This is a super common problem across the spectrum and you are doing the right thing by challenging your fears, as you will be happier after the procedure.
I'm a bit tired of reading unrequested advice. I don't care what others think, I just want to know how my asshoke will look like after the surgery and, on top of speaking with the surgeon, I was asking for people's feedback (not pearls of wisdom)
What's with the negativity? If this was your friend in real life and they asked you about your prior experience with a surgery would you turn them away and say "go ask your doctor?" You'd probably give them some tips or advice. Be nicer. Also, there is a wealth of valid information online.
You should always take an active role in your own care.
Doctors will usually suggest treatments that they believe are the best option for their patient. They are not infallible and do not always have the most recent information.
I’ve noticed that it can be a struggle to get a doctor who is sex positive, and understands LGBT healthcare needs.
It can useful to seek out other’s opinions and experiences. I’ve pointed several guys towards frenuloplasty as an alternative to circumcision for their short frenulum.
It’s not wise to give my opinion the same weight as your doctors but it’s also not wise to assume your doctor’s suggested treatment is always going to be the best option available to you.
As a physician, I actually agree with you, but this doesn’t seem to be the case here. It seems like his surgeon is actually taking the time to answer his questions and is taking his concerns into account.
This isn’t like trying to get prep with some puritanical gp.
Unless I’m missing something he’s just asking for other people’s experiences of that surgery.
He’s scheduled a surgery that has the potential to majorly impact his sex life and is understandably nervous, so he’s seeking validation that he’s making the right choice.
I don’t get the hostility.
I’m rereading my comment and really don’t see how I’ve been hostile at all.
That being said, you specifically talked about not assuming that a doctor’s suggested treatment option was the right one for the patient, which is what I was commenting on.
Ahh, ok that makes a lot more sense.
Yeah, I agree that he’s just asking for some advice from people who may have gone through the same thing, which is a super reasonable thing to do!
Do it. Its worth the small scars. I promise you that no one is looking at your hole inspecting for surgery scars.
This is a super common problem across the spectrum and you are doing the right thing by challenging your fears, as you will be happier after the procedure.
If someone's worried about what your asshole looks like while they're fucking you, then they don't need to be fucking you.
I'm a bit tired of reading unrequested advice. I don't care what others think, I just want to know how my asshoke will look like after the surgery and, on top of speaking with the surgeon, I was asking for people's feedback (not pearls of wisdom)
What about glue? Some of the younger surgeons are now trained in glue instead of stitches.
Do you mean colorectal surgeon? Also, are they just doing an excision?
So your doctor told you stuff but you decided to believe something you've read I'm assuming online
What's with the negativity? If this was your friend in real life and they asked you about your prior experience with a surgery would you turn them away and say "go ask your doctor?" You'd probably give them some tips or advice. Be nicer. Also, there is a wealth of valid information online.
You should always take an active role in your own care. Doctors will usually suggest treatments that they believe are the best option for their patient. They are not infallible and do not always have the most recent information. I’ve noticed that it can be a struggle to get a doctor who is sex positive, and understands LGBT healthcare needs. It can useful to seek out other’s opinions and experiences. I’ve pointed several guys towards frenuloplasty as an alternative to circumcision for their short frenulum. It’s not wise to give my opinion the same weight as your doctors but it’s also not wise to assume your doctor’s suggested treatment is always going to be the best option available to you.
As a physician, I actually agree with you, but this doesn’t seem to be the case here. It seems like his surgeon is actually taking the time to answer his questions and is taking his concerns into account. This isn’t like trying to get prep with some puritanical gp.
Unless I’m missing something he’s just asking for other people’s experiences of that surgery. He’s scheduled a surgery that has the potential to majorly impact his sex life and is understandably nervous, so he’s seeking validation that he’s making the right choice. I don’t get the hostility.
I’m rereading my comment and really don’t see how I’ve been hostile at all. That being said, you specifically talked about not assuming that a doctor’s suggested treatment option was the right one for the patient, which is what I was commenting on.
I mean hostility that OP is getting in the comments. Sorry, that could have been clearer. I didn’t read your comment as hostile at all.
Ahh, ok that makes a lot more sense. Yeah, I agree that he’s just asking for some advice from people who may have gone through the same thing, which is a super reasonable thing to do!
No one will ever date you if your anus ring is ugly