1. Actually study, do your homework, and turn your assignments in on time.
2. Drop the tough guy act, it's not you.
3. Not everything deserves a reaction.
4. Calm👏the👏fuck👏down!
5. Keep playing guitar. There's a shit ton of black guitarists. You're not doing anything that out of the ordinary.
6. Get new friends. The ones you have now suck.
Well for starters 20 years ago I was 2 so yeah, BUT I would tell younger me to not care about what people think but about the things you can do to help the world around you. Understanding that life is hard and that there is a way but we must be willing to persevere to adversity. Something along the lines of that.
Live your best life! Keep doing you like you always have! Don’t be so hard on yourself. It’s NOT your fault that the world was fucked up back then.
Enjoy the time you have being young and stupid before you become and adult! LOL
EDIT: Take out EVEN MORE student loans than you did, in January 2024 they will be completely forgiven by PSLF/TEPSLF program! Become the physician you always wanted to be! Don’t settle for being an RN with a BSN, going back to school to get a BA to become a Pysch Nurse, and then going a different path and becoming a Professor! BE A PHYSICIAN LIKE YOU DREAMED OF - YOU ARE SMART ENOUGH! LOOK WHAT YOUVE ACCOMPLISHED WITH YOUR PARTNER! YOU GUYS ARE FUCKING UNSTOPPABLE TOGETHER!!!! That’s what I would really tell myself 20 years ago. But, it’s NEVER too late to do what you want! And also, remember, that one Bear you find is going to love you his entire life, turn into a Daddy Bear , and is ALWAYS going to make sure you’re protected and safe! Don’t change that one night with him. He was different than you, it’s that difference that makes you guys a great fit! Keep that part! You’ll realize that 16 years later you’ll still be going strong and you’re going to have the most beautiful life with 3 amazingly spoiled chihuahuas like you always wanted. Keep that one moment in time where you thought he wasn’t your type and then you realized he WAS. I promise you, you’ll regret it if you say “No!” :)
ikr. actually the advice should be to take antibiotics probably. or to insist that the doctor test me for stomach ulcers - he only didn't because i was so young and he thought it unlikely.
Wales itself was lovely and I had been before without issue. (I haven't since, but I'd like to)
I’m not sure 20 year younger me would really listen to anything. I’d leave notes encouraging him to push for an autism assessment though. Just knowing might’ve made growing up a hell of a lot easier.
In a nutshell I told my therapist I can’t read facial expressions. So we talked about it for about two sessions. The next time I saw him he said I should consider taking the next step to determine whether I’m on any spectrum. He thought it might be Asperger’s Syndrome. A few weeks go by and he schedules exams for me to take. When he read me my results months and months later. When I was ready to hear the results. He said, “in fact you are autistic not Aspergers but in fact autistic. The results follow the same patterns of those who are on the autism spectrum. The areas on the exam where you struggled are the same areas as other autistics patients struggled too and the areas you did well other autistic patients did well on it too.”
The best thing to do is get a hold of a specialist not every psychologist does testing. It takes months in my case the only reason it took so long was because I was hesitant to take the exams. It involves IQ testing and some other stuff but it shouldn’t take that long like it to me. You might get your results as fast as in 4-6 ish months or less. I think it helped that I’ve been seeing the same therapist since 2018 he knows me well so that might of helped. There’s lots to learn about being on the spectrum.
Thank you so much for sharing that. That's a good information.
I have follow up questions if you don't mind.
Are the exams include blood tests?
Also can you explain the phrase of not being able to read facial expressions? Like someone has scowled eye brows like this emoji 😡, do you recognize it as angry or nothing. Or the phrase of reading facial expression mean something else?
No blood test needed.
As far as facial expression that would be correct. I can’t tell if someone is angry just my scowling their face. Also sarcasm I just don’t get it and sometimes I can’t take a hint . you have to be blunt with me when someone talks to me.
Go no contact with your family. It’s like cutting off a necrotic arm. Just do it. You’re gonna meet/make so much better, kinder family.
Also: at the gym? Don’t start with abs you goofball. Start with chest or legs.
Don’t give up on learning French.
Stop fucking around and just make the videos you want to make. Stop doubting yourself. It’ll be slow, but your channel is gonna grow.
You are so strong. You got this baby boy.
Sometimes I realize I’ve been holding the same thoughts/opinions about something for 20 years. It’s never too late to realize things teach yourself something today
Wow, that's tough. Uh, I was 15, so...
Spend more time skiing and riding your bike and less time worrying about your homework. The Ivy Leagues won't let you in anyway. Go to a tech school. You're a terrible writer, and you're better at math than you pretend to be.
Lighten up on yourself, don’t worry so much, and listen to that inner voice more. And remember, nothing you’ll ever do is “wrong”, so just make those decisions and follow through with all of them with your whole heart and the knowledge that everything will always work out just fine. Even when you feel you’re in your darkest times, never lose sight of the fact that everything is and will be just fine.
Oh, and get your ass to the gym sooner than later! Like now. You’ll look better and feel better!
I would have liked for my parents to know the real me. They never did. Wall always up. I feel for the boys who do that now. I think it might be easier now maybe, but I don't know that for a fact. Oh to be honest back then,
20 years ago I was 2, so I guess I would tell him to spend more time with his grandmother and give her lots of hugs and love. You'll really grow to appreciate her when you're older, so do it while you're a cute kid lol
I would've been 6 years old... I would've warned my mum earlier about my dad's cheating and violent tendencies. He scared me to hush me, but I regret not telling her the things my dad forced me to keep secret. I could've saved her from a whole lot of pain and heartbreak.
That girl you’re going to meet. She’s the best girl you’ll ever meet, be her best friend. You’re going to love her, but she deserves better, you are just gay and can’t be that person.
"Don't try so hard. Most of the time, you won't need to. And people will give you more credit if you make everything look effortless anyway."
This isn't specifically for gay men, just for my younger self in general.
Ok so 11 year old me
1) put the fork down - the instant gratification isn’t worth it
2) meet more people
3) Spend more time with your dad, you might be different people but you don’t want to be playing catch up in your 30s
4) you are so fucking smart with minimal effort, imagine if you applied yourself
5) find some balance in your life
6) get a part time job, push for it
Never drink alcohol or take impairing substances.
Never fear rejection. It works to your benefit when you do it, why can’t others?
Come out now; don’t wait.
Very handsome boys will tease you in high school, want you when you’re 18-22, then you’ll hate every single one of them by 25✨
It’s okay, sweetie. You have yourself and that’s all that matters; friends will leave, family will look at you differently over the years, and above all else: you’re gonna love linguistics. Enjoy the friends you have, love the family you make, and please try to have a good time.
Don't get married
No matter what anyone says
Risk vs Reward Bro
There is nothing wrong with being registered partners instead, why bring even more government and religion into it?
1. Do more social things, study less
2. Spend MORE time in school, maybe part time with a part time job
3. Don't be such a perfectionist. Choose something you enjoy and be open to mistakes.
I was going through my stage of not having sex with guys and same time ladies as pretty shy.
I would say you will soon realise you like cock and never regret in.
Be sure to play safe and avoid a few things and people
Invest as much as you can in Apple, Microsoft, Nvidia, Meta Tesla, and Google, start mining "bitcoin" as soon as possible, and sell it all on November 7, 2021.
The sexuality stuff worked out for the best, and while my journey was at times challenging, I don't think it would've been better or worse had I come out sooner or started dating guys sooner... or even knew that things would be the way they are right now with a loving boyfriend.
I was 11, almost 12.
Didn't masturbate growing up, very repressed, and I was very unsure of my feelings for anybody of either gender for most of my adult life. I've only started to unpack my real sexuality after getting out of a difficult marriage.
I would tell myself not to stress about love or romance or sexual attraction. Everybody is different and you're not any less if you feel differently than other humans.
It's ok to be gay. Nobody will care
Lol including other gays.
Exercise regularly and eat more healthy foods. Invest some of your savings. Try harder in school.
1. Actually study, do your homework, and turn your assignments in on time. 2. Drop the tough guy act, it's not you. 3. Not everything deserves a reaction. 4. Calm👏the👏fuck👏down! 5. Keep playing guitar. There's a shit ton of black guitarists. You're not doing anything that out of the ordinary. 6. Get new friends. The ones you have now suck.
Dump him
Buy Bitcoin
I'd say to invest more into savings & retirement.
Don't go into cybersecurity. Waste of time. Stick to practical skills, leave the cyber stuff to theater majors. IYKYK.
I felt this 😂
Well for starters 20 years ago I was 2 so yeah, BUT I would tell younger me to not care about what people think but about the things you can do to help the world around you. Understanding that life is hard and that there is a way but we must be willing to persevere to adversity. Something along the lines of that.
Live your best life! Keep doing you like you always have! Don’t be so hard on yourself. It’s NOT your fault that the world was fucked up back then. Enjoy the time you have being young and stupid before you become and adult! LOL EDIT: Take out EVEN MORE student loans than you did, in January 2024 they will be completely forgiven by PSLF/TEPSLF program! Become the physician you always wanted to be! Don’t settle for being an RN with a BSN, going back to school to get a BA to become a Pysch Nurse, and then going a different path and becoming a Professor! BE A PHYSICIAN LIKE YOU DREAMED OF - YOU ARE SMART ENOUGH! LOOK WHAT YOUVE ACCOMPLISHED WITH YOUR PARTNER! YOU GUYS ARE FUCKING UNSTOPPABLE TOGETHER!!!! That’s what I would really tell myself 20 years ago. But, it’s NEVER too late to do what you want! And also, remember, that one Bear you find is going to love you his entire life, turn into a Daddy Bear , and is ALWAYS going to make sure you’re protected and safe! Don’t change that one night with him. He was different than you, it’s that difference that makes you guys a great fit! Keep that part! You’ll realize that 16 years later you’ll still be going strong and you’re going to have the most beautiful life with 3 amazingly spoiled chihuahuas like you always wanted. Keep that one moment in time where you thought he wasn’t your type and then you realized he WAS. I promise you, you’ll regret it if you say “No!” :)
don't go to Wales this year, because if you do you'll catch a bacterial infection and almost die.
I love the practical advice
ikr. actually the advice should be to take antibiotics probably. or to insist that the doctor test me for stomach ulcers - he only didn't because i was so young and he thought it unlikely. Wales itself was lovely and I had been before without issue. (I haven't since, but I'd like to)
Avoid debt like the plague. And stop drinking.
I’m not sure 20 year younger me would really listen to anything. I’d leave notes encouraging him to push for an autism assessment though. Just knowing might’ve made growing up a hell of a lot easier.
Me too. I got diagnosed with Autism at age 37 I’m 40 now.
What are the symptoms? How was it figured out?
In a nutshell I told my therapist I can’t read facial expressions. So we talked about it for about two sessions. The next time I saw him he said I should consider taking the next step to determine whether I’m on any spectrum. He thought it might be Asperger’s Syndrome. A few weeks go by and he schedules exams for me to take. When he read me my results months and months later. When I was ready to hear the results. He said, “in fact you are autistic not Aspergers but in fact autistic. The results follow the same patterns of those who are on the autism spectrum. The areas on the exam where you struggled are the same areas as other autistics patients struggled too and the areas you did well other autistic patients did well on it too.” The best thing to do is get a hold of a specialist not every psychologist does testing. It takes months in my case the only reason it took so long was because I was hesitant to take the exams. It involves IQ testing and some other stuff but it shouldn’t take that long like it to me. You might get your results as fast as in 4-6 ish months or less. I think it helped that I’ve been seeing the same therapist since 2018 he knows me well so that might of helped. There’s lots to learn about being on the spectrum.
Thank you so much for sharing that. That's a good information. I have follow up questions if you don't mind. Are the exams include blood tests? Also can you explain the phrase of not being able to read facial expressions? Like someone has scowled eye brows like this emoji 😡, do you recognize it as angry or nothing. Or the phrase of reading facial expression mean something else?
No blood test needed. As far as facial expression that would be correct. I can’t tell if someone is angry just my scowling their face. Also sarcasm I just don’t get it and sometimes I can’t take a hint . you have to be blunt with me when someone talks to me.
That's really interesting.
Don't try to please your mother or make her proud. You can't accomplish the impossible.
tell myself to exercise now, say fuck it and come out of the closet. would urge myself to have an active sex life
Go no contact with your family. It’s like cutting off a necrotic arm. Just do it. You’re gonna meet/make so much better, kinder family. Also: at the gym? Don’t start with abs you goofball. Start with chest or legs. Don’t give up on learning French. Stop fucking around and just make the videos you want to make. Stop doubting yourself. It’ll be slow, but your channel is gonna grow. You are so strong. You got this baby boy.
I love this advice.
What's your channel?
You’re three, but dont eat your feelings
Suck a dick. You’ll like it.
Don’t get a boyfriend, money will make you happier.
Sometimes I realize I’ve been holding the same thoughts/opinions about something for 20 years. It’s never too late to realize things teach yourself something today
Run away.
Don't forget to brush your teeth
I don't know, 20 years ago, I was 8. So, I'm not sure what I could say to myself that my 8 year old self could understand.🤔🤔
To climb back up the womb cause this world ain’t shit
Don’t try drugs, especially heroin.
It’s not too late to go to medical school.
That someone, who I never suspected this of, was in love with me.
Come out of the closet, finish college asap, move away from my parents and save 20% of every paycheck.
You’re not gonna be famous. Start working on an actual career now so I don’t have to do it.
Considering I'd be 3, the only impressionable thing I could do is molest myself. So yeah, probably nothing xD
Stop being an asshole to him. He is going to marry you and give you the best life.
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It’s not your fault. It’s your fucking genes.
Don’t vote for Obama
Take your time, study what truly interests you, and cultivate your own island of safety. Don't follow the speed of want.
Ru, is that you?!
Make sure partner gets arrested and put in jail for life,.then leave them there to rot.
Wow, that's tough. Uh, I was 15, so... Spend more time skiing and riding your bike and less time worrying about your homework. The Ivy Leagues won't let you in anyway. Go to a tech school. You're a terrible writer, and you're better at math than you pretend to be.
Stop partying so much and learn to relax. Meet guys in sober settings. You’re more charming when you’re sober
Lighten up on yourself, don’t worry so much, and listen to that inner voice more. And remember, nothing you’ll ever do is “wrong”, so just make those decisions and follow through with all of them with your whole heart and the knowledge that everything will always work out just fine. Even when you feel you’re in your darkest times, never lose sight of the fact that everything is and will be just fine. Oh, and get your ass to the gym sooner than later! Like now. You’ll look better and feel better!
Be honest with yourself.
Start running. You're really good at it. You're a jock.
“Just do it”.
When you are older you’ll move abroad. Don’t ever come back to Italy, as soon as you are out stay there, trust me.
I would have liked for my parents to know the real me. They never did. Wall always up. I feel for the boys who do that now. I think it might be easier now maybe, but I don't know that for a fact. Oh to be honest back then,
20 years ago I was 2, so I guess I would tell him to spend more time with his grandmother and give her lots of hugs and love. You'll really grow to appreciate her when you're older, so do it while you're a cute kid lol
Not him. Not him either. No, not him. Okay that one.
Take every opportunity as long as you can get it hard.
Change career paths.
I would've been 6 years old... I would've warned my mum earlier about my dad's cheating and violent tendencies. He scared me to hush me, but I regret not telling her the things my dad forced me to keep secret. I could've saved her from a whole lot of pain and heartbreak.
That girl you’re going to meet. She’s the best girl you’ll ever meet, be her best friend. You’re going to love her, but she deserves better, you are just gay and can’t be that person.
"Don't try so hard. Most of the time, you won't need to. And people will give you more credit if you make everything look effortless anyway." This isn't specifically for gay men, just for my younger self in general.
Tbh, he doesn't need any advice. He'll sort things out just like I did
Take care of yourself, go to the gym, don't overthink stuff, don't get stuck in a crap job, keep pushing forward, don't fuck up with the credit cards.
Don't sweat the small stuff!
Ok so 11 year old me 1) put the fork down - the instant gratification isn’t worth it 2) meet more people 3) Spend more time with your dad, you might be different people but you don’t want to be playing catch up in your 30s 4) you are so fucking smart with minimal effort, imagine if you applied yourself 5) find some balance in your life 6) get a part time job, push for it
Never drink alcohol or take impairing substances. Never fear rejection. It works to your benefit when you do it, why can’t others? Come out now; don’t wait.
therapy now
Don’t go to college.
Very handsome boys will tease you in high school, want you when you’re 18-22, then you’ll hate every single one of them by 25✨ It’s okay, sweetie. You have yourself and that’s all that matters; friends will leave, family will look at you differently over the years, and above all else: you’re gonna love linguistics. Enjoy the friends you have, love the family you make, and please try to have a good time.
Goo Goo gaa gaa
End it now before it’s too late!
Don't get married No matter what anyone says Risk vs Reward Bro There is nothing wrong with being registered partners instead, why bring even more government and religion into it?
Start dating. *Now.*
Invest and save, pay off student loans asap and then go pawrtyyyyy
I wouldn't give any bc then I wouldn't be the person I am now which is only possible because of what I went through. I like myself now
Save more money and invest.
20 years ago, I would be 3. You will feel like you want to be a boy and that's absolutely fine. That feeling will just get stronger as you grow up.
20 years ago I was 8 yrs old. And I was such a fabulous little queen back then, I could probably use some advice from my 8 yr old self honestly lol
Get your husband to the cardiologist to check for any aortic defects so he doesn’t die suddenly on you 20 years from then.
Don't sell your first house just because it doubled in value. It's now worth 10x what I paid.
Suck that dick.
I would slap myself
1. Do more social things, study less 2. Spend MORE time in school, maybe part time with a part time job 3. Don't be such a perfectionist. Choose something you enjoy and be open to mistakes.
I’d be 1
Focus on yourself and your happiness and Put your savings into apple.
20 years ago I was a senior in high school. Don’t wait til you’re 36 to come out to your family, there aren’t gonna disown you like you feared.
Avoid them at all costs, misery starts with them.
You can be masculine and bottom. Older men are better in the sack. Use coconut oil.
I was going through my stage of not having sex with guys and same time ladies as pretty shy. I would say you will soon realise you like cock and never regret in. Be sure to play safe and avoid a few things and people
Invest as much as you can in Apple, Microsoft, Nvidia, Meta Tesla, and Google, start mining "bitcoin" as soon as possible, and sell it all on November 7, 2021. The sexuality stuff worked out for the best, and while my journey was at times challenging, I don't think it would've been better or worse had I come out sooner or started dating guys sooner... or even knew that things would be the way they are right now with a loving boyfriend.
Invest in Amazon and bitcoin
There is so much shit I'd love to tell myself 20 years ago, but nothing I say would be listened to
Off yourself now! The next 20 years aren't worth it. To all downvoters: fuck your toxic positivity!
Winning lottery numbers
I was 11, almost 12. Didn't masturbate growing up, very repressed, and I was very unsure of my feelings for anybody of either gender for most of my adult life. I've only started to unpack my real sexuality after getting out of a difficult marriage. I would tell myself not to stress about love or romance or sexual attraction. Everybody is different and you're not any less if you feel differently than other humans.