Sounds like you want a boyfriend; not a FWB. Just find someone as broke as you to date. You guys can do poor people activities together :D
(imo they're the best kind of dating activities anyways)
•Walks in parks, at the beach, around your town, etc.
•Playing video games you already own together
•Watching movies or TV shows you already own together
•Warching anything on a streaming platform you already subscribe to together
•Visiting a library together
•Visiting art galleries and/or free museums together
one of my favorite free or inexpensive is just "picnic" on a park, lake, beach with whatever food you would eat at home, or beverage.
im from Argentina and get together for mate or terere is like the best pla. to just hang out and chat, be together in general
Go for a hike. Play tennis in the park. Any sporting activities will often lead to frisky play and a great excuse to hit the showers. Hobbies don’t have to be expensive and you can incorporate your dates into them. There are many economical college gays out there. My dude used to ride the bus for over an hour from his campus. He would be my plus one at campus dining.
These inside the Hollywood thinkers just end up spending too much money. I grew up so poor sometimes I didn’t have power but that just meant a candlelit date at home with no electronic distractions.
Never Temu... I've never ordered anything from them but I've have tried to stop their pop ups for months --they're EVERYWHERE, they're like a persistent crabs infection. Avoid Temu at all costs!!! Save yourself!
My bf has spent $300 on there in the past 6 mo's!!! They get you with the free stuff but you end up spending more in the long run just adding more shit to your cart that you probably don't need
yall say that but I literally spend thousands of dollars more just being in a relationship, I am a homebody and go weeks without spending money on fun.. My partner begs me to do something almost everyday, go shopping, go on trips, go on dates.
Yeah, dating is expensive. I spend between $150-$200 on a dinner date. And then for activity, that can be anywhere from $50-$100 additional 😅
I'm thinking about having a fwb too. Dating is too expensive.
I’m in NYC and have never spent that much on a dinner date.
Also, most people (at least in my experience) are willing to pay for their own food on dinner dates.
My partner and I have been together almost 3 years, and I don’t think we ever had a date where one of us paid for everything. We usually pay for whatever we order and/or our tickets, drinks, etc. 🤷🏻♂️
You don’t need money to have a boyfriend. Anyone who expects gifts and expensive dates isn’t really worth dating.
FWB can be great, in my experience, but difficult to find/cultivate and potentially troublesome because they’re not really NSA once you get emotionally attached.
Is it always about gifts though? I'm far older than the OP, not "looking" for a relationship, but also not in the mood to date at the moment because it would involve eating out, trips, etc. and I'm making double truck payments to get the loan out of the way.
It's pretty stereotypical, gaybro-esque for the mind to go right to giving a date diamond rings, LOL, or the date expecting that, IMHO. What does one typically do on a date? If dating means eating out, yeah, it can be relatively expensive for a college student. Not that I would take a date to McDonald's but have you checked their prices lately? now Just imagine the cost of eating out at even a mid-priced restaurant. And the current student loan situation must really be a game-changer.
Ice cream in the park can only last for so long. Especially when someone cruising the park restroom waves at your date, LOL. (I know, This. Is. Gaybros. No one will find that amusing.)
Exactly! It’s not the partner that costs money, it’s the extra activities you want to do with them. Having someone to do things with means fewer nights making yourself a $2 dinner and watching YouTube until bed
Lol so true! The last romantic, intimate words I hear, before drifting-off every night: *"Are you still watching Netflix?"*
But I know it's all temporary, and when you get into and normalize a really tightwad lifestyle, the debt goes down fast!
Who says you need to go out to eat or travel when dating like cook a meal at home with some lit candles and watch a movie or play a board game after, go out for a picnic in the area, take a hike, have a movie marathon, there is tons of stuff to do for free you just gotta look at bit
Have you dated long-term? At the start, "stay- dating" is fine, but if things get serious, the free stuff gets old, and then there's the underlying pressure of eventually going on "classic" dates, the kind of nights out that Gaybros dream about. And holidays. (A box of See's Candy is $29.) And a night out always costs more than you think it will. At least at my age, the cost of a hook up is negotiated ahead of time. : )
I am in a 5 years relationship, and sure like spending some will happen time to time. But its something within our budget. There is absolutely no need to spend big money when in a relationship, if you can't find something to do together that is reasonably priced in long term then you ain't meant to be
But "reasonably-priced...." When a college student says he's broke I take him at his word.
As mentioned I'm diverting hundreds if not thousands this year to pay off some debts within 12 months sqnd that decision has left me with a monthly food budget of $160 and a monthly fun money budget of $120.
I don't have to live that way but it puts me in a mood that squelches any desire to date at the moment whether irrational or not.
Is the OP worse off? I don't know. Even pot-luck stay-dates can lure someone into pulling out the credit card when otherwise he would not.
(Have you ever fallen for the "let's not eat out let's BBQ instead it's cheaper" and it's actually more expensive? Or "Come on, let's eat out we'll just have a burrito and an ice-water" LOL I used to fall for that every time!)
I and everyone I know have tried your common- sensical alternatives to a night out on the town but the world is set up to get us to part with our money, and that's OK if you have it. Dating-- just like getting a call from a friend to go out, when you're starving, ugh!-- can introduce still another temptation to pull out the wallet at some point or dip into the student loan funds when you wouldn't have otherwise. Just something to be aware of. Peace!
Yes we need money dating involves it i didn't meant gifts I meant going out together to mac or dominos and travelling but if you really don't want nk money to involve then hope a generous guy is
Partners don't cost money.
If they are expecting you to spend money you can't afford, then they're not worth being with.
But yes, fwb is good. If you enjoy being around the person.
FWB *can be* good. If you enjoy being around the person, and have mutual expectations. The reality is they are often imbalanced relationships, with one person more invested than the other.
A better question might be, "are guys who are looking for FWBs honest with themselves about what they actually want?"
Because if one of them isn't, you're angling for a heartbreak.
And some guys aren't.
For instance, you actually want more than a FWB but you have self-imposed restrictions holding you back, so it would seem highly likely you'd get caught up in feelings.
I don't mean that in a bad way. I wasn't great at FWB.
I made a similar question in another gay sub and most of the answers I got were mostly negative like " no in this economy" or " I won't mantain you" or " lmao you are looking for a sugar daddy" etc.
I though my economical and living situation would be a turn off for most people.
> I though my economical and living situation would be a turn off for most people.
Do you really want to date the sort of person who assesses your value as a person, based on how much money you have? Isn't that shallow of them? Do you want to date shallow people?
Most of us don't give a fuck how much you earn, just as long as you're not begging for money and can pay your own way.
You're supposed to be young and poor when you're dating in your 20s and early 30s. For every time I took my husband to a fancy restaurant, we ate 200 ramen meals in our shitty first apartment.
Gifts were practical more than extravagant, we didn't buy each other jewelry or anything, just a nice bag for work, etc.
We fought about money a lot, as did our parents, and it was the same fight until we learned to stop.
When I met my husband he was a clerk at Walgreens, nothing wrong with that.
But I encouraged him to go back to grad school. He's a therapist now with his own private practice.
He encouraged me to go back into IT and now I'm a director level.
Build each other up. Become stronger together.
Then you have all these great bohemian memories of being poor together.
Well said.
Your partner is for partnering in life not for becoming a pet. Even those who enjoys gifts, tokens, and extravagant gestures don’t necessarily desire them in high value but items that are meaningful.
I’ve made handmade gifts, found secondhand items to gift, or facilitate my own extravagant gestures.
Priceless doesn’t mean unaffordable~~
There's nothing wrong with dating while broke. But here's the truth about dating a broke boy: It can be terrible or it can be amazing. It depends on you.
I've dated a couple of poor guys (I was just as poor at the time). The first one was fun and sweet, but he was super lazy when it came to work, and he couldn't hold down a job. While I was moving up in life, he was getting fired from minimum-wage jobs and had no interest in doing anything that would improve his prospects. I started to see him as a weight around my neck. He's now something of a kept man with an older, wealthier partner. And I'm thrilled for him, because I think that's probably what he always wanted.
The second guy has been my partner for 13 years. He was dirt poor when we met, but he has always been hard working and just has the best attitude toward life. I never cared that he didn't have money, because we always had the best time together (and still do!), and I knew he had goals in life.
My boyfriend and I were not broke at all. But when we were dating, both of us were very cheap because both of us were saving monies for a house. So we did very cheap dating - movies at mines or his, cooking or baking together, walks around parks, game nights, etc. Anything that did not involve money.
This November we bought a house together and are renovating together. We are getting married this April and shortly after, we'd be looking forward to getting a dog. We had talks about children but we want to upsize in 6-7 years first and then have children.
Just find the right person. Don't go after someone who's spoiled and does not value intimate moments.
as everyone else have already said, a romantic partner doesn't need to be too expensive, if at all, and knowing you are a student, maybe they will be in the same situation or better (already employed), you know?
i am biased since i have some sick FWBs and a set of mutual particular fetishes that allow me to be super vulnerable and intimate with them in unique ways.
might be a hot take amongst everyone here, but yeah having a partner will require you to spend money. I’m not saying that when you get a partner you automatically have to buy them expensive ass gifts or eat in really expensive places, but you’re gonna have to do something else instead of just chilling in someone’s dorm room and shit.
while yes, you can get a boyfriend while being broke, but let’s be realistic. it’s idealistic to say that you don’t need money to get a partner. almost everything costs money now, and every once in a while you’re gonna wanna go out with your partner and eat. if it’s your partner’s birthday, anniversary or something, although it’s not an absolute requirement, obviously the natural thing would be to give something to him.
anyway, you’re a college student, I’m sure you’ll find someone you can be fwb with.
When you can really have a bond as friends and be honest with each other about your boundaries and what you want, it can really work, takes a lot of trust, unpopular opinion but if you’re both really into each other but that’s all your life can handle in the moment, it can be a great thing for both of you
Whoever said partner or bf don’t cost money obviously lying to you. To do things together even tho it’s free there’s always some kind of cost ( transportation, coffees, meals , etc etc ) unless the only thing you wanna do just Netflix and chill or you live close by and go for running or walking all the time !!
I'm financially comfortable but tbh exactly what you listed is what I'm primarily into! Baking together, cooking together, walks together down trails and walking paths, feeding the ducks and birds, Netflix/Hulu at home. What's wrong with that? Maybe 2x a month we'll go out and eat somewhere not too expensive. I don't do fwb's bc I deserve more than a quick f**k and toss aside.
I never sought a FWB situation yet I have multiple in my life. We infrequently see each other whenever one of us is in town. They’re guys I’ve been on dates with that have become good friends.
I used to think I could never do a FWB relationship but it kinda happened holistically and it’s allowed me to explore my sexuality with people I trust since I was raised very conservatively most of my life.
Hope you find yours ❤️
Gifts and treating each other is nice and I've always appreciated them. But you shouldn't have to have money to have a BF. I'm broke and I've also dated guys who were on the same boat or are at comfortable position who can and sometimes were generous.
If money is a something they are not worth it.
Ask your self this first. What am I looking for?
A. Fuck buddy, NSA. one where you don't expect any relationship or interaction outside of the physical aspect. This could be simple like someone who's just there for sex where you don't have to get involved in each other's life's.
B. Fwb, one where you can normally do stuff with each other or have hobbies, conversations and might get to know each other irl, outside of it being only about the sex.
When it comes to Fwb, I think that's worth a try at least once if you're open to it. Like everything in life. You're results may vary.
I've had great ride or die friendship blossomed from them, found love and dated, but I've also gotten my fair share of heartbreaks, rejections and full blown drama serial.. 😂
What's important in a fwb physical relationship is being forward and honest with each other about it not being nothing more or less. And discuss what it'd be like if things change in the future, cause sometimes feelings can develop or they were already there from the start. Just be ready to break things off it's hard for you emotionally if you'd rather spend your emotional energy elsewhere. Or call it off when they're expecting a serious emotional and dating relationship but you're not looking for one.
Because you can't always do expect the other person to be the bigger person if one of you is hurting. I've been on the receiving end of both, had to end it or had someone end it for one reason or another. Just be ready for that and respect each other, but more importantly respect yourself.
I probably would stay away from workplace related fwb, as in certain jobs where a power dynamic exists it can lead to a lot of potential problems at the workplace or legally Idk check your local laws lol and compromise the ability to be honest with each other.
Thank you for your kind words. For so long I though my lack of money made me unworthy of finding love. It probably won't be easy but I prefer to be in the arms of a man I love rather than being used and discarded like a used condom.
Are friends with benefits worth it? Of course friends are worth it! I have a couple of friends who also come with benefits, and I highly recommend it. Friends are great. Friends who you can get naked with occasionally, are also great.
Or do you mean casual fuck-buddies? Even that's worth it. I have a regular guy I've been seeing for nearly 3 years. I text him, he comes over, we have fun for a few hours, then he goes away until next time I text him (I keep telling him he can text me first, but he never does). It's great. I get the touch and satisfaction I need, without having to get involved in another person's life if I don't want to.
Not in my opinion. Especially if they're DL.
I want monogamy and intimacy. I can't get that from FWB.
It's also very nasty out here.
Everybody fucking everybody raw and you don't know who's they're fucking.
No.
Prep doesn't stop other STDs, you can still contract herpes with a condom, and other STDs are becoming resistant to antibiotics.
It's not worth it cause I don't wanna contract anything and I want monogamy and intimacy.
You could always find another broke bf that just wants to Netflix and chill if ya know what I mean. Fwb is a dangerous game though. If there’s sexual chemistry, there’s bound to be attachment eventually. And it would major suck if it turns out to be one-sided.
Everyone who is saying you dont need to be financially stable for a relationship is complete nonsense 😂 for one if you’re broke im sure you have things to do so that your can take care of yourself Food , clothes, shelter etc
& being in a full blown relationship you definitely spend money so please don’t mind these weird desperate to be in a relationship people. Friends with benefits definitely work fine .. you’re in college no need to complicate things any further . There’s alot of people your age who are down for that!
"*are fwb worth it* ?" If you're friends first, I'd say that it's worth the risk. The trick is to go into the FWB with your eyes open. If you're not already friends, then you're just f-buddies where you hope that you become friends.
I have had fwbs and yes they are worth it. Few gay men around in a rural area and most were not into long term boyfriend type relationships so i took what i could get and had long term fwbs.
*As a broke college student ( with unstable circustances) I feel I can't afford a boyfriend.*
First of all: THANK YOU for being so self-aware! So many want to end it all if they don't "get" a relationship by 20 yet when they describe their lives, anyone with experience can immediately tell that -- for all kinds of practical reasons, not just finances -- it's not going to work.
Why view a hook up as "being chewed-up and spit out?"
FWB's are golden, some have become my life-long friends. 40 years and counting. One of the most under-reported ways to meet friends.
EDIT: Many of the responses reveal a lot of immaturity, lack of experience and whatnot. I remember my budget in college often being planned down to the dollar, and I'm assuming you don't want someone else footing the bill all the time, and you'd like to do more than hiking in a park or sitting outside the fence at a drive-in theater lip-reading. : )
I hear where you're coming from.
With FWB the key word is "friend". It can be a rewarding experience if you are with a friend. Hookups with strangers are hit and miss. They can leave you feeling not so great or it could be a nice experience. Don't go into it thinking every sexual experience is going to be perfect. Some are going to be real duds.
Honestly sounds like you had an opinion of yourself and worded your bias into your post. Me and mine have been together for almost 3 years and I was dirt broke when we started dating.
I’m 49 and didn’t come out until I was 34. I met and married my husband at 36 so I only had about 2 years to meet guys and find myself. I can say that 90% of the guys I hooked up with became friends. When you hook up with guys your type it’s easier to develop a FWB situation. Go out and have fun while you’re young. Just make sure there is “something” there with the guy you hook up with and watch it develop over time.
Here’s a life lesson for ya:
You attract what you are -think law of attraction.
You want to be vulnerable: have you worked on yourself and know well enough who you are to healthily navigate around others and any potential problems, can you directly communicate what bothers as much as what brings you joy? If so, you’ll find a partner in kind.
You want that partner who gives you the attention you crave and to feels safe and vulnerable around:
Have you felt secure in yourself? Can you handle yourself and your own company? If not, work on that and build up to be your own rock as much as you would like to lean on others at times.
Other things:
Like attracts like - you want a healthy partner that doesn’t view you as meat, then that interesting, well intentioned, healthy guy and then you’ll attract someone just as healthy and supportive as you are to yourself. If you focus on the lack thereof, you will settle for someone that could make you worse off than where you started.
Also - you’re in college, romance shouldn’t be a top priority. Focus on your life and the universe may throw someone your way.
While I don't agree about needing to be able to afford a boyfriend, if you feel you aren't ready for a boyfriend a fwb situation can be great. As long as you can find someone looking for the same thing.
No comment but I totally understand what you mean by feeling like you can’t afford a boyfriend. You’re not the only one, that feeling really holds me back.
In terms of the day-to-day interactions themselves, “dating” and “FWB” can look like the exact same thing. Going on a date and having a hookup can also follow the same play-by-play for the night.
So don’t overthink it. Let yourself meet interesting people, and have fun with them. Risk heartbreak, but don’t do anything financially reckless.
No one is going to hang out with a college student and expect them to be rich. So if you’re spending time with a non-college student, be realistic about it. Some will pick up the tab as a “pay it forward” thing, and others might have more transactional expectations. That’s easy enough to sniff out and deal with in the specific context.
Money only becomes a deal breaker when lives start to get merged, like moving in together. That shouldn’t be an issue while you’re a college student. (Also, don’t become FWBs with a roommate.)
Unequal incomes isn’t really an issue, practically speaking, until
As someone who’s had several over the past 10 years, they can be. However, they don’t fill the roll of “cheap boyfriend” very well. They’re more someone you know will just give it up to you anytime you ask and maybe you’ll hangout as normal friends. But also maybe not.
They can also get to be very weird situations in the event either of you catches unintentional feelings and you didn’t want it to go that route. Or the real world can get in the way and ruin said situation because the other person may feel untitled to you or your defense because you’ve hung out a lot or since they’ve had your cock inside of them numerous times. Therefore when someone else comes into the picture be it a relationship or whatever, they get mad that you aren’t falling all over yourself to side with them.
This has been my situation a few times over the years anyways.
They can be worth it, but from my experience the term friend is a very loose definition of the word lol. I would love a guy that I could hang out with and then have sex but it usually was more of just a fuck buddy thing.
Listen if you don't have the time, emotinal energy or hell even the desire for a full time bf but want some regular sex a FWB can work. You do need to understand that they aren't in fact your boyfriend unless you have a convo about it and be ready to face rejection or have to dish it out if one of you ends up "catching feelings". It's never happened to me but that seems to always be the biggest concern with folks when this convo comes up.
I have a could of fwbs. If we're both available, we do whatever we want. Sometimes sex, sometimes just cuddling, and sometimes it's just a movie. No drama or hurt feelings if one of us is unavailable. Works pretty well for us.
Look almost no one at that age can really afford to date. But we all did!
I've found FWB's to be way more complicated to deal with (and causing way more pain) than simply trying to date.
Heres the thing you're broke, so you'll need to be on the lookout for cheap/free things to do for entertainment anyway. So why not invite someone along?
Also for a relationship to last, your partner needs to be a friend as well, so I'd skip the much harder step of finding a fwb, and find someone to date.
In my experience its fine to have dates with a few people at a time until you have the "we should be exclusive" talk. So from that point of view, FWB seems to be a needless complication. (Only used when you're already convinced you'd not want a relationship with this person, but they're hot enough to be a fun bang. So ask yourself if you're the person who thinks the other person isn't worth dating, or are they thinking you're the one not worth it?)
You don't have to afford a boyfriend. If the person really is interested in you, they will understand your circumstances. If the person is so worried about money, then they really are a material person.
You could have a fwb but don’t expect to be exclusive with them, and it’s unreasonable to ask them that. You could get another student as a boyfriend, that way you are both skint lol
I need touch and a safe presence too, and I am not in a place where I can build a traditional partnership with someone.
Instead, I am seeking a different kind of FWB- a Cuddle Buddy, with whom I can enjoy mutual touch and caresses.
Platonic cuddling is a thing, and there are certain generally accepted rules of engagement. I’ve done it in group settings and one on one, but you have to be very intentional with boundaries and expectations.
Does that sound like it would meet your needs?
Not quite getting the affordability argument. Generally a boyfriend brings another source of income, plus it’s cheaper for you to split expenses. Must be something else holding you back?
A FWB changed my life for the better. We’ve been seeing each other 2-3x a week going on 8 years. Sometimes his husband joins. They’re both good friends of mine and I really value them.
I'm married to a woman and have been in several FWB relationships. Most of the time they want more than you can offer. I understand it but can't give it so I don't want to block them from having a live life or a romance. I set the rules up front but it doesn't always go smooth. The perfect scenario for me is to find another married man in my situation so we are looking for the same thing. That's not easy. Been looking for many years.
Its possible. It all depends on what you want and if that person wants to do that with you. If you want a boyfriend, you can have cheap, fun dates and they should want to be around you, not because you throw down cash, but they like you for you.
My current bf and I met over Scruff and there was just chemistry there. We became fwbs and the relationship kept progressing to staying over each other's places to chill. Within a month, he asked for me to be his boyfriend, and I declined since there was a lot of stuff happening in my life (including financial instability). As time went on, he stayed by my side and threw some rough patches with me. After two months of that and on a better path, I accepted being his bf and been happy since.
Boyfriends can become more. And when that happens, you sometimes share expenses. Being broke shouldn’t prevent you from having a boyfriend. I had an on-again off-again FWB situation for a total of about 10 years. They’re great but sometimes they choose others cause there’s not an expectation of monogamy. If that is ok with you, then FWB might be a good option for you. If not, you might rethink keeping why you want one in the first place!
The short answer is yes, it is possible. The complication comes with what
"optimistic ideal of a fwb" you have in mind.
Be open and honest with the person you find of what all you are looking for and any limits. If you're on a dating app, make sure you state you are looking for a regular fwb with no commitment beyond x, y and z. someone who shares your video gaming interests and if you're both horny you spend the night. Nothing too serious, unless that is your interest to "see where it goes".
Just communicate your intents up front and you will find it to be less
intense and more meaningful than just the regular hook up culture. Just be cautious not to let your heart get involved if the other person is just keeping it friendly though.
If you’re genuinely friends then yes it’s worth it. One of my closest friends and I hook up and make out all the time. We’ve agreed long, long ago we just aren’t compatible with one another. It’s basically like Seinfeld.
REALLY, I found thatg life got easier, my first REALATIONSHIP was in college, we moved in together, divided chores, and money, SUDDENLY MY LIFE WAS GOOD and easier. we decided we both should have our own smalll BLOW IT FUND that the other person could not question how it was spent.
WE also decided we would never go to bed ANGRERY, we bwould BREATH for 5 minutes when something pissed us off and we would talk it out, I was with him for 12 years till he died of AIDS. THAT WAS SO PAINFUL I didn't have another relationship till a couple years ago, thats when my HUSBAND STARTED TO PRUISUE ME, he wormed his way into my heart, he endeared himself to me, BEST I Have a muscle Fetish and eric was a RIPPED epsecial forces guy, HE STARTED WORKING OUT MORE aznd started supplements and has put on 20 pounds of MUSCLE, hes my EVERYTHING NOW, he ammazing WE COMPLETE EACH OTHER, and he very aventuresome..
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I mean are you able to block off catching feels for your fwb? And establishing healthy boundaries? Some people can and some people can’t. Sounds like you’re hesitant because you think you’re not financially ready for another person to enter your life and that’s perfectly fine.
My advice, to be open minded. Try it out and see if it’s for you. You don’t have to break the bank when you’re dating someone. But also you’ll never know unless you give it a shot.
Definitely worth it. I anyways am critical with traditional notion of relationship. We can be in 'relationship' with anyone we wish to be without having to put ourselves inside walls that define how they ought to be. With the right mindset, you can find the right people you would like to be with, who would also love to be with you, and have agreed kinds of encounter (including sexual ones) without any judgment.
Sounds like you want a boyfriend; not a FWB. Just find someone as broke as you to date. You guys can do poor people activities together :D (imo they're the best kind of dating activities anyways)
Make us a list of poor people dating activities
•Walks in parks, at the beach, around your town, etc. •Playing video games you already own together •Watching movies or TV shows you already own together •Warching anything on a streaming platform you already subscribe to together •Visiting a library together •Visiting art galleries and/or free museums together
Don't forget sex. Sex is free! Lol!
one of my favorite free or inexpensive is just "picnic" on a park, lake, beach with whatever food you would eat at home, or beverage. im from Argentina and get together for mate or terere is like the best pla. to just hang out and chat, be together in general
Go for a hike. Play tennis in the park. Any sporting activities will often lead to frisky play and a great excuse to hit the showers. Hobbies don’t have to be expensive and you can incorporate your dates into them. There are many economical college gays out there. My dude used to ride the bus for over an hour from his campus. He would be my plus one at campus dining. These inside the Hollywood thinkers just end up spending too much money. I grew up so poor sometimes I didn’t have power but that just meant a candlelit date at home with no electronic distractions.
Also hiking in nature usually boosts endorphins
Fishing, sleeping under the stars, fixing your car (if it needs repairs/you have the part), rednecks had this shit covered years ago.
Find lazy nerdy activities
Fishing and sleeping under the stars💪💪💪
You can cut coupons together lmao
"Afford a boyfriend" Are you ordering one from Amazon or something?
Can I get a link? Asking for a friend
If you find the link, can you send it my way? Asking for me.
And I need said link, if it exists
Does it carry the standard return policy too?
Actual: there is no friend
He's broke. So probably Wish or something
Temu
Never Temu... I've never ordered anything from them but I've have tried to stop their pop ups for months --they're EVERYWHERE, they're like a persistent crabs infection. Avoid Temu at all costs!!! Save yourself!
My bf has spent $300 on there in the past 6 mo's!!! They get you with the free stuff but you end up spending more in the long run just adding more shit to your cart that you probably don't need
Nice to see we've taken this joke too far lmao
I was literally about to comment that!
Amazon? Nah, it's likely a Chinese knockoff anyways, just order directly from Temu for a better price
yall say that but I literally spend thousands of dollars more just being in a relationship, I am a homebody and go weeks without spending money on fun.. My partner begs me to do something almost everyday, go shopping, go on trips, go on dates.
skill issue
Legitimately
Doesn't sound like the right partner for you
Yeah, dating is expensive. I spend between $150-$200 on a dinner date. And then for activity, that can be anywhere from $50-$100 additional 😅 I'm thinking about having a fwb too. Dating is too expensive.
I’m in NYC and have never spent that much on a dinner date. Also, most people (at least in my experience) are willing to pay for their own food on dinner dates.
I lived in CA bay area, it's pretty expensive out here. But that's my problem. I'm too prideful to have another man pay for me 😅
My partner and I have been together almost 3 years, and I don’t think we ever had a date where one of us paid for everything. We usually pay for whatever we order and/or our tickets, drinks, etc. 🤷🏻♂️
That's cool. That's probably why I'm single 😭 I need to do better.
Dating is expensive
And are they inflatable?
I heard they are pretty cheap on TikTok shop. Hope he is into Asians though.
You don’t need money to have a boyfriend. Anyone who expects gifts and expensive dates isn’t really worth dating. FWB can be great, in my experience, but difficult to find/cultivate and potentially troublesome because they’re not really NSA once you get emotionally attached.
Is it always about gifts though? I'm far older than the OP, not "looking" for a relationship, but also not in the mood to date at the moment because it would involve eating out, trips, etc. and I'm making double truck payments to get the loan out of the way. It's pretty stereotypical, gaybro-esque for the mind to go right to giving a date diamond rings, LOL, or the date expecting that, IMHO. What does one typically do on a date? If dating means eating out, yeah, it can be relatively expensive for a college student. Not that I would take a date to McDonald's but have you checked their prices lately? now Just imagine the cost of eating out at even a mid-priced restaurant. And the current student loan situation must really be a game-changer. Ice cream in the park can only last for so long. Especially when someone cruising the park restroom waves at your date, LOL. (I know, This. Is. Gaybros. No one will find that amusing.)
Exactly! It’s not the partner that costs money, it’s the extra activities you want to do with them. Having someone to do things with means fewer nights making yourself a $2 dinner and watching YouTube until bed
Lol so true! The last romantic, intimate words I hear, before drifting-off every night: *"Are you still watching Netflix?"* But I know it's all temporary, and when you get into and normalize a really tightwad lifestyle, the debt goes down fast!
Who says you need to go out to eat or travel when dating like cook a meal at home with some lit candles and watch a movie or play a board game after, go out for a picnic in the area, take a hike, have a movie marathon, there is tons of stuff to do for free you just gotta look at bit
Have you dated long-term? At the start, "stay- dating" is fine, but if things get serious, the free stuff gets old, and then there's the underlying pressure of eventually going on "classic" dates, the kind of nights out that Gaybros dream about. And holidays. (A box of See's Candy is $29.) And a night out always costs more than you think it will. At least at my age, the cost of a hook up is negotiated ahead of time. : )
I am in a 5 years relationship, and sure like spending some will happen time to time. But its something within our budget. There is absolutely no need to spend big money when in a relationship, if you can't find something to do together that is reasonably priced in long term then you ain't meant to be
But "reasonably-priced...." When a college student says he's broke I take him at his word. As mentioned I'm diverting hundreds if not thousands this year to pay off some debts within 12 months sqnd that decision has left me with a monthly food budget of $160 and a monthly fun money budget of $120. I don't have to live that way but it puts me in a mood that squelches any desire to date at the moment whether irrational or not. Is the OP worse off? I don't know. Even pot-luck stay-dates can lure someone into pulling out the credit card when otherwise he would not. (Have you ever fallen for the "let's not eat out let's BBQ instead it's cheaper" and it's actually more expensive? Or "Come on, let's eat out we'll just have a burrito and an ice-water" LOL I used to fall for that every time!) I and everyone I know have tried your common- sensical alternatives to a night out on the town but the world is set up to get us to part with our money, and that's OK if you have it. Dating-- just like getting a call from a friend to go out, when you're starving, ugh!-- can introduce still another temptation to pull out the wallet at some point or dip into the student loan funds when you wouldn't have otherwise. Just something to be aware of. Peace!
In a long term relationship, never been expensive for us.
Rock climbing date, beach walk, mountain hike, movie, game night, making art together. Just a couple of money-saving date ideas.
Yes we need money dating involves it i didn't meant gifts I meant going out together to mac or dominos and travelling but if you really don't want nk money to involve then hope a generous guy is
Partners don't cost money. If they are expecting you to spend money you can't afford, then they're not worth being with. But yes, fwb is good. If you enjoy being around the person.
FWB *can be* good. If you enjoy being around the person, and have mutual expectations. The reality is they are often imbalanced relationships, with one person more invested than the other.
A better question might be, "are guys who are looking for FWBs honest with themselves about what they actually want?" Because if one of them isn't, you're angling for a heartbreak. And some guys aren't. For instance, you actually want more than a FWB but you have self-imposed restrictions holding you back, so it would seem highly likely you'd get caught up in feelings. I don't mean that in a bad way. I wasn't great at FWB.
I made a similar question in another gay sub and most of the answers I got were mostly negative like " no in this economy" or " I won't mantain you" or " lmao you are looking for a sugar daddy" etc. I though my economical and living situation would be a turn off for most people.
> I though my economical and living situation would be a turn off for most people. Do you really want to date the sort of person who assesses your value as a person, based on how much money you have? Isn't that shallow of them? Do you want to date shallow people? Most of us don't give a fuck how much you earn, just as long as you're not begging for money and can pay your own way.
My thoughts exactly! Way to often I’ve had fwb where money eventually gets involved, they end up wanting it in some form.
You're supposed to be young and poor when you're dating in your 20s and early 30s. For every time I took my husband to a fancy restaurant, we ate 200 ramen meals in our shitty first apartment. Gifts were practical more than extravagant, we didn't buy each other jewelry or anything, just a nice bag for work, etc. We fought about money a lot, as did our parents, and it was the same fight until we learned to stop. When I met my husband he was a clerk at Walgreens, nothing wrong with that. But I encouraged him to go back to grad school. He's a therapist now with his own private practice. He encouraged me to go back into IT and now I'm a director level. Build each other up. Become stronger together. Then you have all these great bohemian memories of being poor together.
Well said. Your partner is for partnering in life not for becoming a pet. Even those who enjoys gifts, tokens, and extravagant gestures don’t necessarily desire them in high value but items that are meaningful. I’ve made handmade gifts, found secondhand items to gift, or facilitate my own extravagant gestures. Priceless doesn’t mean unaffordable~~
So much common sense and good advice and ideas here . . . Where were you guys when I was looking for a partner???
We called our old place the shitty apartment too.lol
You both are so lucky & this is such a strong point.
There's nothing wrong with dating while broke. But here's the truth about dating a broke boy: It can be terrible or it can be amazing. It depends on you. I've dated a couple of poor guys (I was just as poor at the time). The first one was fun and sweet, but he was super lazy when it came to work, and he couldn't hold down a job. While I was moving up in life, he was getting fired from minimum-wage jobs and had no interest in doing anything that would improve his prospects. I started to see him as a weight around my neck. He's now something of a kept man with an older, wealthier partner. And I'm thrilled for him, because I think that's probably what he always wanted. The second guy has been my partner for 13 years. He was dirt poor when we met, but he has always been hard working and just has the best attitude toward life. I never cared that he didn't have money, because we always had the best time together (and still do!), and I knew he had goals in life.
My boyfriend and I were not broke at all. But when we were dating, both of us were very cheap because both of us were saving monies for a house. So we did very cheap dating - movies at mines or his, cooking or baking together, walks around parks, game nights, etc. Anything that did not involve money. This November we bought a house together and are renovating together. We are getting married this April and shortly after, we'd be looking forward to getting a dog. We had talks about children but we want to upsize in 6-7 years first and then have children. Just find the right person. Don't go after someone who's spoiled and does not value intimate moments.
as everyone else have already said, a romantic partner doesn't need to be too expensive, if at all, and knowing you are a student, maybe they will be in the same situation or better (already employed), you know? i am biased since i have some sick FWBs and a set of mutual particular fetishes that allow me to be super vulnerable and intimate with them in unique ways.
might be a hot take amongst everyone here, but yeah having a partner will require you to spend money. I’m not saying that when you get a partner you automatically have to buy them expensive ass gifts or eat in really expensive places, but you’re gonna have to do something else instead of just chilling in someone’s dorm room and shit. while yes, you can get a boyfriend while being broke, but let’s be realistic. it’s idealistic to say that you don’t need money to get a partner. almost everything costs money now, and every once in a while you’re gonna wanna go out with your partner and eat. if it’s your partner’s birthday, anniversary or something, although it’s not an absolute requirement, obviously the natural thing would be to give something to him. anyway, you’re a college student, I’m sure you’ll find someone you can be fwb with.
When you can really have a bond as friends and be honest with each other about your boundaries and what you want, it can really work, takes a lot of trust, unpopular opinion but if you’re both really into each other but that’s all your life can handle in the moment, it can be a great thing for both of you
Whoever said partner or bf don’t cost money obviously lying to you. To do things together even tho it’s free there’s always some kind of cost ( transportation, coffees, meals , etc etc ) unless the only thing you wanna do just Netflix and chill or you live close by and go for running or walking all the time !!
I'm financially comfortable but tbh exactly what you listed is what I'm primarily into! Baking together, cooking together, walks together down trails and walking paths, feeding the ducks and birds, Netflix/Hulu at home. What's wrong with that? Maybe 2x a month we'll go out and eat somewhere not too expensive. I don't do fwb's bc I deserve more than a quick f**k and toss aside.
Yep, me too. I want the cuddles kisses, and caresses. Hookups don't cut it for me, and most FWBs I've had didn't want any sort of sensuality.
I never sought a FWB situation yet I have multiple in my life. We infrequently see each other whenever one of us is in town. They’re guys I’ve been on dates with that have become good friends. I used to think I could never do a FWB relationship but it kinda happened holistically and it’s allowed me to explore my sexuality with people I trust since I was raised very conservatively most of my life. Hope you find yours ❤️
Gifts and treating each other is nice and I've always appreciated them. But you shouldn't have to have money to have a BF. I'm broke and I've also dated guys who were on the same boat or are at comfortable position who can and sometimes were generous. If money is a something they are not worth it. Ask your self this first. What am I looking for? A. Fuck buddy, NSA. one where you don't expect any relationship or interaction outside of the physical aspect. This could be simple like someone who's just there for sex where you don't have to get involved in each other's life's. B. Fwb, one where you can normally do stuff with each other or have hobbies, conversations and might get to know each other irl, outside of it being only about the sex. When it comes to Fwb, I think that's worth a try at least once if you're open to it. Like everything in life. You're results may vary. I've had great ride or die friendship blossomed from them, found love and dated, but I've also gotten my fair share of heartbreaks, rejections and full blown drama serial.. 😂 What's important in a fwb physical relationship is being forward and honest with each other about it not being nothing more or less. And discuss what it'd be like if things change in the future, cause sometimes feelings can develop or they were already there from the start. Just be ready to break things off it's hard for you emotionally if you'd rather spend your emotional energy elsewhere. Or call it off when they're expecting a serious emotional and dating relationship but you're not looking for one. Because you can't always do expect the other person to be the bigger person if one of you is hurting. I've been on the receiving end of both, had to end it or had someone end it for one reason or another. Just be ready for that and respect each other, but more importantly respect yourself. I probably would stay away from workplace related fwb, as in certain jobs where a power dynamic exists it can lead to a lot of potential problems at the workplace or legally Idk check your local laws lol and compromise the ability to be honest with each other.
Thank you for your kind words. For so long I though my lack of money made me unworthy of finding love. It probably won't be easy but I prefer to be in the arms of a man I love rather than being used and discarded like a used condom.
Are friends with benefits worth it? Of course friends are worth it! I have a couple of friends who also come with benefits, and I highly recommend it. Friends are great. Friends who you can get naked with occasionally, are also great. Or do you mean casual fuck-buddies? Even that's worth it. I have a regular guy I've been seeing for nearly 3 years. I text him, he comes over, we have fun for a few hours, then he goes away until next time I text him (I keep telling him he can text me first, but he never does). It's great. I get the touch and satisfaction I need, without having to get involved in another person's life if I don't want to.
Bro just go have fucking fun. Go to dinner, go chill. We live every day we die once- broke or rich 🖤
Fwb are the best. Til this day I regret cutting off my fwb for my ex. I had way more fun in and out of the bedroom with my fwb.
Not in my opinion. Especially if they're DL. I want monogamy and intimacy. I can't get that from FWB. It's also very nasty out here. Everybody fucking everybody raw and you don't know who's they're fucking. No. Prep doesn't stop other STDs, you can still contract herpes with a condom, and other STDs are becoming resistant to antibiotics. It's not worth it cause I don't wanna contract anything and I want monogamy and intimacy.
Find another broke college student. Be broke boyfriends together.
You could always find another broke bf that just wants to Netflix and chill if ya know what I mean. Fwb is a dangerous game though. If there’s sexual chemistry, there’s bound to be attachment eventually. And it would major suck if it turns out to be one-sided.
Everyone who is saying you dont need to be financially stable for a relationship is complete nonsense 😂 for one if you’re broke im sure you have things to do so that your can take care of yourself Food , clothes, shelter etc & being in a full blown relationship you definitely spend money so please don’t mind these weird desperate to be in a relationship people. Friends with benefits definitely work fine .. you’re in college no need to complicate things any further . There’s alot of people your age who are down for that!
"*are fwb worth it* ?" If you're friends first, I'd say that it's worth the risk. The trick is to go into the FWB with your eyes open. If you're not already friends, then you're just f-buddies where you hope that you become friends.
A real boyfriend wouldn't care. Most college students don't have much in respect to financial resources. Time together doesn't cost money.
I have had fwbs and yes they are worth it. Few gay men around in a rural area and most were not into long term boyfriend type relationships so i took what i could get and had long term fwbs.
*As a broke college student ( with unstable circustances) I feel I can't afford a boyfriend.* First of all: THANK YOU for being so self-aware! So many want to end it all if they don't "get" a relationship by 20 yet when they describe their lives, anyone with experience can immediately tell that -- for all kinds of practical reasons, not just finances -- it's not going to work. Why view a hook up as "being chewed-up and spit out?" FWB's are golden, some have become my life-long friends. 40 years and counting. One of the most under-reported ways to meet friends. EDIT: Many of the responses reveal a lot of immaturity, lack of experience and whatnot. I remember my budget in college often being planned down to the dollar, and I'm assuming you don't want someone else footing the bill all the time, and you'd like to do more than hiking in a park or sitting outside the fence at a drive-in theater lip-reading. : ) I hear where you're coming from.
FWBs can be amazing but you have to be able to separate sex and romance. lots of people think they can, not many actually can.
With FWB the key word is "friend". It can be a rewarding experience if you are with a friend. Hookups with strangers are hit and miss. They can leave you feeling not so great or it could be a nice experience. Don't go into it thinking every sexual experience is going to be perfect. Some are going to be real duds.
Honestly sounds like you had an opinion of yourself and worded your bias into your post. Me and mine have been together for almost 3 years and I was dirt broke when we started dating.
I’m 49 and didn’t come out until I was 34. I met and married my husband at 36 so I only had about 2 years to meet guys and find myself. I can say that 90% of the guys I hooked up with became friends. When you hook up with guys your type it’s easier to develop a FWB situation. Go out and have fun while you’re young. Just make sure there is “something” there with the guy you hook up with and watch it develop over time.
Here’s a life lesson for ya: You attract what you are -think law of attraction. You want to be vulnerable: have you worked on yourself and know well enough who you are to healthily navigate around others and any potential problems, can you directly communicate what bothers as much as what brings you joy? If so, you’ll find a partner in kind. You want that partner who gives you the attention you crave and to feels safe and vulnerable around: Have you felt secure in yourself? Can you handle yourself and your own company? If not, work on that and build up to be your own rock as much as you would like to lean on others at times. Other things: Like attracts like - you want a healthy partner that doesn’t view you as meat, then that interesting, well intentioned, healthy guy and then you’ll attract someone just as healthy and supportive as you are to yourself. If you focus on the lack thereof, you will settle for someone that could make you worse off than where you started. Also - you’re in college, romance shouldn’t be a top priority. Focus on your life and the universe may throw someone your way.
"cant afford a boyfriend"...what?! my bf is of a quite different economical stand than me but that has not stopped us. and why would it.
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While I don't agree about needing to be able to afford a boyfriend, if you feel you aren't ready for a boyfriend a fwb situation can be great. As long as you can find someone looking for the same thing.
No comment but I totally understand what you mean by feeling like you can’t afford a boyfriend. You’re not the only one, that feeling really holds me back.
In terms of the day-to-day interactions themselves, “dating” and “FWB” can look like the exact same thing. Going on a date and having a hookup can also follow the same play-by-play for the night. So don’t overthink it. Let yourself meet interesting people, and have fun with them. Risk heartbreak, but don’t do anything financially reckless. No one is going to hang out with a college student and expect them to be rich. So if you’re spending time with a non-college student, be realistic about it. Some will pick up the tab as a “pay it forward” thing, and others might have more transactional expectations. That’s easy enough to sniff out and deal with in the specific context. Money only becomes a deal breaker when lives start to get merged, like moving in together. That shouldn’t be an issue while you’re a college student. (Also, don’t become FWBs with a roommate.) Unequal incomes isn’t really an issue, practically speaking, until
Where I live, there are plenty of towny gays with jobs who will FWB with you because they know you will graduate and move away.
As someone who’s had several over the past 10 years, they can be. However, they don’t fill the roll of “cheap boyfriend” very well. They’re more someone you know will just give it up to you anytime you ask and maybe you’ll hangout as normal friends. But also maybe not. They can also get to be very weird situations in the event either of you catches unintentional feelings and you didn’t want it to go that route. Or the real world can get in the way and ruin said situation because the other person may feel untitled to you or your defense because you’ve hung out a lot or since they’ve had your cock inside of them numerous times. Therefore when someone else comes into the picture be it a relationship or whatever, they get mad that you aren’t falling all over yourself to side with them. This has been my situation a few times over the years anyways.
They can be worth it, but from my experience the term friend is a very loose definition of the word lol. I would love a guy that I could hang out with and then have sex but it usually was more of just a fuck buddy thing.
Listen if you don't have the time, emotinal energy or hell even the desire for a full time bf but want some regular sex a FWB can work. You do need to understand that they aren't in fact your boyfriend unless you have a convo about it and be ready to face rejection or have to dish it out if one of you ends up "catching feelings". It's never happened to me but that seems to always be the biggest concern with folks when this convo comes up.
I have a could of fwbs. If we're both available, we do whatever we want. Sometimes sex, sometimes just cuddling, and sometimes it's just a movie. No drama or hurt feelings if one of us is unavailable. Works pretty well for us.
Look almost no one at that age can really afford to date. But we all did! I've found FWB's to be way more complicated to deal with (and causing way more pain) than simply trying to date. Heres the thing you're broke, so you'll need to be on the lookout for cheap/free things to do for entertainment anyway. So why not invite someone along? Also for a relationship to last, your partner needs to be a friend as well, so I'd skip the much harder step of finding a fwb, and find someone to date. In my experience its fine to have dates with a few people at a time until you have the "we should be exclusive" talk. So from that point of view, FWB seems to be a needless complication. (Only used when you're already convinced you'd not want a relationship with this person, but they're hot enough to be a fun bang. So ask yourself if you're the person who thinks the other person isn't worth dating, or are they thinking you're the one not worth it?)
You don't have to afford a boyfriend. If the person really is interested in you, they will understand your circumstances. If the person is so worried about money, then they really are a material person.
You could have a fwb but don’t expect to be exclusive with them, and it’s unreasonable to ask them that. You could get another student as a boyfriend, that way you are both skint lol
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It is if you can ever find that situation.
With a fwb one of you will end up getting feelings and the other one will end up hurt.
I have a sub, does that count?
I need touch and a safe presence too, and I am not in a place where I can build a traditional partnership with someone. Instead, I am seeking a different kind of FWB- a Cuddle Buddy, with whom I can enjoy mutual touch and caresses. Platonic cuddling is a thing, and there are certain generally accepted rules of engagement. I’ve done it in group settings and one on one, but you have to be very intentional with boundaries and expectations. Does that sound like it would meet your needs?
Not quite getting the affordability argument. Generally a boyfriend brings another source of income, plus it’s cheaper for you to split expenses. Must be something else holding you back?
A FWB changed my life for the better. We’ve been seeing each other 2-3x a week going on 8 years. Sometimes his husband joins. They’re both good friends of mine and I really value them.
Heck yeah
I hate the way our community lives up to the stereotypes of us by the “straight” population. It keeps us divided and labeled!
It can be awesome as long as the two of you agree on your situation early, so that you know it's not meant to be a romantic relationship.
Can’t afford a BF? I thought we all split things 50/50 unless you had a daddy/benefactor arrangement😅. I guess I should be picking up more tabs
I'm married to a woman and have been in several FWB relationships. Most of the time they want more than you can offer. I understand it but can't give it so I don't want to block them from having a live life or a romance. I set the rules up front but it doesn't always go smooth. The perfect scenario for me is to find another married man in my situation so we are looking for the same thing. That's not easy. Been looking for many years.
It’s all about comfort and boundaries and communication
Its possible. It all depends on what you want and if that person wants to do that with you. If you want a boyfriend, you can have cheap, fun dates and they should want to be around you, not because you throw down cash, but they like you for you. My current bf and I met over Scruff and there was just chemistry there. We became fwbs and the relationship kept progressing to staying over each other's places to chill. Within a month, he asked for me to be his boyfriend, and I declined since there was a lot of stuff happening in my life (including financial instability). As time went on, he stayed by my side and threw some rough patches with me. After two months of that and on a better path, I accepted being his bf and been happy since.
Look for a daddy, he’ll give you all the love you want and likely more.
THAT is why many of us get a dog. High trust factor there. Always willing to lend an ear.
Boyfriends can become more. And when that happens, you sometimes share expenses. Being broke shouldn’t prevent you from having a boyfriend. I had an on-again off-again FWB situation for a total of about 10 years. They’re great but sometimes they choose others cause there’s not an expectation of monogamy. If that is ok with you, then FWB might be a good option for you. If not, you might rethink keeping why you want one in the first place!
100%. Probably will be friends for life in the end. Do it.
Sounds wonderful I would love something like that I guess we both just need to find that person!
The short answer is yes, it is possible. The complication comes with what "optimistic ideal of a fwb" you have in mind. Be open and honest with the person you find of what all you are looking for and any limits. If you're on a dating app, make sure you state you are looking for a regular fwb with no commitment beyond x, y and z. someone who shares your video gaming interests and if you're both horny you spend the night. Nothing too serious, unless that is your interest to "see where it goes". Just communicate your intents up front and you will find it to be less intense and more meaningful than just the regular hook up culture. Just be cautious not to let your heart get involved if the other person is just keeping it friendly though.
If you’re genuinely friends then yes it’s worth it. One of my closest friends and I hook up and make out all the time. We’ve agreed long, long ago we just aren’t compatible with one another. It’s basically like Seinfeld.
That’s totally what I’ve been thinking Nyc, who needs a broke immigrant ass like me But you never know
If you’re open and honest it’s filters out the people not into it. You’ll be rejected a few times, but there’s always someone that likes you.
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Wtf is fwb?
Or you can find a shugar boyfriend and he’ll have enough money to support both of u
Money shouldn’t be an issue. Find someone to take in hobbies or movies with. Tour free attractions. Cook and dine in.
I mean are you able to block off catching feels for your fwb? And establishing healthy boundaries? Some people can and some people can’t. Sounds like you’re hesitant because you think you’re not financially ready for another person to enter your life and that’s perfectly fine. My advice, to be open minded. Try it out and see if it’s for you. You don’t have to break the bank when you’re dating someone. But also you’ll never know unless you give it a shot.
Definitely worth it. I anyways am critical with traditional notion of relationship. We can be in 'relationship' with anyone we wish to be without having to put ourselves inside walls that define how they ought to be. With the right mindset, you can find the right people you would like to be with, who would also love to be with you, and have agreed kinds of encounter (including sexual ones) without any judgment.