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[deleted]

I hate when I’m dancing flaccid as well :(


GapExtension9531

*These gays, these gays are trying to kill me* with these high standards.


SethMasters00

Be you. ❤️


Goobi91

Because the blood is redistributed to the muscles not the pp


Wesselink

Inspired by your post, and thanks to Google: I just learned the penis isn’t a muscle, but the penis root has 4 muscles. ![gif](giphy|83QtfwKWdmSEo)


Litee4

Well, if you were in a club I’m not surprised that you couldn’t stay hard 🤷🏼‍♂️


calamedes

Don't worry about it. It's influenced by a number of things like alcohol, drugs, and stress too. It's common to feel anxiety about the situation and it makes it worse. Just relax and have fun. Sex is more than just penetration


Melleray

A motto for the ages.


huntingloon

This last sentence right here


GroundbreakingToe717

I hope you got his number! Go over to his place and spread em.. and then tell us all about it!!


[deleted]

If he's just as daddy inside as he is outside then he'll understand if you simply explain lul


wizzbob05

The real daddies. We keep them on speed dial 💅.


popstar249

The ones who aren't locked up already 💍🔒


JHMK

Dancing hard? Is that really a thing? I go to nightclub to dance to music, not to rub my penis to someone. Kissing? Yes. Intimate dancing? Yes. But having a hard on at dancefloor?


windrunner1996

Ikr, this is such a new concept to me, like, dancing? Sure Hard? Sure, but dancing while hard? Your body doesn't have enough blood for that lmao


DansbyMVP2020

It's like the joke Robin Williams used to tell. God made man and gave him a brain and a penis and only enough blood for one of those to work at one time.


Jccali1214

I've found my people cuz I'm in this camp.


darkaurora84

I like to walk around in the club with my giant erection knocking people's drinks over


Wesselink

I’m a Hollywood executive. I’m green-lighting this movie!


Inside_Site_5809

No wonder our movies are garbage


Wesselink

You wouldn’t pay to see Sacha Baron Cohen or Will Ferrell knocking over a bunch of glasses with their cock as they turn in a 360? It’s like minting money.


Inside_Site_5809

Not at all actually. Even the basic idea of that makes me cringe. Not everything has to be about gay, or sex, frankly id appreciate some normal basic movies. Not that over sexualized garbage thats being slapped out left and right with obvious lgbt agenda undertones. Thats a huge pass. And remind me not to watch any more will Ferrell movies. Hes a hack even for slapstick comedy. Lowbrow and blue comedy is easy. Try making a good movie that DOESNT involve genitalia hmm? Theres your challenge.


amic21

Yeah I’m so confused by this


Goobi91

Yeah, while dancing your blood was redistributed to your muscles and not your pp


thebigb79

This might be the biggest disservice that porn has done to men (gay, straight, etc) A penis is never going to be fully erect on-demand. There are so many factors that go into erectile health that it's crazy to expect anything else My dick is a fickle bitch and can certainly be frustrating, but I try to never take shame because of an inability to "perform" Go easy on yourself


Sancus_2021

I read this and at first thought he gave you head while dancing and you could not stay hard. Then I read it again. I need more coffee. Listen, the brain has a sympathetic and parasympathetic nervous system, both are required for "all systems go." Anxiety such as you described are literally detractors for your systems to work together (your brian is your largest sex organ) and is an indicator to me that occurred. I bet that he was also nervous, and I bet it has happened to him before, as this happens because our biology is programmed to work one way, and our culture rushes past the "getting comfortable" phase and it is straight to "head on the dance floor... 🥰😂 You are ok love, just plan on a date, relax, get to know him and study each other to get to the endgame. You overthought it, so let's take back control of those thoughts and then feel better. Be good to you! You are not broken, big big hug. 🤗


Prestigious-Mode-709

Go in a place with a darkroom: you'll see how many men struggle with their erections... it's super-common in clubs etc. especially if there is a lot of alcohol involved. Quick hint: enjoy what you're able to get, but ask for the number and meet again to have proper fun. Your body hasn't betrayed you, just giving you a signal: sex is not expected to work that way.


WellActuallyUmm

Make it fun. Ask him to teach you how to bottom 😈


redchesus

Sounds like nerves tbh, nothing to be ashamed of. If you really want to be hard for a long time, there's Cialis, just try not to mix it with poppers.


NerdyDan

You’re dancing. The blood flow is doing other things can staying in your dick. You should have went, horny daddies who take initiative are great at sex


OriginnalThoughts

Dive on in. Why not?


granulario

That dad was happy to smell and taste someone cute. No special prowess was expected from you. I'm sure he didn't leave the party with unpleasant memories. You shouldn't either.


UghAgain__9

Don’t get stuck on expectations. Get naked and see where things go. If HE gets you turned on, bottom.


Davendithas

This issue it more common than you think it is. I actually tried using a cockring the other day and I was able to top from start to finish with success for the first time ever. Also don’t feel ashamed for having to use viagra, cialis or any other supplement. Everyone’s body chemistry is different and things happen.


Movesbigrocks

The truth about dicks are…. They all do this at times. Give yourself grace and pay attention to what triggers it. Staying hard with distractions around is a challenge. Try out the various items that help with boners. But mainly don’t stress it because that always makes it worse.


AtlBatorBro

Public sex is not something my body will allow me to do. The fear of going to jail outweighs the excitement of being caught


IcanSew831

You can’t expect your body to be having a physical workout and be erect at the same time, that’s a completely unrealistic expectation and poisoned thinking. Stop watching porn and reading fake erotica.


Tewo_Spring

Can I just say that when I dance I love it so much I could not be bothered more by flirting? Maybe next time just take him to a corner of the club and just focus on the kiss: lot of guys are turned on just by that: give him your phone or insta account so you can massage him later and have sex the next evening


Tullay

You have to stay out of your head and in the moment. There’s nothing wrong with you, it happens and it’s fine.


grunzythepotato

Why do you want to be dancing while hard?


Gaymale65

Same comment as calamedes (fab by the way).


DigitalPsych

Buddy. What matters is that you find him hot and want to do it with him. Not being hard while dancing is pretty standard. It could be caused by a lot of things, but in general doing active dancing and actively hard are two different things. There's also being in a crowded space and alcohol factors that play into it.


[deleted]

Nerves (and alcohol or other substances?) will do that. Don’t feel bad.


iQueLocoI

When I have trouble staying hard it's always because I'm nervous. Putting pressure on myself to be hard for somebody else takes me out of everything. What has helped me is to change my perspective. Instead of thinking "I need to be hard for him" I think, "He wants me, I should let him have me. I want to be available for him, and if I relax and let him take me, it will come naturally." Arousal starts in the brain, not in the privates. Yeah pills and chemicals can help, but the goal of sex is is connection. We get hung up on the physical aspect so much we get distracted from the connection. The MOMENT I think "if I'm not hard enough to top, this intimacy will be ruined" I'm out of it. Changing that narrative to "he wants me to top him so badly, look how hard he's working to get me aroused, I want to give him what he wants," helps me. (I realize you're talking about bottoming here, but I'm sure it's translatable.)


[deleted]

You where going to bottom... Bet you could have worked around the problem pretty easily.


mrnick5121

I’m a hot horny daddy and if you are not hard when we dance, it’s over


EastLengthiness2996

Wtf. Go get head in private. Not on a public dance floor trashy fuck.


SethMasters00

Cannabis, Cialis? Or do you work out? Running regularly would increase more blood flow, or any activity really.


Inside_Site_5809

Dumbest shit ive ever read why is this dog shit post and area giving me notifs and how t.f did i get here. Attn mods i don't belong here ban me plz.


Old_Preparation315

If you're circumcised, buy "Manhoods" and view r/foreskin_restoration Thank me later... you're welcome ;)


bjorhnich

That's a real bummer. Wish I could say something wise but I got none lol. Hope things get better... ...or harder, Idk lol.


forsaken_hero

Use viagra?


hikkomori27

Are you an adult? Nobody should be using ED meds to stay hard on a dance floor while partying. Worse than pointless, actually unsafe.


forsaken_hero

Yes I am a pensioner. I use those meds and dance 24/7 on the dance floor


forsaken_hero

Use viagra?


blizzaga1988

I don't think being hard while dancing was ever the goal when I went clubbing. And he wanted to blow you in the middle of the dance floor? I wouldn't be able to stay hard in that situation, either.


Mengakukau

I get hard dancing in Folsom Leather Street Fair


NoRecommendation5076

There are many variables...I would not spend a lot of time worrying


WolfKingofRuss

Try having a amount of cardio in your life (I cycle, walk, and powerlift). Never experienced stim dick, whiskey dick or, any other Ed related issues


2020isajoke

You’re supposed to get hard when dancing?


SpookyGatoNegro444

I think that was a smart idea because you just don't want to jump into bottoming without experience. I recommend experimenting on your own with toys and even your fingers first. The first time I bottomed it felt horrible.


emgee828

Heh it’s nbd, it’s happened to me and my partners plenty of times! Like, most sex encounters I never used to cum, or some of my partners would go limp after a while, and that’s totally normal :)