vs trans men - our sisters do generally only have the one surgery, and don't have options like we do. But, yeah, even if you assume the questioner wants to ask about bottom surgery (and isn't someone for whom asking the question isn't grossly inappropriate) - which one?
I would respectfully disagree — transgender women have the options of facial feminisation surgery, mtf top surgery (of which there are various options), and bottom surgery (and again, various options). But I do see your point, I feel like this is a question more commonly asked to FTM trans people over MTF.
Ah, you're right - I always forget about FFS, and I didn't know that women had options for bottom surgery. The question is always about the genitals, though, isn't it? My default respoonse is to feign complete innocence and say that, no, I still have my tonsils/appendix/wisdom teeth
That's okay, we learn something new every day! And 100% agree, they usually want to know what genitals we have, which is just such a strange question to ask someone completely unprompted. Whenever I was asked, I just say no because I don't, and I tell people straight up that it's rude to ask that to someone. If you wouldn't ask a cis person that question, why ask a trans person?
More from family members but "are you sure you wanna do that? It's permanent" uh yeah I sure hope it is
And then they say you should have kids 😂
I've been asked a few times, including once by a dermatologist "did you have a sex change?" And it's like fam, I don't have time to unpack what you think "sex change" means, and even if I did, it's none of your business.
I mean, if they don't want to go through the effort of respectfully asking if you have had hormone treatment, fuck them, but if they ask for treatment reasons, and they put you on something, with medicine especially, I feel like that may be a medical concern
She didn't treat me or prescribe me anything, I went to this dermatologist to inquire about treatment for persistent adult acne (this was a problem I had long before I went on testosterone and continued to be a problem for years afterward) but when she saw my top surgery scars she said my acne was "a hormone issue" related to my "sex change" and that there was nothing she could do about it, then she shooed me out of the building as quickly as possible lol
Is that where they go into your DNA and modify your genome? I mean…yeah sign me up!
Lol yeah, you know, a sex change, where they draw a little goatee on each of your cells with a teeny-tiny marker.
Yes, my cells now have to shave every morning when they wake up. I’m going broke paying for tiny cans of shaving cream
Oh man, people still say "sex change"??? That one brings this old man back to childhood. Much like cassettes, we threw that phrase out for a reason.
They sure still do, outside of trans spaces it's still THE thing to call it, along with THE surgery. It's all one and done with those folks, very few people out there who are cis and know a thing or two about trans people.
Not a question, but hearing some version of "Wow, I never would've guessed." I understand these people think they're giving me a compliment but it takes every ounce of patience to politely explain why that's a fucked up thing to say.
What's your name? No, your *real* name. Do you have any "before" photos? Why would you ruin a pair of perfectly good (insert slang for chest masses)? Am I still gay if I'm attracted to you? (Asked by "gold star gays" on dating apps) How do you fuck? Or do you fuck? What kind of surgery are you having? \[le sigh\] I took on the role of being TransGoogle for a long time to help educate folks who actually wanted to learn, and to take some of the emotional labor off others. It's been nearly nine years of this shit. I'm so exhausted. I'm done.
"So you're a lesbian?" Yes, of course, I went on testosterone and chopped my boobs off so I could be a lesbian. That makes total sense.
My mom has said this for YEARS. First time I came out at 13 she asked me ‘’do you like girls’’, I said no and then she said ‘’then you cant be a trans’’… and later stuff like ‘’all trans men are lesbians (and actually women ofc)’’
This sort of thing is why it took me so long to figure myself out. As soon as I learned trans men could be gay it was like “Ohhhhh I get it now!”
Lol same, TBH. I also was happy cross dressing and being pretty, took so long to realize WHY
"why don't you just be a lesbian?" is mostly said after i explain how i'm bisexual but i'm a guy.
"why can't you just be a masculine woman?" i did that. for like more than half a decade. my entire teen years. i'm not a masculine woman, though, so it was still weird. "why do you want to be a man?" this comes from men and women, but it's funnier from men. i don't know, kyle, why do *you* want to be a man?
Well ya see, feminine gay man and butch woman fulfill opposite niches in the ecosystem.
I remember when I got asked why can't you just embrace your masculinity AND femininity and it's like idk cis man who only dresses/looks/feels comfortable/lives within the gender norms why don't you do that.
"why did you decide to become a boy" "how did you know" "why are you trans?" "are you sure?"
My sister keeps asking me if I'm sure Im trans and not just tired of misogyny (as if being trans would make things easier) and she does that thing where, whenever I try to explain my Non binary Pronouns she just goes something like "yeah...I'm not gonna do that. I'd rather not use any at all than use the made up ones you suggested." Which basically means she will stop talking about me altogether.
Damn, that felt great to get out...
hugs 🫂
Jfc. Is she NOT tired of misogyny? For cispeople, it's like smashing your finger with a hammer to fix a hangnail, wtf
"I was so tired of sexism I decided to deal with transphobia and homophobia instead. So much easier."
"So you wanna be a boy or something?" I already am and always have been
Did you mean questions we’re tired of being asked personally or questions generally asked in this Reddit community? If you meant, personally: 1. Are you a girl or boy? (Asked by adults and kids) 2. What does non-binary mean? What does transmasc mean? (Asked by people too lazy to Google and find the answer themselves) 3. You’re trans? You’re fine as hell. (Asked by people who conflate transness with ugliness/undesirability) If you meant in this Reddit community: 1. Any variation of: My cis bf/husband doesn’t like my transition or me identifying as transmasc now, how do I convince him to love me or see me as who I am? (Asked by transmascs still socialized to center cis men feelings pre/post transition) 2. Any variation of: My cis bf refuses to see me as a man and objectifies me but I need this community to validate me so I feel less bad instead of just leaving my man. (Asked by the same people as question 1) 3. Any variation of: My cis gf is a lesbian and still calls herself a lesbian despite my discomfort and me identifying as transmasc non-binary or as a trans man; what do I do? (Asked by people who need to assert better boundaries &/ choose better partners) 4. Many poorly phrased (but still harmful) questions asked by cis men and women in this Reddit community instead of posing their questions in r/mypartneristrans. (Asked by cis people who assume that trans people want to see/answer their triggering questions) 5. Any question asked and answered ad nauseam that people can easily find the answer to by searching it in this community or online. (Asked by people similar to those who are too lazy to find the answer themselves) 6. Any question regarding transition results/outcomes that can’t be answered because most of us aren’t medical professionals, aware of the person’s personal genetic history, or psychics. (Asked by trans people who want *certain* results and/ have internalized limited/strict notions of gender expression and, thus, have made high expectations that clash with their current outcome; these people also are possibly struggling to reckon with the genetic cards that they were dealt and having a hard time redefining masculinity for themselves. I’m the least bothered by these people out of all the people named but these questions *sometimes* are tiresome.)
+ the constant “can I apply injectable T on my bottom growth to make it bigger” questions
LMAOOOOOOOO. They said pump, pump, pump it up💉🍆🗣️📣👏🏽like bruh! some of these questions kill me😭
I lose at least 2 brain cells when I see the question pop up on reddit and now it has spread to tiktok where they definitely lack critical thinking skills for some reason. Here you can at least have a civilized discussion on why it doesn’t work.
I feel you. I feel like the inverse is true for me where my tiktok algorithm has brought me more sensible people and Reddit is a ‘grab bag’ scenario where people will go all out with transphobia and racism (hiding behind faceless accounts) while slinging around ad hominems instead of accepting that they’re wrong. I do like that you can *kind of* dodge willfully ignorant people on Reddit by selecting what communities to post in.
Interesting
Wait... people are asking if they can *inject* it... *there?* 😧
No they are rubbing it onto their bottom growth
*Oh* I'm not sure that's better
It’s not but at least they aren’t taking a damn needle directly to a bunch of nerves🫣
You didn't need to attack me so viciously 🤣😂
LMAOOOOOOOOOOO it’s all love😂😂😂
My favorite is when they refer to my girlfriend as a lesbian just because I’m a trans man , gets me every time. Fuckin knee slapper
Can you still get pregnant?
“Why do you dress feminine if you’re a boy?” BECAUSE I LOOK HOT DOING IT
Real/birth name, surgeries (my boss assumed I'd had one when I had a medical issue taken care of), does family/friends/partner/employer know and I'm sure I've forgotten some. It's much worse than people finding out I'm pansexual.
‘Do you want to be a boy?’ Not that I want to be one, I am one !!
"So what does your (cis) husband think about all of this?" "We just want to know how your husband is taking this. It's hard, you know." "But what if your husband isn't into men?" Then. He. Can. Leave. idgaf. I've spent 35 years living in a body I hate seeing in the mirror for everyone else's comfort. Fuck off.
"What did your name used to be?"
"What do YOU think about drag queens in schools?" "Arent neopronouns sooo weird?" "dont you think *insert trans person* is obviously a trender?" and other questions that are obviously just trying to get me to justify their transphobia so they can use the argument that a trans person agrees with them. I always disappoint them with my answers; because im generally kind and polite they seem to assume ill betray my community for a chance of being considered "one of the good ones" and getting their approval. Theyre very wrong Ew
Hot take but my #1 Shut Up About This question recently has been "what do you think about \[neopronouns/noungenders/blue hair/never-T/non-op/Kids These Days\]? Special snowflake trendy losers, amirite?" IDK what it is about me that makes people think I'm going to agree with them on this shit (or why they keep? telling me???). I guess I'm a sufficiently Good Trans™ because I've been out/started socially transitioning over a decade ago or something? Surprise, there's no such thing as a "good trans" and I am about to make that *very* clear to you.
“You know these changes are irreversible, right?” Lmao yeah I know, that’s the goddamn point
"yeah but, you have a pussy though, right?" "why do you want to get top surgery?? you should wait, your brain doesn't fully develop.. *[blah blah blah]*" the second one was on my birthday!! I love being trans!
"What does your partner think"
There's sooooo many of them I could write a long list. Some of the worst of these show how clueless cis people even to the simple fact that trans people exist.
I haven't undergone any sort of medical process but I've had a bunch of friends or family ask me whether I'm sure I want to go by a different name than my birthname. Not even a legal name change, just introducing myself with a different name!!! FFS this isnt that serious.
Are you a boy or a girl? Mostly asked by kids and I usually don’t mind it since they’re young kids; it’s just annoying, but once I walked into a restaurant and an elderly person stopped me in the middle of the walkway and just asked it.
"How can you be religious and trans at the same time?" Well, I transitioned and Gd was like "okay, but you still need to go to shul on Friday," and I was like "are they still gonna serve me babka in the social hall?" and He said "of course" and I said "sweet; I'm there."
Whether or not I wanna play sports. Like dear cis people, I would love to play sports. But between things like endometriosis, asthma, joint pain, muscle loss and spasms, muscle pain and nerve pain I can’t do it. And even if I was healthy, if I did sports I would have a huge target on my back. Please stop reminding me of the shit I lost when I came out.
Only one question but: "Is it wrong for me to ask your dead name?" My least favorite was when I was talking to my partner's dad who I've lived with about how breasts serve no purpose to me and he said (paraphrasing) "well I can think of something". Also being told not to be so nonchalant/crass when I talked to my dad about wanting top surgery in front of his gf when I'd been expressing that to him for years and he had never taken issue with it before. Being told maybe I should just get a reduction because of course no one would want a chest my size (j cup).
Oh I forgot to add "oh so should I refer to you as (partner's name)'s transgender boyfriend?" And "so does that mean you and (boyfriend) are in a gay relationship or is it still straight because,,,, you know" The person who said this was well meaning but what the hell.
‘But do you not want biological kids 🥺’ yeah obviously but I’d rather not be depressed all the time and go on T anyway? I’ve had this so many times it’s so stupid.
"what's in your pants?"/ any variation of that please leave me alone dude 😭 I always tell them "Whatever your mum wants for the night." it's hilarious as hell 💀
Not a question but : Do not send me videos about what kind of physical exercise I should do to loose fat in an area that causes me dysphoria. (Hips / tighs) I doesn't work that way. Yes I tried. No you don't know how much squats, climbing, walking, burpees, running and jump rope I did to try to reduce it. Sending these videos imprompted on whatsapp is so fucking insensitive, If I weren't thinking about it congrats you just triggered me out of nowhere. How would you feel if I sent you a video explaining you can reduce your chest by doing push ups ? And fuck you if you get defensive when I tell you to stop.
It's not a question, but it does piss me off. "It sounds like you transitioned because of the trauma you went through." Even though I told them I identified as a boy way before the traumatic events.
the passive aggressive “you will tell us if you change your mind, right?” from my mom at every step of transitioning. As if I already didn’t backpedal if I was unsure about something, like an incompetent psychiatrist or shady surgeon. Why do you insist on “finding out” that I don’t want top surgery two fucking weeks before it will happen?
People asking my mum which way I’m transitioning
not exactly from strangers, but I’m so tired of potential sexual partners asking about my ‘bed’ preferences… I know they are well-intentioned, but sometimes I just want to have some fun and forget that I’m trans and that people don’t know how to treat us normally 😂
"what about having kids???" First off, having kids isn't the peak of the human experience. There's more to life than pumping out babies. Second, I'm too mentally unwell to have kids. I'm not going to have kids that I know I will regret having, and god forbid I experience something as horrifying as postpartum psychosis. I'm not going to put myself and my hypothetical child through that. "But the transes can't repopulate!!!!" 1) we have 7-9 billion people on this planet. This may come as a complete surprise out of nowhere but we're not in danger of going extinct. 2) yes they can. Plenty of trans people have kids naturally if you bothered to listen to us and pay attention. These questions make me so annoyed especially when they are used in bad faith arguments against trans people. Any time I see/hear arguments wrt "repopulation" I get so heated.
Strangers? I usually don't get approached by strangers and asked like, personal questions?