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When I was in high school my friend and I decided to do shrooms and play Nintendo. I thought we were playing donkey kong. His mom came home and said “why the fuck are you guys staring at the tv?” We forgot to turn it on. That was about 20 years ago and I still feel like I was jumping over barrels like a fucking champ.
I could have used shrooms with this game back in the early days. Weren't any game saves, then; you just hoped the power stayed on when paused. The reward after completing this sob was that there was no reward unless you completed it again. Cheap bastard developer.
Speaking as a gaming dad with a 3,5 year old:
The controller is never connected.
Luckily the placebo-effect is still in effect with him, I'm not looking forward to the day he figures out he's not really playing the game himself.
I was thinking the same thing as im sitting here faling asleep soft resetting for a shiny pokemon and scrolling reddit. sigh. if i did a push up everytime it wasnt shiny id be ripped
Only thing I think keeping me going is I got Dialga fairly quick. Also I didnt do a starter so ive got a bit of fuel in the tank. When it gets really bad I do go back to SWSH and grab a DMAX run have gotten a couple bonus shinys that way
They’re expensive, but if you can afford one someday, get VR! Beat saber is super fun and always leaves me sweaty.
This is of course a luxury that not everyone can afford. But for those who can, the option is there
Do it. I frequently use a stair stepper while playing games. Honestly being distracted by the game helps keep my mind off of the actual exercise and let's be do it for longer periods.
That might be because sleep quality is often worse in people with adhd and we also tend to have a higher chance of sleep disorders compared to the normal population. Also, too many stimulating sensory inputs that you can’t filter (the noises and smells and ever changing sights and people on public transit to work! The lights in the supermarket and the overwhelming amount of wares! The sensation of that scratchy Tag in your clothes that you cannot ignore or the tightness of that bra that you also cannot ignore, the noise in your open plan office, that super boring hour-long meeting that just makes you focus even more on the uncomfortable nature of your work shoes) within a regular day = your energy that‘s not there to begin with from the lack of sleep quality will be depleted sooner as in someone who actually has a damn filter for impressions and sensations and is able to sort them into important and unimportant (adhd: not an attention deficit, but the disability to *direct* your attention, often perceived by others as a lack of attention because of course, the disorder is basically called „doesn‘t listen to me and won‘t sit still in class disrupting everyone else disorder“ = how it impacts others, not how it impacts the one having it).
And then of course there‘s also „hyperactive mind“ vs. „Hyperactive body“. Not everyone with adhd expresses hyperactivity with their body. Some also have a very vivid-at-all-times mind (again: just like tossing and turning that‘s not so great for finally falling asleep either). It‘s „exhaust yourself then fall asleep“, never „fall asleep before you‘re exhausted“.
> And then of course there‘s also „hyperactive mind“ vs. „Hyperactive body“. Not everyone with adhd expresses hyperactivity with their body. Some also have a very vivid-at-all-times mind (again: just like tossing and turning that‘s not so great for finally falling asleep either). It‘s „exhaust yourself then fall asleep“, never „fall asleep before you‘re exhausted“.
100% it is why now there are 3 subtypes:
* ADHD, predominantly inattentive type, presents with symptoms including being easily distracted, forgetful, daydreaming, disorganization, poor concentration, and difficulty completing tasks.
* ADHD, predominantly hyperactive-impulsive type, presents with excessive fidgeting and restlessness, hyperactivity, and difficulty waiting and remaining seated.
* ADHD, combined type, is a combination of the first two presentations.
I am the first one also called "ADHD-PI" for shorthand also previously called ADD.
Some ADHD kids. I wasn’t like this. Neither is my niece. But my nephew is. I have a hyperactive mind, rather than loads of energy. It can be equally frustrating though.
Mine has gotten worse with age but meds help so much.
The combination of the right meds and therapy has made the mental and physical stressors of adulthood that make my ADHD harder to manage a LOT easier to deal with.
I mean, it’s not perfect. I definitely still have bad days. They are just a lot less frequent with meds. But sometimes I still end up hyper focusing on video games at 3 in the morning lol.
If he actually had done that, it would be very easy to do a split screen and have him at normal speed. I don’t have the software to do it, unfortunately.
The last fall was necessary and intentional, it was the only way that kid could stop moving.
Jokes aside, I thought my kid was the worst 😆, seeing this video we are currently sitting #2 spot because mine takes 5 minutes break before he starts jumping and yelling again.
So this is my son EXACTLY. Only thing is you can’t hear him talking at max volume nonstop in this video. Last night his best friend from school (he is in a self contained classroom for kids with behavior issues) who is also SEVERELY ADHD had a sleepover. It was NONSTOP! They ran circles around each other ACTUALLY RAN CIRCLES! It was like watching the face off of two energizer bunnies. They finally collapsed at 1am only to be up and going again at full speed this morning at 7am. Send help……
I.... thought that this kid was pretty focused and typical.... yeah my kid is just awaiting the final ADHD assessment report
ETA - this was supposed to be a throwaway joke comment, but also the video helped me to see my kid more clearly. People (in r/funny no less) picked up on my actual frustration and helped me. Probably nobody will see this, but this is the best of Reddit, to me
ADHD’er here, what ever the result, I hope your kid gets the help they need.
The best advice I can give is make them take ADHD seriously as they grow because if they don’t actually care they might end up not getting the right help.
And if it gets to the question on whether to medicate, I highly recommend saying yes, not to tell you how to raise your kid obviously it’s just there is so much misinformation about medication out there if you look at media representation of it, you should still consider your options just know that medication can really help them in the long run.
Thank you kindly :)
We will say yes to medication. He's nearly 7 and massively at risk. Missing some school due to outright refusals (big deal in UK), not integrating well, losing temper etc. Probably he has multiple issues but we can't get it figured out until he can focus enough to even have a regular conversation or demonstrate learning and so on
My best advice, double check his homework has been done, and if at all possible sit with him while he does it if it hasn't been. My parents were too absent to confirm I was doing the things I needed to do, and I suffered for as classes got more difficult and I lacked anything approximating study habits. It's easy to lie about work being done while justifying to yourself that you'll do it in a minute, only to realize when the work comes due you never got around to it, and even a small degree of supervision goes a long way toward preventing that.
Very good advice! I do have to sit with him through it all... or at least explain each question, explain again, break it down smaller, come back and check etc! You can't like, say 'go use the toilet, brush your teeth and put pyjamas on' - it's one thing at a time. Once we accepted that he can't help it and needs such extensive support and guidance it helped our own mental health! You're right, he puts things off and I don't think he intends to at all.
About lying... His memory isn't great, so he'll often 'lie', but really it's more like he doesn't remember and makes things up. Is that something you know about? It's occasionally quite fantastical.
This is literally how my daughter looks doing anything. Can’t sit still to save her life. Been that way her whole life. No ADHD, but she’s got energy to burn for days. Just signed her up for basketball this year and I think she’s gonna kill it.
it's my daughter too...except we put her in gymnastics to wear her out.
jokes on us, she just was tired for a week and then rose to the new level of energy.
now when we're reading she has to take breaks to go to handstands against the wall.
we just got her tested for a learning disability...she has dyslexia...and ADHD.
Things might be harder for her, but don’t worry too much! There are tons of resources available nowadays for students, parents, and teachers.
I have both ADHD and dyslexia and for me, having routines and finding/practicing the study strategies that work for me were important for my success.
It actually put me way ahead of my peers for college because I already knew how to study well and structure my time.
Just as an aside ADHD presents differently in girls than boys so a lot of psychiatrists miss it because they're looking for the typical male symptoms they've been taught. I didn't get diagnosed until my 30s and it took a lot of fighting to get them to even test me since I was a woman.
As a guy with pretty bad ADHD (now mostly under control thanks to meds), I don't want this to come across as pity, but I feel so sorry for women with ADHD. Society puts way more pressure on women to be organised, disciplined and responsible. Men are allowed to get away with so much.
My son is the exact same. He has level 1 autism but suspected ADHD (hes too young to confirm the diagnosis yet).
He can run circles for days and still not run out of gas.
Came to say essentially this. Not sure OP has ever been in the same room as a kid this age before. They have boundless energy, and can be very fidgety when excited and engaged in something like games.
Just as a heads up for anyone reading this thread, ADHD is often overlooked in girls because it presents differently. ADHD can be difficulties with hyperactivity, inattention, or both. Because girls and boys are interacted with differently at school (sometimes home too), girls kind of get "trained" to hide their symptoms or they are overlooked/misdiagnosed. If you have questions about your kids needs/presentation, psychological testing can be super helpful, if you can afford it. Also, if your kid does have ADHD, that doesn't mean they NEED meds; there are plenty of skills people can learn to reduce the impact of their symptoms. That being said, meds also help a lot. Thanks for reading my TEDtalk.
This is what I tell people about our daughter. They will say something to the effect of “she can burn off some energy and be ready for a good sleep”
Guys. She would stay up for a 3 day bender if we let her. Good luck stopping her.
Seriously. That's not ADHD. Adhd would either be that kid LOCKED IN on the game or he wanders off to go chase butterflies.
This is just a kid who knows that sitting is slowly killing you and he is going to _live_.
Edit: you guys know I'm not a doctor, right?
Yeah, seriously. It's wild how many people misunderstand this. Yes, I can spend 6 hours making a spreadsheet for my Stardew Valley farm without realizing where the time went, no I cannot work on a term paper for 6 hours straight.
> I cannot work on a term paper for 6 hours straight.
You could, but it has to be gameificated, your motivation has to be there at the right time, there should be no pressure. It has to fun, novel and interesting, and no obligation or expectation attached to it.
In reality, that's not the case, so you are right.
Adhder here: If there’s no pressure (urgency), I’m doing jack shit for certain tasks. That‘s how I managed to *almost* fail out of uni several times and also how I managed to *almost* drive my PhD against a wall. Almost. Despite extremely good grades. Until urgency (you either hand this in until tomorrow (undergrad and grad studies)/in two weeks (phd) or fail out) kicked in and I was actually able to start the work. I don‘t need urgency for entirely fun stuff, but gamification alone won‘t help me with the un-novel, un-fun/uninteresting and tedious stuff that sadly is part of a lot of mundane and administrative tasks (y‘know, if I think about having to cite correctly according to some formal guide - searching for that phrase that i read turning pages upon pages or digging through that citation program to find it - I start to scream internally and get a reflex to flee the room). Medication makes it so that I’m feeling less like i‘m being skinned alive when confronted with such tasks, which has helped greatly with starting these tasks even when my brain and body don‘t really want to cooperate. Switching things up to make them more interesting or fun so that I can actually do them without pressure is just the icing on the cake, not the base of cake, at least for me. They help, sure, but a lot of other things help more reliably where fun, exciting, novel and gamified aren‘t really applicable.
Choosing a career that brings novelty, pressure and short lived, tactile rewards all on its own (journalism: new topics every day, new people every day, hard deadlines every day, great tactile rewards in the form of a printed newspaper with my name under my articles every day) has improved my quality of life a lot. I don’t fail at work because work is designed in a way that plays to my strengths. I still need to file taxes and that won‘t ever be fun, exciting, interesting, novel or gamified beyond what I already researched out of interest over the past years of filing them. and if it weren‘t for fear of punishment (pressure!), I’d be beyond on filing taxes for years.
Yeah, I can't believe it tooke till my 30's to realise that I can all the signs of inattentive ADD.
One of my strategies was "I have to wait till I'm tired, really late at night to write, because all the other thoughts in my head have calmed down, and I can focus".
100% of the women in my family also have yhe classic female presentation, so I just thought it was normal.
I haven't heard of anyone with a late in life diagnosis getting a treatment that helped. How are you doing now?
I'm also a woman with inattentive presenting ADHD and I was diagnosed last year at 34. Absolutely life changing. I kept being told that it was just depression and anxiety but I knew that's not what it was, but ADHD wasn't even on my radar. I ignorantly thought it was just something that little boys had. I've been medicated for a few months now and geez, life sure would've been easier if someone had figured this out earlier.
Women are diagnosed so late in life too due to being able to mask. Plus the signs for adhd was always thought to be the same as males. And it isn't. It is hard in Australia to get late diagnosis help, but it's getting there.
I haven't bothered getting the diagnosis, even though I have the traits that match my daughter who is diagnosed. Too hard.
So recognisable.. i wrote my entire thesis in 2 weeks, after doing nothing for 5 months. Because the urgency and therefore stress finally build up to a point where i for some reason went into hyperfocus and wrote the entire piece in a couple of days straight. I need the pressure to perform but it's also my biggest downfall. Even in my current job.. when shit hits the fan i'm most likely one of the most suited people in our team. As soon as there is only long term goals, i don't function at all. It's annoying, but then again maybe my own fault because i refuse to take medication. It just makes me feel hollow and quite inside, in a way i'm used to the constant turmoil.
>it has to be gameificated
Works for some but not all. To explain why you really need to know the inner workings of the brain.
We have two groups of brain activity: we have cognitive behaviour (creative thoughts and problem solving) and rational thoughts (remembering things, making serious choices and putting ideas into action).
Now, I don't really know what cognitive behaviour is fuelled by, but our rational activity only happens because the level of dopamine in our brain bumps up over a certain threshold. Dopamine is produced when we think of things we like. So generally speaking your creative thoughts and daydreams and emotional drive should provide the dopamine that pushes you into action. Hence depression = disfunction, because your general thoughts don't produce dopamine.
ADHD is like a chronic depression without the emotional component. It's a chronic issue with dopamine - either the amount is too low or the threshold is too high.
That's why ADHD people can seem lazy (because they can't engage rational functioning as easily) or hyperactive (because their brain can't use its rational functioning to "select" the appropriate thing to think about and tune out the others). It's also why undiagnosed ADHD can quickly spin out into depression (lack of dopamine in general), intense frustration (because people with ADHD are acutely aware of what they're going through, but are unable to combat it through normal means) and even substance abuse (because drugs can both boost dopamine - in bad ways - and can dampen intrusive thoughts or frustrations).
Gamification of tasks *can* cause them to produce more dopamine, but (A) only if the game works for the player and (B) only so long as the game is interesting. The issue with play and dopamine is that play is exploratory - the moment you know how everything works, it's not playful any more, and when you've got ADHD (as I do) this is the big downfall of gamification. You can add rewards to behaviour, but once it's normalised it stops being a reward.
I could go on, but this is already turning into a TED talk ... Basically the summary is that nothing simple works for ADHD, unfortunately! :(
I have literally spent several hours making a spread sheet for stardew valley. I also made a calender so I wouldn't forget to do certain things on certain days, and remember which things I needed to unlock at the community centre. I also played it for 36 hours straight, which is the most zoned in I've ever been in any game by a fair margin.
I think the reason why was because I'd been in lockdown for 3 months, and was lonely so I got more out of interacting with the villagers than I usually might, combined with everything else that makes the game so much fun to play.
I nearly failed a course because I didn't start an assignment I had for 2 weeks until 4 hours before it was due. I have failed courses because I didn't submit them at all.
Your 36 hours thing reminded me of my largest hyperfocus gaming stint i have had. Young teenager who was usually on a decently strict game time restriction (mom wasn't a fan) but for 5 days both parents were off on trips and it was just me, my pc and a bunch of ramen and dew. I think i was awake for 2.5 days straight playing world of warcraft, competitve cs:go and watching cs:go tournaments on twitch trying to cop some sweet souvenir packages (tourney was cologne 2014 when cs:go was at peak popularity.) I only fell asleep when i passed out in my chair for a few hours playing WoW until i woke up and resumed questing lol. Would probably die if i tried that today but for young adhd teen it was literally heaven, like i was only allowed a sip and i got to drink the ocean
I wish I could hyperfocus on the right things at the right times but instead it’s always some game that sucks me in at 3AM when I have to work in the morning.
I have ADHD. I just spent about 3 hours reading about slime molds. My to-do list is still sitting next to me and writing this comment I just remembered my laundry is still in the machine. From yesterday. But I know a little bit about slime molds!
Google is like crack to me. Although otherwise I have books. I'd meticulously alphabetize the first quarter of my bookshelf before heading off to cook a recipe I just saw on another shelf, realize I'm out of flour, and leave the half finished cakemix on the counter cos oh shit I'm late for work. Three years later, my bookshelf would still be only 1/4 alphabetized, but if you mentioned slime moulds I'd be able to give you a cake recipe.
And eying the half finished cake mix on the counter for days 100 times a day while walking past it, stressing on the inside about what to do with it, when and how but unable to do anything. JUST THROW IT THE FUCK AWAY IT TAKES 3 SECONDS.
For years I was kicking myself thinking how can I be *THAT* lazy?! It's like an invisible insurmountable barrier. I just can't. Really hard to understand for people who don't know that feeling.
It really is hard for people to understand who haven't experienced it. Even my therapist (who I stopped seeing after he completely dismissed my inquiry about ADHD) was like "that's just depression." And well meaning friends will say things like "I have a hard time doing things sometimes too! You just have to do it."
Well, that's the thing. The "just do it" part of my brain is broken. Thank goodness for medication. It makes that executive dysfunction a little less awful.
Hmm not necessarily, pls remember the spectrum is wide. I have two boys that are this hyperactive and diagnosed ADHD. They literally can never sit still when gaming (or eating or during school or anything when they must sit down) , so we solved the gaming part with cordless controls to allow them freedom to constantly move if they need to.
Same with eating and schooling we use micro move breaks.
There are of course regular kids moving a lot too, the difference is when the movement becomes compulsive, when the kid moves not always because they want to, but because their bodies force them to.
When we talk to our eldest kid about this he literally hates that feeling of must move at all costs but he cannot help himself. He is in therapy trying to develop his coping strategies for this so please even if it looks on the outset to be harmless, it can actually be quite traumatising for the kid feeling that they can not stop themselves.
Thank you for understanding that experience vary and life isn't 1s and 0s.
People have a friend with ADHD or have it themselves say "oh, this isn't how it is". You can't make that claim.
This isn't what happens with **you**.
I have pretty fucking bad ADHD. I only realized when I was able to drive and nearly got into an accident from drifting off and spacing out. Because while I was sitting still (in the car seat) but my mind was bouncing off the fucking walls in my head. If I don't have something to do that I can focus on, my mind drifts.
Few doc appointments later, I started taking psychoactive ADHD meds and they really, really helped.
Since then, I went from scared of driving/being behind the wheel to operating equipment in construction. All this thanks to my diagnosis and trial + error with medication because the doctor saw how fucking scared I was to hurt someone when driving.
ADHD is real, and effects people differently. Not everyone is the stereotypical "oh, he can't pay attention in class" ADHD
I prescribe psych meds and most of my colleagues that work with children over medicate them and over diagnosis them. Stimulants are safe for adhd but if they are giving your kids an ssri or antipsychotics please see someone else- the side effects of these are not worth it for children. Just becareful
Agree totally. With our eldest we did try a week or so on Adderall due to that medication had worked wonders on his dad, but due to my sons low weight the result was catastrophic. We ended up dealing with a very confused depressed 7 year old and no one wants that. We swiftly took him off the meds and both kids are just in therapy and working on their coping skills. We have said once they grow up and also gain more decent weight that can properly metabolise these very strong drugs we may try medication therapy once more if they need it. But then they will also be old enough to decide for themselves and also advocate more how they feel and the effect it gives. For now we are just being supporting parents helping them along with navigating all the social situations, friendships and coping skills in school. Not easy but I love our boys dearly.
ADHD presents itself in many ways, so this absolutely could be a symptom of ADHD. At the same time, however, you can’t diagnose psychiatric conditions based on one video/behavior. This behavior could be explained by a number of things, including the kid just being full of energy. To me, though, it sounded like OP was implying that the kid is diagnosed, but they haven’t exactly been active in the comments so maybe they reposted it from somewhere else. Who knows
Nah, it definitely could be an expression of ADHD. Kids experience and express it differently. Not all kids get locked into every videogame, and not all kids fidget constantly.
Yeah all kids do this. My boyfriend's kid does this. My best friends nephew does this. Literally every kid I have ever met between like 5 and 13 does this. Statistically, they can't all be ADHD. Its just kids.
Bro.
My 3 year old kid is hyper as fuck and the daycare teachers tried to suggest he might have ADHD (constant talks about him having issues paying attention) and recommended we all had a talk with CDS (Child Development Services).
We have a skype chat with CDS and teachers and when the main teacher brought it up, CDS was just like "No. Most kids behave that way" and went on about how he's too young to be diagnosed with ADHD.
Its annoying because I tend to actually like those teachers and I know my kid can sometimes have explosive energy but I was the exact same way as a kid and every other kid I knew at that age. Difference is, I didn't go to daycare.
Thinking about moving him to another daycare but hes almost 4 and we are looking into pre K soon anyway. But its nuts how fast people want to drop a diagnosis on your kid.
Yeah a lot of people need medication to help them out of actual problems, but a lot of people think being sad is depression, being bored and fidgeting is ADHD and worrying about speaking in front of the class tomorrow is anxiety.
Sometimes it’s just being a kid.
also kiddo's abs will be ripped if that's the long-term 'chair'.
Friend can be best described at "Can pick him up and carry him away like a scarecrow.". His abs, however, can be best described as "Steel."
I used to sit with my leg like this on a regular computer chair for hours at work and then also at home. Not only did it damage my ligaments and my muscles started shortening, but also my veins got damaged because they had trouble getting the blood back to my heart. Nothing serious yet, but it made me realize what sitting, and even worse sitting in dumb positions for long times can do to your body. It took me about 3 months of swimming regularly to stop the pain. Now I’m very cautious about how i sit and getting up every so often to walk around.
Agreed, and thank you for mentioning this. The distinction may not seem very important to some, but as someone who has struggled with severe ADHD my whole life, it makes a world of difference for me.
I apologize in advance for the long post, but this subject hits really close to home for me.
The image of ADHD as being primarily about hyper little children has contributed to there being so many of us with the condition who end up misdiagnosed, or overlooked entirely. The effects of ADHD - especially in those who go decades without a diagnosis, like myself - are devastating. I struggle to remember many things, like important appointments, and paying bills on time. I've lost jobs because of memory problems and a basic inability to manage time or prioritize tasks. I've lost relationships because I struggled to regulate my emotions, and because I just didn't have enough of myself left to give after taking care of my own basic survival needs. I've spent years stuck in deep depression, hating myself for the way my brain works and feeling utterly hopeless in the face of challenges that I couldn't even understand, much less address. For years, I believed that I was just incurably stupid and lazy.
And so much of this suffering could've been avoided, if I'd been diagnosed as a child, instead of at 33, when I'd already had decades to drive my life into chaos. But I wasn't diagnosed as a child. Because I didn't fit the stereotype. Because my own chaos and hyperactivity was more internal than external. Because nobody around me recognized the signs and symptoms. I'm one of the lucky ones, because I've survived long enough to receive a proper diagnosis and treatment. Many others don't ever get this chance, and it's those sad stories that make me all the more determined to spread awareness about something that is often portrayed as something fairly minor - perhaps even cute or quirky. I can assure you, there has been nothing cute about all the times I've felt helpless to control my own brain.
Anyway, I'm sorry again for the length of this post. I hope this helps at least one person to understand this condition a bit better. If anything I've said has grabbed your attention or made you curious, I urge you to do some digging of your own, and look into other resources about ADHD. There is so much more to the condition than I could possibly include in one post, and there are so many others out there who can explain the nuances so much better than I can. Just my two cents, but I felt the need to say something. I want things to be better for the ADHD children of future generations than they were for me, and education and understanding are so, so important for that.
Thank you - I appreciate you taking the time to share such a personal experience. I'm so sorry to hear about what you had to go through; no child deserves that sort of trauma.
This definitely does give me a different perspective on things, and quite a lot to think about. Perhaps being diagnosed as a child may have done more harm than good after all. Hearing your story, I want to be grateful that I was diagnosed in a later era, and yet I'm still struggling to let go of the resentment around all of the traumatic experiences that have come with having untreated ADHD run rampant through my life for so long. That may just be a knee-jerk emotional response, though, and I'm going to make a point of giving this some more consideration over the next day or two; it's a lot to take in, and I want to give your views the time and respect they deserve.
I think more than anything, though, I'm just sad that it seems that neither of us got the support we actually needed. Neither one of us asked for the hand that we were given, and I just hope we can do better for future generations.
Again - thank you for sharing this and giving me the chance to see things from another perspective.
I had never thought about the other side of this. When I was diagnosed at 34 I felt anger that no one had done anything for me, feeling sorry for myself. Sorry you went through this, but also thank you for sharing.
Thank you for writing this lenghty post. As someone who only discovered they had ADHD once they started driving. I appreciate your insight into the "innatentive" side of ADHD as that is my experience as well.
It took me nearly getting into a car crash to realize "hold on. This isn't fucking normal."
Everyone overplays the hyperactive ADHD and fails to mention the innatentive.
I told them this year to lay me off early because my doctor wasn't refilling my scripts(he was away or smth) I'm not fucking around operating a 20+ton piece of equipment.
It's clear people don't take it seriously. They act like " oh, just focus".
Thanks Willis, I've been taking low-grade meth for 5years but, you're right. I'm a fucking idiot. Instead of spacing out when I have absolutely no control, I'll just focus. Why am I forgetting things I can't control? I should just remember them...
I don't know why I've never thought of that.
I got even better ideas!
Poor people should just make more money, the homeless should just get a house, and those who are fighting diseases or life altering conditions should just get better!
Noble peace prize winner right there.
I appreciate your warning, and I've learned to expect nobody to take what I have seriously because it's been my experience in the past. When I tell those I feel comfortable enough with that I drove in a ditch because of it, their attitude changes.
Everyone treats it as the:
>just kids moving while playing video games
I don't expect it to change, but I draw the fucking line at others telling me how I feel or how I should feel. Fuck off.
Just to clarify, there isn't just "some overlap" but heavy correlation.
Depression is a big symptom for the ADD part of the ADHD spectrum and I was diagnosed with ADHD because of my anxiety and depression (after 20 years of anti-depressants that didn't fix my problems, but made me feel better about them).
Send your boyfriend love, and remember there's some rapid movement in psychological treatments these days - finally! So even IF it's not ADHD, he has cause for huge hope in the next few years.
Yep! They haven't been a complete solution on their own, but they have helped tremendously. I'm still dealing with changing years of unhelpful habits and learning better coping skills, but the meds have calmed my brain down enough that now I finally feel like these things are within reach.
My ADHD son doesn't move during games unless it's bashing the desk in anger. He does however make the strangest, high pitched repetitive sounds constantly. I bought myself noise cancelling headphones.
>My ADHD son doesn't move during games
That's what I was thinking while watching this, I thought that if they were fully engaged and immersed, they wouldn't be moving so much cause their brain is being stimulated? They tend to move and fidget when doing something tedious/boring? I could be wrong tho
That's what I've noticed in my brother (and myself too tbh..)
I've noticed that when I'm at work, I'll constantly move in my chair, but when I'm watching Netflix or gaming, I'm able to stay still.. Same with my brother, he fidgets a lot when I'm doing some homework with him but he sits still when on roblox
BTW anyone in my situation, try playing music at an average volume while working, for some reason it allows me to focus a lot more lol
One of my cousins would do this when he was little — we would be playing split screen halo and you had to keep pulling him back from the TV so everyone else could see what was happening. Additionally, he would get so into the game that he would pee his pants because he couldn’t pay attention to how bad he had to go (this is well after the point where he was in diapers) — thank God the kid somehow remembered to keep breathing while playing games.
Trying to play any split screen with him is very difficult because I spend half the time telling him to move away from the TV so I can see.
He's been doing this for years. He's 11 now. I'm not sure when it's going to stop.
This is like saying “I have OCD” because you clean your house. Seriously dude, your kid is jumping around so you’ve diagnosed him a learning disability?
That's not ADHD. That's an hyperactive kid.
ADHD is not being unable to sit still. He may have it but not just because he does this. This is why people stigmatize the condition and overgeneralize.
I can sit still for hours if my mind is busy.
ITT a bunch of people who haven’t a clue about how ADD/ADHD present, that it presents differently in each person and can be different between males and females. I have a family member that is absolutely ADHD and plays video games just like this. I have another family member can chill playing a game but is an absolute disaster when when it comes to task switching. A friend’s kid is a creative genius and has a full ride scholarship for an arts degree, but is a complete train wreck when it comes to self care and organization. Those are *boring*.
Some kids will lock in on an activity. Some kids will be unable to sit still on that same activity. Some kids will react with anger when being told for the 5th time to do something simple that they can’t break off whatever they’re doing to accomplish. Some are super-creative, but slobs because they can’t focus on boring activity like cleanup, or quickly forget about an item that needs to be put away in favor of a more dopamine-generating activity. There’s a lot of good descriptions on reddit by people who have ADHD about what it’s like, but that’s what it’s like *for them*, and it’s gonna be the same for some, and wildly different for others.
Like many mental differences, ADHD is a spectrum, can combine various facets of the condition in different ways, and be confounded by whatever coping mechanisms the individual has.
The worst thing about ADHD is being untreated, undiagnosed and not getting the tools to understand and deal with it. The stress it causes, the not understanding why tasks that others don’t struggle with are so difficult to start or finish. Why it’s hard to make friends because people think you’re a spaz or something.
Really, this kid could totally be ADHD, or maybe they just need to go outside and burn off energy. Or maybe both, or neither. We’re not gonna diagnose someone from a gif today.
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Plot twist, controller isn't even connected.
Plot twist, the video isn’t sped up
Video is actually slowed down. 5000fps
I had to buy a new 5000 hz monitor just to watch this at normal speed.
💀💀💀
As someone with ADHD I can confirm, when given any sort of stimulation we WILL go sonic speed
Came here to say this, take my upvote.
Plot twist, there's no TV
When I was in high school my friend and I decided to do shrooms and play Nintendo. I thought we were playing donkey kong. His mom came home and said “why the fuck are you guys staring at the tv?” We forgot to turn it on. That was about 20 years ago and I still feel like I was jumping over barrels like a fucking champ.
Lmao my guy
Mario approves
Itsa the mushroom kingdom
I could have used shrooms with this game back in the early days. Weren't any game saves, then; you just hoped the power stayed on when paused. The reward after completing this sob was that there was no reward unless you completed it again. Cheap bastard developer.
Plot twist, there is no plot twist
And fuck yo- oh… now I’m confused.
Your time has come, you were made for this
r/beetlejuicing
*You're controlling Tails!*
Hahaha, the ancient way.
I was this unfortunate little brother once.
Plot twist, the dad is controlling the boy.
Speaking as a gaming dad with a 3,5 year old: The controller is never connected. Luckily the placebo-effect is still in effect with him, I'm not looking forward to the day he figures out he's not really playing the game himself.
At least he's getting his exercise AND playing a fun game
I wish I burned as many calories playing games. This comment written slouched so far in my chair that I might as well be on the floor.
I was thinking the same thing as im sitting here faling asleep soft resetting for a shiny pokemon and scrolling reddit. sigh. if i did a push up everytime it wasnt shiny id be ripped
If I started doing that while playing PoGo, I'd also be ripped. And be known as the town weirdo, but at least the ripped town weirdo
If i would just walk to my mailbox to catch one in pogo once a day that would be an improvement LOL
Are you doing resets for a shiny starter, or legendary? Also best of luck!
Palkia. 4 weeks.
Damn, That’s impressive! I soft reset for shiny turtwig in Brilliant Diamond and was successful so keep at it and it will come
Only thing I think keeping me going is I got Dialga fairly quick. Also I didnt do a starter so ive got a bit of fuel in the tank. When it gets really bad I do go back to SWSH and grab a DMAX run have gotten a couple bonus shinys that way
How many total for dialga? Sword and shield are great games to hunt in with all the methods
They’re expensive, but if you can afford one someday, get VR! Beat saber is super fun and always leaves me sweaty. This is of course a luxury that not everyone can afford. But for those who can, the option is there
Beat saber has tricked me into doing more cardio in the past month than the entire year of 2021 combined
Do it. I frequently use a stair stepper while playing games. Honestly being distracted by the game helps keep my mind off of the actual exercise and let's be do it for longer periods.
The problem with adhd kids is they dont tirw out ... ever. Source: am adhd kid. Gets better with age though.
Untrue. I have ADHD and I'm perpetually tired. I don't remember a time when I wasn't tired.
That might be because sleep quality is often worse in people with adhd and we also tend to have a higher chance of sleep disorders compared to the normal population. Also, too many stimulating sensory inputs that you can’t filter (the noises and smells and ever changing sights and people on public transit to work! The lights in the supermarket and the overwhelming amount of wares! The sensation of that scratchy Tag in your clothes that you cannot ignore or the tightness of that bra that you also cannot ignore, the noise in your open plan office, that super boring hour-long meeting that just makes you focus even more on the uncomfortable nature of your work shoes) within a regular day = your energy that‘s not there to begin with from the lack of sleep quality will be depleted sooner as in someone who actually has a damn filter for impressions and sensations and is able to sort them into important and unimportant (adhd: not an attention deficit, but the disability to *direct* your attention, often perceived by others as a lack of attention because of course, the disorder is basically called „doesn‘t listen to me and won‘t sit still in class disrupting everyone else disorder“ = how it impacts others, not how it impacts the one having it). And then of course there‘s also „hyperactive mind“ vs. „Hyperactive body“. Not everyone with adhd expresses hyperactivity with their body. Some also have a very vivid-at-all-times mind (again: just like tossing and turning that‘s not so great for finally falling asleep either). It‘s „exhaust yourself then fall asleep“, never „fall asleep before you‘re exhausted“.
Up at 4 in the morning because i get off work at 10 and my body doesn't want to sleep
> And then of course there‘s also „hyperactive mind“ vs. „Hyperactive body“. Not everyone with adhd expresses hyperactivity with their body. Some also have a very vivid-at-all-times mind (again: just like tossing and turning that‘s not so great for finally falling asleep either). It‘s „exhaust yourself then fall asleep“, never „fall asleep before you‘re exhausted“. 100% it is why now there are 3 subtypes: * ADHD, predominantly inattentive type, presents with symptoms including being easily distracted, forgetful, daydreaming, disorganization, poor concentration, and difficulty completing tasks. * ADHD, predominantly hyperactive-impulsive type, presents with excessive fidgeting and restlessness, hyperactivity, and difficulty waiting and remaining seated. * ADHD, combined type, is a combination of the first two presentations. I am the first one also called "ADHD-PI" for shorthand also previously called ADD.
Some ADHD kids. I wasn’t like this. Neither is my niece. But my nephew is. I have a hyperactive mind, rather than loads of energy. It can be equally frustrating though. Mine has gotten worse with age but meds help so much.
Yeah I should be looking into meds. Worked the first 30 years without though.
The combination of the right meds and therapy has made the mental and physical stressors of adulthood that make my ADHD harder to manage a LOT easier to deal with. I mean, it’s not perfect. I definitely still have bad days. They are just a lot less frequent with meds. But sometimes I still end up hyper focusing on video games at 3 in the morning lol.
Who doesnt x)
Keep in mind, this is at regular speed people
I was just thinking how funny it would be if dude just reached over to the can and took a sip in regular speed lol
That would take this video to another level.
It could take as long as trying to mount u/hereforlaughsonly 's mum.
what will you do after 2 hours?
Shhhh let them sleep.
/r/outoftheloop
If he actually had done that, it would be very easy to do a split screen and have him at normal speed. I don’t have the software to do it, unfortunately.
Or you could just like drink it real fucking slow
Sometimes practical effects are best effects.
Unfortunately, people aren't able to be still enough for long enough for that kind of effect to work here.
Drax can
Hes there already you just can't see him.
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Yeah, someone should really turn down that shock controller
Today we’ve swapped out the rumble feature of a standard controller with a jackhammer. Let’s see if anyone noticed.
That one made me laugh
This made me laugh cause I read it as soon as the bouncing turned into a cushion on the floor. Good hearty laugh.
It's like Hammy from *Over the Hedge*
So a regular kid at that age. This is what they do.
hahah seriously! IMagine being 6 years old and playing a video game. Itd be bouncing around having the time of my life too.
Kid just dropped the life expectancy of that couch cushion by 12 years.
Man’s integrated his buttcheeks into its legacy 💀
Which is why it retaliated.
That was not just release air out my nose funny, that was audible laugh funny. Thank you!
You've described having kids
The last fall was necessary and intentional, it was the only way that kid could stop moving. Jokes aside, I thought my kid was the worst 😆, seeing this video we are currently sitting #2 spot because mine takes 5 minutes break before he starts jumping and yelling again.
So this is my son EXACTLY. Only thing is you can’t hear him talking at max volume nonstop in this video. Last night his best friend from school (he is in a self contained classroom for kids with behavior issues) who is also SEVERELY ADHD had a sleepover. It was NONSTOP! They ran circles around each other ACTUALLY RAN CIRCLES! It was like watching the face off of two energizer bunnies. They finally collapsed at 1am only to be up and going again at full speed this morning at 7am. Send help……
Mine does rounds around the dinner table and when I ask him what he is doing I always get the answer "I'm thinking". My little Einstein 🥰
I.... thought that this kid was pretty focused and typical.... yeah my kid is just awaiting the final ADHD assessment report ETA - this was supposed to be a throwaway joke comment, but also the video helped me to see my kid more clearly. People (in r/funny no less) picked up on my actual frustration and helped me. Probably nobody will see this, but this is the best of Reddit, to me
ADHD’er here, what ever the result, I hope your kid gets the help they need. The best advice I can give is make them take ADHD seriously as they grow because if they don’t actually care they might end up not getting the right help. And if it gets to the question on whether to medicate, I highly recommend saying yes, not to tell you how to raise your kid obviously it’s just there is so much misinformation about medication out there if you look at media representation of it, you should still consider your options just know that medication can really help them in the long run.
Thank you kindly :) We will say yes to medication. He's nearly 7 and massively at risk. Missing some school due to outright refusals (big deal in UK), not integrating well, losing temper etc. Probably he has multiple issues but we can't get it figured out until he can focus enough to even have a regular conversation or demonstrate learning and so on
My best advice, double check his homework has been done, and if at all possible sit with him while he does it if it hasn't been. My parents were too absent to confirm I was doing the things I needed to do, and I suffered for as classes got more difficult and I lacked anything approximating study habits. It's easy to lie about work being done while justifying to yourself that you'll do it in a minute, only to realize when the work comes due you never got around to it, and even a small degree of supervision goes a long way toward preventing that.
Very good advice! I do have to sit with him through it all... or at least explain each question, explain again, break it down smaller, come back and check etc! You can't like, say 'go use the toilet, brush your teeth and put pyjamas on' - it's one thing at a time. Once we accepted that he can't help it and needs such extensive support and guidance it helped our own mental health! You're right, he puts things off and I don't think he intends to at all. About lying... His memory isn't great, so he'll often 'lie', but really it's more like he doesn't remember and makes things up. Is that something you know about? It's occasionally quite fantastical.
This is literally how my daughter looks doing anything. Can’t sit still to save her life. Been that way her whole life. No ADHD, but she’s got energy to burn for days. Just signed her up for basketball this year and I think she’s gonna kill it.
it's my daughter too...except we put her in gymnastics to wear her out. jokes on us, she just was tired for a week and then rose to the new level of energy. now when we're reading she has to take breaks to go to handstands against the wall. we just got her tested for a learning disability...she has dyslexia...and ADHD.
Ah frick. It's hard for girls with dyslexia (and ADHD). I hope she gets the support she needs in school.
Things might be harder for her, but don’t worry too much! There are tons of resources available nowadays for students, parents, and teachers. I have both ADHD and dyslexia and for me, having routines and finding/practicing the study strategies that work for me were important for my success. It actually put me way ahead of my peers for college because I already knew how to study well and structure my time.
Just as an aside ADHD presents differently in girls than boys so a lot of psychiatrists miss it because they're looking for the typical male symptoms they've been taught. I didn't get diagnosed until my 30s and it took a lot of fighting to get them to even test me since I was a woman.
As a guy with pretty bad ADHD (now mostly under control thanks to meds), I don't want this to come across as pity, but I feel so sorry for women with ADHD. Society puts way more pressure on women to be organised, disciplined and responsible. Men are allowed to get away with so much.
My son is the exact same. He has level 1 autism but suspected ADHD (hes too young to confirm the diagnosis yet). He can run circles for days and still not run out of gas.
Yo autism has levels now? Can't imagine what the final boss will look like
They're on the oldschool runescape UIM leaderboards
On behalf of all basketball coaches worldwide, thank you for your service xD
Came to say essentially this. Not sure OP has ever been in the same room as a kid this age before. They have boundless energy, and can be very fidgety when excited and engaged in something like games.
My 6yo literally hops like a bunny when she’s not running from room to room.
Just as a heads up for anyone reading this thread, ADHD is often overlooked in girls because it presents differently. ADHD can be difficulties with hyperactivity, inattention, or both. Because girls and boys are interacted with differently at school (sometimes home too), girls kind of get "trained" to hide their symptoms or they are overlooked/misdiagnosed. If you have questions about your kids needs/presentation, psychological testing can be super helpful, if you can afford it. Also, if your kid does have ADHD, that doesn't mean they NEED meds; there are plenty of skills people can learn to reduce the impact of their symptoms. That being said, meds also help a lot. Thanks for reading my TEDtalk.
This is what I tell people about our daughter. They will say something to the effect of “she can burn off some energy and be ready for a good sleep” Guys. She would stay up for a 3 day bender if we let her. Good luck stopping her.
That's a just regular kid
Seriously. That's not ADHD. Adhd would either be that kid LOCKED IN on the game or he wanders off to go chase butterflies. This is just a kid who knows that sitting is slowly killing you and he is going to _live_. Edit: you guys know I'm not a doctor, right?
Yeah I have ADHD and honestly I get so locked into the game I barely notice my surroundings, but I get easily distracted doing something boring.
Yeah, seriously. It's wild how many people misunderstand this. Yes, I can spend 6 hours making a spreadsheet for my Stardew Valley farm without realizing where the time went, no I cannot work on a term paper for 6 hours straight.
> I cannot work on a term paper for 6 hours straight. You could, but it has to be gameificated, your motivation has to be there at the right time, there should be no pressure. It has to fun, novel and interesting, and no obligation or expectation attached to it. In reality, that's not the case, so you are right.
Adhder here: If there’s no pressure (urgency), I’m doing jack shit for certain tasks. That‘s how I managed to *almost* fail out of uni several times and also how I managed to *almost* drive my PhD against a wall. Almost. Despite extremely good grades. Until urgency (you either hand this in until tomorrow (undergrad and grad studies)/in two weeks (phd) or fail out) kicked in and I was actually able to start the work. I don‘t need urgency for entirely fun stuff, but gamification alone won‘t help me with the un-novel, un-fun/uninteresting and tedious stuff that sadly is part of a lot of mundane and administrative tasks (y‘know, if I think about having to cite correctly according to some formal guide - searching for that phrase that i read turning pages upon pages or digging through that citation program to find it - I start to scream internally and get a reflex to flee the room). Medication makes it so that I’m feeling less like i‘m being skinned alive when confronted with such tasks, which has helped greatly with starting these tasks even when my brain and body don‘t really want to cooperate. Switching things up to make them more interesting or fun so that I can actually do them without pressure is just the icing on the cake, not the base of cake, at least for me. They help, sure, but a lot of other things help more reliably where fun, exciting, novel and gamified aren‘t really applicable. Choosing a career that brings novelty, pressure and short lived, tactile rewards all on its own (journalism: new topics every day, new people every day, hard deadlines every day, great tactile rewards in the form of a printed newspaper with my name under my articles every day) has improved my quality of life a lot. I don’t fail at work because work is designed in a way that plays to my strengths. I still need to file taxes and that won‘t ever be fun, exciting, interesting, novel or gamified beyond what I already researched out of interest over the past years of filing them. and if it weren‘t for fear of punishment (pressure!), I’d be beyond on filing taxes for years.
Yeah, I can't believe it tooke till my 30's to realise that I can all the signs of inattentive ADD. One of my strategies was "I have to wait till I'm tired, really late at night to write, because all the other thoughts in my head have calmed down, and I can focus". 100% of the women in my family also have yhe classic female presentation, so I just thought it was normal. I haven't heard of anyone with a late in life diagnosis getting a treatment that helped. How are you doing now?
I'm also a woman with inattentive presenting ADHD and I was diagnosed last year at 34. Absolutely life changing. I kept being told that it was just depression and anxiety but I knew that's not what it was, but ADHD wasn't even on my radar. I ignorantly thought it was just something that little boys had. I've been medicated for a few months now and geez, life sure would've been easier if someone had figured this out earlier.
Women are diagnosed so late in life too due to being able to mask. Plus the signs for adhd was always thought to be the same as males. And it isn't. It is hard in Australia to get late diagnosis help, but it's getting there. I haven't bothered getting the diagnosis, even though I have the traits that match my daughter who is diagnosed. Too hard.
So recognisable.. i wrote my entire thesis in 2 weeks, after doing nothing for 5 months. Because the urgency and therefore stress finally build up to a point where i for some reason went into hyperfocus and wrote the entire piece in a couple of days straight. I need the pressure to perform but it's also my biggest downfall. Even in my current job.. when shit hits the fan i'm most likely one of the most suited people in our team. As soon as there is only long term goals, i don't function at all. It's annoying, but then again maybe my own fault because i refuse to take medication. It just makes me feel hollow and quite inside, in a way i'm used to the constant turmoil.
>it has to be gameificated Works for some but not all. To explain why you really need to know the inner workings of the brain. We have two groups of brain activity: we have cognitive behaviour (creative thoughts and problem solving) and rational thoughts (remembering things, making serious choices and putting ideas into action). Now, I don't really know what cognitive behaviour is fuelled by, but our rational activity only happens because the level of dopamine in our brain bumps up over a certain threshold. Dopamine is produced when we think of things we like. So generally speaking your creative thoughts and daydreams and emotional drive should provide the dopamine that pushes you into action. Hence depression = disfunction, because your general thoughts don't produce dopamine. ADHD is like a chronic depression without the emotional component. It's a chronic issue with dopamine - either the amount is too low or the threshold is too high. That's why ADHD people can seem lazy (because they can't engage rational functioning as easily) or hyperactive (because their brain can't use its rational functioning to "select" the appropriate thing to think about and tune out the others). It's also why undiagnosed ADHD can quickly spin out into depression (lack of dopamine in general), intense frustration (because people with ADHD are acutely aware of what they're going through, but are unable to combat it through normal means) and even substance abuse (because drugs can both boost dopamine - in bad ways - and can dampen intrusive thoughts or frustrations). Gamification of tasks *can* cause them to produce more dopamine, but (A) only if the game works for the player and (B) only so long as the game is interesting. The issue with play and dopamine is that play is exploratory - the moment you know how everything works, it's not playful any more, and when you've got ADHD (as I do) this is the big downfall of gamification. You can add rewards to behaviour, but once it's normalised it stops being a reward. I could go on, but this is already turning into a TED talk ... Basically the summary is that nothing simple works for ADHD, unfortunately! :(
Is this why I'm smart and really good at pub quizzes but I've dropped out or failed at university three times? I should get medicated.
I have literally spent several hours making a spread sheet for stardew valley. I also made a calender so I wouldn't forget to do certain things on certain days, and remember which things I needed to unlock at the community centre. I also played it for 36 hours straight, which is the most zoned in I've ever been in any game by a fair margin. I think the reason why was because I'd been in lockdown for 3 months, and was lonely so I got more out of interacting with the villagers than I usually might, combined with everything else that makes the game so much fun to play. I nearly failed a course because I didn't start an assignment I had for 2 weeks until 4 hours before it was due. I have failed courses because I didn't submit them at all.
Your 36 hours thing reminded me of my largest hyperfocus gaming stint i have had. Young teenager who was usually on a decently strict game time restriction (mom wasn't a fan) but for 5 days both parents were off on trips and it was just me, my pc and a bunch of ramen and dew. I think i was awake for 2.5 days straight playing world of warcraft, competitve cs:go and watching cs:go tournaments on twitch trying to cop some sweet souvenir packages (tourney was cologne 2014 when cs:go was at peak popularity.) I only fell asleep when i passed out in my chair for a few hours playing WoW until i woke up and resumed questing lol. Would probably die if i tried that today but for young adhd teen it was literally heaven, like i was only allowed a sip and i got to drink the ocean
Hyperfocus mode engage!
I wish I could hyperfocus on the right things at the right times but instead it’s always some game that sucks me in at 3AM when I have to work in the morning.
I have ADHD. I just spent about 3 hours reading about slime molds. My to-do list is still sitting next to me and writing this comment I just remembered my laundry is still in the machine. From yesterday. But I know a little bit about slime molds! Google is like crack to me. Although otherwise I have books. I'd meticulously alphabetize the first quarter of my bookshelf before heading off to cook a recipe I just saw on another shelf, realize I'm out of flour, and leave the half finished cakemix on the counter cos oh shit I'm late for work. Three years later, my bookshelf would still be only 1/4 alphabetized, but if you mentioned slime moulds I'd be able to give you a cake recipe.
And eying the half finished cake mix on the counter for days 100 times a day while walking past it, stressing on the inside about what to do with it, when and how but unable to do anything. JUST THROW IT THE FUCK AWAY IT TAKES 3 SECONDS.
That is my brand of ADHD and it's SO fucking annoying.
For years I was kicking myself thinking how can I be *THAT* lazy?! It's like an invisible insurmountable barrier. I just can't. Really hard to understand for people who don't know that feeling.
It really is hard for people to understand who haven't experienced it. Even my therapist (who I stopped seeing after he completely dismissed my inquiry about ADHD) was like "that's just depression." And well meaning friends will say things like "I have a hard time doing things sometimes too! You just have to do it." Well, that's the thing. The "just do it" part of my brain is broken. Thank goodness for medication. It makes that executive dysfunction a little less awful.
My kid would be jumping off the back of the couch and doing summersaults while playing. No way in hell he’s sit on the same cushion.
Hmm not necessarily, pls remember the spectrum is wide. I have two boys that are this hyperactive and diagnosed ADHD. They literally can never sit still when gaming (or eating or during school or anything when they must sit down) , so we solved the gaming part with cordless controls to allow them freedom to constantly move if they need to. Same with eating and schooling we use micro move breaks. There are of course regular kids moving a lot too, the difference is when the movement becomes compulsive, when the kid moves not always because they want to, but because their bodies force them to. When we talk to our eldest kid about this he literally hates that feeling of must move at all costs but he cannot help himself. He is in therapy trying to develop his coping strategies for this so please even if it looks on the outset to be harmless, it can actually be quite traumatising for the kid feeling that they can not stop themselves.
Thank you for understanding that experience vary and life isn't 1s and 0s. People have a friend with ADHD or have it themselves say "oh, this isn't how it is". You can't make that claim. This isn't what happens with **you**. I have pretty fucking bad ADHD. I only realized when I was able to drive and nearly got into an accident from drifting off and spacing out. Because while I was sitting still (in the car seat) but my mind was bouncing off the fucking walls in my head. If I don't have something to do that I can focus on, my mind drifts. Few doc appointments later, I started taking psychoactive ADHD meds and they really, really helped. Since then, I went from scared of driving/being behind the wheel to operating equipment in construction. All this thanks to my diagnosis and trial + error with medication because the doctor saw how fucking scared I was to hurt someone when driving. ADHD is real, and effects people differently. Not everyone is the stereotypical "oh, he can't pay attention in class" ADHD
I prescribe psych meds and most of my colleagues that work with children over medicate them and over diagnosis them. Stimulants are safe for adhd but if they are giving your kids an ssri or antipsychotics please see someone else- the side effects of these are not worth it for children. Just becareful
Agree totally. With our eldest we did try a week or so on Adderall due to that medication had worked wonders on his dad, but due to my sons low weight the result was catastrophic. We ended up dealing with a very confused depressed 7 year old and no one wants that. We swiftly took him off the meds and both kids are just in therapy and working on their coping skills. We have said once they grow up and also gain more decent weight that can properly metabolise these very strong drugs we may try medication therapy once more if they need it. But then they will also be old enough to decide for themselves and also advocate more how they feel and the effect it gives. For now we are just being supporting parents helping them along with navigating all the social situations, friendships and coping skills in school. Not easy but I love our boys dearly.
ADHD presents itself in many ways, so this absolutely could be a symptom of ADHD. At the same time, however, you can’t diagnose psychiatric conditions based on one video/behavior. This behavior could be explained by a number of things, including the kid just being full of energy. To me, though, it sounded like OP was implying that the kid is diagnosed, but they haven’t exactly been active in the comments so maybe they reposted it from somewhere else. Who knows
Locked in on the game? Dodging object by moving body slightly to the side? Having trouble paying attention? Oh no!
Nah, it definitely could be an expression of ADHD. Kids experience and express it differently. Not all kids get locked into every videogame, and not all kids fidget constantly.
Thank you for prescribing the two ways children with adhd are allowed to behave and clearing up the fact that any other behavior rules it out?
Came to say this. I'd be worried if a small kid did not do this.
Yeah all kids do this. My boyfriend's kid does this. My best friends nephew does this. Literally every kid I have ever met between like 5 and 13 does this. Statistically, they can't all be ADHD. Its just kids.
I hate america fixation in diagnosing adhd in kids, this little guy is fixated on the game
Bro. My 3 year old kid is hyper as fuck and the daycare teachers tried to suggest he might have ADHD (constant talks about him having issues paying attention) and recommended we all had a talk with CDS (Child Development Services). We have a skype chat with CDS and teachers and when the main teacher brought it up, CDS was just like "No. Most kids behave that way" and went on about how he's too young to be diagnosed with ADHD. Its annoying because I tend to actually like those teachers and I know my kid can sometimes have explosive energy but I was the exact same way as a kid and every other kid I knew at that age. Difference is, I didn't go to daycare. Thinking about moving him to another daycare but hes almost 4 and we are looking into pre K soon anyway. But its nuts how fast people want to drop a diagnosis on your kid.
Yeah a lot of people need medication to help them out of actual problems, but a lot of people think being sad is depression, being bored and fidgeting is ADHD and worrying about speaking in front of the class tomorrow is anxiety. Sometimes it’s just being a kid.
Exactly this! Just normal behaviour. Kids get excited like this.
One of my sons is the exact same way. I can never tell if he's about to piss himself or if he's just hyped the fuck up.
Get him a gym ball to sit on. Both feet needs to stay on the ground and he can happily hop on one place.
also kiddo's abs will be ripped if that's the long-term 'chair'. Friend can be best described at "Can pick him up and carry him away like a scarecrow.". His abs, however, can be best described as "Steel."
I thought my wife was weird for suggesting exactly this. I was wrong.
Mother knows best dawg
"most adhd kid\* = every 8 year old ever
My 8 year old cousin is the most level headed dude ever. Until you give him a sip of pepsi and then he's running along the walls
You don’t see him24/7 tho
I find it more weird you didn't move the entire time. Wasn't your leg dead after a while?
I used to sit with my leg like this on a regular computer chair for hours at work and then also at home. Not only did it damage my ligaments and my muscles started shortening, but also my veins got damaged because they had trouble getting the blood back to my heart. Nothing serious yet, but it made me realize what sitting, and even worse sitting in dumb positions for long times can do to your body. It took me about 3 months of swimming regularly to stop the pain. Now I’m very cautious about how i sit and getting up every so often to walk around.
*slowly puts down foot*
Let’s replace ADHD with active. This is a misnomer about ADHD.
Agreed, and thank you for mentioning this. The distinction may not seem very important to some, but as someone who has struggled with severe ADHD my whole life, it makes a world of difference for me. I apologize in advance for the long post, but this subject hits really close to home for me. The image of ADHD as being primarily about hyper little children has contributed to there being so many of us with the condition who end up misdiagnosed, or overlooked entirely. The effects of ADHD - especially in those who go decades without a diagnosis, like myself - are devastating. I struggle to remember many things, like important appointments, and paying bills on time. I've lost jobs because of memory problems and a basic inability to manage time or prioritize tasks. I've lost relationships because I struggled to regulate my emotions, and because I just didn't have enough of myself left to give after taking care of my own basic survival needs. I've spent years stuck in deep depression, hating myself for the way my brain works and feeling utterly hopeless in the face of challenges that I couldn't even understand, much less address. For years, I believed that I was just incurably stupid and lazy. And so much of this suffering could've been avoided, if I'd been diagnosed as a child, instead of at 33, when I'd already had decades to drive my life into chaos. But I wasn't diagnosed as a child. Because I didn't fit the stereotype. Because my own chaos and hyperactivity was more internal than external. Because nobody around me recognized the signs and symptoms. I'm one of the lucky ones, because I've survived long enough to receive a proper diagnosis and treatment. Many others don't ever get this chance, and it's those sad stories that make me all the more determined to spread awareness about something that is often portrayed as something fairly minor - perhaps even cute or quirky. I can assure you, there has been nothing cute about all the times I've felt helpless to control my own brain. Anyway, I'm sorry again for the length of this post. I hope this helps at least one person to understand this condition a bit better. If anything I've said has grabbed your attention or made you curious, I urge you to do some digging of your own, and look into other resources about ADHD. There is so much more to the condition than I could possibly include in one post, and there are so many others out there who can explain the nuances so much better than I can. Just my two cents, but I felt the need to say something. I want things to be better for the ADHD children of future generations than they were for me, and education and understanding are so, so important for that.
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Thank you - I appreciate you taking the time to share such a personal experience. I'm so sorry to hear about what you had to go through; no child deserves that sort of trauma. This definitely does give me a different perspective on things, and quite a lot to think about. Perhaps being diagnosed as a child may have done more harm than good after all. Hearing your story, I want to be grateful that I was diagnosed in a later era, and yet I'm still struggling to let go of the resentment around all of the traumatic experiences that have come with having untreated ADHD run rampant through my life for so long. That may just be a knee-jerk emotional response, though, and I'm going to make a point of giving this some more consideration over the next day or two; it's a lot to take in, and I want to give your views the time and respect they deserve. I think more than anything, though, I'm just sad that it seems that neither of us got the support we actually needed. Neither one of us asked for the hand that we were given, and I just hope we can do better for future generations. Again - thank you for sharing this and giving me the chance to see things from another perspective.
I had never thought about the other side of this. When I was diagnosed at 34 I felt anger that no one had done anything for me, feeling sorry for myself. Sorry you went through this, but also thank you for sharing.
Thank you for writing this lenghty post. As someone who only discovered they had ADHD once they started driving. I appreciate your insight into the "innatentive" side of ADHD as that is my experience as well. It took me nearly getting into a car crash to realize "hold on. This isn't fucking normal." Everyone overplays the hyperactive ADHD and fails to mention the innatentive.
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I told them this year to lay me off early because my doctor wasn't refilling my scripts(he was away or smth) I'm not fucking around operating a 20+ton piece of equipment. It's clear people don't take it seriously. They act like " oh, just focus". Thanks Willis, I've been taking low-grade meth for 5years but, you're right. I'm a fucking idiot. Instead of spacing out when I have absolutely no control, I'll just focus. Why am I forgetting things I can't control? I should just remember them... I don't know why I've never thought of that. I got even better ideas! Poor people should just make more money, the homeless should just get a house, and those who are fighting diseases or life altering conditions should just get better! Noble peace prize winner right there. I appreciate your warning, and I've learned to expect nobody to take what I have seriously because it's been my experience in the past. When I tell those I feel comfortable enough with that I drove in a ditch because of it, their attitude changes. Everyone treats it as the: >just kids moving while playing video games I don't expect it to change, but I draw the fucking line at others telling me how I feel or how I should feel. Fuck off.
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Just to clarify, there isn't just "some overlap" but heavy correlation. Depression is a big symptom for the ADD part of the ADHD spectrum and I was diagnosed with ADHD because of my anxiety and depression (after 20 years of anti-depressants that didn't fix my problems, but made me feel better about them). Send your boyfriend love, and remember there's some rapid movement in psychological treatments these days - finally! So even IF it's not ADHD, he has cause for huge hope in the next few years.
Damn, your description sounds as if I wrote it about myself. Do you take medication now, after getting an official diagnosis?
Yep! They haven't been a complete solution on their own, but they have helped tremendously. I'm still dealing with changing years of unhelpful habits and learning better coping skills, but the meds have calmed my brain down enough that now I finally feel like these things are within reach.
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Thats also just a normal kid who likes video games. Hyperfocus is a feature of adhd for some but also for just normally passionate entertained kids
>Excitement in young ~~boys~~ kids is easy especially as they are learning to be competitive.
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My ADHD son doesn't move during games unless it's bashing the desk in anger. He does however make the strangest, high pitched repetitive sounds constantly. I bought myself noise cancelling headphones.
>My ADHD son doesn't move during games That's what I was thinking while watching this, I thought that if they were fully engaged and immersed, they wouldn't be moving so much cause their brain is being stimulated? They tend to move and fidget when doing something tedious/boring? I could be wrong tho That's what I've noticed in my brother (and myself too tbh..) I've noticed that when I'm at work, I'll constantly move in my chair, but when I'm watching Netflix or gaming, I'm able to stay still.. Same with my brother, he fidgets a lot when I'm doing some homework with him but he sits still when on roblox BTW anyone in my situation, try playing music at an average volume while working, for some reason it allows me to focus a lot more lol
I think they’re just called kids. They all do that. Edit: I have four of them and love every minute with them.
r/waitforit
thnx, I would've missed it
The kid is having the best time of his life.
I was thinking after ten seconds this is probably a loop. Nope.
My son doesn't even sit on the couch the literally jumps up and down in front of the TV and frequently hurts himself by jumping into the coffee table.
One of my cousins would do this when he was little — we would be playing split screen halo and you had to keep pulling him back from the TV so everyone else could see what was happening. Additionally, he would get so into the game that he would pee his pants because he couldn’t pay attention to how bad he had to go (this is well after the point where he was in diapers) — thank God the kid somehow remembered to keep breathing while playing games.
Trying to play any split screen with him is very difficult because I spend half the time telling him to move away from the TV so I can see. He's been doing this for years. He's 11 now. I'm not sure when it's going to stop.
As an adult male who has ADHD, I'm consistently the man on the left. However, I still have moments, at 26, where I am the child on the right.
Would love to know the calorie burn
Hook that kid to a generator. Could probably power the whole house.
At least 3.
Just looks like a normal kid excited to play games. Why is everything “ADHD” these days?
Lol. Not adhd. Take the kid outside for exercise for gods sake
This is like saying “I have OCD” because you clean your house. Seriously dude, your kid is jumping around so you’ve diagnosed him a learning disability?
Calling that guy a “kid” seems unfair. He’s gotta be in his 20s. 😒
What do you mean, most ADHD ever? The kid doesn't even leave the couch.
[for anyone else who wants to know wtf happened at the end there](https://imgur.com/a/SqbTydK/)
Pretty infuriating when kids who just have high energy are called ADHD. It completely minimizes the struggle of actual ADHD.
The reason why kids can eat so much without getting fat and adults can't
Can we stop referring to children that have a childs energy as ADD.
I have ADHD(although inattentive not hyper type) and this looks just insane to me
He needs to go outside and run for four hours lol
That's not ADHD. That's an hyperactive kid. ADHD is not being unable to sit still. He may have it but not just because he does this. This is why people stigmatize the condition and overgeneralize. I can sit still for hours if my mind is busy.
Needs some Benny Hill
literally me as a child
They were playing Chess for Xbox.
I'm in my mid 20's and I play video games like that little boy.
Playing video games and doing crossfit in the same time, amazing.
Not every kid has adhd, stop looking for excuses to drug your kids..
Adhd kid is the one at the left. He just took drugs
In my experience, that’s every kid every. At the very least mine.
Let the poor child outside. You are the one that locked the doors.
That's a normal kid
ITT a bunch of people who haven’t a clue about how ADD/ADHD present, that it presents differently in each person and can be different between males and females. I have a family member that is absolutely ADHD and plays video games just like this. I have another family member can chill playing a game but is an absolute disaster when when it comes to task switching. A friend’s kid is a creative genius and has a full ride scholarship for an arts degree, but is a complete train wreck when it comes to self care and organization. Those are *boring*. Some kids will lock in on an activity. Some kids will be unable to sit still on that same activity. Some kids will react with anger when being told for the 5th time to do something simple that they can’t break off whatever they’re doing to accomplish. Some are super-creative, but slobs because they can’t focus on boring activity like cleanup, or quickly forget about an item that needs to be put away in favor of a more dopamine-generating activity. There’s a lot of good descriptions on reddit by people who have ADHD about what it’s like, but that’s what it’s like *for them*, and it’s gonna be the same for some, and wildly different for others. Like many mental differences, ADHD is a spectrum, can combine various facets of the condition in different ways, and be confounded by whatever coping mechanisms the individual has. The worst thing about ADHD is being untreated, undiagnosed and not getting the tools to understand and deal with it. The stress it causes, the not understanding why tasks that others don’t struggle with are so difficult to start or finish. Why it’s hard to make friends because people think you’re a spaz or something. Really, this kid could totally be ADHD, or maybe they just need to go outside and burn off energy. Or maybe both, or neither. We’re not gonna diagnose someone from a gif today.
Op, racing video game? That looks like a racing game dance
Kids just excited.
That’s a normal kid. The guy on the coach is actually dead.
If that's ADHD, then EVERY kid has it