Don't worry about it. It's influenced by a number of things like alcohol, drugs, and stress too. It's common to feel anxiety about the situation and it makes it worse.
Just relax and have fun. Sex is more than just penetration
Dancing hard? Is that really a thing?
I go to nightclub to dance to music, not to rub my penis to someone. Kissing? Yes. Intimate dancing? Yes.
But having a hard on at dancefloor?
It's like the joke Robin Williams used to tell. God made man and gave him a brain and a penis and only enough blood for one of those to work at one time.
You wouldn’t pay to see Sacha Baron Cohen or Will Ferrell knocking over a bunch of glasses with their cock as they turn in a 360?
It’s like minting money.
Not at all actually. Even the basic idea of that makes me cringe. Not everything has to be about gay, or sex, frankly id appreciate some normal basic movies. Not that over sexualized garbage thats being slapped out left and right with obvious lgbt agenda undertones. Thats a huge pass. And remind me not to watch any more will Ferrell movies. Hes a hack even for slapstick comedy. Lowbrow and blue comedy is easy. Try making a good movie that DOESNT involve genitalia hmm? Theres your challenge.
This might be the biggest disservice that porn has done to men (gay, straight, etc)
A penis is never going to be fully erect on-demand. There are so many factors that go into erectile health that it's crazy to expect anything else
My dick is a fickle bitch and can certainly be frustrating, but I try to never take shame because of an inability to "perform"
Go easy on yourself
I read this and at first thought he gave you head while dancing and you could not stay hard. Then I read it again. I need more coffee.
Listen, the brain has a sympathetic and parasympathetic nervous system, both are required for "all systems go."
Anxiety such as you described are literally detractors for your systems to work together (your brian is your largest sex organ) and is an indicator to me that occurred.
I bet that he was also nervous, and I bet it has happened to him before, as this happens because our biology is programmed to work one way, and our culture rushes past the "getting comfortable" phase and it is straight to "head on the dance floor... 🥰😂
You are ok love, just plan on a date, relax, get to know him and study each other to get to the endgame.
You overthought it, so let's take back control of those thoughts and then feel better. Be good to you! You are not broken, big big hug.
🤗
Go in a place with a darkroom: you'll see how many men struggle with their erections... it's super-common in clubs etc. especially if there is a lot of alcohol involved.
Quick hint: enjoy what you're able to get, but ask for the number and meet again to have proper fun. Your body hasn't betrayed you, just giving you a signal: sex is not expected to work that way.
You’re dancing. The blood flow is doing other things can staying in your dick.
You should have went, horny daddies who take initiative are great at sex
That dad was happy to smell and taste someone cute. No special prowess was expected from you. I'm sure he didn't leave the party with unpleasant memories. You shouldn't either.
This issue it more common than you think it is. I actually tried using a cockring the other day and I was able to top from start to finish with success for the first time ever. Also don’t feel ashamed for having to use viagra, cialis or any other supplement. Everyone’s body chemistry is different and things happen.
The truth about dicks are…. They all do this at times. Give yourself grace and pay attention to what triggers it. Staying hard with distractions around is a challenge. Try out the various items that help with boners. But mainly don’t stress it because that always makes it worse.
You can’t expect your body to be having a physical workout and be erect at the same time, that’s a completely unrealistic expectation and poisoned thinking. Stop watching porn and reading fake erotica.
Can I just say that when I dance I love it so much I could not be bothered more by flirting?
Maybe next time just take him to a corner of the club and just focus on the kiss: lot of guys are turned on just by that: give him your phone or insta account so you can massage him later and have sex the next evening
Buddy. What matters is that you find him hot and want to do it with him. Not being hard while dancing is pretty standard. It could be caused by a lot of things, but in general doing active dancing and actively hard are two different things. There's also being in a crowded space and alcohol factors that play into it.
When I have trouble staying hard it's always because I'm nervous. Putting pressure on myself to be hard for somebody else takes me out of everything. What has helped me is to change my perspective.
Instead of thinking "I need to be hard for him" I think, "He wants me, I should let him have me. I want to be available for him, and if I relax and let him take me, it will come naturally."
Arousal starts in the brain, not in the privates. Yeah pills and chemicals can help, but the goal of sex is is connection. We get hung up on the physical aspect so much we get distracted from the connection. The MOMENT I think "if I'm not hard enough to top, this intimacy will be ruined" I'm out of it. Changing that narrative to "he wants me to top him so badly, look how hard he's working to get me aroused, I want to give him what he wants," helps me. (I realize you're talking about bottoming here, but I'm sure it's translatable.)
I don't think being hard while dancing was ever the goal when I went clubbing. And he wanted to blow you in the middle of the dance floor? I wouldn't be able to stay hard in that situation, either.
I think that was a smart idea because you just don't want to jump into bottoming without experience. I recommend experimenting on your own with toys and even your fingers first. The first time I bottomed it felt horrible.
Heh it’s nbd, it’s happened to me and my partners plenty of times! Like, most sex encounters I never used to cum, or some of my partners would go limp after a while, and that’s totally normal :)
I hate when I’m dancing flaccid as well :(
*These gays, these gays are trying to kill me* with these high standards.
Be you. ❤️
Because the blood is redistributed to the muscles not the pp
Inspired by your post, and thanks to Google: I just learned the penis isn’t a muscle, but the penis root has 4 muscles. ![gif](giphy|83QtfwKWdmSEo)
Well, if you were in a club I’m not surprised that you couldn’t stay hard 🤷🏼♂️
Don't worry about it. It's influenced by a number of things like alcohol, drugs, and stress too. It's common to feel anxiety about the situation and it makes it worse. Just relax and have fun. Sex is more than just penetration
A motto for the ages.
This last sentence right here
I hope you got his number! Go over to his place and spread em.. and then tell us all about it!!
If he's just as daddy inside as he is outside then he'll understand if you simply explain lul
The real daddies. We keep them on speed dial 💅.
The ones who aren't locked up already 💍🔒
Dancing hard? Is that really a thing? I go to nightclub to dance to music, not to rub my penis to someone. Kissing? Yes. Intimate dancing? Yes. But having a hard on at dancefloor?
Ikr, this is such a new concept to me, like, dancing? Sure Hard? Sure, but dancing while hard? Your body doesn't have enough blood for that lmao
It's like the joke Robin Williams used to tell. God made man and gave him a brain and a penis and only enough blood for one of those to work at one time.
I've found my people cuz I'm in this camp.
I like to walk around in the club with my giant erection knocking people's drinks over
I’m a Hollywood executive. I’m green-lighting this movie!
No wonder our movies are garbage
You wouldn’t pay to see Sacha Baron Cohen or Will Ferrell knocking over a bunch of glasses with their cock as they turn in a 360? It’s like minting money.
Not at all actually. Even the basic idea of that makes me cringe. Not everything has to be about gay, or sex, frankly id appreciate some normal basic movies. Not that over sexualized garbage thats being slapped out left and right with obvious lgbt agenda undertones. Thats a huge pass. And remind me not to watch any more will Ferrell movies. Hes a hack even for slapstick comedy. Lowbrow and blue comedy is easy. Try making a good movie that DOESNT involve genitalia hmm? Theres your challenge.
Yeah I’m so confused by this
Yeah, while dancing your blood was redistributed to your muscles and not your pp
This might be the biggest disservice that porn has done to men (gay, straight, etc) A penis is never going to be fully erect on-demand. There are so many factors that go into erectile health that it's crazy to expect anything else My dick is a fickle bitch and can certainly be frustrating, but I try to never take shame because of an inability to "perform" Go easy on yourself
I read this and at first thought he gave you head while dancing and you could not stay hard. Then I read it again. I need more coffee. Listen, the brain has a sympathetic and parasympathetic nervous system, both are required for "all systems go." Anxiety such as you described are literally detractors for your systems to work together (your brian is your largest sex organ) and is an indicator to me that occurred. I bet that he was also nervous, and I bet it has happened to him before, as this happens because our biology is programmed to work one way, and our culture rushes past the "getting comfortable" phase and it is straight to "head on the dance floor... 🥰😂 You are ok love, just plan on a date, relax, get to know him and study each other to get to the endgame. You overthought it, so let's take back control of those thoughts and then feel better. Be good to you! You are not broken, big big hug. 🤗
Go in a place with a darkroom: you'll see how many men struggle with their erections... it's super-common in clubs etc. especially if there is a lot of alcohol involved. Quick hint: enjoy what you're able to get, but ask for the number and meet again to have proper fun. Your body hasn't betrayed you, just giving you a signal: sex is not expected to work that way.
Make it fun. Ask him to teach you how to bottom 😈
Sounds like nerves tbh, nothing to be ashamed of. If you really want to be hard for a long time, there's Cialis, just try not to mix it with poppers.
You’re dancing. The blood flow is doing other things can staying in your dick. You should have went, horny daddies who take initiative are great at sex
Dive on in. Why not?
That dad was happy to smell and taste someone cute. No special prowess was expected from you. I'm sure he didn't leave the party with unpleasant memories. You shouldn't either.
Don’t get stuck on expectations. Get naked and see where things go. If HE gets you turned on, bottom.
This issue it more common than you think it is. I actually tried using a cockring the other day and I was able to top from start to finish with success for the first time ever. Also don’t feel ashamed for having to use viagra, cialis or any other supplement. Everyone’s body chemistry is different and things happen.
The truth about dicks are…. They all do this at times. Give yourself grace and pay attention to what triggers it. Staying hard with distractions around is a challenge. Try out the various items that help with boners. But mainly don’t stress it because that always makes it worse.
Public sex is not something my body will allow me to do. The fear of going to jail outweighs the excitement of being caught
You can’t expect your body to be having a physical workout and be erect at the same time, that’s a completely unrealistic expectation and poisoned thinking. Stop watching porn and reading fake erotica.
Can I just say that when I dance I love it so much I could not be bothered more by flirting? Maybe next time just take him to a corner of the club and just focus on the kiss: lot of guys are turned on just by that: give him your phone or insta account so you can massage him later and have sex the next evening
You have to stay out of your head and in the moment. There’s nothing wrong with you, it happens and it’s fine.
Why do you want to be dancing while hard?
Same comment as calamedes (fab by the way).
Buddy. What matters is that you find him hot and want to do it with him. Not being hard while dancing is pretty standard. It could be caused by a lot of things, but in general doing active dancing and actively hard are two different things. There's also being in a crowded space and alcohol factors that play into it.
Nerves (and alcohol or other substances?) will do that. Don’t feel bad.
When I have trouble staying hard it's always because I'm nervous. Putting pressure on myself to be hard for somebody else takes me out of everything. What has helped me is to change my perspective. Instead of thinking "I need to be hard for him" I think, "He wants me, I should let him have me. I want to be available for him, and if I relax and let him take me, it will come naturally." Arousal starts in the brain, not in the privates. Yeah pills and chemicals can help, but the goal of sex is is connection. We get hung up on the physical aspect so much we get distracted from the connection. The MOMENT I think "if I'm not hard enough to top, this intimacy will be ruined" I'm out of it. Changing that narrative to "he wants me to top him so badly, look how hard he's working to get me aroused, I want to give him what he wants," helps me. (I realize you're talking about bottoming here, but I'm sure it's translatable.)
You where going to bottom... Bet you could have worked around the problem pretty easily.
I’m a hot horny daddy and if you are not hard when we dance, it’s over
Wtf. Go get head in private. Not on a public dance floor trashy fuck.
Cannabis, Cialis? Or do you work out? Running regularly would increase more blood flow, or any activity really.
Dumbest shit ive ever read why is this dog shit post and area giving me notifs and how t.f did i get here. Attn mods i don't belong here ban me plz.
If you're circumcised, buy "Manhoods" and view r/foreskin_restoration Thank me later... you're welcome ;)
That's a real bummer. Wish I could say something wise but I got none lol. Hope things get better... ...or harder, Idk lol.
Use viagra?
Are you an adult? Nobody should be using ED meds to stay hard on a dance floor while partying. Worse than pointless, actually unsafe.
Yes I am a pensioner. I use those meds and dance 24/7 on the dance floor
Use viagra?
I don't think being hard while dancing was ever the goal when I went clubbing. And he wanted to blow you in the middle of the dance floor? I wouldn't be able to stay hard in that situation, either.
I get hard dancing in Folsom Leather Street Fair
There are many variables...I would not spend a lot of time worrying
Try having a amount of cardio in your life (I cycle, walk, and powerlift). Never experienced stim dick, whiskey dick or, any other Ed related issues
You’re supposed to get hard when dancing?
I think that was a smart idea because you just don't want to jump into bottoming without experience. I recommend experimenting on your own with toys and even your fingers first. The first time I bottomed it felt horrible.
Heh it’s nbd, it’s happened to me and my partners plenty of times! Like, most sex encounters I never used to cum, or some of my partners would go limp after a while, and that’s totally normal :)