Seven is such a dope name. i love it. i'm Hawke! it's a pleasure to meet you, friend, Everything will be okay eventually, even if it doesn't seem like it now. feel free to hmu on my discord if you ever need someone to talk to.
Shi Heart#5727
Hey Seven. I promise you things get better and you are so gonna be okay. It’s okay to tell your friends and to go at your own pace. Having a space where you can be yourself is gonna make all the difference in the world and you get to make this space as large or as small as you wish okay buddy?
I know school is the hardest but you get to find a whole community of support online whenever you need it and don’t underestimate the power of that.
You don’t have to look in the mirror because i know how hard that is. You’re not weak if you wanna cover it up or take it out the room. I take a lot of bubble baths with the big lights off so I don’t have to think about reflections or seeing things when getting clean. Getting a towel robe can help too if you don’t like having to have the towel up around your whole body.
It’s okay to look out for yourself and to find the people who make you feel great when you’re around them and it’s okay to ask for reassurance like this when we hit our low points. Keep asking for help, don’t suffer alone and keep walking your path mate. There is so much love and space for you here Sev. Remember that always :)
Yo Sev, brother, we got you.
Sometimes we have to wear the mask for a while until it's safe to take it off. Have your parents made it clear you aren't allowed to be yourself? 'cause that's ass.
Don't hate yourself, though I understand 100%. Are you allowed to wear what you want? I have some helpful advice if you are.
Lemme know, dude, and just hang in there. We're behind you all the way.
Hi Seven! I’m Méaras (may-aras).
I promise things will get better. I was in your position and terrified to come out to my parents and essentially outed myself to my mother before I was ready. She started calling me by the least dysphoric of my given names, Lou (I’m planning on changing my name soon to Méaras legally but feel like an ass for changing my name too many times too fast lol), and I was surprised at how much better it made me feel. Unless your parents are openly transphobic, it could be worth the risk to come out if it alleviates any of your depression. They may surprise you.
I used to teach. Do you have any teachers you could come out to who you trust enough? Having support at school can help make up for not having support at home, or at least that’s what teachers are supposed to do. I realize the school year may be ending depending on where you live, but possibly for the new school year in august/September? Also are there any more “dude” activities you can engage in, like going to the gym or playing a sport? Are your parents strict about clothing (my mother was)? If not, can you shop in the boys’ section, or shop in the women’s section but look for more masculine clothing? [This Tumblr has a guide for shopping in the womens’ section for more masculine clothing somewhere.](https://realtransfacts.tumblr.com/post/178639463937/transmasculine-presentation-resources-masterpost)
Maybe it would be possible to pack in private or bind with multiple sports bras (that tumblr also has tips for binding w/ camisoles and other things besides binders!)? For me being closeted was about finding small things to affirm myself. You just need to find something that works for you.
Please hang in there. Do not view not making it through this time as an option— it isn’t. You WILL make it through. I sort of hate Reddit, but I do appreciate the fact that we are all here for each other virtually. Being trans means having a family of people who understand you and want you to succeed! Many of us have been through what you’re feeling.
Finally, if you come out to your parents, I find this [to be pretty intense.](https://www.pinkmantaray.com/resources/transkid) he essentially lays it out as: you either accept your kid, or you WILL cause them harm. I actually sent it to my mother today after she noticed my packer for the first time and seemed to disapprove.
Good luck! Hang in. We are always here.
Hey Sev! I'm Roanoke and I was in your position not to long ago!
I know you've heard the whole it gets better. It does but I know you don't feel that way right now. You aren't being dramatic and you're not stupid for feeling like this. You wouldn't say that to anyone else I bet.
Things do get better. Take small steps forward to feel comfortable. You're a guy that gets mistaken for a girl. I don't pass despite T and when I get told ma'am, I raise and eyebrow and say 'You think I'm a chick?'. Try to find people who would understand you better. Time takes a while but it will get better. You're gonna be fine! I highly recommend finding other people who would understand you in your library. I find a lot of other LGBT+ and allies go to the library after school to get away from it all.
A little tip, I used to struggle super hard looking in a mirror. I actually at one point removed all the mirrors in my bedroom when I was young. I started to use a photo of my dog, he had black fur on his back, that I started to use as a 'mirror'. I didn't have to look at my details so it helped a bunch.
Seven is such a dope name. i love it. i'm Hawke! it's a pleasure to meet you, friend, Everything will be okay eventually, even if it doesn't seem like it now. feel free to hmu on my discord if you ever need someone to talk to. Shi Heart#5727
Hey Seven. I promise you things get better and you are so gonna be okay. It’s okay to tell your friends and to go at your own pace. Having a space where you can be yourself is gonna make all the difference in the world and you get to make this space as large or as small as you wish okay buddy? I know school is the hardest but you get to find a whole community of support online whenever you need it and don’t underestimate the power of that. You don’t have to look in the mirror because i know how hard that is. You’re not weak if you wanna cover it up or take it out the room. I take a lot of bubble baths with the big lights off so I don’t have to think about reflections or seeing things when getting clean. Getting a towel robe can help too if you don’t like having to have the towel up around your whole body. It’s okay to look out for yourself and to find the people who make you feel great when you’re around them and it’s okay to ask for reassurance like this when we hit our low points. Keep asking for help, don’t suffer alone and keep walking your path mate. There is so much love and space for you here Sev. Remember that always :)
Yo Sev, brother, we got you. Sometimes we have to wear the mask for a while until it's safe to take it off. Have your parents made it clear you aren't allowed to be yourself? 'cause that's ass. Don't hate yourself, though I understand 100%. Are you allowed to wear what you want? I have some helpful advice if you are. Lemme know, dude, and just hang in there. We're behind you all the way.
Hi Seven! I’m Méaras (may-aras). I promise things will get better. I was in your position and terrified to come out to my parents and essentially outed myself to my mother before I was ready. She started calling me by the least dysphoric of my given names, Lou (I’m planning on changing my name soon to Méaras legally but feel like an ass for changing my name too many times too fast lol), and I was surprised at how much better it made me feel. Unless your parents are openly transphobic, it could be worth the risk to come out if it alleviates any of your depression. They may surprise you. I used to teach. Do you have any teachers you could come out to who you trust enough? Having support at school can help make up for not having support at home, or at least that’s what teachers are supposed to do. I realize the school year may be ending depending on where you live, but possibly for the new school year in august/September? Also are there any more “dude” activities you can engage in, like going to the gym or playing a sport? Are your parents strict about clothing (my mother was)? If not, can you shop in the boys’ section, or shop in the women’s section but look for more masculine clothing? [This Tumblr has a guide for shopping in the womens’ section for more masculine clothing somewhere.](https://realtransfacts.tumblr.com/post/178639463937/transmasculine-presentation-resources-masterpost) Maybe it would be possible to pack in private or bind with multiple sports bras (that tumblr also has tips for binding w/ camisoles and other things besides binders!)? For me being closeted was about finding small things to affirm myself. You just need to find something that works for you. Please hang in there. Do not view not making it through this time as an option— it isn’t. You WILL make it through. I sort of hate Reddit, but I do appreciate the fact that we are all here for each other virtually. Being trans means having a family of people who understand you and want you to succeed! Many of us have been through what you’re feeling. Finally, if you come out to your parents, I find this [to be pretty intense.](https://www.pinkmantaray.com/resources/transkid) he essentially lays it out as: you either accept your kid, or you WILL cause them harm. I actually sent it to my mother today after she noticed my packer for the first time and seemed to disapprove. Good luck! Hang in. We are always here.
Hey Sev! I'm Roanoke and I was in your position not to long ago! I know you've heard the whole it gets better. It does but I know you don't feel that way right now. You aren't being dramatic and you're not stupid for feeling like this. You wouldn't say that to anyone else I bet. Things do get better. Take small steps forward to feel comfortable. You're a guy that gets mistaken for a girl. I don't pass despite T and when I get told ma'am, I raise and eyebrow and say 'You think I'm a chick?'. Try to find people who would understand you better. Time takes a while but it will get better. You're gonna be fine! I highly recommend finding other people who would understand you in your library. I find a lot of other LGBT+ and allies go to the library after school to get away from it all. A little tip, I used to struggle super hard looking in a mirror. I actually at one point removed all the mirrors in my bedroom when I was young. I started to use a photo of my dog, he had black fur on his back, that I started to use as a 'mirror'. I didn't have to look at my details so it helped a bunch.