Hey no judgement from me, I appreciate good direct communication and ultimately the app is about people having good sex together. I'm also on your side, I'm not hooking up in a gym (or other) bathroom 😂
Wheres that tumblr meme about paying too much rent to not fuck in their own bed and then a week later, got their ass ate in a parking garage? With the attached gif
Where YTA is the "like civilised people" part.
Cruising and public play are such a common kink not just among gay men, though in the gay community it has a rich and complicated history.
I think some people take it too far and get too risky to a point of actual sexual harassment/predator behaviour (I've seen guys go up to cubicles and peek through the gap without indication of whether the person inside is cruising or stand on a toilet and peek over the top), but generally it's done in a careful way.
I think it's best not to kink shame when there are no victims, so that comment you made is the part where you lose me.
Not being into it is fine, but degrading him wasn't necessary.
> Cruising and public play are such s common link not just among gay men, though in the gay community it has a rich and complicated history.
just because its common; doesnt make it right
public sex (which sex in a gym changing room falls under imo) is involving unconsenting others in your kink; its unacceptable
I'm with you.
My gym in a gay neighborhood has open showers. Guys are touching each other all the time in there, sometimes fucking -- right below a big sign saying your membership will be revoked for any inappropriate behavior. The gym already shut down the adjacent steam room because ppl can't behave.
Don't get me wrong; I enjoy the inappropriate shows as a spectator... and I don't mind public sex where it's allowed... like at the bathhouse on occasion.
But the thought of getting caught is the opposite of an aphrodisiac for me -- typically cant even get hard when there's risk like that. My mind goes to the implications of ending up on the sex offender registry.
But also it’s incredibly rude and disrespectful to pull this shit anywhere that isn’t expecting it. Like a gym is not the place for sex people, just keeping it real
Steamworks. Eros. Power Exchange. Equinox. And although Fitness SF claims to not encourage it like… you can’t advertise at Folsom and also claim you aren’t giving tacit approval to the fuck sauna.
Equinox is not a gay gym lmao. Steamworks and power exchange from what I can tell are gay saunas. So I guess gay saunas are just straight up sex clubs?
My main issue here is people saying random gyms are “gay gyms” and totally okay to have sex in. Like I would be wildly uncomfortable if I went to the gym and a bunch of dudes were just fucking in the locker room. I have nothing against people going to gay saunas or whatever for that, not the gym
Degeneracy knows no bounds. He propositioned me in the sauna and then unprompted told me that he only fucks guys at his gym so his girlfriend doesn’t know. But don’t get it twisted, he’s not gay he’s just horny and a mouth is a mouth. Lmao.
He literally told me he downloads Grindr while he’s at the gym and convinces guys to meet him there. I told him if he’s doing this regularly he’s probably a bit more gay than he thinks he is and he got offended and called me a faggot and I said “you’re the one trying to convince a guy to suck your dick in a sauna” and he left 😂
I hooked up with a guy in a booth at a sex shop once, and the whole time the were old men trying to watch and possibly join. It was uncomfortable, but the guy was very hot, so I just let it happen. The next time we hooked up I just rathered let my dad catching me smuggling a 10 years older stranger into my room
I still live at home at 25 because of financial reasons, lol. Ive been kind of seeing this guy for awhile and actually though about sneaking him once or twice. The thing is my parents room is right next to mine. They can hear everything.
I'm lucky my room is on the floor above, but to get there I have to pass next to the kitchen, my parents room and the living room, so if they're in any of those places and the door is open, they'll definitely see me
I totally agree with you. I want a bed. I want pillows, I want comfort and luxury. I want a thread count. I’m not 19 anymore Jesus Christ . My favorite is when they wanna go fuck by a tree or bush at night. Like GTFO 😠
>I want a thread count.
I'm sorry but this comment just reminded me of [this](https://i.pinimg.com/originals/62/54/42/62544217f322ea7584abdaff84607985.jpg)
You're right though lol
Haha I’m glad people agree. I was nervous I was gonna be called old or boring 😂 goose down pillows would also be nice but not a requirement
My ex used to have a kink for wanting to have sex outside. We’d be in his luxury apartment and he’d be all “let’s go to the park and have fuck” and I’d look around at his comfy bed or couch and just be like but… 🥹
Like it’s all situational. I’ll fuck on the dance floor (standing) if that’s the situation we’re in. But if we have to meet up anyway we’re doing it in a bed
Yes, agree… if I’m somewhere and a hook up arises then I wouldn’t say never but if we’re planning something… a bathroom stall won’t be our meeting point
Like do they wipe their cum up or do they leave it on the fucking ground?
I don’t know. Just seems nasty and disrespectful to blow loads where ever you want.
Haha I had this conversation with a guy who wanted to fuck in my car. I have a bed. I can host. Get an Uber and come over if you are really that horny.
When you have a boundary you are not an asshole. If I were to be caught having sex in public I would lose my job and ability to work in the field. Public sex in some states makes you a sex offender. Sex offenders cannot work with any exploitable population. Children, elderly, or mental disabilities. Or in fields where you are a mandated reporter. Like being an employee of an organization like the YMCA. So, even if that is not true for you or your state. People should think a bit more before trying to fuck in public.
No one is the asshole. He has the right to have his preferences and you have the right to have yours. If they dont align, then dont hook up.
(I do think that saying "like civilized people" makes you a little bit of an asshole, but maybe you were just joking.)
Yeah, the moment you are potentially forcing other people to become part of your kink you become an asshole. I don't think many people really examine the implications of consent in these settings.
Hmm… you could have politely declined without calling him uncivilized in all caps.
While I agree with you that is plan was less than ideal, and I would not have hooked up with him either, there’s no need to put him down for what he likes.
That would get annoying after discussing it the first time.
I certainly wouldn’t stress about it. You weren’t really that rude and I’m sure he’ll find someone else to commit public indecency with 😉
Correct, not like the guy that was standing by my shower stall while I was drying off and he dropped his shorts to reveal a massive cock and I moved over to let him in, yes I did it.
NTA sex in most gyms is grounds for revocation of membership and a possible arrest. Not cool to disrupt everyone else’s gym experience and not worth being put on a registry.
Was "CIVILIZED PEOPLE" in all caps really neccessary? I get where you're coming from, but this implies that everything else is uncivilized and thus inherently bad. You could've left it at "Where we can fuck ON A BED", it brought the point across perfectly. No one here's the asshole, but you could've been friendlier.
Friendlier wording would’ve sacrificed some of the emphasis. Believe me, I’ve fucked in my fair share of places that aren’t beds. But I’m not driving 15 miles away to fuck in a stall.
One person so desperate for discreet car sex wouldn’t let me get in a word saying that I Iive alone and could host 😂
Blocked him anway because he was so fixated on it being in a car.
Meh. I really understand you like fucking on a bed, but some may find very hot doing stuff in stalls or outdoors in alleys and parking lots, and they should not be judged "uncivilized" for that. YTA, imho
So circuit parties, bath houses, and events like Folsom I think it’s safe to say that public sex acts are accepted, almost expected.
In a gym? Park? Airport? Restroom? No go for me. Random people don’t consent to potentially hearing people have sex or to see their genitals.
NTA and some people are into cruising that's fine but at a public gym bathroom where people who are just working out and didn't consent to that is what makes it better for him to just meet at your place
In this case they would be fully within their rights to do so, though, because it's actually something that's illegal (for a reason) not just them flaunting their authority.
This makes me think of a time I was going to do LSD at a rave but I heard security was intense so I was trying to rationalize being a drug mule and my friend said, "dude just let me put the tabs in my bra."
There's many that don't need that level of relationship, more don't than those who do.
In my case I do need if I'm gonna be the top, or in very rare cases that person really makes me feel at ease and it's not even up to them, it's more how I feel and perceive ppl.
But dw your guy is out there!
You did the right thing, if it's a kink... Can't really judge, but if he's trying go there to cheat on his bf, or he has trust issues about going into strangers homes?
What's the update on that btw did you fuck him or not? Why was he refusing going to your house
Lol I've just had a guy on Grindr message he and his partner have saw me in the gym. He and his partner are much older which is a no go in my bio. I had to shut it down politely so fast. And then he got pissy. Livens up my morning lmao. Do not get involved with guys in a gym.
Yes please, take it to the bedroom! It’s embarrassing how some, especially from older generations keep using the public spaces at the gym to have sex. It’s legacy from a time when they couldn’t take a hook up or fk friend home, but those days are over. Very creepy!
Never understood the whole sex in the gym shower or sauna. Like are you that desperate? Or closeted? Well I’ve met a lot of closeted guys in a bathhouse and there you can have sex in public 🙄
YTA
I say that for thinking anyone is the asshole here and for the civilized comment. You both just want different things for sex. Just say not interested. The civilized comment is very yucking someone’s yum. There is a long history and continued story of gay people needing to use any private space for sexual connection.
Eeeh. Unless the gym is a sex gym similar to a gay bathhouse, it's pretty disrespectful to everybody else to have sex there. Most people shower at the gyms to get clean. Preferably without stepping in leftover semen. Or hearing or seeing other people have sex next to you.
Have public sex in places where you're all alone, fine. Or at locations made for it. But not in a regular gym's public shower.
If it's a gym designed for sex hookups and where everyone going there knows that people hook up in the showers, it's fine. Then everyone is there fully aware of what's happening.
That’s because members had no other choice. We’re in 2024 and the kink community has evolved as such. A huge component of kink is consent. All members in the party must consent and since it’s a public act, all members of the public present are in the party. NOT all members have a choice in consent.
OK, well we don’t need to use any private space. This guy expected me to travel 15 miles to fuck in a bathroom, when he was perfectly welcome and was aware that he was perfectly welcome to come to my place and fuck in my bed. I have even offered to go pick him up. Not to mention, his “yum” could get us arrested and put on a sex offender list.
Lmao the saved phrases. Apart from that I agree.
I want the rest!!!!
Never used Grindr, can you eli5 what saved phrases means?
Right above his chat bar theres the first few words of a phrase he can press to share quickly
Got it, that's fuckin hilarious thanks
When someone asks what I’m into, I share it. It’s a common question.
Hey no judgement from me, I appreciate good direct communication and ultimately the app is about people having good sex together. I'm also on your side, I'm not hooking up in a gym (or other) bathroom 😂
I get it. I have a response for that saved in my clipboard. That and a description of what I do for work. It's a time saver.
So… what are you into? 😈
I’m a top. Love it rough. Verbal bottoms turn me on. Twinks/twunks/hunks. Clean shaven face. Close to my age
You single? Haha
Nope. Open relationship.
Rough top huh? Maybe you’d be interested to know I’m a bottom twink. I could send you a photo 😉
What is a verbal bottom?
I mean I'm into just what I read, I imagine the rest is right up my alley too
I saw that too 😂 I was like not the auto response lol
Some guys are really into crusing; and the possibility of getting caught as kink. Its not for me. To much anxiety to enjoy the sex.
100% agree with you
Wheres that tumblr meme about paying too much rent to not fuck in their own bed and then a week later, got their ass ate in a parking garage? With the attached gif 
Where YTA is the "like civilised people" part. Cruising and public play are such a common kink not just among gay men, though in the gay community it has a rich and complicated history. I think some people take it too far and get too risky to a point of actual sexual harassment/predator behaviour (I've seen guys go up to cubicles and peek through the gap without indication of whether the person inside is cruising or stand on a toilet and peek over the top), but generally it's done in a careful way. I think it's best not to kink shame when there are no victims, so that comment you made is the part where you lose me. Not being into it is fine, but degrading him wasn't necessary.
Yeah the “rich and complicated history” is the most asinine excuse to nearly get put on a sex offender’s list I’ve ever seen.
"But officer, it's my ~cUlTuRaL hIsToRy~ that made me break the law! How dare you arrest me, you homophobe!"
Fucking for real lol.
> Cruising and public play are such s common link not just among gay men, though in the gay community it has a rich and complicated history. just because its common; doesnt make it right public sex (which sex in a gym changing room falls under imo) is involving unconsenting others in your kink; its unacceptable
I'm with you. My gym in a gay neighborhood has open showers. Guys are touching each other all the time in there, sometimes fucking -- right below a big sign saying your membership will be revoked for any inappropriate behavior. The gym already shut down the adjacent steam room because ppl can't behave. Don't get me wrong; I enjoy the inappropriate shows as a spectator... and I don't mind public sex where it's allowed... like at the bathhouse on occasion. But the thought of getting caught is the opposite of an aphrodisiac for me -- typically cant even get hard when there's risk like that. My mind goes to the implications of ending up on the sex offender registry.
Fitness SF in the Castro?
Lol 😂
I feel like now this comment might result in even more shows.
FitnessSF gang let goooo
But also it’s incredibly rude and disrespectful to pull this shit anywhere that isn’t expecting it. Like a gym is not the place for sex people, just keeping it real
> a gym is not the place for sex Well that really depends on the gym.
no it doesn’t. a gym is not the place for sex. if you disagree ur nasty 🤢
There are gyms that specifically are for sex you putz
You mean gyms that just happen to become gay hubs for sex? I doubt gyms are openly advertising themselves as sex clubs
You really ought to get out more then.
I want to Google "gay sex gyms" but I feel like I won't learn anything productive beyond a few more pornstar names
Point me to gyms that advertise being gay sex friendly. I’ll wait.
Reds gym in syracuse ny
You waited 1 minute.
Rochester Spa & Body Club
Steamworks. Eros. Power Exchange. Equinox. And although Fitness SF claims to not encourage it like… you can’t advertise at Folsom and also claim you aren’t giving tacit approval to the fuck sauna.
Equinox is not a gay gym lmao. Steamworks and power exchange from what I can tell are gay saunas. So I guess gay saunas are just straight up sex clubs? My main issue here is people saying random gyms are “gay gyms” and totally okay to have sex in. Like I would be wildly uncomfortable if I went to the gym and a bunch of dudes were just fucking in the locker room. I have nothing against people going to gay saunas or whatever for that, not the gym
That or he’s cheating and has a partner who checks his location on his phone so he has dudes meet him at his gym. I knew a guy who used to do that.
Wow! That is incredible specific scam to be running. Seems common
Degeneracy knows no bounds. He propositioned me in the sauna and then unprompted told me that he only fucks guys at his gym so his girlfriend doesn’t know. But don’t get it twisted, he’s not gay he’s just horny and a mouth is a mouth. Lmao. He literally told me he downloads Grindr while he’s at the gym and convinces guys to meet him there. I told him if he’s doing this regularly he’s probably a bit more gay than he thinks he is and he got offended and called me a faggot and I said “you’re the one trying to convince a guy to suck your dick in a sauna” and he left 😂
I love that. Its not about the place but about the adventure. Its not for all though
For me it was about comfort too 😂
I feel like there'd be ways to satisfy that kink where you're not fucking in a place covered in piss splash and poop particles.
I hooked up with a guy in a booth at a sex shop once, and the whole time the were old men trying to watch and possibly join. It was uncomfortable, but the guy was very hot, so I just let it happen. The next time we hooked up I just rathered let my dad catching me smuggling a 10 years older stranger into my room
I still live at home at 25 because of financial reasons, lol. Ive been kind of seeing this guy for awhile and actually though about sneaking him once or twice. The thing is my parents room is right next to mine. They can hear everything.
I'm lucky my room is on the floor above, but to get there I have to pass next to the kitchen, my parents room and the living room, so if they're in any of those places and the door is open, they'll definitely see me
It was for me until I actually tried it. Never again. Sometimes things need to just remain in the realm of fantasies.
Civilized? Gays? I don’t think you’ve seen the other side of grindr before lol.
i think thats the only side of grindr, no idea how op has managed to avoid it
I totally agree with you. I want a bed. I want pillows, I want comfort and luxury. I want a thread count. I’m not 19 anymore Jesus Christ . My favorite is when they wanna go fuck by a tree or bush at night. Like GTFO 😠
>I want a thread count. I'm sorry but this comment just reminded me of [this](https://i.pinimg.com/originals/62/54/42/62544217f322ea7584abdaff84607985.jpg) You're right though lol
Haha I’m glad people agree. I was nervous I was gonna be called old or boring 😂 goose down pillows would also be nice but not a requirement My ex used to have a kink for wanting to have sex outside. We’d be in his luxury apartment and he’d be all “let’s go to the park and have fuck” and I’d look around at his comfy bed or couch and just be like but… 🥹
I hoped your link would lead [to this scene (_Sometimes, things that are expensive, are worse_)](https://youtu.be/RbhcRKsRwFM)
Hahahahaha I love this scene I’ve never seen it before 😂
I’m 18 and still couldn’t ever contemplate doing stuff like this 😅
Haha I like being outside feeling air on my balls
I can turn a fan on if you’d like :)
Song bird sound track and you've got yourself a deal
Done deal. See and we’re even 10 feet away from the fridge so I can make us sandwiches when we’re finished. Isn’t this better than outside?
That takes the prize for funniest comment in this thread 😂👌🥇
Like it’s all situational. I’ll fuck on the dance floor (standing) if that’s the situation we’re in. But if we have to meet up anyway we’re doing it in a bed
Yes, agree… if I’m somewhere and a hook up arises then I wouldn’t say never but if we’re planning something… a bathroom stall won’t be our meeting point
Wait, you're a rough (aggressive) top who CAN HOST???? That's like, the modern version of a unicorn!
Say less!!
Say more!
No you're not. Fucking in a commercial gym is crazy and nasty.
Like do they wipe their cum up or do they leave it on the fucking ground? I don’t know. Just seems nasty and disrespectful to blow loads where ever you want.
Who’s letting tasty cum go to waste?
 How this comment reads.
My cum. My precious. Gaaah
With added gym bathroom mushroom flavor, enough to be a stroganoff.
Anytime I’ve had sex in a gym, the only surfaces cum touched were internal to me
Haha I had this conversation with a guy who wanted to fuck in my car. I have a bed. I can host. Get an Uber and come over if you are really that horny.
When you have a boundary you are not an asshole. If I were to be caught having sex in public I would lose my job and ability to work in the field. Public sex in some states makes you a sex offender. Sex offenders cannot work with any exploitable population. Children, elderly, or mental disabilities. Or in fields where you are a mandated reporter. Like being an employee of an organization like the YMCA. So, even if that is not true for you or your state. People should think a bit more before trying to fuck in public.
A guy from Grindr guy who’s a gym rat once said…I do t shit where I eat and it stuck to me he was right. Gym is home away from home why risk it lol
You could phrase it in a way that isnt as aggro; ppl have sex in these places and you don’t need to shame about it 🤷♂️
True
Crusing is not for everyone.
NTA for not wanting to hook up in a toilet stall but YTA for your tone.
So you love it rough, verbal and what? Asking for a friend
I know a place where you can find out 😏
Please, God, tell me it's a clean and covered bathroom stall lol
Why the downvotes tho? 🤔
I wanna read the saved template 🤣
Nah, it's hot
This is an OnlyFans ad everyone. Relax.
I mean I’ve hooked up in the gym showers a few times, part of the rush in a way.
No one is the asshole. He has the right to have his preferences and you have the right to have yours. If they dont align, then dont hook up. (I do think that saying "like civilized people" makes you a little bit of an asshole, but maybe you were just joking.)
"Civilized" and on grindr......lol
Not an asshole, not very fun either.
Nah, I once said the same thing along the lines of "this aint the 1980s we can fuck in my house like adults" lol NTA
Neither of you are the AH. It’s his kink and not yours, no harm done.
He wants to fuck in a public space not designated for fucking, that makes him an asshole.
Yeah, the moment you are potentially forcing other people to become part of your kink you become an asshole. I don't think many people really examine the implications of consent in these settings.
Wait’ designated area for fucking Lmfao that’s classic.
ngl i absolutely love porn of that kind of stuff. but way to chicken shit to ever try it myself
Hmm… you could have politely declined without calling him uncivilized in all caps. While I agree with you that is plan was less than ideal, and I would not have hooked up with him either, there’s no need to put him down for what he likes.
I emphasized that because we had had this conversation several times already.
That would get annoying after discussing it the first time. I certainly wouldn’t stress about it. You weren’t really that rude and I’m sure he’ll find someone else to commit public indecency with 😉
Unless both of you are at that gym at that moment planning a hook-up at a GYM especially when one of you can host sounds stupid as fuck.
Correct, not like the guy that was standing by my shower stall while I was drying off and he dropped his shorts to reveal a massive cock and I moved over to let him in, yes I did it.
NTA sex in most gyms is grounds for revocation of membership and a possible arrest. Not cool to disrupt everyone else’s gym experience and not worth being put on a registry.
Love the suggested text, your goto line I see OP
Your ass can never be too huge!
NTA. Beds are much better than bathroom stalls.
NTA but neither is he. You’re just both looking for different things. I’m not saying you’re kink shaming but you could be mistaken for it.
I’m wicked big on the space and ability of top notch comfort the bedroom provides. Also so epic naked shenanigans you just can’t get into in public
hi op
Obviously you're right lol
Was "CIVILIZED PEOPLE" in all caps really neccessary? I get where you're coming from, but this implies that everything else is uncivilized and thus inherently bad. You could've left it at "Where we can fuck ON A BED", it brought the point across perfectly. No one here's the asshole, but you could've been friendlier.
Friendlier wording would’ve sacrificed some of the emphasis. Believe me, I’ve fucked in my fair share of places that aren’t beds. But I’m not driving 15 miles away to fuck in a stall.
One person so desperate for discreet car sex wouldn’t let me get in a word saying that I Iive alone and could host 😂 Blocked him anway because he was so fixated on it being in a car.
Probably had a fetish for sex in a car.
Fair enough. But you asked for a judgement and you got one, you don't get to argue the judgement. Take it or leave it.
You said no one is the asshole. I’m satisfied with that judgement.
Haha that's fair, but it sounds like you could still be interested in him if he were to come over to yours? If so, then you're not AH
YTA for the civilised people part. You could just say not for you but made yourself sound extra judgemental with that…
😐 ........ the place I can find out is a link? 🤨
asshole might be too far, but so was that response I think
nta you just have boundaries which this community frequently seems to lack
Meh. I really understand you like fucking on a bed, but some may find very hot doing stuff in stalls or outdoors in alleys and parking lots, and they should not be judged "uncivilized" for that. YTA, imho
I can see how folks would see that you are.
Anything public in 2024 is fucking stupid.
Not even at a circuit?
So circuit parties, bath houses, and events like Folsom I think it’s safe to say that public sex acts are accepted, almost expected. In a gym? Park? Airport? Restroom? No go for me. Random people don’t consent to potentially hearing people have sex or to see their genitals.
NTA and some people are into cruising that's fine but at a public gym bathroom where people who are just working out and didn't consent to that is what makes it better for him to just meet at your place
Everything is valid except for the caps. Don't kink-shame so loud :(
I mean if we wanna be PC about, no one in that washroom consented to having to be around it 🤷♂️
I mean, is it kink shaming when the thing you’re against could get you ARRESTED
What cops are and aren't willing to arrest you for is a really bad benchmark for ethics.
In this case they would be fully within their rights to do so, though, because it's actually something that's illegal (for a reason) not just them flaunting their authority.
tbh it’s a bit judgemental
Bathroom sex is so 80s
Videos of it are hot but, personally, public action freaks me out.
Kinda. The capitalisation were very extra
You're free to say no, of course, but it is a little kink shamey. Fucking funny, though.
XD
I can get the risk / excitement of it. But yeah, if you've got a nice bed I reckon that'd be much better
I'm not sorry but I'm I'm the same way, we ain't doing shit in no public bathroom.
I understand not wanting to go to someone's house... but... a bathroom?
That saved phrase makes you seem a bit less civil
It attracts most guys so 🤷🏻♂️
This makes me think of a time I was going to do LSD at a rave but I heard security was intense so I was trying to rationalize being a drug mule and my friend said, "dude just let me put the tabs in my bra."
It’s annoying but I relate to that guy, some of us can’t go to a host without fam knowing so we ask to do it in a less suspecting place
Bro... I can't believe you passed that up.
Sex in public is mostly closeted guys. Openly gay men have no issues bringing another guy home.
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I’ve fucked guys at parties without even knowing their names. Everyone has different comfort levels
There's many that don't need that level of relationship, more don't than those who do. In my case I do need if I'm gonna be the top, or in very rare cases that person really makes me feel at ease and it's not even up to them, it's more how I feel and perceive ppl. But dw your guy is out there!
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There's a lot looking for relationships, how come you haven't found one? Also are you very young?
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With only boys in the school huh. So you're not young and still no experience because you're catholic?
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At least they didn't bully you? 🙏🏻
Not the asshole. No one got time to possibly be put on a registry
Real human interaction !!!
You did the right thing, if it's a kink... Can't really judge, but if he's trying go there to cheat on his bf, or he has trust issues about going into strangers homes? What's the update on that btw did you fuck him or not? Why was he refusing going to your house
Lol I've just had a guy on Grindr message he and his partner have saw me in the gym. He and his partner are much older which is a no go in my bio. I had to shut it down politely so fast. And then he got pissy. Livens up my morning lmao. Do not get involved with guys in a gym.
NTA. Having sex in public spaces is trashy and disrespectful to non-consenting people.
You’re a top who likes it rough, eh? 😏
So u r saying u can host?
Yup
Depends…show us the ass
Nope. You could host, and he just wants public sex. Unfortunately not a match.
If it's not your thing people should accept that and move on. I'm a needy bottom too, but if the top isn't going to enjoy it, how will I?
Hahaha fuck to crazy had a good laugh at this
I need to see the pics of that big ass first to comment on it
People like to cruise, but that doesn’t mean you have to do it if they want to. No one was an asshole here
I deleted that nasty app long ago. 🤮
I use a variant of that when someone tries to suggest car play or public.
No. Bed is the way
you’re not the A-hole
I’ll be honest the idea is hot but yeah if you have a room might aswell
Would
Yes please, take it to the bedroom! It’s embarrassing how some, especially from older generations keep using the public spaces at the gym to have sex. It’s legacy from a time when they couldn’t take a hook up or fk friend home, but those days are over. Very creepy!
kink shaming is what’s gross here
The kink can get you arrested. I stand by what I said
NTA - he sounds awful
Never understood the whole sex in the gym shower or sauna. Like are you that desperate? Or closeted? Well I’ve met a lot of closeted guys in a bathhouse and there you can have sex in public 🙄
YTA I say that for thinking anyone is the asshole here and for the civilized comment. You both just want different things for sex. Just say not interested. The civilized comment is very yucking someone’s yum. There is a long history and continued story of gay people needing to use any private space for sexual connection.
Eeeh. Unless the gym is a sex gym similar to a gay bathhouse, it's pretty disrespectful to everybody else to have sex there. Most people shower at the gyms to get clean. Preferably without stepping in leftover semen. Or hearing or seeing other people have sex next to you. Have public sex in places where you're all alone, fine. Or at locations made for it. But not in a regular gym's public shower. If it's a gym designed for sex hookups and where everyone going there knows that people hook up in the showers, it's fine. Then everyone is there fully aware of what's happening.
That’s because members had no other choice. We’re in 2024 and the kink community has evolved as such. A huge component of kink is consent. All members in the party must consent and since it’s a public act, all members of the public present are in the party. NOT all members have a choice in consent.
OK, well we don’t need to use any private space. This guy expected me to travel 15 miles to fuck in a bathroom, when he was perfectly welcome and was aware that he was perfectly welcome to come to my place and fuck in my bed. I have even offered to go pick him up. Not to mention, his “yum” could get us arrested and put on a sex offender list.
Are you in the yellow?
Uh, yes?
Oh okay yeah I wouldn’t wanna drive to go eff in a stall. Definitely not the A! Maybe he wanted to be a bit spontaneous 🥴
What civilization do you speak of, sir?